When fatigue wins over compassion, that's a sign for us to move away, and forward.

Compassion fatigue for a person who has loads of compassion leaves a deep emptiness. Fill your reservoir and be compassionate to those who can/will benefit from it. This takes understanding.

I didn't know the narcissist in my life was a narcissist until about 2 months ago. She called me constantly to complain and I always listened and tried to cheer her up to no avail. I had been a listening ear for over 4 years. I had a pinched nerve in my neck for that 4 years and when I stopped speaking to her my pinch nerve pain went away and has not come back. I didn't realize the negativity was causing me physical pain until the contact with her stopped. I'm so grateful not to be in pain any longer and I feel lighter and so much more joyful. Thank you for educating us on this topic, it's been so valuable to me.

Dr Carter, You mean everything to us. You are loved and so appreciated. This vacation is essential. Enjoy. It also gives us time to watch your play lists and hopefully take advantage of one of your courses. Thank you for being with us through the holidays. 🌹

I don't know that I had loads of compassion for my ex narc, but I was worn out from his constant demands. You couldn't do enough for the guy. His neediness caused fatigue.

I am fatigued so I did go 98% no contact with a family member . After 70 years 😮I understand change is not coming 😅

It took me 31 years to get what you're talking about Dr. C!

Les, your passion to help, educate, validate and your empathy toward this subject is truly amazing! You’ve been a calm voice of reason and knowledge for me for the past 8+ months through this journey from a suspected covert. You truly are appreciated. THANK YOU!!!! And to the subject matter, yes I felt completely drained of compassion and empathy. Felt empty in every sense of the word.

The loneliness and grief are so heavy at times 😔

Brother, ive been watching you for years. Never gets old.

Dr. C. Enjoy your time off! R&R we all need!❤ I suffered from empathy fatigue working in health care for yrs ...I thought. My fatigue actuall came from the narcissist I was married to and his crazy family, I later realized....they had drained me.

Animals are more humane than some people ❤

There's an old saying, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't force them to drink.

"Compassion Fatigue"...well, who knew there was a term for what I am feeling at this point in time?! It only took me 30+ years of "banging my head against a brick wall" so to speak, just because I have "the helper" syndrome real bad. However, today, I have had enough "misery," and even though "misery loves company," I can no longer 'help' the narcissist live life at my expense. I understand how frustrating it must have been for you, Dr. C, in getting this point across while in your practice, but "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink." Unfortunately, one has to have their limit of misery before they 'see' things differently; and once they see it, they can 'unsee' it. And then one can finally "live and learn" and "do better"... which is where I am finally at. Also, I have always believed that dogs are very intuitive when it comes to sensing or knowing good people or bad people. Dogs are very intuitive with people's emotions, too. Whenever I cry, my dogs always immediately come close enough to my face to lick my tears away as if to tell me that it's going to be okay. And I am sure others have had the same experience with their dogs. As for the relationship of the narcissistic mother and daughter part of this video, I thought you were talking about my cousin. She is in exactly the same position of now being so much older and understanding how and why her mother was so horrible to her as a young girl. She finally does feel so much better going no contact, but more importantly, the understanding that it wasn't her all along that was damaged. That was her mother. I hope that other woman you spoke of, Dr. C, will finally release any guilt she has, too. I am so happy that I learned about "Compassion Fatigue" today. Thank you for furthering my education about everything that goes along with narcissists and narcissism, and please keep these videos coming, Dr. C. Enjoy your holiday next week, and please give Gus a hug for me! 😊❤

My mother died with her narcissist. It's so hard to deal with this. I miss her so much. I'm so tired. She was so abused.

I used to be that person who would ring people and complain. I was so full of pain. I just had to talk. But I alienated a lot of people. I was not malicious, just full of pain. I also was sick of people correcting me all the time and telling me off. So I felt that having others listen to me and support me was a way they could help me rather than put me down by giving unsolicited advice.

Every other human being is a problem for the narcissist. You will not be the exception, the unicorn, their soul mate. You won't get from them what you couldn't get from your mother or father.

