A Q+A where I answered your toughest questions and didn't hold back. (hope I don't regret this)

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Жыл бұрын

Honestly, this was refreshing for me. Thank you for spending a half hour with me. I am really so excited to continue to push myself to show up unhindered over here. THANKFUL FOR MY FRIENDS, OK? Couldn't do it without you.
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@BellaRigelOrion Жыл бұрын

As a survivor of physical & emotional abuse from a narcissist, my jaw dropped at the last answer. One of the most important red flags I learned in therapy to look out for was anyone who tried to separate you from your family & friends. Your counselor wasn't aware of that, but I am glad you didn't listen and kept the door open with your parents. I'm hoping anyone who happens to read this takes note of that for their future. Abusers have way more power gaslighting you when they are the only option you have to speak to.

@HKaurG98 Жыл бұрын

Agree! I just came out of a marriage with a narcissistic man and this was a big one! It's also important to notice that they cna be sneaky with it - if you are close with certain people, they may support that relationship as a way to gain your trust and get closer to you and when they feel like you will never leave them, they might only then start to isolate you. So, beware of things changing. Just because your narcissistic partner supported a certain relationship you have with a close one before doesn't mean they truly do in their heart.

@erinharris7663 Жыл бұрын

I appreciate the way you deal with Christianity and your channel. I am not a Christian but strive to be the most loving and open person I can be, I appreciate your content and perspective. Thank goodness you listened to your parents. They seem like they're such amazing people. you are lucky to have them.

@thehumblehen Жыл бұрын

Not sure if I said this already but... I am a 30 something year old, mom of three little girls, happily married, black woman and I relate to you SOOOO stinking much! After a day of busyness and chaos, your videos are my "stop and smell the roses!" What if we ALL did just that with people that appear to be so different than ourselves...? You are such a sweet reminder that there's something to be learned from everyone! Thanks so much for sharing your life and light!

@MichelleMaree Жыл бұрын

Well said about Michel and the world! I'm in my 50's and to watch what the world is becoming is very saddening to me. I pray for all of you younger generations and especially WOMEN! We NEED more than ever to lift each other up and encourage!!!! You are a great mother and you do the best you can right now with what you have and I pray that you can totally relax and rejuvenate as you spend time with Michel! I love to do that and I am sending both of you so much love, Michelle :)

@paulad8726 Жыл бұрын

I LOVE your username! 🐓❤️

@healinghashis Жыл бұрын

Your ex's character is so clear in the fact that he didn't pay you back for the extra 5 months of rent even though HE cheated. What an absolute d bag. I know people can grow up and get better, but that level of selfishness is so absurd.

@cheri7384 Жыл бұрын

I am 73 yrs, old and I am really surprised at how much I enjoy your videos. Maybe I'm reliving my youth vicariously through you:) But you are far wiser and smarter than I ever was at your age. Just continue being YOU...that's who God wants you to be. Enjoy your upcoming trip.

@abrielle13 Жыл бұрын

I'm Athiest, and the way you go about your faith makes me feel very welcome and comfortable here. I wish more Christians were open-minded like you.

@prettyrouge Жыл бұрын

That's why so many women end up alone after a divorce, for such bad advice from people they trust. Thank you so much Michel for telling your story, it helps tremendously. You opening up can make someone realize that what they're living or the advise they're getting is not good.

@robi5231 Жыл бұрын

I am christiam but i have to say it: there is something really weird about how churches are managed in America. All the things you said gave me chills.. immagine how many women with less suport than you had are making wrong decisions DAILY because of christian counsellors or christian guides that are not really thinking about the well being of the person but just about parrot-repeating rules????

@liliesofthefield5310 Жыл бұрын

They take one verse out of the Bible and give no room for any exceptions, YES, God hates divorce because it's the death of a marriage but we live in an imperfect world, sometimes there really is no other option, the lady who gave her that advice should have asked more qu and really got to root of the problem, there is no one-size-fits all approach to marriage issues, it's 100% dependant on the situation

@annal6379 Жыл бұрын

It's terrifying to think of how a vulnerable person could be affected by this.

