Marriage during PhD - Not EASY (UNCUT) | Low Salary | Lack of Job Stability | Societal Perspective

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Kishalay Das KD

Kishalay Das KD

6 ай бұрын

Marriage during PhD - Not EASY | Low Salary | Lack of Job Stability | Societal Perspective | UNCUT
🎓❤️ Finding Your Soulmate During a PhD: Unveiling the Challenges
Hey everyone! 👋 Recently, I embarked on a new chapter in life by tying the knot, and it's prompted me to shine a light on a prevalent societal issue. Today, I want to delve into the often underestimated challenges faced by #phd #students in the quest for their perfect match.
💍 The Struggle is Real: Join me as I open up about the harsh realities I've encountered over the past few years. From navigating the complexities of low salaries to grappling with job insecurity during a Ph.D., the journey has been far from easy. Sadly, the societal perception of the value of a Ph.D. in our country adds an extra layer of complexity to the mix.
🤔 Judgment and Misunderstanding: How are #phd #students judged in the pursuit of love? It's a question many of us face, and I'm here to share my personal experiences and insights. Let's address the misconceptions and shed light on the unique challenges that come with seeking a life partner during this academic journey.
🔍 What to Expect in This Video:
Personal Stories: Candidly sharing my own experiences, highs, and lows.
Financial Realities: The impact of a modest income and job uncertainty on relationship dynamics.
#societalissues Perspectives: Breaking down the stereotypes and discussing the undervaluation of Ph.D. pursuits.
🌟 Let's Start a Conversation: Share your thoughts, experiences, or advice in the comments below. Together, we can build a supportive community for those navigating the intersection of love and academia.
👍 If you resonate with this video, show some love by hitting the like button, subscribing, and ringing the notification bell. Stay tuned for more real talk about the challenges and triumphs of life during a Ph.D.
#phdlife #phdinindia #marraigeduringphd #marraigeadvice #LoveAndAcademia #relationshipsinphd #RealTalk #phd #societalissues

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@romidey2991
@romidey2991 6 ай бұрын
It's a serious social issue regarding marriage and takes a lot of guts to say all things publicly. Thanks a lot for sharing this. Wish you a great married life. Need more videos like this.
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thank you. There many such issues. Will make videos on this for sure
@abirmaity1272
@abirmaity1272 6 ай бұрын
Ami vebe chilam phd korle meyeder line pore jai.... But reality is light years apart from my perception
@elonmusk4267
@elonmusk4267 6 ай бұрын
You are so fucking awesome. People are really unaware what they have missed. And also Congratulations KD.
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thank you 💕
@sardarji162
@sardarji162 6 ай бұрын
They don't know your value.IIT KHARAGPUR , IISC BANGALORE , ISRO AND FOREIGN RESEARCH TOUR aur kya chahiye bhai sahab
@iamJro98
@iamJro98 3 ай бұрын
Sad part of this video is that it deserves more audiance ❤ 😢
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 3 ай бұрын
Please do share as much as possible
@sumit5016
@sumit5016 6 ай бұрын
10:30 - 10:40 show this guys maturity Congratulations on your marriage! bro It's nice to hear your story
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thanks
@abbishekr5507
@abbishekr5507 6 ай бұрын
Congrats on finding your life partner and getting married bro.
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@sardarji162
@sardarji162 6 ай бұрын
Marriages are like business these days.In india ,if you clear upsc or earning lakhs package then marriage is confirm. that's why engineers after btech go for mba instead of mtech and phd so that they can earn in lakhs in private sector instead of doing research.research is the important part of science and its application but in india knowledge is of no value only money money.god knows when people will understand.
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
True..fully agreed
@tauhait
@tauhait 6 ай бұрын
Inspring journey ❤ as always. Hats off!!🙏
@vagishavartika6909
@vagishavartika6909 5 ай бұрын
This is really true, well said and abdolutely correct
@sardarji162
@sardarji162 6 ай бұрын
Dada is giving motivation 😂😂😂
@chakrabartisayantan4013
@chakrabartisayantan4013 6 ай бұрын
It takes a lot of guts to tell the truth dada..many many congratulation for new life....and hats off to boudi ,she is a smart medico that's why she understood your true potential .
