Mary was the only one who could rock them flips in her hair

"Your own child, what kind of man are you?" Just let this resonate... So deep and soul touching....

The fact she played both roles, talent.

Any man that denies his child because he is trying to save a relationship he is currently in...shouldn't be trusted. Sad.

Poor Mary. She has been through so much. Her music has also gotten me through so much❤️

For a long time I couldn't listen to this song. I went thru 2 different relationships where the man I had cared for at that time had a baby on me by another woman. I left immediately after I found out but, I always thought something was wrong with me cause I never got pregnant..I guess god has his own timing cause I'm 36 1/2 years old about to finally have my blessing with a wonderful man. I know things happen for a reason but, back then it hurted me real bad.. I'm just glad it was none of them who I became pregnant by. They didn't deserve me anyway. I truly can relate to this song then but, it was tough listening to it .

This song hurts like hell. My oldest son father denied our son at first. I went through hell with him. Never went back to him. Things changed as time went on. Thank God! 24 years, later this song hits home........ My oldest son is a blessing. I was young and made many mistakes but having him wasn't one. Wow. This song............

I’m a man but this woman have me singing her songs word for word love this woman yo the pain so real ❤

Mary j blige is always beautiful to me.But she is just absolutely stunning in this video,just gorgeous😍😍😍💯

When a Black Woman with a strong voice sings, it moves your spirit. 🌃👸🏾🎤✨

She’s so pretty 😩😍😍

At 14 years old, I witnessed my own mother experience this pain. So glad she left that fool and found true happiness. 🧡

I swear mary j has a song for every situation u in.

So relatable!!! A real man never denies his seed!!!!!

It's crazy that it's 2021, but this song never gets old

Them flips was flipping fasure

When songs you grew up on finally apply to you 💯😐😒

Mary j Blige puts so much soul into her music, so authentic and realistic.

My dad had a child on my mom...but she stayed....i remember this song came on 106 & park...we were watching it & mom just start crying..at this time the outside the child was 14....they were married for 8 years when he had the child... It still hurt ...im sure

This woman has a song for any and every situation. 🤞 queen of rnb

" how can you deny , you oown flesh & blood ? "

The Towers in the beginning and end are Classic. NY never looks the same without them

Mary is the official queen of r&b and soul , every song has soooo many emotions and meaning

Mary has the innate ability to convey emotions through her songs. I FELT VERY DAMN WORD IN THIS.

Everything about this is so dope. From the arrangements in the song, the chorus, the message, to the storyline in the video. It is so creative, you can tell that they took their time to create a masterpiece and that's why it's timeless. They don't do this anymore. That's why music isn't the same way it was.

The acter is Leon from The Temptations and The Five Heartbeats

Mary is the truth

nobody plays an "aint shit" role better than Leon. He wasnt shit in 5 heartbeats, temptations, waiting to exhale, Cover, and this video 😂😂🤣🤣

"Won't deny, it's hurtin me, yet so precious" That line really stuck out to me. Great song.

My best part of this song is.... Got to face reality there could never be anymore us! This is straight up to the point.

Still a hit in 2024!

Missing this era man pure talent 🥰

This song really resonated with me..this came out shortly after my youngest was born, and his father kept trying to deny him, and he is still not in my sons life! I was saying those exact same words in this song. "How can you deny your own flesh and blood."makes me tear up every time I listen to it. Love you Miss Mary J!

"She wasn't disrespectful...."

In very rare moments, there is a perfect song, record & video.... This is one of those moments. Mary's voice complimented the lyrics of this song to the hill!! It's like the songwriter(s) wrote it with her singing it within their mind.

I was in daycare when this song came out, remember it being on the radio all the time. Now I'm 30 whew where does the time go🥺💜

Thats how you handle a situation like a Grown Woman.

I remember when this first came out. The whole Farrah Faucet look was the style when this song hit the scene. I love all the looks in this video and the colors. When videos actually had story lines. Love it

One of the realest Mary joints!🔥🔥🔥🔥🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

You just don’t hear music like this no more! I miss these days.

She's sings about real life situations!!! I thank God for my husband. I've been there done that...... can't be mad at the woman!!!

He always in somebody video playing the player

How can anyone not like Miss Mary j blige

🎵 "What kinda man are you?!?" 🎯🎯

Mary the realest

Who still playing this in 2020

Really queeeeen mary good song

& Gf she wasn’t disrespectful, in fact she’s a 💯% sure! I felt that!! 🙏🏾

this song is so real

Mary will always be the queen of hip hop and RB over Beyonce in my opinion.

I went through this; it's devastation that shakes your world, it's a forever thing, now your child has siblings, they grow up reminding you when your life was shook. Forgiveness takes place and you can embrace the kids, even though your relationship is over. This happened twice to me! Then he went on to do more to other women. It's possible to move on, but this is really mind blowing!

Such as a beautiful slow jam!

When she hollers “what kind of man are you” whew I feel that

Who still love this song in 2019 👍 this

Yes went through this in 2021. A man that loves you would never have a baby on you.

Whew that orange on mama Mary is EVERYTHING 😍😍😍

This is my ABSOLUTE favorite Mary album!!!!

We tend to forget that Mary is one of the great storytellers of our time! Her songs have made us think from the beginning, even when she was singing hooks! #shespokefirst! Peace!

