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@michaelharris871 Жыл бұрын
you hsould heal your very deep wounds that you are not even aware of!its going to be very very difficult for you!you are very self centered...(im a healer) it's all for love really!
@anon-mx4jx Жыл бұрын
My toxic ex used to compare me to my friends and commented on things he didn‘t like about my physique without me asking whereas my partner now tells me I am the prettiest girl in the room and how good I look and how nice my body is every day. Both men know my insecurities with my weight. It‘s not all about how you carry yourself, sometimes the man is just an asshole.
@Yonah_144 Жыл бұрын
The reason why women are insecure with their weight is due to what the media has been doing for years. This is why riots broke out three years ago, because a lot of stuff people are seeing is total bullshit.
@thelastpityparty4425 Жыл бұрын
AMEN
@Hokage982 Жыл бұрын
Preach...❤
@niconine268 Жыл бұрын
No shit ? You think. That's so damn profound
@aethylwulfeiii6502 Жыл бұрын
If you actually are like properly overweight, or obese, well that solves issue one and two if I just won’t date that, wouldn’t date a woman with a BMI over 24ish (depends on you endowments or maybe if your some Olympic weightlifting lady). My BMI is 19.
@skooandblalex7626 Жыл бұрын
As a man who lies to himself on a daily basis this video really spoke to me on a personal level.
@BEAST.420G8 ай бұрын
As another man, I can’t relate with you at all on that.
@truffaut650truffaut68 ай бұрын
@@BEAST.420Gyou are different😂
@BEAST.420G8 ай бұрын
@@truffaut650truffaut6 💯
@JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd5 ай бұрын
So what you're saying is, it's not really 6 inches
@sowmyaangel97873 ай бұрын
what lies??
@anon-mx4jx Жыл бұрын
I don‘t like it when men inflate their body count. They don‘t want me to lie about mine and I find it unattractive when men sleep around anyway. I think it‘s disgusting and a sign of emotional immaturity, lack of selection in their partner choice and a sign of inability to form a stable relationship.
@anon-mx4jx Жыл бұрын
I generally live my life in a way where I don‘t have to lie about such things and I want my partner to do the same.
@NCPhilnotNPCphil Жыл бұрын
@@anon-mx4jx I agree. Sleeping around is nasty imo. The only concern I ever had is 1.) do they have any diseases I need to know about, 2.) are they going to agree to keep the ex relationships in the past and not keep contact with these people if im in a relationship with them.
@EadsB7002 Жыл бұрын
could not agree more! yet so many men want us to believe that the more they've "been around" the more attracted to them we should be...which is FALSE! At least for any woman of class/value and discernment!
@EadsB7002 Жыл бұрын
@@NCPhilnotNPCphil agreed. it's completely disgusting and a total turn off if the guy has slept around.
@lesliesantos8595 Жыл бұрын
@Phil T exactly i feel the same about all you mentioned ong. My now ex literally i told him about my past and how they cheated on me with their ex and my current ex didnt even bother to let me know or put on the table that he was still talking to his ex from high school ...that they just stayed friends lol bruh..like for 6 yrs? I dont think so. And he told me that shed try to get back with him..like bro..wtf is that? And he still decided it was okay to have stayed friends with her..while being with me..i feel like he just did it to post us on IG to get back at ppl who dissed him in the past..but whatever karmas a bitch i guess ...and he had asked her opinion on something i wasnt comfortable with lol im like bro shes not ur gf. But man that was one hell of a roller coaster i hope to forget soon. Its been a month barely since i left his sorry ass literally that guy also is okay with being casual with ppl...im like yeah im glad i left. I saw him on a dating app by chance and surely enough he was selling himself so to speak lmaooo. Im glad i have standards at least and respect myself too much
@Lu-bk1qq Жыл бұрын
#3 is unbelievably true. Women who have had almost every single guy “friend” confess feelings or try to get with them, know this. Truly platonic close friendship between men and women is quite uncommon. Yes there are exceptions, but this has been my experience.
@Yonah_144 Жыл бұрын
I have this female friend I am attempting to seduce using LOA simply because I find her attractive.
@11111mhmhmh Жыл бұрын
I'm super close with two female friends, one about 20 years and the other 13 years, it's purely platonic and been that way since day one. it's possible if you want it, but to say it's all men are lying is funny.
@asmaawa Жыл бұрын
I speak from experience, absolutely true.
@myriahworley9363 Жыл бұрын
@@11111mhmhmh in the comments it says there are exceptions. But it’s definitely true especially newer friends/new friends.
@leslietherae4807 Жыл бұрын
Yes! Any guy friend I've had has eventually admitted their feelings and Ultimately ended the friendship cause they weren't reciprocal
@goddessk4610 Жыл бұрын
Yup learned twice that men and women cannot be platonic friends unless there's is a true purpose to the friendship
@DinaStrange7 ай бұрын
Unless the man is gay.
@JAYD147626 күн бұрын
Why so?I believe women and men can be friends.Unless they like each other. Why go in into a friendship with negative energies lol
@auroreaurore1081 Жыл бұрын
Margarita, I cannot stress enough how your podcast saved my life. It helped me completely change my mindset and shift my energy. I went from an angry, anxious, resentful, burnt out person to a more peaceful version of myself, as a woman, mom and wife. I've seen my husband step into his masculine energy and giving into it everyday. Thank you for what you do. Your content is definitely one of my safe places ❤
@mryamshafi3522 Жыл бұрын
I'm so happy for you and would love to achieve what you have Which podcast dwelled you the most if you don't mind me asking ? X
@sowmyaangel97873 ай бұрын
help me 😢
@theskysisd Жыл бұрын
I just love how she communicates in her videos. Very clear, direct and to the point. The only KZfaqr I can binge watch. Thank you Margarita for sharing your knowledge on this platform 🫶🏾
@Margarita.Nazarenko Жыл бұрын
that means a lot thank you
@mikepiccolo32 Жыл бұрын
@@Margarita.Nazarenko Are you listening to Aerosmiths Rocks album?
