Mr. Kittleson, I'm genuinely insecure on how to ask this in any appropriate manner and without triggering anything. But..... I'm used to follow my intuition even to the difficult places, so here we go: Are yoh alright? Are you struggling at the moment? It's just a relatively short video and it could be anything or nothing. I just.... Idk.... are you self-caring enough? The best way I can describe my perception is that I'm trying to address something internally perceivable rather than externally visible. I'm just a stanger. I'm not here for answers. I asked a question and if that opens something for you, then please by all means understand this as an invitation to pick it up explore it in your safe (social) space of choice. Best wishes to you.

iv always assumed .. after research.. that i was narsissitic with both other traits, based on my emotional level. im at about a 2. i can be a zeo if i want or a 10. so manic or grandeous. um been diagnosed with depression.. not me. split personalities, sure but their just me myself and i in my head. im not easilly distracted. only if i allow it, i go off like you have no idea. i am the multitasker, i have no issues ive ficxed all that... moving on... nooe.. move on nope seriousl;y im waiting for her to move on its bornig

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You guys are so helpful putting this out there, but it's definitely not all negative 💞.

@@pawpad6375 😃😃👍👍👍👍🌟.

Most people take it for PTSD and trauma or a treatment resistant depression

My experience with JMF was a whole new dimension and I saw the future of humanity. I saw aliens and it felt like I embodied the universe. It's beyond explainable.

It's hard to put the transformation in words. Incredible amounts of healing occurred. I'm still processing the beauty

y'all talk about the benefits of mushrooms, but no one talks about where to fetch from.

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Right?! No matter how intently I listen to someone, I will still manage to either forget or completely misremember what was said and I end up looking like a fool because I remember the stuff wrong lol

That’s why I request written instructions only

To me it's like the person speaking is talking another language I cannot understand. I did not realize it was such a problem until a supervisor I had yelled at me for having to give me the same instructions six times.

This is why I hate asking for directions or instructions if they can't be written down. Verbally communicating that information to me is completely pointless because it bounces straight back out of my earholes. :(

I’m the same way..

Absolutely. We go through life MacGyvering our reactions and responses to certain problems and sometimes they become tidy habits that work in our favour. Also have friends who clearly have symptoms but also generally function very well and are only mildly inconvenienced.

I think the issue is that people treat it as a behavioral disorder (aka "abnormal" external behavior) when it's really a neurological difference (aka an internal way of functioning).

I don't forget appointments or lose track of time to get there because I have my calendar send me an email 2 days ahead, then 1 day, then 2 hrs and 1 hr. It has to be email since I won't notice the notification icon. THEN, I set my alarm. Depending on the distance it may be set to 1hr, or 45 min for a distance of half hour. Etc etc etc. Like you said, learned coping skills.

Yes!!! Spent most of my childhood and young adult life working out coping and strategies to manage these traits. I still take inordinate about of time to target a task and complete even when focusing. My brain feels disorganized so I keep using tactics like short breaks, chunking and giving myself a whole week to complete an assignment which most her do in a few days

I was thinking this, I'm going to speak to my doctor about a ADHD diagnosis, and I remember being so forgetful and losing so much necessities in the past, but the way I cope with it is just leaving them in pockets, and when I'm out I'm CONSTANTLY checking my pockets over and over again

I taught for 15 years and struggled with ADHD the entire time. I had to work twice as hard as every other teacher. I was a the first teacher to arrive at school, sometimes as early as 5 am and always there by 6 am. I was an excellent teacher who could hide my adhd. My early career I had 2 preps to teach and the last 5 years I was able to teach only 1 prep. Other teachers could not understand why I loved teaching one course all year because it would bore them. They had no idea that fewer courses offered me a bit more level of concentration. I was always very disorganized, forgetful of what students would say to me during and after class and would even forget the scheduled faculty meetings. So I wouldn’t forget parent meetings I would always write myself a big note that I couldn’t miss. I always forgot to take attendance and just made it up from memory at the end of the day. Then I decided to make a responsible student take attendance for me in each class. All the while no one knew I had it except me. I’m left teaching and went into a type of business that would accommodate my adhd and was much happier. I always missed the kids though. I just retired and I always refused to take meds. Maybe I should have. I know what what you’ve gone through. I’m 62 and just retired a month ago. I am and always will be a scatter brain but I’ve learned to embrace it.

@@Workingcockers I teach band and used to forget stuff kids tell me all the time. Now, I use my phone to set alarms to remind me. Otherwise, I forget to get new reeds for weeks at a time, forget instrument repair, etc. It took me years to learn to consistently use a written lesson planner, though it helps. I was lucky though, I had years of assisting other band directors to help me figure stuff out before it was all on me. I started volunteering at an elementary school when I was in high school. I didn't finish my credential for 12 years after that. Can you guess why it took so long? 😂

I completely understand that! I would stay working evening at school working on report cards before the janitors left to be able to have a quiet environment with a big chunk of time ( 6 hours a night) to accomplish that week what other colleagues complete in a few days. I know that now and just have to allocate that additional time

​@@Workingcockerswhat kind of business did u go into that made it easier with adhd?

@@Cutiejuliya i was a power washing contractor in Virginia for 25 years. I hired an office manager so I just had to go out and do the work with my crew. I sold that business. I have been training dogs for myself for competitions so I started an obedience dog training business. Dogs keep me focused.

yes! This goes with autism too and if you havent heard of it I'd look up spoon theory. I am struggling now to work out a job that doesnt use all of my energy so that I cant even take care of myself and do anything but work.

Siberian Ginseng and other stress herbs, and a diet strong in protein may help ground a person and give endurance and adaptability to stressful times.

Yes! Being in an office 9-5 my brain was SHOT afterwards. I couldn't cope with anything after. Enter WFH and the energy is way different

Omg this!!!! You wrote it down sooo good! Thank you! I'm going to show my parter this! I always wondered how and why he after a whole week of work, can find the energy for cooking and cleaning!? Like he has endless energy!!! Good for him but I can't!

