Pereach! Soooo disappointing. He made those promises in the eyes of god and in front of all those people. If he put as much effort into his relationship as he did his lies and cheating she'd have been happy for life!

Amen🙏🙏🙏

😊

That's me and I've never cheated

A person who truly doesn't care for their own self and life cheats.

So true. I often find that the concept of “biological wiring” is used as a cop-out of responsibility for men

Yes we are women look for certain features as well it’s just we’re taught to have sexual control of ver ourselves because it’s not praised I don’t want a raggedy looking man

@@blackmadonna6024right

Look- who's been running the show for a few thousand years now????? They've been allowed to make the rules and indoctrinat and infected the entire society! And they made every f****** one to (THERE FAVOR)! if this world had more DIVINED MASCULINE/ REAL MEN in it, instead of these cowardice giant maggots with appendages, this world would be worthy to live in-

There are nuances woven into this concept. Women can be physical, but not at the **extent** that men are (generally speaking, variations and exceptions to the rule exist). A quote I really love: "Men love with their eyes, women love with their ears" It doesn't mean women can't also appreciate the physical, it means that the way in which we experience the physical differs. That difference matters! It deserves acknowledgment, because it's going to change the dynamic of the relationship.

He's right. Never doubt patterns AKA The Track Record Cheating Trigulation In Sick Relationships ---Sam Vaknin podcast Never Forgive Infidelity - Sam Vaknin podcast

Thankuuu ‼️ ✌️🪶✨️💫

100 agree

Many relationships involve cheating during the dating phase. Let’s just call a spade a spade.

That's a date not wife yet I have dated women who cheated 4x n I for have them

THAT IS WHY HIS WIFE NEVER GAVE ALL OF HERSELF AND RIGHTFULLY SO!

💯 agree!

I love what you said. However I don't think it takes an exceptional person as much as it takes a willing person. Married people have to be willing to sacrifice, to honor, to submit...etc. When there is no longer a willingness that's when the door opens for just about anything to happen, especially cheating. I whole heartedly agree that marriage isn't for everyone. It especially isn't for people who feel that their perfect and won't make any horrific choices ever. Marriage is making yourself exceptionally vulnerable to 1 person on every level. That's one of the most difficult yet beautiful things that anyone can experience. I by no means condone cheating or any other behaviors that could potentially ruin a marriage.

​@@SyvilleJosephineI am afraid you are right....

Amen.You said it.❤❤

I feel really really sorry for your wife.

No one is innocent

@@daughtersofdeborah9532 The one who does not cheat. The one who suffers from cheating. The one who gets a STI or STD. That's the innocent one I'm referring too. Who are you talking about?.

NOBODY WOULD SUFFER IF PEOPLE WERE POWERFUL ENUFF TO LEAVE THE CHEATER....

The children suffered the most.

​@@vashtikelly6837how do you know if they are cheating if they were keeping it a secret?

💯

It speaks to the amount of people who get married but need healing, counseling, maturity and guidance BEFORE they get married.

Well stated

She told him before marriage it wasn't gonna be very Seggsual

Character respect morals dignity trustworthiness, strength, integrity communication self worth !!!!

All cheaters speak of.. THIER NEEDS...

All cheaters care only about their own selfish needs, they don’t care about you

Exactly 😂

He's letting other people know that he struggled with his insecurities. Which is good but we have to really believe in God and what God says. The word says that He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing.

I know right. 🤔

Because he repent

That part.

Same!

Makes me not even want to be married. As women we go through so much as it is… it’s just safer to stay single unfortunately!

Exactly

Women don't even want to be involved w men now unless their lives are better for it, they're satisfied being alone and not having their peace disturbed by men who haven't had one thought about their emotional needs

@MK-wb1vu There are other men out there who aren't cads. Maybe, not what you are used to. But that could be a good thing. First, have common sense. Speak about your boundaries and what you are expecting. Going over to your exes home alone is never a good idea. Billy Graham wouldn't get in an elevator alone with a woman. These guys are so pampered by the women themselves and think they're prettier than the woman. They can get a great girl and still have no morals or boundaries and sleep with someone else. Then, gaslight you as if it's your fault. There are men around the world who just want a good wife. I would start educating yourself about them post haste... because the pickings are few.

