hey guys! i thought i would leave a pinned comment on my thoughts since the final aired yesterday and i wrote and filmed this video two weeks beforehand. as you guys can probably guess, i was very disappointed that gemma and luca were the runners up, luca's behaviour (towards tasha and gemma) has been absolutely awful, but I also remember that a lot of Love Island viewers are young people who can't really recognise misogynistic behaviour and bullying, and Facebook mums who somehow think Luca is a nice guy. i was really glad to see dami treat the girls around him a lot better in the last couple of weeks, i want to make it clear that in no way did i think that dami was ever equal to luca when it came to picking on tasha (hence why i spoke about luca a lot more in this video than dami), i just wanted to clear that up incase anyone thinks that i think dami and luca equally bullied tasha, luca behaved FAR worse and did not make any improvements to his behaviour (if anything, his behaviour got worse!). also this video did get age restr*cted and dem*netised for around six hours yesterday, and although youtube took the age restr*ction off and m*netised it once i had appealed it, the damage has unfortunately already been done and this video is no longer being pushed or suggested the same way my other ones are, so i would really appreciate any likes and comments :) thank you for all of the ongoing support and love on my channel, jordan x

the gemma and billy situation was the definition of "not flirting, she's literally just pretty and talking"

"you don't try unless you think you've got a chance" literally the other day a man on the tube kept asking for my number after I told him I was gay

ok but Luca is a prime example of "men getting away with calling women Too Emotional by successfully rebranding anger as Not An Emotion"

the fact that the producers seem deadset on keeping luca in the show, despite all of his disgusting behaviour makes it so difficult to watch this year to be honest

i think that a reason luca hates tasha is because she chose andrew over him at the start and his ego couldnt take it.

The irony of Luca always criticizing Tasha for being so emotional, is that he is arguably the most emotional guy there. He is easily defensive, jealous, annoyed, quick to anger etc. He, like a lot of people only perceive emotions as just crying. Luca's issue with Tasha is bizarre. He projects a lot onto Andrew and his relationship with Tasha. Even very early on when Tasha was talking to Jacques when he first came in. Andrew said he didn't care but Luca was the one that kept pushing. Telling him that he should have a problem with Tasha, if he were him he would be mad and that Andrew is lying if he said he wasn't upset with her. Luca believes his feelings should be everyone else's feelings. If Andrew isn't upset with Tasha, then well he should be. If he wouldn't be upset about being in the bottom 3, then Tasha shouldn't be and she needs to stop crying. It's an odd pattern of behavior I've noticed.

Tasha didn't do anything half as bad the whole season as the boys did in Casa Amor alone 😂

I didn't realise a symptom of ADHD was misogyny?! I literally have ADHD, and wasn't diagnosed until I was 23, yes, it can make it hard to recognise emotions at times, my my god it doesn't make you a twat or mean you don't know to apologise to someone when you've hurt them.

i felt sooo bad for the casa amor girls it was honestly so disgusting to see the boy used them to blow off some steam and fulfil the sexual urges they had and couldn't act on bc the og girls didn't want to...

not only did the boys bully Tasha, they also bullied Ekin-Su for a good few weeks until it became clear that she wouldn't take it like Tasha (not saying either reaction is better but people just respond differently). This season has been so hard to watch not only for the bullying but also the horrible double standard - I really hope the producers take everyone's comments on board and take it forward for future series... I doubt they will though

I totally agree about Luca’s school bully energy!! I’ve always disliked him from the start because he reminded me of boys you went to school with that thought they were hilarious, which is rich that he judges Tasha for how she feels about being in the bottom 3 times bc you just KNOW, like a little school boy, that being liked and the popular boy in the cohort is his complex!!

I also think we need to talk about uncomfortable age gaps more. Like, Davide, a 27 year old man, chooses a 19 year old Gemma 🤢 I'm glad nothing really happened between them

Genuinely the scariest part of this all is the way that a lot of men agree with this behaviour. I work in an all male team at work apart from my manager and the boys who are age 19-27 are all like no Luca and Jacques are lads ahaha when I’ve been horrified. It got to the point where when I was expressing how disgusted I was and how I thought it was mysoginistic and I was faced with similar behaviour as seen on the show. Such as telling me I was being dramatic and that it’s just normal lad behaviour. It is terrifying that men in these years are so comfortable with borderline light incel culture and how the misogyny is just tapering into everyday life and non romantic relationships.