@joancottam6956 Жыл бұрын

My husband and I have different religious beliefs and it works! Love your hair today! Great video!! I love your Favourites videos!! ❤

@eloisebing4674 Жыл бұрын

😮😮😅😮😮😅

@annal6379 Жыл бұрын

@@joancottam6956 The OP was referring not to differing religious beliefs in couples but how Michel experienced "Christain" marriage counselling

@chelsey0192 Жыл бұрын

Just a follow up about your friends having kids - just still be there for them! As a new mom, I know it's so important to still have relationships outside of being a mom. Especially just by checking in on them and making sure they are okay. Love your vlogs and love watching you grow as a person 💜

@lindafisher8441 Жыл бұрын

That works both ways, they need to make her feel included also...

@chelsey0192 Жыл бұрын

@@lindafisher8441 I agree. I didn’t say anything about it being a one-way street. Just sharing my perspective as a new mom

@lindafisher8441 Жыл бұрын

@@chelsey0192 congratulations on being a new mom…I’m 70 years young and I was a mom way before any of my friends back in 1973…I was remembering it from both sides..also had friends that never had children by choice or were not able to…I always included them in events I knew they would like, and they, in return did the same for me…thank you for your response

@Schmitz_Creek Жыл бұрын

I hate to say it, but if you have to ask your significant other to see their phone, then that’s your answer. That means that trust has been broken. You deserve so much better and I’m happy you’ve found that in Jordy!

@MatStarv Жыл бұрын

Agreed. This shouldn't be something that's necessary at all.

@dhall75608 Жыл бұрын

You shouldn’t have to ask but you should be able to grab it and look at it regardless. If my husband’s phone is close and I left mine in another room, I can grab his to look at something. Same goes for him. There shouldn’t be anything to hide either.

@lanaantonenka7446 Жыл бұрын

phones are personal space; it doesn't matter how much I love my partner; but some Google searches, I want to keep for myself. If a person feel the need to clarify something by looking into someones phone, this person has big problems with communication. Just talk, use your mouth

@cocoashan01 Жыл бұрын

Yeah... because cheating spouses always tell the truth 🙄

@maggafford Жыл бұрын

As a queer person, it usually is near-impossible for me to watch Christian content creators. However, I’ve never felt that way with you. I think that’s because of how authentically you pursue kind understanding, respect, and love. That means a lot to me as an exvangelical queer person. Thanks for making this a safe space for anyone ❤ Also, keep being goofy & your true self bc you’ve got a whole lotta weirdos out here 👋😂🥳

@csc1641 Жыл бұрын

I thought love wins?

@kzfingerprint Жыл бұрын

You're parents are the most genuine, absolute sweet hearts of all the parents I've been exposed to - I can't believe that church leader advised that. It's crazy that instead of trying to understand their concerns she jumps to cutting them out of your life. That's right, let's isolate a married woman who has concerns with her marriage so all she has is her concerning spouse...

@whitneyreynolds7457 Жыл бұрын

Michel, I can honestly say that you are the only person that I watch 💯 of everything you put out on KZfaq. I am 54, single with no children. My life took turns that led me to places I never thought I would find myself. But even at 54, you seem so relatable to me. And as I’m “old school” I don’t do Instagram or Tik Tok so let it fly here on KZfaq. We are here for it!!

@MichelleMaree Жыл бұрын

I am also in my 50's and feel that way about Sweet Michel!!

@rebecca__bowman402 Жыл бұрын

Church hurt victim here! My experiences have really put me off from my faith and I’m not sure if I’ll walk into a church again honestly. I feel so welcomed with you! I love listening to your perspective on things so much. You are an inspiration!

@crystallawson6992 Жыл бұрын

I don’t know how I got in this rabbit hole of reading your comments section, Michel, but I would agree.. you have some very kind and supportive people here. Those others are not worth another thought. I love seeing your personality shine through and the joy returning in your life. Having watched you throughout the last 4 years it has been such an awesome thing to watch your transformation.

@madigagliardi Жыл бұрын

As a non-Christian, agnostic person- I really appreciate the way you balance sharing your faith, while welcoming all people into your community! A godly woman if I ever saw one! We love ya, Michel!

@user-mv2tg8hc8c Жыл бұрын

A mental health counselor is not supposed to tell you to stay married or get divorced. They are there to help you be able to process, explore, gain tools, etc. for you to be able to make a decision that you’re confident with and can follow through on. Counselors are helpers not decision makers, the decisions are all for the client to make.

