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My 51 year experience with cats I have found neutered males to be far calmer and more affectionate than spayed females. My girl cats were cuddly but ONLY when they felt like it but the boys always seemed to want to be held.

My first cat was male, and he was a cuddlebug of big proportions. The sweetest thing. But only towards me. He never warmed up to anyone else.

I've had cats for 70 years, usually 3 or 4 at a time. My observations: they must be spayed/neutered! Males (neutered) are the most cuddly and affectionate, but every cat is different. Females (spayed) are usually very territorial; depends on the cat. In every group the dominant cat was a female, who always occupied the highest perch in the house, where she could look down on the other cats. Female cats are generally more graceful and will not knock things over, whereas the males seem to like the sound of knickknacks hitting the floor! There are lots of exceptions to this. All my cats learned their names in a very short time, but most would not come when called. Unless I had food. Or they felt like it. Introducing a new cat of either sex (neutered of course) to the group was never a problem beyond the first couple days of hissing from the resident females. The males couldn't care less. Cats are weird. I think they are aliens.

the biggest difference between my male and female cat is that the male always has a distant derpy look that says no thoughts just vibes and the female has a very expressive glance that is more focused and sensitive.

I got my cat based on him being the oldest cat at the shelter. He is a 2-year-old, and all the rest in the shelter at the time were kittens. He was lying in the cage, with his back to me when I first saw him. I convinced the shelter staff to let me take him home the same night, instead of waiting to meet him. He was a street cat. Now he's a spoiled apartment cat

I've had the exact opposite experience. I've had a couple of female cats the don't want to be held at all. I've had several male cats that won't let you NOT hold them. I've had one male cat that didn't want to be held either. I think it depends on how they were treated as kittens.

I have had two pairs of neutered males/ spayed females, and now two neutered males. While all but one female was affectionate, the females were more independent. The males have all been cuddlebugs, even the last one who who would "never be a lap cat," according to the rescue! The first male/female pair protected me against my violent husband by biting him when he tried to strangle me to death. I rescued them, and years later, they saved me.

Years ago I was lucky enough to have a stray female who had 4 babies. As the kittens grew she would watch them closely and at times engage in play, which is mostly practice for hunting and fighting. And if they got too aggressive she would swat them hard enough to send them rolling. All the kittens became very sweet, loving adults. Cats are wonderful people!

I always find my male cats are usually more friendly and affectionate than my females, but yes, I agree that males are DEFINITELY more inquisitive and mischievous, two of my males are continuously getting into trouble! LOL. But I don't care, I still love them!😻❤🐈

my male cats are more affectionate, i have had some loving females too but the boys usually seem to want to be held more. i mean my boys demand to be held often lol

Yeah, my household has a "no don't touch me!" female cat, one snuggle obsessed female cat, one "Hug boy" male cat (he loves being held) and one "calm, cool and collected" male cat that likes to escape outside.

I've had a bunch of cats in my lifetime and it was always the males that were the most affectionate.

My boys are very affectionate. They sleep cuddled up to me & love to lay on my lap. The girls are affectionate but not as much as the boys.

All the male cats I’ve ever had weren’t very affectionate and did their own thing. But a few weeks ago I got this big dude named Goose and I genuinely don’t think I’ve seen such an cuddly cat before. I’ve had more female cats than male and he even more attention needy then any of them😂

In my case the cat chose me. He was a stray, about a year old, that just walked into my house and kept coming back. Nobody local knew where he was from they’d just seen him around. Took him to the vet and no chip. He was still intact which I think would have been sorted if he had a home. So I didn’t have much choice in choosing a male or female.

My first cat was a female she was always near meowing showing her belly and just constantly meowing happily

I have only had two male cats. Tore my heart out when they passed in 2016 and 2018.

I always thought males were more affectionate, however when I got my adopted Birman girl I've never seen a more empathetic affectionate and almost humanlike cat in my life. She trusts me like none of my other cats ever had. She is quite playful and loud all the time though lol. But I would not trade her for the world.