@@PieSwagoras WHF?

Good for you. People really do need to become more tolerant

Wow, Congrats and good for you!

Wow congrats so happy for you.🙏💛💐I'm so sorry you went through that.

Good for you

Go you!! The world needs to learn that everyone has a different way of being, and we should allow people an environment that allows them to thrive the best they can...

I yelled fuck no less than 10 times and hit the 10 second rewind so many times

"thats not something i would do" "wait whatd she say? rewinds" "shit"

@@ivanreynolds5312 i have an 5 sec rewind cause if not i would have taken 10 years to see the whole video ;)

🤣🤣🤣🤣💀 I feel your pain.

I'd say she's an angel sent just for you. Appreciate what you've been blessed with. But, don't forget She also has needs in her life, that maybe only you can fulfill. Just saying, I'm a victim & caretaker. 😂

That's so nice.

Routines are A and O for ADHD but at the same time, they are a curse cuz they are so utterly boring! We are expert at making stupid reasons to delay stuff and routines is in the way XD

I used to think I never got bored, because only boring people got bored. That is until one day I realised that I was in fact bored all the time, or at least most of it.

Yes 💯

@@stewartkingsley YES! I came to the same realization myself! 😛

Your last sentence resonates with me. Ive fixated on creating systems that could help me. Planners. Reminders. Notifications. Ive dabbled on digital and analog. And what works for me is buddy system. But my conscience tells me that im bother other people, im being dependent and clingy and selfish. And also my own willfullness makes it that im irritated when my notifications disturb me instead of treating as a good intervention when im fixating on one task or have no energy nor motivation to push thru with maintaining a routine i made to help myself

I have "spots" for everything, and I've had to work hard to make it a habit to put things in their correct spots around the house. My phone, for example, only gets laid down in certain places. If I start to lay it down in a weird place, I pause and think if I'll forget later, and then either put it in a "correct" spot or out in the open so it's obvious to find. I still have to recruit hubs to help me find it sometimes, but the system more or less works. Growing up, my dad always kept his pants for the next day on a chair in his bathroom. Anything he needed for the next day went on those pants. I adopted the same routine, except with my purse. My purse stays next to the door. The first thing I do walking in is set my purse down. If I need something for the next day, I immediately put it on my purse, or I will forget and walk out the door without the thing. Keeping up with all the things can be SO exhausting!

People lose and misplace things everyday doesn't mean they have ADHD

@@swolfe9668 Obviously it's more than just losing things. Sometimes a person will just talk about one aspect. Doesn't mean they *don't* have ADHD.

Thats called a Tuesday at my house. God bless my fabulous wife.

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This is helpful. I'm also over 40 and always thought I could handle multitasking. But I teach high school and feel like I don't have organization in my classroom and intrusive thoughts fight for priority attention. Does concerta really help with all the things?

I’m 48 and totally relate! Looking at getting diagnosed. Would explain a lot!

I’m 23 and couldn’t relate more. Teachers would literally complain to my mom “I think he has adhd you get him tested” and my mom would not budge. A whole lot of sadness and suffering later and I’ve developed a whole bunch of little methods to help myself but still find myself struggling with things that should be simple. My hope is learning more about adhd will help me understand my childhood better and help me deal with adult life better.

50 and your spot on! It really helps to see I'm not alone out there, appreciate the comment! I somehow managed my way through life undiagnosed. It was difficult at times and was lucky to be surrounded by nice people they had no idea, nor did I, about my differences. I feel so lucky to have a great job and great family. It was my daughter who identified adhd in herself... I admit I was a denier at first but she's opened up a whole new understanding of myself, her, my son and their grandad! I don't think I'll ever bother with an official diagnosis given my age but I know and that's all that matters! Good luck to all you fellow adhd'ers who are seeking help, it will be ok👍

i’m glad you’re getting the support you deserve now! it infuriated me when adults and teachers would assume i’m lazy because i’d zone out all through class or have trouble remembering directions, etc. especially as a kid, it’s like how are you supposed to know?

70 and just realized . My daughter and son have it too. I wish I knew before but it helps!

Literally brings me to tears

You could be describing my daily routine! I so relate to this symptom. It also causes friction in my relationship, because he just doesn't understand why I can't complete one simple, single task or how I let things get so disorganized & "messy" to the EXTREME.

​@@roncj6937Yeah, no. Stop spreading misinformation

@@alienvomitsex Dummy

@@alienvomitsex You have no idea of what is been discussed so go and do a little research on ADHD and then I will not call you a Dummy lol.

I believe you are.❤

Thank you! ❤️I do, it’s important for me.

oh my god yes! prior to me being diagnosed with adhd, I actually was heading into depression.

@@persona5305 I know what you mean. I have a story to tell you but I’m pretty tired right now so I’ll come back to this.

And the constant advice on how to do things😔

i won't say that you can't do worse, at least you didn't forget your closed backpack and closed suitcase in a train station and blocking traffic (terrorist policy) while brainwashing yourself you didn't ... didn't get sued btw thx god ...

its crazy right...happens to all of us lol

Sounds like me but with gardening. I often grump to myself I spend more time looking for the tools I need for a specific job than I ever do actually doing the task.

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.

How can i find him? Is he on insta

I was horrifically depressed since childhood. It was relentless. I assumed it would ultimately end me somehow. About twelve years ago I randomly accepted the offer from a friend of a few doses of mushrooms. I did them two consecutive nights alone. First night was pretty mild. The second night? Wow. I saw my depression from every angle, realized much. Next day: depression totally gone. Never came back, never coming back. It's like it's a forest far away I can remember, and could probably find again with enough effort, but it has zero impact on anything in my life or mind. They honestly saved my life and improved it immensely. I never did them again, either. I wish there was a good, organized way to administer them to people who would benefit from them.

Yes! Got mine delivered here in Germany 🇩🇪

@RubenDuate its a bot lmao. oh wait ur a bot too lololol

This is how I feel too.

