Mandy Ndlangisa on Navigating single parenting and dating as a single parent

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9 ай бұрын

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@ntombifuthifakudze6267 8 ай бұрын

This is one of the best interviews Promise, you really did put your heart into this. the part you advised her to realize that she will never stop worrying about her kids, i got that well and i hope she did too. single Mommies, you are not what happened to you, you deserve all the love and care and support a great man can provide. don't over-plan your lives, God is for that, He will take care of you and your kids.... don't let your good man pass you by whilst you worrying about kids. im a single Mom and one day i will be just single if i forsake myself for my kids, they didn't ask me to forget my life, they want a happy mommy in every way possible. those kids will grow and have their lives to live, mommy might be left resentful that she wasted her life worrying about them and then she will want to control the kids-adult lives.....trouble. there is still hope, Thank you Promise, Thank you Mandy for heling us with your story....KUZOLUNGA!🥰

@TheMillennialMom1 8 ай бұрын

I love this. Thank you Futhi???❤

@tshepisokebotlogetse1675 8 ай бұрын

Here because i love and adore Amanda soo much❤. The millenial GANG?????🥂

@maletsatsihlekelele3678 8 ай бұрын

Girl,you know we've been waiting for this for 2 weeks,since she told us on that vlog

@ThandiKhalaki 8 ай бұрын

📍

@SinesiphoMfuduka-ip5js 8 ай бұрын

❤️

@EvahMarumoBw 8 ай бұрын

Just saw her picture and here I am❤

@sindimahlambi2320 8 ай бұрын

me too

@NormaJileka 8 ай бұрын

One thing about men, they believe in financial abuse whether in marriages or not.. there are mothers who are fully taking care of their kid with their husbands just doing nothing and claiming to be doing everything just because they are paying bond 🙄

@AsaMPodcast 8 ай бұрын

Being a mother while trying to repair yourself mentally and emotionally is the hardest thing to ever Take on

@mfundisozuma5810 8 ай бұрын

Let’s give Promise her flowers for her interviewing skills! Ay suka Demedi, she’s good! 🔥🔥

@modipakatlego117 8 ай бұрын

a 100% I agree however for as long as she continues to protect that cheating husband of hers, that guy will never take responsibility and Promise will also continue to see other women as self inflated exactly how " without saying a lot of words she feels Amanda bought all this to herself"

@zelokuhlegina5886 8 ай бұрын

I love her no matter what,I know she is not perfect but she has taught me how to parent through difficult times.Mega luv Mandy

@anittanxusa 8 ай бұрын

I love Amanda so much ❤ you can tell that Promise is shocked that a single mom is confident, hard working, has her own car and doesn’t obsess over marriage. I always think to myself that doing well in life as single mother mom is X10 harder, how the hell am I doing it? I feel like wives have no excuse. You have all the privilege

@zeemali4369 8 ай бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾u cudnt have said it any better💕

@mrmanq9517 8 ай бұрын

Wow...this is so eye opening as a guy. Hopefully she heals and can continue to RAISE her kids 🙌

@anne_m2612 8 ай бұрын

I feel like Mandy is doing so well as a single mom.You are actually blessed that you can afford your kids and you are emotionally Available for your kids.. To be honest most wives are single in their marriages and its even harder and painful.. most people wish they were in your shoes.

@thabingxakata 8 ай бұрын

Have you ever just enjoyed listening to a person speak. Sometimes I need to rewind because I get lost in Amanda's voice and forget to actually listening to the contents of what she's saying 😂❤️

@sindimahlambi2320 8 ай бұрын

She is so genuine I love her... She is not sugar coating anything or trying to be someone else

@llt4726 8 ай бұрын

I love love her voice and how she speaks.She always says she does not speak the best of English..but wow..❤❤❤

@Yassmiinn. 8 ай бұрын

@@llt4726 really? I've never heard her say that. I always hear her say she's a "word person" since she is a Journalist and blogger.

@mahlohonololebuso741 8 ай бұрын

Let's normalized not having children. How about that?? There's a thing called being "childfree". There's a whole beautiful life without kids. You get peace of mind, you spend your money however you want, you sleep whenever you want, you travel however you want. You don't have to worry about another human being. You literally sleep and make money and enjoy your freedom. Let's normalize this.