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thanks bhai
@sardarji162
@sardarji162 6 ай бұрын
6:06 that family will regret later 😅😅😅
@SUDARSAN_DAS
@SUDARSAN_DAS 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations on your marriage, Sir!
@Geo_Mind
@Geo_Mind Ай бұрын
What I recommend is now total fellowship is 44-52k for 5 years, including HRA , if your research is good you will definitely get a post doc or RA , also the fellowship is tax free...i feel PhD scholars can also run a side buisness so it will increase their salary by atleast 10-15 k pm , I am doing the same.
@JULIAN............
@JULIAN............ 5 ай бұрын
Hi , I also joined in 2023 in IISc Bangalore integrated PhD physics. Sometimes I feel I will be out of track of the regular marriage age(28-30, I think) currently my age is 21 , by the end of the phd I will on 27-28 .. then post doct 31-32.. it's something really frustrating for phd Student who thinks like me that everything has a proper age.... be it marriage or anything else. By the way best wishes for your married life.
@rahultandon8125
@rahultandon8125 27 күн бұрын
Good one 😊
@palashmoon3808
@palashmoon3808 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations KD!! Your videos always motivate me
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Awesome! Thank you!
@csestudent1989
@csestudent1989 6 ай бұрын
Kudos to u for your dedication to choose this path. It takes lot of strength to stick to your choices. And it takes more strength to be so open about your personal life and discuss this social issue. Hope many people gets inspiration from your contents. Lots of love bhai. ❤
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thank you Avijit ❤️❤️
@subhrajitmajumder4000
@subhrajitmajumder4000 5 ай бұрын
This is very insightful and highly needed there are very few videos regarding this. Please make more such videos.
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 5 ай бұрын
Thanks. Surely will talk about other social issues like this. Stay tuned and share with others.
@paanaam
@paanaam 5 ай бұрын
I am a bit late... but better late than never... My heart felt blessings to you and bahu... Live long with all the happiness and healthy in life. Took ryt decision. God bless you and bahu
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 5 ай бұрын
Thanks a lot Sir. It means a lot!!
@kushaldebnath1787
@kushaldebnath1787 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations dada 😊❤️
@prabirpaul1258
@prabirpaul1258 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations dada and wish you a very good married life.. Reception er treat ta baki roilo.
@sardarji162
@sardarji162 6 ай бұрын
11:34 she is a doctor.Research weds medical
@anb3036
@anb3036 5 ай бұрын
Congratulations 👏🏻
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 5 ай бұрын
Thank you !!
@gopikrishnanm5310
@gopikrishnanm5310 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations brother. Wishing you a happy married life 💐
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Many many thanks
@pankajkumarbarman765
@pankajkumarbarman765 6 ай бұрын
Dada , you have special respect in my eyes ❤.I am very happy for you.
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Many many thanks
@Ajay.Interview
@Ajay.Interview 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations KD🎉🎉🎉🎉
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thanks
@sapnilpatel1645
@sapnilpatel1645 6 ай бұрын
Congregations dada. And nice video.
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Many many 👍
@Lalala_1701
@Lalala_1701 6 ай бұрын
Soo brave dada for sharing personal life experience just amazing 👏
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thanks a ton
@abhilashkumar1009
@abhilashkumar1009 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations bhaiya...Hope for the happiest marriage life🎉🎉
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thanks 👍
@SHUBHAMSINGH-gh6ln
@SHUBHAMSINGH-gh6ln 6 ай бұрын
You are a 💎 gem sir
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 5 ай бұрын
Thank you !!