Also shared with ASD

That's a more difficult one because, from personal experiences, having ADHD and being, for lack of a better word, a bit of an asshole, are not directly correlated. It's one thing to occasionally say an offensive thing (we ALL do that from time to time) and it's a whole other thing to say something more consciously harmful, and not understand and apologise when people react accordingly. I also think most people with ADHD that I've ever met have been highly social and thoroughly pleasant creatures, and what you're describing would not be part of my own ADHD identifiers. What you might actually be talking about is the overlap between ADHD and ASD. they were previously considered mutually exclusive but it's now increasingly regarded as part of the same spectrum. What you're talking about is absolutely textbook ASD, and I think not widely associated with ADHD.

Yes Melissa , being quite old now I tried to control my reactions ,but sometimes the button is pressed and kaput

Yes 😢 constantly being told I’m so shy but also a real dark horse when people get to know me. I don’t mean to be rude and annoying.

Yes, you did have it as a child. It‘s a necessary requirement for the diagnosis that the symptoms were present when you were younger. That doesn’t mean that you must have been diagnosed as a child. Especially when you‘re older (because the disorder was not well-known when you were young) or when you don‘t have the inattentive type without hyperactivity or when you‘re intelligent enough to be able to compensate and don‘t have problems in school it might not have been diagnosed as a kid. All the best for you!

I love that you described yourself whirling around like a pinball machine. It was a perfect simile and choice of words . Another challenge for us is INTERRUPTIONS which have become too constant with these annoying telemarketers and nuisance private health insurance companies that want to privatize Medicare with medicare rewards . I work at home and must answer work calls . I’ve even written too my US Senator Bobby Casey For a reprieve from these nuisance health insurance agents .

Thank you for this I'm nearly 50 this gave me hope 🙏💛✨🌻

Being 60 myself, I can totally completely relate. I was diagnosed with adhd when my son was diagnosed with add in 2 nd grade. It’s a nightmare. Can’t wait for an all natural cure!!! 🙏🏻 by the way I took rx drugs for it when my son took the same or similar drugs while he’s in school. He’s an adult now still takes those awful addicting drugs, while I only did for a few months off and on for a year or two, then dropped them completely. Bad side effects for me anyway.

Thank you, Patricia. You've described my adult life in detail, and I'm now 61.

Finally reached out to Gp after impulsive speech yet again got me into trouble Theu claimed I had focus issues. I hyperfocus also have difficulty doing multitasking. Told them I think it's adult adhd. They claim they can't support it and ended contract. Everything else fine. Good worker.. Long waiting list for appointment nhs. Is this legal? UK. Even with out an official diagnosis., is this a breach of the Equality Act 2010?

I have been meditating for about 4 months now and I’m amazed how much mindfulness has helped me, especially with not going down “rabbit holes”. I use the 10 percent happier app daily for 10 minutes - highly recommend.

Just diagnosed last year with ADHD and Asperger's, age 68! Ritalin has really helped the ADHD. I am calmer now, can focus better! I can deal with the Asperger's. I like most of its traits. Not the extreme hypersensitivities!

I absolutely cannot do most meditation strategies, because I have ADHD. Some brief, guided meditations or short breathing exercises are tolerable, but most meditations are far too boring to sustain my interest.

Every time I try to meditate I fall asleep. I've recently been clued into the fact that I get fatigued when I'm understumulated. Same with watching movies- gotta nap in the middle. It's so frustrating, but I have an appointment with a psychiatrist next month for some help.

I get into a lot of trouble because of this. I tend to interrupt a person because I'm so excited to share my thoughts and I feel like I can't hold my thought for much longer or I'll lose it and oftentimes I do when I'm able to get holdnof myself of not interrupting another person. Even when I'm already talking I lost my train of thought often and I forgot what I was trying to point at.

I hear you so clearly, you've described how I feel every day‼️

Hang in there. We are differently wired. Do some research on not caring what other people think of you. There are some great (and funny) books out there that are eye openers. I think of myself as someone with a physical disability. If you have a limp caused by a bad knee, birth defect, or injury, you know you can't run as fast as other people. You certainly aren't going to try out for the olympics. It doesn't make us less as people. Each of us is the total of our capabilities and limitations. You'd think of ways to help you deal with the limp. I'm working on ways to help me deal with the executive dysfunction. It's a challenge. It's exhausting. But I know I'm not "less than." I'm just not an Olympian. :)

I have started taking a strong multi- B vitamins capsule. I am more upbeat and I have less brain fog.

yeah uh..me too! My mom tells me apply myself even though I am, when I tell her that she says I'm not and gets angry when I really am! One time I told her it could because I might have adhd, and she told me that I was using it as a excuse. She looks annoyed n exhausted when i tell her I forgot my mask, she yells when I tell her that I forgot to do something she told me to do multiple times. It defidentally is out of sight out of mind, because even though multiple times I remember what I have to do, it immediately gets replaced with some other thought, or I forget what I just remembered AGAIN. I'm a kid but im old enough to understand and comprehend like other kids, so my mom gets confused and paranoid when I scream and breakdown when she drops my toys, or when I ask her a question for the fifth time that day. And also, sometimes there's a loop where she tells me something, I leave, and come back and ask her what she said again. It eventually ends up where she just does it herself. I forget to call people back too, and might put my phone on silent when my mom is gone just for her to come back and yell at me worried about why I didn't listen. I can't even turn the knob on doors or the sink and bathtub sometimes. If I'm looking for something, I could be looking for it for hours just for my mom or me to see that what i was looking for is right there the whole time. I cry out of nowhere in a conversation, and it ends up where my mom is yelling at me to tell her what's wrong as if it's gonna help or snap me back to reality. I might tell my mom that I want this, and when she gives it to me, I don't remember why she did, and or I didn't actually ask for this, when I did and I just didnt tell her what I really wanted or forgot. It hurtsalot especially when my mom admits she doesn't know how to take care of me and my sibling because we have problems she's not equipped for. have a nice day!

