The Best Relationship Advice No One Ever Told You

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Do you want to know the best relationship advice no one has ever told you before?
In today’s episode, Mel is revealing the one rule about relationships you must know.
There is a game-changing framework that will help any relationship go the distance, and once you hear it, you’ll want to share it with everyone you know.
It reveals why some relationships fail, and it also gives you the secret to sustaining a strong and successful relationship.
Here to explain this “4 Levels” framework is New York Times bestselling author Matthew Hussey.
Matthew has been helping people for more than 17 years to feel more confident and in control of their relationships. His KZfaq channel is number one in the world for love life advice, with over half a billion views.
By the end of today’s episode, you’ll know when it’s time to let go of a relationship, when it’s worth fighting for, and the 4 habits of all successful relationships.
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KZfaq Timecodes:
00:02:02: Do you want to feel more confident and in control of your relationships?
00:03:11: What the 4 level framework for any relationship is.
00:05:28: The level that is the most dangerous level to be stuck in with someone.
00:07:22: How to really know if someone is willing to commit to you.
00:09:35: How to have the “what is this” conversation with the person you are newly dating.
00:12:02: How to calmly communicate what you need in a relationship.
00:16:25: If you feel resentment and anger in your relationship, listen to this.
00:19:00: How Matthew almost messed up his relationship with his wife.
00:23:20: When you are getting mixed signals from someone, text them this.
00:26:45 What you need to know if someone you love is wasting your time.
00:28:05: What Matthew means when he says this is THE hardest conversation you will ever have.
00:32:08: How to truly understand what you want and what matters to you.
00:34:12: Date the person, not their potential.
00:36:28: Why love is not all you need for a healthy and long relationship.
00:39:42: How to know if you are compatible with someone you are with.
00:42:10: What it looks like to value yourself in a relationship.
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@Cinnamon.grl. Ай бұрын

I was married for 25 years. He passed from cancer, and I'm just getting back into dating. My husband and I never had the talk or dealt with these texting,breadcrumbing, ghosting games. He was a stand-up guy who treated me right, and I reciprocated. So I'm afraid I'm lost in this dating world, and staying single is looking better and better.

@ancientwisdom108 Ай бұрын

Perhaps for someone like you it would be better to avoid inundating yourself with these stories of negativity. There are other men with integrity and honor. 🙏🌍🕊🕊

@kentuckylucky5762 Ай бұрын

Make friends, do things that interest you, mingle..but not looking..see where that goes..but enjoy doing things you want to first. Love with you❤

@jessicaramirez8324 Ай бұрын

Love this..

@vickibazter3446 Ай бұрын

You have the ability to attract HEALTHY LOVE. Don't sell yourself short. Be discerning and get what you deserve. You can love again. God bless you ❤

@CharleneWilson-ds1sw Ай бұрын

I agree I haven't had intimacy and 18 months I am so afraid and stuck and I have no one to talk to but listen to these online narcissistic videos

@thematthewhussey Ай бұрын

I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation Mel. Thank you for having me. And thank you everyone here for watching!

@sirkelvinmalunga Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing. It’s been a fantastic episode. Getting your book right away!

@kariefountain8488 Ай бұрын

This was such a great interview that really encompassed the content I had watched during my season of being single, years ago. I absolutely found myself in the devastating situation of compromising my values as you mentioned that lady in the 10 year relationship that ended or denying the things I wanted in my life for years in order to maintain the comfortability that I was already living with the person which is such a hassle to move everything, but mostly convincing myself we could make it work. A person genuinely knows, when they know -that person isn't right for them. I'm just thankful by my forties now I found the person who was that missing element of what I should've been looking for and that's someone who is not just a boyfriend, fiance now but he's my best friend! Some of my previous relationships were so ridiculous I wasted years because when I was honest with myself they were not even a good friend to me. If you don't want regret of the most precious thing in life which is time, you have to be honest with yourself and act on it. You know what is best for you, listen to it and get a group of people that will emotionally be there as you navigate the new life you desire for yourself. Thank you Matthew for continuing to help ladies set standards for themselves, be honest with themselves, and sharing your story of how things went about meeting your wife. I appreciate your telling how you first interacted with her and her boldness to show her expectations to move forward should you want a relationship. It's great to see your continued honesty carry through with Mel in such a lovely way to say hey this is what I sent her which came across a certain way and she called me out on it. You all sound great at just being open and to the point in the relationship that takes ownership. I finally have a fiance that has those admirable traits as well. Proud of you both setting a great example. Congrats Matt and Mel on both the successes you have both earned through hard work, knowledge, and being our motivational leaders in life (:

@lenkamayo40 Ай бұрын

Loved the podcast, thank you for joining Mel

@francy2127 Ай бұрын

The 4 levels are realistic & it creates clarity at what point we can move forward or move away from.. you are very sensible 👍🏻

@the-life-changing-book-club Ай бұрын

Greatly appreciating your clarity about the one job. Really simple and helpful (although not always easy!)

@natyeastcoast Ай бұрын

24:56 “Because no one, no one, cares about your time and your life as much as you, and expecting them to is a recipe for wasting your life”

@ab.0298 28 күн бұрын

This line made me cry. I wish I had understood this before

@akilahthebeauty 25 күн бұрын

Preach 😮

@nikkyshamz2696 21 күн бұрын

‼️‼️‼️ this

@Zanith113 19 күн бұрын

This quote hits hard.

@lindas.dallas9464 Ай бұрын

✓ Admiration ✓Mutual Attraction ✓Commitment ✓Compatability

@penniroyal4398 28 күн бұрын

Even with all these qualities it doesn’t mean they are 1) already not with someone else 😢 2) they knew all along they were just milking what they could get from you 3) it’s easy to get bored with people because of all the online places you can meet people from the comfort of your own phone 📱

@soydansogukcesme470 28 күн бұрын

@@penniroyal4398 4) compatability can be faked for up 1 year and in some cases up to 2 years.