@santhaya17 Жыл бұрын
Yes she goes straight to the point . And I can actually listen to the entire video . Usually my anxiety makes me skip videos or run through them. Thank you
@SheilaPatterson10 ай бұрын
🙌🏼 no fluff or filler! So many KZfaqrs just talk and talk…I love how she keeps it lean and mean and trims all the fat! And as a ADHDer, it keeps me focused because it’s so jam packed with good stuff. Thank you!
@BitchItsAle Жыл бұрын
Notes 1. Put yourself in his shoes (don’t point out your insecurities) 2. Don’t ask men questions you don’t want the answer to (be confident and take compliments) 3. Self love affirmations aloud (you’ll convince others) (fake it till you make it) 4. Men love with their eyes / get interested with their eyes 5. Attraction, there is love however physical means a lot to men 6. Friends, something happened between them or one of them is holding out that something will 7. Men are attracted to things, hobbies, work, etc things in common 8. Clock things, don’t react, don’t emote, don’t scream if he’s putting himself out there understand, communicate, and decide 9. Not just a friend 9/10x 10. Men inflate woman deflate, take it as a compliment 11. If he was a player and been with all these woman he wouldn’t be saying anything
@reymariee Жыл бұрын
had to learn the "friend" one the hard way. he pursued his "friend" that i was skeptical about only one day after we broke up. Never trusting the just-a-friend bs ever again.
@DramaScenes1 Жыл бұрын
Never trust the friend line. One day or the other it will come back to bite you in the behind. This is coming from a male. Most times when a man or woman has a friend while in a relationship, they want to keep old lines/ connections open in case your current relationship fails. And that's never a good place to be because your relationship with your boyfriend should be paramount.
@Therealkingk9095 ай бұрын
Honestly I’ve had the opposite experience. I ended things with my previous gf because she started to come off incredibly jealous because she seemed to have a problem with any girl that i was around. First she didn’t like that i was still cool with my exes which was understandable. Then it was co workers so I switched jobs twice, then it was old friends so i started isolating myself altogether eventually she accused me of cheating 13 times but i had to sit her down and really talk about the fact that I don’t think she genuinely thought i was cheating on her because she wouldn’t have stayed with me if she genuinely thought that but it became a way to gain control for her In my experience sometimes friends are just friends and you should lead with trust until someone gives you a reason not to trust them. I think it’s more of a red flag if a man has no female friends. That means he’s probably trying to pursue just about every woman in his life, doesn’t see them as people outside of romantic interest and probably isn’t great at maintaining relationships or ending things amicably.
@belleccino Жыл бұрын
Ex kept telling me “she’s just a friend” and kept behaving like that and putting himself out there and making less time for me. When we broke up, not even a month, he got with his “she’s just a friend” 😂 ladies, Margarita is telling the truth and I was younger and stupid for putting up with such behavior. I learned the hard way but never again will I be with someone like that.
@shandellgutierrez4865 Жыл бұрын
Happened to me everytime with every boyfriend... 🙃 They're never just friends!
@johnmas2735 Жыл бұрын
Ex kept telling me “He's just a friend” and kept behaving like that and putting himself out there and making less time for me. When we broke up, not even a month, she got with her “he'sjust a friend” 😂 men, Margarita is telling the truth and I was younger and stupid for putting up with such behavior. I learned the hard way but never again will I be with someone like that.
@Sim-oz3mi Жыл бұрын
same thing happened to me and my ex about 3 years ago right when covid hit very hard. and i can even top that, they were together 2 weeks after our breakup! 🤣
@righteoussis Жыл бұрын
Omg the same thing happened to me one day … I was watching a show and there was an unattractive woman on the show (personal opinion) however her attitude and the way she talked about herself and carried herself totally convinced me that she was beautiful by the end of the show … wow
@iancavon7125 Жыл бұрын
Interestingly this doesn't work for men. When a man of below average looks and height acts confident, in most cases (i.e. if that man isn't a celebrity, or in a position of political or economic power) his behavior isn't seen as confident but as delusional, cocky, overcompensating. His acting confident not only does nothing for him, it might even backfire on him. Of course being mild and reserved is also no option since a rather unattractive guy would then be simply invisible. Doomed if he does and doomed if he doesn't.
@99nickiewickie Жыл бұрын
@@iancavon7125 Work on being a better human being then maybe you won’t be so invisible.
@iancavon7125 Жыл бұрын
@@99nickiewickie I'm not invisible, my comment was not about me but men of below average looks and height. Anyway, what do you mean by "work on being a better human being"? A 5'5 guy can't grow taller, a guy with a 3/10 face can't become much handsomer. And that other qualities, like confidence or social skills, ultimately won't do anything for short and unattractive men was the point of my comment, right? A man whom women are simply not physically attracted to can "work on being a better human being" as much as he wants, he'll never be able to really change his situation. I've witnessed this so many times.
@tinakuczaj3958 Жыл бұрын
@iancavon7125 that is bullshit . I once dated a guy who when I put on heels and he showed up I was much taller than him. When he showed up I had a weird look on my face and I said I'm gonna change my shoes I'm taller than you . He said no wear the heels . He was extremely confident it was so attractive. He didn't need to be tall . He was secure with himself. It was wildly attractive. Now he was good looking. But my point is being secure with yourself can get you a long way . I usually like tall guys but with him it didn't matter .
@iancavon7125 Жыл бұрын
@@tinakuczaj3958 So what? You're obviously more tolerant, or let's say less shallow, than most women when it comes to male height -- at least you had been so in that particular case. (He was good looking, though.) It speaks in your favor, but doesn't change one bit of what countless short, average looking men experience all their lifetime with the vast majority of women. Those guys aren't all shy and clumsy, many of them are confident and humorous despite all setbacks. Sadly, it still doesn't get them "a long way" in most cases. You can't call my comment bs just because you feel your personal, purely anecdotal evidence (one shorter man you sometime dated!) to speak against it. Btw, this is a KZfaq comment section. OF COURSE I deliberately generalize, and maybe even exaggerate somewhat, simply to state my point very clearly. I'm fully aware, though, that not all women are exactly the same. There'll always be some good girls left out there.
