there's nothing abnormal about having a disease. it is also a chicken and egg problem that's self reinforcing. remember the cocaine and mice problem? they did this experiment where they put mice in a small cage alone with cocaine and every single rat got addicted to it; but in a nice open environment with lots of mice cohabiting together, very seldomly would a mice get addicted to the cocaine. in fact, after introducing an addict mice to a health community, over time, the addict mice will actually recover from its addiction problems what's unknown is whether society as a whole is evolving fast and the younger generations simply have no mechanisms to adapt to it. we used to live in tribal villages where everyone knew each other and relied on each other for manual work. we also lived in an environment with a lot of space. nowadays, visit any large city and you'll see how lonely life can quickly become. tokyo, singapore, new york, shanghai, jakarta, san francisco, london, dubai, etc. (but especially tokyo) all of these large cities are packed with people shuffling about; seldomly would someone ever stop to talk to you, in fact, most people live under a anonymously competitive relationship to each other where to survive in the city, it means you have to be better than the person beside you. you end up working long hours; often past 9pm every night, and often including weekends, meaning you very rarely get a chance to exercise a healthy social life. now compound this with parenting; ^ if both your parents are constantly working and no one is at home to take care of you; vs in previous generations where only 1 parent worked and families often lived together in large compounds, the kid is bound to have to adapt to living a lonelier life. in other words, there's a lot of fast moving parts to how societies evolve as we as a civilization advance. there's no 1 single cause we can point to. yes, smart phones may play a part; but i do think that's mostly a symptom not a root cause. but im sure being "depressed" isn't glamarous. nobody likes to be depressed. it's a disease, like cancer. you wouldn't say "hey, it's glorious to get cancer" these days.

You both raise very important points. I don't think you are in disagreement, though I will agree that the glamor of mental health conditions is a very controversial issue. On one hand, there is comfort in community, however, these are also very painful conditions

I definitely agreed with this for a long time.

I agree!! It’s a glamorized, trendy, attention-grabber. Awareness can be helpful but it’s gotten to be too much.

Yeah, its also common to suffer in a shitty country where everything cost to much, stress is a constant, and 80% of us are in medical debt. I kinda just assume everyone gets treatment when they can

it is what it is because I have to work full time and can't even afford a house much less some rent. When basic needs aren't being met, when there's no vacations unless you're sick (but only 24 hours a year) when homelessness is one paycheck away, its almost like that makes a whole generation depressed. Not very difficult math. I speak for the U.S.A. anyway.

At 13 (when I got diagnosed) my mindset was just wanting to get better and be happy. At 21 I just try to get through the week without kms

Me 7 years ago: it’ll get better I’ll heal Me now: I’ll never get better I’m always gonna be messed up but I’ll live with it

@@smithsmithersen1646 unlike the generations before us we don't actually believe everything we see on the internet

@@Araminta22 you are allowed to be sick just only one day in whole year?

Urban planning and city design has a big impact on where and how kids hang out and how much independence they have. I think we need a revolution in city planning from Gen Z and Millennials. I hope you’re doing well!

Social media does actually help me with my mental health. As an only child, I feel like if I never had it to look at art, nature pics, and any inspiration for stories to write, i wouldn’t be able to get through the pandemic. And I feel less alone when I see that other people having the same problems as me and I’m not just weird and crazy. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes social media is toxic and I need a break from it sometimes, but you are right that social media is not the only problem and that’s it’s not always the villain. ❤

Completely wrong. The truth is there is no social skills or social development. Hear the same exact sht from guys. I can't just go up and talk to that pretty girl she'll think I'm a serial killer or something! No btch. She won't. She won't be creeped out. It's what men have done since our earliest humans. Going out around town talking making friends etc is the foundation of human societies. We don't have the social development and hence going up to strangers to talk and befriend them seems an impossibility. Yet generations ago that was the norm. It was the only way.

People feeling irrationally threatened by teens just hanging out and having fun happens a bunch in my area and I don’t get why. My friends and I love to go outside and spend time with each other, but if it’s in a (public) area without a ton of people there already, we’ve been told to leave or be quiet, despite not rlly bothering anyone. We’ve been harassed by security in some places with the assumption that we’re messing around or on drugs or something, when in reality we’re just talking & joking w each other. I’m convinced people are against harmless fun outdoors, it literally makes no sense to me what explanations there are lol

Yes!! Very well said

Even with a good economy and all that jazz, people wouldn't have kids.

@@DatAsianGuynonsense. I’ve seen plenty of our gen that want to have a family but literally can’t cause it’s too expensive and they have to work. Wanna try again?

@@raccoon8743 what's your source? People you know, and that suddenly applies to everyone? Birthrates have been dropping for a long time, it was feminism who is the main cause. feminism started out as a way to destroy the family unit, because feminists believed that being a housewife is akin to slavery, then add on top the stuff you mentioned, sure, it doesn't help, but a good economy is not going to change what people want to do. people in the third world fuck more and have more children, despite living in shit situations, yet everyone here is running around that our economy is so terrible. I am not saying it's in a good spot, but people make it seem like it's impossible to have children.

Personally my depression comes from my Anti-Social behaviors, i love being around people, but i dont like going out and doing things around a whole lot of people at once, then i get depressed because im lonely, if that makes sense

agreed. I'd love to move out of my apartment and get a house and try to have a kid, but am forced to wait bc my wife teaches and I am still in grad school. And now post-COVID the chances of getting to start to pursue a house and pregnancy seem FAR FAR lower because of how unaffordable housing and childbirth is.

Pharma and the food companies. You all are one of the hyper consumer generations. Socially engineered to carelessly consume. Not saying older generations do not have those problems, it's just, we put limits and shame on gluttony. Fast forward, Tik Tok and Xanax..

I don't even deal with it. I am at the whims of it. But you can't say that. You can't say, "hey man, I'm completely out of control". Beecause then you're dismissed to die as useless.

​@@bibsp3556 I agree with this as someone who will only speak truth I was dealing with a pain specialist who refused to treat my pain with things that actually work for me after doing endless procedures with only limited relief when I made it clear that I was his patient and I was paying him and I had trusted him to deal with me and help me navigate this thing that I was dealing with that I've been dealing with for several several years he was very dismissive and when I said you know what I'm giving you the money because I don't want to die I said I could turn around right now and go out on the street to fix my problem on my own which I don't want to do or you could help me do it safely he immediately called me depressed I needed to go see a psychologist blah blah blah blah blahI just don't understand how that could be turned into something now completely different the truth is the truth like I understand that the government wants to put restrictions on things and mental health is a big problem in this country nobody not everybody has access to it and some people that are really struggling won't go and seek help if there's a stigma still around it and I feel like everybody could benefit from a little therapy I personally like therapy it works for me I feel like now we're in this time where there's a lot of gaslighting in the medical field and this is what brought me to this exact channel Dr Kay has been an amazing experience just listening to his information and sharing his knowledge with all of us I do feel sad about the future of like all my friends children growing up they cannot afford to buy a house even on two incomes even having children might be out the door for most people it's just too expensive to livethere is a lot of pressure there's a lot of pressure but there's also a lot of pressure on this older folks too because we don't know technology so with the ever-changing things it's kind of catching us on both ends of things and I think what happened because when I was in high school or shortly after graduating all of my friends had children usually they were all single parents they did not spend enough time with their kids and they just threw him in front of the TV so I do believe that has some kind of social impact on the way that people are raised that's just my guess I don't have children so I really can't speak on that it's just what I see and have seen I have two friends of mine that both of their kids are severely depressed and they feel very lonely and they feel stuck and they both still live at home with no ambition to try because they feel like there's no other options and they're not going to accomplish what they need to and the time that they need to also I feel like when we all have to shut down with covid nobody really knew how to handle thatfor somebody like me I enjoy being so it didn't affect me but there are people literally that depend on social interaction just like they would air none of us are all one size fits all we are all very different physically and mentally I just pray that we can turn this around at some point because the 50% rate is pretty alarming and I think people are just disassociating and lacking social skills because their heads are in their phones you know and kind of associating already like scrolling wasting time not really addressing the root of those problems right so the root of the problem for me is addressing my pain and where it's coming from but I can't get there without help from a proper doctor and I can't get there if I'm being gaslit by asking simple questions and not getting the correct information but I love this channel and I absolutely agree with your comment I just wanted to let you know that I relate

I would prefer to amend your statement, to say that some, maybe most, people need real, positive, supportive connections with other people in life.