@ms.steveygolden1118 14 күн бұрын

Sounds like to much game playing AND THAT is not adulting. Grow up, mature up & get OFFLINE 🤳

@nickie7nicole7 9 күн бұрын

❤❤❤

@ShakuenC Ай бұрын

That part where it's mentioned that it's not about resenting them for the time we spent and they wasted, it's about us taking accountability of not having honored our standard... I really needed to hear that 😔

@OneNightSoiree Ай бұрын

that hits definitely

@nikkyshamz2696 21 күн бұрын

Facts cos we could've left at any time t.

@dokchampa6876 Ай бұрын

This episode is so well timed. Today, I finally walked out of a 3 year relationship after finally putting myself and my needs first. With a diminishing biological window, I wasn't going to let this man keep me on Level 2 any longer. I feel scared and worried but am trusting the process and hoping to meet someone who wants the same things as me, including a family of our own. Thank you, Matthew and Mel. I needed this today.

@josiproposi Ай бұрын

Amazing! I feel at about a similar point in my life, and it sounds so good you took that decision! Actually, this video made me consider that I am in a better place now than my maybe not so committed couple friends... anyways, it will work out! For sure! All the best to you :)

@misslanapaulford Ай бұрын

As they say, Do it scared. U sadly only have one life and sadly I have experienced first hand on a day to day a mother who wasted the best years of her life on a man ( my dad) who didn't love her, didn't her want, that part was more obvious and upsetting and just wanted a companion. Which is horrible for her, she put up with his shit, bore him 3 kids and gave him a nice home. As child then teenager and young woman, that was really upsetting to watch and the only reason she stand was because she was scared to be alone. Plus what all woman forget is that, while you busy staying in the wrong shitty relationship, your missing out on the person out there your actually meant to be with, for a unhappy relationship.

@nicolelouis8968 Ай бұрын

@@misslanapaulford That's just so terribly to sad. I could never stay with someone like that.

@misslanapaulford Ай бұрын

@@nicolelouis8968 Try being me, she was my only view on what a relationship should be like, so as you can imagine, it was rough trying to pick and have a decent functional relationship we someone because this Is all and knew. It took till my late 30s to have better relationships..women all women forget that your children especially daughter look to U and female siblings on how to navigate boyfriends and relationships..so if your daughter has only ever known you have bad or abusive in any form in relationship that is what she is going to think is normal.. So if she gets a boyfriend and he starts abusing her or treating her badly or always arguing, she's going to think that's normal. Your daughters are watching U. It's horrible.

@bolt9110 Ай бұрын

yeah men and women's sexual problem are largely the same. that's why with any such discussion you'll get a few people in the chat saying "this episode is so well timed". Everyone thinks their situation is unique, it's not. Otherwise we could not create predictive frameworks and solutions

@wangcheng5188 Ай бұрын

Interesting video content, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

@wangcheng5188 Ай бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@wangcheng5188 Ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@MichaelAlbrecht-jx5cp Ай бұрын

I am trying my best to forget my ex.She criticised me and I knew that was her way of leaving me because she had found someone else.I am almost over trying for a new relationship People are just using each other., It's getting boring.

@gabrielleaumont3971 Ай бұрын

Maybe it wasn't meant to be, and if she really was into you, she would be still there. Did you obsess over her? Crowd her control her? I was in such a situation. That is not love. That is neediness

@gabrielleaumont3971 Ай бұрын

@@paulinebricks3441getting someone back through spiritually messing around with another person's free will is messy. Will not last . Will backfire. I know of such cases.

@valerieburton4583 Ай бұрын

Confirmed that my hubby and I are good even after 43 years❣️

@josiproposi Ай бұрын

Nice :D

@OneNightSoiree Ай бұрын

congratulations!

@Lily_faith227 29 күн бұрын

Ooooooooh nice! How did you find the person out there you are actually meant to be with?

@bartholetbayana9198 25 күн бұрын

Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

@michael-gg2rh 25 күн бұрын

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

@bartholetbayana9198 25 күн бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

@michael-gg2rh 25 күн бұрын

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@bartholetbayana9198 25 күн бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@gewfone 24 күн бұрын

Absolutely rubbish @@michael-gg2rh

@Gypsy218 Ай бұрын

What is difficult is that people pretend to be compatible in the beginning to rope you in then you find out how selfish they really are once you're married. Although there were probably signs earlier we didn't pay attention to . Also, I think we all want people just like us and don't learn what you did recently Mel, that compatibility can be balance vs similarity. I'm just learning this now

@Nurse_Kathy Ай бұрын

I was thinking this very thing this morning. 💜 Matthew Hussey.

@CozyJesse Ай бұрын

Ah! This! Once a guy asked me what I look for in a significant other. I said, “I rather just get to know who you are and see if we are compatible.” I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell someone what you are looking for because they can just pretend to be that….

@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger Ай бұрын

Exactly. They appear enthusiastic and want to get committed and married! They follow through and then get cold feet to life, to reality. They’re almost lost. It looks like some of these enthusiasts, go through life with the mantra ‘fake it, till you make it.’ It’s a disappointment when you’re serious about your future and they only have appeared to be serious and no game plans for life. Be careful!

@user-kg6dv5xo5i Ай бұрын

It happens

@tanyatanya891 28 күн бұрын

look up covert narcissism. Covert narcissist use people as a rule, so they will pretend in the beginning and love bomb to hook people in. They are not normal and I don't think most normal people pretend to be compatible in the beginning, unless they want something out of you. Typically men do that to women who are just looking to get in their pants.

@Nurse_Kathy Ай бұрын

I 💜 Matthew Hussey’s work. Sadly, I wish he had been around when I was in my 20s, 30s, or even 40s. After choosing to enter not one, but TWO marriages that became toxic. I’m now 60 and have lost hope that I will ever find a life parter that meets my core needs. It’s better to be alone than to be with someone who hurts you.

@Barb-mu7yp Ай бұрын

42:29 you are not alone, married 22 years and 13 years and 65 years old, living alone.

@Nurse_Kathy Ай бұрын

@@Barb-mu7yp 🫶🏻

@ivanathompson1414 Ай бұрын

Love is available at all stages in life. If you want to love the opportunity out there. I’m sorry you’ve been hurt but it’s available if you want it

@charellesexii6555 Ай бұрын

Love at every stage shows up differently so u can still find true 💕

@kriskettering2433 Ай бұрын

I am so sorry this happened to you. Best wishes that you find peace whether with a good partner, or alone with your awesome self.