@MandyJRoss Жыл бұрын
Focus on you and the focus becomes you.♥️
@MuseSunday Жыл бұрын
🙌
@italianlifestyle7911 Жыл бұрын
Over time, I found out that men would lie about anything to achieve their goals😒
@LyslScentedLife Жыл бұрын
That's false
@LyslScentedLife Жыл бұрын
Does that explain why all you care about is a man's bank account? Lol
@sciencerizz Жыл бұрын
I discovered your content recently, and I just flat out love your energy
@KatyaVasilivna Жыл бұрын
I would be really interested in seeing you do a video addressing social media because often, these boundaries are blurred, and I come across people disregarding interactions and certain behaviours/habits just due to them taking place online.
@hannahrose111x Жыл бұрын
i agree!
@higherpowertarot Жыл бұрын
This is sooooo true. That’s why they say confidence is key . Bc your energy of being comfortable and loving urself is more than how you THINK others see you.❤
@teresarenee1183 Жыл бұрын
I just realized another thing to love about you. When you edit your videos there’s no quick cuts/splicing/heavy editing, you’re straight up just talking to us. So authentic. When I made KZfaq vids a decade ago I used to cut out all my ‘um’s’ 😂
@bluevelvet2 Жыл бұрын
I will never ever entertain a man with close female friends ever again. Ladies please don’t do it. You are essentially signing up for an open relationship in which the so called friends come first because “they were there first!!”, even though you as the gf are held to a much higher standard of behaviour and investment. I respect myself too much to date a beta orbiter.
@heyitsjennifer Жыл бұрын
Beta orbiter, I laughed out loud 😂👌🏽
@Raymondgogolf11 ай бұрын
@@heyitsjennifer Hi Jennifer I hope my comment didn't sound as a form of privacy invasion your comment tells of a wonderful Woman with a beautiful heart which led me to comment I don't normally write in the comment section but I think you deserve this complement. If you don’t mind can we be friends? Thanks God bless you….
@Callie08189 ай бұрын
Same thing with a man still close with their ex
@Emillyy943 ай бұрын
Amen to this! I had the same issue I just commented about. I don’t trust a guy who is swooning over other women.
@megmathisen907211 ай бұрын
#3 happened to me. I’m still recovering. The pain is enormous.
@fembot521 Жыл бұрын
My neighbour kept messaging my late husband and flirting with him. He was oblivious to it and thought she just wanted to be friends. When I pointed it out he cut it off completely with her. I love how you say “this one, that one, the other one”! ❤
@noneofyourbuizness Жыл бұрын
Creating opposite gender friendship when you married its total bs
@ChauniB Жыл бұрын
My ex lived alone with his female friend. She was controlling over him and they were codependent. She didn’t like our relationship.. I unfortunately never asserted myself or set some hard boundaries around that “friendship” at the beginning.. I wouldn’t have placed myself in a strange triangle and known who his priority really was far sooner!
@Alloniya Жыл бұрын
she was his girlfriend, you was the "wierd friend"
@Hokage982 Жыл бұрын
@@Alloniya dont gaslight
@johnconnor3865 Жыл бұрын
No.3 applies equally to women. (Given the examples, how could it not?) So if your man tells you he doesnt like you having male friends, don't automatically accuse him of being 'controlling' or 'insecure'.
@Stellaxxm Жыл бұрын
Very true
@xForeverXXI10 ай бұрын
Not necessarily. The male mind works differently to a woman’s. Its usually men trying to constantly break out of the friendzone.
@iaf44543 ай бұрын
It is not. We make difference between boyfriend, husband and male friends. They are not the same they are not treated the same
@johnconnor38653 ай бұрын
Biz Markie - Just a Friend. Many men have learnt this lesson the hard way.
@joshg85414 күн бұрын
The biggest Red Flag to no Marriage, is a women justifying her "male friends" to her good man. A good women will listen and start making effort to distant herself if she is serious about her man's concern, surly not justify it. Women are gate keepers to sexual access, and this is their role even with ""male friends", so just like a good women avoiding alcohol in the presence of other men, night clubs with player fukbois hitting on them, or putting themselves in position at work, gatherings, or encounters where they can end up privately in a 1 and 1 position with a man who can affect them emotionally, the best a women really can do is avoid the temptation, especially knowing they could some day not be in a good place with their serious man, bf, long term other, or husband; and then fall into temptation to regret it forever in their life.
@NCPhilnotNPCphil Жыл бұрын
Im a guy and I want women to know we want them to say what they mean, mean what they say, and not play hints, guesses, psychic communication to their man.........none of that works. We are direct individuals. Rather than having a fight over poor communication, just state clearly what you want as statement, no judgement, no attitude, just clear communication to get the communication across like you would a child. I agree with you that a man and woman friendship on their own when the partner is not invited along should be avoided. There is no sense putting your partner in the situation where they would be uncomfortable when it could be avoided . PS Some of us like the imperfections in our women. We already hold you up high in our mind. You might not look like you did at 25 still but every wrinkle, every vein, every grey hair you try to hide now reminds us of the 25 yr old who stuck by our side through the ups and downs over the years. Maybe Im the odd man out on this one though.
@NCPhilnotNPCphil Жыл бұрын
@Mandy Mikulka Thanks for sharing your perspective on that!. Trying to communicate through "hints" is just bad all around. The only time I appreciate it is if the hint is made to prevent me from doing something embarrassing like forget her mothers birthday when shes over. I have gone though too many fights that were caused by me being expected to just "know" what my wife was thinking and every single time it has ended bad.
@ivia_ol8356 Жыл бұрын
As a woman I'll tell you this. Men need to provide safe environment for women to be able to honestly communicate what's on her mind. If she is uncertain about your reaction, she won't be direct. Safety over everything. Give women safety.
@alunalalune8691 Жыл бұрын
I’ve learned that most men will simply say what’s sounds good on paper but not in practice. A blunt straight forward woman is the same these guys label as bossy, demanding, fussy etc. There is no win sadly … I mean you literally said talk to you (men) like you would a child~ it’s literally exhausting
@stardust332 Жыл бұрын
im expecting the same thing from men i know😂
@stardust332 Жыл бұрын
@@alunalalune8691true
@weirdalpleasenoticeme83282 ай бұрын
Yeppp learned the "friend" thing the hard way. And it was a girl I was friends with...