@@NIGHTBLOODUSAGI I can really feel for you. My entire life has been like this. My whole childhood I was called the absent-minded professor and told I was like a chicken running around with my head cut off and that I would lose my head if it weren't attached. I was called lazy and undisciplined. I didn't figure out any of it until I was really old. I know this is painful for you right now, but I want to tell you how good it is that you are recognizing these symptoms in yourself. That is really astute of you. Your mother may not get it, and there are lots of people out there telling parents that ADHD doesn't exist or that it's being used as an excuse. It's not. I hope for you that you get the support you need. Maybe you can do some research online and find some articles for your mother to read. In the meantime, hang in there and try and find methods to help yourself as much as possible. It takes time to set up routines that will help you remember what it is you need to do. You're not going to be successful all the time. And that's okay. Start having patience with yourself, and when your mother doesn't get it, just keep reminding yourself that she doesn't understand and hasn't been educated about this. If you can't get the help that you need right now, make it part of your life plan to figure this out as you get into adulthood. In the meantime do some research on your own behalf about techniques that will help you every day. If you have a cell phone or a tablet, use your calendar and your alarm and your reminders for everything. For some things I have double reminders that my phone notifies me about so I can get something done, because I will forget it if the reminder isn't there. For instance, if I have to go somewhere I will put it in my calendar, but I'll also put another entry in my calendar an hour before it that says get ready to go to this place. If I don't, I'll be late and forget the things I have to bring. To deal with neurodivergence, you have to drop being a perfectionist. Go for 80% or 85% accuracy and success. Just accept the fact that you're going to mess up sometimes, and don't be hard on yourself when you do. Life finally got so much easier for me when I decided that I would have to live it at my own pace, and if I got distracted by 10 different things before I got one done, then that would just have to be okay. Learning to laugh about yourself is helpful, too. Good luck.

Boom spot on. Exactly!

Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, I would like to give them a try but haven't found any legit grower to get it.

@@magdalenposada4127Yes, dr.sporesss

A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels

@@eddiejohn8506Is he on instagram?

The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well

Keep trying!

whenever I'm doing a home DIY project, I will lose the tools I'm working with. It's maddening. I can be holding a hammer, set it down, and it will teleport to a different dimension.

@@kevinwhite6176 lol..i know some metaphysical people who that is what is actually happening

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I completely understand this! When I walk over to where I hang my keys. And they are not there I go into full blown panicccc!

I'd have this issue more if I didn't have a tray I keep the keys in, just inside the door. In fact I've made it such a habit to put my keys there when I get home, I rarely lose them any more. My wife loses hers all the time, which is kinda ironic because she's the one who doesn't have ADHD! LOL

EXACTLY.

Yep if it’s not attached to me somehow I’ll lose it. I have a d ring for my keys and if I don’t clip it to my belt loop and put it in my pocket I’ll literally look for them for 20 minutes and then realize there in my pocket. 😩

Yup I do that….tools, keys, wallet, paperwork, tickets, radios (for work) and have done for ages and ages…. I’m just discussing and discovering that at 45 I may have Inattentive ADHD ((edit* (probably mixed type 3 now) and low end spectrum level 1 ASD/C (what was old Asperger’s) I have managed upto COVID and earlier this year to subconsciously engineer why world to cope… I lost my fiancée partly due to a money issue…. Great video !!!!👌

Me every morning doing my makeup ..l I don’t even get up or go anywhere and I can never find things that were literally just in my hand …. It results in my room looking like a tornado hit it because of a lack of time I have to get to work since i procrastinated getting ready and can’t be late to work anymore … only to find that what I was looking for was right in front of my face … or running out of the house with my house slippers or going in to grab something I forgot only to leave something else behind 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤣😩😭😭

Oh, I’m not alone!

I am married, for 50 years,, to someone with ADHD Inattentiveness, And I also think maybe a little asburgers. I have shared a lot of these videos with him and he has gotten treatment on and off over the last 25 years as He was diagnosed when our 15 year old son was Di post. I would love to see a video on how much stress it puts on the partner of the person married to someone with AD.HD. I have seen a few about how to fix the relationship, but it never addresses the fact that it doesn't change all of the past issues, that still keep coming up

@@jonx8887 yeah Just do better. I mean its obvious that we are just lazy right.

I set alarms to break up the cleaning. I also set the alarms at 'off' times. Example: 7:33am Sweep the kitchen / 7:08 am Dump the bathroom Trash / 8:17pm Put in a load of laundry..... I swear this works (granted I also have a shower that reminds me to take a shower BEFORE I have to leave for work lol)

I completely comprehend what you are saying. My brain works the same way and it is frustrating.

@@xXCanadianToastieXxvery interesting ❤

I can feel the same way about this ❤

We are Terribly bored of doing not interesting tasks and also tasks which we are not confident in not doing good

We wish there is someone who can do it for us, even if we have to pay for it. And maybe we should, if we can afford it. If our loved ones think that thats crazy to have this sort of perspective, then one should learn how to deal with that

@@Marsiovideos Yes as much as I can I try to automate or outsource everything important I'm not good at.

Dislike vs like is very much true. The difficulty of you doing the task turns into a dislike. I hate washing dishes period So i avoid it at all costs

yeah, even if I do remember, I let them slide till their urgent, multiple times these past few years school stuff like projects or just class work is late because i wait till the last day to turn them in. Or if I'm in extreme pain I forget or just wait till I can't walk anymore. I can't do things without someone enabling me to most of the time and so when it's something where I have little to no xp and I can't get help I fail and or do bad.