@jessfolk86 Ай бұрын

"No-one, no-one cares about your time and your life as much as you and expecting them to is a recipe for wasting your life!" This is so profound and true not just for relationships but work and everything else in your life!!! WOW, thank you!

@KateHardcastle-ry9ei 27 күн бұрын

@jackijohnson3778 24 күн бұрын

Yet we are supposed to give them absolute trust

@KateHardcastle-ry9ei 23 күн бұрын

@@jackijohnson3778 send me your number let get to know each other better

@writer1986 Ай бұрын

I married a boy who only wanted to experience a marriage, not actually put in the work, time, and energy. I now know it's because we did not discuss what "marriage" means to us. We went into this with two different definitions. Marriage to him is just a piece of paper and a ring. I've been emotionally alone in this marriage and have grown resentful with time. My focus now is to be the best mother I can be to my children and make myself financially independent so I can leave this marriage.

@relsae9576 Ай бұрын

I’m so sorry. ❤🙏🏾

@Mushroom321- Ай бұрын

Thats awful,!,& i relate to that feeling ! 😬 👋🏻

@kathleengainor8532 Ай бұрын

Have you considered asking to watch the video with you because or Is he that spiritually and emotionally lazy that he won't even watch it with you? Does he realize that you're just insane yourself for your own self preservation?

@Champman543 Ай бұрын

Did you consider counseling with a therapist?

@Angrymobs62 Ай бұрын

It’s not all bad if you are able to be a good mom and you can build. He may not be all bad, he just needs a wake up

@LouiseO78 29 күн бұрын

''Why would I let someone who doesn't respect this human, anywhere near them? Why would I let someone who is making this human feel unsafe or confused about their worth, or keep them in limbo, or pick them up and put them down, completely inconsistent....anywhere near me'' - powerful words and hits me hard. Sadly ive allowed this😢

@OneNightSoiree 29 күн бұрын

Truly it hits differently

@user-hr7zu1si4d Ай бұрын

Stage 2 in a 25yr marriage😔 however when I started to take care of self, I had the capacity to move fwd in grace and kindness💫

@maritzatacoronte5801 Ай бұрын

I have been there.. “Level of commitment you need in order to be happy that someone else is isn’t giving you” that got me

@thorie79 Ай бұрын

What other level of commitment do you need beyond marriage? He's committed the rest of his life to you and it's not enough commitment?

@videobrownsville 20 күн бұрын

That's an oxymoron, if you are married for 25 years you have reached level 3.

@mining4goldmeister420 Ай бұрын

Matt talks about having standards and living them as being attractive. He is spot on. Standards equal self worth. Someone with standards/high self esteem will only be attractive to someone else with standards/high self esteem. The abusers and takers will see that and will run like their tail is on fire! Those types of people are attracted to the over- givers, the co-dependants, empty people who need outside validation from someone else to feel they have worth.

@Kari-8xtqm Ай бұрын

Not necessarily true. Some abuser thrive on breaking someone who has self esteem, values, andstandards. I believe the majority are. Same as some abusers hide the red flags and reveal their abusive side until later, some it can be years. It's a game of power to them. No size for all I see on 99.999% of all these relationship advice. Leave the relationship once they show hints of any red flags, abuse...etc

@sanrek8877 28 күн бұрын

One essential point

@akilahthebeauty 25 күн бұрын

Well said 🎉

@jackiemiles1091 6 күн бұрын

@@Kari-8xtqmAbsolutely! I had very high self confidence and my ex husband tore me down to the point of hating who I am to my core.

@RealityReload Ай бұрын

00:01 Love yourself enough to not try to fix others. 02:23 Understand the four levels of a relationship 06:51 Importance of having hard conversations in relationships 09:11 Navigating commitment and exclusivity in relationships. 13:32 Understanding the value of time and energy in a relationship 15:45 Recognize when to have a crucial relationship conversation. 19:45 Communication is key in relationships 21:48 Recognize and address discrepancies between actions and words in relationships. 26:05 Clarify the type of commitment you desire 28:02 To make a change, you must see it as absolutely necessary for yourself. 32:11 Don't try to change someone to fit your standards 34:13 Challenging relationship with food 38:17 Compatibility is about energetic match and being yourself. 40:23 Self-love is the responsibility of taking care of oneself. 44:50 Subscribe to support daily videos inspiring a better life.

@7Brenda.Aguilar Ай бұрын

Thank you!

@cristinam.0521 13 күн бұрын

THANK YOU!❤

@adwoaedusei4818 Ай бұрын

“You are the only one charged with the resposibility to take care of this one human” nurture yourself 🙌🏿

@conniegariepy2334 Ай бұрын

Great words to stop my narcissistic ex to finally stop popping in and out of my life and playing his usual games... " my energy and time is valuable to me, so I thank you for not contacting me in any way in the future."

@lauramayer4746 Ай бұрын

Ugh, no compatibility after 23 years of marriage. Constant friction and agitation. The regret is exhausting. 😢 I wish I heard this before rushing into marriage.

@victoriagardner7259 Ай бұрын

Thank you...60 years young...I see me and my needs. Now I am ready to date, openly and honestly with myself and the person to come.

@user-jz2pm4br3f Ай бұрын

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@bestlife9925 Ай бұрын

Was 32 years before I divorced. I hope you can find a healthy way to communicate and repair. The financial set back in later in life divorce is big.

@thorie79 Ай бұрын

Was it like this at the beginning? Why did you tolerate it for so long?

@roses6564 27 күн бұрын

@@thorie79 Because people have no better options.

@travelingdude1621 Ай бұрын

It’s amazing how people will risk having lots of bills, stress, their sanity, possibly catching STDs and divorce just for companionship. When you think about it, it’s just crazy.

@lemostjoyousrenegade 22 күн бұрын

🎯I agree completely! I know of two people (a family member and an acquaintance) who risked STDs; one of them (the acquaintance) still does and the person that they occasionally hop into the sack with drinks A LOT, uses drugs and sleeps around. 😱 The acquaintance has a prophylactic in their medicine cabinet 🗄️ in hopes of stay safe and is also allegedly worried about catching co V !d in addition to h I v . It makes no sense whatsoever to risk one’s health for counterfeit fellowship/situationships. These people are both over 50. And the one who sleeps around is well over 65, maybe 70+. Insane behavior. UTTERLY insane.

