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You are so spot on about American life; it tends to breed loneliness and depression. In 2021 I moved from the US to Mexico because I yearned to see and be with people more. Americans live lives of quiet desperation because we tend to prioritize "succeeding" and making money above all else--family, friends, health, happiness, fun, sleep, companionship, even love. We get so busy trying to make a living...that we forget to live.

I lived in Canada for 15 years and this rang true more & more as the years went on, I would never order food online as I needed an excuse to leave the house. At 49 I found myself pondering what to do with my life, I went on vacation to Thailand and the first thing that struck me was the openness and friendliness of the place. People sit in the front of their house with the doors open and everybody is welcome to say hi, of course there are exceptions. I now live in Thailand with my new wife in a small village, our doors are never locked, family comes, neighbours come, kids play, everybody is welcome anytime. Such a better way to live. Happy new year 'Songkran' from Thailand

My brother, you are right. Nothing else to add. Living overseas is living the life of loneliness. But I found a solution: I worked, saved money, bought a house back home, and I am getting ready to go back with an investment to enjoy our beautiful African life. Fufu or ugali with goat meat and cabbage. Oh my goodness. Africa is so sweet. Home sweet home.

Great video. My first cultural shock in the US was when someone called the police 👮‍♀️ on me for sitting in front of a staircase in an apartment complex. They almost charged me criminally for trespassing!!! Coming from 🇬🇭 Ghana, where we co-live and co-share and co-relate, I was 😳 shocked. Human beings are social beings. Our innate nature is to inter-depend on others. Once that contract is broken, society won’t be be the same. Most kids in the US are raised indoors and this has serious effects on them growing up. They become anti-social, less empathetic and depressed. Another factor worth considering is the abundance of ☀️ Sunlight. Yes the sun we sometimes complain about in Africa provides vitamin D which helps your serotonin (happiness gland). So it gets worse when you have less sunshine in US and stay indoors.

I live in the USA. He is 100% correct people back home don't understand how empty and lonely life is here. Money is not everything

As an American over 50, I remember being able to play out in the street when I was a kid, but because of the rising crime and evil in this country, everyone fears going out of their house. I always wonder why foreigners want to come to the US. It’s horrible here. A lot of Americans are looking to leave their home country. If you want a house and good money, you will be an underpaid slave to your job, and you will have to keep working harder and harder just to maintain what you have. I live completely alone now. No friends and no family. So, I keep dreaming of escaping this hellhole they call the American dream. They can have it, cause I’m done.

I lived in USA for 3 yrs. I went into depression due to lonliness. My health detoriarated. I was feeling suffocated. I then returned back to my country.

Level of Loneliness is so much high that you can hear wall clock ticking during day time.

Thank you for speaking about this topic!!! After staying there for 25 years, I can totally relate to it. Your life is in auto-pilot and you don’t even think. Life is good, you keep watching even the awful movies from your country, connect with the friends back home and read every news bit longing and comparing the life at home…that is the life we lived Suddenly, after my husband’s death, the light bulb finally turned on and moved to India to raise my son 6 years back. The impromptu play dates, relatives and friends dropping in, the casual conversations with the milkman, newspaper guy, the screaming noise when the kids are getting out of school, friends volunteering to take your kids for a weekend getaway… these little people connections are so important. Western countries economically developed. But hungry for love and connection..

I'll live in Africa and be contented with the little I have. Africa is paradise

Pakistani here. Fully agree with everything you said. I visited the states and within a week I felt like I was burning out really quickly. The life was so bland, tasteless and colourless. I didn’t see any elements of culture or traditions, it was all about making money and then saving that money for future retirement. Here in Pakistan life is full of joy and happiness because we have close knit communities and family system. I can’t imagine living in the US permanently. I love my culture of joy and vibrance far more than the grey culture of corporate America.

I worked with a guy from Ghana in Newark NJ. He had married an American woman who bossed him around and didn't really care for him. He lost a lot of money in a church pyramid scheme and I think the American diet contributed to him having a heart attack and later a stroke that killed him. I saw a video on Ghana and I really thought he would have been so much better staying in Ghana and probably would have had a much better and longer life.

