“The only way to maintain respect is through modesty.” 👍🏼
@olgabushak2942Ай бұрын
Can you tell me more by what that means to you?
@LarryPanozzoАй бұрын
@@olgabushak2942 It’s being free of arrogance and egotism, so you don’t assume others are wrong, or inferior to you, or are less deserving of respect and all other important things than you.
@olgabushak2942Ай бұрын
❤️
@4theloveoffashion959Ай бұрын
@@olgabushak2942it means that until you intentionally pick the right circle (friends, family, and spouse) you will ALWAYS be surrounded by HATERS that tell you, you need to be humble and modest. The part that they don’t tell you is that no matter how much you try to be modest if you are shining in life, you will always create the same level of attack against you. 💯
@en.439218 күн бұрын
@@4theloveoffashion959this part!!!!
@karrey270623 күн бұрын
"Live a life that she can follow."
@charlesdavid-p1yАй бұрын
As I watch this enthralling video, it resurrects the painful memories of my recent breakup-a relationship of five years that ended just three months ago. The woman who meant everything to me decided to leave, plunging me into a vortex of heartache. Despite my desperate attempts to reconcile, I find myself trapped in a cycle of frustration and longing, unable to envision a life without her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I find solace in expressing my lingering affection for her here.
@SusanVivian-g3lАй бұрын
Its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
@charlesdavid-p1yАй бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@SusanVivian-g3lАй бұрын
Her name is Suzanne Ann walters, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@SusanVivian-g3lАй бұрын
I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online. Very impressive!
@charlesdavid-p1yАй бұрын
I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online. Very impressive!
@briceparlant9304Ай бұрын
This man just debunked our whole western society, equality and feminism in just 10minutes, love it!!
@YeshuaLoves_You10 күн бұрын
Amen, I'm a woman and I agree
@carlies.19207 күн бұрын
The western mind is a false to destroy the family unit. The man is the head and provider and protector. The woman is the helper.
@ZenPepperClubКүн бұрын
Baruch hashem
@vibebliss151514 сағат бұрын
Men should start behaving like man. Women will become feminine
@DannySmith862Ай бұрын
If you approach marriage as a power negotiation, don't be surprised when it plays out as a power struggle.
@nildaluzrodriguezАй бұрын
Right. Competition
@irreplacable1988Ай бұрын
But it’s the truth for heterosexual young couples In old age the power balances out 🤷🏽♀️
@DannySmith862Ай бұрын
@@irreplacable1988 How does it balance out in old age?
@leeolie3728Ай бұрын
Every relationship has hierarchy. Power is not a bad thing in the right hands. The problem is society is convincing all that men in power are all inherently wicked, so they can only be good with a female lording over every move.
@alexleggett6270Ай бұрын
@@leeolie3728I agree with this. Seems men are expected to be more and more responsible but retain less and less authority. Feminism teaches women to be strong and independent. Strong independent women obviously don't want a toxic authoritarian man. But unfortunately they also reject the healthy stoic masculine leader as well. They can't seem to tell the difference or want to acknowledge there is a difference.
@mvphung007Ай бұрын
💯 giving her what she wants is not leading. Give her what she needs...your leadership.
@tarynthewriter358329 күн бұрын
And a woman who is capable isn't lost so it isn't so much that it's 'leadership' so much as "decisiveness." Have the ability to make sound decisions and have a world view with integrity to back them up!
@MeandmySara9 күн бұрын
This idea has been used for centuries to dominate, control and destroy the lives of women. "I know what's best for her, and I don't care what she says she wants / needs - I know what she needs."
@marleneschoenfeld49396 күн бұрын
And while fighting my arm banged against furniture and I really hurt myself
@marleneschoenfeld49396 күн бұрын
Don't marry someone who hates you -- is that all you can say? I can't get meds - after that I am still in the wrong???? after he made me a victim?
@marleneschoenfeld49396 күн бұрын
After he wouldn't leave he insisted to sleep on my mattress and I woke up to him performing a sexual act and I knew I'm as good as dead
@dont.ripfuller6587Ай бұрын
Theo Von has a bit where he speaks on loneliness: it's not about you not having anyone- it's about no one having YOU. As a man, we instinctively desire to be needed, to have all our skills and knowledge be of benefit to someone else. Our brains are literally designed as solution machines, and we all know what we can do for ourselves. We need to serve others in a meaningful way.
@Mrsgmuller73Ай бұрын
But can't you serve without being needed only for your abilities? I mean, everyone can do the dishes, and if you'd do, it would still be serving. Actually, I think this point of view of basing human relationships on how useful you can be very problematic. Maybe that's why men have a higher chance of leaving their partners when they're ill than the other way around. I myself prefer to be with someone who doesn't need me, but still wants me there, simply bc they love me.
@rofishy229 күн бұрын
@@Mrsgmuller73but then why do women refuse to love?
@Mrsgmuller7329 күн бұрын
@rofishy2 I can't speak for every woman, but I have loved in the past, and I love now. I have loved a man who I didn't need, I just enjoyed his company. I have resented a man I needed and a man I didn't need. I have loved a man I needed. The problem is wanting to reach a perfect formula that will guarantee you love. That's not how it works.