@@doloresreynolds8145 Amend* Introverted people are drained by casual socialization, they absolutely need real, positive, supportive connections with people, just a smaller circle preferably avoiding small talk.

@@Human_Organic True.

Social media and the algorithms are just too good. Also once things go up online it is on there forever. Thank God I JUST missed the age of everyone having a camera in their pocket. Sure a have a lot of memories I wish I could watch but there are bad ones too. This is why I rarely use social media. Its all lies too... No one posts how shit their life is really. So all you see is people living these seemingly fantastic lives which is simply not true.

It's become almost impossible just to be able to get 3 friends together for coffee because of having to go around everyone's jobs. There's no universal time off anymore. People don't go home at 5pm and get saturday/Sunday off

suffering is not normal when you can stop it

Arthur Schopenhauer got it.

isnt that wierd how that correlates with the increased obsession with mental health.. and the over prescribing of drugs

Suffering is the default human condition. It's up to the individual to overcome it.

@@UTBanjo Exactly. I believe it would be worth completing that line with "POINTLESS suffering is normalized". Suffering is part of life and every being goes through entire chapters of it. It doesn't mean the whole story is that way. But suffering in vain will indeed lead to a meaningless existence and I really hope we finally wake up to the idea that it truly is up to us to decide which way we want the next page to go in the book of our lives.

I don't think that's it. I have enough self control to be supportive and act happy when people talk about getting better, and I do wish everyone around me would get better. However, having conversations about mental health opens up old wounds I've never been able to close, and it hurts so much to think that other people are getting better yet nothing I do works. It's also like I've lost a person I could talk to about these issues because instead of us supporting each other, they'd mostly be supporting me. Still, there is no good reason to drag those who've finally escaped back down. It's wonderful you've won back your happiness.

All this and everything thing in the comments boils down to the epidemic of wanting to be a victim 🤣 everyone wants to be a victim of something nowadays.

I found my faith again and broke the cycles of depression I fell into through the grace of God. And it has contributed to a rift in my friend group because I talk about how it has made me happy.

As a 17yo with mental health issues, you're completely right. I hurt the worst when I'm aware of what I'm doing to myself, but can't make myself work to get better.

And that is the truth of the matter. Chemical induced depression is real, but the idea that it isn't something we can control through making better life choices, such as getting off drugs, staying off porn, staying off the computer screens, exercising, eating right, and all the other things that older generations have done is where the newer generations are failing. There is a reason why as our society devolves into doing all the above worse and worse, that depression caused by chemical imbalances skyrockets. And that is simply because the life choices we make cause our brains to react to our lifestyles and environments differently. You don't see Amish communities suffering from nearly the same amount of widespread depression that Americans face, and that is because they live lives that are fulfilled by even the most simple of tasks and are not bombarded by lover the top dopamine hits when they are constantly on the internet or taking drugs as we are.

this comment needs to be seen!!!

Isn’t porn just the cause?

Same ive been depressed since like 13 and am 21 now also been to a few therapists over the years. My anxietys are higher than my Depression tho i dont see my depr. As a huge Problem but my anxiety yessss definitly i cant decide some important things because of it

@@IrrationalDelusion nope. When do you think was the last time I watched porn?

Cause the world is awful. Something new and more tragic than the last thing happens every single day and we are expected to just smile through it and keep on existing. I forget that it will all end one day and it seems that that is the only thing pulling me through the rough days sometimes. Knowing that there is an end to this. I wish humans couldn't want things, I wish they knew how to give. People are learning to take and reap all the benefits with little to no effort. It's all so backwards.

An addon to this is that I spend very little time on social media and am always trying to explore and do new things. Just makes it hard to not feel lonely when you don't live in a walkable city, and everything is so far away.

Duuuude this is what i Have been thinking for so fucccccking long ,you are so so right man,its like theres just bad planning overall i moved to kenya 2 years ago and i am baffled by the lack of city planning they dont call it a third world cluntry for no reason you can walk for miles and wont find a bench to sit on let alone a decent sidewalk actually there are no sidewalks for most of the part and the ones that exist are broken,no place to hangout with people other than bars where the drunks and harlots are or overly relgious gatherings at churches or temples there no in between for the normal folks ,for me in a perfect city there needs to be benches under trees ,gardens with fishes little ponds,more concentration on night life etc

City planning and design for decades took into account a male, employed 35-year-old car driver. The needs of women, children, young adults and older people were of no interest, as well as climate matters. This is why our cities are not a place of encounter and well-being.

This is so true. I'm from Peru it's not the first world but it isn't as poor as Kenya. So, we do have walkable cities and parks with benches, small town restaurants in every neighborhood and everything is walking distance. However I spent 1 year in California, USA and something that buffled me was how empty felt the cities, everything was so far away, without a car you can't do anything and there's was no way to just walk to take a coffee or icecream in a local shop.

The KZfaq channel Not Just Bikes goes into how America and Canada are essentially unwalkable and unbikable. Towns used to be built to be walkable with areas to hang out. Now every parking spot is a commodity, nothing is walkable, city space is expensive. It certainly doesn't help with kids being lonely.

The worst part is that the previous generation will never admit how good they had it and how they've ruined this generation but apparently it's all our faults.

Same here. It seems like I just have no purpose and could just do whatever. But having that many choices is only confusing. In German we call that "die Qual der Wahl" - "the torture of choice(s)". It really is.

@@willenhall12345 I was born in 1964 and I'm tried of my generation saying that to you all. We had it made with job offers and career growth, promotions were easy and as a country, we were NOT TRILLIONS in debt. I stick up for you guys are I see these retired folks, who had it easy like you said, saying you're lazy etc. It's not true and you heard it from a baby boomer.

@@ASheepNoMore Thank you

It's mostly because Genz has no social skills, etiquette or ability to connect with other human beings. It's the fault of the parents, but once you're an adult it's your responsibility to develop a personality and social skills. Take an old school etiquette and networking class in person (not virtual). They actually work. Also they do not seem to have real depression. Real clinical depression is rare and it's debilitating.

The distraction is a crucial survival tool, but getting trapped in it is hell. I’ve been trying to use it to keep myself just distant enough to keep my calm so I can gingerly climb back to reality, treating it like a volume knob. It’s hit and miss but if I can’t turn it off maybe I can make it a little more useful. In a world like this I don’t know if any of us could handle taking reality raw to the face while completely alert and present without being obliterated

Games and weed are just fine in moderation.

​@@PresidentNotSoSuremaybe. But who do you know that's *actually* moderating them? I know I wasn't.

Older millenial here, had the same problem. I didn't realize it until I was 30, I was using drugs as an escape from the stressors that I had. Once I stopped, and started to actually address the problems, suddenly the desire for weed and alcohol were gone. Funny how that works.

C1ique, I'm gen x, and did all those things myself, it's nothing new, boomers did it in the 60s, Victorians could just buy what they wanted in the chemists. It's a very old behaviour.

