One of the best pieces of advice I heard a pastor give couples in premarital counseling was, if each of you always puts the needs of your spouse first, your own needs will always be met.

My husband and I have been married 48 years... I agree with everything you said, but we learned through trial and error... I really appreciate your wonderful testimony and steadfastness in your marriage. You are such a blessing. The internet is full of meaningless nothings, and bad advice, but your godly example is a shining light. Keep up the good work! We need more like you.... I love you both dearly.

My hubby and I do the same thing.....squeeze our hands "I love you" three times...different times and always after we pray together. We will be married 55 years next month. ♥️

I am in awe of you both for setting a decent standard. I grew up in single parent family tarnished by alcoholism. I didn’t really have good role models, my grandparents were alcoholics too. I always wanted a stable home life, the solid family unit. I knew what I was looking for but have never found it. Here in Scotland life seems to revolve round bars and pubs. I didn’t want to have to haul my partner out the bar when I wanted to see him. I am hardworking and decent yet find myself on my own at 53, but I take real pleasure in watching your videos and seeing a nice life. Bless you.

I love the way you look at each other. Your love for each other is visible.

I love the way you love each other. Your Godliness is evident in how you respect one another.

So wonderful. Thank you for sharing. My hubby has been in Heaven for over 5 years, but we were blessed with 53 years of "mostly Heaven here on earth times" Blessings to you all.

My husband and I have been married since we were just 17 and 18, just over 30 years ago now. We used to read the Five Love Languages, and many books on relationships together, and they were a great help to us! We also squeeze our hands together three times to "secretly" say "I love you"! We also do this with our children!

You guys are so much fun! I literally enjoyed this! My husband and I had a very rough start on our marriage we were not saved, we came into the marriage with LOTS OF BAGGAGE! We both got saved within our first two years, but things got more chaotic raising 4 kids and family struggles, soon after we became empty nesters and some health issues happened to both of us, that’s when God began a HUGE healing in us (I guess He had our undivided attention) we will be celebrating our 37th anniversary this April and I couldn’t be more in love with my wonderful husband, I’m so glad that divorce was not an option!

Really appreciate seeing your channel continue to grow! Thanks for doing this!

Thank you! This was great to see your devotion to your marriage and how you keep it alive. Very good suggestions about the books and DVDs as well. God Bless until next time!

Thank you for taking the time to make this video, much needed.💗✝

A wonderful video! We have been married 53 years in July. Married real young you know!(ha ha)Having said that it seems like only yesterday as the time has passed so quickly. We have two wonderful grown sons who mean the world to us. They are both fine young men.That is where a favorite saying of mine comes in. Children learn what they live and then they live what they have learned! In our earlier years of marriage we had some things to learn and I believe that all couples do. You come from different families and backgrounds and it takes love and effort to create a lasting enduring marriage and anything worthwhile is worth working on! These videos are so needed today in this time of such uncertainty. Things are not what life is all about. I always told my boys it was alright to have things if one has them for the right reason.Not to make others jealous or even because someone else has them (ie keeping up with the others) , but to enrich your life and to share with others! Good friends and family are much more important. I am thinking and hoping and praying that this lastest pandemic has sent this message home more clearly to many people. Sorry for going on so about this, but I feel so passionately and strongly about this. My best to you and your lovely family and may God's grace be with you! 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Thank you so much for taking time to answer some of my unasked questions.. 💝,, May God Bless you both..🌹

What a gift you both are to the world! Thank you so much for sharing your marriage tips. Love the secret hand signal ;) My husband and I are both 41 & have been married for 18 years. We have 3 kids and are soon to be grandparents! You have a beautiful family & home. And I love Priscilla’s cooking videos!! Blessings from northern British Columbia😊

This was so helpful. I found a lot of this to be helpful in all relationships. Thank you!

You two are the best... thank you for being open & honest about your lives . Always look forward to yr videos. Beautiful family!!

A very thoughtful video Joas and Priscilla. We celebrated our 43rd Anniversary on March 11th, and I you reminded me of things we need to do the annual check up on. Blessings to you both as you continue to seek the Lord and serve others. Thank you for your ministry through all your videos!

Such a wonderful video, thank you so much for sharing!!

You are lovely. I stayed to the end and got to remember how I can make my very good marriage even stronger. I do agree about the need for personal space.

You guys are so real and down to earth. I love watching you. Thanks for all your ideas and your love of God. Also, I love Priscilla's laugh.