I can not imagine someone who lives in good conditions in their homeland move to Canada or US. Belonging is actually the most precious thing most people don't realize

So true ! Most Africans leave Africa due to wars or economic reasons or study ... In reality Africa is a paradise for the soul , what people lack in material their soul makes it up for them . You can't buy happiness

When we were living in the USA for 20years ,my husband and I argued way much because of stress.Last year we moved back to Africa,we are different people now.We are stress free,we can spend 3months with no arguments,life is enjoyable now ,while in the USA I never knew that or realized that I had a great husband when we were living there. This is so true

Bro, also tell them single people die in their apartments for months undiscovered because they didn't have anyone to get them help when they're experiencing sudden illness. This lifestyle is scary 😨

When I lived in poorer communities everyone sat on the front porch in the evenings, we all socialized. When I started to make some money and moved to a wealthier community, it all stopped . When we did socialize it was to compare material things. It left me empty and depressed. The speaker is spot on.

We immigrated from India in the early sixties. Not only was our life in Australia, extremely lonely and isolated, but my parents had to do household work that they were unused to. All affluent countries (I have travelled the world) have an insular and confined culture. I never see anyone outdoors and I live in a fairly large city. Crime, drugs and violent behaviour have conditioned people to avoid contact with others and remain indoors.

As an American, I absolutely agree with this. I lived in Japan for almost a decade and I found that the structure of the towns were better for me than here in the states. It wasn’t like this in America to this extent until the mid 80’s. I really struggle with depression and anxiety here in the U.S. because of this mindset he’s talking about. When I am staying or living elsewhere, I feel more connected with society. My husband came here to the U.S. for the American dream but I struggle to stay here and anxiously waiting to move abroad again.

As an Indian living in Australia , I can relate with every single word said here. Australia like most western countries, is good if you wish to make some money but not so good if you want to have an active social life. its cold and desolate most times of the year. Hardly any sun in the south eastern states. People keep to themselves and indoors most of the time. .Social life is almost non existent which can cause serious psychological issues., Depression being very common. Kids here develop serious mental issues right from a young age . If you are a single man its even worse. If you want happy healthy active social life, avoid going to western countries.

I am subscribing right away. I am so glad I FINALLY found a channel that takes on the enormous issue of loneliness in Western countries, especially the US. I've seen sooooooo many people ending up with deep depression due to the lonely lifestyle they have to endure, even though when they first move to the US/Canada/Ausralia/Northern European countries, they were thinking: "Oh .... I''ve got this. I can do this". Not so easy. As for me, pictures of US neighborhoods immediately get me down but I used to think it was just me. Though I would add this: OH YES! you can readjust to life in Africa, the Caribbean, Asia, Latin America, and all non-Western countries. But you are right: you have to be seriously prepared to be able to go back and live your best life elsewhere, because you would have gotten used ..... not only to the comfort you have in the US, but also to having your space to yourself. Still: my experience is that most immigrants to the US really, really, really want to go back to their native country some day.

I thought I was the only one who thought life in the US is lonely.

I'm so glad to finally see people talking about this issue. I'm originally from Africa, but I was raised in the US, so spent most of my life in the country (35+ yrs). And, I felt this deep loneliness even as a child. I would cry whenever we went back home to visit and it was time to go back to the US, and I would be really depressed for quite a while after getting back to the US. I never felt that life was normal, and everytime we met a new immigrant, I remember thinking to myself, even as a child or teenager that they just don't know the trap they are getting themselves into. Kudos to you for speaking up about this.

Being Belgian myself and having worked in africa for a few years, I was surprised to see how happier people in those countries were compared to us Europe or North Americans!!! In spite of living in poorer countries, they have much less issues with loneliness, suicide and depression!!! Also, Africans tend to be much less indebted than North Americans as their banks do not have this stupid credit score system that out too much pressure on people!!! I know that as I live in Canada and the credit system just is a piece of crap… une vraie merde!

I have lived in US for 7 yrs your absolutely correct, lack of sun light causes depression.Richness is not about money real richness is to be happy.

Very true..i once lived somewhere and loneliness nearly killed me i literally had to go back home..couldn't handle it

You are correct and this is probably why there is so much depression in this country and the drug companies makes billions of dollars because of the misery in the richest country in the world ; there is no community ; it's very common to not even know your own neighbors.

I love your video because you speak the harsh truth. People are sitting at home playing with their things, totally disconected from nature and what is natural. I think one becomes so detached they don't even realize what's happening to them mentally, emotionally and physically. I had to leave that rat race 3 yrs ago. Sending love from the Caribbean where everybody is outdoors unless sleeping. Love those plastic white chairs everybody has ready for someone to stop by.