Sounds like me 😆

I may have ADHD. One thing I find annoying about myself is when I'm looking for something, like in a box full of stuff or a drawer, at some point I'll completely forget what I'm looking for and I'll just be looking at stuff. I may have seen the object three or four times as I'm rummaging around but I'm just looking at things as thoughts and memories come to me with each random object I touch. The other extremely annoying thing is what I call doorway induced memory loss. I'll enter another room to get something, say a screwdriver, and all of the sudden I have no idea why I'm there. I'll walk out of the room, see the project I'm working on, remember it's a screwdriver I was looking for, go back into the room, have no idea why I'm there and sometimes I will do this 3 or 4 times in a row. Ok, so now I have the screwdriver and I walk back to my project only to discover that it's disappeared from my hand. It was in my hand less than a second ago, I swear it was, really. I spend 20 minutes looking for it only to discover that half of that time I'm just looking at random stuff around the room while thinking about an episode of Green Acres I saw as a kid, and I've forgotten that I'm even looking for something. That Arnold Ziffel was one funny pig. "Electricical," lol, Eva Gabor was perfect for that roll. I glance over at the project and realize I'm supposed to be looking for a screwdriver. Then I find it in the refrigerator. Wait, why did I even open the fridge door in the first place? Now I start flipping out. WHY IS IT IN THE REFRIGERATOR?!?! I DON'T EVEN REMEMBER GOING TO THE FRIDGE! HOW IS THIS EVEN POSSIBLE?!?! IS SOMEBODY PLAYING PRANKS ON ME? WHY DOES THIS ALWAYS HAPPEN TO ME? AAAAGGGHHH!!!!!! I flip the f*ck out for 10 minutes straight and then, suddenly I realize I'm hungry. I wonder what's in the fridge... Oh yeah, it's the screwdriver, it's still there. I'm 59 and I've been dealing with this my whole life.

@@tiki_trash omg! Sounds like me. I can completely relate- I even thought before I realised I might have adhd ( after my son was diagnosed with), that I was affected with Alzheimer’s. My advice to you is- get your diagnosis. Educate yourself abt it. There is plenty of strategies to help your brain to improve. All the best 2u!

@@tiki_trash That is still a problem for me and it’s the reason I finally sought help. I thought I was having early onset dementia but I had several different other issues along with it.

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That's what I'm going through as of right now! I just feel like I can't move forward I'm waiting for that aha moment but it doesn't happen and been trying to build something for myself as well and just can't seem to get there. I started accepting that something might not be right.

Sounds very much like me, in both comments.

Yes! I think the job I'm currently at is the longest I've ever stayed in one place. But I'm bored. I hate going. Switching jobs now would mean a $5/hr wage drop in most cases and likely end up in the same boat in a few years anyway. It's really frustrating. I'd like to do something different but I have a hard time sticking to things.

Thanks for sharing. Have you tried seeking help?

Your story is almost the same as mine but realised at age 50

Interesting! My last job was a nightmare with my ADHD. It made me realize that I have to get into a more ADHD friendly occupation. I was in a state of being hyper vigilant against making mistakes. Literally could not sleep or eat properly. Maybe I will try retail. Thanks for the info, it helps a great deal.

Don't feel alone with this. I am 54 as well,.I didn't figure it out until over 3 years ago. Sometimes I take solace in knowing at least I finally figured it all out. Well somewhat..😉

60 never diagnosed was just that fidgety daydreamer kid and the real sad thing is i see all the symptoms in my 82 yr old father

@@deangibbs9977 Same..I am 51 and see them in my Mom. She often says, "I think I'm losing my mind." 😔🤗

just started treatment. I am 53.

Oh no it's not modern life with its insane expectations, it's you, you have ADHD....lol. Try being nice to yourself self and deligate some stuff out of your life it might make things more manageable.

Procrastinating is a big one . Good luck ❤

Inattentivness is being unorganised genuis. An unorganisation of thought, un focused.

Do the meds help?

@@kaarinashilula2225 Yes they really do, it went from me constantly zoning out during conversations and work meetings and playing catch up afterwards, or being assigned a work task to do X, Y, and Z. and going from wait i know Y but can you repeat X and Z and then , forgetting Y. From sitting in a depressive spiral at home wanting to do so many things but not being able to do anything. They say the people that don't need medication take advantage of the meds and do a million different things at once and are going 100mph. For me, I knew i needed it when i started paying attention in conversations, feeling like i could participate, remembering work tasks long enough to at least write them down and organize them, and get my laundry done on sundays. When the hardest day to day tasks become manageable and easy. It's like putting glasses on for the first time and i can actually function like everyone else. This update is 3 months after my initial comment, my dr and i have figured out the correct dosage for me, I've been told that my performance has significantly improved at work, and I don't falter at the most mundane tasks like i used too.

So what medication are you taking that is working?

Hi

@@maggie1226 WOW! That is so awesome to hear. What meds did they end up putting you on and which kind of dosage? (daily/weekly/etc)

I quit one job because I could not keep up with the volume of email coming my way. I was so happy when I no longer had to deal with that email account.

I have ADHD too and you know what, it's come in very handy with being a single parent. My husband died. The things that used to be a problem are actually helpful with running a household and keeping up with my 5 year old. I'm very easily distracted but I also notice everything. And I can hyperfocus like a laser beam for hours. I can actually outlast people that are totally fine. I have aphantasia and no inner monologue too so that might actually help. My head is a lot quieter than most of yours.

So, I'm wondering, are you still taking the medication? Do you think medication has helped make your condition more bearable?

Yes, after a lifetime of forgetfulness, it really surprises me when people don't have decided spaces for their shit. How else will you ever find anything?