I'm starting to believe that men are just " EVIL" point BLANK!!!! We as women, really need to protect our hearts💯💯💯💯💯❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️

All facts

Oh Waw. It always boils down to their own internal struggles

I understand. Ditto! But after a few years of incongruency, I realized it was a pattern and I was outta there!!!

I've been there but not married. Just 6 years wasted. I don't think he thought I was better looking than him because he was bodybuilding when we met and I was losing weight but still chubby. However it was like everyone I found out about has less interest in him than me and less of something else I have without having more "things". It always would be they made him feel desired with novelty, they made him feel needed with objective power disparity, they didn't pay him attention so they couldn't catch he wasn't the man he wanted to be know as. Crazy thing, he could have been happier and everything he was pretending to be but he would rather lie, cheat, stress, underachieve based on his goals not mine, etc. He used sex as a control mechanism and a litmus test for what type of woman they will be: a safe tool or a risky plaything. Neither are valuable positions but both are needed to plaster over issues he will not handle and that will continue to undermine him. Anyone like that needs therapy and alone romantically. Although my ex lied to everyone even his family but again if they paid him mind they could catch inconsistencies and also cries for help because that's what he's looking for: love and attention from them beyond the surface.

He sounds like a narcissist too, I hate you dealt with someone like that 😒

It’s not about maturity. It’s about….me me me. That is a character flaw. Not a intellectual development flaw. Immature people don’t deserve to be held in this category. I am sorry this always bugged me when say this.

@aileenkrauchi6553 Its all about maturity. You just contradicted yourself. If you are old enough to work, pay bills, and vote they you are expected to behave with a certain level of maturity. It's called an "arrested development" for a reason. A person fails to behave in an appropriate manner, becoming of their age. That has a lot to do with cheating. The act of cheating is selfish ergo the (me me me mentality).

​@@Lolas_World1 I've been cheated on I've cheated in return 💔 😭 def me me me

yes indeed.

Exactly 💯

True. Women are incubators we make an experience of what you give us. He gave her trust issues and deception she decided to keep her heart guarded as far as she could and keep her body. Why do we stay?😔

Exactly

100%! In my opinion, I believe he's actually continuing to harm women with this interview. The amount of people who have said thank you for his perspective is beyond crazy to me! I can understand some of his perspectives but (to me) the amount of shift blaming he does is not okay. It's like another way to manipulate women into thinking they're the problem when their man cheats. Also, it seems like another form of trying to get women to sympathize with a broken male perspective. Which, to me, may keep women stuck in a compassion-harm cycle.

​@@Mingchan YUP

But then the question is.. Why did she marry him if she wasn't comfortable? Accountability needs to be taken on both sides. She sounds like she wasn't really interested in him and he was seeking validation from other women to feel better. Not a good match

Yep, all the rest is just excuses. We all do what we do because we want to.

FOR A PERSON TO CHEAT THEY HAVE TO HAVE SOMEONE TO CHEAT ON....MEN CHEAT BECUZ THEY WOMEN LET THEM AND STAY...

You said it!

@@vashtikelly6837are you in this space out of guilt or to protect your industry?

@@aproverbs31woman59 I don't have a reason to feel guilty about performing..... but guess what....I also perform for women as well as couples, so I don't have a reason to feel guilty about what another WOMAN is taking off her man...

I agree

@@michellemcauley2315

You are right, there isn't much room in relationships for either partner to have real issues...

I get what you're saying totally. He hurt her, therefore she dealt with him in a reserved fashion. Did she have any responsibility to communicate how his infidelity caused her to limit the amount of herself that he would be able to access?? Or should he have known that she wasn't going to ever be what he needed and just known to not get married in the first place?

Ha! Of course she was… She knew what he was there for!😬😅

What was he expecting?🙄

Not always.......sometimes it's about a lack of trust, communication and intimacy. Not everyone feels guilty for cheating. The path of spiritual growth is wider than simply not cheating.

