Grief is just one of those things that is so different for everyone but this lady is so right - any motivation, any little bit of house work that gets done... Should be celebrated as win.

Five months ago I lost my mother and husband both unexpectedly in the same week. I have been told I have complex grief. All I know is two people who meant the world to me are gone, and because I have children who are also in pain life must go on. This is the best explanation of grief I have heard. Thank you for your wisdom.

Grief can be the most transforming and humbling thing to go through. I loved the way Susan told her story... Kind of magic. Beautiful.

It has been 20 years since Chase Daniel left us at 4 1/2 months old. We still have difficulty, but we are able to talk about him and speak about some of the sweet memories we have, though he was with us for a very short time. While the tragedy will never leave us, we are able to keep his little soul alive. He is our personal angel.

I lost my husband a month ago. Which seems like eternity, and just a moment. Your talk was remarkable. Thank you! I am going to think of margaritas when I wake up in the morning each day, and wade through my ocean of grief.

My daughter died and I'm having a hard time functioning very well. Thank you for sharing that

I have no words. I am just in awe of this woman and everyone else who has experienced such trauma.

Awesome talk. After dealing with multiple losses in just one year I am still looking for HOW to navigate my days. You've given a path to take.

"We don't move on from our grief, we move forward with it."

You got to take care of yourself first so you can be whole to help others.

I saw this on Facebook and watched it here on KZfaq. My husband died last year and it has taken a year for the real grief to set in. Your talk was very moving.

The most important thing in any loss or change to living, is to feel the pain you are feeling when you're feeling it.

What a superb woman she is, having gone through all this and now helping those of us who struggle. Thank you for your words, your honesty and your understanding.

Love the speaker. Thanks for sharing. My wonderful wife passed away four weeks ago. I had cared for her for many years with dementia. Yes I grieved. But my wife is definitely in Heaven enjoying all God’s Blessings. What could be more wonderful than that. She is the lucky one, and I use her inspiration to have myself now helping others in our Community.

I lost 3 family members in the last 2 years to this awful disease, thank you for speaking out!

I’ve been busying myself since my hubby passed 4 years ago. I’m exhausted too. Trying to “grieve” during covid ...Thanks for sharing your energy.

So much heart, so much spirit. Incredible talk. She absolutely nailed it, to hear that she did so much good after going through such a challenging time... That's a special kind of lady right there. Damn!!

Beautiful metaphor, sitting in an ocean to feel her grief, she didn't drown she found peace. Thank you Susan, really appreciated this and very timely for me.

The worst comment I had was to draw a line in the sand so to speak. In other words, after a point in time, just forget about dad and live your life. But my dad was a large part of my life. He's the reason I got back into woodworking because it calmed me down during mums own cancer battle. It helped me feel close to him., which gave me strength

I love that, being still. Lovely talk.

We don't do anything good with our grief until we allow it in? wow that hit home!

One of the best I’ve heared and strucked me. So comforting specially at this time of my raw grief of losing my husband in a sudden and unexpected death. The best advice ever! Hope I can be strong like her after my grief sinks. Thank you for that wonderful and inspiring words, well done and heartily shared.

This talk really got me, tapped into some real emotions about my sisters death, thank you Susan 🥰 😘

My mom was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer too on 8-16-22 n passed 8-31-22 she went fast for that I have peace she didn’t suffer much n went in her sleep but now the pain inside me is so intense

What a breath of fresh air... Wow. Grief is such an overwhelming emotion, something I feel I've had to deal with too many times... I think I'll need to rewatch it a few times to be able to let go what I've been holding onto... Susan, thank you for this.

It’s been a year and half for me since losing my husband to ductal prostate cancer. She is right people say the dumbest things. Society expects us to get over it and move forward. That’s an impossible expectation to put on anyone drowning in grief. My husband fought so hard for his life I was right by his side in the hardest fight of our lives. He died in my arms in bed in our home just like he wanted. Those of us with faith have many neat packaged comments to make too but all I want to do is scream why? Oh he’s in heaven now. Great but I want him with me! If you’ve taken care of your loved one yourself it’s a shock to stop. What do you do now? Routines are hard to let go of. That constant worry stays with you a long time after. What are the labs the scans the tests the appointments what do we do now???? The entire time being a rock that everything will be ok. Pasting that fake smile on all day and crying alone in the shower late at night. So scared. I’d been on a roller coaster of fear, worry, non stop thinking and researching and praying and begging for a miracle. 2 years the battle consumed me and my husband. It takes time just to let that all go. The second guesses after. The what ifs. Would anything made a difference? You think of all that. I am a jersey girl. Steel is in my veins but losing my husband and best friend of 40 years is by far the hardest thing I’ve ever felt in my life and it’s a struggle to move on without him. One of the doctors told me the second year would be worse than the first. I was convinced nothing could be worse than this but I was wrong. I’m Half way thru the second year it’s been so hard. It may take 2 years it may take the rest of my life but I’m not getting over anything and that’s ok. Loss changes us. We are not the same. Hard to bounce back from this. There is not an expiration date on grief. We find our way thru this journey at different times. And that’s ok.