Luca was a walking red flag from day 1. The only reason he bullied Tasha was bc she rejected him for Andrew and his silly little ego couldn’t handle it. He was also the reason why Tasha and Andrew started falling out. He pushed this narrative that Tasha was some cheating harlot and eventually Andrew caved. Tbh I don’t think Andrew cared that much that Tasha wanted to get to know other islanders, especially since she was always very respectful about it. He only started getting upset bc Luca was pushing him to feel a certain way about it. Luca is defiantly one the worst male contestants to ever appear on the show.

After the way Luca approached Tasha while she's crying, I know he'd absolutely be the type to say to someone in a bad spot: "there's worse in the world, stop complaining"

As someone with ADHD it doesn’t make you a misogynist 💀

The decision to bring Adam Collard back after his history felt extremely careless by the producers. They chose to bring someone back who had previously shown toxic, misogynistic, and even abusive behaviour while on the show in order to create more drama at the expense of the safety and mental health of the female contestants. Felt like safeguarding went out the window this season

I watch so many reality shows and honestly love island is a special brand of misogyny.

Everyone seems to have this weird goldfish memory thing going on. The ‘redemption arch’ bs is so ridiculous. Dami, Luca and Jaques all give male chauvinist pig vibes. It’s saddening and uncomfortable to watch.

As someone with ADHD, the whole thing from Jaqcues family really pissed me off, there was a lot of misinformation spread around and people further damaging how adhd is perceived by society. I'm glad he's recognised where the problems lie and is taking responsibility.

If you and Mina Le did a collab commentary video once I would fangirl so hard 😭💕

being a black girl watching the show is painful lol

Love Island re-inforces my fear of "can I talk to this guy in a nice and friendly way? Or if I do, will he get the wrong idea and think I'm flirting and think I was leading him on if I tell him otherwise?"

Wooow ADHD must be the new excuse for controlling/manipulative behaviour. Shane from Love is Blind said the same thing after the show aired....

I think, as a suicide attempt survivor, any time someone tells me to #BeKind when I've correctly identified emotionally abusive behaviour in a public figure, I have the right to tell them to fuck off.

I stopped watching this season even though i was obsessed with it. It's so painful to watch the girls get mistreated and bullied constantly

Luca is terrifying- I can't believe the producers are determined to keep him in and are not doing anything about the misogynist behaviour, misogyny isn't entertainment, even worse his sister running his instagram seems determined to defend him and act like it's editing and we're all bullies for calling him out, I hope when he gets out he gets a stern talking to and Gemma runs as soon as she realises we don't like him It's also interesting that the producers are trying so hard to make them seem like a popular couple, think he's in for a shock when he gets out and realises how many people aren't supportive of the relationship and the fact he got ofcom complaints

I swear when Luca and dami would talk to Tasha I just wanted to be in there just to literally verbally DRESS THEM DOWN bc my girl was just crying trying to explain and prove her relationship to these IRRELEVANT boys who felt they were owed a place in another persons relationship

I’m a simple person, I see my queen I click

Honestly, I've loved Tasha the whole time. If you think you like someone, you need to get to know them. Her getting to know other people at the start, imo, shows that she is trying to actually get to know people, not just breeze through the villa. Luca making fun of her for being emotion is so rude, when he gets mad and storms off at every moment. Tasha has opened up about being bullied, so I could imagine that knowing people don't like her, could be upsetting. I understand why people used to not like her, but I also think that she was very much bullied by people in the villa (luca.) Also, having a cochlear implant can take a lot out of a person. There is a constant buzzing/humming noise and it is so hard to pick up on tone, so I can see how she gets tired and just starts to cry at the end of the day.

i think one of the reasons why luca may bully tasha is because tasha actually decided not to couple up with him in the first week or so and decided to stay with andrew instead and to luca he felt a little bit embarrassed and possible emasculated by tasha not choosing him and he probably thought that he could get anybody he wanted but tasha followed her heart and this hurt him and so he felt that he needed to humilate her "as much" as she had to him, like you said highlighting his insecurities

I'm spanish but lived in the UK for a long while, and dated English guys and these mysogynists double standards came as a strong shock to me because in my culture this behaviour is not as common. I remember a guy I was dating classifying girls he'd sleep with constantly as "easy", but then him being so "easy" himself that a girl he didn't know could straight kiss him and he would sleep with her. None of his mates ever labelled him as easy, but as a "fuckboy', but the girls were "easy". This annoyed the shit out of me tbf. Love your content Jordan 🔥

As an Aussie who lived in the UK for a while, I have to say I was shocked by the way a lot of men behaved in relation to myself and my friends. I had never been touched or crowded out in a threatening way before I lived in the UK. I was actually most shocked by the fact that in all of these scenarios, the men involved were with friends and none of their friends, in any instance, pulled their friends up. Not even when I was being physically crowded and having my hair pulled (yes, really).

honestly i disliked luca from episode one when his first comments to paige were about sex positions. it gave me red flags because he's just met her, why is he instantly asking her sexual things? a part of me also wonders if one of the reasons luca hates tasha so much is because she rejected him in favor of andrew in the first week (injuring his massively inflated ego, esp since it seems like he thinks andrew is the weak link of the boys). i definitely agree that he only picks on the people he thinks won't fight back, very icky behavior. he's been very hard to watch.

