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@valeriekhall Жыл бұрын
Off-topic, but you are SO cute in your nightgown & scarf-over-curlers. Love the vintage sleep aesthetic. (Also OBSESSED with the killer headboard, speaking of vintage.)
@BlondeeBombshell Жыл бұрын
Heyyy
@Lanafox1020 Жыл бұрын
Please speak about the Balenciaga cancellation, Thank you!
@milly2689 Жыл бұрын
please add a flash warning for 5:25 through to 5:52!!!! thank ylj
@fenne4 Жыл бұрын
Hi mina, that study in the netherlands sounds very interesting. If you'd like, I could translate some stuff for you
@rinapop2681 Жыл бұрын
As a woman I realised my fear of looking old wasn't out of Vanity but out of the knowledge of how society treats older women. I didn't want to suddenly become invisible, to be regarded as a outcast. I also realised that for many women putting great amount of effort into thier appearances out of survival , they don't want to be pushed out of society.
@sylph7777 Жыл бұрын
this is so compassionate & true 😢
@bethje30 Жыл бұрын
So true, imagine a world where older women were celebrated. Something to look forward too instead to fear. It comes down to respecting your elders and respecring their experience and knowledge. I am so much happier at 42 than when I was 22 but I know I am off the market which is kind of peaceful but you do become invisible as a woman with age...
@user-ew7gr5bc6i Жыл бұрын
Women should support women and we won’t be lonely and invisible never again
@VidWatcher01 Жыл бұрын
Same
@Josh_Quillan Жыл бұрын
I'd encourage you to step back and interrogate fears like this with common sense. Being an outcast is very much the opposite of invisible. Outcasts are actively hated, and while they might not be the darlings of society, I feel it's an overstatement to call society's less youthful people 'hated'; becoming 'invisible', on the other hand, is essentially being accepted to an extreme degree. It can be extremely liberating to not be constantly scrutinised, subject to lofty expectations or expected to conform and follow trends, and personally I find a general melee can be enjoyed much more by watching from outside than being in it. Aging is inevitable, as is the paradigm shift it will bring, so to me it's much better to approach it by actively defining your own new paradigm, rather than desperately trying to conform and live up to someone else's existing one. And as for not wanting to be pushed out of society: if your society pushes out the old, it's not worth being part of it.
@babyblue3717 Жыл бұрын
my mom is 57 and has no wrinkles in her face. people often comment about it with her and ask if she's had any plastic surgery and etc. the reality is that she's had depression her whole life and rarely ever smiled or showed any emotion. whenever people comment on how awesome it is, she says it's not, it's tragic. wrinkles are your body's way of showing the world that you feel things intensely, and in the end that's what matters in life, isn't it?
@prestonb Жыл бұрын
this is insane
@espeon871 Жыл бұрын
Literally crazy how people just care about aesthetics and not anything else, also so sorry for ur mother. I hope you and her are feeling and doing well.
@prettypuffprincess Жыл бұрын
Sorry about your mom’s experience 😢I will say that most people like myself have tight taut skin due to your genes natural muscle mass, collagen, and elasticity! I have no expression signs on my face and my whole body is tight almost too tight everywhere not just my face. I’m not mad at it lol, but it does look like I’ve had botox too!
@orbitkuu Жыл бұрын
I can't believe I have never thought of it that way. I've always admired my mom for keeping a youthful look, and other people admire her for it as well. She's had depression her whole life, I'm 17 and it never crossed my mind that she looks so young because she didn't smile often for most of my childhood, oh god. Thanks for sharing :(
@prettypuffprincess Жыл бұрын
@@orbitkuu That’s not always true lol it could be resting B face and great genes as well. How is mommy now, hopefully healthy and happy🙏🏼🥰❤️
@serafia_ Жыл бұрын
Once a 99-year old woman told me that ”You wouldn't even be able to imagine what this body has been able to do and endure for the past 99 years. The thing I could least care is my looks. But I do love a good red lipstick!”
@lnb4664 Жыл бұрын
She sounds like my hero 😂
@felmargego2534 Жыл бұрын
we all need to be like her tbh
@sbel6626 Жыл бұрын
absolute queen
@FlagCutie Жыл бұрын
That sounds like a woman who truly lived! And yes, once you find your perfect shade of red, it is such a joy!
@carmaela2689 Жыл бұрын
That's beautiful
@jk-ml7dv Жыл бұрын
I turned 42 a couple months ago. I realized one morning while getting ready for work that no matter what I do, it’s wrong. If I color my hair, I’m trying too hard. If I don’t dye it, I’ve given up. If I wear makeup I’m fake. If I don’t wear makeup, I’be let myself go. But whose standards are these? They are literally made up arbitrary beliefs we’ve all bought into. So I quit caring. Mini skirts with tights for winter? Yes. Makeup? if I want to. Dying my hair? Absolutely… if I want to. And maybe it’s a natural color and maybe it’s purple. I didn’t die when I turned 40, why should I act like it. I’m going to wear what I want and look how I want and the people who have a problem with that, are the people with the problem. I am not the problem.
@spottedfawn639 Жыл бұрын
Just turned 43 last month... sending you a high five!
@undone001 Жыл бұрын
40 has been my best year so far. Do what you like looking how you like.
@brieoshiro Жыл бұрын
I'm 39 and dress like a 20 year old boy haha I have grey hair (when it isn't purple) and don't wear makeup ever. I don't even care b/c I'm comfy and happy. My husband doesn't ever have opinions on this either b/c his love for me is deeper than the way I look. If a stranger thinks I'm old or ugly who cares lol
@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64 Жыл бұрын
Preach!
@Souls-at-zer0 Жыл бұрын
Exactly !! I absolutely love seeing Oder women live their life as they did in their 20s! Exactly right you don’t die at 40 so why act like it ? Who do nothing and be plain just becuse your 40? Some crows feet doesn’t mean all the sudden you got to wear granny church clothes .
@owlstarot Жыл бұрын
its funny because when you are young you are pushed to look older and more sophisticated and when you are old you are told you need to look vibrant and youthful. so basically the narrative is always changing to make you feel inadequate..
@memorycelle Жыл бұрын
Oh my god, so true.
@tillie_brn Жыл бұрын
Yeah you're basically supposed to look 25 from puberty until death 🙃
@aseofhearts Жыл бұрын
@@tillie_brnor if you’re leonardo dicaprio under 25 because he’s dumped every girlfriend before they hit 25 🤮
@LeahKoahal Жыл бұрын
Consumerism 101
@ersimn Жыл бұрын
Basically, women can't win ever
@mariam19554 Жыл бұрын
Ageism is something that needs to be talked about more seriously. Why is the society treating our elderly so poorly when at the end of the day, we all end up old?
@riaczerniak Жыл бұрын
If we're lucky!
@BettyBBomB Жыл бұрын
@@riaczerniakexactly what I thought! Growing old is a privilege. There are many young people who unfortunately don’t have that option due to accident, illness, or other unfortunate means. Life is a gift and we must appreciate the time we are given because we don’t know what’s next or if anything at all happens after. Even some of my elders have told me, life is short no matter how old you get. There is always something to learn and grow from (wisdom) which can only happen through time and experience (different life stages).
@reem3266 Жыл бұрын
I feel like in the western world you’re only useful when you have money to spend and energy to work. Once you’re retired and have no money/energy, you no longer get respect.
@riaczerniak Жыл бұрын
@@BettyBBomB for sure. My mom died of cancer at 54 with very few grey hairs or wrinkles. I am planning to celebrate them with gratitude for my own good health 🙏
@atallnobody934 Жыл бұрын
Self-loathing :(
@msch7620 Жыл бұрын
My friend is dying of cancer at 37. Whatever marketing tells you, it’s a privilege to get older.