I wholeheartedly agree with you. This man is proof that some times good men fall prey to cheating. Personal development should be lifelong ❤

Open heartfelt Communication, listening: really hearing and keeping the CONNECTION with one another is the key to longevity... So grateful to have spent 50 years so far, with the Love of my Life! ❤

It’s simply human nature. It’s actually impossible for one person to “stop” temptation to exist for another person. Many gorgeous and successful women and women have been cheated on. Many spiritually minded folks have cheated. It’s because sex and emotional attachments are extremely tempting. When you are in a relationship there will inevitably become times when you become vulnerable to temptation. Any other belief on this subject is pure fairytale fantasy. Then there are some people who just enjoy a variety of sexual partners but due to social pressures (family, religion, economic necessity) get married. I’m an older woman who wants you young women to face the realities of relationships.

​@PeaceforLisa I understand what you're saying but that's not everyone's reality. Every man/ woman doesn't cheat. Some do.

EXACTLY!!!! Thy have high standards when they pretty much are shit, and we, woman of value, accept their mistakes! We should respect ourselves the way they do!

Right! Also If every woman stopped putting up with it, men wouldn’t have a choice but to stop cheating, period.

I don’t get women like that at all. Ladies who take back cheaters, have you got no self respect? At least respect and protect your own body.

@@Emptytopfloor a lot of woman are so afraid of not "being loved the way they were loved by their partner" that they refuse to accept and understand that their partner actually doesn't love them, because they cheated in the first place. Woman want to be loved so much that they forget what is REAL love. I know cause I'm a woman and I have accepted a lot of shit just to keep that man by my side. It's actually really sad

@@Emptytopfloorlol, I use to say the SAME THING. Guess what?! My husband cheated on me. You do not understand because you’ve never walked in their shoes and hopefully you never will. It’s hard to build a life and a family with someone else only to see it shattered. Cheating hurts everyone involved, especially children.

Well said.

My ex-husband cheated on me for 8 years, he was one woman at least a week and in the end I cheated on him once and he almost killed me and to this day he continues trying to get revenge on me, he can't get over it. But I believe he is a Narcissist because he has all the characteristics.

I'd love to see the research you did to draw this conclusion. If there's no research....its a massive assumption.

@@vivdoolan6846 Some call it experience. Some call it common sense. Your comment wasn't needed. You wasted your time typing it and gaslighting those who have had to deal with infidelity. That's the WHOLE POINT OF THE VIDEO. A man who cheated tells why he cheated. Duh!

@@Lolas_World1It’s definitely experience and common sense.

Good to see the other side.

Or a proper mother that doesn’t accept cheating from her spouse.

Oh please….now blame it on the dad???? Good Lord.

Not always true. I know guys who have great , loyal fathers who have led by example. They still cannot be loyal to ANYONE. Cheating is a personality trait and character flaw that doesn't change. It is selfish , toxic and indicative of an emotionally immature and spiritually bankrupt person.

And he isn't going to be any different in his next marriage.

@@kimhawkes2570 Serial cheaters don’t stop cheating

She never really had him to begin with.

Very well put. She protected herself by not continuing to give 100%, smart girl. Hopefully, we will do the same if we find ourselves in this position prior to ending the relationship.

She sure didn't@@ydnassukyaj9131

Exactly. Thing is, when they’re single, they wouldn’t be having sex all that much necessarily anyway. Plus, those definitions change and the goal posts move, to justify their actions.

Can you kindly share the questions you test men with.

Different desires when GOD'S IN YOU.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏! Yet people are afraid to ask questions because they are are afraid to get disappointed. - Some prefer to live with illusions rather than the harsh truth.

"This type of man is not to be trusted." Exactly. Even now. Manipulation does not just cease to exist in an individual. It is a part of personality which can be managed but it takes a constant sense of self awareness. So, it's crazy to me that people on here are trusting his words NOW. Especially since, to me, he isn't being accountable for his side of the road.

Yes!!!

You can call it whatever you want, but this man is speaking honestly.