Ekin Su is an absolute gold mine of entertainment!! I hope she has a long lived and healthy career after this!

I’ve seen so many people claim that Luca’s been given a “bad edit” and that’s there is 23 more hours in a day that we don’t see of him. This may be true, and I can’t claim to know much about how TV editing works, but the way I see it, the fact that Luca has demonstrated misogynistic behaviour wouldn’t change by seeing more of him. We have seen the way he has spoken to Tasha and Gemma, and unless the producers are literally editing his words, that is enough for me to see evidence of misogyny. Yes maybe he has some more likeable traits that have been edited out, but the bottom line is he has still demonstrated misogyny and bullying. We have seen it for ourselves. I’m sick of the UK public denying or supporting misogyny. It’s a bit of a different example but it reminds of how in Strictly, confident young women are always voted the least, even when they are incredibly good at dancing (see: Maisie Smith, Alexandra Burke, etc) whilst men that have half their ability are never in the bottom two.

I have never seen such group of glaring red flags til this season. Every male contestant was soo deeply misogynistic that I genuinely don't care who wins. Not a single episode went by where I didn't scream out that all the women should just run!

grateful for this recap bc I’ve sadly fallen off and missed this season!

honestly the fact that the producers picked that meaningless clip with billy and gemma just shows that theyre using the insecurity and lack of masculinity amongst the boys for arguments and food for the viewer

I think the be kind thing controversy you were talking about can be clearly shown with Hugo Hammond, a lot of people are telling victims not to come out about how he’s treated them because it’s affecting his mental health, however he never thought about his victims mental health when he was treating them how he did

One of the big issues with love Island this year for me is how evident it is that the producers have had WAAYYY too much involvement. The show is evidently becoming more of a badly scripted drama series, as opposed to the fun reality show it used to be. The producers seem dead set on forcing certain “moments” instead of just letting them play out naturally. One moment that stood out for me is when Dami recoupled after Casa and said “summer isn’t over, it’s just begun”….you could immediately tell that line had came straight out of a meeting room somewhere and they probably filmed it like 6 times before they were happy with it. Another one that stood out was the weird recouplings from Casa. Dami, Indiyah, (maybe Tasha & Andrew). All seemingly in compatible couples in the villa but all randomly deciding to recouple, only to show virtually no interest in their new partners when they get back to the villa, and then return to their pre-casa couples. Almost as if the decision to recouple weren’t entirely theirs.

The movie night was so horrible to watch. The switch in attitudes the boys displayed between their clips and the girls was extremely uncomfortable as a viewer. I am sure Luca was asked to apologise to Tasha after, and I wouldn't call Dami's monologue an apology as he basically told Tasha she shouldn't be upset cause he didn't want her to be upset...couldn't even must a sorry. Dami's reaction to Summer standing up for herself was terrible, and Jacques' outburst at Paige (where Billy stayed to try keep him cool) was horrible too. The season has been ruined by the imposing behaviour these boys have displayed throughout, and I hope young girls watching recognise these are not actions to put up with.

I have ADHD and struggle so much with public figures blaming their bad behaviour on having it. There’s a difference between struggling to regulate emotions and just being a bit of a shit person

Just started but your analysis as always is 👩‍🍳💋! Love island is problematic in its own complicated way. This season has really proved how vicious the public is when given drama, while simultaneously being angered at episodes with no drama. There is no way to please audiences, which can be frustrating for producers

Can we pls have Tasha win so she can get financial compensation for being mercilessly bullied for two months

