I don’t think Joe meant it like that, I’m pretty sure he was just acknowledging he’s baby is changing colors. Mixed baby can come as so many different shades. He probably just saying how it’s more noticeable that he hands are 2 different colors. It’s not ignorant. He can think it’s beautiful and just making a comment on it. He didn’t say anything thing wrong, it’s also his baby. If it was some random or grown black person it would be different.

She has trauma associated with the comment he made. But he only acknowledged the baby's color because she did. & that's how he noticed the same thing she noticed: that the baby's getting darker. It just triggered her, but you gotta be careful not to take it out on the wrong person.

Alena and Joe, I LOVE your family! Alena, with all due respect, I don't believe Joe meant ANY harm whatsoever. He was simply making an observation. You know you both will have totally different perceptions based on each of your lived experiences. When you enter into a relationship with someone of a different race, both parties will have to be educated. You both have to be patient with each other. You can be right and just BE, without shoving your 'rightness' down the other person's throat. You were WAY too hard on Joe and he humbled himself and took it because he loves you. You should give him CREDIT for his humility and willingness to learn. We, as black women, need to learn when to hold our peace, when to speak and HOW to speak. Pray about it. God will guide you. You are a good Mom and it is clear Joe is a good Dad. May God continue to bless your beautiful family!

I know I'm 7 years late but I've been going back and watching your old videos to see how your family/ KZfaq started out, and I'm not gonna lie this video shocked me to an extent. But it also showed how far you 2 have come. How you reacted to him making a quite innocent observation. It would have been different if he was talking about a random black person that he saw on the street, but in this case he was referring to his child. There's nothing wrong with him saying his child is changing in colour because of the sun, or as he ages. It wasn't necessarily an insult and you were the one that brought up colour, so is it only a problem when he talks about skin colour? However he is married to a woman of colour. To be honest I think it was more racially motivated on your part to point out race. He didn't mention the baby's race at all, just talking about skin. Black comes in many shades it's perfectly fine for you to talk about black people but as soon as he made an observation (that wasn't even racially motivated)about his mixed raced child you made him feel really bad. I know you thought you were educating him but instead I think you just made him feel unnecessary guilt for an innocent observation. He may have acted like you taught him something only because he didn't want the situation to escalate. I pray that this is no longer a regular occurrence that happens in you guy's relationship because this is very unhealthy reaction on your part

Wow. I dont think he meant it in a derogatory way. He was just making an observation. Actually, you were the one to bring up the baby's color.. Of course, we as blacks are used to what we look like, but he isn't. He's learning. Its unresonable to expect him to say what a black person would say. He isn't black! Personally, I would not have been offended by that in the least. Its not my place to say how to speak to your husband but, you raked him over the coals on camera.. He took it well though. Calm and understanding.

Joe didn’t mean it that way!

I wish I didn't see this old video coz i love her so much. Reaction to the colour thing was so dramatic unnecessary n she was kinda being a bully to a first time dad.

I thought this was really funny.. You married Joe different race different color this is his first baby with someone not of his race. (well we are all of the human race🤣)I have been black my whole life was married to someone same as me. When our babies were born I did the same exact thing Joe did. I was in awe of the little human we created, noticed the differences in the complexion and my Babies were very light at birth anyways… Ms Alena, we all have sensitive issues about what people of other races assumes or says about us because of our beautiful skin.. but Joe is not one of the those people. I get where you are coming from…We are not different species but we are different. Special…but different. As for the ears we always check because that color at the tip of a newborn will tell you how light or dark the baby will be. Long winded I know but I am a grandma 👵🏽 we love to talk. Your cultures are different …gently educate him on things, and be aware that were you in Korea you might have been misunderstood too by something said innocently. Remember you two won’t always have the same opinions you are not clones of each other… however keep up the good work and I pray for long happy Blessed life for you both and another son, but if it’s another girl … God has his reasons. One Love my children🙏🏽❤️

Someone must've re-circulated this video, it's so funny how this video is 7yrs old and all the comments are fairly recent (I understand the comments weren't open at first?), but I agree with most of the comments... I feel like her response showed more ignorance than his comment tbh, but that may be due to past traumas or insecurities... We live and learn tho, and it seems like they've both learned💙

I think you are being too hard on the brother sheesh. You could have easily just pointed it out in love. I am looking at his demeanor, he doesn't seem like he was trying to insult you. He reacted alot better than I would have. To film it on top of that. That's a private convo. Looks like you guys were having a rough weekend altogether.