@dailyremindertoshutup3670 Жыл бұрын
@@user-vx3wc8yc9v Literally what is wrong with you? Why would you say this to someone who's friend is dying.. So disgusting
@Matilde2809 Жыл бұрын
I'm so Sorry... One of my dearest friends passed away at 40 because of cancer, I feel your pain. A big hug
@msch7620 Жыл бұрын
@@Matilde2809 She passed away on March 5th. She was suffering a lot and decided to leave on her own term with the help of a doctor. It was a sad but a peaceful departure. I miss her a lot.
@_tripalong Жыл бұрын
My condolences 😔 I hope she's in a restful place
@msch7620 Жыл бұрын
@@_tripalong Thanks
@snowlily3 Жыл бұрын
I’m in my 20’s and my roomate is in her 80’s and honestly it’s the perfect match! I get to live in the city with low rent and she has someone in case of an emergency or just for company. We get along so well and I hope rooming college age kids and elders together becomes more common as it really is an ideal solution to two growing problems.
@bailey4x Жыл бұрын
Did the same with my grandma when I went to college. I'd cook for her, do chores, take her to appointments and we could be good company for each other as my grandpa had been dead for decades. We learned a lot about each other and she was my best friend. Miss you a lot grandma
@ktlg1423 Жыл бұрын
That sounds like a beautiful experience :) Hopefully I can experience it one day.
@AmbiPanby9 ай бұрын
What a cool living arrangement.
@nadiageorge8906 ай бұрын
Sounds pretty nice
@OimOnotO18O6 ай бұрын
I take care of a 98 year old holocaust survivor her movie is BIG Sonia. Anyways I’m very lucky to spend every day a week there but her surgery is coming up and I’ll start sleeping over there I have before and it’s so fun it’s like best friend. But it is a job so I had to draw an appropriate boundary between sleeping over every night and my life. In a different way we are friends but I am her caregiver. I love hanging out with her
@Rose-sw3lx Жыл бұрын
I think its very unhealthy pushing all these anti-aging everywhere. The younger people will think when they get older they won't be considered "beautiful ". Also feel like when you get older you wont find love or even be worthy of love.
@sweetembrace6706 Жыл бұрын
not just unhealthy, but heavily misogynistic too.
@JusticeForChuuu Жыл бұрын
@@sweetembrace6706 period!
@BleachBlue04 Жыл бұрын
I’m at that point. I’m 27 and a lot of people used to think I’m in my late teens for years but a lot of my peers haven’t been saying that anymore. Can’t tell if I look “drastically” older or if they just don’t care to say anything about my looks anymore. I’ve also been through a relationship that made me self conscious of my looks when I never used to be. I’m also into kpop which is an industry that demonizes older women so that doesn’t help either…
@GitanAnimex Жыл бұрын
Getting older has never been consider beautiful, specially in women that's why the beauty industry is so big
@HeatherHolt Жыл бұрын
It really is sad how much of our self worth is based on looks and how others perceive us
@jacquelinealbin7712 Жыл бұрын
One thing I love about the goth community is that you see people up into their 60s and 70s at the club, wearing whatever the fuck they want, wearing black lipstick on their proudly wrinkled faces, rocking hair that's either naturally silver or dyed fun colors like purple and green, just enjoying life. Some are happily married, some are going more the "Blanche Deveroux" route, some are just there to enjoy the music, and it's great to see. While online, the goth scene may seem very young, thin, and paper-white, what I've seen near me at shows is much more diverse on all fronts, especially regarding age. Hanging out with aging punks and goths has totally changed my perspective on things.
@angela_tarantulas Жыл бұрын
Agree 100% ❤ I did experience the same in the local goth and punk community. You’re welcome, no matter your age 🍀
@1chienandalou Жыл бұрын
I love this comment! So true! I love the diversity in goth and punk events and communities! It’s just like you say in my city as well. 🖤
@2Girls1Cat Жыл бұрын
Similarly, I live in a "smaller" city, so the electronic music scene has a very friendly and age-diverse community. In fact, while the older people are still partying they're also the ones who are organizing events, teaching younger people technical skills for sound, lights and event planning and most importantly running harm reduction programs regarding consent and substance use. As a result I have friends from age 19 to 50s.
@perrip2355 Жыл бұрын
Yes they will always be young and free no matter their biologically age
@mustang-sassy Жыл бұрын
You are so right! At the intersection of goth & vampire culture, age enhances the coveted undead, reincarnated look 🙂
@nopenopenope22 Жыл бұрын
i’ve seen LOTS of sunscreen pushers recently. sunscreen use is great, but i hate how they’ll preach “it’s to prevent cancer!” then in the comments when people say “no i’m not applying sunscreen when i’m inside that’s too much for me” their insult back will ALWAYS be “well when you’re a wrinkly old aged woman don’t blame me” like i thought this was about preventing cancer 🤨. they’ll use sun damage as a *see we aren’t against women aging and looking older* then the second someone disagrees they drop their real reasoning.
@AlphabetCookie Жыл бұрын
It's so sad that misogynist men push women to care more about sunscreen for wrinkles than sunscreen for cancer...
@akathova3488 Жыл бұрын
Yes. I am a fair skinned person myself, and had been using sunscreens for a long time. But when this trend came, I was shocked about how people started to take it overly seriously. And yes, I had a feeling that it's more about wrinkles than sun damage. So I agree with you
@rihniapicci7125 Жыл бұрын
And of course the amount of money that is made from sunscreen brands... Applying every two hours? Have you seen the size of these spf bottles?
@reneerivera1426 Жыл бұрын
Wow exactly 😂
@violescent Жыл бұрын
Sunscreen can be harmful. Especially for the ocean and corals. Look up the ingredients and decide for yourself if you want that on your skin. Not all sunscreens. But if you use blindly any brand, you might end up with things you wish you had rather not used.
@user-du7if7xq3k Жыл бұрын
Anti-aging should primarily be about health- feeling young and functional in your 70s, 80s, 90s+. Looking as good as you can is a bonus.
@thatsdisco Жыл бұрын
I would rename it for that purpose though.. aging-supportive or something
@journeyjulie3973 Жыл бұрын
Totally agree. So many deal with chronic illnesses as they get older. We shouldn’t be obsessing over gray hair and wrinkles, but care for our bodies through proper rest, nutrition, exercise, etc. in other words, the stuff that’s hard to market/sell is what will give us the best quality of life
@ladyallyally135 Жыл бұрын
OMG this! I say this all the time, when i get older i wanna focus on being able to lift my grandkids up and run after my grandkids on their bikes or something like that. I could care less about the amount of wrinkles i’ll get on my forehead🙄
@Wooplot Жыл бұрын
@@thatsdisco aging healthily.
@LadyHawke78 Жыл бұрын
Agree with this 100%. When I turned 40, it became all about my health and wellness, not about looks or wrinkles. To me, feeling young is staying in shape/staying flexible as you age, not about zapping smile lines off of your face. Eat well, go to the gym, and stay active. Avoid the diseases that often come with age if you can.