@Amanda-bc9ke Ай бұрын

I've been a fan of Matthew's for a long time. Difficult conversations are scary, but once you have them they get easier. They can bring you closer together or if it's not the right fit, you can move forward gracefully faster.

@OneNightSoiree Ай бұрын

I agree with you

@bestlife9925 Ай бұрын

Very true! Plus it’s is detrimental to one’s health (stress) to hold in conversations that need to be had.

@MissEvolution5 Ай бұрын

Of all speeches, mantras, books, pieces of advice etc. that I've come across about self-love, what Matthew says here has captivated me the most. It is intelligible, highly reasonable and touching all at once 😊 You have only one job, it is to give the best possible life to this human. That's great, man.

@shondaraekohlhoff4934 Ай бұрын

After listening to this podcast I am inspired. I am hereby committed to taking his words to heart! It is my number 1 job to take care of this human to make sure she has the most vivid, joyful and actualized life!! Why should I only be good at this for others??

@bestlife9925 Ай бұрын

I’m older and have no debt. I’m dating a great guy who has big debt. We have a great time together and are very compatible but I won’t move in with him until his debt is gone and he buys health care insurance. We have had this conversation and he is fine how things are. We enjoy our independence and companionship. This works for us-for now. Though I do wish he had the money to travel with me. I don’t have enough $$ to “pay for two”. The only thing I would change is for him to have secure finances. I feel we can’t move forward unless he has this. After getting divorce myself, I can’t take on someone else’s debt. I’m better off living alone even though I would love the daily companionship.

@FilmChick2001 28 күн бұрын

Definitely don't take on his debt. If he wants to commit, he'll work on it. If not, i hope that you leave your heart open to see that special someone who is compatible in all 4 levels. He may be closer than you realize

@francy2127 25 күн бұрын

Huh.. Any person who has problems with finances is unprepared to accept additional responsibilities.. freeloaders?? Not in this day & age of inflation 😞🫢

@gracerules2423 24 күн бұрын

You’re doing the right thing. 🚩 Had to postpone our marriage until he got his butt into gear after losing his job. Not a good way to start a marriage with financial challenges. It’s not about whether he’s fun or a nice guy. Do you want to be his “Mommy” or adult to adult partner? Do you want to end up carrying the relationship, it’s exhausting and not healthy? You’ve worked hard to get to where you are. Glad you know your values & boundaries. They’ll save you a lot of pain. Wish I had better insight before I married my “nice guy”.

@bestlife9925 23 күн бұрын

The say second marriages can be better - probably bc we have matured and know our worth! I wish you the best!

@mistyw5098 15 күн бұрын

I was in this same situation and after 2 1/2 years I had to walk away as I didn't see any actions from him to eliminate his debt. Important to see what actions he is doing to clean up his debt.

@schenikasmith7430 Ай бұрын

I ended a 2.5 yr relationship although I was still very much in love with a guy. Being stuck in level 2 is so unfair to yourself. I should have ended it shortly after we met when he told me he wasn't looking for marriage. 😢Heartbreaking!

@mahalie23 Ай бұрын

💪 making space for someone who will cherish you!

@sanrek8877 28 күн бұрын

I can feel that

@akilahthebeauty 25 күн бұрын

Language matters deeply! I say this all the time

@akilahthebeauty 25 күн бұрын

Flying out ✈️ his lifestyle speaks volumes lol

@RatnaDewiWithin 7 күн бұрын

I'm just curious, some guys don't necessarily want the traditional kind of marriage. Sometimes we say words but mean different things. Maybe he was totally in for commitment but not "marriage" in the traditional sense of the word. If of course you have 2 different ideas of what marriage means then I get it. But sometimes we are so fast in coming to conclusion, while we miss the opportunity to truly understand what the other meant. There is this beautiful quote from Khalil Gibran saying: "Between what is said but not meant, and meant but not said, most of love is lost" I'm not saying this is the case for you but I was just curious if you understood him correctly? Was he truly not willing to commit?

@susanjaderberg690 Ай бұрын

compatibility is so important. I would say to know if your not, you always feel you are never enough and you always have to change for the other one to be happy with you.. You fight and dont ”get” each other. When you have compatibility you feel safe in who you are, and who your partner are. You feel understood for who you are. My husband let me be me, and that is the greatest gift ❤️

@patriciareed2007 Ай бұрын

I feel like this teaching has completely blown up my world. Why oh why did it take me 76 years to hear this? 76. Now, my time left is undeniably short. I must decide whether I want to remain in a relationship with someone I love, with my emotional needs partially met, or have that hard conversation, believing it will end things, or stay where I am respected and cared about, but not completely fulfilled. I'm okay alone, but life is sweeter with him in it. Maybe, at 76, that's enough. 😮

@loriolson1143 23 күн бұрын

It's never too late to have the life you want. A friend of mine met her man when she was in her 80s. She lived to 98

@Nyumc99 21 күн бұрын

What you have is likely 80% of what you need . You are lucky enough already.

@TTunah 10 күн бұрын

I will pray for clarity for you. This stumps me! I lean towards staying because there is love, respect, and overall the relationship is adding to your life. (You would definitely know if it was subtracting.)

@giselelaslo3249 Ай бұрын

Just wish this guy was around 20 years ago! I was with a guy for years that stayed at level 2. Hell I moved the other side of the world to “build a new life” which was happening quite lovely! Took a couple of emails and flew back and stayed with him for a number of years and gave him my decision in not to have a family. I can’t regret it but i gave myself and decisions to the wrong person. I hope anyone that’s going through this now sees they will never change for you. You got to go through the heart ache of a break up and move on to someone that aligns with you. ❤

@gemstar7447 Ай бұрын

Omg, that last part really hit home! My one job is to love and nurture myself! Duh! That is going to be my mantra 💗 Thank you both 🙏🏽

@7Brenda.Aguilar Ай бұрын

So copying this! ❤

@ashleyprock3775 Ай бұрын

Like many others in the comments , this showed up in my feed at the perfect time... looking for some comfort and understanding after my 4.5 year relationship ended yesterday. The purposeful nature with which he inflicted pain and his absolute contempt of my feelings has me destroyed. I almost didn’t click on it, knowing I’ve got some healing to do and thinking this video isn’t for me at this stage. But something encouraged me to and because of the content in this conversation, I’m actually feeling some resolve so thank you.