@OregonSingles Жыл бұрын
I wish the attraction vs. Love was stated to me when I was in my 20's. I didn't feel so worthy of taking care of myself as well as I should've as quickly as I should've. My husband LOVED me and never ever made me feel bad but I deserved to feel physically attracted as well. ❤ Finally got it and finally handling it!
@user-mf9hx9qd7f Жыл бұрын
Too many "Amandas" out there trying to act cute and being inappropriately friendly in the guise of professional cameraderie at work, it happens ALL THE TIME, ladies! Once I even witnessed an assistant ask a colleague of mine (an engaged man) if he wanted a shoulder massage when he mentioned he was stressed. Beware. Margarita's advice is 💯. Why does no one teach us these things?!?
@verankl22 Жыл бұрын
Ok but it's your husband's bad and not Amanda's responsibility if he ends up going with her. Don't hate on other women
@user-mf9hx9qd7f Жыл бұрын
@@verankl22 oh yes, I agree with you. I was merely pointing out the surprising prevalence of Amandas. A man is responsible for his own actions.
@emilieosullivan23138 ай бұрын
Omg I love you. also I find you so hilarious “he wrestled an elephant to death” with such a serious face, woman you are so inspirational 🙌👏
@frieswithgiraffes Жыл бұрын
can you make a specific video on the female friendships part please
@Margarita.Nazarenko Жыл бұрын
Yes this one is the works !
@sanazghajari650 Жыл бұрын
@@Margarita.Nazarenko yess please ♥️ thank youuu
@bluevelvet2 Жыл бұрын
@@Margarita.Nazarenko my ex gaslighted me about his female friends. When I asked for simple boundaries, he made it very clear who his priority was. Ladies, please don’t fall for his modern new age nonsense that men and women are exactly the same. A CLOSE male female friendship always has “couple vibes”. if the female friend wanted more, your bf would absolutely jump on that opportunity and you guys likely wouldn’t even be dating in the first place! And trust me, that female friend knows it and loves the influence she has in his life! You need to ask yourself whether you think your man going out on what is essentially a date with a woman he is almost certainly emotionally attracted to and DEFINITELY physically attracted to is acceptable to you. Let the pickmes have them. As for me, Never again!!!!
@frieswithgiraffes Жыл бұрын
@@Margarita.Nazarenko cheers love!! much appreciated
@Franciscarojasofficial3 ай бұрын
Men will say one thing and do another to save themself in every situation and with whoever the woman is!! They hate confrontation or drama.
@taylordixon5871 Жыл бұрын
I can’t speak for straight men with female friends, but as a gay man, I have tons of male friends I have no sexual or romantic interest with. But they are buddies.
@okaySam Жыл бұрын
Are they all gay as well?
@taylordixon5871 Жыл бұрын
@@okaySam No, fair. About 1/4 are. But I guess I am trying to convey that in a relationship structured on honesty, integrity, and recognizing one's subconcious motives, I'd say it's ethical to retain friends you find attractive as long as you acknowledge it, maybe even communicate that to your partner, and then never allow it to become a motive. Maybe I'm being naive?
@ashleyhall6778 Жыл бұрын
@@taylordixon5871 I agree with you.
@okaySam Жыл бұрын
@@taylordixon5871 It can be fair and ethical, but in hetero couples there is a different power dynamic at play. Attractive women don't have to invest as much in male/female "friendships". It's not my cup of tea, but I highly doubt my girlfriends would have been happy about me investing a lot of time and energy in retaining multiple female friendships.
@taylordixon5871 Жыл бұрын
@@okaySam Hmmm I'm not sure there's a different dynamic. Attraction is attraction. If you're friends with someone you're attracted to, it doesn't have to dictate your relationship with them. If you're in a committed monogamous relationship, then all other relationships can exist as long as you do not allow attraction to compromise your existing agreement. It's the same thing with attractive coworkers. You have established boundaries, and you stick to them or you don't and potentially suffer the consequences. I don't think someone being attractive to you should dictate whether or not you can be friends or coworkers with them. As for your girlfriends not being happy with it, that probably comes down to their ability to feel secure and the two of you communicating relationship expectations. Just my opinion as a non-expert and non-heterosexual.
@MikeeB96 Жыл бұрын
Hey, I'm a man. And I need to say man can be friends with woman! My two best friends are female. And I put my hand in fire, it will never happen something between us. I agree as well with you, when you just met a person and wanna hangout 1-1, that's strange and shows that a person is putting himself out. Pls, make a difference between real friendship and let's see what happens.
@bluevelvet2 Жыл бұрын
You don’t hang out with them one on one. That’s key.
@ashleyhall6778 Жыл бұрын
This!
@MikeeB96 Жыл бұрын
@@bluevelvet2 with my 2 best friends. I hangout 1-1. But we live in other countries, so we see each other may every few years With other girls, why should you do it. There is no reason.
@izabelazielak8963 Жыл бұрын
Really?That looks like a typical woman who gets the …“name“…from guys …for example bitch,worse …witch …Gaga,crazy,difficult,too much,Devì´s advocate 🫣🥇🥈🥉😈
@bluevelvet2 Жыл бұрын
@@MikeeB96okay so you basically see them 1 on 1 every few years. Very rarely in other words. That’s negligible.
@user-ek7yc9fh7y Жыл бұрын
Totally agree. Men and women can't be friends. The man always makes it sexual.