@seanpeavideo28 күн бұрын
@@Mrsgmuller73I believe this is indictive of the huge issue modern male female interaction has. Is men project their view and experience of the world onto women and expect them to be of the male mindset. And women do exactly the same. Instead of ACCEPTING the nature of the being as your counterpoint. Thusly equalizing the relationship. You cannot tell the buyers of your product(which is you) what they should want. They tell u what they are willing to buy. Can you provide it?
@Mrsgmuller7328 күн бұрын
@seanpeavideo I have no problems not telling the buyers what they want to buy. I have a problem with those who think there's only one kind of product to purchase/ they are the only one making the product. The truth is there's hundreds of brands of the product (following the analogy), and there are niches that will buy each one of these brands. And even if you make the "best" product, there are consumers who won't like it. And even if you buy this so-called "best" product, there's always a chance it won't fit you, or you won't like it, or that it will be defective. The author of this post is considering there's only one kind of product to offer and gets confused why ppl aren't buying it. He's failed to see that there are other similar products that satisfy customers' needs as well.
@aliactscАй бұрын
I'm a Christian man, and I can say without a doubt that Rabbi Manis Friedman is purely wise. You can't make this wisdom up -- it can only come at old age. Thank you for freely and calmly sharing your wisdom to us, Rabbi.
@Kel_DelaFeАй бұрын
Facts
@MrBluemanworldАй бұрын
I find infinite more wisdom in Christianity. You must be reading the wrong people.
@JustMe-999aАй бұрын
Someone can tell you, then you can learn the same thing at any age.
@geraldmay9408Ай бұрын
Jews are the Elder Brothers of Christians. They gave us the Torah and Old Testament. We share the same source of Wisdom. -Shalom!
@btf1287Ай бұрын
@@geraldmay9408 get real. Inform yourself how priests are treated in Israel.
@DelaronZarathАй бұрын
I'm not a religious person, but every time I listen to one of your videos, my perspective on the world and relationships completely shifts. So many connections are made, and I learn things I was never taught when I was younger. It's truly a pleasure. Thank you!
@DJV9402212 күн бұрын
God Jesuscrist is not religion its freedom and relationship
@MrMusicboy91Ай бұрын
As men we must both lead and simultaneously protect. Take charge of yourself, your manhood, your family unit, your household and your life! Assert yourself be the man your oats call you to be. We aren’t perfect but we can try to become as close to it as we can through living our roles appropriately. Wear the pants for a woman who rules you will despise you! This rabbi has truly earned his title! What a great teacher
@Owl-yc2yu16 күн бұрын
I keep hearing all these responsibilities that a man must take up and I do agree. Yet, 95% of the relationships and marriages I see do not have any semblance of properness from the man nor woman.
@gonnacry45132 күн бұрын
@@Owl-yc2yuThat is why I say let the system burn to the ground. It has been damaged beyond repair. The only possible option is a huge disaster or calamity which will reset things. We have to stop playing this rigged game where no one wins
@michaelbrown-bs4ivАй бұрын
thank you for your common sense and clarity. my wife and i do not understand how couples enter into marriage and maintain "seperate" lives (bank accounts, friends, and even faiths) expecting the marriage to be happy, fulfilling, and lasting.
@Foxie770Ай бұрын
You don’t. That is living with a roommate, not marriage!
@user-xu9ib9cd6dАй бұрын
Because, although u are married, u may not always be married. There is no guarantee that your partner will love u forever. He may decide to leave. I have heard stories of one spouse taking all the money from the joint account.
@josephdilorenzo5314Ай бұрын
Great teaching!
@TGP109Ай бұрын
@@user-xu9ib9cd6d Yes, and fights over money are one of the biggest reasons for divorce. Sometimes it's better to keep separate accounts.
@terrijamison9154Ай бұрын
Being "unequally yoked" is a terrible thing 😑
@JAYJAY8625Ай бұрын
As a man its important to give to someone who will appreciate....
@machteldpeeters228223 күн бұрын
Nope...you missed the whole idea...you don t give in the expectations to be appreciated
@StopBeingVictimsItsNotGodly6 күн бұрын
This notion turns you into a yes man which women cannot stand!! You need to be respected. Lead with what is needed and not want, if she wants something do not give it if she walks away let her. Women respect men like these. You're giving so she can show you gratitude, if she'd entitled and don't care about you, she will never be grateful
@jackdeniston6150Ай бұрын
Being needed also requires the acknowledgement of carrying that burden. When I carry you, and you dismiss this carrying, I will no longer carry you.
@karamleviАй бұрын
He’s not addressing the hyper feminism and its saturating presence that is taught to men and women in the West. It’s in little girls cartoons, in ever level of schooling, ect ect.
@breakingthemasks22 күн бұрын
Agreed
@smokingcrab229020 күн бұрын
This is how my wife is Bites the hand that feeds
@Discovering_world-jj1yj15 күн бұрын
If someone does not want your gift, there are two options - either you’re giving to a wrong person who simply does not have the same values as you do, either your “gift” is worthless. Easy.