@pileshongwe7827 8 ай бұрын

Yes cc you are right we need to stop this cycles of struggle as single parents I have a son but I don’t plan to have more kids because I feel one child is enough for me I am not going to add more kids just because society says so I want to have a nice happy comfortable life for me and my son and not struggle in this life

@mahlohonololebuso741 8 ай бұрын

@@pileshongwe7827 I am glad you agree with me cc

@Ladyle4ever 8 ай бұрын

As a single mother of two, I agree 💯

@mahlohonololebuso741 8 ай бұрын

@@Ladyle4ever thank you

@nothandomyeni1359 8 ай бұрын

What happens then when you're old and can't do much for yourself? You work hard for years for what? Leave inheritance for people who aren't your children??? Who will plan your funeral?? Who will inherit your hard labor on earth?? People need people. People are social beings. This is why solitary confinement (in prison) drives people crazy. We are not made to be alone. The solution is to vet well, then marry and build your life with your spouse. What we need to normalize is us women being responsible with who we allow to have access to our wombs. Let us normalize birth control. Let's normalize "marry before you carry."

@zelokuhlegina5886 8 ай бұрын

Baby mama and wives can perfectly do it as long as there is mutually respect

@qaqambafuzile5967 8 ай бұрын

I get why she gets emotional when asked how she's doing as a single mom.. It's really a lot but we carry the lot with so much grace cz we looooveee our children ❤️❤️❤️

@Nevertoolate6169 8 ай бұрын

Millennial gang, we love our very own queen😍

@khutsomafema9794 8 ай бұрын

I've listened to Amanda's story so many times, and each and every time, it's inspiring and beautiful to see her come thru it all

@ayandasam2269 8 ай бұрын

When Mandy said am hoping they don't have kids I was like she's me, am a mother of 2 boys with my ex hubby. My baby daddy's father was dadbeat and he wanted so much to do better hence we only had kids in marriage, but after we divorced it's now 5 years later hes deadbeat... I really don't want that for my future daughters in law shame it's a painful journey. I really hope they don't have kids also.

@busiluthando451 8 ай бұрын

This is truly a hard pill to sallow. You did everything by the book, by having kids in the marriage, may you please find healing🥰🥰🥰

@ayandasam2269 8 ай бұрын

@@busiluthando451 5 years later, healing is seriously a roller-coaster ride won't lie. Because as much as am healed in my own pain, but the pain from my 15 year old shame marn it's sad to watch. At least the 7 year old didn't experience him that much, but we blessed ke cause the support from his family and mine is amazing for them. Thanks❤️

@ayandamboyi875 8 ай бұрын

❤❤

@christinanontsokolombola5866 8 ай бұрын

This was so triggering for me as a single mom, thank you for reminding me that I am not alone😘

@Ladydee510 8 ай бұрын

Yah, I agree, she is a strong young woman. Parenting alone is not easy

@lelonWakaGatsheni 8 ай бұрын

This is one hard working woman 👌🏽power to she 🔥

@adv.thatomoeeng832 8 ай бұрын

She is a soft person. She just went through a lot. I adopted my daughter so I don't have a baby Daddy. I can't go through even 15% of the things she went through, I will just collapse. ❤

@lizzybeth428 8 ай бұрын

May you please invite Amo Moagi next or whenever you do? She's a KZfaqr and single mom too.

@Orriie 8 ай бұрын

I really feel like the interviewer can be a bit insensitive sometimes. She literally asks the same questions that Amanda is not comfortable talking about, at least ask if she’s comfortable talking about what is happening with her child, or what happened in her past relationship instead of just asking her to tell you more about the situation.🙃

@amahKebonang 8 ай бұрын

True.... But Mandy is so smart she saw her way through the difficult questions and she answered without even over sharing......

@NokuphiwaM 8 ай бұрын

I feel like that’s what interviews with public figures are about. It’s to let us in on stuff we don’t know, otherwise they must not agree to interviews

@nwakhubayi 8 ай бұрын

I love how you spoke about single parents , that marriage doesn’t guarantee you that you will never be one , I love your perspective about dating and marriage . I believe you are doing exceptionally well , ❤ “I deserve love not in a form of marriage . “ love this . I love you lots ke sisi.

@GomolemoMosarwa-fm3hm 8 ай бұрын

You Mandy you are called to do great things in this world there's something special about you you are called to stand before multitudes and address people ❤❤may God lead you in Jesus name stay blessed

@Nosi_Lucas 8 ай бұрын

This deserves to be a pinned comment.