@iaf44543 ай бұрын
Exactly, that is why your boundaries as a woman are always threatened. I stop having men in my circle, to be honest they cant control themselves... quite pathetic
@hc7092 Жыл бұрын
I am sooo glad i found your channel 😭😭 learning lots from you and comes at a great time now that I’m single and dating xx
@kathrynmarker2940 Жыл бұрын
"He wrestled an elephant to death" hahaha you crack me up 😂
@georgefrazer2231 Жыл бұрын
A man should be a one woman only. A relationship with your lady is for life. Men love to brag and inflate their 'own importance'. Maybe another reason men tell women 'tall stories' is the fact that the lady they are speaking with is actually 'out of their league'. In the real world men love to 'compete' with everyone. Men often cannot relate to 'high achieving' women. This makes them feel like their achievements in comparison are very very little. A man that constantly brags is basically a man that is totally insecure and in the long term is using women as 'trophy women'. They are just another thing to add to his 'list of success' when out with all his mates. Men basically can be very insecure individuals. Beautiful women are not there to boost the ego of 'butch' males. Women need to be very very careful when dealing with boosting males. These individuals often are just like strutting peacocks who want everyone and everything to revolve around them. Some even could be covert naracists who love capturing gullible women who fall for their charms and their tall stories. Thank you for this video. May all ladies be kept safe from arrogant self centered males.
@Hokage982 Жыл бұрын
You just described my ex...perrrrrfectly...😂
@ashleykathryn90382 ай бұрын
I'm dating one now, the most draining relationship I've ever had
@kallista7746 Жыл бұрын
Found you on tiktok, I totally agree with your advice and am learning a lot from you.
@BethDynamiteChic Жыл бұрын
I think its a simple pattern lol my ex always said “They are just friends babe you are too jealously” to gaslight me ah yeah just a normal female friend that he talked for hours while we had arguments about her texts! now I sometimes Im so lonely after breakup but so happy not to be a miserable unvalued gf again.
@kristinademi9202 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing all this wisdom with us Margarita, I look forward to your podcast every Tuesday with so much excitement! You’ve helped me really build a foundation of self esteem and understanding my own power.
@Pjolover-lsw Жыл бұрын
You give me life, please keep doing what you’re doing Margarita ❤🎉
@thisisstupid.p Жыл бұрын
The no 3 is a BIG NO NO, red flag for me. My ex wanted me to be ok with that nd not only that but he also wanted me to be ok with him hugging other women. He would NOT act in a way that made other women understand that he was taken and not available. "if you trust me you should know that im not interested in them even if im nice to them and a friendly hug is nothing" The problem is he has the kind of personality that is very overly friendly, can be perceived as flirtatious, he holds eye contact very long and look ppl very deep in the eye. Ive asked him to at least have some kind of boundaries when it comes to other women, like be clear that you are unavailable and have a partner, and pls dont hug ppl the way you hug me and choose your hugs, no one needs to hug female coworkers really.. No one need to be super available for evey woman out there. He made me feel very insecure and un important, i felt like i was his last priority all the time, his work and coworkers got 95% of his time and energy. All i got was maaayyybe 1 hour in the evening on the sofa, no communication, no connection, just him slowly falling asleep because he had drained himself with work, over extending himself to others and nothing was left for me. I can deal with that mon-fri, but he worked weekends too... We barely spoke and when we did we always argued because i felt unseen, unheard and neglected. The worst thing is I love him still, i cry everyday, i cant function because i know he did a lot of it for me and us. He wanted to provide, to take care of me but for me it takes more than just being financially safe. I need to feel safe with my partner. I need to now that hes not behaving single when hes away, I need to know that other women dont get from him what i get/should get.. Ive never been more devastated in my life, fighting for what you know is right, fighting for being treated like the partner you are and being told he wants to be free to hug and act as he pleases with women and his coworkers (that are 98% female..) It was his first relationship ever and I really think he has a very naive outlook on relationships. Im just heatbroken knowing that the love, devotion and loyalty I brought to our relationship wasnt enough, not to inspire him do want to do the same, to reevaluate what he thinks and where he stands. Never again will I enter a relationship before talking about things like this so I know if we are on the same page, because this is nothing im going to go through again. He also wanted me to be ok with no contact if he had to go away on business trips... Because it would be soooo inconvenient for him to take time to do that... No "cant wait to see you" "missing you" "how are you doing" FUCK I really broke my own damn heart for him because ive never loved like that ever... I love listening to you Margarita because you make me boss up with my feelings and make me feel like " yeah no, not everybody deserves my presence" THANK YOU! (if you got this far) XD
@Sim-oz3mi Жыл бұрын
honestly i would be heartbroken too if my husband/boyfriend goes on a business trip and doesnt even give me any sign that he misses me and my presence. tbh when someone really loves you they cannot go a day without talking to you. and the thing with getting one lousy hour in the evening while he falls asleep on the couch and you are left with your feelings and emotions.. no girl, we deserve to feel appreciated and valued and this man did you no favour. you deserve better.
@thisisstupid.p Жыл бұрын
@@Sim-oz3mi thank you, I really needed to hear that! 💖
@Sim-oz3mi Жыл бұрын
@@thisisstupid.p no problem, eventually we as women need to lift ourselves up and remind us that men are not the center of the universe but sometimes we are so blind with "love" (or maybe thinking that somebody is finally loving us and recognizing us) that we dismiss red flags like that. May i ask how long you were together and how did things finally broke off? If that is not too personal. Just curious and maybe you want to share how you felt :)
@thisisstupid.p Жыл бұрын
@@Sim-oz3mi 💖 I agree. The funny thing is all my life I have not been in any serious relationship because I honestly felt they weren't worth it.. men just came with too much stress and disappointment. But then I started talking to this one over the phone, a mutual friends connected us because she thought we were much alike. And we are. We talked, only, for over 1 year before he confessed he has started to develop some kind of feelings for me, of course none of us knew if we actually would have physical chemistry. But we decided to meet, he came to see me in my home town, he broke my heart on the first day, saying he wasn't physically attracted... (I'm the hot one in this relationship so that kinda stung) I cried all night and he was comforting me, respecting that I didn't want him to sleep in my home. The next dag we talked and he apologized and asked if he could stay anyway, we had made plans for him to stay a week. I reluctantly said ok. But the week went great, he was respectful and feelings grew. Unfortunately in the back of my head his initial comment was still loud in the back of my head. He has apologized for that many times and has explained that he just isn't the most shallow person and falls more for other things first and then attraction follows. Well he left after a week, we missed each other and a month later he came back and never left, we moved in together and lived with each other for a little over 2,5 years. We met in june 2020. I had to much unresolved trauma and we didn't take that as seriously as we should have done from the start. He also has just started his career and my trauma, fears and abandonment issues paired with his workload just getting bigger and bigger left little room for us to work on our relationship. Unfortunately a trauma survivor with a bunch of other emotional issues needs a lot from a partner, they need a partner that is willing to help, work with them and put in the time and effort to help and make it work. But in the end the damage was just too much, we both were worn down, my health has declined so much bcs of this, i have autoimmun issues too that have gone way out of hand because of the constant stress and fear my body has been in. There haven't been any real threats though, just my issues and fear that just lead me to be so isecure... I lost the love of my life, the one I thought I'd spend forever with. Now I've decided to just stay single, I had already made that choice before I met him but made an exception for him... I just look forward to the day where my body isn't in full blown fight or flight 247 and I can finally sleep again and hopefully be in less physical pain. Do you have a similar story?