Grief is such a hard one. I know between myself and some friends we have been dealt so many blows these past couple of years and watching how we all process differently has been a real thing. One of the girls actually started making us all talk about it and it's made a huge difference, we all get together in a group now and just tell old stories and I think that it has really helped us to understand and move forward. I really liked this one, she's got some awesome points. Going to send it along.

How refreshing! I think such a perspective does wonders not just with grief but any pain we feel, any discomfort - what is the lesson, how can we grow and how can we let go. If we practiced such awareness more regularly I dare say humanity wouldn't be riddled with imbalance it currently has. Marvelous talk!

Beautiful sharing and so true! Those of us who study or work in mental health/grief and loss have learned just what Sue said. That is, there is a sixth stage of grief- making meaning of it all. We can only do that by giving back some of what we have been given by those we have lost. Finding purpose.

I am in tears. I lost my boyfriend to suicide just four months ago. This is so spot on and so incredibly powerful. Thank you so much for sharing

This made me cry, such an amazing Ted talk. Thank you Susan, such smart kind words for all of us, as we will all face this.

I applaud this woman for her journey, so beautiful and so apt. Something we all fear, all go through - but how we cope, how we allow ourselves to process - it's so important.

My dad passed away on Ash Wednesday this year, and I'm going through a lot of grief. I feel like I'm just here trying to look for answers and help on KZfaq. I think this video was very helpful.

Thank you Susan, I sure went through some memories. I lost my partner too, enough said except thank you again.

You will move on or get through is the worst phrase one can say to a grieving person. It's just been 6 months since I lost my husband to covid..he was only 36 and I miss him immensely. The loss is huge but as u said...let it simmer to make you do something commendable not for the world but for your ownself. True!

Now this is raw, real talk, great speaker.

Lovely stories from a father who loses his mother and creates her best recipes for her grand children and his children, filled with loving memories.

YOU are a great speaker and you f*cking NAILED THIS!!!!!! Great job!!!

Wonderful Susan thank you for taking time to present this for all of us that need it I got diagnosed with cancer last year my Mom moved in to help support me Few months later she got sick also was stable then slipped through the medical cracks she ended up leaving this world. I am grief stricken we took care of each other 40 days later found my cousin passed in her sleep again like a sister and support. Your talk helped me. I’m doing well and stable. God Bless xo

Thank you Susan for coming out the other end of such tragedy with such wisdom, this talk helped me more then I can put to words. Thank you thank you. God Bless You

The comments I hate is when people tell me that I have all the memories of my wife. It's those 39 years of memories that haunt me every single day.

She speaks with such love, passion and pain.

We hold onto pain for as long as it serves us, when we learn it doesn't anymore we stop.

What an emotional and heartfelt talk, how true. Thank you for your grace Susan

Thank you Susan for sharing your story. It was inspiring and gave me hope. All my best to you.

beautifully moving talk

Ur son is rly lucky to have u. I was diagnosed with autism in my early 20s and if i had a lady like u helping me and showing me the way i feel like things would have gone differently. but u and ur son r very lucky to have each other after all u have been thru.

I really don't like when people say.. You got to get over it and move on.. You gotta live life.. Well yeah but I gotta do it in my time.

love the name of this talk and everything that it is. what a beautiful way to process grief!

This was exactly what I needed to hear

Thank you. Beautiful

I could feel this, and those tools are going to help many, thank you Susan!

I'm confused devastated I lost my boyfriend last Friday He was 24 he was beautiful inside out smart full of life tender soft everything 💔I miss him so much I'm scared I'll never be happy again I never knew somebody like him Every thing reminds me of him 💔 our car trips our intimate moments when we used to sing together and danse in the car when we smoked when I used to find his car outside waiting for me💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔it's painful

What an enlightened and beautiful human being! I am better for having heard these words of wisdom. Thank you!

Thank you for sharing your story. This helped me a lot I now know how to handle my grief and I am looking forward to my new journey.