While I am African-American and quite familiar with Western culture, the words this man speaks are profound. Carefully consider this if you are moving here from a native African culture and life-style. One of the things he did not mention is Time. Your sense of time will be warped and accelerated. As you merge with this culture, you will have little time for family, friends, parties, rituals, and even yourself. The "need" to make money will consume you. You will take on debt in a way that is hard to comprehend. For the very few (and talented) there is still great and rare opportunity here. Good luck👍🏾

Yes, I agree with you. I grew up in Indonesia which I used to have lots of friends but since I have been living in USA for 33 years, I feel lonely here. Westerners are very individualist, happy only for themselves. My son was born here, the way he thinks is very individualist, selfish, and he is happy only for himself or few friends. Asians, Hispanics, Africans are similar, they like to share, talk, give but not Westerners, they are very different!

This is something I never thought about. I actually get anxiety walking outside and hoping my neighbors don’t talk to me lol. Obviously this isn’t normal. When I was a kid we all played outside and now I only see people walking their dogs. Weird society we are raised in.

True I quit lonely and frozen Canada in 6 months. Back in India very happy with the crowd,sound and colors

LOL! This guy nails it. I remember when I first came to the US and I was surprised at how empty the place was. So many cars and stuff but no people.

Africa we are happy people regardless of our situation I like to mingle with people and have fun

Absolutely brother! I am from India and recently moved to Canada as a PR. Previously I was in US as a student and lived close to my university. So there were always people especially students around. But in Canada I am living in a residential area and it is as depressing as you showed in your video. There is nobody around. Just quiet everywhere like a cemetery. I dont think I can survive here for too long. Moving back to India ASAP!

I was born and raised in America, and only two of my great-grandparents were immigrants from Sicily, the rest were also born in America. I agree 100% with what this video says. I've spent time in SE Asia and I have to say, I look at things there than look back at the USA. Sure, we have the economy, the infrastructure, the educations (which isn't great, but generally better than most public schools in places like Cambodia and Vietnam) and healthcare (far from perfect, but Obamacare did make that a lot cheaper for most) and better air quality than a lot of the big cities over there. But when it comes to overall quality of live for a real, functional human being, SE Asia has America beat. I'm working on being able to work remotely and I'm moving to either Cambodia or Thailand and there is a good chance I will start a family there. And honestly, I would rather raise kids over there than in the US. As long as they have private schools and I'm not living in the middle of the most polluted part of town, they would have a better life there than in the US. I'd rather my kids grow up going down to the local market, saying hello to the vendors, and chatting with the other kids instead of having them just pick up the Amazon Fresh delivery, dropped of by some random person who doesn't even make eye-contact if you do see them, and take it from the curb to the front door. I'd rather them run around screaming outside with the other kids after school than send them on "play dates" that have to be scheduled with an app. And I'd rather they grow up eating pork and rice and good, clean food instead of whatever the heck is in a Lunchable. Up until about the mid 80s, America was a much more livable place. But since then, America has gone from being a place of neighbors as friends to being a place of Facebook "friends". It has gone from asking Vince down at the market what's good to being about ordering food with an App. And for kids, it has gone from having a childhood to having a few years before adulthood. This place has passed its peak, and everyone knows it.

I currently live in Denver, Co and everything you’re saying is very true! It’s very lonely and weird around here for sure.

Depends on the state and location of your house Big cities like Chicago, NY, people are busy, you see your neighbors around the corner.

Yes there are people in UK and US who have died and were dead for weeks until someone found out.