@loumonte658Ай бұрын
Once you're married it's about the government.
@silverback7783Ай бұрын
😅😂
@MynaaStudio29 күн бұрын
😂
@PROBERevealer18 күн бұрын
😁😁😂👍🏽 Sadly true if you let it be
@jillianminton850610 күн бұрын
Yup it’s an artificial program that is falling apart and men can’t handle being alone
@auagstacking41898 күн бұрын
@@jillianminton8506 Women too. Let’s not be disingenuous now
@NutritionistheanswerАй бұрын
I feel maintaining respect is about seeing the best in each other. In difficulty do not assume the worst. I try to see my mates perspective in a positive light and if i cannot do that I think of 5 things I am grateful for that he brings into my life. I must admit I really appreciate how much he really is a man. He is willing to be kind and thoughtful and still plan and take charge. He asks me what I want and is not afraid to offer help. I do make an effort to ask him to do the things that I really want. He likes fixing things and putting things together. I could do it but I like that he would rather do it so I receive it and I let him know that I appreciate his contributions. I thank God every day he is in my life. I feel I make his life better and he makes my life better. Respect is important to him and it is important to me that he can see I respect him. He is truly a blessing.
@balthazar8269Ай бұрын
Keep reminding him of what you’ve put on here
@sajithjames469225 күн бұрын
You're a blessing to him
@epiclifeat408425 күн бұрын
10:00 "what do you want?" Thank you, Rabbi. I see a lot of men, including myself, losing their masculinity chasing women's validation and forgetting their inner voice.
@legendyosemiteАй бұрын
I’m not religious but as I woman I can confirm that this it is such a turn off when a man doesn’t take charge 💯
@jmso8096Ай бұрын
You can confirm that you, personally, are turned off by not "taking charge" but what do you mean by "taking charge"? Do you confuse confidence with arrogance? Do you dislike living with the consequences of your decisions, and so dislike making decisions? I'm genuinely curious.
@karamleviАй бұрын
She’s pretending to know things. If she really knew things she would NEVER complain nor let her girls complain about “controlling” guys. Most modern men are trained to never take control and this lady is that ignorant to never speak up when women shame other men for taking control. The gals want a leader, and don’t want to be a follower. Basic American new style-
@lhughes6656Ай бұрын
@@jmso8096maybe I can help elaborate a bit. Confidence is good, arrogance is annoying and unnecessary. Women are perfectly capable of making all the important decisions in a relationship, but to do so is exhausting for her. It's not about not being able to live with the consequences of a decision, we do that all day everyday without a spouse. The issue is that women were not created to lead a relationship, we were created to help. I once heard someone say "weight is meant for shoulders not for hips" and I agree with this statement. All it means for a man to "take charge" is that he's capable of leading the relationship through making important decisions with strength and isn't afraid to do so. And that comes from a place of confidence in God and in himself. It doesn't mean he arrogantly says "my way or the highway" it means he consults God, consults his wife and has earned her trust in a way that allows him to lead her and make difficult decisions for her and the family when necessary. It also means that he can make ANY decision when necessary, including making plans for their future. But if the man is constantly only trying to please his wife to the point he's so scared of making the wrong move that he shrinks back and lets her decide everything at all times, for a woman that's exhausting for her and shows a lack of self-confidence in the man. If he can't stand up to his woman, he can't stand up FOR his woman and is therefore a pushover and is no longer safe. And pushovers are unattractive, male or female. Everyone appreciates confidence, but no one respects a "yes-man" or someone who cowers every time he has to decide something, agreeing to everything. At that point the woman becomes the head of the man because the man put her there and this defies God's natural order. This is why relationships like this typically end in resentment for the woman and emasculation for the man because he never learned to lead and she never began to follow. The natural order is reversed and this is not a healthy way to conduct a relationship.
@Pain-95Ай бұрын
To avoid accountability a woman must not take charge😂
@kwilder737828 күн бұрын
A woman who is not religious is such as big turn off.. I can confirm stay away from women who doesn't have faith within her heart...
@trevorpotts804417 күн бұрын
Its an honor and a privlage to listen to you, sir!
@toledogoldАй бұрын
Thank you. I was with a man who was like this, happy to be reactive but not proactive or willing to genuinely include me in his life. Awful, sad & complicated. It’s nice for me to watch this and see that my instincts are correct and how I can have more confidence in myself and not step into masculine energy when he doesn’t know what to do. If he doesn’t know what to do, let that be apparent and ok and awkward. I don’t have to fill that vacuum. The willingness to do gives the ability to do.
@natureasitis3082Ай бұрын
Finally! I found sanity Clarity And wisdom.
@jacksmith4438Ай бұрын
Please post part 2 about how to maintain respect after the other person becomes predictable!
@calmchill7583Ай бұрын
Introduce a “Random Act of Respect” day Designate one day a week when you both try to show extra respect for each other. This could include writing a love note, bringing flowers or simply thanking them for everything they do. Remember why you fell in love Cultivate common interests Laugh together remember that predictability is often a sign of stability and security in a relationship. Instead of fighting it, embrace it and be thankful that you have someone who is always there for you, no matter what
@jacksmith4438Ай бұрын
@@calmchill7583 thank you so much for your reply. Such valuable wisdom!
