Male vs female friendships: Dating boundaries

Male vs female friendships: Dating boundaries | Men, Explain

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Are friendships among men different from women? In this episode of Men, Explain, Sonia and our guest, Shawn Thia, discuss more on maintaining friendships between the guys and touch more on the unspoken “bro code” and “girl code” that we often find ourselves entangled in.
Is it easier for guys to maintain their friendship? Are there certain problematic bro codes? Listen to this episode to find out more!
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Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
01:39 How do guys maintain their friendships?
04:50 What do you look for in a "brother"?
08:25 Being vulnerable with your close male friends
11:19 What do guys talk about when they meet?
12:27 Assumptions about the bro code
17:59 How guys and girls react when they meet someone cute
21:43 Other assumptions about the bro code
25:34 Sharing more about the girl code
34:20 Having the same moral values in a friendship?
36:38 Ending a friendship where your values don’t align
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Пікірлер: 27

@nerd26373 Жыл бұрын

It’s great to have discussions like this. Just because a guy and a girl are close doesn’t necessarily mean they should date one another. They can always remain friends. Once you’ve overstepped boundaries, there’s no turning back from it.

@rebeccatan4848 Жыл бұрын

omg HAHAHA i died when sonia shared about the 5 mins voice messages and the constant updates (even if it's from 2 days ago) bcos that's literally me HAHAHAH 😅 sonia be calling me out like that oops.. loved the episode!!

@edamame5540 Жыл бұрын

I like Shawn's value

@fredtotherick Жыл бұрын

i found this episode EXTREMELY relatable! also read some other comments saying that it doesn't dig deeper.... curious to know exactly what more is there to dig deeper into?

@AgentJ2007 2 ай бұрын

They put you in friend zone roster. They want the boyfriend benefits you provide without actually making you “the boyfriend”

@gokartzzz735 Жыл бұрын

Yes nod up = what’s up/hi, nod down = acknowledge/respect u/I know u exist

@lecherhao86 Жыл бұрын

Alot of people would like to believe there's this huge differentiation between men and women in terms of how they form the closest social circles. But in reality, both sexes might not be that different. To form the closest social circles, any human will still choose people they can trust and vibe with and they usually share certain set of experience, beliefs and values. In terms of interaction, I think it's just a normal stereotype to think that men have simpler conversation than ladies or men tend to provide advices and solutions when uninquired. Well, again, it depends on the context of the conversation (where, who's around, how much time is allowed), the topics or issue that is discussed, and the mental state of the speakers and listeners. When the time is right, and when one is ready to talk, men in closest social circles can be unexpectedly empathetic and attuned too. Perhaps low maintenance is really the best way to describe Bros friendship.

@user-nr1mh6fg3n Жыл бұрын

Love this ep! omg

@ivanlimzg Жыл бұрын

I learned this in psychology. In social circles, there's the in-circle, then there's the inner-circle, and for even deeper ones, the inner-inner circle. So being in the in-circle is easy, but beyond that is tough.

@Dalziel45 Жыл бұрын

What. I'm so perplexed that Sonia has never seen the "nod". It happens every single day multiple times a day.

@ctineex3 Жыл бұрын

The guy looks like kevjumba

@bertbrown1823 Жыл бұрын

I'm a black girl and this is acute for me and my friend s

@Ehdidnxkd Жыл бұрын

Hi Shawn. May I ask where you got your chelsea boots? 👍 it’s really nice

@tanchormay6447 Жыл бұрын

If your friends are pissed with you hanging out with other friends, you need better people around you 😅😂

@fooyongchin Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@yeodabeez319 Жыл бұрын

Power la yong chin! Chs pride

@DukeShanks Жыл бұрын

Nice looking 116610 with black top :)

@tertiahalim152 Жыл бұрын

A very disappointing and meaningless episode. The guy kept asking for examples, leading up to answering a question but cut himself off by giving out disclaimers, not finishing his sentences and kept asking Sonia back the questions she asked him.. 😒

@watermelon5303 Жыл бұрын

I dont see a meaning to your comment too. Bye

@Lizlimilj Жыл бұрын

one of the more disappointing episodes. felt like all the points came off from a pinterest summary or a thought catalogue listicle without digging deeper into the nuances on this complex topic

@iamalfie Жыл бұрын

The concept of ‘bro’s code’ is just a social norm people use to justify behaviours. The major difference between a bro or sis code is perhaps that many (asian) men tend to be less expressive.

@JuzNicky Жыл бұрын

we do have that. and now cos of covid its forearm bump Its a thing but men don't like to show their vulnerable side. that turns it into material for comedians but its not that hard... but I do htht is with only a select few females and every one would be what are they on about... Teaching girl how to game and not crossing the line of mansplaning is another topic on its own. i can wing man cos i am the DuFF voice notes hahahaha still doing it ? yeah i stop pointing points and i enjoy bitching with her haha no I don't really care not just ignorant is bliss like Agent K says, Don't ask questions you don't want to know the answer to. haha I had a chat with a co worker on age gap that lasted 3 weeks... every one was thinking we were on the trial period. yea getting drunk for me is more like doing stupid shit now with social media hahaha unlike last time only post on friendster.... ops

@Lala_lalacllll Жыл бұрын

The guests recently aren't as interesting as in the beginning...

@edamame5540 Жыл бұрын

i prefer the guests recently wor

@natisaver Жыл бұрын

lmao he damn funny

@49siao Жыл бұрын

beta

@noelrobinson2307 7 ай бұрын

Gals these days are just attention whores tbh. Recently experienced something similar to Shawn. This gal led me on, made me feel special, made me feel like i was the only one, only to find out she was seeing not 1 but 3 other guys!