Chill girl he’s telling you his inner most thoughts , stay calm that’s your life partner, your beloved . He was confiding you and letting you inside his revelations of his mind as hes holding your sons hand . You wouldn’t yell at a child In that way. Lead with love 💕Queen .

Don't make a big deal of it you just keep on and on like picking a fight something so insignificant

I am Black and I felt bad for Joe. She went off. I think that was hurt from her own personal experience as a dark skin woman talking. I am glad I watched other videos of them before this one because I would have never watched another one and known actually how much they love and admire each other.

She is too damn EXTRAAA!! That's the man baby, he didn't mean any harm.

You’re literally the one that brought up him getting more brown first. All your husband did was co-sign by saying yeah i noticed it too by noticing his palm and hand are difficult. No matter how he said it, whether he pointed out fingertips were different, you probably woulda been annoyed b/c he’s not black.

I think you were wrong to take offense. Some black folks do comment on color differences. You can’t speak for all black folks. He’s the father of this child. And either you trust him or not! He has accepted the role of Appa for all the children and you trusted him with the girls. You need to revisit this.

I remember thinking when I was young why are my hand two different colours Why do we have different colours anyway? She just up with him for yesterday when he was in a mood, .

No shade because I am black. Most women who have really dark skin, are more sensitive to things like this. Just saying. I think the whole thing was being blown out of proportion. I’m glad you guys both understood each other’s point of use though.

I’m super late but Alena that was a bit much.

I just started watching this family (randomly)!! LOVE THEM!!! I don’t think Dad made that comment to offend - I can’t tell a woman how to talk to her man! In my opinion her response to his comment was a bit brute - the beautiful baby is allowing him to have new experiences obviously and Dad felt comfortable enough to voice it. There could’ve been a better way to correct him w/o using the word “ignorant” IMHO ❤️. SUBSCRIBING!!! Real recognizes Real!!!

Your husband did not mean any harm in his comment on color differences. Don't go off on your husband while your baby is sweating in the sun because you have aproblem black or white skin. Not valid to argue over.

He definitely didn't mean it like that

Actually we do pay attention to it. I remember in high school our friends sat and we compared our palms and they were all different and non of us are mixed and we were just in awe of it. We are always comparing skin tones. Maybe it’s where I’m from but we do. I think it’s something Alena went through or something. Rn we talk about the baby in our family all the time because every few days he has a different shade and we wonder what shade he’s gonna be. But maybe because we’re black too it’s fine to say it 🤷🏾‍♀️

Aside from the argument about skin colour, who else noticed the baby lost a sock 😂😂😂

I don’t think he meant it the way she took it. I think she blew this way out of proportion. I love this family… but this was an example of too much.

She totally overreacted and emasculated her husband on camera. It’s very cringy to watch. I hope she has come to terms with her deep seated issues about being a dark skin woman, It’s clear she has issues with her dark skin and her poor husband has to get the brunt of her trauma. That’s not fair to him. I hope that she has mellowed out by now. Having to walk on eggshells with your spouse sucks.

Wow how could you call him ignorant I have biracial daughters and it’s just .something that some people notice if they have never experienced the skin tone differences. Teach don’t humiliate

I think you are being a child. Why are you scolding him? You are wrong and before you say anything I am black.

He didn’t mean anything by it, I don’t care personally if somebody would say that to me. That’s just going too deep.