@garyfrancis6193Ай бұрын
I knew you were going to say that.
@ZenPepperClubКүн бұрын
This is where you start to get kinky and add some sex toys
@Kelley369Ай бұрын
For years I kept telling my partner look, I don’t need you, I want you. I’m here by choice. I thought that was more powerful. It might have been for a giver, but if a man is a reciever it will not be reciprocated well. Now I understand I was needing him to step up and be a man, to which he choose being a child. I did need a man but not the material things he provided.
@kresovk5Ай бұрын
What was it that then that you needed? Material goods were and, to a certain point, still are the most basic need.
@zeehuss7275Ай бұрын
@@kresovk5correct
@Kelley369Ай бұрын
@@kresovk5 materials mean nothing, I could have loved him In a tent if it meant I would have received the love I desired. Love respect and kindness. Those are needs. God provides the rest.
@kresovk5Ай бұрын
@K.L.Kelley Yeah, everyone loves to express themselves in extremes they would never stoop down to in actuality. Besides, even for the general answer, "receiving love I needed" is still incredibly vague, as that is the end goal, not the method.
@Kelley369Ай бұрын
@@kresovk5 okay so to simplify or in your case expand: attunement, affection, gratitude, respect, honor, faithfulness. That is what I required. Basic human needs consist of significance, love and connection, certainty, growth, contribution and uncertainty. You can determine your own needs by self reflection and examination. Those are needs. Materialism isn’t a need. And God provides those things. You aren’t in control of anything.
@ExpectantHarvestАй бұрын
🤗It's just I was raised by a very angry woman. I then went out into the world as a giver - raising these two kids by myself, etc. This is not who was Created to be. 🥰Now, I am 50 years old, the kids grown now, and I am learning day by day to be softer and to RECEIVE and this is who I am. It all began with RECEIVING the love of the Father - we love Him b/c He first loved us. 😇I was not able to RECEIVE at all before - not even the love of my own children - so if anyone wanted to GIVE to me - I would reject it and stay alone - I am glad to understand now - may more and more Revelation Knowledge come to me as I am able to RECEIVE more EACH day - even though I am under the blessing of Abraham, I could not walk in my own inheritance b/c I did not know it and I could not RECEIVE God's many blessings each day. 🙏🙏
@anisjtАй бұрын
Thank you for this❤️ blessings unto you!
@ivanarredondo8481Ай бұрын
that's a lot of work you did, God bless you!!
@MythoughtonpoliticaltopicsАй бұрын
I love this rabbi. He speaks sound doctrine. ❤❤❤❤❤
@projectaletheia8707Ай бұрын
This man gets it. Wise words.
@tensevoАй бұрын
mans job is to give generously, woman job is to receive gratefully, end of story
@matthewhunter6421Ай бұрын
Wow, just like that you've summer up all about men and women Ina simplistic statement, which is the end of the story lol. How dumb
@Pain-95Ай бұрын
🤣
@demarcus466429 күн бұрын
This sounds like a comment from a woman
@Blueblackngold29 күн бұрын
100% nonsense
@edgarmendoza220426 күн бұрын
Man's role is to provide necessities as a normal habit. You need something, you get it.
@OxenteGente17 күн бұрын
" if you have a life that she approves of and likes than she joins you in your life" 👏👏🙌
@SimonBoafo25 күн бұрын
That is what an equality mindset brings along. You will be tempted to ask her for what she wants all the time and that will bring about contempt for you at the end. That's what thinking we are equal does to us.
@user-uz8rr7fi1wАй бұрын
Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪 Thank you RabbiFriedman
@lervish1966Ай бұрын
Clover hat
@mestawetendaylalu2977Ай бұрын
God gave us the rule of marriage we can follow as a woman (wife) & as a man (Husband) responsibilities of marriage life, in a way that doesn't hurt both parties when they live together. The secret of marriages is very huge. We need to understand about marriage responsibilities before marriage. Otherwise, it will be fragile after honeymoon.
@mirabelleerdbeer1127Ай бұрын
😊 endlich ein Mann, der es versteht. 😊danke!
@AyaEgbuhoАй бұрын
Wow. This was deep. You had me at the first sentence. ❤ Thank you for sharing.
@KARRIEMABDUL7 күн бұрын
This video brings home the point that we must raise our boys extremely well, in wisdom and strength, so they can create healthy relationships and healthy homes. ❤
@Bucephalus842 күн бұрын
80 percent of divorces initiated by women. Stop taking fathers away from their boys. It happened to me with my father. I never knew how to be a man. Hard start to say the least.
@AshleyVailuuАй бұрын
The vocabulary on the bottom left is a nice touch!
@markaurelius61Ай бұрын
Ah, thanks for mentioning that. I missed the last one tznius for modesty
@akai.christoАй бұрын
Thank you Rabbi Friedman!!💪🔯🙏❤☀🎶
@user-op7uc6jb9kАй бұрын
This is absolutely true. I have seen so many men I know either in miserable marriages or divorced due to a "strong woman" that doesn't feel like she needs anyone
@LisaCultonАй бұрын
The men need to be stronger and stop being takers/ receivers.
