That’s great but you’re in the minority. I thought becoming a “doctor” would afford me a comfortable frum life in a high cost of living area with lots of kids (>5) Boy was I wrong. The cost of being frum in a high cost of living area is excellent birth control.

That was a blessing for you. I wouldn't say it's a blessing for everyone.

My mother would give me a choice at the beginning of each season.2 expensive dresses, or 4 lesser ones.The decision was mine.but it showed me that the money is limited.

@@shimmywachtel35 do you like going commando?

What about your kids. Apparently, it’s hard to maintain generational wealth. Does your childhood inform how you raise your kids?

100%

Stability and self-reliance are the tools that are necessary to navigate through this life ... and that evolves into $$ money 💰 👌

Yes having money is about security, freedom of choices, and securing your children's options in life. You can optimize your physical possessions and upgrade as you go, but I find a few years after I "had" to have something, it isn't that important anymore and possibly my lifestyle has changed since then. Major purchases like houses and cars aside.

@@kerenkroll - Ok then - well articulated / I’m going to try and guess what you are trying to express - by reading between the lines / Just as important as money - we all need - love - affection and care - we also want acknowledgment and validation from others, around us / Life , is a balancing act - that requires deep thought and analysis, in order to sort out the right prioritization plans to fit your life… and this is where the risks enter the picture… Life is also about setting goals - and preparing yourself for sacrifice - without upsetting your equilibrium… / Your bottom line is all about - stability / independence and respect in-order to reach your contentment - it is therefore very important - to understand yourself very well / Relax and take your time - enjoy what you have - because the real reality is that - no one has it all - and we all have voids in our lives…. / My suggestion, is to bypass the regular road map and to try another route less traveled… / Life is a process, it’s not always a competition or a matter of status, just to impress others - you are the boss and navigator of your own ship , and ya have my blessings - good luck 🤞 kid !

Yep like having to rub elbows or fight for leg room in a flight. Money = business class flights = comfort and release from stress as an example. So in the end, it amounts to stuff and services

Amen 🙏

People have proven me wrong though. I know a person who buried his money before he died.

You can take it with you. The Egyptian Pharoes did.

The Chinese are richer than both your communities

@@user-dx8zk5op2c For now. But I can confirm they're not happier. 😁👍🏿👍🏿

British Indian ? In which dimension do you exist ?

I appreciate that, Raizy - thank you! I'm happy it helps others. There's no shame in being human. :-) -eli

Beautiful because you are Mortal, Human.. The Son of Man explains: One Blood, All Men..One Holy Creator..📕🔍🤔 Don't allow those mentioned in The Book of Ephesians Chapter 6 keep you from understanding their are no limits for you the precious Creation of Our Holy Creator👋😎🙏💪☝️👍

Ditto...

What a blessing behind it all ❤

You get fed the F lie. Imagine being on your deathbed with no offspring around. Wow. What a poor life no matter if you became the richest person in the world.

Such a great conversation! We need to talk about money and finances more. We need to be taught Prosperity consciousness and fulfillment. Life is so much more than income and stuff. Thanks for the inspiring talk! ❤😊 God Bless

​@@ssing7113family is no guarantee of company on your death bed

"There are different solutions - for different people…." Exactly. All the best to you! Enjoy your life 🙂

I hear you

You don’t have to, that’s the beauty. You could just go on to the next video and not comment.

It she can demand that low income worker’s stories and needs are expressed.

What might be your game plan - to deliver you to a better place ? / I’m listening 👂 kid

Yes, tight knit community can be a blessing and a curse. I think for most the blessings outweigh the curse but there are always those individuals in the community that get the worst of it.

We have this question all the time. My husband and I make more than a big part of our shul, yet we have the most beat up car and have the most run down home (we just started renovations after saving up to pay up front for it) and our kids wear clothes from the lower end stores. We almost never eat out except when we get gift cards from his boss 2-3 times a year. We went on 1 vacation in almost 10 years of marriage. And yet we don't have much extra. How do people earning less live such extravagant lifestyles? It's mind boggling

​@@beans4853 I am the same. Make a very healthy (looking) salary and we are very frugal. Still really struggle. My kids don't wear expensive clothes, only the most basic vacations, yom tov we do the absolute minimum and still don't have any extras (I'm not complaining, I own a home, have a job, am married and have kids so I'm living a great life) but even without the social pressures, it isn't easy.

Do you just compare yourself to other Jews, other wealthy people, or Americans in general. I’m not Jewish. How we live…our clothes and house items come Goodwill. We drove low value cars (kias). And we just work second jobs when we need to. Our yearly beach trip is a cheap motel at a cheap beach. We only have one child. He’s in public school. So that’s how we live.

@@beans4853how much do you all make? What do you consider low end clothes?

@agricolaregs I cleared compared my lifestyle to the rest of my community. I do buy second hand stuff here and there but there are many jewish laws that make it harder to buy at places such as goodwill (anything related to food is a no go, for example). So for context, my income is high compared to standard America (6 digits) but my lifestyle is only frugal compared to my community

Not even remotely true. Many research studies have shown that people respond much better with empathy and understanding for mistakes, than by being put down and shamed. This is a dysfunctional mentality not supported by modern mental health awareness.

My brother has had this problem Being the daughter and marrying early was a blessing because I learned quickly the value of a dollar. I am grateful for my job and working toward a career.

I don’t think kids really care about that since their parents sometimes subsidize them even after they die with trusts. Most of the kids, I know, didn’t work their way through school and do not have enormous debt, do not live at home, because their parents pay for their housing, their cars, their car insurance, and they stay unemployed until they feel they absolutely have to work, and end up, hating the work that they do. And that’s only after the parents put their foot down and say come on now I don’t care if you have to teach high school chemistry, Just go get a job because we’re tired of supporting you. Maybe they don’t come out and say that to their kids but they sure are thinking it too many Jewish parents are walking wallets.

I don’t think kids really care about that since their parents sometimes subsidize them even after they die with trusts. Most of the kids, I know, didn’t work their way through school and do not have enormous debt, do not live at home, because their parents pay for their housing, their cars, their car insurance, and they stay unemployed until they feel they absolutely have to work, and end up, hating the work that they do. And that’s only after the parents put their foot down and say come on now I don’t care if you have to teach high school chemistry, Just go get a job because we’re tired of supporting you. Maybe they don’t come out and say that to their kids but they sure are thinking it too many Jewish parents are walking wallets.

I live in southern California with an extremely high cost of living. And it is amazing how many people are moving to Idaho or Wisconsin or even Oklahoma. You can have a nice Jewish lifestyle no matter where you live especially now that there is Chabad everywhere, it is easy to find a Jewish community, no matter where you go. and some women who just cannot keep up on a single income, make the very wise choice to leave and move to Community, where the cost is much less. But I will warn you the salaries are also less salaries are sometimes based on the cost of living, and if you see a lot of homeless people., Or people living in their cars, or living under bridges like you do in Los Angeles county, you know that the cost of living is just way too high. Not everyone is a drug addict or mentally ill, And Hashem never gives us more than we can handle. Sometimes there are life situations that come up and cause your life to spiral, and that’s when you better start depending on G-d to turn your life around.

Life is about choices. I grew up poor by American standards, eating one meal a day if I was lucky. Some days I went to bed hungry. If you really wanted more, you gotta go after it. Nobody will do anything for you, most of the time. But it’s not about fortune, it’s about going after opportunities.

I'll never further the day I heard a rabbi say that spending money is a spiritual process. It shows priorities based on what money is spent on, on tzedakah, and joy.

I’d bet that would pay my mortgage for a couple years. Wow.

my mother told me it goes way back.