Thanks for sharing Susan. Great story of turning grief into amazing things.

What a beautiful talk, and so gentle. You are a great mom.

This is the perspective I needed right now. Fantastic speaker and even better topic. A lot of helpful tools here.

Wow. I needed this more than I realised.

I lost my grandpa,grandma and my dad in the last 7 months I’m really struggling bt this helped me a lot I’m put my grief into helping my children with school and other activities ...

Thank you for sharing your story, it's one of those ones that really gives me some perspective in my own life.

For so long we have been putting our emotions aside, it's such a relief to see this here now though, finally people are opening up. Healing is on its way

I lost my wife same way, that you Susan, thank you so much!!

Wow this lady is amazing l have a grand daughter 7yearold I'm helping her to read write stories and teaching her another language she's doing well at school I'm so proud of her and my grief is love more give more.

We just lost our Nana a week ago and I am absolutely floored by this explanation of grief... Can't even get the words out proper right now. I'll be sharing this with my family. Thank you.

Powerful beautiful story, good people do great things.

I loved this talk! I am also a Jersey Gal! Yes,I am using my grief to help others !

I was once advised to not only grieve but to grieve well.

I definitely had a bit of a chuckle when she mentioned the part when she felt like she was going to throttle someone if they gave her one more or hug or asked how she was one more time - i went through that, still am going through that. People dont understand that sometimes you just need to be left alone to process. This lady is pretty fantastic. Really enjoyed this.

Recycling her grief into helping her family♥️♥️♥️♥️. God bless you ! I love that idea and I’m going to try it , I kinda feel it working already….

Processing a death is living with death, a soulful disfunction of sorrow and path to recovery that can sometimes take a life time.

You couldn't get over it you live with it thinking about them everyday

Bravo! kudos to this brave woman👍

Bless You Susan!!!

It’s almost 2 years since my husband died suddenly. I try to watch this but am in a deep dark place but just can’t. I shut everyone out because no one understands.

Thank you

Those words, 'you'll get through it' dismiss everything you're feeling at the time.

Beautiful and compassionate talk, thank you.

I related to this so much. It took me years to understand and process the death of my brother but when i finally did I learnt so much about myself, our family and him.

Wonderful, widowed 4 months and trying to find my way.

i've always stood by the fact that some of the greatest pain we will ever feel will lead to the most growth... well, at least for most of us.

Ma'am you said it, if I can get out of the bed and get my kids to school on time that's a win. Well I'm starting with just getting them to school. Soon on time..soon with real clothes on. I loaded the dishwasher and wiped the counters.. it's a start. Thank you. I feel understood.

Thanks, wonderfull talk 🙏❤️

Amazing lady. I´m still giving lifts in my pyjamas but there is hope now.

Thankyou😌😌😌

Thank you, I will going through this soon as my husband is near the end of life……

I don't think we 'get over it', I feel we just learn to adapt our lives to carry on but know it's still just a part of the new way of life

I need a hug.

amen Susan. I lost my wife way way too young at 34 due to a chronic lung disease called LAM. We never knew it was as bad as it was. So, it was completely sudden. She died during pregnancy. I now have to raise my daughter without her mom. Thanks for sharing your story.

My girlfriend died in 2017, at age 19, and at the beginning of this year, I thought I healed significantly from the loss of her, but it's gotten so much worse, and it's breaking me, and I miss her so bad 💔💔💔 I try to cope so much with it by imagining her with me constantly in all kinds of situations, and sometimes, it makes me feel better, but other times, it's extremely hard...

My husband just die December 14 2020 in his job we was together since 1980 till 2020 I missing him a lot

We hurt because it means so much, we heal because we are worth it!

I lost my husband on Christmas... I feel so broken..

Thanks Susan you have given me a Way to channel my grief I love to cook so that is the way to channel my grief getting through the holidays is the first hurdle Christmas was are holiday

It's exactly 10 months since my beloved husband of 44 years passed away and 2 years in December my younger sister passed away. I don't have any children. I don't enjoy anybody's company although my nephews love me and want me to spend time with them. I talk if anybody calls me but just want to be left alone. I spend most of my time watching anything to do with grief on you tube and videos about how to overcome loss of your loved ones. Removing his name from bank accounts and the house as we had everything in joint names is very painful. Now I have to do all the jobs he used to do. It's hard.

Out of something bad comes something good.

Love never ends so the grief never ends...u just learn to live with...thats it

Great stuff - XoXoXo - god bless Susan!

Lost my wife last year, still hard, really hard.

After my dads and nephews deaths, I became a nurse.