Your hair and outfit are soooo snatched I wish I had your fashion sense.

Not sure if I'm out of place as a guy commenting, but feeling sexy/desirable is something I haven't experienced much of because I was never sure of myself. I've lost 125 pounds over the course of two years and what Shan says in the beginning about responding to erotic material better is my story right now - I feel better about myself and my sexual abilities now that I'm lighter, have way more energy and like what I see when I'm looking in the mirror.

I love that you include other women in your videos!

My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant and it made me feel very undesirable, now I'm just working on my self-esteem and baby weight.

Okay so this video very unexpectedly made me cry. I’ve not had the honor of having a child (yet) but I’ve never been comfortable with my body from the moment I was informed of what being fat means and that, that’s what I was. I’ve never in my life have been confident in the way I look. My body has always felt more like a prison instead of my refuge and now at age 30 I’m realizing that I’ve played the biggest role in why I still feel this way. It’s to the point that I’ve never, ever had sex completely naked. I always keep my shirt on because all I feel is shame and embarrassment. I’m convinced that if anyone ever saw me naked their desire for me would turn into disgust. I didn’t realize that hearing other people express the moments where they felt the least sexy, or confident would resonate so much with me. It made me feel less alone. I’ve never connected with someone else regarding my feelings towards my body. So I say all of that to say thank you for, as usual, adding value to my life and especially my mind. Thank you for making me feel less alone and being the absolute best Walmart greeter. I’ve seen every single video you’ve posted (publicly) on to this channel and you’ve contributed a lot to my individual growth. I truly appreciate everything you do.

Lost my sexiness during my depression..healed that part. Recently i realized that i lived most of my life in my masculine energy. With me balancing that energy, and getting more in touch & embracing my feminity i feel more sexy. I do more for myself mind body & soul and that reflects on the outside

I really feel like I’ve lost my sexy side in 2020. My mental and physical health have been horrible, and I have just now been able to enjoy my body where it is while acknowledging that it can be improved. I have that control to take care of my boys the way it deserves. I can’t hate it anymore because of what it does for me. I have to love her and I’m learning how. I’ve found that redefining sexy as when I feel strong as well as beautiful has helped me. Every morning I’m actually able to get out of bed, I am strong. Today was the first day I worked out in months and I feel hella sexy and damn strong for pushing through. Whoever needs to hear this: you are beautiful and loved and sexy and deserve the best out of life. ❤️😊 I love your videos and I love how open and honest you are! I hope you and your beautiful family are doing well!

You look so lively and you outfit is beautiful...motherhood is a wonderful look on you..I enjoyed this video🤗🤗

I hate my postpartum stomach and I dont feel sexy at all. I deffo need to work on that.

First of all, I Love these types of videos and it's a shame that people aren't up on these! I've learned just as much from Shan now as I always have and she's So needed

I loved to hear about the bipolar disorder and depression experience! I also live with bipolar and I feel the same about how much it affects my sexual appetite and attractiveness. Thank you for including this in the conversation :)

“When I feel sexy, I feel strong” YES

As a muslim woman who is celibate and single I have made it a point to look at my body from different angles completely naked. I no longer dislike the things i can't change and instead i indulge in moisturizing properly and surprisingly my sleep has improved ever since. I also feel much more confident and my posture has improved.

How is that first picture not super beautiful? You look glowing and so curvy. I like it better than the one they chose.

SHAN WE LOVE YOU 😭😭😭 thank you yet again for bringing us all this self love and acceptance and appreciation. As women it can be so hard to accept our bodies in their ever changing/ evolving state. Also thank you to all the women who spoke on the video as well. Touched my heart ❤️

Something clicked rn... thanks to all those beautiful ladys to talk so open about this topic 💛

This was beautiful, honestly Shan your like a staple in my life. Thank you for being you 😭😭😩 so much love to the other women who shared too. ❤️🙌🏾