I have been watching this season of love island and have found it increasingly triggering to watch to be honest. I just finished my first year at uni, and got into a friendship group that was 5 men and 3 women (myself included). At first everything was great, but things started slipping slowly, with one guy in particular constantly criticising and demonising me and my female friends for our actions under the guise of sticking up for his 'boys'. My friend was evil for kissing someone who wasn't her boyfriend after he got her blackout drunk and initiated it. Most especially, two of our friends are dating, and when men hit on the girl in that relationship she is placed to be at fault for wearing revealing clothing/ 'being flirty' even though the idea of disloyalty clearly makes her super uncomfortable. My experience of being targeted by this misogynistic bullying has been slightly different as I am not dating within my friendship group, but it's definitely still there. I get shut down and talked over in conversations with them, and when I took issue with the ringleader referring to potential girlfriends in an objectifying way I was apparently being sensitive and not getting the joke. They antagonised me for a friends sexual assault regardless of the fact I was sexually assulted by the same man and had no idea what was happening until the day after. They call me out for being in a society that has 'problematic' people (not really, and I don't agree or condone these people's opinions), and then take part in toxic rugby and lad culture excusing the bigotry of their own friends. And when I have tried to talk to the less culpable men they push the narrative that I'm sensitive and overreacting. Unfortunately I'm the only girl in our group that seems to be bothered to call them out, henceforth I am the target. What love island had made me realise is that although I have recently swept my own friends behaviour under the rug, I and my female friends deserve better. Seeing the targeting that people like tasha and ekin especially go through makes me angry because I understand how it feels to be ganged up on by toxic bullying men. I think that the issue is that men live in an echo chamber; the 'good' ones never hold their fellows accountable, and the bad ones only look for judgement from each other. In order to create a better environment for women we need to actively show in media and just generally that this aggravated misogyny is not something to be accepted.

i'm not from the UK or watch love island, so the lack of introduction to the contestants (with pictures/videos of them) made this a hard video to follow (because it was a lot of names listed and then maybe a few clips). its a very interesting subject and you do tell it very well! i just needed more visual guidance. :)

this is why i’ve never watched love island and never will. it’s truly a representation of some of the worst types of people in the U.K. (aka rich people, influencers, image obsessed, silver spoons etc) i choose not to be around them irl, why on earth would i want to watch footage of them for fun?

Dami's comment "It's one rule for the guys and one rule for the girls" Shows how misogynist he is. I just want to protect Indiya from him.

i love how the producers solution to all people mad about the misogyny we’re seeing is by forcing the men to start doing shit for the girls LMFAO no way they just out of nowhere had the idea to start pampering these girls with massages, spa days, special brunches… 💀

Honestly davide is worse than luca and dami but nobody ever calls him out. He gets away with murder bc funny italian man. The way he treats his girlfriend is AWFUL and he's just as shitty to the other girls

You just know that Luca's sister enables his behaviour.

maybe im overthinking it but like, am i the only one who thinks that the bullying may have something to do with tasha being deaf? this is the first time something like this has happened, and tashas the first ever disabled contestant. idk, just an observation.

I have to disagree with what was said at 15:09, it is outright misogynistic, just the more covert benevolent sexism that fuels it. Yes, some people may prefer having partners that are quieter; however, based on Jacques hostile sexism throughout his stay it makes sense that the more insidious benevolent sexism would come out when he said he liked her more because she’s “quieter”.

I don't want to dismiss the value of this video by saying this: but I love hearing you talk about the love island drama in the beginning SO MUCH! I feel like I'm hearing all the good high school drama from my big sister!

didn’t luca’s head turn for ekin-su? I remember him making constant sexual remarks about her to the other boys and in the confession room/beach hut. Probably why he hated her so much when she rejected him 😭

Yessss and not to mention Luca’s treatment of Danica, who hardly had any time in there before needing to recouple, choosing him!

Back when we needed her most

STOP I WAS JUST TALKING ABOUT MISOGYNY IN LOVE ISLAND AND THEN YOU DROP THIS GEM OF A VIDEO ILYSM

The villain edit paige is getting is also so garbage. The amount of hate she got for being mistreated by Jacques and taking him back when eventually all the girls did the same is crazy.

Thank you!!! The boys these season are so unhinged!!! It made it hard to watch.

Let's not forget how the boys were laughing after seeing coco and tasha crying and obviously feeling so upset because of andrew, and the fact that he kept feeding them lies and bs all time. They ( the boys) even defended andrew and kept excusing his behavior. but would always call a girl " fake" for just TALKING to another boy.. like the double standards actually made me sick.

Watching the family episode it is clear to me more than ever that the producers stepped in with Luca and Dami. Luca straight up asked his parents about his behaviour with Tash. Clearly sees this as a defining moment of his season.