Godspeed on your road trip. We went from San Antonio thru Sedona a few years ago. Stunningly beautiful!! Stay Safe. We appreciate all you do. Your work changes lives. 💯💚🖖

Dr.C enjoy your time off take care please, see you!🙏

Regarding the how to let go question: I had enough pain (I thought it would kill me), I had enough resolve, but I did not know that I could walk away from and abandon my mother and her flying monkeys (my biological father and two eldest daughters) and still be a decent person. I did not know about personal boundaries and kept on trying to please them, confused by their rejection and contempt. Learning about narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and how to calm myself and recover from the trauma (away from them and extended family who accepted the smear campaign slander) was the "how to" for me. Books that helped me let go were Mothers who Can't Love by Susan Forward, Done With the Crying by Sheri McGregor, Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft and Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa Terkeurst. And, of course, Dr Carter on KZfaq, and Anna Runkel the Crappy Childhood Fairy who has a downloadable list of Ten Emergency Measures for when you're emotionally disregulated and a Daily Practice she teaches for releasing anxiety. Also, practice mindfulness in nature and, most of all, know and remind yourself that if no-one else loves you or knows who you are or the truth of what happened, Yeshua/Jesus does. Talk to Him about it every day and trust Him to help you. (The Bible has a lot to say about what God thinks of narcissistic behaviours, in the book of Proverbs.) Peace, courage and wisdom to you. You can go on to live a happy life free of bullies!

I'd kind of thought of any loneliness as a personal mistake. Thinking of having some loneliness as a normal human experience makes it a lot easier to deal with, thank you.

QUESION BELOW: I suffered from compassion fatigue for years. I taught in a low socio-economic school where teachers were expected to fill in for lack of parenting, and find ways to make up for the dysfunction in their homes where alcohol and drugs often made their home life terrible. The children had very little to no encouragement for academics. I was working long hours at home in preparation for lessons and grading papers. I couldn't stop worrying about all my students. This was while I was married to an alcoholic/narcissist. Now that I have much insight and know that I was being played by narcissist everywhere I looked, I wonder who I am ? A therapist thinks that my lack of self identity means I have Borderline Personality Disorder. If that is so, (I'm not sure) did I have it before I married the narc decades ago or did I develop it from living with a narc? Maybe it doesn't matter. But I thought it might help to know if living with a narcissist so long can cause a person to have BPD. PS: Have a wonderful vacation Dr. Carter!!

Yes, you most definitely get to the UGH feeling by just the mere thought of them. The truest form of complete energy draining: narcissists. **but ohhhhhhhh so refreshing when they are not around!!!!**

I've been part of your community for quite a few years now. we never stop learning. I hope you are having a fun time on your road trip.

Good to see you looking so much better doc. Enjoy your well earned vacation 🙏

Healing my inner self this past yr has brought to me such clarity. I believed 24 yrs ago together we could heal his inner demons. I was wrong, this video reaffirmed to me I had become lost in myself. His choice to self medicate once again was the end for me. One yr no contact ,therapy & these videos have helped immensely. TY Dr C & this community. I realize now ALL therapy,All AA meetings etc were only more attention about the narc. My response to the new supply,” tag your it”😄😄😄😄😄

When I got a new job and moved in with my husband after a 6-year commuting marriage, my mother moved to my new town. She was invited, but we had to subsidize. At first I was happy to do it but things kept getting harder--my job got more demanding, she developed multiple myeloma, and she refused--refused--to let me get any help. Nine years later, after Mom lost her drivers license, my sister moved in with my mother, but it was a disaster from the beginning--fights, shaming, attempts to control, all kinds of triangulation. After a huge fight that threatened to turn violent, my sister--who is broke and who has strong narcissistic tendencies herself--moved in with me and my husband. Her therapist recommends no contact with my mother. Can't blame the therapist for recommending this, but now I have both my mother and my sister to take care of! I feel sorry for them both, but my life has become untenable, and my marriage is on increasingly shaky grounds. Do I stick my mom in a home (which I'll have to pay for)? Do I kick out my sister, who will then be homeless? There seems to be no solution, and I can't in all conscience walk away.

For me I just refuse to be manipulated but I like to think I can use compassion with discernment. I feel no guilt at all about that.

Dr.Carter, happy new year 2024 too and for Gus and to the ones you love. To everyone who works on team healthy😊and thank you again for the talks, the video's. ❤.

Its like watching your loved ones on a sinking ship. They are determined to stay aboard and they are unreachable. 19:42 - be still my heart, it hurts but its the truth. “They are committed to their own damaged ingredients”. It hurts that no amount of empathy will reach their hearts. The family system is committed to the dysfunction at all costs.