@thisisstupid.p Жыл бұрын
I'm aware of the autocorrect issues.. sorry about that
@davidcarey9135 Жыл бұрын
I am a man and I think you are pretty much accurate.
@EleanorRoseRyan Жыл бұрын
I don’t love rating people as a 5/10…. Idk why. But I have been binging your videos and love your book list!! I’ve read many and plan to read the rest of those you’ve suggested! My bf is a DJ and he has lots of acquaintances. I could care less about them. I know deep down that we are together. I think it ties into the idea of being unattached to any jealousy. He loves me. I love him. If anything else goes down I know I’ll be fine….
@danwatt5789 Жыл бұрын
I found your channel a while ago and have been fascinated, It has taught me so much about self esteem and how women think (perhaps also how us men think at times too). I just wanna quickly say, don't pretend like at 2:50 that you're a 5. You're a 10. This channel is a 10 and you're doing great. Keep up the good work!
@kalikodelevere5008 Жыл бұрын
Oh wow. This was so triggering. I was about to act straight after listening and do something stupid (my ex is a psycho/narc) but I won't. It'll calm down. It was the comment about Amanda not being just a friend. I had exactly that happen with my narc ex and I stupidly stayed and abandoned myself. You've validated my feelings I had at the time. I can deal with the trigger but boy Im still not over it. Love your honesty though thank you x
@user-yk7ol3uh3y Жыл бұрын
You’re my favourite. Always hit to the right point. Thank you, Margarita💙🤲🏼
@bel.cascabel Жыл бұрын
You speak the truth, Margarita, and yet you made me laugh so much with number 4. Your videos are amazing, I've been following you for quite some time now and absolutely love your content. Looking forward to the next one!
@cases2939 Жыл бұрын
As a guy I would note that sometimes when women see themselves as a 5/10 it's not superlative qualities you don't have that matter--it's the lack of flaws. 5/10 as viewed girl-to-girl may be much prettier girl-to-guy. /Results may vary as girls simply cannot see each other the same way as guys do.
@alunalalune8691 Жыл бұрын
Yeah because most women view themselves and each other subjectively not objectively so there is that
@aleshawhite1758 Жыл бұрын
I absolutely love your content 10 out of 10 babe ❤thank you for the value you add I love your podcast , tok and tube platforms message is so needed in this world
@obengjemima6477 Жыл бұрын
Wow!You’ve opened my eyes on so many things and I’m so grateful for you
@paolacarrere5740 Жыл бұрын
You are the woman I needed in my life❤
@orange-cat0028011 ай бұрын
Margarita, you are a godsend. Thank you for your channel. This is just the kind of advice and content I was looking for, and it helps me enormously to clarify my problems with men…
@Itsque28Күн бұрын
Margarita, I need more videos from you . I just started watching you and already almost through all of your videos. 😅
@francielleampolini23008 ай бұрын
My GOSH I wish I had this content 1 year ago. It would spare me a lot of trouble. Sooooo much thankful for this Marg!!!
@Gowalkabout5 ай бұрын
I agree with #1, #2, #3, and #4. (However, your self-assessment of 5 out of 10 was a deflation; see #4)
@alexandrapeguerogarcia183811 күн бұрын
I agree with you in regards to number three.
@nataliaba1989 Жыл бұрын
My ex told me he would probably sleep with my girlfriend (after me stupidly asking him if he liked her) - my lesson learned here. BUT he was also telling me (without asking) things like - you are too skinny, I can see your ribs, I dont mike this skirt etc. Also critisizing his ex girlfriends (I know because he told me) for extra kilos, outfits, hairstyle etc. Also without being asked. So although I learned a lesson not to ask stupid questions, this case was an assh*le making women insecure 😅 I wish he was a gentleman who would rather lie than be overly “honest” - btw he only wanted to make a woman feel less since he has had mental problems himself (not admitting ever). Good luck to all the women finding a man who would not make them feel not enough. Its in our hands!!!!! Never making the same mistake again🩵🩵🩵💪🏼
@tinakuczaj3958 Жыл бұрын
Now why would you wish he would have lied. It would of masked the nasty person he was longer and wasted much more of your precious time. As much as this guy was a douche. I commend him for being honest . He showed you who he was and left it up to you to decide if that was something you could accept or tolerate . He gave you a choice. Instead of pretending and stringing you along with a fake persona.
@nyx4323 Жыл бұрын
girl bye, good thing he told you so you know he’s not worth it
@joy0355 Жыл бұрын
I'm so early. I thoroughly enjoy your videos, thank you! ❤
@Margarita.Nazarenko Жыл бұрын
Yay! Thank you!
@frayaortiz52395 ай бұрын
I laughed so hard with the last one because I can relate. There is this guy I’ve just started to date and the other day he asked me what do I look for in a man and I told him: “First of all, that he has his shit together”, and he was like oh I have my shit together, and I was like define having your shit together and one of the things he told me when explaining that is: “well, I have 100k saved in my bank account, and I have a good job”. He is 21 and I’m 20, to me, the fact that he said he has 100k in his bank account was impressive, I mean he is 21, but now with this video, I’m wondering if he was just trying to inflate himself to make me like him lol 😂 😂
@Ceylon727 Жыл бұрын
13.10😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😅 gosh how this was said. Darling posting this video literally saved the world ..thank you thank you😊
@karinesavard20165 ай бұрын
Interesting, one of my facial features are big blue eyes..Now, I have been bullied as much as complimented for them so I myself look in the mirror and say "this is me" genetic heritage, I might as well be proud of it 😊👍
@Ladyla889 ай бұрын
You’re like the mom I never had. I love your Chanel and you have become part of my routine to watch your episodes. Thank you for sharing with us.