She is been brutal to this guy . As african , there is no reason to keep picking on mr lee 😀😀 , because as this this point , this guy can represent africans more than any african them.self ... And i feel he really very patient to.keep this family together by his calmness

Alena, you were wrong for going off on Joe.

How I the hell is he supposed to know what we as Blacks think? He’s not Black! Why are you trying to embarrass your husband in front of others? Lord she makes these videos so hard to watch. So immature!

This video was embarrassing to watch. You shouldn't have posted this for the world to see how you talk down on your husband. You weren't teaching the world but rather embarrassing your husband infront of the world. Some conversation are private!

Joe didn’t mean no harm. You have been dramatic 🤦‍♀️. I’m a black woman but I think black people should stop be so sensitive. Because that’s exactly what you did , be sensitive

No darkness when you both love each other. I keeps watching your video.....I love ❤️ you all family MazeLee.

Um.....Alana have issues with being dark.......You said he's getting brown....he followed up with "I noticed his color on the palm of his hand is lighter then the color on the top of his hand. " lmao lol Alana you reacted in an irrational way. You had a baby by a non Black man he don't know what the heck you're talking about. Hell, I'm Black and I don't know what the heck you got offended by... maybe the heat outside stressed you out that caused you to give an irrational response. You're also saying crazy things like the child changing to the color of their ears and nail bed which is not always accurate.....

Alena, you were the first one to mention his color. Joe felt he could elaborate on his completion as well. If you didn’t want him to mention it, you shouldn’t have said anything from the beginning about both of your son’s completion. You were wrong for even acting that way. He didn’t mean anything. I think it was you who felt self conscious about his completion. Joe you are good. And then, you kept going on it 🤦🏽‍♀️

I believe this was left in as a teachable moment. She is helping people understand how their comments could be received. Thank you both for the transparency

With love. Your husband was not being critical. He was just noticing the beautiful changes and growth with your son. Beautiful he takes notice and is observant how your son is changing and growing. There is no shame, judgement, or condemnation in that. Jesus must have a big smile on His face because your husband is hands on and heart on attentive with his baby boy. Honor. Special man. Commendable. I am white. One of my bff is black. We don't see color. But our hearts. We celebrate how God made us unique whether black or white. Thete no shame in that. May God heal you where you get easily offended. God made both you, your husband and your baby just as you are. Hands. Feet. Hair. Face. Skin color. Etc. Celebrate it!! There is no shame here. God created you all fearfully, uniquely and wonderfully made. Amen. I love you and your family. Blessed by the Lord. Yes Lord. Keep them. Continue to bless them. Fill them Holy Spirit with more of you and Gods truth and word. Freedom to freedom. Love to love. Glory to glory. Another amen. ❤

C' mon now ... he's allowed to speak freely about the color of Ajedi's hands. It's really not that serious. So surprised that you're that touchy. - yes, I am a black woman.

But dont come down hard on him about it because I can see that he was saying the skin color thing innocently. He's american Korean he is not black. You going to make him feel bad but you can tell him about how we are different shades of brown. We can come from a light tan mother or a chocolate mother and will all have different shades of brown lol. My daughter has hazel eyes and redish hair but me and her dad are full black as far as we know lol

Dragged it😒

Girl I just came upon you and your family recently.you seem to be a smart lady,but girl calm down you talk to much.and YES WE DO!!! I don't like how you talk all over your husband.if you can't respect him why are you together.is it because you can have your way. but get what you want maybe a house full of mixed babies I don't know girl calm down.

I just... realized that! I have never even wondered or thought of that. I'm light skin and my palms might look a bit lighter but not noticeable enough for me to ever even question it 🤣 that's funny though. My husband and I have a similar shade but our kids changed sooo much. Went from light to darker to light to dark🤣 these mixed babies don't even know what they want. Jk jk. I don't think Joe said it in a mean way and I don't thi k she was being mean, probably hormones. She could've explain it better though, not everyone has experience with mix kids. It's just like when a woman has a boy, we have no idea how to clean him properly because it's not us till you learn.