@essliedavis Жыл бұрын

YES on the religious counseling. Because it’s always “honor your mother and father”, toxic and abusive behaviors were brushed aside and the focus was “my problems” spun my wheels and now in non religiously based therapy, we see reality. Gaslighting and brainwashing has passed and it’s just pure truth 🥲 feel you there, luvvy. Go the same route in therapy with Jordy and you’ll find you build authentic trust based on your amazing friendship as a foundation ❤

@karmakauffman7445 Жыл бұрын

I love your beliefs about the importance of loving on people, especially those who may have been hurt by the church or excluded from church altogether. Church hurt is so real and damaging. Love that you respect other peoples’ beliefs and differences. These are the attitudes that lead toward healing! ❤

@cathyleffler658 Жыл бұрын

I love your balance between being a good Christian vs being a good loving person. So healthy and smart

@blossombolton9829 Жыл бұрын

But the two aren't mutually exclusive.

@anikassabian5684 Жыл бұрын

Those don’t have to be two different things. They ought to be the same thing.

@cnbandy Жыл бұрын

Really love that your parents put you before their faith. ❤

@jillianmichelle105 Жыл бұрын

The part where you mention your parents were the ones to suggest a divorce just broke me 😭😭😭. They love you so much and probably hated to see you go through that difficult period in your life.

@visionv4779 Жыл бұрын

I love the way you answered the question about loving others who don’t share the same perspective, views or life experience as you.

@heleneutterback6278 Жыл бұрын

As a queer non-binary person, it is really nice to hear you say that loving the LGBTQ+ community is important. Christianity has been very isolating to me in recent years, and people like you give me a lot of hope

@liveandlearn4980 Жыл бұрын

You are so well spoken, thoughtful, genuine and kind. I can't wait to see what the future holds for you. ❤

@themusicjunkie4life Жыл бұрын

I absolutely love these types of videos because of how open and honest you are. You’ve been blessed with you’re parents for how they handled seeing you suffer. Also as a swiftie I can totally understand how you feel about being a Taylor fan. A lot of people make it their personality.

@yasmindahall6714 Жыл бұрын

I love what you said about being a Christian that focuses on love and not being right. I think I grew further away from the church because of that mentality of being right and personally I am a person who believes that as a Christian my job is to love my fellow humans. While I currently don’t go to church anymore I love knowing that there are churches out there that align more to my own personal beliefs

@corishim629 Жыл бұрын

Just make sure that you're measuring your beliefs by the Bible. Loving someone gently is more important than proving correctness, that's true. Don’t leave out the truth and don't share the truth without love

@Nicolelynnn Жыл бұрын

watched this while eating dinner, thank you for a longer upload today

@weezer1109 Жыл бұрын

Give a girl a few extra ounces of awe-striking beauty and what do you get? Narcissism. Christian narcissism. She’s going to be an actress, come hell or high water. You go, girl.

@libbymorehouse4466 Жыл бұрын

I'm so happy with where you are in life. I love love love seeing happy, healthy Michel. I know this was part of your past, and it still hurts my heart to think about how such a sweet and caring person had to go through that. So glad you're in a better place and God gave you Jordy (such a sweet boy)

@izzystanleyfit6517 Жыл бұрын

I just wanted to say, I don't personally have any religious beliefs + live in Australia where there isn't a heavy religious culture whatsoever, but I LOVE your perspective on religion, it's something I deeply respect + I always feel very welcome even though we don't share the same beliefs 🤍

@mariamangion21 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your incredible content Michel, I look up to you and your whole vibe so much 🥹 The fact that she puts SO much effort into her videos literally makes my day 🥰

@MichelJanse Жыл бұрын

Awe, thank you for your kind words sweet friend!!🫶🏼

@jasmins8260 Жыл бұрын

Totally absolutely LOVED this. You are brave, genuine and have the best heart. Even with everything you have been through. PLEASE take a break and take care of you when it comes to your surgery. If you do too much or stress too much it could have a negative impact on your immune system and recovery.

@jacieleboeuf6015 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for allowing me to come along on this journey with you! I am just out of college and was having a hard time with being unapologetically me or even just knowing who I am. I take every word of your advice and apply it to my situation. You inspire me daily, and you are incredible!! You have also allowed me to feel justified for having opinions that are outside of the "normal" Christian faith. Hearing you speak about just loving one another made me feel comforted, as that is my exact outlook on it as well.