I have body dysmorphia, but otherwise a healthy functioning body. Im good at moving my body and I trust that it can provide my partners with sufficient pleasure, but I only ever feel "sexy" when I'm actually having sex. Sending nudes is super triggering for me. I rely on other ppls feedback in determining whether or not I'm even attractive. Usually, the consensus is yes, but I've had to teach myself to just take their word for it, because high key I just don't agree. The time I felt most unsexy is when one of my partners brought a mirror into the bedroom. In his defense, he didn't know, but it felt like I was having hate sex with myself. Not a good time. Edit: I reclaimed my sexy by educating myself on my diagnosis. I rlly sought to appreciate that my view of myself is warped and what others see when they look at me is not what I see. I had to learn to trust my partners to be honest with me. But at the end of the day, I had to compartmentalize myself as a "sexy woman" and just a person. I flip back and forth to what suits my needs at the time. Idk if that's the best way, but full integration still seems impossible so it's the best I can do atm.

I remember being surprised how mothers look after pregnancy that there's still a visible belly the first time I saw it. I guess I expected a flat belly which is pretty unlogical there was a baby in there but it's just never shown in media. That should really change.

I lost touch with just about everything true to me when I had my son almost a year ago. I had so much healing to do after my c section. Getting my strength back through my previous workout habits and learning how to style my new body has been AMAZING!

First time I’ve heard you say “my daughter” ahhhhh

I’m currently trying to conceive my first child and I always thought I wouldn’t be worried about my body during pregnancy and postpartum but it’s hitting me! I’m having major anxiety over it and I’ve never really had body image issues. I’m young as well(23) so I feel afraid of wrecking my body at a young age. I hate that I’m viewing it like that right now because I want nothing more than to use my body to have kids. Thank you for making this video! You’re are so beautiful! You were sexy before pregnancy, during pregnancy, and postpartum!

the past few years of my life have been all about “what direction am I going?” “which relationship is right for me?” “who do I want to be & what will it take to be that?” questions on questions on questions. all of the figuring out led me to this mindset where I need to be doing anything else but what I was, dating anyone else but who I was, and being anyone else but who I AM. all of that destroyed my sexy. and with covid laying it on even thicker this year, I stopped being active or taking care of my body. so lately, I’ve been doing my hair and makeup & spending time with my loved ones & those things have started to help me build myself back up to regaining my sexy!

I've had two babies. I suffered from eating disorders and abuse most of my life, but now that I've decided those ideas that other people placed on me were not mine. Mine have always been loving and sexy other people wanted me to be something j wasn't and that's okay ❤️😊

This makes me want to introspect on when I struggle to call myself sexy and the journey I take to reconnect with my sexuality. I love love the message of this video. It's encouraging me to have this discussion w my loved ones.

Thank you Shan for blessing us with such important Content. Love from Switzerland 🇨🇭

ok wow for so long ive always seen other girls as having sex appeal but have never been able to see it in myself. the idea of redefining sexy to what it looks like in me is LIFE changing. definitely going to sit on this one going into the new year. thanks shan!

That photo was my favorite photo I’ve ever seen of you. Not just because it was beautiful, but I never see anyone post partum actually do shoots like that on such a high platform. Usually it’s from the exhaustion afterward, but I really was super impressed by that photo and shocked that I don’t normally see post partum bodies like that. You were amazing. I still need to finish the video, I just wanted to mention that it really was inspiring to see that photo.

Who was the brand that did that, I wanna know, I don’t want to support them.

You look absolutely gorgeous ! You’re shining girl !

aah I love & appreciate your being and what you do with your online presence so much!! 🙌🏾💖

I love this video, and I’m definitely struggling with my self esteem and feeling sexy right now. I was recently taught the importance of honoring your body in every state it ends up in. I learnt I needed to validate my feelings about my body as far as working on being healthier is concerned. But I needed to gain perspective and honor my body for the things it does for me apart from looking good. I’m able to breathe, wake up everyday, move it etc. We should validate our bodies rather than criticizing them. I think my only issue with body positivity is the emphasis on beauty & redefining it when the concept should be dismantled because all bodies, all hair, all skin colors should matter regardless of what anyone else thinks of them. Our worth shouldn’t be based on how attractive we are to other people

I thought I was strange for being attracted to myself. Started questioning if I was a narcissist. I love your videos Shan my big sister ♥️

practicing more self care and mediating and decreasing my presence on social media. Having a kid changed my world and once my dad asked me when I was going to lose the baby weight I felt defeated but working towards silencing the noises of others so that I can hear the voices of me.