How so? He kept talking about what he did wrong and how he could have done better. That’s being accountable.

I’m glad I never really gave myself to you because you would have destroyed me….so true

@@Thechagiplatelol thank you for saying it

This 100%. It doesn't make sense why he left after everything, to me, it was another SELFISH act. This guy seems to be manipulating his audience in selfish forwarding thinking. A wayward should heal themselves but not at the cost of another person. To me, its like he didn't even really try to save his marriage. I think anyone who has been through betrayal can literally smell this out him. I can't believe how many people are following his awful justifications & shift blaming tactics!

@@Mingchan right?! Most of those people willing to follow him are more like the people who cheated or trying to find good reasons to cheat, they are trying to justify their cheating. 🫣

Yep. It's crazy that his response to her saying she is glad she never gave her whole self to him or she would have been destroyed... he replied, "and that's why I'm divorcing you." I was mortified. No conscience. No true remorse or humility. He has a vindictive, self centered spirit.

THIS transparency is about cleaning his public image and making money off his shame 11:53

This! I wrote a similar comment how this contradicts his claim of being the head in the relationship. How are you the head but you never led in the way of trust and integrity so that his wife can fully become open to him. He somehow expects the wife to completely give her all when he has never led in showing himself as a safe space. The wife was smart. He sounds so full of it. I actually don’t think he has learned his lessons

Dammmmm

Wow

I’m happy I’m not married lol

My ex cheated on both wife's but it was red flags and he was divorced twice

@@sarahhelmer7902 same here I'm staying my ass single. Yes I'll have a women I talk to or kick it with from time to time but marriage isn't worth it nowadays

Yes! And then it gets worse as they then feel justified and blame you even more for their actions

Yes! 🙏

What? How do you get that from this conversation- I wonder if people are simply hearing what they want to hear because that’s what their own trauma is pitching in the background-sex is an important part of a relationship but there is also the need of intimacy and communication and integrity🌻

Yes, exactly

I think the same thing however the way you worded that I'm seeing it at another vantage point. As much as i hate to say this I believe a person is not trustworthy unless they can truly love themselves (healthy self-esteem, self-acceptance, and most importantly self- worth) because if not the forward flow of energy will reverse and the energy will become "perverse" and without the self worth and self confidence in overcoming emotions and inner turmoil it will now become very dysfunctional because the person either isnt able to (doesn't know how, doesn't have enough self awareness, and lacks integrity) or isnt willing to (not worth the effort) it will create many cracks in the foundation, in the walls and the pressure will come out in all sorts of ways. Someone with low self worth will sabotage themselves and their partner. Interesting.. An important part is he went from guilt and shame and it flipped to anger and pride. That was the moment it all changed in this specific scenerio. He didn't deal with the guit and shame and how he got there in the first place (important talks to be had in the relationship) and once she didn't fulfill the story he had in his mind thinking he was going to get scolded (mother issue? Not sure) and she was understanding and considerate about the shower thing. He in an instant flipped to anger/resentment/ rightousness/pride. That IS significant. Undealt shame turns to anger. So even though he no longer had a reason to be ashamed since he didn't process it it turned to anger. And I think also he was angry because the very things he didn't talk to her about that then influenced his decision to do the ky shower he felt unheard and uncared for (similar to how woman can be when we think men should already know whats on our mind so we dont have to say it out loud.) I think he was indignant about her reaction.. as if he thought she was downgrading his inner hostility he was building up towards her that she didn't even know about because he never addressed it. This goes to show how vital being able to talk about things with fair play (there should be communication rules to talking about hot topics so its not a battle field) and self-worth and being able to successfully process uncomfortable emotions is. *Deep sigh*

Right I was 7 years with a secretive narcissist. I’m being strong because I’m not sure if he sleeps with men & women

Me 3 but hubby wanted me to be open

My husband was also very secretive. He would listen to me but wouldn't comment. I also left the relationship .

​@reneebrown9451 if you wonder whether or not he slept with men, he did. I went through the same thing. Your gut always knows!!!

@@polly8844 it’s so sad I’m not sure where these men come from but it’s so many of them.