I came to America when I was 22 .. student life was fun because you have lot of friends I studied in Pennsylvania and in California.. but right after college I lived in a state called Delaware for almost 4 months.. some of the most depressing times of my life .. I experienced everything you said in your video.. at 24 I didn't have a job yet because 2008 happened and so I didn't have a car .. most of the time I am stuck in the apartment studying.. I was so desperate to even see people .. the only place I used to become happy by seeing people is when I go to the mall .. 6 o clock in the evening you don't see anyone in the apartments .. it used to be like ghost town .. I ran away from that place the first opportunity I got ..no matter how much money someone offers I am never going back to Wilmington Delaware

You have covered a very important aspect of American lifestyle here. I can also relate to your description of life in Africa - I was in Tanzania for two weeks on vacation and it was the most memorable period of our life due to the quality of human interaction we had there

Thanks for sharing. I have lived in the US and hated every bit of it. Stonewalled, cold and disengaged society in general

So true 100%!!! Your fellow international friend from Serbia here. I was forced to leave home in late 90s due to civil war there. I thought America was dream and paradise where all problems cease to exist. Little did I know America is living nightmare and hellhole where real problems actually just started. Even financially wise, half of the USA population is so poor working for pocket change. Nothing left in the end of month. Everything is dark, soulless and tasteless. This is damned land. There is no life. Just work sleep and paying bills. There is no outdoor life. Even people you know you get chance to see them every 3 weeks. Everybody lives spread out from each other and work different jobs, different days and shifts. It's impossible to make friends. It's impossible to get normal girlfriend or any girlfriend. No human connection. No passion, no enjoy. Neighbors don't even talk to neighbors. Just emotional pain, loneliness and depression that can lead to SERIOUS psychological issues and consequences. While experiencing all this I actually thought something was wrong with me, like feeling of being under black magic attack, that's how serious it feels. I always wanted to live here and to see people from all over the world and hang out with them. However people here share same mentality, they are very reserved and alienated from each other. Nobody cares about each other here. People are also very close minded and hang out in their own groups like in prison, whites with whites, blacks with blacks and so on... People here don't realize they became androids and modern slaves. They put money first and left behind family, friends and love. It's best never to come here, you have to be an idiot if you think happiness exist in America. Stay on your own land.

This video seems to really capture the reality of a typical America and the narration really crystalizes it. Even though it depicts a less urban setting, the same stillness can be found in cities and suburbs. It’s not what you see on Netflix or in Hollywood where there’s a story to be told and you do see a lot of human interaction from scene to scene. In real life America so many lead an isolated life indoors except for when one has to go to work or school. One explanation for this, however, is that community in America and many societies is not geographically determined. It’s structured around work, school, church, one’s immediate family if there is anyone and other kinds of civic associations. Loneliness really comes in when one does not belong to any of these “communities”. One’s geographical community (in a society like America’s) simply does not or cannot provide a sense of belonging. It provides physical and material comforts but not emotional or social sustenance, which has to come from those other types of associations. And I sense this is not just a Western world phenomenon. I think it’s happening everywhere and simply a fact of life wherever the vast majority of people living in any space have no family ties with one another. In a village or neighborhood setting in a place like India or Africa, you’ll have such liveliness on the streets and among neighbors because a lot of the people there are simply relatives of each other.

I was born in USA but this man speaks 100% truth. I feel afraid, lonely , depressed in California. People are mean, rude, cold, violent. So lonely people don't talk to nobody only to fight. Too much drugs. I'm visiting my parents in Mexico and I like Mexico better. People are very friendly there is crime but not too much. Right here it is nice lovely friendly people say hi friendly neighbors. USA is full of everything virtual, everything online and yes consumerism , materialistic and yes very plastic. Working day and night never home. Stupid. I know a lot of people like my uncle always at work never home working 7 days a week like slaves and not ever home just to sleep. Ridiculous. My Dad retired and went back to Mexico by Otay and I'm visiting my parents a lot here in Mexico more freedom and very friendly people friendly neighbors. Not horrible lonely America. In America too much cell phones nobody talks only text. Cold people no interaction no socialize only depression, drugs, drugs, drugs, money money, money, cell phones all day and fighting . People mean rude in USA I fight with everybody in USA too much racism. Too much entitled crazy people. I hate it in California. I prefer Mexico or other foreign countries like Africa, Thailand, Japan, Cambodia. No greedy money hungry commercialism capitalist USA and Europe.

I am Canadian, and in my early 50s, I remember in our youth, this was not the case, definitely technology has changed our culture irreversibly. It is a sad reality and can only imagine how shocking and sad it is to overseas cultures that immigrate or visit here. We do not even know our neighbour's first name. It was a fast evolution from never feeling alone in your community, to feeling alone every where. Great Video.