I’ve had a number of cats over the years and except for the statement on size, I’ve found the exact opposite to be true regarding behavior.

I've had probably over 30 cats in my life, (strays with litters) Nurtured males are by far the most affectionate. You can literally throw a blanket over them and cuddle them and they are happy purring machines.

My first cat was an adopted male Persian. Adorable, playful and affectionate When he died at 15 years I quickly replaced him with a female tortoiseshell and a male fluffy grey cat. I think he was separated from his mother too soon. He tried to suckle her. They had some feisty confrontations. When I was able to get him fixed ( she came fixed) that mellowed him out. He never meowed though she did all the talking. When she died at 15 years. He cried I could here him from another room. Then he started to meow and express himself. I really miss having kitties but too expensive and lifting the litter is too much for me. The 3 were the best for me though. Very lovable .

Definitely an interesting generalization. My female cat is more friendly towards strangers than my male cat was. She also is an escape artist. She rough houses pretty well. When I still had my boy, he would often start rough play with her, and then I'd hear him cry. I called it his sore loser cry. I don't think he ever won a game with her.

My sweet baby boy was the sweetest cat ever. He had 1 life mission, love me as often and as aggressively as possible. I miss him every second of every day.

I am a die hard male cat kind of gal. My best experience has been with males, they are so so so cuddly and loving. I've only ever had needy male kitties. Love being held, pet, kissed, and cuddled. I even had 2 males so far that would follow me every where, come running when their names were called, and had a strict cuddle-nightly routine. The females that we've had in our household have always been extremely independent. Did not want to be held. Wanted to be pet and cuddled only when they wanted it. Graceful, dominant, and elegant. I did have one female, though, who from an extremely young age I trained strictly. She was the sweetest thing. She loved being held and cuddled. Such a sweet girl. She was raised with one of the boys mentioned that was the love of my life due to him being a follower and cuddler. I just trained them early on to associate me with sleeping and cuddling. As well as taught them that biting and scratching didn't work, they wouldn't be put down until I gave them a kiss. (Though, out of respect for them I usually kept holding as a short period. If they were going to behave and not attack me, then I tried very hard to respect them.)

In my life long love with felines of both male & female…I have been so deeply loved by male kitties. Male cats have stolen my heart and fulfill me with so much joy. I will say that the female cats are way smarter & learn tricks faster…they will commit their life to you. It’s crazy if you love them 100%, they will love you 200%. Bless these precious furry babies.

My orange & white boy cat 🐈 😻 loves to sleep on my lap & purr 😻

I had a female cat. She was quite shy when it came to strangers, but very affectionate towards my family, especially me. She would come greet us at the door when we came home and brushed against our legs 24/7. I could say she was like a sister to me. Sadly she died last July. My best friend has two female cats of the same litter - sisters. They get along quite well, sometimes they even play fight and stalk each other. They are both rather independent and don’t need as much petting and cuddling as my cat did. While my cat spent most of her life indoors, my friend’s cats go out regularly and hunt down birds & mice.

My elderly father had a male cat. Every time my dad sat in his recliner the cat would jump into his lap & fall asleep on his big warm belly. That cat was afraid of everyone else except for my dad & my teenage daughter. When my dad passed away, my daughter who at that point was a young adult, kept the cat until he died several years later. She did everything she could to keep that kitty going for as long it did. Even giving daily insulin shots. It was quite old when it passed. It was so hard to give up that last reminder of her Grandpa.

I think I have never really cared if they are males or females. I have got one girl, the princess of our house, and three beautiful boys. At present I am trying to catch my tuxedo's outdoor stray friend, and there is a pregnant stray kitty in one of the rooms, so God knows how many cats I will have soon

We've often had male cats let kittens nuzzle them and will babysit them. We've also had them be at least as loving as the females, and females have just as much curiosity about sneaking outdoors if they can, and be at least as mischievous as our males. I guess you could say our cats have usually been unlike the 'average' of their gender all the way around, LOL!