@u.802 6 ай бұрын

love that her finances are okay and she can take care of her kids . wish her luck🥰

@neegee3755 8 ай бұрын

I love Mandy , I searched for single mom in SA on KZfaq and I stumbled upon her channel. Love me some strong lady . God bless you sthandwa sami ❤

@flowerlindz 8 ай бұрын

I remember also telling a friend that maybe when her kids are older things will ease up, and she retorted the same way Promise just did here, you never stop worrying about your kids. You just need to find a way to not let the worry consume you.

@HlengiweDube-Bookkeeper 8 ай бұрын

I'm with Mandy when it comes to marriage...marriage benefits men and I have always been of the thought that people should only get married when they are old so there's less chance of divorce 😂 Promise speaks about marriage like it's an achievement...

@moe_ramz 8 ай бұрын

Marriage just like parenting is a thankless job for women. Young women make me so happy when I see them focusing on their careers and travelling. I hope the decentering men movement reaches Africa. Men are work and single women are happier.

@HlengiweDube-Bookkeeper 8 ай бұрын

@moe_ramz 💯 I agree too with what u say about parenting. I love my babies but I would advise women to have kids if that's what they really want. Don't have kids because of what society dictates

@moe_ramz 8 ай бұрын

@@HlengiweDube-Bookkeeper 100, I’m a single mum of one and I have to say it’s draining. I advise young women to remain single and not have children. Women are happier when single and living their lives. I’m not anti- relationships. My observation is; women just seem much happier. They get to pour into themselves, verses constantly pouring into other people.

@NthapelisengPhidah 8 ай бұрын

Mandy you are called for greatness girl❤always remember that ❤

@modipakatlego117 8 ай бұрын

I Swear even if I didn't know that Promise's husband has " baby mamma's" her line of questioning gives it away

@Yassmiinn. 8 ай бұрын

And the little remarks she makes here and there lol 🌚

@modipakatlego117 8 ай бұрын

she's a good person yes but she needs to understand and also accept that it is never the " other woman's" fault that she's married to a MF@@Yassmiinn.

@millybee5499 2 ай бұрын

Baby mommas?! How many does he have? Were the kids born during Promise’s marriage? Sorry I’m a nosy new follower 😂

@phozy_M 8 ай бұрын

We are here for our fave ......Queen Mandy ❤🎉asfuni lutho ngaye!!!!!

@sharonzwane8210 8 ай бұрын

Queen Mandy. I love this lady and everything she stands for.

@thandi_we2150 8 ай бұрын

Hmmm Primrose you were a bit too much on Mandy, there way you asked “everyday” when she was talking about her ex was a bit too much. How can you assume she always feel like she is not chosen seems like you we’re already judging and a lot more that you said, I feel like you were too harsh on her. Her facial expressions even showed that she wasn’t comfortable with some of your questions.

@avhathumashau6053 8 ай бұрын

That's exactly how I felt she clearly stated that she is not comfortable talking about it

@vivyfitmom2154 8 ай бұрын

She said she is not comfortable but Promise does not care... improve on that next time...Promise

@Yassmiinn. 8 ай бұрын

That was so weird for me. Even if he beat her once in that 6 years, he was still abusive.

@nothandomdleko3696 8 ай бұрын

We came through this side for you Mandy. Awusloyi nje kodwa ngeke mfethu uthando olungaka. Yazi I never even liked a single celeb but wena ngiyakfeela Mands.

@MalaikaJackson-mq1zt 8 ай бұрын

She is doing her best guys. I feel you Mandy..... it's true forgive yourself and feel free to find love.... as single mum's we seem to feel we don't deserve love and happiness.... being a single mum is a episode or specific part of your life and it's not who you are..... That's what I learned and I'm much more content. It was a journey. though after maintenance court cases constant fighting ... I don't hate the baby daddy's anymore they are just people I used to know. The kids are my blessing, they love me always tickling me and giving lots of hugs and kisses. Everything works out eventually....

@hlengiweyourstruly 8 ай бұрын

Promise you killed this one, it's so beautiful to see you growing in how you handle interviews. ❤❤❤

@ladye1253 8 ай бұрын

Lalela I love uAmanda, I love her authenticity and how relatable she is.

@AsaMPodcast 8 ай бұрын

Mandy you are a strong mama ❤️❤️Thank you for loving your children. Today Topic is close to my heart and I can relate to. and ladies one day I want us to talk about parenting with a broken heart. "You're just like your father" can't be your go to line every time a child does something wrong. Being a single mom is hard and I pray we raise wise children and make them proud one day❤

@nonkululekoxaba4820 8 ай бұрын

Such a wise, smart, brave, and loving woman she is ❤️

@veronicareyneck2173 8 ай бұрын

Hi ladies. I so much relate with Mandy. I brought 3 sons ,no child support tjo its been tough.I put them first no dating.Just living for them

@vuyelwaradebe9312 8 ай бұрын

same .... i have 1 son... when im think of dating lot of things come to mind .... been single since.