@@GoddessFirstClass2882 sry. I just noticed some peeps talked back , lol . I'm down for that. In my opinion the relative anonymity afforded a totally safe environment to be honest with others in conversation might just be my favorite social media perk. ....Then ADHD kicked in and I realized that it may have the dumbest thing I've ever said. Well, not the dumbest. I remember when I was in elementary school one time and Mrs. Martin pointed out that I was the youngest person in the entire school and I again felt lonely and isolated. Does anybody know the expression the Chinese people use when they feel lonely or isolated? " We are living in interesting times. " Do quotation marks go inside of the period or outside? ....I'll wait. Speaking of foreigners they are pretty stupid to pick a whole different language than ours. I'll bet the Chinese don't even know the period rule. I'll bet they use the word period incorrectly all the time. I shouldn't talk about periods because I believe white males go to prison for speaking of gender differences in a public forum. How did we get on public forums again? I am all for um. Heh heh... For curious " Norms" ,( those who wish they had adhd so are snooping ) , the previous psychotic break is actually a pretty good example of typical adhd minds who are relaxing their filters and allowing a free form stream of conscious thought to fall out of the front of their face...as it were. Cognitive dissonance is a more medical description these days. And hello GFC. I've only met one goddess in my lifetime and I destroyed her self esteem and threw her upon the heap of other women I have thrashed into submission throughout my life. Actually they mostly ran away screaming . See how I realized that social media WASNT the best platform for honest debate? Wow...originally I thought I would lighten the mood of sufferers but no..nope. I'm not satisfied. As God is my witness ( god...phttt ) I can't stop. And yes MRS GFC. I am old enough that the mild anorexia and energy boost that accompanies Adderall fits my needs better than the crusty meds. Ritalin. ..etc. I do not like how I feel on them...

So true...I can relate it.

I could have written this, it's me to a T

I too had a highly technical job and had to develop coping mechanisms to be able to function. My colleagues would make fun of my OCD-like techniques for sustaining focus and remembering a myriad of steps for each project, but I was very effective in my job. Now that I am retired, my ADHD is running rampant, but there are no serious consequence, other than living in chaos much of the time. I hate the term "Deficit". It's a "feature" and it makes me unique... and sometimes hilarious.

This doesn’t sound silly at all! I’ve been reading a lot of replies to this video and it’s really helped me to feel like I’m actually part of a community of people who understand exactly what I’m going through. I’m 55 and I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis a few years after I was diagnosed with depression. But it wasn’t until this year that I was diagnosed with ADHD. My doctor and I have been working on getting the meds just right for me but I can tell you that I feel 100 percent better than I did before I was diagnosed with my ADHD. it’s literally changed my life for the better. I wake up in the morning, take my meds and can focus on important things, organize my thoughts and live my life feeling good, accomplished and more confident. Before I started with these meds, and also having weekly meetings with my psychologist, I found it hard to sleep,woke up with horrible anxiety and would sometimes sit in bed for hours and hours because I felt safe. I would wait until my husband was going to be coming home from work to quickly clean up, make the bed and acting like I was fine. 5his only made me feel worthless and frustrated because I couldn’t figure out why I was this way. There are so many other things that I could write about but I feel I’ve gone on long enough. I’m just so happy and love getting out of bed in the morning to get my day started now. I would urge anyone who has had any of these feelings that I’ve mentioned, or any that I haven’t to speak to someone, reach out and get help. You can get better! I hope at least one person finds this helpful. One last thing.. I’ve even gotten back to painting and can focus on finishing things! Life is good!

@@lanaboisen4134 I was diagnosed at 42 and there has been a mourning period looking back on life. Knowing school was so hard due to inattentive symptoms and restlessness. And the motor mouth that had no stop 😅 The symptoms now project inward and the biggest change with meds for me, is seeing WHEN my brain is glitching and just refuses to think straight. Usually when I'm overly tired and sleep deprived. It's been so great feeling like time isn't flying out the window every day. I can think about some to do items then get up and do them (for the most part 😉) Have a great day!

I like that! I could parent myself. If I do such and such, then and only then do I get to do ____. Thanks!

I just bought 18 boxes from ikea so I can store my mess and then stuff will look 'tidy'......I have so many lists just to be able to remember what I was planning to do the following day....a schedule for boring tasks just doesnt work for me, I'll always justify a reason to not do the boring stuff until I have absolutely no choice but to do it. I have a friend due to come over for a board game tomorrow, I already know I'm gonna bail on that, but it's fine because I know that she has just as many issues as me. Today I had to go out and do stuff (ikea etc) and it was horrendous. I loathe going out to do stuff on a weekend, there are far too many people around and far too much noise going on.

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​@@lilgit9969 i probably have 1,000 lbs of lined paper of To-Do lists in my room, nevermind all the ones ive erased from my whiteboard over the years lol

yes and I set timers when I'm cooking lol I make notes so I won't forget things

Exactly! When we are not present this is what happens. I find there are reasons for us NOT being present. Past issues get triggered, or we dont feel safe being in our bodies or being present. Its a huge problem for humans.

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Remember: not all symptoms need to be ADHD related.

@@testboga5991 Yep I the bulk package, ADHD, Anxiety, CPSTD, Rejection Senisitvity, Depression. Also ADHD people may be prone to get sucked in gaslighting & narricistic abuse, unless they know about it, have good boundaries and safe people to do reality testing. I first heard of boundaries, people pleasing and toxic manupulations, codependency, 10 years ago and I am trying my best to learn and apply.

They feed on each other and make things worse. Once I got a bit of control over my ADHD and started getting things done, the depression and anxiety improved. However, controlling the symptoms is a daily struggle.

That probably explains a lot of sugar addiction. The dopamine hit!

Still haven't filed taxes...God I despise this disorder sometimes. If I had my refund even last week my life would be totally different...probably won't get it till next year at some point...

At what age you were diagnosed?

@@guerovillalbaso2523 I was diagnosed at the age of 43

Are you willing to share which type of medication is working for you?

I was diagnosed with autism and adhd this year at 33. I’ve met a lot of people with stories like this. We have such high social demands even as children and we learn to mask, so any deficiencies are seen as laziness and not as something we need help with.

Soo Very True. I'm not certain where to turn for a diagnosis in Rural Southern Colorado and no mode of transportation.

Hi there. May I know what lead to the late Autism diagnosis? Since some ADHD symptoms are so similar (not the same) to Autism symptoms, I'm curious bout the differences.