@JoshuaEdward12 Ай бұрын

This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

@LymanB.Crosby Ай бұрын

I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back

@JoshuaEdward12 Ай бұрын

Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?

@LymanB.Crosby Ай бұрын

Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being

@JoshuaEdward12 Ай бұрын

Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.

@evalee7768 Ай бұрын

I think you really love but if you truly love her let her fly away. True love is loving someone enough to set her free. Loving someone is loving you first. It’s ok to love her for a long long long time maybe forever but try to move on.

@Guddilove801 Ай бұрын

Spot on advise. I had the hard convo two years into Our relationship and here we are 25 years later living in our castle and growing stronger and stronger. Simply be truthful and know your values and vision in life.

@cristinaroe2166 Ай бұрын

You two have just exposed much of my life. Being a serial level 2er, so much of my time, decades have been wasted. Just the fear of chasing people away kept me dumb and clingy and expecting someone to read my mind without having to push further. I pray this will not continue in my life. God bless all your viewers. May they all find true fulfilment in every area of your lives. 🙏

@margaretcoan1643 Ай бұрын

I think what is most important here is to be honest with ourselves what we want, what is important to us and stop lying to ourselves. Unless both partners in a relationship our willing to be honest about everything it will not work.

@cbrashsorensen Ай бұрын

When will we have the courage to talk about how "marriage" is not a requirement for a full complete life? So many commenters cannot wait to find the "right" partner. When you are FINALLY complete as a person you will be able to make the "right" choice and it may not EVER be marriage. I look forward to having Mel interview someone with this perspective.

@sebastian2039 Ай бұрын

Absolutely. To me, everything under the topic of self help and psychology all boils down to one thing. How to love yourself first.

@sebastian2039 Ай бұрын

Finally complete as a person. Best said.

@danam2364 Ай бұрын

🙌🙌🙌

@alioxinfree Ай бұрын

YES. Marriage and DHSM are antiques no one wants.

@oliviawhitney7022 Ай бұрын

Not true!!

@kopsie6379 Ай бұрын

Mel Robbins is sharp, articulate, awesome in every way.

@davej6222 Ай бұрын

Why am I only hearing this now!? Just leaving 25+ years of a terrible terrible marriage, and am so glad to have heard this. Thank you.

@TTunah 10 күн бұрын

Better late than never!

@chrisl6169 Ай бұрын

This generation is very fortunate to have access to podcasts like this one!! For my generation, there was little to no resources available. Either it was the example I had at home or the area in which I lived - but I wasted 7 of my teens to early 20’s in a relationship I knew I did not want to be permanent-just to avoid the pain of splitting. That was stupidity & indecisiveness on my part. And what’s sad… is I knew better.

@TTunah 10 күн бұрын

Don't beat yourself up. It was harder to split in the past, and there were more consequences. I bet you did the very best you could at the time. (As the saying goes, "Life is lived forward but understood backwards.")

@chrisl6169 9 күн бұрын

@@TTunah perhaps I wasn’t clear in my first text… I wasn’t married to the guy-just dating-but I stated way too long. I’ve never heard that quote but I love ❤️ it! The words ring true!

@SkeletonKeyPoet 25 күн бұрын

I cried when Matt said imagine the builder there building and the other person is AWOL. This has been a recent experience for me and I wholly feel that he only engaged with me for the experience when I wanted the "holy grail" that I felt with them.

@Nyumc99 21 күн бұрын

I told my ex wife several times that, I am not painting her house while she is out painting other peoples houses. She didn’t listen. Adios 😂👌

@anneliesewright662 Ай бұрын

This is awesome!!! One suggestion: I think level 3 needs to be compatibility before level 4 because you should find out if you're compatible with someone before you commit to exclusivity.

@nchrist511 Ай бұрын

I thought the same thing as soon as I saw what level 4 was!

@jerryborshard8603 Ай бұрын

My thought as well. Thanks for declaring it!

@vinsonfamily6076 27 күн бұрын

I thought level 2 meant compatibility.

@melvaughn29 Ай бұрын

See, I'm partly avoidant and have a fear of intimacy, so sometimes I'm fine to stay in level 2, because I don't want a level 3 or traditional commitment or marriage badly enough. Even if I think it might be nice, there's a barrier that holds me back so I might be annoyed or disatisfied with level 2 but have a fear of level 3! And of course, I attract unavailable partners all of the time!

@richmckeemusic Ай бұрын

I would encourage you to find out what that barrier is, because it’s likely stopping you from finding a committed relationship .

@maritzatacoronte5801 Ай бұрын

Whoah ! “Level of commitment you need in order to be happy that someone else isn’t giving you” - this stopped me in my tracks..

@shea5542 Ай бұрын

I wish this was like three hours long. One of the most revolutionary podcasts I’ve heard

@ItsAli4 20 күн бұрын

Thanks you for this video. I was stuck in a relationship that was going nowhere. This video is so timely because a month ago l brought up the conversation with my girlfriend. She was basically happy in level 2 and in no hurry for commitment. This video validated my decision to walk away from the relationship.

@Sogonrei Ай бұрын

Just watching the opening of this Mel saying "You can't fix this person" is so accurate. When I was younger, I tried that and feel it happened vice versa a few times before age 33 and it just doesn't work that way. People are who they say they are. You cannot mold someone into what you want as though you are some arrogant genie, or to fix some deeply rooted past issues you are subconsciously inflicting onto this person, to mend your past to feel better. You need to come to the table a whole person, that doesn't need validation, can take it or leave it. That person doesn't define you they add to your life. Now i will listen. Thank you. Have a great day. ❤😊

@ltcomm6914 Ай бұрын

Arrogant genie 😂

@azadehdashti9552 28 күн бұрын

Ok! I have been planning to re-check my values and standards ,with my husband of 5 years, TONIGHT, and I came across this podcast! How awesome you are! 😍😍😍

@knoxlowe1 25 күн бұрын

Mel, the discussion about moving from level 2 to level 3 reminds me of the lyrics to a song from the 1970's. "I used to say 'let's keep it simple' but freedom only helps you say goodbye".