@Ladyle4ever 8 ай бұрын

I have two and lost interest in men. My focus is on me and my kids

@learnwithme322 8 ай бұрын

Love you, Mandy. So well spoken and smart. I'm a wife and yet can relate to your story. Keep soaring sis! God got you!❤

@beehive26.5 8 ай бұрын

Bathong Mandy was a little nervous at the beginning but got comfortable eventually ❤ girrl I didn't know you could be this shy 😭❤️

@neothamane5113 8 ай бұрын

This felt like a therapy session for myself, i saw some parts of myself in Mandy in this conversation and things i need to deal with

@pebetsisegogela9846 8 ай бұрын

Love and Light to Mandy's daughter. I am so emotional right now, no child deserves to go through that because of a human being who just decided not to care of their own seed. May God bless her with His best blessings❤.

@siphokaziluzipho4197 6 ай бұрын

Can't get over what this man said to his daughter. A young daughter. He didn't need to be cruel. He is the adult .

@siphokazimagaya9113 8 ай бұрын

I believe there is a special place in hell for deadbeats 😔

@flowerlindz 8 ай бұрын

I love your relationship with your kids Mandy, the 3 yo and just how you are so gentle with her. I remember one vlog when you were telling her she s wrong while hugging her, warmed my heart. Even the oldest, she s so comfortable around you. You are doing great at parenting, you are a good mom.

@ameliasmommyshazi7585 8 ай бұрын

Yaz unokucabangisa okwam lo cc nam ngokhululeka mhla ngakhela my daughter a house I don't trust these men around her but I'm still with the baby daddy we okay I just know we won't get married he's not loyal but trying and he's the best daddy to our daughter.

@kihembodoreen7368 8 ай бұрын

"There is a lot of guilt and shame that single mothers carry. " Yo..

@Zandi2185 8 ай бұрын

Here for Millennial mom. Love you Mandy.❤

@varietywithnandy 8 ай бұрын

for Mandy we like her vlogs b4 we watch, so we are doing it here too..🥰😍

@nondumisomngadi6806 8 ай бұрын

Yep 🤞🏾🤞🏾

@tawandamapfirakupa2876 3 ай бұрын

two parent households are very important.

@mosiamilota6058 8 ай бұрын

Thank you Mandy for explaining marriage in a way that I see marriage too but I was beginning to doubt my explanation of marriage ❤❤❤

@victorianamene7579 8 ай бұрын

Great conversation. Thank you

@penelopemamba5665 8 ай бұрын

I love Amanda and her content even though I am not a mom. She is beautiful ❤

@tembezelanilubatapela3116 8 ай бұрын

Soooo emotional,especially when she mentioned about guilt and triggers and how it actually spoils her day,can greatly relate,l love you mommy.Keep going

@portiamotlhala5758 8 ай бұрын

Thank you ladies. This is an honest discussion. It forced me to look within me.

@ilonatimoteus1340 8 ай бұрын

I am inspired by her beautiful stories...very inspiring guys🙏🏾Love her❤

@flowerlindz 8 ай бұрын

That part where Mandy s lover from high school was calling her in her dreams scared me hey and it doesnt help that Im watching this at night😭

@triciakekana 8 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@legaltalkwithmadamattorney 8 ай бұрын

Mandy sisi, there is nothing more you can do but love your girls and you also have been loving her so much we see it… it’s not your fault that these men decided to leave and you are doing your absolute best mamma. You going to be okay both of you, I am going to keep praying for you and your babies mamma.

@mashadimokgata871 8 ай бұрын

❤ thank you Mandy for your return. I am inspired

@thedooropenerlajames5602 8 ай бұрын

Thank God for your Raw Honesty & Intelligence

@samanthakoopman7758 8 ай бұрын

Mandy a really strong lady 💪 keep up the good work😊

@ladye1253 8 ай бұрын

Millennial Gang Representation. 😍😍😍😍😍,

@refiloelegoale1140 8 ай бұрын

Mandy, I’m rooting for you mama❤️

@nangasikade2992 8 ай бұрын

Thank you Promise❤❤❤❤

@TebelloNotsi 2 ай бұрын

Yes Amanda don't fight with the fathers because the more u fight is the more o tlo utloa bohloko and catch depression, and don't force marriage or staying in together, I walked out in my marriage 2016 😢but even I have never seen someone that I can share the same roof with, only God will make his plans and that time where by he will bless me with that man, this year on the 25th of August it will be my 8th year leaving my life with out that stress

@Her_Self.. 8 ай бұрын

This was so wholesome❤

@xoliswalisenyane8190 8 ай бұрын

Great conversation...❤️❤️🤗😘

@Swaz310 8 ай бұрын

I dont know.. But at some parts of the interview, i found myself being protective of Amanda.... Also feel like some questions were invasive.