Yup avoidant behavior

It annoys me how stupid women can be.

DEPENDS ON HOW YOU SEE IT...I AM A DANCER AND TRUST ME WHEN I SAY THE MEN SHOW THIER TRUE NATURE AND WHO THEY REALLY ARE WITH US... THE REASON HE SAID 'SAFE PLACE' IS BECUZ WE ARE ALREADY NAKED AND HE CAN PICK THE WOMAN THAT HE PHYSICALLY DESIRES WITHOUT TRYING TO GET TO KNOW THE DANCER AND SNEAK AROUND WITH HER..HE CAN JUST GO TO THE CLUB, SIT DOWN AND TALK TO HER, AND IF SHE'S A CERTAIN TYPE AND HIS MONEY IS RIGHT, THEN HE CAN SEE HER AFTERWARDS FOR PLEASURE...THEN HE GOES HOME AND HIS WIFE IS NONE THE WISER...

What’s with all caps? Anyway, that is easy because it’s not a reciprocal relationship and he is in a power position because he is paying for a service, which takes away true vulnerability. Emotional intimacy is about being vulnerable along with reciprocation, and expectations, not a feeling of superiority and power.

@@staciacrick3373 COMPLETELY AGREE...ALL CAPS IS BECAUSE IT'S HARD TO SEE FINE PRINT....

Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry that it happened to you. I am woman who has also never cheated but my husband of 14yrs has. Today I found a pair of panties, last Saturday was makeup and lipstick on his jack. I really hurts so bad.

​@@tora6548I know it hurts. I'm sorry. Have you talked to him about it?

I can see how you’re saying this, and he could have been better with explaining it. I follow his podcast. The key he was saying is that they didn’t communicate about their needs. Their needs weren’t being met, so the cycle kept going. He lacked clarity and self awareness when he met her and also did hold to his needs when she showed she wasn’t that type. This is a problem many people go through even without cheating. I have been cheated on and it was a horrible experience because the narcissist blamed me for everything when I knew nothing. This example is nowhere near that energy. He has taken accountability but TOTALLY could have been better explaining it in that section which I agree with.

That marriage was doomed from the beginning because God didn't put them together. They put themselves together and sound like they married out of convenience.

@@Regina.Clarke When someone words their accountability as blaming another person for their actions, that isn't being accountable. Instead of saying something like "our communication was bad" it should be "my communication was bad". Using "I" while explaining action/behavior is important in remaining accountable. I think he is still lacking self awareness & clarity because of the phrasing he uses throughout this interview.

You caught that too huh?? I wouldn’t touch this guy with a 10-ft pole.

​@@Regina.Clarke he has a sex addiction/ extremely high libido which NO ONE can satiate & requires actual work

I definitely considered cheating when I was married. My ex husband thought I didn't cheat because he was so great. He wasn't great at all. The reason I didn't cheat is because my vows to God were more important than my vows to God

God isn’t real 😂😂😂 you weren’t keeping vows to an imaginary person my dear. The church made you believe that!

Good for you!

Amen!

Were you happy? Why get married to a difficult man?

Exactly 😮

He divorced **her** ...

@@eesynopsis7393oh, okay…but she never should have married him in the first place. Please don’t stick up for a dog like this. He was a dog from the beginning!

@@eesynopsis7393so he says !!

​@@eesynopsis7393Ok, thanks for clarifying that. I have edited my post accordingly: "This man is clearly dealing with another struggle (most serial cheating males like this are). You can tell. The woman's mistake was deciding to still marry a cheater. So glad he at least had enough empathy/decency to divorced her, and set her free from this DL trainwreck waiting to happen."

@@enmodelifeHe only divorced her to run from his own shame. A very immature thing to do. He divorced her to avoid having to face her pain and flipped it around to him being in pain. He sounds very much like the hot topic word out there today. That other n-word. The DARVO is strong with this one.

And so is she.

Yes, that was an uncomfortable statement, but if you continue to watch, he does clarify that it is a selfish male perspective to have.

💯

@@karmepresh915 That's fair. I confess I've had to digest this video in small chunks.