@Golf2foto22 күн бұрын
Most likely the man was weak and the woman couldn’t settle into her divine feminine role.
@smokingcrab229020 күн бұрын
@LisaCulton, vvomen don't give anything
@LisaCulton20 күн бұрын
@@smokingcrab2290 They're not supposed to give. Women are made to receive.
@carloscabrera191219 күн бұрын
@@LisaCultonThat's a very simplistic way of putting it, very convenient for the selfish ones. And yet, Women GIVE birth. It is the Supreme give, but most women in the West have decided that they are not willing to do that. It is then when they turn into takers.
@TheSeth25625 күн бұрын
This makes perfect sense, and it's a tragedy that the modern civilisation tries to teach the exact opposite approach, resulting in chaos and broken homes.
@poface2Ай бұрын
Big dose of hard cold facts here. Absolutely true. I WISH i understood this earlier in my life, so any young bloods in the comments, please heed this man's words. Great video.
@Issie995Ай бұрын
As a woman he is saying the truth 💯
@themoneyman175211 күн бұрын
You know Andrew Tate says the same thing but when he says it he’s the Devil 🤷🏾♂️
@CaptainSurfy5 күн бұрын
@@themoneyman1752exactly!!
@heymanhaha25 күн бұрын
This is the best pick up advice ive ever heard
@annaburns286521 күн бұрын
You should only marry someone who needs you. And who you need. We all need to be needed.
@smoothvelvetsinger16 күн бұрын
I often look to Rabbi Friedman for wisdom
@hx148728 күн бұрын
He is absolutely right. It is very frustrating to be with a man who is insecure
@Tiranga194720 күн бұрын
Insecurities arise from infidelity 😊
@smokingcrab229020 күн бұрын
You can call aan insecure if you're doing everything you can to sabotage his authority and beat him down.
@RickRijuanaPro12 күн бұрын
@@Tiranga1947 Or feeling inadequate
@lucasrodrigues97663 күн бұрын
If you find the man insecure, don't get married to them.
@joantaylor468Ай бұрын
Father Abraham & Sarah had separate tents! This helps to maintain unpredictability. Today we'd say they each had their space & she still was a mystery to him therefore the romance was always there.
@YellowToucanАй бұрын
I'd change the word 'unpredictability' to 'desire'. I'm sure Sarah never left her tent without first being presentable to the world, meaning, Abraham rarely saw Sarah in those 'human moments', e.g. not at her best, before/after bodily functions, etc. etc. Familiarity breeds contempt is so true.
@Meadowflames8 күн бұрын
But Abraham took her everywhere … to Egypt , any journey he took- he did not leave her behind and go do “his own thing”. He made sure she felt included, loved, and appreciated.
@sajithjames469225 күн бұрын
She doesnt need me, and this really has led to a lot of pain.
@MasterPlumberUtah5 күн бұрын
I just told my wife a similar metaphor like what your explanation is and I love it because I found this video right after
@Qwr34529 күн бұрын
“Understand and be comfortable with the idea that life is not about you” 💯
@szszszsz95395Ай бұрын
This is a good talk about what men need to be. Can you please do a talk about what women need to be?
@sweetyjones1756Ай бұрын
Amen to that
@zeehuss7275Ай бұрын
Why would he be saying about what women need to be, lol, you people are rediculous. he better say about men coz he's a man and he's wise. I've seen manny religious men talking about how women should be and they always recieve a backlash
@vasudevsarvam6912Ай бұрын
@@zeehuss7275 Yeah narcissist group is always right and can't do no mistakes.
@breakingthemasks22 күн бұрын
I would watch that for sure
@reneekatz15 күн бұрын
Ignore these mama's basement dwellers, I want to see this video as well.
@squaretriangle9208Ай бұрын
The story about the couple that came to marriage counseling made me😂😂😂😂😂 and it is so common today
@shodapad07Ай бұрын
She joins you in your life. Amen ❤
@jakinchang37819 күн бұрын
This is real wisdom. Thank you Rabbi
@Trysaratop9 күн бұрын
As a woman listening to all my friends the majority of our problems in the relationship is men just want sex never intimacy like cuddling and hand holding and men expect you to clean everything, cook everything, do all care of animals or children and still want you to provide some income. When you start feeling overwhelmed and treated like a maid you just figure out it’s better to be alone. Even if you provide major income in household you need to help with chores at home. You would have to without your partner there and still would be working. It’s ok to help with one load of dishes and take the trash out.
@MeandmySara9 күн бұрын
I'm a woman in my twenties and... yes, 100% this is how my friends and I also experience men. And when you bring it up with men, they all say 'well you just pick bad ones,' but then when you decide 'ok, I will only be with a man who treats me well,' you're told your standards are too high / you don't deserve that / men like that don't exist... So what is the point? Feels pretty hopeless at this point. What even is the point of a man? If you are an educated woman with friends and a meaningful, decently paid work and a rich inner life... what is the point, can someone tell me?