@rebekahkingbello9560 8 ай бұрын

Agreed…especially about her daughter and past relationship

@Nosi_Lucas 8 ай бұрын

A huge part of me wanted to be invisible next to her and hold her hand… I don’t know how many times I shouted. You better not share a tear because wow the energy in some questions and comments was really weird! Also I guess yotube does not require a research before interviews to better prepare. The interviewer left me doubting if she had watched Mandy’s videos before speaking.

@victorianamene7579 8 ай бұрын

I watched the first one, back here 😁🤣

@GomolemoMosarwa-fm3hm 8 ай бұрын

❤❤much love Mandy watching from 🇧🇼 Botswana stay blessed

@kelebogilemooki6578 8 ай бұрын

🇧🇼🇧🇼🇧🇼

@lethiwevinjwa7247 8 ай бұрын

I have beeeeeeen waiting for a follow up interview with Mandy 💃💃💃

@Puseletso_MM 8 ай бұрын

Here for Mandy ❤❤

@thobiledlamini3648 8 ай бұрын

I love your questions Promise keep up the good work

@setladiconnie8365 8 ай бұрын

Love love Mandy! Such a realistic hun bathong😍

@zandilendhlovu-og3de 8 ай бұрын

Mandy is a strong woman ❤ Learnt a lot from her

@gailmokwatlo 6 ай бұрын

I love Mandy because of relatable vulnerability. I’m not a mom and I don’t necessarily identify with her mom struggles, but definitely with how she tries to weave her journey together and heal from the parts that hurt, whilst embracing those that feel good.

@khathutshelonetshipale844 8 ай бұрын

I really enjoyed this interview and I learnt a lot hey 👌👌

@Nonkosi_M778 8 ай бұрын

we Love Mandy so much 😍😍😍😍

@LeratoMngomezulu 8 ай бұрын

I love love love her so much ❤❤..

@noziphokhumalo2963 8 ай бұрын

Here for Mandy😊❤

@mbalimsimanga8548 6 ай бұрын

Who is this girl...I love her..listening to this conversation and learning a lot, very insightful and inspiring...Thanks for this episode

@NtsikiMazwai 8 ай бұрын

Beautiful soul

@ngobeniboledimaggie 8 ай бұрын

Enjoyed watching ❤😊

@sphindilengcobo1535 6 ай бұрын

I watched the other episode and I must say- I just love Amanda❤❤ she's so confident

@nosiphoprosperity6328 8 ай бұрын

Millennial gang☺❤

@cyliamotsoenengzengele 8 ай бұрын

I love Mandy yoooo.

@nompumelolo 8 ай бұрын

Great interview as usual Promise. I pray she doesn't impart her pain on her children. We women are very agreeable and tend to place ourselves in situations we have never experienced just by being in proximity to people who have experienced pain. The goal should always be a nuclear family. Wishing for your kids to be childless wont help, there are kids that want to be mothers from a very young age. I pray she and every single mother finds healing. As a child who was raised in that situation and knows how painful it is to be raised by a single mother and pray daily for my father to come back into my life, i pray the cycle ends with her in Jesus' name.

@user-zr7jf5fv8n 8 ай бұрын

Here for Mandy❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@she_lee 8 ай бұрын

I love Mandy ❤

@malobamahlatse6709 8 ай бұрын

I enjoyed this interview, love u ladies❤❤❤

@user-js7uu1zj9z 8 ай бұрын

In everything that we plan to do, the " FOUNDATION" matters!

@karabomahlako4959 8 ай бұрын

Ba2ng I love ds 2 women so mch,guys ur mutuarity is on another level.M learning a lot from u❤️

@mbalenhlembelu6359 8 ай бұрын

Our Queen lady❤❤❤❤

@fmaz2669 7 ай бұрын

Life is super complicated. Super complicated. Only God is our judge because he understands everything that happens to us and why. I wish you well Amanda and both your children