Best video yet! So much I related to. I recently tried to explain what I am going through to a friend who said " we can all say we had a bad childhood but we need to leave it in the past and move forward" - and then you talked about that exact same thing! I was saying to my friend that no one really understands. After their response, I rest my case. Guilt is also a response to grief and loss so not surprising that victims of narcissists go through this. I liked the analogy of the stick in the ribs - no brainier - why would ANYONE want to go back and repeat?? Why would ANYONE have to feel guilty for not wanting to repeat THAT??!! Thank you Dr. C. Enjoy your trip😊

This is my theme song! I look upon you as my father figure! Not in a creepy way! In a healthy way!

I'm so thankful for your hard work and compassion for those struggling. I'm praying for you, Dr. C! Thank you!

Please have a great vacation, but please come back!!! We need you. I need you!

Safe travels! Thank you so very much for sharing your expertise and helping to make the world a better place, bc you are in it, Dr. Carter!

??? I couldn’t cry. Is it common for an empath who has been abused for years to begin to shut down emotionally? I’ve always been known as a “tender hearted” person. I cry easily at sad movies, touching stories etc. Then one day I realized that I felt numb during a very sad situation. I knew I normally would have been in tears. It actually frightened me! That’s when I recognized that I was losing myself! If I didn’t take action, my personality would totally disappear. Although I had very low self esteem , a sort of panicked self preservation kicked in. Thankfully, I found your videos and they’ve helped me tremendously. Do you know what I discovered: I discovered that I am an interesting person! I have value in this world. But still, I can’t help but wonder- Is it common for victims of narcissistic abuse to become numb?

Thanks Dr C for your generosity

Week afterweek day after day because your an Angel of healing in our life..enjoy your trio wife and family friends❤

I've been hearing about a lot of family estrangement lately. This is something people don't often talk about but it's not uncommon. I am semi-estranged from my family. I feel my nephews think the problem is with me, but nobody knows my experience and how I was treated.

Glad you're feeling better, Dr. Carter. Enjoy your trip!

Dr C Happy New Year, thank you for all the videos, we appreciate your support and help to our mental health.

Happy new year Dr. C! I bet if you planned a Conference right there in Waco Texas you’d have a bunch of us show up. Just saying 😊

HNY Dr C and Team Healthy! So grateful for this community. Dr C… this video was one of your best!! And that’s saying something. Cold and snowy in NYC…. Enjoy your time away.

1 of the most important things is learning to move past the unnecessary feelings of guilt...It's especially helpful when a narcissistic parent is possibly in the process of passing away.This video was so timely for me.And yeah it's amazing how empathetic animals can be.Let's make 2024 a really good year for team healthy & this channel so we all can grow together in this lovely garden we call a community🌞👍🌷🌷🌷.

Very helpful. Thank you for selecting this topic. I feel much more confident that I am heading in the right direction. But am finding my interactions with my narcissistic husband requires quite a bit of focus and a very alert mental state. So far, its not been impossibly burdensome applying these new ways of interacting but I'm rather doubtful that this kind of mental state could be maintained if I were still dealing with toddlers, the house, the finances and building a career. Fortunately, I'm now past some of these stages and the pressures of some of the others have lessened. I worry about the younger moms. I know how hard those years were with the narcissist around. Have a wonderful holiday, You deserve it, ❤

Thank you for always being there for us!

Dr. C, you are a really lovely person. Glad you’re feeling better. Have fun on vacation with your wife and friends. Happy New Year.😊🎉

Two things you said really described my ex to a t. One - he can't be satisfied. Examples? When I wasn't working he encouraged me to get a job to help financially. So I got one. Then he nagged me to quit. When I was temporarily laid off he nagged me to get a job again. Until my employer called me back. Then I was nagged to quit again. Another example? I had to go downstairs to do laundry. Then something would happen while I was down there (usually involving my son picking on his sisters). He would tell me I shouldn't have been downstairs. So I wouldn't go down and do laundry the next day. Then he would complain if the clothes he needed for work weren't washed. I would say I stayed upstairs with the kids but that was no excuse. The other thing you said was that they can yell at you but you can't yell at them. This wasn't yelling usually, but it was complaining. He would go on at me for hours with a single complaint but if I said more than 1 or at the most 2 sentences about a complaint about him he would tell me to stop going on and on. One time I pointed out that I can't say more than 1 or 2 sentences without that accusation but he was starting his fourth straight hour of berating me for a single complaint and his response was, "Well I have a right to be mad!"

Oh, my goodness I loved the 'Gus' story!! I always knew he was an excellent boy!!