OOF :( :( yeah!

i am alone but i am not lonely

because i have a life other than social media

​@@altaccount9839facts

turn your depression into disappointment in failed circumstances and friends who failed you and put the emphasis back on doing things yourself with new and people who are improvements on the old ones who you ditch and better planning and then put the responsibilty on your own back....because it always comes back to that...there is a difference...

Christ is the answer tbh, I know most ppl don’t want to hear it but He is the only person I’m living for and I’m the happiest I’ve been. Give God a chance, what have you got to lose yk

I may have to make a video on this topic. But hope really does change things

Actually they're not sure it's a chemical imbalance, and they're not sure how SSRIS work. These are common misconceptions. Another painful misconception is that you have for some reason choose between medication and therapy. For people with severe, debilitating depression, medication is a way to make you ''healthy'' enough to be able to handle going to therapy. You're supposed to take your medication, which will elevate your mood and energy levels, and you'll be able to do things like going to therapy, working out, eating better, being creative and then you'll get better. You're not supposed to suffer going to therapy when you're say, suicidal, and you're not supposed to just take your meds and not do anything all day. Of course there are valid reasons why people do either, i.e. money, but it's far from optimal treatment.

@@phishcatt instead of typing all this garbage that means absolute zilch for the universe why dont you go work out,meditate,and hug your family. That would literally make you happy. 3 things

Jeez that's a powerful quote right there.

Just because there is a chemical imbalance doesn't mean your actions don't have an effect. It IS something you can change or atleast effect. That's also how psychotherapy. There are many different mechanisms which can possibly improve ones mental health like positive reinterpretation just to name one. Some behaviors have a negative impact on ones mental health and life and can be overcome even if it's hard.

I would have assumed an inability to be inside your own mind was more of a Zoomer problem...hence TikTok, KZfaq shorts, and other fast format, rapid fire dopamine blasts.

cringe

​@connor3284 its more of an escape from inner thoughts, because without a good outlet or good inputs the thoughts merely fester and perpetuate the negativity that created those thoughts in the first place

@@peppino3609🤓

We should hang out. I bet we'd be friends.

Im currently doing summer school in highschool and my teacher brought up how our class was really quiet and also mentioned how we have nowhere to hangout. He also figured out that a decent amount of us don't try and go out of our way to hangout either and I have no clue what to make of that

Nah man. This generation is hopeless because we aren't allowed to grow up. Why work, if you can't afford the bare minimum?(food) Why learn, when there are no jobs for young people that doesn't involve working for free or even have to pay the employer to take you in. We aren't allowed to afford our own places. We aren't allowed to have a family. We are stuck to be teenagers and our only hope to even get a chance at life is, if someone in the family dies and your name is in their will. Not only that but we lived thou 2 regressions 1 pandemic while our neighbor land is in total war.

a lot of this sounds like purely an American thing, in australia we were goofy as hell and no one cared as long as we weren't bothering people, my parents left me alone for the most part since they didn't understand me but they at least knew that stopping me from doing what I like will just make me more depressed.

@@SweetXoXMira bruh... I can't believe it but you're right!!! And take that in... I'm 21 and I can't believe I've already lived through TWO recessions😅 no wonder gen z is like this 😢

@@theoneandonly4464 I sincerely hope this is satire

Your not alone 😘

man you are so cool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! also Jesus loves you!!!!!!!!!!!

I can tell you're not from Germany 😅 😢

Some demographics are treated worse than dogs by the medical community. Institutional racism. Kaiser Permanente is the worst.

@@allesdurchprobiert That's scary if I ever go to Germany! 😒

I'm a medical professional and I don't know anyone who doesn't think the healthcare system is a mess

@@tomisaacson2762 just wish more would be done to actually change it for the better

It's a for profit industry, of course it's a mess.

​@@cameronb7161Oh please, you want Canada's healthcare? You want to be told to unalive yourself? But hey! At least it's free!

@@Clown_the_Clown you may think it's ok to make people pay for life saving medicine, but I happen to be a decent person.

True.

Very good point. I was raised with life growing and thriving all around me most especially physically and spiritually and naturally and it was respected and appreciated. I am Gen X. All 7 of my siblings are Baby Boomers. My parents were from the Silent Generation and old enough to be my grandparents. I raised 2 Gen Z daughters. I did with them what was done with me. I had them out in nature a lot and showed them the little bugs as we watched them work. We watched animals and cared for our pets. Played in the creek. Camped. Campfires. Sleept in the yard with no tent so we could see the night sky. Swam in ponds & lakes. I showed my kids the meaning in as many things as I knew how. I kept orb spider webs in the shed doorways because they had a job and I explained that job to my kids etc. I taught them how very many of those so called "weeds" were edible and madicinal plants that we must use with greatfulness and respect and try not to over pick them. To not waste them. .........it goes on and on...... And while I did/do all of that, I was/am, an imperfect screwed up person who has made my share of mistakes, but I let Unconditional Love in and It came back out for my daughters just as my parents did for me. I loved being raised that way and my friends liked to come spend the night so they could do fun things too. I wasnt spoiled. I knew my limits and I knew the extra chores and groundings Id get for allowing myself to act up badly which is why I chose to respect my freedom over being grounded while having to do all those extra chores for choosing to behave badly. We were poor and could not afford to go traveling or to buy high priced gadgets but I didn't seem to noticed it much. Some of my friends that had rich parents and had the fancy gadgets and toys still enjoyed coming to my house to do the free stuff because it was fun playing hide & seek in a corn fields and many other fun stuff outside running wild in nature or being goofy in the house during extra cold winter days. My older nieces and nephews were just a few years younger than me and loved spending the weekends or summers at our house as we were growing up because there was life and freedom and respect. They were Gen X like me. My Gen Z great-neices & nephews loved coming to my house and setting their gadgets aside to catch minnows in the creek, climb the mulberry trees to pig out, make mud pies and eat fresh from the garden or fresh wild greens along with my Gen Z kids. Now my Gen Alpha great-great nephews & niece are and or will be getting to enjoy Unconditional Love and the best of humanity as well and when the worse of humanity comes along hopefully the compassion they are being raised with enables them to have the strength to keep moving forward without giving up and wallering in depression. I'm serious, find YOUR thing that you personally have the ability to do and if it is safe and legal to do so then go for it! Be young at heart! Be the You that You were born as and share that with others. For examples, if you have a knack with card playing then have friends over to share snacks and play wild funny games of cards while yall cut up laughing.......just an example. Or have bonfires and Karaoke.........just be YOU and make the best of it. I don't have the answers. I'm only saying what helped my parents when they were children, and myself and my kids and their cousins. To each his or her or their own though. I think kids, well any age of person, usually don't mind what it is just as long as the action being done together is shared, brings about a shared goal & laughs etc. Ages & generations then lose their boundaries and humanity combines & includes & grows with positivity & strength like it should. Unconditional Love has the ability to do that. To respect life in all its many forms from the little web making spider all the way up to the giant big whales in the ocean is an important life long learning tool to have in my opinion no matter the generation. Life 💜 See, feel, love and acknowledge life from within and all around you in all its many forms. Blessings to you. 💜🙂🌻 🐕🐈‍⬛🦝🦊🐅🐴🦌🦬🐄🐖🐑🐐🐪🦙🦒🐘🦛🦏🐇🐿🦫🦔🦇🐨🦥🦦🦨🦘🦃🐓🐥🐦🐧🦅🦆🦢🦉🦩🦚🦜🐦‍⬛🪿🐊🐢🦎🐍🐳🐬🦭🐠🐙🦞🐌🦋🐛🐜🐝🐞🕷🕸🌹🌷🪻👨🏾‍🦽🚶🏽‍♀️🚶🧑🏿‍🦯🕴🏿💃🏾🕺🫄🏼👶🏾👨🏼‍🚒🧕🏽🫂 🌲🌳🌴🌵🌾🍀🍁🌿☘️🌱🪴🌺🌻🌼🌷

Hug my friend, while i am more millenial then gen z (boomer parents, grew up with millenial siblings, homeschooled too) Things are shit rn and they just seem to be getting worse, something needs to change, and eventually it will change, how? I dont know, but we gotta hold on.