@stefaniepjateneАй бұрын
This is clarifying and true in so many ways
@Hacene-rq1ub2 күн бұрын
thanks for your statments. you touches the major point of modern world crisis
@sobeautifulsrilanka26 күн бұрын
Major problem with this theory is that once she doesn’t need you, she’s going to discard you.
@FarTooPrecious24 күн бұрын
Not necessarily true. Anyone can potentially discard anyone for any other reason. If she has an ounce of a heart she will remember the man who loved her and was there for her when she had those needs. If she has an once of wisdom she will recognise that he helped to get her to where she is. If she is a selfish fool she will discard him when she has her needs met.
@jeffreyscottking24 күн бұрын
facts. dont be too rich either, shell be gone tomorrow.
@losfromla14804 күн бұрын
@@FarTooPreciousthat's not how women think. For them it's: "what have you done for me lately?". With lately being today. Women don't generally exhibit reciprocity, certainly they don't accumulate it over time.
@jennajewertАй бұрын
Lots of wisdom here 🙌
@scolin4009Ай бұрын
Thank you Rabbi for your teaching. Best advice a man can get. Thanks
@tinacherry22952 күн бұрын
Its not that she needs to follow, she needs someone who has their own thoughts and opinions. And stands on them. She doesn't need someone to "follow". Men and women can have and be equal. Its called being partners. Its respecting each others thoughts and opinions, honestly listening to each other, coming to conclusions by hearing each other. And figuring out what works best for them.
@JeanMarcelino-qr9juАй бұрын
Center of The topic is all about marriage ❤❤❤❤ Rabbi Manis Friedman ❤❤❤❤
@VenusFire31426 күн бұрын
If women and men would respect what each other brings to the relationship then things would be great but if one contribution is used as a manipulative tool to blackmail the other,it will always end disastrous.
@guarionex4672Ай бұрын
Very powerful solid and to the point marriage advice Rabbi! Loved this!
@garyfrancis6193Ай бұрын
Marriage is vitally important to the divorce courts.
@silverback7783Ай бұрын
😂😅
@grounded73627 күн бұрын
I have always found great joy and pleasure in giving and people took advantage of me and used me for kindness until there was nothing more to get.
@successartistry3023Ай бұрын
Rabbi is dropping some Red Pill truths
@markrcca5329Ай бұрын
isn't it better for husband and and wife to both give and receive? The husband provides some things to the wife that she values, and wife provides other things to the husband that he values. Then each have pleasure in both giving and receiving. Perhaps it wasn't the rabbis intention, but it sounded a bit like he was describing a purely one-way street kind of marriage - the husband only gives but receives nothing, while the wife only receives and gives nothing in return. Why would a man want a wife like that? Perhaps the rabbi was using a hyperbola to make a point..
@annee5582Ай бұрын
You have to be in a relationship for a very long time in order to understand what he’s talking about. When he says a man is a man and a woman is a woman, he’s not talking about status or equality. Example, if man were to act like the woman in the relationship, (ultimate receiver) that brings an imbalance. That being said, if you are the man acting like the woman (receiver) and you enjoyed or preferred it then your supposed to be the woman🤔. it’s too complicated when you’re trying to play both, it’s seen in society today as praiseworthy, but it is an imbalance when talking about a marriage that is between a man and a woman. He says it all, in a marriage. It’s not about you anymore.
@markrcca5329Ай бұрын
@@annee5582 I don't get it. What's an ultimate receiver? Someone who doesn't do anything in a marriage? I'm pretty sure most women contribute a great deal when they're wives. The ones who do absolutely nothing at all are known as trophy wives or gold-diggers, but even then, they provide a certain companionship to the man.
@alwayspete6 күн бұрын
Thank you Rabbi for your wisdom! 🙏🏼♥️
@AllthequeenzhorsesАй бұрын
Most men run from women who are in need of anything….
@user-jn6jm4bb6fАй бұрын
They run from a woman who is needy, not a woman who needs
@NightinGal89Ай бұрын
There's no difference
@ms.d5195Ай бұрын
@@NightinGal89 Yes there is. The difference is this: if a man doesn't do for me something I can't already do for myself he's not a man I can respect or desire. It might be he grows and catches food. It might be he knows how to maintain a house physically. It might be he knows how to manage and invest money so it grows. It doesn't matter what it is. It matters that he adds something to our lives.
@user-jn6jm4bb6fАй бұрын
@@NightinGal89 There is a HUGE difference between a person in need and a person who is needy, the difference is the "OTHERS" or in other words: "what will others say". For a person who needs something, the "what will others say" do not exist. A person who has a need to fulfill, will ask for help from those related to him, in order to fulfill the need. Once the need is fulfilled, he stops and can now help others. if there is a need to fill, it is filled according to the ability, the amount needed and according to the manner, a lion eats meat, an elephant eats grass and also an ant. On the other hand, a needy person uses need, to impress. And in order to impress, everyone related to is used as a means to achieve the goal. An unattainable goal, because it is in an inner layer, therefore this need will never be fulfilled and as a result, the person will never stop use people as a means and never be able to help others who are not directly related to the goal of impressing the "others".