Oh my! You nailed it., They will use you up if you let them…. Healthy Boundaries

HAPPY 2024, DR. C, GUS, and JENNIFER!! Only the best of health and happy happy happy each and every day!! We appreciate you so very much!! As a PA, we are called to what we do, right?? THANK YOU!!! I’m 25 years in to my clinical career this year and guess what kinda crazy I started this past year in my mid-50’s?? I became an Asst Professor and am enrolled in a doctorate program to boot!! Talk about BURNOUT!! Toxic overdoing-set me straight, would ya?? Be safe on your road trip-take in all the beauty!! 😇🙏🏼🫶 is Gus going?? 🐶💙

Until a TH conference is scheduled, I’m all for connecting with TH people as I’m able. I live in S Central Pennsylvania, and travel to SW Wisconsin every summer. I sometimes take a friend to see his mom in Baltimore. Stu’s sister lives in central PA (and I’m chomping at the bit to drive out to meet him there), and I’ve driven an hour to meet with CJ a couple times now. I used to drive for work out to NJ, MD, DC, and DE, so I don’t mind a trip. One of my internal rules is: If I can I will. If I can’t, I won’t. Another is: If it is worth doing, do it. Note: I may ask (if you are okay with it) to record a joke with you (like I did with CJ), and if you have one to add, I’m all for it. Just let me know in comments or chat, or find my contact info on my channel.

Happy New Year from the midst of a snow storm in Scania, Sweden! This video was EXACTLY what I need at the moment. I have been in a romantic liaison with a covert very passive aggressive partner for the past nearly 4.5 years . I've been the giver and compassionate so much so that it has made me ill, physically and emotionally. I am suffering extremely, my Christmas and New Year have been a nightmare but at least a tranquil one. I left my narc without further explanation, I feel I am done. All is said and I never seem to reach my partner whatever I did or said. Now I am object of a very tearful and self pitying love bombing and a skilled manipulative baiting, all to convince me to take my partner back for the 100th time, it's awful, to be reminded of the same roller coaster in the house of horrors as in the past years. I spend a quiet evening with my chihuahua, watch my fav videos all with you Team Healthy and I wish the pain will eventually fade. Thank you Dr. C for giving me the best chance for regaining myself, my health, happiness and PEACE. ❤ God bless

Gus is amazing!! He was meant for you.

Thank you so much for what you share. Today really helped me see the person I was as a small child, trying to always make things better and begging my mother to not fight with my dad, and then being blamed for the situation. My mother blamed others for everything, but actually told me everything bad that happened in her life was my fault. I truly will not. and will never be able to, understand how anyone can hate so much but I do realize she was an extremely jealous, envious, and righteous person, and my youngest sister is becoming more and more like my mother as she ages. My younger sister has always been a mean and unkind person unless she wants something. I am no like my mother or remaining siblings; I am more like my father, for which I thank God for every single day. How can a mother be so cold and mean and hate a child, or children, so much that she can actually tell them she wished they had not lived? I'll never understand that and it makes me sad. I loved my mother because she was my mother, but did not like and I do not like who she was. She has been gone from this earth for almost 8 years and I am certain she was even arguing with her Maker when she passed. Sadly I have 2 sisters so much like her; one puts on a good front and likes you when she needs something, the other sister claims she has no sisters and she treats her husband like crap and is so jealous of her daughter that she's greener that a summer lawn with envy that her own daughter has worked very hard and has a wonderful profession and career as well as a loving husband and children. I swear, I cannot be related to these people because I'm nothing like them, for which I'm very thankful. Enjoy your vacation with family, Dr. Carter, and I look forward to what you share next. Safe travels!

I went to Big Bend National Park about 3 years ago. It was very beautiful. It's a dark sky designated park. We stayed in Terlingua

Great topic!!!! We need to hear this and take it in. The shaming, blaming, guilt-tripping, victimizing (themselves) and confusing us with their emotionality (NOT emotions) was making us feel guilty and confused, so when someone actually has true emotions about something, we don't know how to respond to it. Are they victimizing themselves? Are they trying to make us feel guilty? Are they trying to shame or blame us or someone else for this issue? I had to learn how to see the difference between TRUE emotion and emotionality. Big difference. One draws you in, the other is aggressive and confusing.

Dawned on me one day, He does not tune into me or others around us. He tunes into himself and expects you too. Same old story. I tuned out! I have more interesting folks to listen to. Thanks Dr. C!

Dr Carter Thank you for all the podcasts in 2023🎉

Glad your voice is healing and thanks for another fascinating insight. So many people here seem to have suffered, I hope you are all recovering. I am finally learning to take care of moi. If others don't like it, tough titties. Happy New Year everyone.