Such a powerful conversation 🙌🏾

As an intersex person I really felt this, I felt like clay that wasn't molded right. I had poor self esteem but since blogging about it I've really come to celebrate it's differences.

I've been getting my sexy back through the practice of self awareness, knowing what I love about myself and find attractive about my self and others. Self love, being grateful for my body and experience of life and self though her. Empowering myself from the inside out with fun and playful practices like dance and eating fully plant based 🌺

Shout out to the woman who found her sexy after her diagnosis through her vulnerability and honesty! That conversation is not an easy one to have and can often make someone feel underserving of love and intimacy. Having the conversation and risking the possibility of being turned down SUCKS....but having someone want and appreciate you with all of the knowledge in their hands is amazing. This really could apply to any secrets people keep about themselves but the taboo nature of some STIs make these secrets especially hard to wrestle with.

Thanks Shan!! I love this video. I have been thinking about this very subject a lot lately as I am exploring my heart on deeper level. I have put sexy on the back burned. Thank you to everyone for being so honest and open.

THANK YOU. I didn’t know I needed this.

Your hair is everything!

I love it when you put people's testimonies in your vids

I didn’t know I needed this video. But it really got my wheels turning.

I love your videos shan ❤️ you're so inspiring in my life and honestly got me through a lot. And helped me find what I deserve 😊❤️

Okay, I love that Laureen HD is featured in this video!

thank you for this video! as an ace person for a very long time I thought I couldn't or at least shouldn't be sexy but then I found a community and heroes that showed me that feeling and being sexy doesn't mean you're not ace or that you're being deceitful, so that's my story : )

I love this. Shan, you made a video about how you had chlamydia once. Well, I did as well, and that was when I lost that feeling of sexy for me. I felt like my body had failed me, and my treatment experience was very traumatic. I am still on my journey to feeling sexy again. I'm taking it one day at a time. Therapy, self love and an extremely communicative relationship is helping. And videos like these. Thanks for making videos that matter. Content that needs to exist. 🥰

Absolutely love your hair 😍😍

SUCH an important conversation! It's so beautiful when someone feels beautiful :-)... (P.s. the 'girls' look amazing! 😄👌❤)

This is so important and sooo relatable! There where actually two moments in my life when I thought that I had lost my sex appeal. The first time was during my first relationship/sex partner. I felt like he was the only one that could validate me, but he also made me feel really insecure (he never said anything about my body to make me feel insecure tho), while when I was a virgin I felt really confident about my sex appeal/sexuality. After we broke up it took me a while to get my groove back. The second time was when I lost 31 pounds due to medication. I was borderline underweight, but it wasn’t like strangers would be shocked when they saw me. Still when I looked in the mirror I knew that it wasn’t healthy and because it was linked to my medication it made me constantly remind me of my disease and made me feel like a patient. I also lost ‘all’ my curves, which really bummer me out. It made me rethink about what I consider sexy and what part of that is connected to a view that isn’t necessarily mine, but which I had adopted from society. Although I struggled a lot in that period (not only with my weight), when I look back I can say that I am actually thankful for those moments, because they made me redefine who tI am and what I stand for and ultimately made me feel more comfortable with myself and confident from within ❤️.

I'm 16 and omg I had lost 15 kg and gain again, I notice that I feel way better when I love myself than when I get obsessed about my weight, also have bipolar disorder and this video helped a lot my journey to self love in this one size beauty society

ugh love you shan ❤️

Such a powerful video! Thanks for sharing 💖

Celebration of the body 🥰🥰🥰🥰 Yes you did it!!!

Thank you for this, Shan.

Wow I really needed this episode...

❤️ I am here because of Laureen, and I loved the video!

This is one of my favourite videos you've made

I don't know if this is intentional but when I read Shared Entertainment my mind reads share-ed, like a fusion of Shan and Jared. This channel has been one of my favourite discoveries

I love the topic. Thank you!

I love the pic you submitted!