@hollychapman4338 Жыл бұрын

as a christian, i cannot imagine anyone encouraging someone to remain in a marriage where they are unsafe! praise the Lord for your parents and their sweet wisdom and guidance during that time! on a side note, Michel, your videos bring me so much joy! you have grown so much in the past year and a half, and you are truly a joy to watch. i feel like we are friends in an odd way! lots of love and wishing you all the best xoxo

@vsvanity5193 Жыл бұрын

Ugh I just love you. You’re always so unapologetically yourself & that is very hard to find on the internet. Thank you for sharing your life with us ❤️

@MichelJanse Жыл бұрын

Awe, thank you friend!! 🤍

@Finally_free Жыл бұрын

Same!

@Gabriela79830 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for always sharing with us! Your videos are so thoughtful and you're incredibly sweet! ✨

@naomihull4167 Жыл бұрын

I had my two kids really early and my single sisters and friends have been the best aunties and have been able to pour into my family more than they would if they had their own kids/husband 💕 all this to say, lean into single fun auntie life, we as young mamas need it!

@Lovebrittwoods Жыл бұрын

I absolutely loved today’s video I too am a Christian who focuses more on love! Great way to put it! ❤🙌🏿

@karmakauffman7445 Жыл бұрын

Me too!

@fgbundy Жыл бұрын

Same here! ❤😊

@AnneliesVeldman Жыл бұрын

I really loved this video, and thank you for sharing all these things with us when you don't have to at all. Your perspective on things is just very refreshing, and as a non christian longtime subscriber of your channel, I have always felt welcome here, and I always enjoy hearing your thoughts on all things, religion and everything else. Also on the favorites note, I would LOVE to see dedicated favorites videos!

@kainanimerrill1364 Жыл бұрын

On the thought of doing things that are unwittingly disrespectful, I think because you love travel you may want to take a look at giving back in the communities that you are "touristing" in. Especially indigenous land based tourism volunteer opportunities. It can give a sense of culture of place, give back and deeper understanding of place.

@christina_m96 Жыл бұрын

Anyone else notice Max's BOMBASTIC side eye at 20:10 when Michel's reading the question about a career backup 😭😂 he's like "you better keep working girly, I need my treats!"

@MichelJanse Жыл бұрын

HAHAHAHA

@pangleemoua3580 Жыл бұрын

Love all your answers! You’re so well spoken and wise!

@paigefoutch2445 Жыл бұрын

Loved this video! Always love your honesty and openness ❤️

@MichelJanse Жыл бұрын

🥹🥰🫶🏼

@CeliaManns Жыл бұрын

I loved everything about this! Thanks for showing up authentically and being willing to talk about the hard, real life stuff 💛

@briannah7775 Жыл бұрын

I say film a couple of thrift/keep or return hauls now to post during recovery! I love those, and they’re a good filler if you need to take it easy ❤

@amandaboie3343 Жыл бұрын

I am so happy you are becoming more open and honest, I started watching just as the divorce was happening and being able to see you grow and become the person you were meant to be has been so incredible. Also I think it is amazing that you can share the hurt and the warning signs you missed and what all you learned from your marriage, I am a happily married woman and even for me this is great to hear and to understand as I grow through my marriage. So thankful I found you and I hope you know we all support you!

@Mapletrinity Жыл бұрын

Woo! Just finished watching your last video! Just in time for the new one 😊. Thank you for doing what you do! ❤

@DonnasWonderland Жыл бұрын

Loved this insight! Especially loved what you said about what god is teaching you right now. Even as someone who doesn’t have a following I worry about what, if anything I should post when these horrific events happen. So I really appreciated the insight ❤

@Sama-yd4cl Жыл бұрын

I love Michel sit down chats! Your voice puts me at peace 🥰

@ldmount Жыл бұрын

I wanted to say how lovely it is to hear from a Christian who actually leads with love and acceptance! I had a very painful experience in the Christian church myself, and it is very refreshing to hear from someone who is loving and kind above just trying to blame and shame individuals based on their church doctrine. Love to you from this Agnostic lady!