@gypsysundrop Жыл бұрын
I want to be friends in real life- in person with you!! You are such a strong, stable, beautiful woman and I freaking love it!! Love to surround myself with confident, strong women. Oh how we would rule the world if we just built each other up like this woman.
@carlyleighton91098 күн бұрын
this is all true, my boyfriend is very honest. not in a mean way but he will tell me if something doesn’t flatter me. and he has said that men are first interested in looks but personality makes them stay
@HL-hr1bs Жыл бұрын
I started going through a deep depressive episode and my boyfriend suddenly needed to be friends with a girl from high school She is so real for this!!!
@kathleenkaleookalanismith8724 Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂 the first part cracked me up because facts!!!!! I legit know my husband is gonna lie! 😂😂😂😂
@filthyhanzomain79176 ай бұрын
3 sounds like a lot of insecurities from your side. I have a really close female friend i met through a hobby/a friend of mine. She is a 10/10 but i do not want anything more than friendship with her. Thats all it is ever going to be. Saying all men lie about that just sounds like personal trauma. If a woman would want me to stop contact with my friend then this woman can leave. I am choosing friends over a new partner with insecurities…Like of course there are men that lie about that, but guess what, you ve got the wrong guy then. Also lying is the worst thing you can do in a relationship. It will destroy it in the long run, just be honest with your partner…All of this sounds so childish
@iaf44543 ай бұрын
Hahaha we know men, more than themselves.
@tinylittleanj210 ай бұрын
Oh my god exactly that!! I have never ever expressed dislike for any part of myself to my partner. Simply because I do not want to add any negative ideas to any that my partner has about me. 22 years later, and I still don’t vocalise any insecurities.
@monzifitness Жыл бұрын
My bf wanted to find a female friend once and I wasn't okay with it. He said that he just wanted a female to talk about female things with. And he also said that they would hang out 1-on-1, even when I'm not there. I expressed how I didn't like this idea and so he never did go out to make a female friend but I still think it's really weird for him to want that because I feel I give him everything he would need from a female friend.
@worldwide123 Жыл бұрын
It is very weird. You ARE a female he can talk about female things with... If I were you I would ask him why he feels like he can’t talk to me about it.
@necronlady Жыл бұрын
He did want a female friend... a friend with benefit to sleep with without you suspecting it.
@monzifitness Жыл бұрын
@@necronlady lol nah he's not like that
@VanVevo-rd7wt Жыл бұрын
I'm a guy, you did the right thing.
@Rudelherz8 ай бұрын
You are the big sister everyone needs ❤
@yensounta6501 Жыл бұрын
What if there's an Amanda but you're married with kids and getting up and going isn't so easy? How can we approach this?
@lc-do5eo Жыл бұрын
Slowly get out of there… Very sorry.
@kenyattablack3187 Жыл бұрын
Honestly, this is one of the realest videos I have seen in a long time. I rarely comment on any video. The topics you touched on seem so nuanced but not really. 👏🏽
@athinaivziku9015 Жыл бұрын
She is NOT a 5 😂 mama is hot af
@Margarita.Nazarenko Жыл бұрын
awww love you x
@yasminekhan9431 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this once again eye-opening video. I have been in a relationship with a man for almost 5 mo and everything is going well but the only thing that I cannot understand is that he was still good friends with his ex of 5 years who cheated on him. He decided to stop any contact with her at the beginning of our relationship “for me”, he said. He assures me that there wasn’t any attraction to her anymore and vice-versa, that they went on trips the two of them after breaking up and sleeping in the same bed but nothing ever happened. I cannot believe this a second. But he keeps trying to convince me with this whenever we talk about it. I feel that she is always there and always will be. We had an argument recently and he brought up the fact that “he deprived himself from a relationship with her” that “he lost a friend for me” and that really did hurt. Today in our relationship he does not have any interaction with her, but I feel insecure in this relationship after those words. I know it’s difficult to say not being in the situation, but do you have any advice on how to handle this situation ? How would you see things being in your full feminine energy? Thank you ♥️
@vishakhaparijatham2116 Жыл бұрын
Leave . Your heart is not worth taking a second chance . Just think you dodged a bullet .
@LeeChrissy Жыл бұрын
As for someone who is really good friends with a few of my exes, while it's possible for this to be a legit friendship, I wouldn't feel comfortable with it personally. The thing is, I know that any one of my exes or male friends would sleep with me if they had the chance. As a woman, once I'm done with someone I generally lose all attraction so no worries on my part. My exes are like brothers to me so no way. However, people who cheat are toxic af and that's who your man hangs out with. She clearly has no moral code and I wouldn't want that next to my guy. My ex stayed acquainted with a few exes and most I didn't care (they weren't hanging out or talking regularly) except for the one who cheated on him. It pissed me off that he was so damaged from staying in a relationship with this woman that I got the residual mess of this past relationship which effected ours. He didn't hang out with her, but he still stayed friends on social media and kept an eye on her life. I'm good with that. He knows people she cheated with and he hates them yet stays acquainted with her. You're pretty early in. I'd likely leave. Especially if he only stopped talking to her for you because if that's the case, he didn't really want to actually stop for himself.
@mikepiccolo32 Жыл бұрын
Terrible advice he stopped
@yasminekhan9431 Жыл бұрын
@@LeeChrissy I learned yesterday his ex was still using his credit card for her Ubers. Didn’t even sneak. His phone got a bank notification that I saw as he was showing smth on his phone. My intuition told me smth was off. She called him 2 weeks ago when he was with me, he went to work and called her back and they had a lovely conversation. He did not tell me ofc. Lies lies lies. He crossed my boundary with all the lies. I gave him the opportunity to tell me stuff, I always showed open communication. What’s it with people avoiding short term discomfort of difficult conversations over long term dysfunction?