Really interesting topic :) could have been an even longer video if you ask me. My weight has always been fluctuating a lot over the course of my life and I really engrained in myself that I can look and feel good about my body no matter it’s weight. What I find harder is to see how people around me started to treat me differently after I lost a visible amount of weight due to health problems. I wasn’t over-weight before that and it was disheartening to see how many social advantages were given to me just because I fit more into society’s ideal of beauty. Realizing that even some people who are now close to me probably wouldn’t be a part of my life in the same way if I still looked the same as I did a few years ago is the hardest one on me.

We need more people like you shan

My God you’re looking so amazing!!! 👏🏼😍💕

Thank you for this. Sometimes it feels like I'm the only one feeling this way but we are all humans feeling these ways

Wonderful video. After having my daughters, I feel like I am seen more as a mother and a woman who is desirable and sensual. It depresses me a lot where I don't like being naked at all. I am working on my new definition of what is sexy to me now. I realized my sexual aura now is different from when I was in my 20s. So I have a lot of work ahead of me.

This was beautiful.❤️

I have been feeling unsexy since I had my daughter that was three years ago. Its as if right after I had her I felt great and I loved the weight I had gained. Then after I started breast feeding I lost the weight and alap seed to lose my sexiness. I'm in the process of refining my terms of sexiness in every aspect. I know this something that's needed for me to feel sexy. I loved this video so much and hearing all the stories that all resonated with me. Thanks for posting this video Shannon.

Great video Shan!!!

Love what you did here Shan! ❤️ AMAZING👏🏾👏🏾 expected nothing less😘 and YESSSSSS “desirable, sexy, attractive, and sensual WOMANNNNN” 😛😛

LOVED This!

Amazing, educational video, wow! I learned so much!!!

Such a sensitive topic for me! I wanted to submit a video so bad, but I couldn't bring myself to do it. After I had my son was the time where I felt the most unsexy. I felt foreign in my own body. I was empowered because I had just grown and birthed this beautiful human, but my body was NOTHING like it was before. Slowly (after almost a year and a half) I am starting to feel better in my own skin. I can actually look in the mirror some days and say "damn I look good today!" 😉🥰

Thankyou! I recently had a accident which lead to me being in a wheelchair. I feel extremly unsexy. I lost both my legs somi feel less than everyone else and unappealing. I have so many mental barriers that i want to lift but it’s step by step so i’m focusing more on actually physically being able tomlive in this body:)

My hubby and I are 20 months post partum and had a struggle for 14 months getting pregnant. I have Multiple Sclerosis, and delivery ended with a C-section. Feeling my body failed me yet again has made for sexy being challenging. Hubby is now struggling himself due to my struggles and his own internalizing and challenges that are coming to light. So therapy, consumption changes in social media and entertainment, and redefining intimacy and sexiness so far.... work in progress.

You look fucking stunning!!!!!! 😍😍😍😍😍

This video def. hit today because I know I'm supposed to intentionally pursue a sexual self. I think feeling confident in your ability to be sexy would certainly increase desire. Along side that is the fact that it is a part of the Self that wants to be expressed.

Omggg this came at such a perfect time😳😳

My God, this video is exactly what I was looking for. My inside question was how to keep the “sexy part” of my personality alive, instead of getting dusty in an attic, if I don’t have any sex partner at the moment. I do feel beautiful and happy, thanks to my nonstop inside work. But it’s some other quality, more as a human being not a woman. I know how it feels when someone desires you, how sexy I feel at that point. But the answer that I was looking for is how to give myself this drive on my own. Finally it was not about the answer, even though I had some ideas during watching this video, it was about understanding that other women are also going through this experience. I have cried while listening to the stories of these girls, and I wanted to give a hug to each one of them ❤️ Thank you so much for this video and for everything you share 🙏🏼🌟

Dealing with a hormonal weight gain, fibroids, and anemia. Just had six fibroids removed on Nov. 10. Took almost 6 years to find out😣 I’ve felt so unsexy and unattractive. Things are looking up but still overcoming insecurities about my body.

You look amazing and that top is *chefs kiss* 👩🏽‍🍳😘

I LOVE WHEN YOU SUPPORT NATURAL BRANDS!

Looking Gorgeous!!