@livjames8624 Жыл бұрын
The industry has a serious obsession with womens’ age. We constantly see old men dating all these young girls. Ariana posted one picture where she looked a little older in the photo and the comments swarmed in about her looking “ill”. Aging is literally normal and human? Are we not humans now? Well I guess women have always been objects for people to judge from the outside. Constantly seeing women who look so young in the media has really changed the way people see women even more. Why do we treat women as if the minute they hit 30 they’re trash. Even when they are older, the celebrities that stay relevant tend to STILL look young. Since that’s all we see we start to think it’s abnormal to age while nobody bats an a eye when men age. It’s so weird and its just another dumb standard for women used to poison the minds of women to rack in money from the consumerism. It really pisses me off how many things the patriarchy nitpicks just to make us all feel so insecure to the point we are willing to go as far as possible to prove ourselves. Nothing is ever perfect enough. We will never truly love ourselves like this. I feel so bad for the young girls growing up with social media now.
@livjames8624 Жыл бұрын
@Ashley Nicole artists are definitely becoming more known for just their image. Don’t get me wrong, there’s good shit out there but there’s wayyy too much focus on the influencer part that real talent is being replaced. Just look at the people who get famous on tik tok instead of real professional talent. Which is weird cuz public figures are all being held under a microscope for their image they can’t even fuck up once yet their talent doesn’t seem to matter.
@Nyxthebat04 Жыл бұрын
Ariana didn't look older in that photo. She looked malnourished :/ I think its been obvious that she's been battling with an ED for a very long time.
@Nyxthebat04 Жыл бұрын
@Trinity M Its...not criticism. Its concern. Same goes for men too. But whatever ig.
@user-gh8bm8ct5t Жыл бұрын
@@Nyxthebat04 I don’t think people know what 30’s looks like. Getting older, getting wrinkles, is what makes you start to look “tired”, “ill” and why people are so desperate to halt it. Aging isn’t just wrinkles. A 30 yr old is going to look 30 - not 40, but also not 20!!
@Nyxthebat04 Жыл бұрын
@@user-gh8bm8ct5t I'm well aware of what aging looks like. By the way, 30 is still really young!!! This is so weird. Edit: Wrinkles don't make you look tired and ill!!
@perelandrawaddle Жыл бұрын
I hate how we simultaniously love "youth" and shame older women for natural signs of aging AND shame teenagers and young adults for natural signs of their youth and puberty like acne. We shame older women for being infertile AND shame pregnant and post-pardum mothers for signs of having had children like stretch marks, weight gain, sagging breast tissue and hair loss. You very literally cannot have it both ways.
@zitron6416 Жыл бұрын
@Alice Who what?
@sistergoodstuff Жыл бұрын
Because. Society. Hates. Women 😊
@littlewillow2274 Жыл бұрын
Nobody is shaming people for signs of having stretch marks. You all are making up problems that do not exist.
@zitron6416 Жыл бұрын
@@littlewillow2274 people literally do and thats been known for a long time. idk why people try to deny obvious stuff, like its not going to work lol
@littlewillow2274 Жыл бұрын
@@zitron6416 People are denying it because it doesn't happen. What isn't going to work is making up some non-existent issue and pretending like it actually happens. Nobody is really going around shaming people for showing signs ageing.
@kathylennerds750 Жыл бұрын
I've seen people say someone looked good for their age when they were barely 30. Usually, it is teens online who have grown up in a society that has taught us that 30 is this mystical barrier where you suddenly turn to boring grey dust, of course.
@thegoddessofsigmapeople6267 Жыл бұрын
Actually they do this to me and I’m only 24. Sometimes older people do this to you to feel good about themselves, they exaggerate your age thinking doing this is going to make them go backwards... They should be grateful because not everyone get to see a certain age. For me this is a great blessing
@idknamesarehard7119 Жыл бұрын
I had someone tell me this and I’m 20. This was a college freshmen shocked that I’m a junior because she always thought the juniors were “crusty”. Crusty??? I am only TWO years older than you!
@hokko274 Жыл бұрын
Reminds me of Bridget Jones mindset.
@samaraisnt Жыл бұрын
Every single person reacting to any ol' hag on Euphoria who's over 25: "OMGGG I thought she was *young* ?!!!!! I hope I look that good when I'm OLD!"
@SoLongMarianne_ Жыл бұрын
So true.. We all thought that till we hit 30 ourselves and realized "nothing had happened" and it was nothing magical about it 🤪 Just a little older and viser. I used to think that 25 was kinda old when I was a teenager. I was 18 and my boyfriend at the time was 25, he was kinda old 😅 Perspective 😩🤌🏻 Personally, turning 20 was the hardest for me.
@wifeofsauron1658 Жыл бұрын
It's sad how much racism is still prevalent in the medical industry. I am biracial Nordic and Arabic and I had an ER doctor tell my mother, when I was 16, that I was faking my period pain. He said ethnic women don't really feel pain so because of my Arabic heritage I wouldn't have pain like that. Turns out I have endometriosis and it's horrifically painful. I'm 34 now and decided to see a dermatologist just because I never have. The first one I went to I saw only once. He told me it was shocking I still looked young and I should feel lucky to be mixed because my Nordic genetics will help me look younger as ethnic women age faster.... what the actual hell. Both those doctors are apparently time travelers from the 1800's.
@boneymacaroni13 Жыл бұрын
Those are both horrifying experiences 😵 that last line got me 🤣🤣
@xpsxps1339 Жыл бұрын
Oh boy, what a "professional treatment." They both should go and return their medical diplomas, and you are right - get back to the 19th century, docs!
@vhilofaye1618 Жыл бұрын
They deserved “ethnic” punches.
@Bunnnnbuns Жыл бұрын
I agree! Years ago I had a dermatologist refuse to recommend a spf for me because I’m African American and I don’t need it. Funny cuz years later my cousin got skin cancer.
@adaobieshi4297 Жыл бұрын
Lmao “ethnic” women age faster? Bc Nordic isn’t an ethnicity? Science will tell you melanated skin ages slower but that’s neither here nor there….that doctor is a little biased
@cantsay2205 Жыл бұрын
I never understood what's so shameful about aging. It means you've survived everything life has thrown at you. YOU LIVED LONG ENOUGH TO GET STUFF LIKE WRINKLES. A lot of people don't.
@gothichippielovechild3198 Жыл бұрын
I truly agree with this. My mother complains she’s an old invisible woman at 66 and I’m like…??? Would you rather have died young??? Be grateful you’re alive! And men’s attention is nothing to look forward to anyway!
@MidnightMisterSuki Жыл бұрын
Ate it and left no crumbs
@rewdskwid Жыл бұрын
@GothicHippie LoveChild I don't think she means just men's attention. You literally become invisible, people don't want to help you because "ugh old person not knowing technology" or being treated as a burden just for existing because you walk slower than you used to. Accessibility becomes obsolete with increasing ailments due to old age. She means you don't get treated as a human anymore.
@stacyinfishers Жыл бұрын
@@gothichippielovechild3198 easy to say when you are young. There’s a certain depression, loss of the hope of “the future “ and it’s not about men ignoring your mom, it’s the idea that no one cares about your identity as a person
@ohsweetmystery Жыл бұрын
@@rewdskwidAre you old? I doubt it. You probably just hear whiners looking for something to blame for their own terrible lives. I am old and no one treats me any differently than any other person in the room.
@marianne5055 Жыл бұрын
Another point to add is that Hollywood often casts women in their 20s to play roles meant for people in their 30s and older (example Jennifer Lawrence in Joy). I think that also contributes to people having a warped sense of what aging is "supossed" to look like.
@coyoter9691 Жыл бұрын
I remember (not sure if Mina said it in another vid), that one actress came out and said that she was turned down for playing the love interest for an actor because she was "too old" at like 45. And the actor was 50. They wanted a woman most likely in her 20s to play the love interest. I agree that is a big contributor to not realizing what aging on a woman looks like. They won't even show us an age-appropriate pairing on screen. And it contributes to women's fears that they won't be able to date once they're older.