I am born in America in the suburbs north of Boston.Your words are so correct. I am now 74, and my childhood was idyllic, playing outside every day, roller skating, bike riding, climbing trees and long walks with my girlfriends. Sadly, due to the scourge of the drug trade and gun violence all communities everywhere have been adversely affected. Parents are fearful of letting their kids play outside. I have lived in Egypt for 20. years with returning to the states every summer for 3months I became to realize the problem. Then I returned to Florida USA for 8 years to work.The difference was huge from the friendly Egypt. Definitely, isolation is the norm now in the states, and it is impossible for someone to adjust who is from Africa and be happy. Thank you for clearly warning of the culture clash...it is real. The only option for an African is to live in the big cities like N.Y.. Miami, Chicago, but it is so tough to raise children there due to the gangs. This Ramadan, I pray hard that Allah will change things. But Quran says Allah does not change the condition of the people unless they change what is in themselves.

This is SO true!!! I am American but have lived overseas in the UK and Europe. I can’t believe the difference. Living in America is so lonely! It’s isolating. It’s very sad. It didn’t used to be this way in the 40s, 50s, 60s 70s. This is a new phenomenon. Without w church family (and I’m not religious) you are literally on your own - and that’s as an American! I can’t believe what it would be like being a refugee or an immigrant. Depression is high and largely due to isolation.

I love how you show us around EBM thank you for preparing us before we land there. Next time you can drive around even to the main road,America is so Neat ,much love from Kenya.

Brother, I hear you! I live in the U.S., but I have also lived in Europe for decades. The U.S. is extremely boring, especially during the winter..

I am from South Africa and I found the same thing as you, it is very depressing! The depression and foreigner psychological stress is actually known as Ulysses Syndrome

Ohhh god.. Last week we didnt get picked up in h1b lottery and i was so sad. But now you changed my mood thank you... We here in india full busy surrounded by neighborhood, friends family etc

It's because everything is so spread out from each other in Canada and the USA. This is the same for countries such as Australia, New Zealand, etc, and only some places in Europe. When people live so far spread out from each other, there's no social interactions. So, people much more lonelier and more angry too.

I remember when I went to the US on official assignment and the Immigration/Security person asked me, "So, are you happy to be in the US? Planning to stay for long?" and my reply was, "No, I will leave once the assignment ends". When he asked me why, I had the same reason to give, there are no people around, no smells, no interactions.

I've grown up in suburbs all my life, when I was a kid I would play outside with other children, but I do not see this happening now with the children of this day. I too now spend almost all of my time indoors, it has become increasingly easy to live like this. My neighbors are the same way, nobody knows each others names in the neighborhood. I am very grateful for the immense comfort and privilege that my background has provided for me, but you come to realize that American culture is gross and inhuman, materialistic and plastic, very lonely. I long to see the other ways of life on this planet when I have the means to travel In the last 15 years especially, the westerners (at least in North America) have all retreated to their caves, their eyes fixated on the shadows on the walls of the cave. Reality passes them by and they waste their life, the most they can hope for to ease the loneliness is a friendship over Discord (but in the end this only contributes to them spending more time indoors). North Americans are moving towards a never ending stream of escapism through consumerism. First it was TV, then video games, next is virtual reality. They will be enveloped in a 24/7 stream of hyperreality, forever overstimulated and oblivious to the real world.

I am Dominican and American citizen. This is SO REAL! We lose so much to win income and things. But LONELINESS is a great price to pay. Here you will lose your identity, your roots, your life , to become maybe more financially stable. I love America, with all my heart, but I realize it is a totally different world. It is designed to work, work, work, and forget about family, friends, relationships. We will get more toys, more things, and more order and organization, less open corruption, but will also have to settle for less life in community, settle for materialism and individualism. Settle for a lifeless life. Loneliness is a very high price for a better car, or bigger house or opportunities. And still...I.love America. My advise, unless you have your whole (or many) family here.. Stay in your country!

I am from Kenya living in the US and what you say holds true. In addition to loneliness (which was made worse during the pandemic) you have to consider the incredible cost of housing compared to wages, incredible cost of health care, and prejudice. Some people work 6 or even 7 days a week, sometimes on more than one job per day. However, I don't think I could live in Nairobi anymore. The life there has become extremely hectic and competitive.

I was born in Canada and I'm very introverted, but still, I don't like the sense of loneliness in my country, there should be more face-to-face interaction but due to our culture, I've gotten used to the loneliness. It's quite sad though.