I love ALL Mary’s songs and albums. But the 1999 “Mary” cd is my personal favorite. I love this song! Still playing it in 2021.

Thank God I have company and not ALONE GOD IS GOOD I'M JUST RIDING IT OUT UNTIL THE END IN THE MEAN TIME I WILL CONTINUE TO STAY 🙏 UP 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Mary has the gift of bringing real emotions to songs like this which could easily be the subject of some episode of Maury or Jerry Springer. She sings with so much passion and empathy. She makes you at least understand how it feels.

I will forever love Mary for this one record especially. I use to sing my heart out to this in middle & high school. No kids no drama, but loved the story & how she made her pain show.

This is a real song. When I was a child I will just sing it to sing it. Now as an adult it speaks truths. Just heard it today after all those years. It’s 1/13/23

Love music

This song bring so much memories cuz my ex did the same thing on me but we supposed to together but when I left his mommy house that day I had that feel that he was messing with somebody else so that night I went home and tried to call him he never picked up his phone so I went a couple days without talking to him and I finally wrote him on Facebook and his inbox and ask him what's going on he never replied but his mother got on his Facebook and was like I don't know what's going on with him so his cousin is my best friend and she asked me is me and her cousin still together I was like girl I really don't know what's going on so she said you my best friend and that's my cousin but I'm going to keep it 100 with you friend my cousin got another girlfriend and she is pregnant with his baby that really brought tears to my eyes and hurting me and to this day I would never get over that feeling how it hurts so now he is going through so much shyt right now but I don't wish nothing bad on him but I wish nothing but the best hope everything work out for him and his happy home but one thing for sure God don't like ugly...I am so happy God blessed me with a good man that going to treat me right 😍😘

She made them hits.

This song gives me chills. The words hit you deep without even having to go through what she’s talking about.

Mary sings straight from the core of her being and we can feel every part of those emotions she is expressing. That's her amazing talent.

2018 . & still rocking to the old Mary ! This could NEVER get old ❤️❤️

Leon always playing a trifling dusty 😂😂😂😂

This song hit home...in a major way...

powerful song, she saw it long time, some people deny and neglect their kids ..what a shame!

It was hard listening to this song at first but years ago this was me. My ex boyfriend had two babies on me. I was so destroyed and he denied his child. It’s better to leave than to deal with something like this. It’s a lifetime scar on your heart

I love Mary j bilge she is my favorite singer...

This is a powerful song 😢

Knew it was real when Leon was her bf. Classic music.

I love this womans voice but my husband can't stand when I play these songs because he thinks I'm secretly mad at him 😂

I remember when I was younger she was showing the making of the video on bet the good ole days lol

Here in 2021 and after watching my GORGEOUS girl Mary J's documentary, I've been listening to ALL of my FAV songs of hers and I completely forgot about this song!! All of Mary's songs are about so much that we've all been through in LIFE, and she's the STRONGEST, most BEAUTIFUL soul on this Earth!! I SO respect, admire and LOVE Queen Mary, God bless her always with peace, love and happiness!!💖💖💖🥰🙏🏼

SANG IT MARY. LOVE HER VOICE ❤❤❤

Jesus!!! This is a Masterpiece!!! Singing passionately and soulfully, and playing the wife, and the baby mama, and looking stylishly different and beautiful as all 3!!!! Only Mary man, only Mary!!! When she hit that "What kind of man are you?" Lord!

M.j looked beyond gorgeous in this video she had the best make up and hairstyles back then and she look good today too but the old m.j was just raw with it.

Here after power

This song still hits hard whew

THIS SONG IS SO REAL .YOUR CHILD!.

Mary look good with all kinds of hairdos but I agree she does look amazing with the black hair

She was so beautiful in this video😍❤️

I love me Some Marry J She’s the Queen

this is a good song and all Mary's looks in this video!

i love the orange-ish color on her 😍😍😍 and she killed the blonde as usual

2022 in March and I looked this song up! Classic

2021 and Mary J still the Queen of R & B!!!! 💪🏿💪🏿

Sad part is no matter how depressing it maybe it real life shit that we have either gone thru or seen someone go thru so go head Mary sing that shit u have made me a better stronger woman over the yrs n i appreciate real music SALUTE

This was one of her best albums with this song on it...brings back the memories.

BRAAAAAHHHH!!!!!!! This song right here makes me stay faithful. Just like that Tank song Please Don't Go. Man I couldn't hurt my wife like this.

Such a specific message, but widely applicable to many women. A beautiful song ❤️

Mary looks so beautiful here.... God bless here.😍

i love my step son this song got me through the dark place i encountered surrounding his conception..... NOW God has BLESSED me with my Husband who loves my children from my past relationship JUST AS MUCH AS I LOVE MY 2nd Son!!! Hurt people hurt people #Fact it gets better if you work through it instead of around it. Y'all be encouraged my sister's and brothers.

I love this song so much. I couldn’t never understand the type of hurt a woman would feel going thru this but I sure can empathize. The lyrical content and meaning depicts an everyday woman.

The elegance and class on both women’s part (Mary J. playing both of course). Directing their frustration and questions to the responsible party… the guy, instead of arguing with one another. Our generation could learn a few things. Thanks again Queen! 😘