Wow! So many beautiful people in your videos.

She was complaining earlier in the video about her husband being silent and annoyed with her and now that I’ve watched the entire video, I see why. The constant annoying comments, screeching and loud talking and then being berated on camera about an innocent comment is BS. If he has to endure that on a daily basis that sucks. I really hope that she has mellowed out

Forever hate how she chews 😂😂💖

min. 8.38 SHE says "he´s getting brown though", so SHE started talking about the baby´s colour. I´m from the northern part of Europe and am very white. In some countries they don´t understand why I´m so hekking white in summer time. Well, should I get mad about it? No! Are they ignorant? Well, they don´t know better, and that´s ok.

Black woman are outspoken but we have to learn how we are relaying a message to someone though I know Joe can handle it.

Elena you don't need to get offended at him he just said his mind

I dont think he ment bad at all. I think Maybe you should go a little easy on him🥰. He seem like a Good guy😀 i love you Both.👍🌺👍💕

Love the video, but I felt Joe was receiving a verbal beat down regarding what’s offense to black people. I’m black and I just think the conversation could have been better. I really don’t believe Joe meant any harm by saying what he said, but I do think that Alena could have educated him differently

You don't want to spray toothpaste all over the lounge area, noooo

He didn’t. Mean any harm and you could of teach him the correct way in a more sensitive way, there was no need to tell him he’s ignorant because black people willmake the same comment to especially if they’re tanned.

I love this family. Joe is a very good man, husband and father. Joe is very patient with Alena because sometimes we can observe a lack of education the way she sometimes talks to him and her tough gestuality in different videos. For sure he teaches her a lot and helps her to heal. Woman never forgets the blessing husband you get and take more care of him because he did what black man was unable with you. He never said something racist about your child, you just have to heal woman. luckily you ll grow with Joe. God bless this beautiful family.

Ok why there are only 3 comments.. That too from same person... But still it has 700k+ views👀👀

Girl, you're being real nasty, and you know what he said wasn't wrong. And that BS, that black people wouldn't say what Joe said is BS. Because you know black people do talk thst way. You need to apologize to your husband!!!! Just realized that this was 6 yrs ago.

Awe teachable moment 💚💚💚🙏🏽🙌🏽

10:22 I agree I’m glad you corrected him I find it weird ppl talk about us black ppl like we animals only the ppl who haven’t went through this won’t understand sadly

There r things you will not understand about others not of your race- food choices, skin color/changes, hair styling/texture , language, traditions etc.. and that's ok in everyday life w/ friends, co-workers etc.. ( For the most part). However, in an intimate relationship, a marriage, it can really be challenging when you don't understand what/what not to say to your spouse of a different race and culture about matters involving race and culture. I don't think Joe would've brought up ANY of this about the baby's hands ESPECIALLY ON CAMERA if his wife hadn't. He seems too quiet for confrontations even potential ones. It seems he brought it up because his wife did. I'm sure it was obvious his color was coming in all along. I don't understand why SHE brought it up on camera and at that point. Why? I'm confused. She educated him and that's fine so that in the future he doesn't make those kinds of comments. However, she was TOO harsh on him imo. He, ( it appears) was following her lead ( as he usually does) when he commented. It is likely he had little exposure to black or other cultures prior to meeting her. They may have fallen in love with little awareness and education on his part about others. That "ignorance " on his part may not TOTALLY be his fault. He is Not black and wouldn't necessarily know anything about the differences in black skin, tones etc.. how inappropriate a comment it was etc..Idk, just speculating. He does owe it to himself, his wife and children though to REALLY know, really educate himself, moving forward about black roots and culture. I think he will think twice before making comments such as this again. I also hope she does too. Embarrassing her husband over something he doesn't have FULL knowledge ( if any) about was so cringey. If he had FULLY known, I don't think he would have said it. He seems mindful and sensitive in that way. And then it got even stranger and more complicated. Just when the education and verbal lashing was nearly over, she began talking about the ear tips, fingernails etc that black people focus on. Well, that's just as bad for her to bring up and for black people to focus on. Why would they say EVEN that much. They're just as bad, just as ignorant IMO. Why not just let ALL brown babies be babies. Who cares about the ear, finger and hand colors? I don't think any other baby is scrutinized like a brown baby is regarding color, and brown people start it!!