@pradeeps8504
@pradeeps8504 6 ай бұрын
Dear Brother, Your videos are always informative 👌. Respect from Tamilnadu 👍
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much ❤️💕
@pyazkachori123
@pyazkachori123 6 ай бұрын
Its nice of you to talk about these social issues dada. Always had these questions in mind even though I have no plans of getting married soon😂. Couldnt ask my seniors about this because it might ge awkward. You have answered very important questions. Once again, happy married life dada
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
I would love talk about other issues as well. Life of a phd guy is not easy. There are always an other side, which is tough to deal with. Will talk about many such issues in future may be.
@pyazkachori123
@pyazkachori123 6 ай бұрын
@@kishalaydas would be happy to hear from you dada!
@SOUMENMAJEE123
@SOUMENMAJEE123 6 ай бұрын
it's better not to get married, why to take tension in life.. When u said Dada about those matrimonial sites it felt like hiring a job accept or reject.. Love urself, earn for urself live peace n happy according to me.
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Yes matrimony sites are like that. Best is find someone do love marriage. But it's too getting difficult to find someone who will support you in your struggle day
@Deb_deCoder
@Deb_deCoder 6 ай бұрын
Matrimony sites are not like that.. gals are like that.. they just want guy's mony, it's hypergamy.. that's why matrimonial sites look like that.. it's right decision for men to earn mony and choose not to mrry.. there's nothing in mrrg for men.. plus there are chances of divorce and getting looted at court.. today a man can get everything without getting mrrd if he has mony.. no need to waste your MEAT, mony, energy, attention, time
@Cristiano-rb4it
@Cristiano-rb4it 22 күн бұрын
​@@kishalaydas Himalayan Monk ❤
@subhamoy7
@subhamoy7 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations dada🎉
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much 💕💖
@Anuparna_Gangopadhyay
@Anuparna_Gangopadhyay 6 ай бұрын
Heartiest congratulations to you dada...😊
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much ❤️💕
@kamalgupta5954
@kamalgupta5954 6 ай бұрын
Congrats dada
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thanks
@DrUttirna
@DrUttirna 6 ай бұрын
❣️❣️🥰🥰
@aswinsrikanth408
@aswinsrikanth408 6 ай бұрын
happy Married Life anna 💐💐
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thanks
@anjanadas4893
@anjanadas4893 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations 💐💐🧁🧁
@KaranS542
@KaranS542 Ай бұрын
They don't know ur value. U r an IISc grad in CSE, u can easily earn 20lpa in a pvt company, plus a PhD from IIT kgp, which further increases ur value and u can go upto 50 lpa and beyond if u really focussed on earning money, u just chose ur own path and followed ur passion instead of money Respect++
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas Ай бұрын
Thanks, unfortunately very less understands this in our society now a days
@Dhiramanidas
@Dhiramanidas 5 ай бұрын
I am actually facing same issues about marriage.....n i am a girl. Here, in assam, guy s reject aftr knowing that i m doing phd n not in a permanent job 😅😅 very stressed life
@sardarji162
@sardarji162 4 ай бұрын
You are beautiful so you can easily get married but for guys the situation is worst if their salary is low and don't have a permanent and satisfying job
@Dhiramanidas
@Dhiramanidas 4 ай бұрын
@@sardarji162 no no no.... Nobody took it as that... It's always about money 💰 I have by now met worst guys for this matter... They need money n my job.. 😔
@kruparajanita1425
@kruparajanita1425 2 ай бұрын
As a woman, doing phd and this relocation issues are much more dude...! I am highly being discouraged to change or give up my dreams temporarily
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 2 ай бұрын
Don't give up your dream
@kruparajanita1425
@kruparajanita1425 2 ай бұрын
Sure, sir. But women are much more supportive to men in general... This is still India and ppl put family and stability first than dream. Risk is only valid if taken in business and earning money. I think I am yet to see positive stories and create one
@saddamkazmi
@saddamkazmi 6 ай бұрын
🎉
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
U made my marriage special bro. Thanks a lot!!