Thank u

Keep posting the videos! ❤ They have helped me in many ways. I never could have described these relationships in the detail or subtlety that you do, so I never understood them nor how to respond.

Narcissists keep double standards. ✅Ahem, yep! Lol🙃

This is a good topic. I can definitely relate. Good to know that this burn out feeling has a name: Compassion Fatique…

This video at the minute 44 (precisely a few seconds before 44 until a few seconds after 44). I'll write it down in Italian. This is the Golden Rule for me. For my story. Thank you dr C. Happy relaxing days with your wife 🌹

Enjoy your vacation ! You deserve it!

Equality fatigue is so right on and there’s nothing I can do about it😢

Have a wonderful vacation! thanks for all the knowledge gained, please be with us always because, we need it so much!! warmest wishes for health, joy and all the best!🙏

Happy New Year! In my past I spent a lot of time worrying about how I could help my mother. Now I see it as wasted effort. After all these years of worrying, I haven't really become a happy egg. But my dog is a really happy egg, which is wonderful.

I feel this is a problem on my end as well. I’ve had to learn to take mental and physical breaks as I seem to be of the helper type personality to the point of neglecting myself.

Blessings, Dr. Carter, Blessed 2024 to you, and, your loved ones. May you, and, your travel group enjoy a much deserved bit of respite. Safe Journey & Travel Mercies ... CONTINUED Prayers, Love & Blessings ... Amen.

Thank you Team Healthy and Dr C😊. My query is my Mil is the narcissist is my life. Through these videos I have managed to stay away. Only meeting her on big holidays or birthdays. She is now terminally ill. She came for Christmas and alot since. My other half and teenage daughter are aware of my feelings about her. They have both decided to just try and tolerate her on a weekly visit, but obviously that is becoming more frequent. I'm so tired and I need any advise that you have. Anything to cope with more exposure and resilience at this hard time. It feels like a snowball rolling down a hill. This will get bigger and more painful for my little family. As the narcissist gets more ill. Any help would be gratefully received ❤️🇬🇧

Go Gus! Long ago, a lady of the church, classic narc, came over to lecture me on my "duties" as she saw it. My dear pup came up behind her and "anointed" her purse, located on the floor behind where she could see. (He never had done that before, and never did it again.). GREAT dog! 😂😂😂

Happy New Year's Dr. C!! I hope you, your family and Gus have a beautiful and blessed 2024 ✨

The narcissists to Team Healthy: "I think I can exploit that!" ✅Team Healthy to the narcissists: Yep! Lol 🙃

I hope you and your wife and Gus have a wonderful break dr C and get your energy up again .Happy 2024 !

So happy that you your happy to continue we love and appreciate your work dr c 👏👏✊ enjoy you trip 😊

Happy New Year Dr. C and Team Healthy 🎉❤

Great session! Thank you, Dr. Carter!! Safe travels to you and Miss Jennifer!!!

Happy new year Dr. Carter 🎉❤

Q. When the light bulb goes off and you finally learn your not crazy because you stumbled across what the characteristic of a Narcissist is. You educate yourself on how to deal with it, while trying to get yourself healthy. Year after year, day after day you have to work at it. When they (the Narcissist) realize you've caught on to them and your getting yourself healthy, Then comes the steps of hell you go through with him. I'm now in the stage of him discarding me. Just when I thought I got this, I honestly am just trying to hang in there and it feels like unknown territory with his new way of cruelty towards me. Dr C how do you deal with higher intensity of cruelty shown towards you because you aren't giving into the control they keep trying to get back? By the way this situation is one where I can't leave or go no contact.

Yes the need is there! You are helping so many of us Dr. C, my marriage is improving by leaps and bounds and my mental health has improved significantly. Your counsel helps me formulate my questions and responses in therapy in a healthy compassionate way. Narcissists are tender, vulnerable individuals.

If you are a truck driver that’s in a relationship with a narcissist then your home time vs how much you earn in their eyes will never be enough. It was… “I was either not home enough to supposedly help around the house.” or if I was home more often then…. “I wasn’t bringing enough income home.” It didn’t matter how I worked my schedule because it was always never enough. Edit: With triangulation I ended up dealing with it by calling and talking to the person my ex wife was using against me. There’s always two sides of a story.

Narcs are great for cats! My N son fawns over his.