Yes! I remember when talking about ADHD become a bigger thing. My mom always said that’s not real that kid needs their a$$ beat. Me at 38 realizing I have ADHD and making the connections to me getting whooped often when I wasn’t trying to misbehave. I was just forgetful and I focused from my adhd. I got punished for poor grades when I couldn’t focus in class. The. I grew up thinking it was my fault I’m not successful in life .

I have ADHD. My oldest has ADHD, My 6 year old is same as you. Its been difficult with her having both she was miss diagnosed until she was 4 because the way the 2 interact. Like A hyper, talkative, social, autistic kid lol... But now we got it going. She's in school, special classes but we see a big difference. Its honestly nice seeing and adult with it because honestly when I found out I thought we would have to take care of her her whole life because how long it took here to learn things but we believe she will be high functioning

@@AM0908 I'm glad my rant had a positive effect. Just keep up the good work, teach her that she's not "wrong" being herself and help her get to grips with her gifts and limitations and I'm sure she'll make you proud one day! 👍

Yes!!! Getting stuck on a Word or Phrase….. totally! That’s my husband…. Is it really part of ADHD , which is a form of Autism??

ADHD is not a form of autism.

@@PIOBAIREACHDMHATH People can have both. It's a fairly common comorbidity with both disorders.

Yes exactly all of this is exactly my experience

Me too, I hear ya. I have a work around for the key problem tho,,,dont lock anything & u wont get locked out, leave ur keys in the ignition at home & the back door unlocked when ur out, it helps if u have decent insurance policies for if things go wrong, the missus doesn’t like my leave it open idea

I'm bad with keys. I think its important to find and develop systems, and stick to them no matter what. I use a large keychain that clips to my Camelbak. I always take my Camelbak with me, whenever I leave the house. If Im just going to the garage, I clip my keys to my belt. The rule is that these are the only two places for the keys: clipped to the Camelbak, or the belt. If they aren't on the Camelbak, I look for the last pair of pants to check the belt. No matter what I can not deposit the keys anywhere else, because if I do, the universe will just gobble them up and I'll never see them again. This disturbs my wife, because it means I'm walking around with a gigantic collection of keys at all times, but the system works. She always tries to recommend finding ways to carry a smaller keychain but it just doesn't work for me. It's much harder to lose my pants or my backpack. Don't feck with the system

I can only complete a task if I hyper focus. I experience many of the same things that you do. Among other things that are equally distressing.

Hyper focus..then I realise when the focus is broken, I am very hungry, need to use the washroom REALLY badly, still haven't touched that drink I poured 2 hours ago, my body becomes achey, my cats are hungry, sometimes I even forget to breathe. But most of the time, not much focus.

This comment describes me down to tha T.

Absolutely true of me too! Thanks !!

@@beckymm1989 thank you @Becky M, I believe ADHD or ADD is a gift, not a curse, if we follow our own path, and not in a weird incense burning kind of way, our way of thinking just offers an alternative way of viewing the world in a way most people don't think of, in everyday life 😉 😀 🌟👍💞.

I love you guys, I believe we were ...meant to be 😀💞😊🌟.

I only have one issue that I struggle with that no-one seems interested in, I can't hate anyone to a dangerous level, I can't hold grudges at all to dangerous levels, these are the 2 things I wish someone would take seriously, I am 51 and these 2 emotions were glaringly obvious at 9 years old when it started to sink in when other kids meant it when they said they didn't like someone, it was inconceivable to me 🥺😣😟🤷‍♀️ that has gotten much stronger as I've gotten older, it's very lonely 🙂😒❤️‍🩹.

Hey, that's brilliant!!!! Thank you! I will try to remember to do it now! lol

It'sis a nightmare!

Yep. Welcome to the club!

What was the outcome of the appointment with the psychiatrist?

That all seems normal to me. Isn't that the case for everyone?

@@josef5962 I got put on medication and my brain is a lot quieter now 😊

I understand this scary thing. I take some amount in comfort in knowing that whenever something happens that's in my immediate sphere of concern (vehicle in front of me braking, as an example) that I do still respond appropriately. So I'm taking in the information relevant to driving safely, but not committing it to short-term/working memory. It's taken me awhile to come to that conclusion, but only now with reading your comment and watching this video does it make actual sense WHY I've experienced it. I hope these words bring you some amount of comfort when you're experiencing those moments. Just because we're not remembering it doesn't mean we're not paying attention and being dangerous.

Same. I’ll sometimes be driving and zone out. I just don’t remember consciously driving or paying attention. So weird.

I used to drive all over Ireland for my job, which involved travelling through multiple towns and villages along the way. Many times, I be driving along a stretch or road, and I 'd realize I have no idea what the next town coming up is. When I'd get to the next town, I'd try recall driving through the previous few towns/villages...but nope. no recollection at all! Now, that's not to say I was unaware of traffic or anything else. I must have been because I'd have to have taken turns and changed routes as required, but...I was just thinking about stuff and took no mental notice of it. I used to call it daydreaming, but now after diagnosis, I realise it's adhd

It can be scary

Same even when people talks I easily forget it. My things are all missing sometimes :(( I remember when I was taking a bath I am wondering if I applied shampoo or not. Then I realized I forget to apply it. It is annoying because I get overwhelmed when so much when too much tasks need to be done.

No one can take away your determination and resilience. They are strengths - they’re your strengths. Be kind to yourself.

If you think you're stupid, its not due to your ADHD. In other words, your ADHD isn't what makes you stupid. You might but just be "stupid". Some people just have a lower level of intelligence. Try working on things that help increase different levels AND types of intelligence.

If you have the intelligence to know that you are unable to understand certain things and have the courage to admit it here you are certainly not stupid. Pick something you are really interested in (absolutely anything will do) and spend time finding out everything you possibly can about it, that will make you an expert at that thing xxx

you are smart...your brain moves faster than the average person...think of all the ideas you come up with

Read into RSD. My son was diagnosed and then after reading so much literature, I'm pretty sure I have it too. I've always been spacey and it's made my life really difficult and I've had to overcome a lot of negative feelings due to my struggles. Wishing you the best.