Truth.

So you understand the cure, right? And you could influence others in your generation to stop making excuses and get off the phones and go actually DO SOMETHING.

This hit pretty close to home, pun not intended. My home life is trash, I had a ton of mental health crisis’ and my family was indifferent at best and verbally and emotionally abusive at the worst parts. Now, five years later, ttying to stay sober, have a boyfriend acorss country who I want to see again, working dead end job after dead end job without any rest, and I’m beginning to hit my fucking breaking point again. If it weren’t for my boyfriend giving ne hope and reminding me of basic things that stress and poor health have been making me forget as of late. I need a weekend off, but lately I can’t have the time and Imm still stuck around hose who treated me like dirt when I was at my lowest, and they can’t understand why I snap at them (and only them) every time they speak to me, yet I’m the nicest person to everyone else. By the way, rhis is something they asked an old coworker about, and his answer was the same answer I gave them before that: “Because he likes being treated like a normal person.”

Big oof.... I still feel lonely despite having friends

What does it do

What are the effects you found?

I have no friends. I only have my parents, who I live with.

The phone and social media partially causes the loneliness too...

@@halcyonacoustic7366 It doesn't, that's just blaming tech for a structural problem. Our currently capitalist society is BUILD to create loneliness, overwork and individuality, tech is not "partially" responsible for this.

​@AlehGea nope, capitalism isn't to blame for being depressed and lonely, capitalism has been around since your grandparent's time and the grew up way better than us. being on our phones and being unproductive all day combined with depression and loneliness being romanticized is the reason everyone feels that way

@@koulouri352 capitalism progressively gets worse. we are living the worst part of it, and the most recent generations will only feel it worse. so, yes, it can be blamed. for example, mass produced housing creates mazelike suburbs with nowhere for youth to hang out unless they walk for hours.

​@@AlehGeaYou are in the denial stage, just sayin

i mean youd have to be completely devoid of experiences and thoughts to not be depressed in todays society

I don't understand. If loneliness is so pervasive among gen z, why dont you all just hook up?

​@@HisbeautifulTruth-nl1ch because while hooking up can take the edge off it's only momentary and then it comes back even worse than it was before you hooked up.

@@Kevinleehiltonjr I don't mean "hook up" in the street sense. I mean lonely people should make company with each other, especially if you're part of a recognized group.

@@HisbeautifulTruth-nl1ch well they would have to find a group with like minded individuals who are all in the same general vicinity. And that is a tall order these days.

Agreed we got sucker punched as soon as we stepped into the world.

America is the one bad apple that spoils the bunch.

There is massive upheaval in the world. I believe it's necessary in order to unearth all the latent evil in the world so people become aware that they have been lied to by all major institutions for decades. For this reason, I believe we will rise from the ashes, by grace. 💙

@@catzbestfriend I hear you. 2008 wiped out many millennials. But Gen Z is dealing with way more as young people.

this exactly. how are we supposed to find a way out of chronic hopelessness when there's less and less every day to hope FOR? I can improve my self-talk and change my habits, but I'll still have to sit by helplessly as everything goes extinct and every lovely place in the world gets paved over or paywalled. it's not really a mystery why any of us are depressed. it's just easier to pretend like *we're* the broken ones.

You've given me some good insight on how I might one day tackle my toddler's social life when he finally gets to school. Thank you for that. Hoping things continue to look up for you! Try not to let social anxiety and awkwardness stop you from making friends that you deserve 🤘🖤

This! It’s not that the new gadgets are bad per se, it’s just that we are using them in a suboptimal manner.

The thing about social media that people don’t talk about is that it is far easier to meet people you have something in common with. This is often a reason people cannot connect with those around him. Also, social media is now a stand in for so-called third spaces. When I was young, we had places we could go to hang out with friends. But teenagers have been policed out of those spaces, like malls and parks.

At some point you have to be willing to be awkward or whatever discomfort to get through it to experience connection. Honestly, you’re going to be awkward anyway so may as well ask them what they’re interested in.

Such a good point. It’s hard to get close to people when Gen Z thinks that your therapist is the only one who should hear your problems. If you try to get real or vulnerable you’re accused of trauma dumping

​@@evangeline9052I befriended a girl who was going through relationship troubles and literally just helped her get the confidence to make choices for a week, and she told me I was a better listener than her best friend. I felt the compliment hard, but also worried about her friends, so I invited her to meet my friends sometime.

It wasn't exactly modeled well for you

Huh, small world. However, in my place, im just the support that is a regular favoritism. Can you stop favoriting people? I am tired and I don't like struggling as support. But as the saying goes (for me anyways), "Im your support. You don't need to help me, I can struggle enough to get by. I'll listen as I do my job for the amount that requires me".

Millennials are in the same boat 😭

Thank you for sharing that wisdom, I'm sure many others will benefit 🙏

How can we love the world when it is so broken or believe in a god when there are very little valid reason to believe He exists..if any..all due respect but the world is is lonely and I've lost too many people..and thst doesn't offer much comfort to many unfortunately..fine if does for you. It let's face it it doesn't for a lot of ppl

@@leif1075 then you haven't found Him. That loneliness is the homing device for heaven. The world is the way it is because God gave us the freedom to choose. We makes choices that bring us peace and happiness or choices that bring us pain and despair. The choices others make can bring us pain also. I wish you well. Namaste

I applaud you bc I am a 68 year old woman, who is also a Christian. I love my “me” time, BUT I don’t want to be lonely. There is a difference between being alone and lonely. I’ve learned through life that happiness is a temporary feeling and joy is inward peace. I find joy in giving my time to others, spending time with my family and helping others who are less fortunate than me. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy too at times, but it’s not a lasting feeling which is fine, but having joy is my true sentiment and I find joy bc of my relationship with God, He gives me that joy, He gives me grace, He gives me mercy and for all those, I am eternally grateful to Him. Thank you for sharing your story too, and may God Bless you 🙏🏻❤️

@@reppi8742 All due respect that is just the standard glib argument. If God existed and really cared, He or She wouldn't let good innocent ppl suffer, not even for the punishment of the few bad ppl..don't you see and agree agree that?? Hiw cna you still believe when God dint save children from death or innocents from dying from hurricanes or tsunamis or the coronaviris or other natural disasters?

Dam that is sad!

Exactly why we need God, but apparently that’s bad too. Of course people will slowly die.

What do you expect when things like community, purpose, national identity and cohesion have been destroyed and replaced with hedonism, individualism and money and material worship?

lol

it's funny to watch doctors prescribe useless shit though, I laugh at it :)

Thanks for your comments and perspective on this. We should be hearing more from the medical class such as yourself on a more frequent basis.

it's a large factor to consider

Today's society has replaced physical and mental connections with digital ones

​@@TheEncouragementKidit's the only factor to consider. Find the cause of your depression and fix it. It goes away. Much better than taking meds for your depression

@@dimitrijekrstic7567 Sorry I can't overthrow the billionaire class or reverse climate change by sheer force of will

I as a young person thinking too much, I find comfort that it is malignant side effect of our social evolution from animals, it is neither good nor bad that not everyone is in touch with eachother, we just seem to be caught up in this wirlwind of Globalisation, people moving here, there, without the internet, people would surely move closer together with people they know out of loneliness, hopefully we can work around this problem

He's a grifter monetising people's suffering

@@ver4135 that makes no sense, he’s the only person in the video, he can’t by definition be “monetizing on other people’s suffering”.

i cannot express my graditude for this guy

@@ver4135 If you see a fire in a crowded theater and shout "fire," are you trying to help people avoid injury, or just being a hero for the attention?