@Butterflieslove2 Жыл бұрын
It always makes me angry seeing younger women playing women in their 30-40s
@Cats105 Жыл бұрын
Also, they cast women in their 20s to play roles in highschool, so you are supposed to look the same from 16 to almost 40, which is not possible even with cosmetic procedures
@janedoll3237 Жыл бұрын
They’ll also have a 21 year old play a heart surgeon or whatever. It’s gets pretty stupid.
@spntageous5249 Жыл бұрын
they also do the reverse with people in their 30s to play high schooler so actual high schoolers are somewhat pushed to look older
@laindarko3591 Жыл бұрын
I think the annoying thing about the Julia Fox video for me is that 1. She still equates aging with ugliness and 2. Why must something be "hot" to be valid/respected? I don't care if aging is "in" or "hot." My hope is that I will age happily and still be respected and valued by others regardless of whether I age gracefully or not. Idk it's just weird that even when people are trying to be body positive there's still an obsession with attractiveness, with being looked up to or desired, when I think the main concern should be acceptance.
@Woo_Woo_Woman Жыл бұрын
Julia is a very unhappy, messed up woman. Have you ever seen her art?
@user-himenes Жыл бұрын
You are right, but i still think it good tgat she said what she said. Just like it is said in the video, sometimes you know what is the feminist way to do, but it us easier said than done. It is very important to remember and keep repeating that your beauty or your ugliness or whatever is up with it, all your looks will never matter more than inside. And it absolutely should be valued less, especially in women. But it is also a nice confirmation to say "you're hot, you're attractive the way that you are, that feature of yours is super hot". Otherwise some people will hear how desirable they are all the time, and others will never, others will only hear "looks is not that matter darling" which freaking sucks. I would like for everyone to hear sometimes that they are freaking hot, thats a nice experience, everyone should have it
@Robutnikon Жыл бұрын
@@user-himenes love this thoughtful comment 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
@hollichristensen6419 Жыл бұрын
Sometimes I think saying it’s “hot” and “in” is a way to make themselves feel better about becoming at peace with letting go of standards. When you spend your life fighting hard to teach them it’s hard to just instantly be like “Nope, this is just me.” So saying it’s “in” helps them take that first step. Sometimes you have to crawl before you can run sorta speak.
@0oAmeyukurugurio0 Жыл бұрын
I do agree w you! Thx for sharing your thoughts because we are sharing the same one. Sometime it is just so tiring to live in society
@notmyrealname4363 Жыл бұрын
Leena Norms' video essay explaining why Mamma Mia is revolutionary in its joyful, silly, fun depiction of single middle aged women is both heartfelt and analytical and I highly recommend it to viewers who need to see a more positive depiction to cheer them up, and to reinforce the idea that the way we view older women is not normal and remind ourselves that our current way we see older women doesn't have to be normalised in the way it so often is.
@samaraisnt Жыл бұрын
ty!!
@tivaspotato Жыл бұрын
I will revel in any opportunity to love mamma mia. Thank you!!
@bjulalula9537 Жыл бұрын
Yeah that was a great video
@hannnnahhahhahha Жыл бұрын
Yes!! It was so exciting to see a middle aged woman being silly with her besties, having a full life, running a business, etc. It made me realize life isn’t over until it’s over.
@sweetembrace6706 Жыл бұрын
I've always looked younger than my age literally JUST because I'm short and have a round face. That's it. And the number of people who, since I was in HIGH SCHOOL have told me things like "you'll appreciate it when you're older" or acted like it was a compliment is actually so beyond insulting. Looking younger isn't a good thing, being infantilized isn't a good thing, people refusing to take you seriously isn't a good thing just because youth is considered more attractive. Not only is it "Why is youth considered more attractive" its also "Why is being considered attractive supposed to outweigh the many downsides of people refusing to see or treat me like a grown woman?"
@_maia_m Жыл бұрын
That's a very good point. So because others see you as pretty it shouldn't matter that they don't bother to listen to you, and you should just be grateful? That's so manipulative, cause it transfers your attention from a valid complaint to something you're supposed to feel good about.
@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195 Жыл бұрын
SAME and guess what now i am older and i still do not appreciate it the patronising itself is enough not to mention i have depression , every new day and birthdays are A WIN
@dubblebubbletoilandtrouble6646 Жыл бұрын
I was JUST talking to a friend about this today. We're both medical students and are on the shorter side with rounder features. We worry about how much we'll be taken seriously as physicians and I was telling her how I'm so tired of people always telling me that "I'll appreciate it when I'm older". Like--that doesn't help me now, even if looking young forever was something I was interested in in the first place.
@ashrmks Жыл бұрын
I totally agree. No one would take me seriously as a physician. I asked my husband to take a pic of me from his POV and I looked like a kid. Is that how everyone sees me??
@laraferreira9756 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for bringing up this point, I'm in my late 30s and I look quite younger so people treat me like that, and it feels like they're erasing ten years of my life, easily the best ten years of my life. Also I would exchange my "youthful looks" for less joint pain in a second, lol
@hfreyschildren1265 Жыл бұрын
I'm chronically ill and have almost died multiple times, so I didn't expect to still be here. So cosmetic signs of aging are a pleasant surprise for me 😊
@hollymayjones12345 Жыл бұрын
me too! i haven't nearly died from my chronic illness though. i have POTS and svt. (very scary though) what about you? but yes i want to age lol!
@Ayesha_F Жыл бұрын
Happy you're here! ❤️
@user-gh8bm8ct5t Жыл бұрын
I personally found myself elated upon hearing the news I may die young (in early 20’s), since it meant I wouldn’t have to worry about aging anymore :p the glamorized “eternally young in death” thing is real, so harmful to realize I’d prefer to choose beauty over life, or deep down have come to believe a life without beauty is ultimately meaningless for women… so happy we are finally adressing this issue, along with the cheating epidemic.
@zkkitty2436 Жыл бұрын
I'm also chronically ill, and while I'm not living with anything strictly life threatening, I know my lifespan is probably a lot shorter than it would be if I were "healthy." I'm fighting for my life every single day, and if I get to 40 or more that would be a huge victory. I'm excited to see how my face will change with time, how my body will change.
@user-nu5nv1yg5r Жыл бұрын
Literally me, when I'm like: "Man, I'm old" and then "Wow, I lived to be this old, huh?" Wish you well, though. Them slow-eating chronical diseases are awful - they're making you sick all the time, but people around you are not sympathetic, because you're dying too slowly to notice(
@krisu3423 Жыл бұрын
I’m from Latin America and it’s no secret we’re deeply influenced by American marketing, so all throughout the video I could recognize many of those “ageism” beliefs within my own culture. I wanted to share something though, I live in Spain now and one of the things that surprised me the most is that when you go out for drinks, dancing or any other nighttime activities it is pretty common to see a lot of older people having a blast. Like it was the first time for me to witness something like this, and it really got me thinking how our brains are kind of wired to believe that having fun and else ends when you’re old. Dude it’s a lie, you can be 60 or 70 or more and lit have an active s-x life and be part of clubbing culture. I think Europe, or at least Spain’s take on ageing is a little different
@krisu3423 Жыл бұрын
There is a lot of of anti ageing propaganda though
@nicolec.5352 Жыл бұрын
Hey, thanks for this video. I’m a 42 year old woman who, I must admit, is mourning her younger, pretty and skinny self. In the span of two years, I’ve gotten obese, older looking, and , and I’m sorry about the wording but for a lack of a better word, uglier. Yes, I have definitely lost my looks. I was always praised for looking younger than my actual age, sometimes even like a decade younger, and all of a sudden I started looking my age. Also my body is not as strong as before, I’ve had three injuries on my legs in less than a year, which has left me unable to exercise hence the obesity. I also suffer from mental illness and medication that’s been life saving has also made me gain tons of weight, that I can’t shred due to the aforementioned inability to exercise. What’s my point? That if I think rationally, I know I’m being too hard on myself, that aging is a normal process and also there have been tons of factors into this “loss of looks”, and not because of neglecting my self-care. After been praised for years, all of a sudden I’m no longer desirable and that hurts. Yes, it’s a shallow way of thinking, but I just can’t help it, and this situation is really overwhelming. That youthful self was my identity. Now I feel like I’m a different person, both physically and emotionally. Does this ever go away? Will I ever realize that my worth is more than my looks? That I’m smart, outgoing, a good friend, hardworking etc. But why is that all I can think of are my looks? I hate feeling like this but we are so immersed into this cult of youth and beauty, that we become borderline blind and can’t see the big picture. Thanks to anyone who read this, I just needed to vent
@Emilia923 Жыл бұрын
I sympathize with you . I feel like I’ve had a similar situation for myself. I feel like I accept me for me in my looks and any other way but I also still have the outside societal pressures still creep in my mind and make me think maybe I am wrong for accepting myself
@HitchcockBrunette11 ай бұрын
I have never related to something more…. THANK YOU for saying the truth. It is my truth too.