“Female Cats are more affectionate than males.” Me with a male cat who clings to my legs and arms when he sleeps: *Sure, Sure, Ok, Yeah*

I’ve recently fostered over a dozen cats from different litters, and a mix of males and females from about 8 weeks to 6 months old (2-3 at a time). The males are curious and enjoy some roughhousing, but are actually less active and less “athletic” than the females. They all like to play and have attention, but females NEED to run, jump, and hunt each evening. They want to chase something extensively. Males are often satisfied with watching or toying with something interesting, and they want a quick and easy chase and catch. A little lazier. It takes more work to keep males in good shape physically because you have to motivate them to run. The girls just won’t stop moving until well into the night. The degree to which they want physical affection varies more by personality than gender seemingly.

My girl cats are older than my boy cats, the girls are in charge and they keep the boys in line.🐆 For me boy or girl doesn't matter. It seems like the boys need more attention though, they talk alot more than the girls do. " Eddie be quiet I'm trying to sleep." Eddie says," I don't care get your lazy butt up and feed me I'm hungry!"🙂

I had a male black cat for 19 years, and he is and always will be the love of my life. I adored my siamese growing up and I adore my current cats, but my black cat had both my heart and soul. He was the sweetest and most loving cat. He loved cuddling with me on the couch, he enjoyed being held and kissed and didn't mind me smooshing his face. The way he would look at me, with eyes full of love and devotion, it was like he was looking into my soul. I know I'll never have a cat like him again.

I got both a brother and sister from the same litter. I love them both. The male is definitely much more affectionate.

This was really interesting. My large male cat is sweet, gentle, passive and cuddly. My tiny female Cornish Rex (a typically affectionate breed) is spunky, particular, demanding and doesn't have any idea what personal space is. They've finally come to accept each other, but Boopie, our second cat rules the house regardless of being 1/3 the size of Carl. So glad to have found this channel, definitely subscribing!

I have both amale and female cats. But the male cat, which is older, sticks with me and Follows me everywhere. The female is younger, more standoffish and mischievous. And she also loves to hunt mice and rats. She also likes to bring me the dead rats. As presents I guess lol 😆.

"The short answer is yes. The long answer is it's complicated" made me giggle XD A very nice summary of both genders. Male and female pairs complimenting each other seems to be the common pairing in my experience. My first cat was a very territorial female and my second cat is what you call an escape artist XD but he's very cuddly and affectionate.

I have had many cats, and the males were by far more affectionate, always wanting to be by my side, and displaying their interest in everything I was doing. The females usually couldn't have cared less.

My female cat meets me at the door with exuberant meows and is also very cuddly and affectionate ❤

Of all the cats (ive) had, 2 "adopted" me, while the 3rd one was given to me by a friend of my sister. The first was an orange female tabby, the second was a gray (russian blue?), and the current one is my buddy, Black Friday, and he also adopted me. The orange female tabby originally was my sister's, but it switched to my dad, and then to me, so i guess that would be adopting the human. I named the orange female tabby, "Whisket", (a slight misspelling of my dads favorite drink), we got her spayed after a stray male tried to mate with her, but i thwarted it by dumping water on him. That cat followed me everywhere except to school and/or work. When i moved, (twice), Whisket's mode of transport was an old birdcage, as the cat carriers hadnt been thought of yet. She lived right at 16 years, and several months after she passed, my sister gave me "Biskit", from one of her friends cat's litter. He stuck with me for a few years, then when i got married, he became my wifes cat. He also lived around 16 years, then there was a period where my wife did daycare and our kids were in multiple activities, so, no pets for around 10 years, then Black Friday came along, and hes been the best one to date. (And ive spoiled him worse than a human child!) End of story!

I had my male cat for 3 years before I got him a little sister when they first met Luna buried her face under binxs belly and tried to nurse he just looked so confused and groomed her till she fell asleep with him on the chair. Binx was sad because he was best friends with my bunny but the bunny was already 12 years old and passed away 2 years into their friendship he kept looking for Jessie bunny and checking his pen and his bed and his little house so as soon as someone told me they had kittens that needed homes I signed up to take one without a second thought and they’ve been each others best friend ever since

I just got a male kitten & he’s definitely mischievous but so sweet lol I work so I have a play area set up for him when I’m gone & in a couple of hours he learned how to open it & get out. 😅 He was chilling by my pet camera when I looked in on him it shocked the hell outta me lol

Thank you for another comprehensive post! Excellent content friends.