Most doctors have that attitude. It's just that most have a hard timing coming up with the right answers.

@@frozenpizza5242 You've encountered all those problems? Man, you have the worst luck, since most doctors actually do care for their patients. I'm sorry you keep running into the bad ones.

@@SonGoku-tp8gb Never met one that wasn't more interested in selling pills. I think YOU just got lucky.

The issue is that they are DOCTORS, therefore they practice science, therefore most of the human population of earth immediately discards their opinion in favor of the opinion of the god of their choice (right up until they show up in the ED with an ailment their god can’t help them with). So it goes…

Yes but big pharma doesnt want that

If you may, may I ask what exactly caused you to spiral down? It can’t just be the missed internship, the summer time boredom, and phones can it?

@@Snazzy12341 Completely forgot about this video and comment and glad you replied! Tldr: Probably a combo of working as a nurse for 9 years as an introvert with social anxiety, dealing with nasty people, possible long COVID, and some ADHD symptoms from childhood that worsened over time. Probably a combo of those things and others. I'd worked as a nurse for almost 9 years. I'm naturally an introvert and have some social anxiety, so in a way, I think working in a field where you have to be personable was good for me, but it was so draining at the same time. Dealing with angry patients, doctors yelling at you for waking them up at night when there's an emergency, and family members blaming you for Mom's decline when she's had uncontrolled diabetes for years and they haven't visited her for 5 years, that was especially taxing. I didn't work in a trauma unit, but you still see some awful things. When I worked ICU, I had an unexpected patient death that I still wonder about... was there something I missed or should've done differently? Also, I got COVID for the first time a few months before that summer-time spiral. It was a pretty mild illness for me, but I can't help but wonder if I had some long COVID going on. During those 4 months of summer, I didn't _feel_ depressed. I wasn't sad. Just a complete lack of energy no matter how much I slept. And I've dealt with issues of slow processing, difficulty concentrating, poor working memory, anxiety, etc since I was a kid. It just never appeared to be a serious problem since I did well in school, but I think the problem only got worse in adulthood as I never learned how to compensate. There's probably nothing scientific about what I'm about to say, but it was like my brain was so exhausted and so burnt out, and because I didn't have anything going on during that time, it took that as an opportunity to rest and shut off for awhile. I definitely wouldn't advocate for doing nothing but watching TV and looking at your phone for 4 months, but I think I needed a long break from everything. Thanks for asking! Sorry for the long response. Feels good just to put that out there.

How can he contribute use of Prozac or speech patterns to loneliness? There are too many confounding variables to determine a causality. That is unless he knows of some research I don't. I didn't hear him state a source.

@@sandollor He is the source. He studied it and he is the medical proffessional. Are you too?

@@Teuwufel He noticed it, he did not "study" it. It's a really big difference. In casual observation there are no objective measurement/operationalization and standardization. Observations from experts can be powerful inspiration for peer reviewed research studies, but still are prone to individual-level observation/ perception/ decision making errors and biases and should not be equated with scientific facts.

I am a baby boomer 2 recent surgeries. Recent widow. All these factors/ sufferings shared among many generations. Jeanne (retired RN)

@@wendyvg1225 I'm glad to see someone with knowledge. This is right, observation by an expert/authority, etc. is not at all the same as scientific research or peer reviews. Stop using and supporting authority bias! Which is unnecessary applied in the comment before.

Not to mention the rejection that frequently happens to someone trying to interact with others. People are so insensitive to others, saying to vulenerable hurting people they just need to socalize, yet sociaity is pushing those indiviuals away because they are considered awkward.

​@@DaniGirl6for real. I didn't have any friends growing up because everyone was an asshat that treated me as an outcast. I would sit by random people at lunch, get rejected and got told to sit somewhere else. I always ended up sitting at an empty table. I had selective mutism so I was treated like a freak of nature.

Now thats bs. All my loneliness was overcome by going on a journey of self discovery (gym, diet, getting out of the house). Oh, and getting a girlfriend helped a lot too.

it takes one person to start. I was always taught to never leave anyone out (an idea that made introverts very perplexing to me- turns out some WANTED to sit by themselves at times!) in my lifetime I have only ever left one person out (I felt absolutely terrible and apologised, I am not an affectionate person and she wasn't the biggest fan of personal space, assuming she was my age (14 at the time) I got annoyed and ignored her, turns out she was a few years younger than me which made me feel even worse) if everyone was taught that mentality from a very young age the world would be a better place. That attitude saw my friendship circle grow with very interesting characters, but none remained lonely and most learnt to accept I was a crazy out there nut job who couldn't care less what anyone thought- truth be told I couldn't be happier, who would want to live in a box, conform to "popular" ideals and be the cause of someone else's loneliness to uphold an image you'll cringe at as you grow older and wiser? waiting for society to change won't work, changing society one person at a time will change the word.

​@@Aussie-426you're a true mvp

Fr in this economy. Im 19 living alone fresh outta high school, gas and groceries are out the wazoo and housing don't even get me started😤😤

When people are worried about maintaining basic necessities it's hard for them to relax and enjoy life. Who cares about going to the beach or watching the sunset when you have a surprise medical bill you need to pay or the car repair bill that was unexpected and more than you budgeted for.

What do you expect when things like community, purpose, national identity and cohesion have been destroyed and replaced with hedonism, individualism and money and material worship?

I feel you I had a similar experience and I feel like it wrecked my college experience. Just remember though you have your whole life ahead of you, its a marathon not a race. Take your time there is so much more to life than college.

Same here, lost all my college friends, creating a support system for yourself, can be so hard depending from where you live, your income, your mental health, I think our generation is just missing so much help in that department. I'm 21 I don't have any semblance of a social life, it's quite sad.

I see your point but transitioning to adulthood isn't mere a process of one or two years. something that took me way too long to realize. I'd argue that it took me well into the mid 30s and btw: I still have contact to only three ppl from my old university even though I studied in normal times

I don't know if it was my rebellious side but when they told us to lock down and socially distance, my friends did the complete opposite.

I got out of college in 2014, and it was identical then. Just like after HS, without school in common, people go their separate ways.

I tried to explain this to an American (I'm half African half English and currently living in the uk) and they told me there's something wrong with me for thinking like this. They said it's because I have too much so I fetishise other countries. 😂

I think it's the effects of capitalism, our model is now slowly dying so we're falling with it. The years of the American dream are gone forever 🤷

Me too but I moved to U.K.! Never felt more lonely in my life..people here just seem so superficial

Social media, not the country in my opinion is the reason. I’m an American and I don’t feel lonely, far from it. I get out with my friends and have many social support, like church.

​@@DanaeLirael - you're experiencing culture shock. Welcome to the realisation that different cultures are actually different in starkly unsettling ways. As a brit myself, i'm interested to know what feels superficial to you as it's just normal to me.

Do you have an intimate relationship? Do you have a few close friends you can share your problems with? Do you have close connections with your family? And do you have any sort of community you feel welcomed by and respected in (career, church, neighborhood, hobby group, etc)? If the answer to all 4 of those is not yes, we feel lonely. If the answer to all 4 of those is no God help you. Please call someone who loves you today and talk to them about your life and future.

@@jordanneedscoffee my answer to all 4 is yes, im still lonely because its more complicated than 4 simple questions.

​@@themagicman120yeah, it's not just a lack of connections, but emotional emptiness that you can't talk about

Girl, Jesus. Nothin’ but Jesus. That’s the void. You’re loved.