@crissycobain8361 Ай бұрын

You two are absolutely amazing together. The history you both carry set the dynamic in a type of way no one else has. Love you both! You've both helped me so much! Married 17 years.

@iozefinathalie Ай бұрын

My husband was stucked by me in level 2 for 2 years. I was just getting out of a relationship and not ready to fall in love. For him it was love at first sight, he said. First and last love of jos Life. He had thé patience to love for both in the first 2 years. For me love came gradually. It was built step by step. Today we celebrated 18 years. If my husband would have listened to the advice from the podcast, today we would have not be together.

@margaritaramos7643 Ай бұрын

That’s great. Imagine the folks that were married 20, 10 plus yrs and the partner never came around. That is sad and painful. I know, I’ve been there. 22 yr relationship. Kids and come to find I was getting so little just because I kept settling for less he would think the disrespect was ok. Heartbreaking stuff.

@murkakurka5986 Ай бұрын

Men fall in love immediately if u r the one, thats important for them to chase and be active. But women fall in love gradually and its good. Guys dont want those who fall in love with them from the start. They want to deserve and work for love, then it will last. When falls in love quickly she messes up everything, and her brain doesn't work. She must be moving relationships to the commitment but it will not be possible if she is easy.

@charellesexii6555 Ай бұрын

This proves that men love is more important than a woman being in love from the beginning

@murkakurka5986 Ай бұрын

@@margaritaramos7643ppl should not marry if they are not in love. Even tho it is smart and normal.for women to take time to developing feelings, this should not last for years, within 6 month of seeing each other, if there are no feelings then dont engage and dont marry. Traditional Arranged marriages with no feelings are as bad as marriages built only on feelings. There is should a balance between both.

@audreyj3824 Ай бұрын

I think this was a very important comment. People and humans are dynamic, we shouldn’t be stuck in an all or nothing mentality- life is messy and people are messy. We’re all just figuring it out as we go and nothing is set in stone. I will say though that the message in the video is important for those that are looking to have children because that is a timeline that you can never get back.

@joannehoskins876 Ай бұрын

I wish I'd heard this 30 years ago.

@TerrificTraci Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this !! I’m recently divorced because we were not compatible. I’m the laid-back person who is 110% willing to accommodate / placate & put all the pillows around my significant other to help him feel secure , when I never felt secure or safe even in the smallest things like planning a trip or, the worst was all the money and the cash out refinances we did on our house. I objected every time and I couldn’t engage in a conversation about my security. And now I have a template to follow that makes sense and it’s short simple to the point thank you so much!!!!

@karmasutra4774 Ай бұрын

How did you move on your own? Did you have a good career already? ❤

@thorie79 Ай бұрын

Doesn't sound like you were willing to accommodate anything if you divorced him. Marriage is for better or worse. The lack of commitment is a huge problem these days.

@TTunah 10 күн бұрын

@@thorie79 I think she is saying that until now, she didn't know to have boundaries and check in with herself first about what she truly wanted/needed for her life.

@dr.monaloutfy9694 Ай бұрын

Grace Cirocco’s explanation of the love level expands on his. Level 4 is the Angel level - the level of freedom where you let go of your expectations of your partner and want the best for them - your partner’s happiness and freedom is the most important to you and vice versa - your happiness is the most important to them - what magic ❤😊💗

@julieannklegin2745 Ай бұрын

Mel when you said... "I can change them" That's absolutely so true... If I just love them enough or do this or say that or wear this or be that.... People only change if they want to. That's it... So powerful, so true...

@rjoettesquire9358 22 күн бұрын

I value someone I knew. He is younger then me, It was so great talking with him, he has a great laugh, and he left. I accept & will always value my experience with him.

@lolaost9559 Ай бұрын

This conversation has blown my heart and mind wide open. What a clear way to cataloge where a relationship is. Adulting requires training and constant learning. I feel like a teen just learning to drive. Thank you!! Both Matt and Mel for bringing this powerful and life changing lessons to us. ❤

@user-ce9ls6xp9i 16 күн бұрын

This video just got me a piece of the puzzle I've been working on for a few months now, after I left a relationship that didn't make me happy anymore, because i was tired of waiting for a response. I chose one night, that I didn't need that response. Even though it was heartbreaking (I was deeply in love), I knew I was the only person responsible for my own happiness. By overcoming the fear of losing the person I loved, I found peace and strength. I am proud, I love the person I am and the one I am becoming. I'm 23 and I feel like I took a massive step in my life thanks to this experience. These videos give people the keys to the most precious thing on earth, the thing we are all here to learn : loving ourself. Treat yourself like you would treat the person you love the most in the whole galaxy. Sharing and learning is a beautiful thing. Thank you

@rumdo5617 Ай бұрын

Way to go Mel! Great to see that big smile on your face 😁

@dinomesani7646 Ай бұрын

This good 4 level schedule would work ONLY IF both are honest - which is small part of people. Everybody else is screwed. He is right. Only relationships are gonna save not only 2 people but society & humanity.

@norkarodriguez8908 Ай бұрын

I love all of this! More people need to practice this and stop pretending to want what someone else wants. Be you, be happy!

@RebelFebAqua Ай бұрын

Timestamp approx 42min...I knew this but to be reminded yet again, made me well up as I was packing to move house and move on. Thank you to both of you ❤

@juliaalonso8427 Ай бұрын

My sister did the mistake of living together with her boyfriend (10 years ago) and when she asked to get married and have a family he disappeared…

@ceedeekay2561 Ай бұрын

This really hit home today. I really need to have that conversation with myself. Thank you so much for being there when I needed it the most.

@dimitrafragkou1397 Ай бұрын

I wish this video was done 3 years ago. I would have saved time, energy, heartbreak and hitting rock bottom. I would have valued myself more and I would have done this hard conversations. Thank you for the video😊

@candiceteeter9757 Ай бұрын

Aren't you glad it wasn't 30 years?