I loved this video so much! you two are so special and are such good examples to the younger generation and most of the things you talked about My Husband and I do. The biggest things for me in a marriage are grace and prayer we all need this the Lord works wonders for us when we pray. thanks again for the video and looking forward to your next one! From Alberta Canada

I love watching you two!! Thanks for the suggestions!!

Wow! I have a lot to read for sure! Thank you for all the advice!

Love the pics! You two are so obviously in love with each other. It's so wonderful. God bless you both and your marriage!

I loved this video so so much (and btw, I watched it to the end ;). Thank you so much for your inspiration and encouragement and for pointing back to the Lord in your advice. God bless you and much love to you!

This video was awesome!!! Lots of good advice!!! My HONEY and BEST FRIEND have been married 42 yrs!!! Thank u for being willing to do these videos!!

You guys are such a breath of fresh air ❣️. Thank you for sharing your love with us.

Thanks for sharing and being so real and honest. Love you guys! ❤️❤️❤️

wonderful tips. thank you for taking the time to share.

I love your genuine love and honesty. So sweet. The world is blessed to get to know the amish.

Well I've been married for 51 years, and I watched this in it's entirety. I agree about the importance of learning with The 5 Languages of Love, and the Personalities. Nicely done J & P.

Thank you so much for this. Wonderful suggestions. What I noticed about the two of you on the very first video of your I watched is the way you look at each other. It would be wonderful to have someone look at me like that. God bless you, your family and the way you reach out to the world.

Great video made it to the end! Thank you for sharing!

I so enjoyed all that you shared and will use some of the great ideas you talked about. 😊

Excellent! Full of so many little nuggets. Thank for sharing

Yes to Love Languages. Yes to Fireproof movie. Love all your tips. A new one for me is to write one thing each day that you appreciate about your spouse. I’m going to do that!

Oh what a joy it was to hear your wonderful advice for married couples! And thanks for you kindness!❤️

Yes, PLEASE!!! Do a budget video for us!!🌺

This video was great! Thankyou for sharing and letting us be apart of your world. I so look forward to watching your videos when new ones come out. God Bless 🙏

Your my favorite couple always and I enjoyed watching till the end all your videos .. tnx again for the tips and "God Bless"❤️🇨🇦❤️

Grüezi us dr Schwiiz/Bern...! Thank you so much for this post. We have been married for 35 years and have done exactly the same as you. It is worth it to walk with God and live according to His guidelines. 😊😊God bless from Switzerland

Great presentation and resources. Well done.

Great video ! Thank you for sharing!!!

Thank you for sharing your marriage advice! God Bless 🙏🏾

I watched Your whole video tonight and enjoyed it. I was 15 and he was 18 when we married. I only my parents as examples for what a marriage should be like. They had a wonderful relationship. No jealousy and only two disagreements that I ever knew about but was only for hours not days. No jealousy between them. My husband was bad with jealousy. Not a good thing to live with. We never had fights and our children rarely if any time knew we were angry because he just didn't talk to me and I didn't argue with him. Jealousy is as cruel as the grave just as the Bible says. Anger is a bad one too. We were married almost 23 years when he dies from a logging accident. That movie Fireproof is very good. Didn't have that when I was married. I enjoy you both and your children. It's so nice to see a family so loving with each other. Lord bless you all and your other family members on both sides. Very wonderful.

Thanks for sharing. Very practical. God bless.

Oh yes, Joas an Priscilla made it to the end, very interesting indeed, always enjoy your videos!!! Just wanted to say you've learned a lot with each other over 17 years of marriage and have a lot of good advice....we are almost at our 30 yrs an you know we always learn no matter how many years we have together.....I have learned over the years that forgiveness, love an prayer is what keeps our marriage!!!! You are a couple that that has inspired!!! God's blessings!!!

Thank you all so much for doing these marriage questions and answers your family is amazing

I enjoyed watching the two of you giving these tips very much.😊 Although I am too old and been married for 35 years, I was soo tickled when you looked at each other.To me that is very romantic.🥰Thanks for making me feel young again🤗. God Bless 🙏 and I hope you will continue to inspire others.❤️❤️❤️😘

What wonderful advice, I will remember this show Priscilla, the two of you for 15 years? wow, you both still act like it's your first year of marriage. It's a long story for me and I'm still single at 67 years of age for me, I think it was fear of being hurt, my family was very dysfunctional and my father died six months before I was born and my mother remarried but he did not like us, kids, and he abused our mother and us. It was hard for my older brother and sister which had their issues/problems due to Dad's death. Mother and I were very close and I was hurt many times over the years not by my mother but by others I had trusted too much so I never let anyone get close to me again as I said out of fear of being hurt, the pain. I love Montana Haven because of the Love I see between you and your hubby and the children, if God were to give me 2nd chance I would pray we could have the strong love you both share at Montana Haven, you share a life I never had and only could dream of. God bless you both and the children and thank you again for what you give us at Montana Haven.