@aaravkumar9918
@aaravkumar9918 2 ай бұрын
Unemployed woman for sarkari Naukri guy to doctor, this shift 😂 hardworking ppl can respect for values 5 years of mbbs, 3 year ms, residency specialization then doctor. B tech m tech phd definitely bhaiyaa ✌️ by the way I'm looking for iiser/iisc or isi or CMI for this year as for UG
@gate_dose
@gate_dose 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations Bhaiya for your Marriage !!
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thanks
@haldersubrata
@haldersubrata 2 ай бұрын
Congratulations
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 2 ай бұрын
Thanks
@pganesh8318
@pganesh8318 6 ай бұрын
An eye opening and a life changing video for all aspirants who are willing to go for phd Thanks dada for always being honest and guiding aspirants. And congratulations on your marriage bhaiya wish you and bhabhi a happy married life ❤🎉
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thanks 💕😄
@pganesh8318
@pganesh8318 6 ай бұрын
@@kishalaydasShe is definitely lucky to get a person like you bhaiya 🤗❤️
@Srajit978
@Srajit978 4 ай бұрын
Marriage is nowadays just a transaction.
@sriyansh3237
@sriyansh3237 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations Bhaiya💐💐.Wish you a happy married life.
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much 😀
@pratikbhaumik2748
@pratikbhaumik2748 5 ай бұрын
Do startup enjoy life
@shriharshbankapur9666
@shriharshbankapur9666 2 ай бұрын
bhaiyya you are a doctor as well. xDD Chasing gold sometimes leads you to diamonds.
@agnimitram340
@agnimitram340 6 ай бұрын
Are you working from home? Or does kgp give a special room to researchers?
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
I am from Kgp. So in weekend I stay at home. In weekdays I used to be in campus in my hostel room
@Aryan-st7ze
@Aryan-st7ze 6 ай бұрын
can we do freelancing or job along with phd ?
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Yes possible.
@sayanchakraborty5508
@sayanchakraborty5508 6 ай бұрын
Baba Amar ki biye hobe na Ei gaan ta sunte takhn?😂😂
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Ha ha ha
@Chiku2024love
@Chiku2024love 5 ай бұрын
What is the age difference between u too
@subarnaray4096
@subarnaray4096 6 ай бұрын
Did you get married due to family pressure that you are getting old ?
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Frankly this pressure will be there...not only from family but from the surroundings. I am listening to this since 2016/17. But my family is very supportive, they allowed me to wait, build my career, complete mtech, start a PhD, publish a few papers and and then got married. But it's very rare to find that support from family
@killbillpandey5644
@killbillpandey5644 6 ай бұрын
Y sb to thik hai lekin public ko y janna hai ki doc aur eng ki jodi kaise ban gai. Detail video chahiye janta ko...😂😂😂😊
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Ha ha ha...may be someday in future will share.
@sardarji162
@sardarji162 6 ай бұрын
After earning enough for my parents i would like to go Himalayas and stay in cave instead of getting married 😂😂😂
@Deb_deCoder
@Deb_deCoder 6 ай бұрын
right decision 👌 same here but not the himalayas part
@sardarji162
@sardarji162 6 ай бұрын
@@Deb_deCoder then where
@Deb_deCoder
@Deb_deCoder 6 ай бұрын
@@sardarji162 no intention of becoming monk.. but to earn money and enjoy life without getting mrrd
@arnabmandal4849
@arnabmandal4849 6 ай бұрын
Hmm its true. Harsh fact. Bengali parrents judge their jamai bassed on govt job only.
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Not only bengali..it's an issue throughout India. In fact I would say in Bengal we still have few progressive parents.
@rohanakhare3305
@rohanakhare3305 6 ай бұрын
Why you didn't join FAANG
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Watch this - kzfaq.info/get/bejne/mZ6Kd62EtdCwlYk.html
@m..8038
@m..8038 2 ай бұрын
Bhai km se km 50k hi de dete stipend toh kuch chance tha
@abirmaity1272
@abirmaity1272 6 ай бұрын
Dada apnar mone hoi na je eto talent niye jodi apni private sector e hussle korten thahole aj andha paisar malik hoten and apna kew o gold digger der theke bachar jonno mental energy koroch korte and apnar moddhe ki oi saddist mind set ta nei. ( ami jani apni sob comment poren tai doya kore answer korun. Btw i love u ( no homo) ) . Ignore korben na.