@Jaxmusicgal23 Күн бұрын

I wish it existed when I was in my 20s…. There was no good relationship advice. So many people just treated marriage as the end of a relationship instead of the start of the most important one you’re going to have … It’s like everybody was rushing through the dating and engagement and nobody explained why that was important that made sense…. It was all molded and Pat answers . If someone had told me : you should wait to get married until you’ve been away from college and both living on your own for several months to see how that person is going to handle having to maintain their own life apart from other people making them maintain their life… I probably would’ve listened . When you tell me : there’s no way you can love this person as quickly (I had been friends with him for years and then we dated)… All the answers I was getting were not detailed enough …. If someone had told me if you see a red flag look for real responses or recognition of maybe that being a problem that they need to work on…. When I brought up a red flag about how he was treating his mother and sister… he said not to worry that he knows I will never be rational or crazy like they are… I thought I was a pretty rational woman. That response should’ve been a red flag because we all get crazy and irrational about different things and we all have emotions… that should’ve been a pull back and reassess… But I had no one to tell me that, and I trusted his assessment of myself because I hadn’t fully assessed myself. I think the biggest problem is most adults are not adults 18…. And I don’t think raising the adult age what is needed. I think we don’t teach our children emotional maturity soon enough, and we make them figure it out on their own of handing them the tools they need to succeed once they’re out of our house. Parents to teach their kids about what makes men or woman good or acceptable to be in relationship with… it’s time we brought that back… It’s time to show kids and teach them what is acceptable and unacceptable and relationships so that they’re not blind walking into it with just love and feelings. It’s also hard to make sound decisions when you get too physically intimate with people… if you are pleasuring each other to sexual arousal, even if there’s no intercourse, you are bonding with that person and won’t be able to make sound decisions… I have the chance to redo this, I will be much more careful with my physical boundaries, my emotional boundaries and my spiritual boundaries…. I have the tools now and the problem is it’s made my relationship with my husband very difficult because as I’ve gotten healthier, he has become less attractive to me as he struggles and refuses to change… the problem is it’s borderline about whether or not I claim it abusive enough to leave… so I sit here and wait

@graciecanil8482 Ай бұрын

I'm 36 and never been in a relationship, I hope to find that person with the qualities I'm looking for one day. However, I feel scared to get hurt, it's like I'd like to get that feeling to love and being loved back but at the same time I'm scared.

@richmckeemusic Ай бұрын

There’s no guarantee we won’t get hurt, but in a loving relationship you work through the hurts and insecurities. You gotta trust your value and resilience. Give love a chance

@Wealthybaby Ай бұрын

Getting hurt is inevitable, just find someone worth it, i genuinely would rather get my heart broken than to never have loved someone

@desertsky505 Ай бұрын

I am not sure I'd start the stage 3 inquiry this way. I offer a lot in my relationships. I look to see what energy they're putting in. Too much future faking in false words and its so hard to tell difference between desire for commitment and desire for continued gain. Trying to be honest with myself about the person's behavior (not words so much). Does their behavior indicate investment? Or not? I like open questions like "how are you feeling about this relationship?" "What are you wanting to see in a year?" If they arent talking goals that reflect commitment....they aren't thinking commitment.

@valdius85 22 күн бұрын

The ending is such a good perspective, something I’m thinking about lately. It’s the third time I hear taking care of myself explained as I am a third person responsible for taking care of. It changes the way I treat myself sometimes.

@user-oy2xj1ig3u Ай бұрын

A persons actions tell you a lot… you have to be paying attention and trust your gut… Frustration fear anxiety. Joy peace harmony… all come from knowing yourself and not ignoring your own response to your situation

@KateHardcastle-ry9ei 27 күн бұрын

@swastiarya1576 Ай бұрын

This is so insightful. Thankyou for shadowing lights on very important parts of effective, happier and flourishing parternships/ relationships. This is some mind-blowing conversation. Mel, you're such a saviour in my life for last couple of years, always always pops up at the right time with exact relevant content to upgrade my sense of relationships one level up. I can never thankyou enough❤️. (I wish I could podcast you as a guest sometime in my whole life). Mathew you were fantastic with sharing your experiences. All the best wishes to you for making life better for the people you work with ♾️

@marie-claireflavin596 Ай бұрын

This episode is both brilliant and slightly crushing but in a tough love way we all need. I think everyone has been in that place where you don’t want that conversation but you know you need it. The poor lady at Matts event that wasted 10 years breaks my heart, but sometimes we don’t want to listen. A maybe is a no, we need to remember that even when all wrapped up

@Growwithgrace101 23 сағат бұрын

I was stuck in level 2 for 3 years. About to have the difficult conversation and he anticipated it and dumped me...took me nearly a year to figure out what happened but videos like this keep adding to my understanding and my relief that it ended as hard as it was.

@meleparacuelles3208 Ай бұрын

Truly, the best simplified description of relationship advice I’ve ever heard and I’m 61 years old. I wish I would’ve heard this years ago, 11 to be exact. Thank you!

@sirkelvinmalunga Ай бұрын

My favourite part, from 40:58 is so powerful. It has changed the way I see myself. I hope it continues to.

@juneparapini2162 Ай бұрын

I am with you !! I have been puzzled about the talk of the importance of self-esteem and ended up seeing it as a cliche instead of being able to figure it out. This has been a powerful explanation, not just - treat yourself like you would treat your best friend or your child or your partner - but actually - you have the responsibility to nurture and care for and protect the person you are - - - I have heard before, you are not responsible for anyone else and shouldn't try to change others - - - but never saw it put the way Matthew Hussey does - take care of the precious person you are and who you are responsible for - why would I let anyone make this human (me) feel unsafe or confused about their worth. Don't disconnect from yourself - take care of yourself. Another point I liked was - Don't think that if you get closer to a person you can change them (to suit you) they are their own person, if you want to change them, you are not respecting them - and (most brilliant) you already know how hard it is to change yourself (when you want to better yourself), you cannot direct change you want to anyone else. That doesn't mean you can't suggest change, sometimes the other person hasn't thought of the change you suggest and may be receptive to changing, but don't try to change someone who is opposed to your suggestion. My partner has made some changes for me that I said was important to me and vice versa, sometimes things that are important to one person are indifferent to the other and it is easy for them to change it for you. But I agree you shouldn't try to change someone if they don't want to. And you should get to know as much as you can what is important to them, their essence. As for the 4 levels, luckily I have a good marriage of 35+ years and much thanks to being with a compatible and steadfast partner. I sincerely did my best to build a two-way caring relationship but didn't know all the criteria listed above, and feel I put effort into it but was also very lucky to find my partner. One can be sincere and be deceived, almost every surprise in getting to know my partner better over time was a good one. I really enjoyed this episode, I thought I wouldn't get much from it because I am in a satisfying life partnership and past going through levels of getting to know someone, but the last bit of the episode regarding respecting and caring for yourself really hit home.