As a feminine, lgbt, androgynous male...who's a hopeless romantic when it comes to being attracted to masculine men....I COMPLETELY AGREE. It's all a social construct...that masculine men attempt use to their advantage for manipulation...to continue their poor, low-vibrational, "cornsick" behavior. As a male myself-I know for a fact that is not true. Men are not "physical" or "primal" beings...men are completely capable of being committed to one person in a loving, monogamous relationship. Men are completely capable of sexual discipline-in fact they even have much more intense, memorable, better orgasms....only having sex once every week, or other week. While being more productive in every other aspect of life. Speaking as a male who has a prostate(male g spot).

He was not blaming them. He was just mentioning that this is what he was brought up seeing.

I was accused of cheating by a man, I was shocked. 1. I would never cheat. 2. What does he think of me then? 3. Is he cheating and that’s why his mind when there?!

He likely accused you because that is what he was doing.

Or they chest because they simply settled for the person and never loved or liked them. Sometimes it's just a matter of not actually wanting to be with the person that they are with.

The amount of shift blaming, excuses, & contradictions are unbelievable.

She tells him she's okay with it, but she doesn't have a great history of being in-tune with herself...

I can’t imagine it feels good to her. Maybe she’s just giving him enough rope…

His ex contributed to the disconnect.

Something was still missing here for me. I couldn’t push past him and how he showed up. My ears, which are usually open and objective just couldn’t stomach “listening” to this guy.

She probably feels humiliated. I know I would have. Because this is very personal. Women don’t support other women in situations like this. They are the reason many woman suffer in silence because of the same and blame other women make them feel. It’s like a crab in a barrel situation.

Indeed. No respect or trust for infidelity.

Does he identify as Christian? Does he not know that his body is a temple? To his wife, he was extremely selfish. As the interview goes on, he speaks as if he has evolved, but there's any underlying tone of arrogance... no sincerity.

This is what happens when men choose to prioritize quantity. Too many partners and lots of experiences mean nothing when it comes to quality of intimacy with one.

@jenniferbranch9047 thank you!! Plus I'm not for one moment buying the "she meant nothing to me" line. It may not have been love, but she meant something that you cheated with her even prior to marriage. I would hate being his ex wife as well as the ex side chick.

@@jenniferbranch9047 2 words: Derick Jaxn....talked a great game while living recklessly. Also, a "man of God"🙄

@@jenniferbranch9047agreed. The whole undertone of the interview is full of arrogance and he contradicts himself a few times. Plus, what an earth has a feather chandelier got to do with Lisa’s husband stroking her arm. He was maybe subtly trying to manipulate (seduce) Lisa by planting a seed and vision in her head of sensuality. Once a narc always a narc !!

Absolutely... 100%

Most definitely 💯

Love 😘 it

You must forgive him if you are a Christian! You don't have to reconcile yet you must forgive.

@@glendorahorton9605 I am not God, let God forgive. You move on quickly and in time you can forgive if God puts it in your heart to do so. I have learned in my life's journey that when we immediately cut people out of our lives for abusing us, karma takes care of it and we find peace and freedom surprisingly well. It's totally natural and effective to be angry and say "you shall not pass!!!". That anger is what gives the power and the courage to stay clear from fake promises and further harm.

Foh with this. Bye

You crazy …!…that’s pride right there….who are you ..or any woman to feel as if if a man is weak or not perfect you gotta leave him…that’s the princess syndrome and is fuelled by narcissism …”I have to have the perfect man cos I’m so wonderful”..!!! Also I think people are way to sexualised ..especially in America…it’s a bondage

If you fail to forgive you give the person who wronged you tremendous power over you. If you fail to forgive, you will never heal and this will prevent you from having a successful relationship in the future with anyone else. Forgiveness is not weakness but strength.

And I am now looking for the interview with the wife and the other woman and the ex-wife ... 😉

I feel the same way. He is expressing what a lot of men go through, but would never admit. So many of these comments analyzed everything he said and labeled him a bunch of negative things, including how they think he has not changed and is still a cheater. But it does not matter if he's changed or not. The point of this interview is for women to listen, learn and apply what he said as observational tools to use when dating or in a relationship.