@CareBlair222Ай бұрын
@NightinGal89 we all need something. We are human. But that need shouldn't dictate our behavior as being needy. Being needy is a symptoms of unresolved trauma. Needing things is a basic human desire.
@DrRussell21 күн бұрын
*Priceless* wisdom. Perfect antidote to post-modernism.
@shodapad07Ай бұрын
Modesty brings Respect. Thank youvsir.
@annabelle1471Ай бұрын
you make good points to think on but I wonder about a woman with everything(job, house etc)- what’s your opinion about what she would need from a man? bc in my opinion it’s companionship so I think it fits your point, just differently
@stephanie7572Ай бұрын
Emotional support: "How was your day?"
@margarettabone9713Ай бұрын
Just because you have one house does not mean you don’t need a second one that you share with your husband 🙌🏼 You just make money out of yours by renting it out, quit your job and dedicate your time to stay healthy and sane for your family, be the best wife and mother you can be, with no job stress 🎉😊
@VlogVibesАй бұрын
Good Lord. This is absolute gold.
@lauranell2978Ай бұрын
It is beyond logic and nature , but also explains the theory !
@OxenteGente17 күн бұрын
There is so much knowledge in the Hebrew Culture
@netking76723 күн бұрын
That's a helluva lot of wisdom man... thanks!
@mariamadero42519 күн бұрын
This what he speaks is true, agreed.
@aminaahmet102522 күн бұрын
Awsome! 🎉 Allahumma barik 🤲🏻. May Allah guide you. ❤
@saraeisenbach846621 күн бұрын
I broke off an engagement 21 yrs ago because he was very controlling and jealous. Ended up giving up on dating then I met this interesting man who was not for me but was really charming. Got married really fast because it was an arranged marriage. He abused me physically and mentally for years. I had no idea he was bipolar until a few yrs ago. I'm so miserable in this relationship of constant love you hate you relationship 💔. I stay in this marriage for the kids. I think I'm stupid for hurting myself.
@moikressly4 күн бұрын
Maybe the controlling and jealous guy was better and u should have worked things out with him.
@lucasrodrigues97663 күн бұрын
This is why it's important to not skip steps in the relationship. Getting married fast is a mistake.
@mikahakk1Ай бұрын
Receiving and giving are the flip side of the same coin. To say a man only gives, misses the point completely.
@Golf2foto22 күн бұрын
What I wanted to comment. I noticed how I cook just to make hime happy and as a thank you. I truly appreciate his leadership.
@batlu9729 күн бұрын
So hard to be the husband when they want to be it in your place, women do not respect the man having the final word about daily matters anymore, even if you're reasonable and you know what you're doing, i see that in every relationship nowadays even at my parents relationship. They won't shut the hell up and that's so frustranting because you don't want to be the toxic manipulative guy, but they paint you as so to other people. Sometimes this behavior from women makes men want to break their will, so they'll just shut up for one time sake and start listening to you.
@breakingthemasks22 күн бұрын
Well said
@smokingcrab229020 күн бұрын
I've been blamed for everything my wife has done. I've been nothing but a good guy. She blames me for the problems she creates and I have been brainwashed by counselors that the problem is entirely me and she has no moral agency of her own. Vvomen are the problem..
@batlu9720 күн бұрын
@@smokingcrab2290 i think a lot of what we're living today has to do with the feminist movement, i don't see they demanding equal rights anymore, because they don't want no duties. It's really no wonder why some women are complaining guys don't hit them anymore, we don't want no trouble anymore, we don't want trouble at gym, no trouble at work, going your own way is a lot more reasonable to me nowadays, it's a lonely path, but it won't cause anymore unnecessary damage to my feelings, to my wallet and so on.
@bov.284312 күн бұрын
this was the smartest condensed 15min I heard in quite awhile 😮
@kieshame88827 күн бұрын
Interesting! I've always been in a position to take care of myself, bc of that, guys I dated did the bare minimum. My vulnerability was taken for a joke! I can't engage with anyone too long who does not allow me to be the woman God created me to be. I'm a nurturer, a mother, and an awesome supporter. That does not mean I don't NEED him. Men tend to get intimated easily.
@rebeccacastillo4789Ай бұрын
Thank you Rabbi Friedman ❤
@NIF18Ай бұрын
00:56 looks like the "coming up" banner is running on Internet Explorer 😂
@martinelias360626 күн бұрын
Interesting idea, no one have ever mentioned this, no one! No one I ever came across at least online. By this standard it is basically like newton's laws of motion lol, it is so true and powerful formula to see how manly a man is and how feminine the women is. That explains why male teachers vs female teachers are very different in how they feel rewarded female teachers prefer their students to love them over educating them while male teachere are more likely to feel more rewarded once they see thier students achieve in life even if it means not having a close relationship. I heard something similar from a Christian educator in the past.
@juicearibeАй бұрын
This is very wholesome and refreshing.