@ocy138 Ай бұрын

Wow, i have learnt a lot from this. I have been mixed up level 2 and 3. Your concept on level 2 and 3 is nicely explained. Thanksssss

@carolinevincke6679 Ай бұрын

I just adore this episode. So interesting but also empowering because you both formulate sentences that show the "how" to say it. Thanks !

@jenniferchokain9424 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much Mel & Matthew. Loved this interview, as a married woman for 16 years. Still so much to learn about self-love, communication & standards to keep. Love & appreciation to you both.

@neleroluyorhayatta 27 күн бұрын

I came up with his videos in 2018 and his guidance gave me soooo much strength and light in the most difficult situations (I'm not exaggerating) My husband that I'm carrying his child right now❤️ is 8 years younger than me, super smart and handsome, French, a great cook etc..... The love of my life... We broke up 2 times , and thanks to following Matthew's "value" advices, I kept my respect and value; which led him to come back to me for the 3rd time, with a proposal this time🥰🍀

@margaretcoan1643 Ай бұрын

No one changes unless they want to; the only person i can change is me. We change through emotional work, honesty and learning what love is, which includes learning how to love myself; because I can never love anyone else unless I learn that

@roskamol Ай бұрын

Thanks Matthew for the enlightened conversation. I heard about compatability many times, but only realised what it actually means after hearing this conversation. Thanks very much.

@neogbfe3587 Ай бұрын

You can't always rely on a partner to have a serious talk. Some individuals are just looking to get their needs met and unfortunately it comes at a price of wasting your precious time. All that break, space and minimizing communication or commitment while seeking opportunity in lvl 2, is really foder for someone who's single, lonely or complacent with what's being offered.

@julieklick4321 Ай бұрын

This is a powerful interview! Hard conversations can be so difficult but so necessary!

@dianethompson6804 Ай бұрын

I know a woman who is living with a man for 21 yrs without getting married and not having kids. He told her when they started dating that he didn't want to get married and he didn't want kids! The two things that she really wanted!

@Jayna_boo Ай бұрын

Hello

@poushalimaitra6323 Ай бұрын

Whatttttt!

@Jayna_boo Ай бұрын

@@poushalimaitra6323 do you have signal

@misslanapaulford Ай бұрын

Two of the most fantastic informative and caring people in one video and I love U both and both of U have got me through rough times. 😊

@michaelwei2143 Ай бұрын

Thank you Mel, this episode helped me profoundly, and I appreciate you for all that you do

@evalinesasheenemelgar1380 Ай бұрын

Wow! Gave me a whole new level of self-introspection, fresh insight and information about self, love and life in general. Much live for these people in the podcast.😘

@user-qn5hv2ow6m Ай бұрын

Wow, what an amazing video- extremely educational and an eye opening on the relationships… a MUST watch!!! Thank you❣️

@alona023 Ай бұрын

I enjoyed every second and minute of this amazing podcast. I truly appreciate it and I’m glad that I came across this video. This is life changing! Hope this reaches more people ❤❤

@Dmo12618 Ай бұрын

Great episode! You two were so complimentary in messaging, sharing,energy. thank you for this.

@98kaci Ай бұрын

I wanna know How Matthew Responded to Audrey’s text… not staying in level 2… and how Audrey knew she was safe to move forward with him… How did Matthew handle that? Did he really even know at that time if he wanted something deeper with her?

@deborahkahlmeier8814 27 күн бұрын

This was so helpful, revealing and hopeful, irregardless if you’re compatible or not. It starts with loving yourself first, so you can love another - healthily.

@jayl1712 Ай бұрын

I needed this interview 1 month ago. I just broke up with the girl I was dating for 6months over being in level 2.

@lindaread9838 Ай бұрын

I ❤ your book, Matthew. Thanks so much for your help and service to all of us humans🙏

@roses6564 27 күн бұрын

Great framework. Loved the way Compatibility was placed at no 4, in chronological order. This is the lair of the tragedy: incompatibilities often surface post-commitment. No amount of moralizing can change this reality for many unfortunate couples that simply do not harmonize well. They cannot evolve well together due to fundamental core differences. It is not possible to have a fulfilling relationship with ANYONE we choose and chooses us. They may care a lot about each other but holistic compatibility is key.

@cynthiakamler6598 Ай бұрын

Amazing! Getting the book. Thanks to both of you!

@kajallaungani312 23 күн бұрын

My best energy, time spent watching this video. I really learned a lot . Now, i can guide my daughter into meeting her partner. The priorities. I am having best time in my 34 marraige unknowingly we practised and yet practising all the above 4 levels of framwork in romantic relationship. I was in awe many times in the podcast and the learning of nurturing yourself at the end is so spiritual . Amazing. Thank you to you both on this podcast. Many, many blessings on your new ventures

@nadamessenger Ай бұрын

I was stuck in a 6 year relationship this is very insightful

@shelleypetersen1608 29 күн бұрын

A great conversation with two of my favorite people. Thank you!

@siratuzrashaik6206 Ай бұрын

Love Love Love you both, Mel and Matthew stay blessed. ❤❤❤

@michelleselman8004 Ай бұрын

Mel baby I just appreciate your brilliant mind at work you’re a phenomenal deep listener I can see why you were a lawyer!! Definitely your transferable skills as a lawyer is invoked as an interviewer!!!