Totally agree with your video, I also noticed that females will usually bond with a female (woman/girl) in the household its an odd thing and yeah once that happens she will not accept another cat cheerfully/at all!

its my male cat that is most prone to want cuddles, and is also by far the most tolerant of other cats and people.

this is a brilliant vid. very good info, very good narrator, great visuals. didn’t expect this to be any different from all the other videos, but it is. thank you so much :) 🐈🐾🐈‍⬛🌷🌱

my male cat had urinary trackt infection, it was such a horrible experience. But, the appropriate diet really helped and he never had that issue again. I knew it was serious when he didn't resist the tranporter and wasn't screaming in the car. I absolutely love my boy, he is a very friendly cuddlebug.

My male cat is way more affectionate than my female but the female is more adventurous.

My first kitty was a female, after she passed I was able to adopt two cats. I didn’t know anything about the differences, I just wanted a black cat and an orange tabby. God sent me straight to Second Chance animal adoption were I found a brother and sister from the same litter! The boy was orange tabby and the girl was black shorthair. They were named Peter Pan and Wendy! As soon as the foster mom put them in my arms Peter stood up and nibbled my nose then my ear, and Wendy just looked at me and I fell in love. I adopted them that same hour and a few days later, they came home with me. I’ve had them for almost 4 years and I adore them both. It is true, two kitties are better and they are both loving in their own ways. The one thing I wish I could have gotten 2 kitties the first time, but it wasn’t financially possible. I think God sent me these two to help heal the pain from losing my beautiful Princess (icon photo), she was regal in many ways. But these two kids are as middle class as you can get! It’s like having a panther and a tiger in one home. 😉😍🥰😊🐅🐈‍⬛

I have had the opposite experience. My male cats are affectionate, sweet boys! They are my favorite 😻 Please don't be afraid to adopt a male from the shelter. They will love you and be wonderful companions!!❤❤❤

My male cats are so very affectionate. I adopted males after I learned they were more cuddly. True for me. They are mischievous, but I understand that. They’re just curious and are trying to have an interesting life. Who doesn’t want that?

My first cat was female and she would greet me at the door. Wouldn't cuddle or anything but I loved her

I had 2 neutered males. One passed away from kidney disease, and I had to go to the vet more than once due to having blockages in his urethra. It broke my heart, but I treasure the time I spent with the big guy (he was slim and still 20lbs if you can believe it)

One of My male cats needed to have PU surgery. The other did not but it essentially gives the male a vulva to widen the urethra. It isn't crazy expensive and has a high success rate. I'm so happy we did it. Our boy is back to his normal self and has many years ahead of him. Urinary blockages are deadly.

I was convinced I was getting a female kitten. I went to see them, I was sitting on the floor and this kitten came and sat on my lap, I was chosen. It was a boy, didn't have a choice NOT to take him home.

Another thing a friend of mine (and myself) found out after getting her cat spayed was that we weren't allergic to her any more 🤔 Our vet told us that sometimes getting your cats spayed or neutered helps with the allergens it may create after licking their fur for their "bath time". I thought that was really odd and had to share! I prefer male cats/animals and of course they have to be neutered! It's for their own well-being and safety 😸 Thank you for this, I never knew male cats had a shorter urethra, I would have thought it was the other way around. Always learn from your videos! 😊

Wow. This was an amazing video. Thank you!

I have a 3 year female and a 4 year male. Both are neutered. They’re both affectionate with differences. The male likes to be petted but not cuddled. The female likes both. The male isn’t the least interested in going outside or curious about what’s going on outside. The female is. She liked sitting on the back of the couch and looking out the window. When a door’s open, she’ll try to get out. The male doesn’t. She’s actually gotten out a few times but comes back after an hour or so.

lmao love how the comments unanimously agree that male cats are more affectionate

With me, my male kitties have been more affectionate and vocal than most of the females.