Thank brother for showing us this video. I have completely changed my mind. This is a terrible lifestyle. I love our lifestyle here in kenya. You can never be lonely.

I’m from Ghana and honestly speaking this is the kind of neighborhood I like, not all the unnecessary noise. I like quiet environment.

Not sure how I came upon this video but I'm American that's lived here all my life. It's so incredibly lonely, even as an American. I wish I could find people that want to have friendships and community. People like me are out there looking for friends and would gladly welcome immigrants!

I was born here in US, and grew up in the 1970's. Things were so different back then - much more cheerful. My neighborhood was always full of children playing and neighbors became friends and visited one another. Over the years, things have changed in this country. There is more divorce, people are having fewer children, and the population has gotten older. It wasn't perfect, but it was a nicer atmosphere.

I'm from Netherlands. Streets here are full of people. But as an immigrant, this is exactly how barrem and empty i feel, everyday. If you're not white, don't make the same mistake, you're not welcome here

Thanks alot EBM for educating us althrough. May God continue giving you strength and knowledge.

As an introvert female living in Egypt this scenery is heaven to me ❤️ I want to go there, wear my earbuds , ride my bike, have a nice tour around and go back home to my room in peace ! Someone adopt me please ❤️

Absolutely correct video with correct facts. I had gone to Boston in 2015 on my son's convocation and I used to go by foot for shopping and learn the neighborhood but I would not see a single person on the streets I could make out that everybody is there in their homes but nobody would show up out.

So we’ll said my friend. I came from India and I feel so lonely. And being immigrant and person of different color it makes it so difficult. People and friends would be in and out of my house. Always had people around. And if you don’t have family or a single person no spouse or partner it is very very lonely.

This video is so true. I moved to the U.S. back in 1992 and after 25 years of living there (i lived most of the time in the Chicago area), i decided to move to a small town in Greece in 2017. The general income and standard of living are much lower here, but people here know how to live their lives . Back in Chicago I was just working like crazy from Monday to Friday and on the weekends I was just recharging my batteries for the next week. In Greece i lost all my depression, stress and anxiety and feel like a reborn man ;)

It is the garage door mentality.... Neighbors drive in and you don't see them again. Part of this is because in the developed world people have small families and work long hours to pay for all the stuff they have. They don't need or want to give and take or have a relationship with their neighbors. In alot of ways it is a very self focused way of life here.😥

From my childhood it was my dream to love in USA or Canada but now I realized money and materialistic pleasure can't bring you true happiness in life What these countries lack is engaging in social circle and generally theres feeling of loneliness and depression in the suburban areas. I would never want to live like that no matter how many cars and luxury houses you give me. It's no wonder despite being the richest country in the world , depression and mental health issue is so much high in United States

Great video EBM. It is an important aspect that most people overlook.

This really comes down to introvert versus extrovert personality types. Most Western countries are great for introverts who need their space to function at their best potential. If you are a Type-A extrovert, a social animal who thrives among multitudes of people, then you'll just have to work harder to establish your circle of friends and you might be miserable if you're not able to do that. I live in the United States and I love being not bothered by anybody. No complaints at all. No marks for guessing my personality type of course.

I lived in Michigan early 2000s.. all kids in our subdivision played outside everyday for hours during summer.. during winter you would see them out also playing in the snow. Have seen a shift in the last decade or so with all kids being engaged only in structured activities being shuttled by parents...Still fortunate in California there are some pockets in our neighborhood kids drop in to play with each other.. and you are much likely to see people outdoors walking or biking.

Sounds like the life I would definitely enjoy,I get emotional drained being around people

Stay strong Brother. Thanks for the video, plenty of wisdom to think about.

Good video. You nailed this one. People need to be aware.

I lived in Turkey for 7 years then brought my wife back to the United States after COVID. Now that I know what I'm missing in this world I'm not very happy in America. No neighbors, no community, no social interactions, no interesting store-fronts. My wife is even more miserable. We have made 0 friends in nearly 2 years in America. I have spent more money on car maintenance than doing anything fun in life. Too bad these miserable anti-human cities will never change.