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
I worked in IT for 4 years, didn't find the job satisfaction. So switched to research and loving it. And I am not sadist, rather beleive in positive approach in life. Doesn't mean my life is smooth. But I always try to move on from negativity
@Deb_deCoder
@Deb_deCoder 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations for marriage 🎉 boudi kiser doctor ? mbbs naki dentist ?
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Thanks... dentist, but she takes care of my heart now 😄☺️
@Deb_deCoder
@Deb_deCoder 6 ай бұрын
@@kishalaydas knew it.. except dentist no other doctor gal marries other than doctor.. because dentists earn less money 💰 🤑
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
@@Deb_deCoder Another societal bias it is. I knew many doc gals marrying engineers and other professions.
@Deb_deCoder
@Deb_deCoder 6 ай бұрын
@@kishalaydas yeah mbbs doc gals can marry other profession boys only if there is bigger better deal.. this is fmle hypergamy
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
@@Deb_deCoder in this video I had talked about that only. It's not only about mbbs, it's overall an social issue.
@its_radhakant
@its_radhakant 6 ай бұрын
ISRO me hote toh ladkiyon ki line lag jati😅
@soumyadipbhunia4095
@soumyadipbhunia4095 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations 🎉Dada , but why didn't you go for foreign Phd ?????...why it took 3 years for you to start phd after completing your masters????
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Watch this kzfaq.info/get/bejne/oMechLSD0bKwhGQ.html
@haldersubrata
@haldersubrata 2 ай бұрын
My dear Son ,staying foreign country for long time is not easy if you are from middle class bengali family. 30 years back,my only objective was to go abroad specially Europe,US. After 3 attempt,I landed to ju comp sc and stayed 5,6 years in Europe. In every trip after one year I used to be home sick,desperate to come to kolkata ,stay with the people who are of my same race. Staying long time in foreign is mentally torture.
@knighthacker2307
@knighthacker2307 6 ай бұрын
how much earning in phd?
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
I am a pmrf fellow. So earning a decent amount.
@sardarji162
@sardarji162 6 ай бұрын
Kab hui dada apka biyah.....😂😂😂
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
Last week
@swatirauniyar9062
@swatirauniyar9062 6 ай бұрын
Many many congratulations 🥳🥳 1- Seeing your pics, I thought it's a love marriage. You both dated for approx. 2 years means you knew her from the start of 2022. 2- These arrange marriage from relatives and matrimony sites are actually toxic. I also experienced it. I thought only I am facing it but after seeing your video, I felt we all are in same boat. Being a PhD student, you might have experienced more toxicity. A boy is judged by his salary and a girl by her physical beauty. 3- Last year I also thought of doing of PhD but deferred. The reason mentioned by you was one of the many reasons. 4- You took a big risk- left ISRO & a lavish job after M Tech from IISc BLR and joined IIT Kgp. Seeing your courage, God helped you and gifted you the best life-partner. Ache logo k sath bhagwan hamesha acha hi krta hai. Few quries coming to my mind- a- Did you meet your wife from any matrimony site? Did you send her a request or she sent the request first? b- As you both dated for approx 1.5 years, didn't your and her family ask why you both taking such a long time and quickly say yes & proceed for marriage asap? I am asking these personal questions as I related to your whole story and want to take advice. You are free to NOT answer my questions. 😀
@kishalaydas
@kishalaydas 6 ай бұрын
A. Yes through a matrimony site. I guess I sent her a request. B. Fortunately our family was supportive both side and gave us enough time to understand each other. Thanks for your wish. Please do share the video with others to whom it might be helpful
@combatninjaturtle
@combatninjaturtle 3 ай бұрын
Congratulations for your marriage life. 🎉
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