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All of our family cats were male. Maybe it was their way of expressing their gratitude for having been saved from a shelter but they were extremely affectionate, calm and friendly. My aunt had two female cats and they were feisty. When I get the chance to adopt a cat again I would prefer to have a boy

I would like to add to the thought that we cannot put cats in a box. Perhaps not, but given a chance, the cats will do it themselves. Leave a box lying around, and the cat will insert him- or herself nearly immediately. (Sorry - I had to. In seriousness, keep up the great work! ) And yes, your description fits my neutered male kitty like a well-chosen, high-quality box. He likes short cuddle sessions, is VERY playful and mischievous, and we have an extremely loving and strong bond.

I've only owned male cats and they've all been extremely loving. I just recently adopted a female cat and she is very aloof. She doesn't enjoy cuddling, lap time or petting at all. So I went and adopted a male friend for her. He is a lap cat and very loving. But whatever the fact is about my female, I am committed to loving her on her own terms.

I 'snuggle trained' our Lombardi, he was a ginger & one of the most snuggly babies, he LOVED to lay ON me for his naps, but was EXTREMELY playful & like a little toddler, he was into everything but he certainly knew hot to turn on the charm when he knew he was 'caught in the act' :) We lost him last fall so are adopting littermates who are one each male & female. Yes, we'll be getting them fixed & we also have a 16 yr. old male that we'll be introducing them to SLOWLY :)

Sitting here watching with my female cat, Nikki curled on my lap. She "chose" me, so the adoption was easy. Even the humane shelter employee saw how quickly she decided I was the one! 😍 As for our 9 1/2 years!! together... she definitely has two personalities... CUDDLE and BITCH! 🤣 Sometimes I play it safe, and I hide under the bed! 🤣😂🤣

I’ve had both and love them all so much, but must admit, my senior male brown tabby is the most affectionate and emotionally connected to me of any creature of my entire life!😻❤️

I got both a male (Demian 2 years old) and a female (Jody 7 years old), and I can confirm, Jody is a lot more bonded to people, specially me, she always tries to sleep in my desk while I work or study, and gets really sad whenever i have to leave for college, but she is really territorial, and will hiss at any neighbour cat that gets too close. Demian on the other hand, (like his name implies) is a little demon of mischief, he always tries to jump on tables and counters that he knows he isn't allowed to, he always hangs out outside with our dog, and is generally more happy around my mom (cuz she treats him like a baby lol), but he also is a lot more loyal, whenever someone is interscting with him, and they have to leave to do something (either the bathroom, go outside, etc) he will start screaming almosr as if he is calling them back, he needs to be close to someone at all times. They are a lot like siblings, Jody clearly is the dominant cat of the house, while Demian tries his best to sometimes play with her with less than possitive results (generallt ends up on them running arrlund the houde with Jody hissing at Demian), it may be because of their age difference, but still, even after that, they do seem to care for eachother, with Jody sometimes smelling and licking Demian to clean him, while Demian always tries to be close to Jody and imitate her actions to be like her. They are my entire world, I love them so much, whenever I come home I just see Demian rush arround the yard or the front door to greet me along my dog (Mario), and Jody is generally chilling in the living room or my desk and her eyes light up whenever she sees me arrive, I love them so much.

thank you this helped a lot!

I've had female cats. They are different personalities, but neither of them ever did well with kittens we fostered. My male cats however were very social. My last male cat allowed kittens to "nurse". He loved it. He would purr until he drooled. He also loved to be held like a baby. Definitely a cuddle bug. My last cat was my first. A female. She cuddles with me, but isn't exactly the cuddle bug my boy was.

I definitely like the 2 boy cats my family had in the past (RIP) than the female my brother has. I’m so glad he moved and took her. They were friendlier and more affectionate. They also were raised with a small dog and it was funny to watch how he adopted some of their behaviors and vice versa.