@amakurominalabh880327 күн бұрын
Thank you for these precious words of wisdom
@mariebarrett7177Ай бұрын
All women need men. we're just made to think these days that we can do it all.. it spoils it for real women because men then think that all women think like that. Allow the women to be a women and the man be a man.. it's natural for us to need each other it should go without saying but people just won't let it be..
@ninan9772Ай бұрын
No, not true for me. I do not need a man any longer. In my marriage I was r*ped from the beginning, mutilated, hurt, abused, burnt, my body is covered with scars, my soul broken - and I did everything, I never complained, never said no, until he started hurting the kids as well. AND I was the breadwinner, he came with nothing and left with nothing. For what do I need a man? Se*ually? No desire, thanks, I have suffered enough. Financially? I have enough to afford a single home, a horse, a car, couple of dogs and pay the bills. Protection? I have large bulldogs and I am able to call 911. Biologically? I have kids, healthy, smart. So tell me for what I need a man?
@zuhairrezaАй бұрын
And do you say this same thing to women in real life too? By the way, I agree women need men and men need women (it doesn’t matter what I put first - both need each other in life).
@susanlett9632Ай бұрын
Men and women need one another. And I disagree that everyone should get married. That's a recipe for domestic violence, child abuse and neglect and worse. Most people wouldn't push marriage and Parenthood on the young people not everybody wants that.
@pld-wc7gfАй бұрын
A woman can hire men to do anything she can't do. No woman needs to have a personal relationship with a man to live a good life. My father was dependent on ME in the final years of his life. A man who can't take care of himself is burdensome and that is typically how all men end up--dependent on women.
@TheJavsolo69Ай бұрын
@@pld-wc7gf We'll the same could be said about women. Think about it there are so many lonely successful ladies out there. A carrier will never replace intimacy and companionship. What about all those women who have no one to care for them in the end. Especially if they never had kids because they were deceived into believing it's not as important as having a carrier and multiple romantic partners. And there's no guarantee that any one from their work would even go to their funeral, truly heartbreaking. Life is both simple and difficult. It's simple because God already told us how we should live, but it's difficult for us to obey.
@Groovydayy15 күн бұрын
I needed this to start my morning
@ELXABERАй бұрын
Men and women almost speak different languages. You never do anything equates to you never taking initiative, or when women complain about something, men assume they want whatever broken fixed when in fact they just want to vent and be heard.
@ms.d5195Ай бұрын
I can't disagree.
@ELXABERАй бұрын
@@ms.d5195 It's not a dig, just a fact. Men and women think very differently, one is more logical and uses more technically descriptive words, while the other more emotional and uses an emotional expression instead of a technical breakdown. If you recognize it, whichever you are when dealing with the opposite, it helps with communication. I never understood women don't want something fixed when they complained till years after my wife and I were married. She got tired of it, knew how logical/technical I was, and simply explained it since "You're not listening" didn't equate to me, I think I replied "I am listening, this is how you fix ...." - problem solved, I quit doing it. 🤷♂
@smokingcrab229020 күн бұрын
Not true. Vvomen don't know what they ant and they literally make up reasons to be resentful because they're miserable with themselves
@jonah_hosea23 күн бұрын
My wife is leaving me. She was disrespectful from the start. Abusive. I returned abuse for abuse. Now we are getting divorced.
@samidaliphoto20 күн бұрын
Happy freedom
@Discovering_world-jj1yj15 күн бұрын
Time to quit the victim mindset.
@misssterling309415 күн бұрын
You should have returned it with LOVE and you would have had a different outcome.
@anonymous.24712 күн бұрын
@@misssterling3094 That only happens in movies This is real life People don't change
@jorgeanibal88349 күн бұрын
Thank you good sir, you’ve brought me good understanding
@TaraMiller-vb4um6 күн бұрын
This couldn't be more accurate!
@DrTHasanJohnson5 күн бұрын
I like what he’s saying but I wished he’d explain more. For example, when he critiques the request for a “peaceful home” by suggesting one doesn’t have structure in the home. A few examples of what he deems to be structure would’ve been edifying at that moment.
@FarTooPrecious24 күн бұрын
He is speaking facts!!! ❤
@jossefjossikajit4169Ай бұрын
Golden words Absolutely as always enjoy His Teaching ❤
@AshleyVailuuАй бұрын
תודה רבי
@lynncarter496419 күн бұрын
Young women today don't want to need a man, and even if they don't need him, they need to give the impression that they do, WITHOUT BEING NEEDY IN THE WRONG WAY. John Gray is my favourite author on what men need from women and what women need from men. My own rendition of what is healthiest for a marriage is for women to LET MEN DO THINGS FOR THEM. Even if you don't need the thing he's offering, SAY YES, and say thank you, I really appreciate this, it helps me a lot. Men get depressed if they are not of service to a woman often. Often. If he has stopped offering things to you, then start asking for things with a happy attitude, and when he finally does the thing, APPRECIATE HIM. He will then want to do more for you. Never nag. Just keep asking with absolutely no negativity at all.
@WisdomIsPreciousАй бұрын
This doesn’t happen often that I agree with religious teachings but I agree with this guy