I guess I need to give my wife an apology. She insists on letting my two sons taking extra homework on math and reading, my two sons also need to take Chinese at home. We are always fighting about the playtime and homework time. My two sons are 12 and 10 years old. Thank you all for your insights.
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@@igibon8 I am not an expert to preach anyone. It is simply based off my culture and my observations of other ethnic families raising children. I was born and raised in Malaysia and came to US to acquire my college degrees. Western and Eastern style teachings have their strong and weak points. I merged and chose the best of them. I am not ashamed to say I am a tiger dad, instead I am proud to be tiger dad. My older son has a soft character like mom but he is absolutely like sponge who can take whatever pressure I put on him. My wife and I put him in Kumon program (Math and Reading) when he was three and a half years old and completed the program before 7th grade. Yes, he took Chinese classes on Sundays. He may not be as sharp and clever as other elite kids, but I put great amount of time to coach, guide and discipline him, and I truly believe he had acquired some strengths and practices from me that I showed him over these years. “Discipline” is the main factor to success. He has been admitted to Stanford University for Fall 2021. He will be a fine young man who can make contributions to this country. When I die, I know I am not leaving a garbage to United States. Based on your description about what your wife is grooming your kids, I have full faith that your kids are going to do very well! All the best to you and your family! I have a second boy in the process of grooming. 😂
I just wish my parents are much stricter so that my English is nos 1 today I can say anything in my mind. When given the choice, every one wants an easy way out. no pain no gain. You are lucky. you don't have to go through life. Asian middle class (from Indian to Japan) and below city parents take 'competition' as priority. also 'knowledge is power'. In particular logical , academic & maths style thinking. Sure! Creative thinker or 'think outside the box' produces a happy mind. Unfortunately, 'think outside the box' is only 1% of the times, 99% of the times, you have to use logical thinking to go through the suffering. In particular, when you are facing immediate problems or want to change perception, then lateral thinking kicks in. Most city China people are very flexible and resilient, considering their memorizing education system. This is why china is now. without strong basic knowledge in the mind to play around, how you going to be strong, independent, courageous etc? good Feeling , strong feeling are based on knowledge too, not just intention. surprise! surprise! surprise!!!!!