I love all kitties :)

I had a Calico for 19 years and she gave me more love and comfort than any person has. We were best friends and I miss her

The funny thing is my male cats are way more affectionate than my females. The shenanigans thing is definitely true though. It is a constant battle keeping my oldest boy out of trouble.

I have two females, and my older one is very territorial, it was one of the hardests things on my life to make she accept the other female when I adopted. But they are good friends now and its true they are really affectionate and love cuddling

Thanks for sharing 👍🏾

My male cat Teddy is so affectionate, and cuddly and He's neutered. I've also had 2 other male cats and they were always cuddly, and well tempered, they both passed away with old age, one lived until he was 20. I'd get a male over female anyday.

My sister adopted a female cat that behaves like a male cat. She's extremely playful and curious, her favorite game is to be chased and climb high places, she's always trying to escape to explore outside and sometimes she does escape haha, she doesn't like to sit on our lap or be picked up, she's no territorial at all and she's so attached to my sister to the point she stops eating when my sister travels.

We love our multiple female rescue kitties so much that they are truly considered family members and are very spoiled and cared for. 22 years of great loving times!

my male cat used to absolutely L O V E dogs. he had a very specific sweet spot for my giant anatolian shepherd/komondor mix. drooled (literally) over him, cuddled, rubbed, cleaned. super curious and open to strangers as well, and an affectionate mess w me and my 2 female cats. after my dog passed last year- he now violently hates dogs, is weary of strangers, and only cuddles w me. i joke around that my cat lost his dog husband, but i honestly believe it. he's been grieving along w me.

ive had cats all my life, and in my experience male cats were always the most affectionate x

"Just like humans are different, so are cats. They can't always be put into a box." Yes they can!

Allergies permitting, I have it in my head to one day adopt a black female rescue, as I've read black cats get adopted less, and females get adopted less then males...🤔

I have 3 male Canadian sphynx cats! They are very affectionate, needy and always up my personal bubble!

Many years of being a multiple cat person--boycats have always been more snuggly and affectionate. Girlcats are opnionated and only cuddle when *they* want to. Both are wonderful for different reasons. But yeah, mostly the opposite of what was said here.

My first concern when adopting a cat is their gender.. I typically pick up male cat but after owning a female cat, my life ✨changed✨! So clingy and affectionate

we have a male.we suspect he is part bob cat because he is friggin huge. not fat,muscular.solid. he was rescued from a tree about 4 years ago on good friday.no chip,tag,nothing.hubby brought him home,named him shamrock,and biggest goofball ever

I have 3 boys and 2 girls.. all from the same mother. Love them so much ,each with one personality. Cant live without their love!!

Adopt, neuter, love is the best formula to get the best cat for you, no matter the age, sex or breed.

I tend to go with female cats (neutered). When roaming outside they will stick close to the home and return on mealtimes. Even so, like the males they will engage in fighting trespassing cats but are more cautious in general with traffic and strangers. I think the males (neutered) have a slight edge on sociability with other cats, dogs and humans. Like the video said they might be even more curious and this could get them into trouble like when they sneak into other houses. They are both incredible friends.

The UTI'S in males is a very real and expensive dilemma. Years ago my Jonathan (orange tabby) had to be widened and 30 years ago it was expensive, it would be an astronomical procedure now. I've had mostly females since and found them to be the cuddliest and most affectionate of the genders.

I had 4 cats in my whole life. Sunny and Sherry were both besties the whole time they lived with each other. They both passed when I was a pre-teen. The ones I have now are Pebbles and Bam Bam, and they don't get along sometimes.