@samanthaarmstrong7361 Жыл бұрын

I love the videos on your favorite products. Thanks for sharing all your responses! ❤

@kaiw522 Жыл бұрын

You've come so far 🥰 honest Michel is my FAVE. you deserve all the love and happiness! I've been here subscribing for a looong time and I'm seeing California in your future again 😂 xx

@christineross9421 Жыл бұрын

Love this video! Your parents are so awesome! 💕 I too have great parents that supported me through my divorce and breakups. It is so important to have a support group!

@jgfffffffhjiufdddj Жыл бұрын

CAPE COD! YEAH BABY! Thats going to be so refreshing♥️ love you, Michel! Thank you for being YOU and stepping out of your comfort zone. I just want you to be a happy girl✨ Much love from Nashville🤍🤍🤍🤍

@sarameier Жыл бұрын

I love how candid and open you are. I appreciate the space you've created here so much. Also- I totally walked by you and Jordy on the street in Durham last weekend and didn't realize it was you guys until after. I'm so bummed I didn't get to say hi!!

@IndianaNana1 Жыл бұрын

You are wise beyond your years, Michel. blessings

@denisegrosch2744 Жыл бұрын

I love your honesty!! Keep it real!!

@lindafisher8441 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing! I love watching you grow!

@gailm1122 Жыл бұрын

Michel, please take as much time as you need for healing after your surgery and don't worry about uploading videos. You come first. 💌

@swatipai168 Жыл бұрын

Family who brought you into this world and raised you so lovingly all these years should be the only people you don't ignore as they have the best interest. Anyone advising otherwise don't really care about you or the situation you are in. This video has been amazing. You are an amazing person and being a good human no matter what religion is what God intended all of us to be.

@augustek5382 Жыл бұрын

Great questions and great answers. I am glad you listen to your heart and not the church on the marriage/divorce topic. Your parents are great and am glad they pushed you towards the right decision!

@karenwyand7884 Жыл бұрын

I loved this vlog. Your answer about if you’d ever get married again was perfectly said ❤. Yay Maine! But you’re right, winters are rough here.

@simonewynia9272 Жыл бұрын

I think this is my favourite Q&A of yours. 💕

@MichelJanse Жыл бұрын

🥰🥰🫶🏼

@emily_257 Жыл бұрын

At 24:10 I gasped! As a Catholic, it’s so tricky finding someone who can understand and see beyond strict rules.

@pa686 Жыл бұрын

Catholic here! I cannot relate to my priests or movement leaders because most reject inclusivity and actually see it as a bad thing. Like if I were to have (which I do) LGBTQi+ friends they would see it as sinful behavior on my part because I would be "condoning it".. and how is it that they are the ones that are right when they are so hateful.. it's frustrating

@kge6492 Жыл бұрын

Wow, US is wierd. I'm Catholic from Poland. In here we do tego have many LGBT People. It is thought as sinful, but being friends with queer person isnt thought about. Like no one would Say that you shouldnt be friends with them. Like it isn't their fault they are this way and as catholic you can show how church is giving love and good values and bring them in to our Father that loves everyone regardless.

@kge6492 Жыл бұрын

*don't have many

@JessicaLaShawn Жыл бұрын

Let me go grab my coffee! You always make my day when you post and I LOVE THE HAIR!!!

@MichelJanse Жыл бұрын

Hahahah I love this!! Thank you friend !!

@larafreeman9930 Жыл бұрын

I absolutely love all your content and I hate when you don't post but really it is about your health and please take the time you need to recover. We will be here when you are back.

@missom2817 Жыл бұрын

Ughhh, that counselor! Your parents will always want the best for you. I get that about TS and the trauma. Many artists I can't listen to due to similar circumstances.

@88thisiscrap Жыл бұрын

Can you just for one second imagine where you would be if you listened to her? That’s the scary part.

@MichelJanse Жыл бұрын

That is really scary to think about!!