Sexy is a mindset, the sexiest people are drawn to themselves and in touch with their spirit. Sexy isn’t an appearance or how someone wears their hair, it is how they liberate themselves and refuse the approval of others. Thank you for this video! I’m getting my sexy back this year, what a fuckin journey

To the person who was shown second and talked of hsv-2, you're worth so much more than being seen a virus. I hope you see this somehow. When I was publicly shamed for it I had to re accept myself you're valid. I am sending so much love to you all.

Felt unsexy in an unhealthy relationship, regained it after leaving

I am currently 6 months pregnant. I am a black woman and I feel the most unsexy when I wash my hair. My 4C type hair always shrinks to a teeny weeny Afro and I look like a boy. BTW today is wash day. But my partner makes me feel better when I’m not fully dressed and I start hiding from him looking at me. In my pessimistic mind, I feel that he thinks that I’m not cute looking even though he tells me that I’m beautiful especially being pregnant. I feel like he says it to be nice. I don’t feel that unattractive being pregnant persay but I know that he’s very visual and my appearance has fallen flat. But I feel so sexy when I fill my brows and slick my edges down and get a pedicure. Lol.

the first person i had a sexual experience with body shamed me online after we broke up and i never really looked at my body the same. The thought of taking my clothes off sexually infront of a crush makes me cry violently. i like myself but now I am hyper aware of what someone might think of me. i keep to myself in a bubble so I can avoid feeling that type of shame again.

Looking like an Etherial Goddess 💜

Yeah I cried to this, man do I have a story. Geesh... any who, I'm def getting the green futon.

Gotta tune into Professor Shan.

I love my postpartum body ❤️ I have a little extra weight in places I didn’t have before 💝 this is my second baby and I’m in love 😍 I’m so proud of having my beautiful baby girl , with my first baby i lost all the weight and more 😩 I hated my body , but this time my pants don’t fit , neither do my shirts haha but I love it so much❤️

I constantly batle between taking working out to take care of my body and feeling healthy and working out because i feel discusting or i feel like i need to look a certan way. I do feel sexy when i feel healthy so that makes the line very thin

I’ve felt unsexy for a long time I’m not sure when exactly it started but it was maybe 3 years ago I just didn’t feel sexy at all. From what I saw on the internet and around the world someone like me someone who is shy but trys doesn’t have a body shape at all and overweight someone has PCOS who isn’t smart or good at many things who has depression anxiety and gets confused a lot I just saw myself as unsexy I didn’t find myself as beautiful and it effects me and I didn’t want to deal with the emotions at all I didn’t want to or know how to. Now I am just focusing on what makes me feel like me opening myself up when it comes to who I am and who and what I like. I’ve been reading more and trying to find what I like to do to myself and not to be afraid to share it with future relationship

I'm here first yeah ❤️❤️❤️Love your show my goodness

Since my traumatic birthing experience, and subsequent mastitis-sepsis-mastitis-not being able to stop breastfeeding when I desperately wanted to, I’ve just hated myself. I don’t know why. Birth left me feeling anything but good about myself.

Thanks so much for this video

i’m west indian, so going out fetein’ and dancing was heavily a part of me. honestly it was my source of exercise lol that’s literally how much i loveeed to dance. so once i got into a relationship with a man that stopped me from doing all that, i felt like i lost myself. i haven’t danced in literally a couple years because of him. ever since i stopped dancing i’ve felt so unsexy. dancing was just part of my personality… he’d always say that i’m “looking for attention” or “being fast”(which means being a hoe) so like…obviously that put me down a lot. i’m grateful i came across this video because honestly, i’m gonna wine up my waist & dance as much as i want, IDC if he thinks i’m fast or want attention. i can’t even believe i let a man make me feel this way

You look like an actual doll 😍😍😍

This video was well needed for me. The first time I had any sexual interaction with a guy i was 22 (last year) so I had already thought something was wrong with me for it to have taken this long. And as I am a black woman, I do get hyperpigmentation on my vag area. He was so disgusted and basically ignored it and focused on him. Since then I've felt unsexy and down on myself to think that even during sex I am unwanted and gross. But I will start a journey to love myself and hopefully feel sexy again one day.