@DramaScenes1 Жыл бұрын
As a male trying to give you advice, he is important to her in some way. And maybe he wants to keep her close in the event you guys dont work out. And if you are trying to be in a serious relationship with someone, there shouldn't be a point where your bf tells you he deprived himself from a relationship with her. You are now the most important woman in his life after his mother. All other women shouldnt even be a thought because you should be more than enough. There is a reason you dont believe those things for a second and its better to trust your gut than to be hurt more in the end. Just my two cents and hope you figure things out.
@nedamalovic8981 Жыл бұрын
You’re so right! Love your videos. Thank you.
@edithamaliaioo2228 Жыл бұрын
I am thinking in the same way :) thank you for confirming l am not lunatic , love you 🤗
@thinguyen4041 Жыл бұрын
Wow on point. Thank you
@berangerejourdat5774 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for your words. I find myself in everything that you say. it is helping me a lot to face my lack of confidence and self estime.
@danastewart3494 Жыл бұрын
Needed this now - ‘friend’ arriving tomorrow … wish me luck Thank you 🙏🏾 😊
@Duck72432 Жыл бұрын
I think everyone confuses "love" and "want" . you can and should be loved for who you are but just because i love you doesn't mean i want you. that's the selfish part you cant love everyone and so you most choose someone and you'll use what ever preferences you have, after you have been chosen tho eg been in a relationship a while yeah just forget all that insecure shit ive chosen you and love you for you, but that doesnt mean let your self go you should wanna be the best version of you for you and your so
@ashleyhall6778 Жыл бұрын
Do you think number 3 applies to past friends that they're still friends with as well? Because I agree, but only if it's new "friends". My bf has female friends that I do not get that vibe from at all, at least on his end. Not to say he's not attracted/never has been, but that the relationship does not in any way violate our relationship boundaries and I think it's actually healthy that he's maintained those friendships. He also doesn't lie about any of the things you've mentioned, though I think most guys would (we have very open & honest communication about everything, to the point it hurts sometimes). I too have many guy friends (many more than he has girl friends) and I think the dynamic is similar. We are all friends with each other's friends. I would agree that if he all of a sudden makes a new female friend that he wants to spend time with, that would be fishy behavior, but I know he'd never do that (& if he did, it wouldn't last with us). But yeah, curious if you feel that applies to female friends that came before the relationship too.
@Margarita.Nazarenko Жыл бұрын
they can happen when its from college so school etc or if they had friends in common as kids but usually to maintain it , it takes energy... so that would be a question
@briannatwumasi64834 ай бұрын
hey it's been 10 months an i'm just curious, did their friendship ever become an issue?
@ashleyhall67783 ай бұрын
@@briannatwumasi6483 Sorry for the late response! It has NEVER been an issue!
@bodzakis3265 Жыл бұрын
pure gold Margarita.... you are pure gold... such an amazing insight again and fantastic humour... omg, best, ever! we can't thank you enough these videos!
@pratheekshah7496 Жыл бұрын
Wizard liz part 2❤
@Margarita.Nazarenko Жыл бұрын
She should make a part 2! ❤
@CigarettesandVogue Жыл бұрын
Can you please do a video about jealousy and insecurity in a relationship? ❤️
@maggiedimitrova29238 ай бұрын
Hi Margarita, You are a very wise woman. I enjoy your videos ! Keep them coming.
@user-uh5tb9er4o Жыл бұрын
thanks, Margarita!
@madhura_chatterjeeАй бұрын
I cannoht agree more with the 3rd point.
@scc8728 Жыл бұрын
My ex did this. When i first met him i felt like he wasn't that good looking. I was drawn to his confidence and success. But in time i thought he was so hot....shame that turned into underhanded comments to cut me down. I thought he would value me because on a numerical scale i would likely be seen as a much higher number but no. Now I'm watching your content trying to build myself up. I did let this man determine my worth, not intentionally but never again!
@maritamaltezaki85888 ай бұрын
You are amazing!❤
@Rebeccaluvxoxo Жыл бұрын
Seriously love ur channel girlllll
@mycouture2011 Жыл бұрын
Hahaha what a boss babe you are! Loved this.
@LuckyLioness369 Жыл бұрын
I agree on every point.
@nadyaclaresta5670 Жыл бұрын
the way i laughed with 1.500 woman and the wrestling thing 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@aleeshali6898 Жыл бұрын
I absolutely loooovve your videos!!! You are so inspirational and have really helped me in many many ways keep doing what you're doing.. would love to see you having your podcast in videos i have been listening to tour podcasts on spotify every Tuesdays! Xxx
@clarabird3914 Жыл бұрын
Spot on!
@elizabethcaldwell72689 ай бұрын
You are absolutely my new faaaav! I adore you and I swear we would be besties!! We really would!
@littlebean8856 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Margarita.
@colelevi7020 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! I wanna your thoughts on the difference how men treat friends and their lover. Thank you!!
@aniketnandi6382 Жыл бұрын
Truth could not be sometimes straight forward . It can be sometimes in form manipulation because truth is complex sometimes. It’s not the words, but its what points to .
@Emillyy943 ай бұрын
My ex never would comment or like on my things about us on social media yet he commented on a bartenders selfie saying “love you ❤️❤️” and I called him out on it and he told me I was reading too much into things and that he hates social media. I know this bartender and she is very nice and well liked by everyone he claimed I was jealous and we’re in a long distance relationship so I was feeling a bit jealous because I know he spends a lot of nights there and she got to spend more time with him than I did. He claimed she had no interest in him besides serving him beverages but he never said if he had interest in her but I feel in my gut he does. He even said in front of me while at the bar that it’s always a good time when she (the bartender) is there working. He was surprised I was serious about this when I told him this makes uncomfortable, he acted like I was being ridiculous. We broke up 2 weeks ago after a year of dating long distance, we’d see each other every 2 weeks but I think we both just lost interest in this relationship. I think Margarita is so right when she said guys aren’t just friends with women just because.