Thank you for much for this video! You went over everything I wanted to know. I temporarily had boy kittens in the past they were definitely more mischievous and hyper. I adopted a girl last year she’s more calm and not into much trouble. I was a new kitten but couldn’t decide if a boy will be better for spayed girl or 2 girls. The easier route might be the boy

Biggest difference I’ve noticed after owning both: -male cats are prone to bladder crystals developing around 3-5 yrs of age, especially if they were neutered too early (if you can wait until after they’re 6 months old, it’s going to be better for his future health. But preemptively putting him on a Urinary Diet is also a good idea) -female cats are sometimes more reserved. This has more to do with their Size and Socialization: cats are as much prey animals as they are predatory animals. The smaller the cat, the more cautious they tend to be; and female cats can be smaller than male cats. But even a small female cat can be just as social and playful as a medium-sized-to-large male cat-it gets down to a cat’s Individual Nature + Nurture/Socialization) So, for first-time cat owners? Choose a female cat simply because of that Health Timebomb that can result in an emergency vet visit or even result in kidney failure and a dead cat (and happen SUDDENLY even while watching for symptoms). But otherwise? There really isn’t that much of a difference between Energy and Temperament whatsoever

I have a 13 yr old male cat and loves my other 2 male cats and female cat

I grew up with 4 cats all male. the older two were rescues from a shelter cat that gave birth so they spent their entire lives as indoor cats and definitely were escape artists (we tried putting them on leashes once to give them a compromise but they escaped those too… as well as their flea collars) the shelter had them neutered and they were two of the biggest cuddle bugs (rivaled only by one of my other two cats I’m about to mention) and both of them loved to show affection with licking, one of them so much so that he’d put his paw on whatever part of you he was licking and without missing a beat would lightly bring out his claws to keep you captive to his love if you tried to pull away. now my other two boys. both of them were originally outdoor cats, the first of which was completely feral. we had a whole flock of feral cats near my house growing up but none of them had ever approached us or let us interact with them until this little runt the size of a peach and we knew we had to take him in before winter (he never grew to be too big he’s less than a foot and a half long and gets confused for a kitten at age 16). we knew the two older cats (it’s a 2 year age difference between the pairs) wouldn’t take well to the new addition and he’d be extra nervous in the new environment so we rescued him a friend born in a barn to keep him company. now both these boys were originally outdoor cats and I can count on one hand the amount of times the two of them combined have even attempted to leave the house. the first time mr feral permakitten left he immediately ran under the garbage can and just started crying and shaking. he’s only been out once since and almost immediately walked himself right back in the second he realized he’d touched pavement. we got these two neutered as soon as we possibly could and they turned into the biggest cuddle monster and attention whore you’d ever see. the cuddle monster must be as close as possible to you at all times that you are sitting or laying down. he WILL come up on your chest and he WILL knead his claws into your neck purring the whole time. meanwhile the other little boy would constantly beg for attention. he was the only one of my boys that wouldn’t cuddle but he’d get his pets even if he had to do it himself. you just stick your hand out and he’ll rub his face on the fingers then run his whole body under the palm. when looking for attention if you didn’t have an “automatic petter” readily available he’d simply paw at you until you did and similar to the licker would begin to lightly bring out the claws if necessary. I loved my four boys to pieces they were some of the most affectionate animals I’ve ever had and will forever be the reason I’ll prefer male cats to female (also the only cat to ever bite me in a more than playful way was a female) also my sister’s neutered male cat only accepts physical affection in the form of spanks

I have an 8 month old female rescue who was spayed at 10 weeks in her foster home, two weeks before I adopted her. She is the sweetest cat I've ever known. She never bites or scratches, always greets us at the door, cuddles up against us in bed and on the couch, plays fetch (with her spring, and yes she actually fetches it), and ALWAYS comes when called by her name (Aloo). She also has zero runaway tendencies but is very affectionate to guests who want to pet her. She is also super calm around other cats and dogs. There are a million other silly, funny, cute things about her too (she puts her whole body over her bowl when she drinks), she LOVES all her toys (wand, laser, mice, springs) and will lead me to the toy she wants to play with. I can't believe how I got THIS lucky. All my friends are obsessed with her.

My experience has been that the male cats - on the whole - were much more cuddly than the females. I have had one female who was the exception and would cuddle, but all the males did. I've also noticed that female cats tend to prefer male humans and that male cats tend to prefer female humans.