@rebeccarichmond2582 Жыл бұрын

I’m so grateful to you for sharing your Swiftie stuff. I was also cheated on. And there are specific things that immediately take me back. A name. A song. A state. And even now lots of years later I still find myself holding my breath when I hear or see something that reminds me of that. And then I silently reprimand myself for still being affected. But when you said it’s a response to trauma it hit me for the first time that that’s what I’m experiencing. It makes me feel like I should be a lot more loving to myself where that’s concerned. If I had been held hostage and years later something reminded me of that trauma I wouldn’t blame myself for reacting immediately. So why do I blame myself for reacting to this? Thank you for being open. ❤

@AYK894 Жыл бұрын

The start of her relationship with Jordy in the middle ages would be like this: she walks past him and 'accidentally" drops her gloves, he picks them up and approaches her. )))

@BellaRigelOrion Жыл бұрын

That's too cute! I think you mean more the Victorian era though. ;)

@trixable16 Жыл бұрын

Yes, please do a favorites video! I always love your vids. You’re truly an amazing person I can relate to.❤

@laurajeansimons5212 Жыл бұрын

I am happy for you that you felt comfortable enough to answer the tough questions, Michel. Do what feels right and don't worry about people with petty criticisms. It is too easy for people to hide behind a keyboard and say unkind things.

@justlaura7177 Жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness thank you for another great Q&A! I was horrified about the bad advice from that lady about cutting ties with your parents but I’m glad you knew not to follow it blindly.

@cindyla8760 Жыл бұрын

Would love more favorite videos. Take time for yourself in recovery!

@MichelJanse Жыл бұрын

YAY!! I love making those videos!! 🫶🏼🫶🏼

@tfeliciano1106 Жыл бұрын

Loove you!! Thank you for your honesty. I feel like we’d be such great friends if we knew each other❤️💕

@katherineleevessella9919 Жыл бұрын

Hugs Michel: you literally continue to be my favorite to watch on KZfaq, I love how much love and care you put into your videos. ❤️❤️

@Nora-jt9zy Жыл бұрын

Every time I watch one of your videos where you reflects on life, I really admire how you are able put things into perspective in such beautiful ways, and how you have been able to grow from the things life has put you through. I know that it has taken a lot of effort from you, but I also know that not everyone are able to see, or articulate, things like you do. There was a little thing that pulled extra at my heart this time. That was when you talked about having children. I had my first child at 26, and didn’t have much experience with babysitting or taking care of younger siblings, as my mother was at home when we were small. Most of us are not born “perfect parents”. But don’t worry 😊 As our children grow, our parenting skills grow with them. And the mutual, unconditional love enables both them and us to make mistakes, and the gift of forgiveness ❤ The love between a parent and a child is something very unique. So enjoy the time you have now to the fullest, and know that from the moment you become a mom, you will be a work in progress as a mom for the rest of your life 😉 And know that it is the most beautiful work in progress ever 😊

@Jess_Bishop Жыл бұрын

“Favorites” videos are literally my favorite! I cannot wrap my head around that not being an immediate click on!

@lareelongtin5129 Жыл бұрын

I'm Christian as well, Catholic. If I would go to marital counciling, I wouldn't be able to go to a priest. My husband has emotionally hurt me, but people don't see him in that way. Our priest would want us to keep our marriage intact. Since I have healed, I no longer feel the need to get everyone to see my side of the story or agree with me. It's such a freeing feeling to truly know, love, and trust myself. 😊💕 I really enjoyed this Q&A video. You're so mature, smart, and down to earth! You and Jordy are so cute together! 😍 Have a great week!☕️🤍✨️🤍✨️

@marsha2703 Жыл бұрын

Some of the best advice I got while going through my divorce was from a Priest. I too was abused and lived through infidelity. They also have family members who have experienced divorce, which can help them relate.

@danielleflemm3439 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for being you. 😄 Thank you for being conscientious of not only those that follow you, but for those that you encounter IRL. I am far from religious, but I enjoy many different kinds of influencers, and some make their religion too “front and center”. And I totally respect them for their beliefs, but I tend to fast forward when they get too preachy. I can confidently say, I have never fast forwarded any of your posts. You’re my buddy I catch up with after the kids go to bed, and I’m unwinding before going to sleep. Keep on being the awesome you that you are. ✌🏻❤️🌈

@gwynethglas-brown9171 Жыл бұрын

Thats lovely your going on an other solo trip 😊 You taking care of your self after your surgery is most important Of all 💕, we all fully understand If your not able or not feeling up to place a video , rest it important . We all still hear waiting once you feel much beter to start filming . Have a Good week 🥰

@betsybabf748 Жыл бұрын

So proud of how you have grown through challenges, holding yourself with strength and pure grace.