why is he the one to change, i mean ,first of all "who is black"really,did u come from black,my ancestors came from AFRICA,they didn't come from "BLACK" we as women need to read more talk less listen with our hearts,love ourselves be comfortable with our skin.. heal from traumas..lesrn how to ask a question so we'll know where another person is coming from ..since when different shades of skin should be offended to speak about😢,it is unfair to project your opinions and feelings using other africans mixed africans as examples to what we don't or would not do,it would be best if you pnly speak on behalf of yourself,i watched nearly all,and yes wonderful family,however early up joe actually smiled,as the years went on the smiles became less he preayed more,i remember him talking about sanity,i honestly believe we need to credit the roles of fathers everywhere more,i will say cudos because while having extended family is good lets be real there are always problems,and thats real talk,am sorry we can meet up for dinner come over spend the weekend,vacation,but my home is my santuary,my kids,my husband,my creator,mother earth the universe,thats our space,however thereight be cases where one may fall on short times,other than that,sorry probably am just different,i wish them all the best prayers and love,be happy,be wise,yearn for knowledge,peace and serenity from whithin then let it flow outwards

Why is she so offended about that……..she has a complex about being black.

To all the commenters. They have a young marriage. SHE will learn and he will teach her. I can see now in current videos that has already occurring. I was outspoken like Alena and my husband more calm and patient lIke Joe. After 35 years we are more balanced in these attributes.

He love you Elena, your blessed by God ,Elena is special what the world has to learn blood 🩸 no different is Spirit, heart, 🧠so you living with the key of God.

He has to learn "US!"

I get it. He might not have meant it that way but those kind of comments should be pointed out because if not he could make his child feel uncomfortable if he says that to them because they have different complexions. What he said was ignorant but he didn’t know that it could be taking in a negative way. Her reaction was a bit much but I understand where she’s coming from.

I respect her for teaching him how not to be colorist. Made me subscribe

so sweet 🤗💖😍🥰🤩💖

Coloca português que nós somos brasileiros aí não é brasileiro que eles conversam nós não entendi nada nada

Your kids is all korean eyes daddy eyes he he they hair is mom hair

Girl you are unfair, & bullying this man, you ate the first one who mentioned that the baby skin is getting darker, & he responded, that he noticed that his hand has 2 colors so what's wrong with that???????

Beautiful and blessed family blessings to everyone if you haven't yet repented and accepted Christ Jesus as your Lord and Savior please do so before it's too late it's not God's will for none to perish Acts 2vs 38 John 3vs 16 Romans 10 vs 13

That was a great way to handle his comment , we need more of that in the world.

I can’t believe the amount of “women” in these comments (all of them but one comment) speaking on this authentic relationship; just shows how very few of you are open and honest with your husband about how you feel. Hence why your “men” don’t respect you. Many of you in this demographic I can guarantee do not even have a husband to begin with, but you sit there judging this woman’s relationship! Get yourself a man and let him say whatever he wants about your skin, or whatever and if it don’t sit right with you, you keep quiet and let him go on and his words can marinade in your spirit and cause resentment and all its fruits... Don’t speak up when something don’t sit right because y’all are a bunch of old ass pick mes, and y’all don’t even have the education this woman has to even begin to KNOW when something is ignorant or wrong and needs to be rectified, or highlighted and corrected. Alana is top tier - she holds herself highly and won’t leave her values on the ground for any man to walk over unlike all you desperate heaux in these comments. Joes respects Alana… now does your husband respect you and where is he now? Tf.