@elisabethgronlund68427 ай бұрын
I’m 55 and can relate to not recognizing my body. I used to be physically strong and then I got Graves and lost muscle mass. It has taken me a few years to accept but now I focus mainly on being grateful for being alive. And I tell myself daily to accept that I need to do exercises to build muscles and to eat and never skip meals. I hope you find your way to focus on what you are and what you have, give yourself permission to mourn what you have lost (I know, darn it’s hard sometimes). And find ways to take good care of yourself. All the best.
@biaibarrett Жыл бұрын
Most of my family is over 60 now. My grandma is 92 this year. Most of them are fairly healthy, but some have faced serious health issues that come with aging. All I have to say is that the scary part of aging isn't losing beauty, but losing strength, mobility, health, and autonomy.
@hsh8729 Жыл бұрын
We die of something... actually it isn't age!
@chrystianaw8256 Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@homecentipede Жыл бұрын
I think if society was more accommodating if those who lack strength, mobility, and health, and provided accessible, affordable social services and didn't shame anyone who needed to use said social services, it would be less scary. As a physically disabled person, I see a lot of the fear around aging as similar to the fears around becoming disabled. Being old and/or being disabled doesn't have to be scary. But many of the ways society has made it actively harder to be disabled and/or aging has made these things scarier than they have to be.
@biaibarrett Жыл бұрын
@@homecentipede yes, I think that's 100% true! If there was more care into making sure seniors and people who are physically disabled were taken into account when thinking about policies, care, how most things are designed, it wouldn't be as scary.
@wren_. Жыл бұрын
@@hsh8729 well it’s true nobody technically dies of aging, aging is a degenerative disease that makes it way easier for things to kill you.
@rocketgirl327 Жыл бұрын
something that also needs to be addressed is the gate keeping of youth. I feel like I can’t partake in the events that I enjoy doing bc it’s a space for young people. Like people constantly make it a mandatory norm that when you’re 30+ you can’t party or dance bc it’s weird and that’s something exclusive for young people. You’re just supposed to go to work and come home and rest and for fun you go do sedentary activities with people of your age group. Like why does my life and wardrobe have to turn boring all of a sudden bc society will look down on me for “trying to be young” when I’m just trying to have fun?
@chelinka088983 Жыл бұрын
Right
@taniaelliott4078 Жыл бұрын
@Subi you sound really obnoxious. How the hell would you know someone you see having a good time ONCE is partying 'every night'? Or maybe they have their life together but can have fun too. Or maybe they don't have their life together, but I would still rather be them than someone obnoxious 'lol'ing from afar and feeling superior.
@hcf4kd1992 Жыл бұрын
@Subi Why does partying mean being messy though?
@froggiesponds Жыл бұрын
@@subi1606 if the 30 yr olds arent engaging in predatory/generally ill-intentioned behavior with the teens/young adults..then whats pathetic about it? that in their 30s they still want to let loose? that they enjoy partying? how does it affect you whether that 30 yr old has their life together or not? like are you an economist to be concered about why a 30yr old is partying instead of being 'productive' and 'put-together' lmfao??
@chilichinashop Жыл бұрын
@@user-bf5ud6eg2i I whole-heartedly agree. I’ve seen a few comments stating that it aggravates them how they are ostracized by younger people, but I feel like as a grown adult you shouldn’t really be searching for validation from teenagers anyway??? Enjoy whatever it is you want to enjoy, but young people really appreciate when they have space is just for them, so it shouldn’t really be a demand that they share in a way. Like, teens are pretty dumb, mean, and are usually targeted themselves by bitter adults. (although, I say this as a teen, so my perspective is definitely biased). I feel like the main issue, which luckily I have seen other people bring up, is the fact that adults themselves (usually 30+ men) are picking at other adults for also being old(er) and not being or looking younger than 25 for the rest of their life.
@Mitchellfw Жыл бұрын
The idea of "rich women never aging" really reminds me of a sales film about "modern kitchen design" from the late 1940's. One of the major selling points made to the husband to get a new kitchen was "you don't want your lovely young wife to wear out and age before her time."
@samanthab5006 Жыл бұрын
I stopped wearing makeup when I was 28 outside of formal events and job interviews. I didn't like how uncomfortable I felt without it on. My husband's job moved us across the country and I decided to stop since nobody knew what I looked like with makeup on. It's the best decision I've ever made and saves me so much time and money. I'll be 34 in a few weeks and I'm pregnant with my first child. I was really at peace with looking older as I age.... It wasn't until we started trying to conceive that I realized 35 was considered geriatric pregnancy. The realization that I'm closer to menopause than puberty shook me more than looking older.
@nonyabizniss1840 Жыл бұрын
I was 35 when I got pregnant, did not love being called geriatric every appointment lol
@randomtinypotatocried Жыл бұрын
That's really messed up to hear
@katiewray2525 Жыл бұрын
I feel ya I could never regularly wear makeup. For me, my face always felt filthy, like my skin cant breathe, also I would just end up smearing most of it off in a couple hours, and always ended up with smeared up panda eyes within minutes lol
@Lolzadoodle8484 Жыл бұрын
They should really update the verbiage to "advanced pregnancy" or something bc geriatric as a term sounds so gross to refer to otherwise young people with! Like it's ok to be geriatric when you are actually old, but labeling young people as geriatric when they're 35+ is ridiculous. Medical professionals and researchers are quick to give negative/reductionist phraseology to issues that affect women & afab people most.
@emilyb.8219 Жыл бұрын
I'm 27 and stopped wearing makeup too, gradually at first and now I only wear it if I'm going to dress up more. When I was a teen and in college, I couldn't have imagined that I'd be comfortable wearing absolutely no makeup in public. But I think the pandemic gave me an excuse to cut it out, since it was silly to bother with it when we wore masks anyway. And the time it saves, omg the best part. I don't have to get up 1.5 hours early for everything anymore! Congrats on your little one! (Kinda fcked up they call later pregnancies "geriatric" though tbh, they should find a more accurate name for it)
@rosa-cw8yr Жыл бұрын
This needs to be talked about more. So many celebrities are lying to their fans about their filler and surgeries.
@cantsay2205 Жыл бұрын
Because they get shit on if they do talk about it.