​@@jordanneedscoffeewhat are you crazy? No one has intimate relationships anymore

Oooooooooooooof sad

Try to find yourself own or two of those real serious friends, best of luck to you.

having three friends is pretty good dude. thats not bad.

Same here, but i have only 2

@@areyoutheregoditsmedave yeah, but they're the type you need to keep your eyes on. I'm still not 100% sure if they're not a theft or snitching hazard. I have made several really reliable friends in the past, but without fail, they always end up moving away. Either to get away from family, take a job opportunity, or join the damn Marines. 😭

I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope your life only gets better from now on ❤

That's exactly what happened to me about 10-15yrs ago. They could not accept I didn't have GAD, and social anxiety disorder without depression! Finally, the tide hath turned and yet...

Same. Why aren't there any meds for anxiety yet?! (i know there are, but like benzos which are highly addictive)

Why did you take them then?

Same here. Started as general anxiety due to my heart condition and palpitations I was feeling at age 23. My mom and grandmother both had anxiety too. Then they had to change it to Xanax and I have been on it 19 years from Panic attack disorder, but I am not depressed either. I get nervous and worked up too easy. My doctor said my fight or flight response is high. I tried to get off this twice..then the panic begins again.

Have you tried volunteering anywhere? It's a good way to meet people and feel better while also making a difference for others

🥲 Be well🤍

🫂

Even just a comment can bring people closer together, I hope you have a wonderful day and never give up! Keep being you

30, same... I barely go outside anymore. My uncle in his 60's recently reached out to me and admitted the same. He's usually very quiet so I was shocked, and delighted to hear from him. We've been texting a lot more and it's been nice. I hope you have something like this in your life my friend.

In feel the part with the groceries so much. Also when I buy a vase of a candle or something for decor. I think those are the only times I feel dopamine or something, I changed from one trip a week to several small so I have something that pulls me outside my flat.

I really wonder what mental state you are in, that groceries is the only sort of fun you can have

When you are depressed it’s hard to get yourself to think of new things to do which might bring you happiness, let alone try them. If you are lonely but you would rather stay in bed than go out and socialise, you can start by getting active on Twitter and following people who say things you agree with or who share your interests. Reply to their tweets, if they like them you will get a hit of dopamine. I moved to a new town and had no friends or acquaintances so I got a job at a petrol station just so I could meet a wide range of people and get to know some of them over time. I made new friends, some were co-workers and others just regular customers. Talk to strangers like you know them well, they will often do the same back, it will help you feel less lonely. Good luck!

It’s so sad that the God who sent his only son to die for us and free us from every bondage has been replaced by the modern humanistic juggernaut. Don’t feel hopeless, this is the perfect place to be to receive the life changer!

​@Jeweled Skeleton Have been there for a while, its fucking awful lol

that happened because right before youwent unconsiuos you heard your mother deny your fear and anxiety. i am struck with an inability to understand why she would not want to comfort you? i am so sorry that happened. Maybe you and your mom are past due for a sit down, bonding conversation. i dont know your story, and im not asking, or trying to pry. You should def. talk with your mom though.

Mum refused to hold your hand? Hello 🚩🚩🚩

@@crescendo2441 More than likely due to either a misunderstanding, ie her thinking the doctors are simply asking if she'd like to come over, not that the kid requested it and not wanting to potentially get in the doctors way or some phobia of surgery or anxiety about it immobilizing her. Unless the parent has issues outside of this incident that is. Also sometimes in the heat of the moment people behave strangely, I agree talking about it would be best.

​@@senoraankhi5980 Maybe some phobia? I know that it can get pretty serious for some.

​@@lightskitty sounds like an excuse

the hardest part of being alone is moving a fridge.

​@@JunkBondTraderdon't even get me started on pianos

Yeah. You put it in a way that's different, but relatable. Being lonely like this, it's almost like you don't exist at some point. People all around do, but you don't. They have people and people have them. But for you, people miss you more than you miss them. That's a terribly sad feeling. I don't know if I'm making sense.

@@ksh2596 you and this comment are making complete sense and it actually made me realise how i felt recently so thankyou :) and i 100% agree its a detrimental feeling and it really hurts n affects you

I was really a lonely kid a few years back, and even suicidal at a young age, I'm doing better now but it just hurts my heart seeing other kids who are younger than me go through depression and feeling so alone and helpless, not knowing how to properly take care of yourself is just the worse 😕

I mostly agree with this, there's just a bit I'd like to add. While distractions sometimes hinder finding the root of the problem, sometimes if you know the root problem but are unable to do anything about it due to situations out of your control; distractions might be the only way to make it through until there's something you CAN do about the problem.

Yes, and distractions keep people away from processing their feelings and emotions. Sometimes the issue is not about finding the purported "root" of this or that problem, but rather, that there are emotions, somewhere inside, that have remained unprocessed. Distractions serve to make those unprocessed emotions virtually unreachable

@@alexiskitt6989that’s a more unusual circumstance. 99.9% distractions serve to escape uncomfortable feelings.

I know the root of the problem. No one cares. If you tell them they literally hate you for it. So what can you do?

@@CD-vb9fi If your "root cause" is anything other than the fact that corporations have destroyed our ability to have a social life for profit, that corporations have invaded our government and ruined our shot at a future, then you're fucking wrong.

Have you researched neuroplasticity. You can change some things in your thinking because you can rewire your brain. I have struggled with severe anxiety and have other things going on, but have found relief in some areas, by rewiring my brain. Dr Caroline Leaf has some good basic videos on how to do this, but you choose one thought at a time and spend 7 minutes a day for at least 21 days going over the new thought. I have done this with fear, and self hatred with great relief. I used Scripture because you need to believe it and I believe Scripture. You change the things you are saying to yourself all day long. It has helped me a lot.

whats the cause?

Depression at 11 sounds heavily, heavily made up.

I do not trust Psych Docs period... and usually they are rarely helpful. Please look into nutritional therapy. Including Naturopathic Supplements. In so many cases, it is deficiencies which do not show on blood labs for many reasons. Vitamin D, B complex, B1 Essential fatty acids, magnesium, gut imbalances, so many deficits cause anxiety, depression. The gut biome is so important in yhe proper function of our bodies. Cut out sugars, gmo, caffeine, sodas, dyes, preservatives. Exe, sun, grounding with the earth, chanra balances. Our bodies are miraculous and can heal given the right things and treatment. Don't let them label you... don't believe their bs and let them give you pills... Don't give up.. 🙏

@@williamsalgado9738 it's a disorder

Did you try walking? Walking around a track a for an hour or so helps me to sleep well.

@@riproar11 what? Obviously, they felt rested, because their brain was asleep, not alert.

​@@underated17 Most people who resort to foot surgery, do so because they can't walk. I know I'm just recovering from foot surgery a week ago. I've had less pain in my foot this last week than I have for the last several years. I'm looking forward to being able to walk again.

@@riproar11 YOU KNOW THAT A STUPID QUESTION IDIOT: SHE KNEW SHE WAS ASLEEP,, THAT WHY SHE SAID SHE WANTED TO TELL THEM SHE HAVENT RESTED THAT GOOD IN DECADES,,,, WHAT KIND OF QUESTION IS THAT DID YOU NOT KNOW THAT AGE 55 DISRESPECTFUL

Me too! Best sleep ever!

I'm a millenial. Graduated hs in 2012. The depression was there but god we didn't talk about it. With close friends maybe but it was still the quiet unsaid thing. It showed up in quiet places. The vodka hidden in the broken panel of the girls bathroom half empty, the bomb threats in what was later found to be a desperate attempt to get out of an AP test four times, nobody trusting the counseler after the nice one was arrested for-, angry students, tired students, failing students. I used to feel so unnerved by you guys making these jokes. You talk freely about what we couldn't. It's an uncomfortable generational timeline of denial->silence->whispers->morbid coping mechanisms->???? that needs to exist in order for us to get to a place where we actually get help.