Representing Nairobi Kenya. I believe in travelling and experiencing different cultures around the world. But as for settling, these Western countries seem too cold and lonely for us and our way of life. We are very communal, we sit and walk outside a lot. Common Market places are an integral part. Our kids always come out to play with neighbors kids when not in school. I have lots of friends everywhere, our shopkeepers are our friends, gas station attendants, security guards, technicians, our workmates are all friends. I'd hate for my daughter to have no friends to play with and to just sit watching TV or on a computer all day every day. We find this very antisocial and bad for a child's development. Its is so sad and unfair but I guess its just the way life is there.

Thank you so much for all of this knowledge EBM! It really helpfully.🤝

Very important information there. Thank you EBM

I am an immigrant from India. I have been in California for almost 8 yrs. I feel California is quite better in terms of socialization because of very mixed and vibrant communities . And yes strangers just randomly greet and talk to each other on the streets. In fact when I first came to USA, I was surprised to see people just randomly greet each other on the streets..which truly I have never seen back in India. In India we have been taught from childhood never to talk to strangers. And the reality is there are winds of change back home in India too. I am not talking abt the villages. They are completely different case. But even people living in small towns are now preferring privacy. And no.. its not because of foreign returnees. Even people living there for generations now don't want to socialize. Even in India now we have to request kids to go out and play..which to me is a very disturbing thing . All of them just want to sit at home and play games on their smartphones. In fact I find kids in USA prefer playing sports or other activities more than the kids back in India. It actually depends which part of the country u live in.... doesn't matter India or USA .

Hi, EBM. My name is Ron from Bangkok, Thailand. I am one of the people around the world who registered for DV2023 last year. Thank you for your contents concerning how to fill the forms, how to live in America and all the lifestyle of western countries. I am looking forward to watching your next clip.👍

Thank you EBM for the good report

I lived in the US for nearly a decade. Never got used to the indoor lifestyle. I spent most of my time outdoors and socialized with Africans more because we share the same vakues for communal living.

Loved this video. Am studying abroad in Europe and the social structure is miles apart from what I have been used to in Kenya. I am an introvert and love being indoors but I definitely miss the opportunity to gather with friends and strangers to watch football matches or just popping up at a friend's house to have conversations. I definitely don't want to be broiler chicken when I go back home😂😂

I Love what am seeing bro EBM...am already in America psychologically

Life in Australia is same , very lonely and the neighbour doesn’t know are you alive or dead.

I am Ugandan, student in the US. It is isolated, and lonely definitely. When am done I might just stay for at most 5 years and head back. This side is good to visit, but if u stay your life just washes away in door. I don’t judge their lifestyle though, I see it as different, something I have to bear with for now.

This is so true, I live such a lonely isolated life in the UK. No friends or family. The only thing I have in my life is work.... depressing to say the least

Ideal place to live for someone who is introvert and prefer solitude/privacy and unsocial life. 🙂

Thank you for voicing that. It was a culture shock when I move to the State. For years I was very depressed and that makes me gain a lot of weight. In Africa, we move a lot in our daily routine compared to here. So be prepared.

For me, I am a reserved person liking lonely life. A life just by myself

I am an Indian and I have lived in sweden for 4 years. It is more or less the same. I tried calling people for food but most of them never showed up or had no Interest. I am glad I left and return back to my country. Everything in moderation makes sense to me. If money is important then so is your culture, food and family that brings comfort to you. In the developing world, you will generally find people more friendly and welcoming. It is easy to get around with people. But not so in the west.

“You are in the middle.” That entirely sums up the immigrant experience. I agree with everything else you’ve said as well.

This was a very insightful video. That’s why I love KZfaq. You learn different perspectives.

The stress and the pressure we live under is what weighs us down. We do not want to deal with other peoples problems. We have compassion fatigue. I can totally relate to the person who commented that it was not always this way- especially when we had more people who loved God and less fear about everything. When I was a child all the kids played together in groups- until dark and dinner time. People looked out for each other. Now, everyone is afraid to be taken advantage of because it happens so much. This is very sad. Lord, have mercy on us. We lost our way. The best thing to do is find a community of people to pray with and share your life with. Thank you for this video. We needed to hear this. Yes, where are the children? No one can afford them anymore.

90 percent of people i know regret migrating to USA and Canada, still your homeland is the best. If there is no compelling reason to migrate then don't.

This is an eye opener reality check for sure appreciate

I live in Texas for 32 years and yes, it’s just like that. Like he said, I got use to the loneliness and am mentally strong but mental illness and depression in the USA is high and remember… no free health care in the US.