You both have so much to offer others. It's obvious that your advice is taken from your own experiences as well as great resources. How wonderful it is to see a couple who work together at life and love.

Thank you! Great discussion!

I really enjoyed your video, you are a lovely, inspirational couple, thank you 🙏😊

Priscilla, my love language is time also and I've never known another person who had it. This was such a good conversation. I thoroughly enjoyed it, even though I have been divorced for almost 30 years. I am so for marriage!! You two are just precious and I know people were blessed to hear your experiences and tips. Blessings to your family!

Listen, you 2 love birds, I'm more than a decade older than Joas, but wanted you both to know I was so inspired by this video, the way you relate to each other and your very specifically practical tips that I downloaded it to share with my soon-to-be hubby on our honeymoon! (We're far too busy to watch it together these last 16 days of engagement!!) I love watching you 2 and feel blessed by every video of yours I watch!! May the blessings return to you tenfold!!🙏🏼🙌🏼 ...and how absolutely precious your pausing to pray for widows by name❣ I have no doubt our unfathomably loving God is well pleased with your lovingkindness!!🥰

You know how people say that old couples look alike? resemble one another? You are such a couple. Your thoughts and spirits are so much in sync conversing. Isn't that a wonderful blessing? You have the same smile. It's my favorite part of being married for so long, 35yrs. I wish all my friends enjoyed that. If he was gone, 1/2 of 'me' would be gone and I accept I could never be the same. His happiness is my happiness. He's been in my life longer than I was ever living before. Wow. We enjoy our coffee dates and we take our coffee (I make him guess the coffee beans only by tasting it first because he loves the coffee and tries really hard to know them. funny) in our own thermos' to the park (we visit many local ones) and just crack the windows and listen to the birds or watch the rain for hours and hold hands and talk and it's our favorite. It's cold here, but sometimes we walk too if we both remember our right shoes! Understanding the love languages and personality types are ways of Honoring what God's created in us. Recognizing what's special. Be Blessed. And you're right about the minor or lesser traits coming to the forefront later in life. You're right.

Lots of great wisdom and encouragement here for marriages. Thank you!

You guys are SOOO PRECIOUS! LOVE YOU! LOVE YOU! LOVE YOU!🥰

You both are the sweetest folks bless you

What a sweet vid... thank you for walking out your faith with such conviction and grace! I’m not married, but if Abba opens up that door, it will come in handy - I appreciate the good solid Biblical input! Much grace and love to you! God bless you all hugely!

Loved this.God is definitely using you to encourage couples...We met in Bible College at age 18 ,he asked me out I flatly said no.Some 30 ish years later an old bachelor came back into this old maid's life and yes,we married in 2004 ...some of our friends said "They finally smelled the coffee" we love each other and are just so very thankful that our God directed our paths after so many years. We have been together 17 years and sometimes we are still amazed when someone calls us Mr and Mrs Berry♥

God bless you both as you pursue him and each other.

Finally got it all watched, not all in one sitting but loved the video. My husband and my love languages are totally opposite. We have to constantly work on speaking each other’s love language.

Wow! I wish one day I can have such a wonderful marriage as you guys! Priscilla you look beautiful as always I think I have the same personality type as you☺️💕

Your advice and thoughts are beautiful. My husband and I have been married for almost 25 years. Our kids just moved out. We get to have more spontaneous dates now. A couple years ago, for Christmas, I made my husband a box of dates. They are cards inside envelopes, the outside has indicators of indoor/outdoor, level of energy required (I have a genetic condition that causes a lot of issues), and cost. What’s inside is the surprise. It’s a fun way to be spontaneous. We’ve had a lot of fun with them. Some of the ideas were from the kids and are things we would have not thought of on our own, but have been the best dates.

I have been a widow for many years. I watched this and really enjoyed it.