@@iluvmochipolandn my school got away with a lot of shit. A lot of staff got caught/arrested, or fled over the years. High school counselor and junior high principal arrested for pedophilia, superintendent fled to Colorado after getting caught laundering money. Junior high math teacher I had, physically abused an autistic kid later on, went to the next town over to teach there. Since middle school, my district had about 28 bomb and shooting threats. Yes, I kept count. I also got bullied a lot and once even got stabbed because everyone always kept pocket knives (even though it was against the rules, not that the school cared), and the school threatened to sue me and my parents when we tried to press charges on the students. Then at one point a kid who picked on me a lot actually killed a kid with his friend. They were at some center for kids I guess? Not an orphanage or asylum, just some kind of place. I don't actually know what it did. But anyways, him and a friend fled with a younger kid, then joked about killing him, claiming "no one would find the body". Beat and strangled them until death, and then went back to the center. They bragged about their murder and ultimately got arrested. They thought it was funny during their court case. They were eventually given life in prison with no parole. I feel like the school should've been partly to blame, they let kids do whatever, it was a free for all. I'm just glad I graduated with good grades, because I wanted to get away as soon as I could. I think it's dumb how schools are like "oh this is a safe haven for kids, come to us because we care", but I can't think of a single example when a school district anywhere in the US actually did anything for anybody. Schools drove kids to suicide and didn't bat an eye, until after they suicided and suddenly they were like "oh we didn't know, we're sorry".

I got made fun of for being suicidal in hs in 2008. Being suicidal should not be this common. It’s so worrying and i know social media has a large part of it. I got better the more offline i got.

@@JackFoxtrotEDM Holy Shit I'm glad I never have to deal with that shit for a long time... hopefully I won't if I have to reincarnate either

@@JackFoxtrotEDM holy shit what kinda school did you go to, sounded like utter hell

There's still a lot of old cultural stigma about acknowledging personal issues, especially mental health stuff, so we often learn to hide the things that are bothering us - even from ourselves. I went about a decade thinking I was fine, I even denied having depression when I was asked, because I genuinely didn't realize how depressed I was getting. I ultimately didn't take it seriously until I started thinking about suicide. So basically, if you suspect something might be off, probably at least talk about it with someone you trust. Therapy is also great even if you don't end up really needing it - assuming you can find a therapist you like at least.

Yes, also there is still good out there. It will find you.

eat balanced proteins leave sugar lower carbs loose weight move around fix vitamin deficiencies use active forms of B1 B12 b6 and complex body can fix itself if it gets natural food without processing it's not a rocket science

It's true, the end is near.

Western civilization decline is when uhhh, when brown people and tfw no gf…. very true….

👍🏻 correct diagnosis

That's so heart wrenching. I'm so sorry. I wish I could hug you. Hang in there, try to be the person you need for others, try to meet new people. Just hang in there, it'll make more sense eventually.

@@vacafuega 😂

On another side of this: Why are members of Gen Z getting general anesthesia for a minor surgery like wisdom teeth removal? I had some removed with only local.

@@paolo3349 as someone who got sedated for my procedure; its scary lol

​@@paolo3349depends on how the tooth came or the direction its going. I have a tooth going close along the nerve in my left jaw, so they have to put my under for it. My wife had all 4 protruding so it was local and they took then out while she was awake. Its different person to person.

YEP. The psychiatric industry needs a massive recall of how they do business and manufacture drugs. It's a revolving door and they don't even know what the drugs are doing to the patients nor do they care. They see everybody as having the same state in life and ignore any bad reactions to what they're prescribing. I'm sure there are good ones, but I've come across way too many bad ones and the methodologies are what make this industry terrible. The numbers don't lie: depression and suciide rates are the highest they've ever been in neart history.

"Chemical imbalance" is total BS. It isn't measurable. They don't do any sort of baseline workups.

you know what miffs me? People like this doctor who pretend as if money isn't the problem, gen z has nothing work is life for them sitting on that chair is stressing them out because they can't afford to live in the bay area!

psychiatrists being psychiatrists...

I was on SSRI for like 3 months and then I quit it myself. Everything came back but at the back of my mind I knew something was wrong and that it can be better. I think introspection helped me a lot. I wonder if a lot of people have done this, because maybe past generations did have all the issues but they just naturally got over it? Like an aching joint heals... Or at least you find a non-medical way to reduce the pain. But these days, the culture is just all about being reliant on something and giving excuses. I don't think this generation is any more sick than anyone before, I think its just the first generation to draw attention to it and have conscious knowledge about their issues. So since everyone speaks about mental health instead of scarcity of water and grain, we are mis-led.

People pre ww2 actually lived a hard life and experienced true suffering in the US, that was before a bunch of nut job doctors got everyone drugged with a victim mentality.

They'll all just drop like flies 1 by 1

Some areas, it's still hard to get help- even if you want help

Good luck getting decent care when you don't have insurance.

@Thomas B🏳️‍🌈⃠ because there's too much money to be made

exact same age, graduated same year. you also have to admit the world was SO much different when we were 20, its actually crazy. They were happy times.

@@melgibbs1458 yeah, i thought it was bad then. little did I know it was just an appetizer lol

Millennial 1991 here. We got screwed by the boomers too but at least we grew up without the pressures of social media and less of the feeling that you need to be performative for your peers. Social media can really mess up people's psyches. I feel so bad for Gen Z. They have it worse than any generation before them. I do roll my eyes at some of their music though lol but I'm sure the feeling is mutual

Y'all are all correct 88 millennial here.

Millennial (1988) I'm a 35 yo single guy and still have to live with my parents because my job doesn't pay enough for me to afford an apartment in an area where my wheels won't get stolen. Life is a huge disappointment.

aw. i get that. not many of my friends are particularly receptive to physical affection, but i certainly am! virtual hug from other genz-er

I’m not gen Z but I have gained experience being around early to late GenZers to know that your friend was likely experiencing a form of psychosis. A mental condition where a person interprets or perceives reality in a different way than others around them. Just food for thought, nonetheless here’s a virtual hug for you buddy.

My friends were similar as I supported them through crisis. Some folks cannot handle touch when in a high emotional state bc it creates sensories that are not necessarily triggering the compression-comfort. The tools of love, compassion, and vulnerability will hurt but the courage to grow and love anyway, to comfort others with the wisdom you gain and that wisdom empowering you, and finally Power comes with Hope and our friends / community returning to us with Love. With time, I hope and wish you to find, like I had at 20, a beautiful friend or group that rewards you for finding the right community. It isnt our job to raise ourselves as teens, but when we help others and get help in return we foster friendships and forgiveness, then finally bridge understanding beyond labels and the neuro chemicals. Your safety and health come first- eat, sleep, and drink first because we can only help others when we are well and primed ourself- at our best to help when we bring our health up as best as possible. Sorry for the word wall, but I am shouting to the energies and Universe that you will find the resources you need to grow with Self Love as your first rule. You will not be alone forever, I promise. Keep fighting ❤ Me

Yea nobody's love language is touch anymore and that shit makes me so sad. I just want you to hug me why is that so hard man 😢

@@BlondeDGamer I mean she wasn't in a state of crisis, to be fair, just kinda grumpy and sad. I do understand not everyone likes to be touched when they're upset but the way she reacted just stuck with me. I'm almost 23 now and the only people in my life outside of my immediate family and my boyfriend who are okay with physical contact are my online friends, which... well, you can guess why it's a bit impossible to hug them lmao

Glad you came to the conclusion, I am ten years your senior and just came to the same conclusion.