@ziarahhh3004 Жыл бұрын
@@cantsay2205 i feel like tge conversations are opening up tho, there will always be people that hate but if they were honest about it, it can further inform other people the reality if these things
@leasting Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad Mina is talking about this, the number of teenagers who talk as though everyone has one foot in the grave at the ripe age of 25 makes me sad. I spent most of my early 20s being a miserable mess lol. To anyone younger, please don't think that period must be the peak of your life or else it is "wasted", time keeps moving forward and things do get better as you take that time to work through things!
@nastassjahall9358 Жыл бұрын
I'm 18 and was/am terrified of getting older because... everyone says this as good as it gets and this has SUCKED lol. I've got screenshots of things I've seen on the internet to remind myself it's not the general consensus but it's slightly misery inducing hearing people say the time of your life that had you on the brink of some very bad things are the easiest and most worth living.
@melissam597 Жыл бұрын
I agree ❤
@emilyr8668 Жыл бұрын
@@nastassjahall9358 it is definitely NOT as good as it gets to be sure!!! you have a lot of a great life to live! my friends in their 30s seem to be on the whole happier than my 20s friends even
@renainai18 Жыл бұрын
@@nastassjahall9358 yesss I'm 18 as well and just graduated high school and so many adults have said that high school years will be the best years of my life but it honestly sucked so much. I too have ss and pins saved on pinterest to remind me that life isn't over but only just beginning!!
@nastassjahall9358 Жыл бұрын
@@emilyr8668 honestly I've heard that but very rarely. A teacher I had once told me in all honesty she was enjoying her 30s more than any other part of her life yet and it made me feel dramatically less hopeless. It also made me realize how honestly sad all opinions of how a teenager was the best and so easy were.
@EmelieWaldken Жыл бұрын
There's a wonderful book in French called "Sorcières, la puissance invaincue des femmes" (Witches, the unbroken power of women) which has nothing to do with magic ^^ but talks in depth about the "unwanted" women of our society, notably the old woman. It's heartbreaking. I wish for more compassion for the elderly in general, as we will all get there (and if we don't, it's actually worse, because it means we've died an early death)... Also I'm 31 and I've never feared the appearance of age... but I'm terrified of the problems that come when the body doesn't work well anymore. Chronic pain. Memory loss. Just functioning too slowly, not grasping things. Not being able to do the things that are important to me. THAT's scary - not wrinkles.
@maryeckel9682 Жыл бұрын
It's a long grieving process, but most of us survive it until actual death happens. But everyone's experience is different. 62 and chronically ill here.
@akathova3488 Жыл бұрын
Agree 100%
@nehalilisays Жыл бұрын
I like to watch documentaries about people who got really old while staying quite fit. It's really inspiring. Even if you believe that it's mostly genetics (not true) it's quite obvious that the average person can do a lot more for their health. Just staying active, having a healthy weight and eating nutritious foods that don't clogg your arteries can do so much for you.
@angela_tarantulas Жыл бұрын
My grandma said, that every wrinkle on your face is a sign you laughed. And that grey hair is stardust on our heads. I don’t mind getting older and I will never get any procedures done. I just put a cream on my face, because of dry skin 🤷🏻♀️
@user-xm1od9nb1m Жыл бұрын
How is every wrinkle om my face a sign I laughed? All wrinkles are not from laughinh
@aisadal2521 Жыл бұрын
It's in times like these that medias like The Golden Girls and Grace and Frankie are mpre important than ever, since they push back against society trying to erase and minimize older women; they show that it's okay to grow old, and you can do it in your own way 😄
@alexandra8683 Жыл бұрын
YES! I love the Golden Girls and Grace and Frankie!!! 💖
@zamithemyth440 Жыл бұрын
I agree, although I think Jane Fonda doesn't represent natural aging particularly well, since she has undergone many anti-aging procedures.
@magicalspacegiraffe Жыл бұрын
Just watched the first episode of "Grace and Frankie" on Netflix as per your recommendation - thank you!
@memorycelle Жыл бұрын
I love watching The Golden Girls!
@LovelyLies16 Жыл бұрын
I remember reading a comment where a girl said GG made her less scared of aging because it told her that just because she's "old" it doesn't mean she stops living. She can still make new friends, do new things, have romances, and have a real life. She's just older. She still has a solid half of her life left to live.
@bumblebee9189 Жыл бұрын
As a great tweet I saw once said: aging is not even half as scary as what's going on with those who try to avoid it
@sofia4586 Жыл бұрын
I had a friend who would cry every year on her birthday from 21 onward until she became married and pregnant at 29. Then, she finally felt at peace on that birthday. She called herself “old” every year! Sadly, there can be so much cultural/societal pressure placed on women to marry and have children.
@glitterstarbeau Жыл бұрын
I literally don't care I'm 40. Not sure I would feel the same if I were unmarried with no children
@samaraisnt Жыл бұрын
@@glitterstarbeau you didn't live her life.
@corinneskitchen Жыл бұрын
Literally we all look forward to 21 but then want to stay there
@Allycat101010 Жыл бұрын
Me... I'm 26 and I worry I'll never marry...
@iiCounted-op5jx10 ай бұрын
I am so terrified of turning 21 in like 3-4 years
@jessicamattes4208 Жыл бұрын
I'm in college, so I'm almost always surrounded by 18-23 year olds. One of my friends started college at 16, so she's already younger than most of the people she's around. She called herself old the other day and I was literally left speechless. Our societal view of aging is so skewed that a 16 year old who's two years ahead of the majority of her peers can truly view herself as old without hesitation.
@redfullmoon Жыл бұрын
Sometimes one can feel mentally old like just really mentally tired. And what is going on in someone's head isn't always showing on the outside. The brain is weird that way. Possibly feels like she can't relate to the carefree attitude of her peers. I used to be the same way as a kid. Now I feel immature as an adult because I'm not doing supposedly adult things like starting a family etc.
@Vissirzbal Жыл бұрын
It’s frustrating how genetics are disregarded when it comes to aging. I’ve had forehead lines and eyebrow lines since I was a teenager, so I guess I should have started preventitive botox in the womb.
@jamiehershon Жыл бұрын
Yep. I have DEEP laugh/smile lines. Have always had them. Makes me look like a puppet but I dunno, just never cared enough to get them fixed.
@samaraisnt Жыл бұрын
I mean...90% of the people who look GREAT and super young into their 50's, that's 99% genetics. There's simply nothing you could do to look like Paul Rudd or Jlo into your 50's, you just have to be blessed with luck p much. That's the scary bit, it's like beauty, it's random.
@extrastout1741 Жыл бұрын
True my dad didn't have any gray hair or fine line till late 50s. I always looked you get but I try to get away from basing myself esteem on that.
@Karasuno86 Жыл бұрын
My friend has like DEEP deep forehead and smile lines since forever, just like her mom and grandma, and she still looks like a teen/young woman. Wrinkles are not equal to aging
@GabbieCh Жыл бұрын
Some lines are caused by the structure and the motion of the face, not all are signs of aging. If certain parts of your face tend to fold more because of your facial features, you will very quickly develop lines there.