@meganvenegas7632 Жыл бұрын

Hello Michel. I love this video and appreciate your openness and honesty. I couldn't agree more regarding religion and how we're not to judge. Yes to the favorites video and I will pray for your future wants for you! Take care!

@rebecca3519 Жыл бұрын

I cannot believe the counselor lady your parents are amazing! I’m so in love with both them ❤️🥰🥰🥰

@meganbarto4138 Жыл бұрын

I love your thoughts on faith and be loving instead of being right. I've been feeling more and more lately not wanting to go to church because of that reason. It's just put a bad taste in my mouth so struggling on finding a new church.

@markvh97 Жыл бұрын

Loved this! Also as a huge swiftie I completely understand your reasoning! Hope you have a great week! ❤

@kdallosnc Жыл бұрын

Really enjoyed this! 💜

@meslaura Жыл бұрын

It is so interesting/frustrating to hear you talk about your experience with divorce and the church. I am a pastor, but I am part of a pretty progressive Christian denomination. I pray that you land in a faith community that is an authentic expression of God’s love for us- broken relationships and all. Thanks for your openness. There are a lot of people in churches that are more interested in controlling them than sharing God’s love with them, and your story might help them see what is true and good and healthy, even if it goes against what they have heard their pastors preach.

@vickyb9918 Жыл бұрын

Yes bring on the silly Michel. We need more real people in the social media influencer world. I really enjoy your content. Thank you for all you do.

@MichelJanse Жыл бұрын

Awe thank you sweet Vicky!!

@andreas_adventures Жыл бұрын

I love Q&As. I'm excited to see your next travel video.

@gracewitte2205 Жыл бұрын

I ADORE this hairstyle on you!!!!

@marilynelliott4111 Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to hear you say you're feeling freer about being yourself (funny, goofy, sassy, silly Michel). I can't wait to meet her, she sounds like a lot of fun :) . I got divorced many years ago and one of the things that I didn't really even notice that I had done, was to stop doing the things I really loved that made me happy. I used to write, I was very creative and because my exes weren't into that, I stopped doing it. Luckily, I have amazing friends who encouraged me to go back to it and by doing so, I kind of returned to myself, if that makes sense? I got married a couple of weeks ago and my husband loves doing quite a few of the same things I do, but he also encourages and supports me to do the things that he doesn't do or like, but appreciates them as being a part of my uniqueness. I think we women can be a little bit like chameleons and we can tend to put everyone else's needs first. We have to remember that our passions, enthusiasms and hobbies are as important as our partner's or the opinions of others. So I am love, love, loving seeing you return to things you love, like pottery and feeling safe enough to explore doing new things, like solo trips. I think your relationship with Jordy is so beautiful. It's loving and supportive and you are such a wonderful couple. That is the sign of a healthy, aligned relationship.

@wendyshoup8539 Жыл бұрын

I think your parents are amazing and you are truly blessed to have their total support! They definitely have your best interest at heart and I'm so glad your didn't listen to that counselor! Also, as much as I love Taylor Swift, I mist definitely understand that she is a trigger for you! You are beautiful inside and out and I appreciate your hinest, raw responses!❤

@latmcb9863 Жыл бұрын

Excellent video. You answered some very tough questions with grace, honesty and compassion. Well done.

@carlajoyswan Жыл бұрын

Love you and your honesty

@allthingshealthy2314 Жыл бұрын

Your hair looks so thick and healthy here!! Love the braids, so cute!! I’ve been meaning to ask you where you like to purchase your hair scarfs? I’ve seen them in past videos and love them

@AmandaE1964 Жыл бұрын

I love your Q&A''s! Love your braids, adorable...even your staff infection was adorable lol Fun Vlog

@kaylaxoxo15 Жыл бұрын

I love how Michel gives off those big sis advice vibes 🫶🏽🤍✨been watching for years and current an university student

@Shop-Girl Жыл бұрын

I have a hard time with church, as the same thing happened to me as it did to you when I was in my early 20s. I was an abusive relationship and the pastors wife told me that I am to be submissive to my husband. And that I am to cut all people out that are telling me to leave him. I believe in God I believe in the Bible, I don’t believe in church. It is sad to think that there are women out there that do not have the support that I had or that you had. Mama and Papa Janse are amazing people!!! ❤❤❤❤ they also raised a pretty amazing daughter. You go girl!!