Rooting for ya dude

I'm proud of you for getting the message now. I'm twice your age and watched my older brother become basically a bystander in his own life because of his pot usage, which for him made it harder to quit cigarettes and we watched him die of lung cancer at 47. He was a gifted artist and clever at inventing. I hope you are not offended by a bit of advice that I learned over a long period of time. One of the best ways to improve your outlook and feel better about yourself is to help others. Volunteer at a zoo, aquarium, nursing home, science museum, beach cleanup, a theater group - something that matters to you whatever your age. You will meet people with like passions. But also, it gets you from living stuck in your head so much. It's a distraction that can lead to purpose and have a positive impact on your mental health. And for those who don't want to get out or think they don't have time, there's even online volunteer opportunities like writing image descriptions for blind readers. It's more isolated than in person volunteering, but it's a start. Best of luck to you.

Yeah you should definitely stop smoking weed and start doing ssris that's a great idea

I think thats so wonderful to hear. i wish you the best, and hope you find a happy rewarding life, i know you will 😘

respect for what gen Z goes through

I'm a "geriatric" millennial and think Gen Z is going to revolutionize our system in ways Gen X and Millennials have been unable to. They have the right idea on work/life balance and refuse to break under Boomer demands. They have a lot of great ideas, but all of us are lonely. Parenthood in America is lonely, they are just the best at pointing it out.

@@jenerin905 Loneliness is a state of mind

@@jenerin905 My only concern is that pointing it out only goes so far. Many among gen Z just cry about their problems online and only a select few actually have ideas about how to flip the system on its head. Additionally, many from gen Z are insecure and have a superficial view on the world because those willing to be superficial thrive better socially... I hope we are able to cause change, but I just see so many from Gen Z absolutely mentally destroyed before even entering adulthood.

​@bob sacamano loneliness is a cascade of chemicals that happen in the body because a pack animal being separated from the pack never ends well

I think that desire to be on your own stems from all the overwhelming pressure from peers to be politically correct. Each half of society is desperately trying to demonize the other half, everyone is so ready to shame people for idle comments, etc. If it was reasonable to socialize without fear of backlash, or if a broader spectrum of opinions were considered acceptable, maybe people would do it more. These days, even a dark joke (which is a coping mechanism for some) can get someone ostracized. Sometimes with people they didn't tell the joke to. Everyone has negatives, and no one is accommodating or understanding anymore. If you aren't toeing the line, if you aren't a 100% perfect fit, you're at best a nobody, and at worst the enemy. So people just choose to distance themselves from that outcome, by staying quiet, keeping to themselves, never bonding. And the hookup culture also ruins people's appeal over time. Next thing you know, everyone's lonely. This culture war is to blame.

The best thing for me has been Fasting. Fasting from phones and fasting from food, weed etc. I went 5 years without a phone until just a few weeks ago. Now, I literally wonder why I got it as I never even use it. But wanted it incase my boat/truck broken down and things like that. This made a HUGE improvement alone, the fact that I literally dropped out of social media and will NEVER go back unless its for business reasons. What it feels like to not have a phone is, free. We do juice fasts of only drinking juice for numbers of days or weeks. Mind blowing. Very testing. Indescribable. Im 1989, but trust me very relatable. You have time, your very young to already be aware of it. The fact that your aware of it now is priceless, wish I had been at that age! Took me till age 28 until the depression drove me to rock bottom. Now 6years later im STILL trying to climb out of it. You got time, but the sooner the better! Only YOU know whats right for you!

And sadly they're finding more research that chronic marijuana use can cause chronic gastrointestinal issues now in some people :/

The shaming comes from America’s unhealthy obsession with rugged individualism which is also behind the loneliness epidemic and city designs (suburbs) that isolate us. Economic anxiety is affecting every generation, it’s causing mental illness and extremism because people are desperate.

For comparison, I was born more than 20 years before you, and all of my friends, across several friend groups, were at a minimum occasionally smoking cigarettes and/or weed, as well as drinking by the age of 12, and more than half of my friends had tried most drugs- from psychedelics to cocaine, opium, meth, etc by the time they were 16. I only smoked a little weed, so I mostly watched people experiment and usually have a pretty good time. Once I reached college, I found that this was very common with most of the people that I met. Some of those people are now dead, some have hard lives and some of those people are lawyers and pharmacists and have doctorates. The people with family trauma faired the worst… and the people with parents who gave them financial support tended to fair much better in the long term.

I WAS RIGHT AT THAT MOMENT

yeah, I hated those assignments. I have some sort of undiagnosed developmental oddity that makes me have zero interest in social connection. Always had to pretend to have friends for those assignments or risk getting in trouble. I found I was frequently punished by teachers for not having friends.

​@@reidleblanc3140 not to armchair diagnose, but if you're interested, do some reading into asperger's syndrome. it's the most common condition to cause a lack of interest in social interaction.

i got put on ritalin for adhd in 3rd grade and ever since then i never had a single friend. the meds fucked my brain up. i'm incredibly lucky i didn't kill myself in high school.

@@underdweller oh trust me, they want friends & social interaction.

@@reidleblanc3140 hey, so do i. schizoid?

Agreed.

TikTok & Insta turned gen z-er into pussies. Fix problems rather than relying on meds.

As another gen z-er, depression has most definitely become a mandatory lifestyle choice.

right. his points link everything i learned about psychology in the last 2 years together

Yes, its like that for me too. I have Autism on top of that so It's even harder to make friends. I recently deleted all social media (tiktok, insta, discord....etc.) and it opened my eyes towards how obsessive and consumed we are with it. It's been 3 months since I deleted, and I am never going back. I wish people could recognize their problems with social media and maybe even try the same thing I did. Also, coincidentally or not, my mental health started to get a lot better after removing that aspect from my life. Especially after deleting Tiktok, that app messes with people's brains and attention spans, i hate it. Sorry if my way of speaking sounds weird or If I made grammar mistakes, english isn't my first language.

I feel the exact same. Just wish I could bin my phone sometimes but it’s so useful for so many things (alarms, calendar, school timetable, making plans with friends/family etc).

Damn, I wasn't near as reflective when I was your age I think. As somebody who isn't from the US, but lives in Europe where many societal ideas arrive like ~5 years later, I can see some of the things arrive that I'm not happy with. It's ideas like this absolute obsessiveness with race instead of seeing individual people for who they are, this dismissiveness of anything scientific for the sake of sth. that fits into your world view despite having no evidence at all and this "patrionism"/hate against anything foreign. I'm over 30 now and I can tell you it was much different 10 years ago. I always saw some of those "crazy obsessive American" on reddit and thought "this could never happen to us!" and now we have the same problems, albeit to a smaller scale because most of our states have more of a priority towards individuals instead of companies. Still, there's voices of reasons no matter where you are. Seek those people out if you can, stay in contact with them when possible. You'll need these isles of sanity in times like these. Change if you're faced with new evidence that makes you change views, not because you think people will like you more because of it. To them, these connections might even feel real. To you, they never will. Never. And yes, sometimes you just have to go along with the bs somebody might say, be it customers, teachers, collegues, parents... but just stay quiet in this case, nod and remember: It's hard to convince somebody who's smart, it's impossible to convince an idiot.

Wow, this comment hit hard to see. It's hard for me to be honest with people too, especially considering those kinds of sensitive topics. I've gotten way too used to saying nothing or being indifferent about it, and it's hard to go back. I don't know if I ever will. It hurts the most since I feel this way with my own family and I don't think they'll ever understand. I kind of have an opposite experience, that being that the Internet and social media opened me up to some really great people. I wish it was safe to be completely open over the internet, I'd love to really get to know those people outside of the few topics the server welcomes. But it's not likely to happen, sadly. I'm fine as-is though. It's nice knowing that there are ways of talking to people with similar interests, and I don't think I can ask for much more.

shit this is what ive been feeling for so long haha