@chocolatbownie35 Жыл бұрын
i grew up with 3 generations of women. My grandmother, mother and older sister. They loved themselves in each step and we loved each other's features. I could have felt selfconscious or bad about my big cheeks if only my grandmother didnt say i looked like my grandfather's sister, who she described as an incredibly beautiful and kind person. I saw my mother, whilst trying to lose weight and be healthy, love her belly fat because i loved to lay on it as a child because it was soft, so she felt a bad hating the belly her baby loved. I saw my sister, an incredibly confident and amazing girl herself, rock acne and other growing marks that should have made her ugly but couldnt because she didnt hide them, she tried to treat her skin but never once have i heard her say she was ugly. My incredibly curly hair is lovely because it looked like my grandmothers when she was young, and i know i will have her beautifull white locks that she loves because i said they looked beautiful and shiny like the moon's reflection on water. All these women have scars, be it because of growth, surgery or the work they've done throughout their lifes, the work of caring for others. They made me who i am, and i love myself and my body for it. Im not scared of growing old because i know i will look like them. I feel that if only every little girl grew surrounded by women who loved each other and each other's features and bodies as a whole, the world would be a more beautiful place.
@jaymiemartin722 Жыл бұрын
This is so lovely, aside from social media and beauty advertisements I think a lot of our self-consciousness comes from the things we hear our mothers and grandmothers say about their own bodies, and since we likely will look similar to them we internalize those negative things about our own bodies. I'm so glad your family is loving of each of your unique features.
@fedem14 Жыл бұрын
this made me emotional ok
@LexaaaHeree Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. 💗 Today I wore no make up (except for brows) instead of the usual concealer to cover up acne. I forced myself to keep up my positive outlook and demeanor and still had a wonderful day. Then read this comment and solidified everything I was thinking. I will carry this with me if I have a family someday.
@katiewray2525 Жыл бұрын
This is an amazing lovely comment it was nice to see today! 💓Thank you 💕
@ClioKravitz Жыл бұрын
Your comment absolutely made my day, I literally teared up cuz of how beautiful you described everything. Thank you for sharing this ❤️
@Niriixa Жыл бұрын
I absolutely hate that the 'not taking care of your skin ' sentiment is so prevalent. I've always tried to do the best I can with the little money I have, but all I can do with my limited income is prevent my skin from drying out. It's always been sensitive and I've always looked older than I am, I consider skincare a luxury I can only ever afford in tiny increments. Healthy skin is due to a mix of genetic luck and financial security and the judgement on people who don't achieve youthful perfection is honestly way more upsetting than whatever whining people do who feel judged for indulging in expensive skincare. I don't care if someone gets these treatments, but the complaints I've seen from some of them pisses me off, because guess what! People who can't afford these things are judged much more harshly!
@ladyreverie7027 Жыл бұрын
It's true. All I do with my skin is wash it with water, cheap Sorbolene lotion sometimes, and wear sunscreen. And my skin is FINE. It's not the product. It's genetics and luck. Doing a 12 step cleanse for my skin wouldn't do anything.
@user-ib6hs8js2i Жыл бұрын
I can highly recommend oil massages and oil cleansing without the use of soaps!
@StorytellingHeadshots9 ай бұрын
FYI, some of the simplest products are the cheapest and actually the best. I knew a woman who was in her fifties who was a biochemist working in the French cosmetics industry who had amazing skin. So, of course I assumed she used very expensive skin care cosmetics to make her skin look that way. But when I asked her she said actually she used $8 argan oil from Trader Joe’s. And the secret was taking a lot of time to massage it into her skin. But it wasn’t expensive. The expense of a lot of “luxury” skin products is actually the preservatives and the packaging -so that it can stay on the shelf longer-Not to make it more effective.
@Variane-zg3lr Жыл бұрын
In The Hunger Games, the rich, upper class Capitol has most of it’s citizens have done so many cosmetic procedures that they’re considered monsters by the poorer people. They could be instantly recognized by there inhuman perfection. The tributes (who were chosen from the lower classes) were practically forced to use copious amount of make up and do a bunch of cosmetic procedures without their consent. This book just gets more and more real as time passes huh
@Brooklynbaby47 Жыл бұрын
🤯🤯🤯 yoooo
@lnf4084 Жыл бұрын
rewatched the films as an adult just recently (loved them as a kid) and was heartbroken to see all the things I used to find unbelievable and think "thank god this is just a story", are now seriously becoming our reality :( most dystopian literature is quite spot on actually.. Fahrenheit 451 was disturbing to read... burning books to control society... look at our reality now, where schools in the US are going crazy banning books that go against their beliefs. its all so so so sad.
@retrogadget6183 Жыл бұрын
I’m 20 and already insecure about “fine lines” on my forehead. I’m able to nip the insecurity in the bud and I just use SPF and moisturize, but what kind of world do we live in where people feel like their value largely comes from their looks? I hate it.
@sydneyeugenia4825 Жыл бұрын
I have the same insecurity I just turned 24 and I feel like ppl probably view me as middle aged 💀
@candice44441 Жыл бұрын
You are too young to worry. Take care of your skin the best you can, and try to live a healthy life style. If you can quit alcohol, not smoke, and stay active it makes a HUGE difference by the time you hit your 30’s and up. Not to mention taking care of your mental health too. Plus emotionally I can assure you the confidence you start gaining after you hit 30’s is a beautiful thing. You will NOT want to go back to your twenties!
@tillie_brn Жыл бұрын
I'm 23 and I love the idea that one day I'll have lines on my forehead, crowsfeet and smile lines 😊 Wrinkles are testaments to all the emotions you have felt and expressed during your life. Let's embrace them!
@sofidittmar8917 Жыл бұрын
@@toryt1849same I’m 23 and already starting to obsess over where my wrinkles will be showing up
@pabloescobarschanclas Жыл бұрын
@@sofidittmar8917 it only gets worse from here, collagen production drops by 1% every year after 25 :)))
@oximoron613 Жыл бұрын
Was recently standing in line at a store and overheard a mother praising her teen daughter for buying retinol serum, claiming that if she uses it now, she won't be stuck "fixing" her skin later like her mother. Not only have they guilted older women into blaming themselves for not "preventing" natural aging, but now those women are passing that fear down to their daughters
@aubreyplazasuncle Жыл бұрын
@@grrt722 no
@worstusernameintheworld9871 Жыл бұрын
@@grrt722 no
@zainabzolita8436 Жыл бұрын
@@grrt722 no
@clarinetpride55 Жыл бұрын
Oooof the only thing that mom should be buying for her daughter's skin is a cleanser and a sunscreen. Poor kid.
@weslierossmal1747 Жыл бұрын
Retinol is used for acne scars and dark spots. Has nothing to do with aging
@Nuffsaid22 Жыл бұрын
I'm currently watching a Canadian series, 'Anne with an E' and one of the things that struck me most was how honest they were about Marilla's aging. She had the wrinkles, eye bags smile lines that one would expect from a 60-70 year old woman, and I shouldn't have been surprised but I was. I've grown accustomed to seeing the smooth foreheads and wrinkle-less faces of celebrities old enough to be my parents and grandparents and in that moment of surprise I felt sad that seeing actual aging on a woman felt so strange. Because it is inevitable for everyone. She looked...real. Like a person I knew but forgot. We need to normalize aging. It doesn't have to be sexy. It's a natural progression of life. It is people that died young that never aged, which is tragic. We should all feel glad to reach our golden years and beyond.
@geaninavasile4624 Жыл бұрын
"Anne with an E" is an amazing series, I have learned so many life lessons from it. The book is also amazing.
@charswellness Жыл бұрын
Yes! Loved that!
@iles2452 Жыл бұрын
Same with the mother of Willem in young royals. The actress that plays her is 65 yo and I think that it’s fabulous that they didn’t choose a 35 yo fabulous looking woman. I mean, she is the queen of Sweden, she has two child that are almost adult, it seems logical that she doesn’t looks super young
@nadiageorge8906 ай бұрын
And beauty shouldn’t matter, but personally I think Marilla is a beautiful lady. Which she technically shouldn’t be from what society tells us about her wrinkles and gray hair. But she is.