Thanks, Doc. My favorite analogy: Flight attendants EMPHASIZE the instructions to Mothers (parents) with children on the flight. PUT YOUR OWN OXYGEN MASK ON FIRST !!! Otherwise, Mom passes out and NOBODY gets oxygen. Instincts must sometimes be overridden, in order to be of any value to ANYBODY. The best nutshell warning is "It's never enough..." I have found a connection to a biblical relation = They slip and say the truth: When somebody does something I don't like, I do the same thing back to them. The real truth is they find ways to make others SUFFER. It's SATANIC. They don't see it this way, and will deny it in the very next sentence. "I never said that !!!" They quite apparently sit around and stew on their lack, and eventually bring up favors or gifts they gave you, often decades earlier. I do not accept gifts from them, beyond small tokens of Love and appreciation. "Why can't you accept this gift?" BECAUSE I CAN'T AFFORD IT.

We love it! Keep up the great work! Much appreciated! Thank you! One thing a few other channels have suggested and pointed me toward is developing myself and my own goals and life which in turn puts the voice of any narcs in perspective. Helps me not catastrophize or like magnify their negativity - if I have a few other things going on / pleasant voices of positivity around me. The more frustrated I got about narcs, the more I realized I felt out of control and I could regain that over myself and put my emotions in perspective. Grateful for channels like these.

Love u Dr. C! Love u Team Healthy!!! U all have helped and soothed my heart, GOD bless u all 💗🕊🙏🙌🙌🤗

Happy New Year's to you and yours Dr C.. Your insight and advise are always a beacon in this darkened world of narcissistic behavior. Thank you for all your wonderful works.. God Bless 🙏✌️

Thank you Dr. Carter. Yet another video and wise counsel that really help. 15:30-16:30 what love is/is not and to 20:00 "they're committed to their own damage" and 20:30 at some point you need the person's cooperation. I love the broken leg/wheel chair analogy. Plus, we may mature more than our parents and/or those whom we perceive "should" have more maturity. I know the person I am thinking of is stuck in time and is actually really immature (though yes, she married and has children). Thank you as well regarding the grieving process of letting go, I've been going through this with a sister and the rest of the family. Sadly, it's just not worth hanging onto. And I am definitely the empath and good person. I don't sing my own praises or overtly judge them, but I think they know it's now glaringly obvious, and I've chosen no contact. My door is never closed, though I can't force a relationship with people who won't change and actually have gotten worse. 26:00 I like hearing that Gus reviews all your questions beforehand, lol. And I like hearing about his responses to humans and knowing to try to comfort, or knowing/sensing someone is just very dark. Animals do know. Have a great trip!

Thank you for your kind wisdom. Thank you for being smart and figuring out these human spiders. Thank you for sharing. Dr C you are a big help to me ☀

I told my narc... there are streets named after you... ONE WAY... ... I'm not sure how she took it...

This hit me, my compassion fatigue is not with my narc right now but my spouse. My parents both passed suddenly, my sibling in my narc and went after my husband. Threats, turning other family against him, it took a toll on him. It’s been 2 years, I’ve done therapy and lots of self help. I cannot get him to do this. He’s tried a few times but didn’t work. I am at a loss on how to help him move on. My sibling was in the wrong but hoped by attacking my spouse they would get financial assistance from me. I have gone no contact and don’t want anything to do with them. My spouse wants me to write a letter and “lay it all out”. This will do no good. How to get that through to him, it will only stir stuff up again. He wants revenge. 😢 I told him if he wants to do that have at it, if he thinks it will make him feel better but I know it won’t. He will never get an apology

You are saving lives💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

My brother just committed suicide a couple of weeks ago. Now suddenly out of the blue my Dad is love bombing me, calling me his first born. Saying how much he loves me. When he hasn't spoken to me in almost 10 years. How Do I go into this with him, if I do, protecting myself from his anger, and manipulation without being an ass or allowing him to think he's in control all over again?

You are blessing many people. May Almighty God bring it back to you a hundred flow.

I am always uncomfortable about people who don't like animals. I think it says a lot about a person.

I love your honesty. Thank you.

Do narcissists love their kids or anyone on any level or is that something they are not capable of doing? My mom has always had a village of people around her that seem to adore her. However, those villagers seem to not see the side of her we lived with behind closed doors. In fact, if she did slip up and show her true self those that saw it were often shunned by her and she'd start a campaign of sorts to besmirch that person even if they didn't do anything wrong other than see her bad behavior. Feels like she will say anything in order to come across as a paragon of all that is good.

Thank you for all your help. Have a wonderful road trip holiday. God bless.

Covert Narc. Husband is an energy vampire. I’m so resentful because it makes it hard to parent and give my kids my all.