This is me too is there a med you take ?

@@eileendoherty2836 my doctor started with me 5mg of Adderall when I was 1st diagnosed which helped, but he wanted to try 10mg for me cause I couldn't focus to even read a page of any of my textbooks. He said I could probably go up, but I like this dosage. The problem is caffeine never effected me before (which is because it doesn't effect ADHDers) but if I drink it too late my sleep cycle is off now. They were so right about mindfulness though. I took a class in my 1st semester back to school, at 36, on mindfulness.... so so so helped with focus & helped with my hyperfixation. I still need to practice it better, but truly helped.

@@higherlove8886 thank you!!! I will totally looking to RSD.

@@eileendoherty2836 oh yeah... I am just on Adderall now... I was on antidepressants, but they just made me gain weight & be exhausted all the time. Of course different meds work for different people. But it has helped me a lot.

Same here. I understand he can’t help it but it can be tiring repeating things if they are important. Also frustrating when he says, “You never told me that” after telling him at least three different times!

Exactly 🙄

I have adhd and know that i wilp most likely forget anything that someone tells me so i immediately write all details down in my phones note app and/or calendar. If you need your partner to remember soemthing inportant, consider having them write it down in a place that is easily accesible and that they will see often so it's harder to forget

Yep. I hear you. Partners of those with ADHD must have endless patience, a decent sense of humour and a place to vent their experiences!

I am sorry to hear you feel not heared!! I have adhd. I too write down things. But it took me years to master. You writing things down for him won't mean your partner will check the place! Its best to let the adhd person find a way that works for them self's. It's work in progress. Maybe it's the time when you tell him? We often struggle when doing things in a day. Idk? Often we don't know what works for us. Thus it goes wrong. I was 22 when for the first time a agenda worked for me! I constantly lost or forgot my agenda. Then I did not write in it. Then I wrote in it but did not check! Then I checked but often too late! You can see how that would cause problems... :/. Maybe he forgets alot but it would be nice if he can believe you if you say you said something. That would help I think. We just really work differently.

moving out of my parents' place and then visiting them later made me realize just how much they bicker and how it immediately causes me to dissociate. I do think sometimes people develop ADHD as a stress response, chasing escapism and wandering thoughts trying to ignore the reality around them until it becomes the natural state.

​@@NiJo826You can't develop adhd. It's genetic and hereditary disorder that is present at birth. You either have it or you dont.

Your post gives me hope. I'm glad to know it helped you. I'm in my 30s and I've had enough of suffering from it. I need to see a doctor and get this treated. I think I've dragged my feet long enough haha

I'm menopausal and my ADHD is out of control!!!

Same! I’m in perimenopause, and my ADHD symptoms have been much worse with hormones fluctuation. I’ve cooked all my life and these days, I sometimes struggle to follow a recipe or I make dumb mistake with my food. So frustrating! Also, my brain loops now. I can ask my husband the same question 3-4 times the same morning. 🤷🏼‍♀️ He’ll be like “are you all right” and then I realize I’m looping.

@@lindab3878 I feel for you as I'm the same. Impacting my job now very detrimentally. Have you managed to get any help or anything?

Me too, if u have advice on whether I can see a professional who can help or whether hypnotherapy can work? (UK)

@@HeatherNicola Not yet. In-between drs. You??

Yup! It’s frustrating when it happens all day everyday.

It's amazing how you find things and then to proceed to forget what you were looking for in the first place.

@@tomaskey6844 It's a way of life.

My remedy for that is “do the next thing”. Don’t lock in on searching for your keys, just pick up the shoes you want to wear and the next time you gaze hits the hallway table, you will be able to recognize your keys.

just started treatment at 53. I totally empathise with your every word.

@@MrBradius123 💙

@@margmak6234 Get a new dr.

Diagnosed at 41 in early 2020. I feel like I could have written this! Sometimes I get really caught up thinking about "what if" and wondering how things would have been different. And I get angry about feeling like I wasted DECADES in some aspects of my life. I'm assuming at some point I'll have worked through it, but I'm still firmly in the the "late-diagnosis outrage" phase. The only immediate positive is I realized after my diagnosis that both of my kids also have ADHD and I can spare them what I went through.

What you say makes a lot of sense.

I experience this the same way. #pinballeffect

I also dislike "absent-minded". My mind isn't absent, it's in 400 different places and it's exhausting! The other one that makes me very defensive is "careless mistakes". I can assure anyone that my daughters and I care very, very much. It is endlessly frustrating to make these mistakes and it's distressing that some people take it as evidence that you aren't taking something seriously, aren't paying attention, or have a poor work ethic. It also makes me angry the way people weaponize the word "lazy" against people with ADHD and invisible conditions.

I like the pinball analogy. :)

Also, "losing" things because you don't remember those things exist if don't need them reqularly and they are somewhat hidden. My partner has ADHD. When packing to trip they were complaining things not fitting to their backpack. I came to look and asked why they didn't take their big backpack. "What big backpack?" they asked annoid and confuced. "The one your brother gave you. It is in you closed under your suits."..."Oh, this one! I forgot, I have this." They had had it for months, they had used it multiple times, but it had been in their closet for about 2 months... This is why different organisational strategies, that take this account, are needed for ADHD people. See through bins, clearly defined bigger cathegories etc. I would like to "hide" everything, because I easily remember what I have and where my belongings are. Likely, my partner has less stuff than I have...so I can "hide" my belongings, and accommodate also their needs where needed. :) And still our place is mainly ordered enough for me to not get stressed out.

I always forget if I sighn out in work place because I am confused I sighnout twice doese this happen to anyone ??? Please answer .

Interesting. I dig what you wrote

Instead of ADHD I prefer to call it HARD (Hyperactive Attention-Regulation Disorder). If you also have high-functioning Autism that means you're a HARD Asp.

@@jliller i would love to be able to say im inattentive and hard af