I like how you laugh and enjoy each other and your children. Joas it was no surprise that word of affirmation are part of your love language because you do that all of the time to your children, your animals and your wife. I live the loving twinkle you have in your eyes. You take great pleasure in life together as a couple and as a family. I am a widow for 35 years and my children are all in their 40s, two of them live far from me. I love being a part of your family but helps me not feel so alone. Your marriage reminds me of mine and your family like mine when there were 5 of us. May you stay healthy and enjoy life fully your entire life until you are in eternity. Blessings, Sandy Bowen.

I was so interested to hear your thoughts on marriage. Your thoughts about the need to really get to know each other and to communicate honestly and kindly resonate with me. Sadly I never found anyone who shared this idea so at 65 and in poor health I have come to terms with the fact that a happy marriage is not in the devine plan for my life. Never the less I am hugely grateful for the people and so many other blessings in my life. Congratulations that you have made such a happy marriage and home in which your young ones are so neurchered. Thank you for this video. Sending blessings from England.

I really enjoyed this video! Such great tips for a happy marriage. We will be married 34 years in July. Still going strong! May God Bless You! I would also be interested in a bugeting video :)

That was a great vlog. Yes we listen to the five love languages. We still don’t have the book. And before we were married Moses bought me a star chart that also reads and they’re a lot about like your gems and what the person is so we know each other more like that. You are a great couple together and have beautiful children. I know we have to work on how to discipline our children are words we use towards them.

You are both so lovely and genuine, thank you for sharing !

Very good advice ! Thanks

My 3 married daughters and sons in law waited for their wedding for their first kiss too. Such a sweet gift. Thank you for sharing.

Both of you set an incredible example. Thank you.

Wholesome You two are such an inspiration.

You are such an amazing couple! Thanks for sharing.

So many sweet nuanced moments to this couples video. God continue to Bless you’s both. You are an inspiration.

I made it to the end, I learned and laughed too😍🤗🤣🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💞

Thanks so much for your ideas for marriage. I'm going to share with my kids that are married. They are young and can learn so much from it. I've been married 46 yrs to a wonderful man. Today I told him he needed to kiss me goodbye when he leaves! He watched your video with me so he laughed. He knew where that came from! God bless you both. 🥰

Bless you both! 💕💕💕

Learn as much as you can about each other before you marry. Share, forgive, give grace, apologize, hug, kiss, put your spouse first. My beloved husband died unexpectedly 1 yr ago. We recognized that God brought us together. We were best friends first. Thank you for sharing Priscilla and Joas. Love to you and your family from British Columbia.🇨🇦

You guys are amazing 🤗

I wish my husband watch the two of you sharing your thoughts. It works well to you guys cuz BOTH of you are doing your best to be on the same page…!!!! Thanks for sharing. CHENN

Wooow thank you guys for special massage to married or those about to be married these are the best teachings and people will never go wrong when doing all you have said guys godbless you love you

Love your sharing 🙏💕

Thank you for your prayers😊 it's nice to receive a Godly perspective on marriage advice. God is great! May the joy of our Lord keep shining & blessing your marriage, Amen💙💜

Marcelle and I have been married for 41 years. We certainly agree with the many things you said about marriage. We are blessed with four grown kids and six grandchildren. Also thank you for mentioning and praying for Marcelle's twin sister Marcia who lost her spouse almost 10 years ago. The Lord has been faithful to watch over her during this time.

Yes if we do kiss each other every night before we go to sleep and then in the morning before we get up we also kiss each other. My love language is quality time and Moses is physical touch.

Thank you for sharing. When Christ is in the center of your marriage, He grows you to become one in faith, friendship and love. So evident He has been growing you. Lessons you have learned my precious husband and I have also learned, especially in love languages, conflict styles and personalities. Closing each night with prayer and kiss is our tradition also...our favorite time. Love to hear you laugh....must have laughter and joy in your relationship. Blessings to you and your family. This is one of your best videos.

Thanks for sharing

Delightful video and full of so much wonderful advice! I, too lost my husband, unexpectedly 4 1/2 years ago. I miss him every day. He was such a strong man & I learned so much from him in our 48 years together. God’s blessings to you & your family. 🙏❤️🌷

Thank you for this video. I learned a lot. God bless

Bless the both of you and your wonderful beautiful fabulous family ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Very good tips...love you guys

Yes the fire proof movie is a good one we have watched that one already

Very good answers tonight, God bless you both.

Absolutely gorgeous pics god bless healthy life and family 🙏🌺🌺

I have made it to the end. I didn’t know any of the book you mentioned. So thank you for sharing. I find the love language book especially interesting. The Only book that I read that really helped before marriage was “men are from mars and women are from Venus.”

This was a great and helpful video. Thank you