Another aspect of the whole bekind situation which a lot of people for some reason are not realising is the fact that in the end of the day these people are fully grown adults who have chosen to put themselves in the harsh spotlight of media, fully aware of the consequences that will arise from it. If you know you have bad mental health and that critisism for your own actions will cause a further dent in it, be kind to yourself and avoid finding love on a bloody tv show where you will be forced to face words and abuse from people online. If you aren't adult enough to realise that the internet is a cruel place with every type of opinion from all across the country, then you aren't adult enough to be blasted right into the middle of it all. It's sad how I realise this and am younger than all the contestants on the show AND I have ADHD which makes it even better 😭

i loved gemma she was so much more mature than the other islanders despite being the youngest and her confidence to shut down ppl she wanted nothing to do with him

I’ve literally never watched love island and I don’t intend to but I love these commentaries

As much as I enjoyed aspects of this season (particularly Ekinde and Tandrew) I can’t shift the feeling of frustration I have due to all the misogyny never being called out by the girls in the villa. I was constantly yearning for the girls to call out the boys, have each other’s backs and give the boys a thorough dressing down over their behaviour and it just never happened! I would be yelling at my screen like “are you mad? You deserve better than this shitty treatment from him!” And I can’t help feeling like these boys just got to shit on the girls and then walk away with zero consequences and it’s left me fuming. Also as a fellow fringe girl I understand the struggle but don’t worry you look gorgeous!

i’m so in love with this hair on you x

dami telling summer to shut up will NEVER leave my mind how was anything her fault

Bro, you missed Davide and all of his Ekin-Su comments. I thought he was going to get a section.

You and your bf doing the Love Island ad is pure poetry 👌 ✨️ (I don't watch LI but have been following the commentary on misogyny and very here for your take.)

I have been waiting WEEKS for you to do a video on this. THANK YOU JORDAN!

That hair colour really suits you! I never watch this show but I find it so interesting when u analyse our society lol

I have been waiting for this one!! This season has been really uncomfortable to watch

am absolutely living for this love island analysis as a fellow brit, and side note that’s not a messy fringe you look fit as you always do ??? not fair

“Your a liar, actress” this season was so funny aswell omg

I've never tuned into Love Island and it's purely because I hate promoting 'disposable relationships' and horrendous behaviour. I find it so wrong so I'm excited to hear all your thoughts about this haha

Hey, just wanted to let you know that I've never watched a single episode of love island (or any other reality show whatsoever), but I was feeling down about stuff in my life and listening to you chat about tv drama has helped me take my mind off of it. So thanks for doing what you're doing. Sending lots of love 🖤

Ive been eating UPPPPP the love island video essays and im not even britsh😭😭 broey deschanel also has an amazing video essay on love island and the psicology behind surveilled flirtation that i highly highly recommend!!

I don't even watch this show but I love your commentary

literally could watch you recap love island for a million years i loved how you did it whilst also critiquing it and i'd LOVE to see content like this in the future if you felt like doing it

youre so real for posting this

i’m really glad to see you make a video about this!! it’s been driving me wild to watch on TV

this year has actually been so hard to watch at times, I wonder how the cast will respond when they get out

i have a theory that the reason why luca hates tasha so much is because she literally pied him in the first week. he started grafting to tasha first before gemma and when she chose andrew he's been so salty to her ever since. Its obvious hes just bitter and jealous

I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR YOU TO MAKE A VIDEO ESSAY ABOUT THIS

luca is such a hypocrite saying that if he was in that position he wouldn’t care yet in tonight’s episode he literally exploded 😭

omg I don’t watch love island and keep seeing ppl discuss this topic all over instagram and twitter thank u for enlightening me

i haven’t watched a single episode of love island but if it’s jordan, I’m gonna watch every video she puts out. excellent as always! your hair looks lovely

THANK YOU for making this - you've managed to eloquently vocalise every thought i've had this season

i've been hoping someone would do an in depth video essay on this, and so glad you, one of my fave youtubers, has!!

the intro montage ending w the guy pulling up his shirt and smiling is hilarious to me and you can’t tell me otjerwise

I was literally waiting for an upload and dropped everything when the notification came up

“Man dressed as a Wetherspoons plate” 😂 SO accurate 😂

The worst part about Luca’s behaviour is that he won’t change, Gemma will stay with him and the public voted them second. Just gross

I am so so glad this is back up!! When i was watching it I was thinking to myself “I need a Jordan Theresa video on this”

I dont watch love island at all (like not even once) but this was so entertaining to watch. The way you said “now that I’ve given you a back story” with hope, even-though i forgot everything about it in 0.2 milliseconds was HELLA FUNNY

The fact that I didn’t question the way the boys were acting towards the girls until others pointed it out makes me realise how accepted it is by society, thank you for the awesome vid, always love when you bring a new one out! Xx

I’m literally 2 minutes in right now while on the treadmill and I can’t get over how good your hair color looks on you. You’re hair color evolution is chef’s kiss bb