@EMuro-wu7uy I agree with you! But, you can have numerous conversions before marriage with your spouse-to-be & they still do the opposite! Talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words… men & women lie and can be selfish… having the mature conversations will NOT make one’s marriage immune to adultery!! Both spouses needs to be genuine, unfortunately it can be difficult to tell who has your best interest at heart smh.

@@bina913 I agree, I was lucky I had a terrific marriage to my spouse, unfortunately he passed on, and being single again is difficult. I know there are some good men out there, but there are also ones that have a lot of problems. I'm working on myself for now. Before I date again.

HAD a healthy marriage??

@@4nasj he died.

This is a healed version of that. Take peace of mind to see it exist. Much love

Thanks@@CapriSunVirgoMoon717

So sorry that happened to you. It sounds like he really objectified you and women in general. We deserve so much better.

@@CapriSunVirgoMoon717 This is not a healed man. This is man that is justifying his actions & trying to compartmentalize every move he has made. For the amount of comments you have on here defending him - I bet you're a wayward.

Yeah the ones that don’t watch porn usually have actual real life sex & the F boys have too many insecurities that’s why they need to believe their sexually so wanted but most of the time they’re just users and abusers

lots of married unsatisfied women out there

@@teascobie6557 you ain't kidding. It's the majority of women.

I agree. Very unsatisfactory and especially when they present such great demands, for their pleasure.

100%!!! This guy's story just doesn't add up!!

He was opening up about the complexity of his personal reasoning for cheating, which is a different thing than how a man perceives sex with the woman he wants above all others, vs just any woman he can have a physical experience with. He was attempting to fill a void, using the physical act of sex. Obviously it's not going to, and lead to him being worse off. This entire video is him going into depth about that

@@eesynopsis7393 How is shift blaming "going into depth"? There's a clear difference between someone explaining 'I am the cause of my failed marriage here are the reasons why' vs 'my wife's lack of sex or caring I masterbated is why I did x,y,z' WORDING IS SO IMPORTANT in when remaining accountable! Instead of saying I'm at fault - he continuously shift blames on her or atempts to justified his lack of morals. This man is not self aware - his therapist did a sh-t job of helping him heal.

Gaslight a lot.

he cheated on her while they were dating...that sealed the deal and projected his future behaviour in the marriage.

Yess!!!!

❤

I've learned that anybody can say anything.

Everything you listed is exactly what I felt when I took in the stray dogs I've cared for. 😅 I never felt like doing this for a relationship. That is how I knew that marriage was not for me since I was 12 years old.

@@moonsyoungestsun6550 fair enough ☺️

I cheated on my husband and just the other day I was smiling while thinking how I cheated. I am remorseful but I am still human and like the guy said you have to control your thoughts. He's probably telling himself wait this isn't funny.

@@Am-mm6iz As a wayward person it's your responsibility to your spouse to showcase your remorse. Especially while talking about the affair!! Laughing, smiling, etc might be involuntary but when you become aware of it - SAY SOMETHING. Hiding that is just as bad as hiding an affair!!!! This guy never addressed that aspect in this video & it continues throughout the entire episode. It shows me that his guy is completely lacking self awareness.

We respond to pain with laughter dummy.

His divorce was 8 years ago. His pain and shame could be gone. But also, smiling doesn’t mean happy, sometimes smiling is just a coping mechanism for the pain and talking through it. It’s now about teaching vs beating himself up still.

Somebody who 'reads' the BS on his face and so on. Good observation!

He was in denial sis he didn't give it to God to help him deal with himself.

Marriage is love. Love is sacrifice. So yes marriage is self sacrifice

Or during , or after

I think the same way that you do. I'm not in a relationship, never been married and never wanted to be married, which I knew since I was 12 years old. But I like hearing honesty from men like this and learning from the mistakes of others. So down the line, if someone happens to sweep me off of my feet, and my views on marriage change, at least I can say that I know how to observe what I need to, in order to know if he's someone I want to commit to.