@SamRabbitx Жыл бұрын
I'm 32. I worked with a bunch of 19-22 year Olds and I got "omg sis you look so good for a 30 year old." And I was silently really offended.
@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64 Жыл бұрын
I call people out when they say this. I want to know what exactly do they mean and why apparently only younger people can look good.
@nectarinn3 Жыл бұрын
30 isn't even old... What is wrong with society xd
@_tripalong Жыл бұрын
Silently? Girl next time please make sure to snap right back at them. They need to get exposed on their awful behavior. If no one says anything, it's only gonna get worse.
@vcgomeez6 ай бұрын
Lmao @ “30” being old. I feel bad for those girls, they will look a messsssss when they hit 25 if they have THAT mentality. Yikessssss🥴
@hidenseek364 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! As a 52 year old lady who has accepted that I am now basically invisible in Society (your loss Society), I absolutely went through a mourning period for my younger self because it really did feel like The Most Important Part Of Me was gone forever. Back in the 90s, during the supermodel times, I spent so much effort and focus on my appearance because I received positive reinforcement from every direction to do so and fully underestimated all of my other important qualities in the process. With the loss of my youth came the ability to see my inner strengths, and I'm now able to flex "muscles" I had been ignoring for so many years. Doing my best to age fiercely!
@tintun-rf1lf Жыл бұрын
I just logged in to like this comment. You're awesome Heidi!
@BellBouvier Жыл бұрын
You had me at *your loss society*
@samaraisnt Жыл бұрын
LOVE!
@Angryoyster Жыл бұрын
My nan always says “you’re not getting old, you get to be old”. And I think that’s really beautiful. I’ve gotten Botox since I was 17 but it’s because I have terrible TMJD so I literally only get it in my jaw so I can you know eat. Personally I hate having to get it, it’s expensive, it’s painful and, it’s tiring. For me my doctor says I can’t lay down for at least 8 hours after I get it just to be safe. As a child I saw my mum and nan never worry about aging, they never died their hair or worried about their wrinkles they just live life and let their bodies age. I think that, that was very good for me to see as a kid because I’ve never worried about aging. Sure I have my skin care routines and I take care of my hair and body. But I know that one day the greys will come, my face will show all the times I’ve smiled or laughed, my body won’t be the same looks wise or functionally. And that’s okay because I’m lucky that I get to age.
@mglarson5936 Жыл бұрын
I got Botox once to try to reduce my chronic migraines (it did not work) but it paralyzed my eyebrows and I was so self-conscious about it that I got bangs to hide them 😂
@amypark3311 Жыл бұрын
Hi! I’ve also gotten masseter Botox for TMJD. I know it’s an off-label use for Botox, and I really recommend you listen to this podcast episode with an attorney who has won cases against Allergan. There is research showing Botox can migrate in the body, and have pretty bad side effects even years later. The FDA only approves 40 units in the face, and it’s only approved for glabella (11s) and crows feet. Masseter Botox uses so many units because the muscles are so strong, I think I was getting around 100 units- and that only lasts 3-4 months! I truly wish I had never gotten the Botox, it’s a toxin (if it gets in the bloodstream it can cause botulism- Botox even has a black box warning on it, but I was never told that, and most people aren’t). I know how awful TMJ pain can be, and I really suggest looking into facial massage. There’s a type of massage called buccal/intraoral, where you massage the masseter from both inside and outside, and it’s provided more relief than Botox ever did. I know this was long, I’m just really passionate about raising awareness about this. Facial massage for muscle tension makes so much more sense to me, Botox was a very expensive bandaid and the risks just aren’t worth it imo
@amypark3311 Жыл бұрын
Here’s the podcast episode! kzfaq.info/get/bejne/n953mapqxr7Dd40.html
@Angryoyster Жыл бұрын
@@amypark3311 oh my gosh thank you for this info. I too was never told any of this. I haven’t gotten it in a while due to the cost but I will definitely look into other treatments now for sure. I’ve tried mouth guards, physical therapy, needling, liquid diets so I thought Botox was my last hope
@Angryoyster Жыл бұрын
@@amypark3311 the TMJD crew has to stick together and help each other out lol. I live in Canada which everyone knows it for it’s amazing free health care but non of my treatments have been covered (something about it not being a treatable illness or smth idk) it’s all out of pocket. So if I can find something that works I’d gladly pay for it over what I’ve been doing right now.
@N9n3Liv3s7 Жыл бұрын
As my mom gets older (she's only 46), I try to constantly remind her she is beautiful. No matter if she points out her gray hair, a wrinkle on her face, or how she feels she's reaching the end of her "youthfulness," I try to always let her know aging is a wonderful thing and I'd never look at her any differently.
@ashleyloren6159 Жыл бұрын
"giving everyone a little bit of grace with how they are handling societal constructs" Beautifully stated ❤
@maraekeyaira Жыл бұрын
I’ve recently turned 21 and ever since I’ve just developed a fear of aging. I’ve just seen a huge influx of people talking about women’s value going down with age. It’s scary because people make it seem like life stops after 29 and it doesn’t! I hope the next generation of women don’t feel this pressure because it actually takes away from you enjoy everything in life
@ojyochan Жыл бұрын
It starts after! 20s suck
@littlelily4 Жыл бұрын
Don't worry I'm 29 and life doesn't stop at 29 and I am finally starting a carreer I like, I've started going out again, making new friends, traveling, dating There's always new things to expérience, and you are more mature so some things bother you less for example, I feel so much happier now than at age 19 or even 25
@whatevezzz Жыл бұрын
same! turned 20 and now i am panicking
@jillismyname100 Жыл бұрын
I turned 30 this year and I had/have the same fears. It's true, to some people I'm now past my expiration date. I still have to remind myself that my life ISN'T over. I am just about to graduate from grad school and start my life. I could truly go anywhere next at this point. One aspect I struggled with a lot was feeling like I didn't accomplish my goals as an athlete. I would always google how old athletes were when they won their first world championship or "oldest olympians" etc. I've only recently decided that just because someone *hasn't* done it yet, doesn't mean someone *can't* do it. Keep believing in yourself and in your self-worth. You'll be okay. :)
@halo2d Жыл бұрын
I am 43 yes the old lady of the comments, I look better now than I ever did in my 20’s or 30’s. Don’t stress. Drink lots of water, don’t over do the sunscreen cause you need absorbed vitamin d. And find something that gives you joy. Like rollerscating or photography something that uncomplicated that you enjoy and check out of your stress. What ages people most is worrying about things we can’t control.
@daphne8406 Жыл бұрын
Thanks to my mom and grand mother as examples during my youth I was never worried about getting older. These ladies showed so much confidence in themselves and how they looked, it always inspired me to just do and wear whatever I liked ☺️ Their confidence always made them look cool and beautiful to me. Both were always very much also in the camp of «aging is a gift denied to many» and would always enthusiastically celebrate their birthday and would loudly announce their age 🥳 Showing me and my siblings that getting older was something to be celebrated, not feared. Now I am nearly 40 and I must say I have never felt so confident in my own skin, style and looks 😌 Quite liberating actually.
@magaaliii Жыл бұрын
This is beautiful ❤
@Roaming725 Жыл бұрын
I have dark hair and started getting white strands from the top of my head in my mid-twenties. It shocked me at first, but I remembered my mom dying her hair for decades to hide her transitioning hair. It was a hassle for her, every month, and the end result was really damaged hair. So, I'm deciding not to dye or temporarily hide these strands. As many mentioned in the comments, I fear people labeling me as I "let myself go" when I'm just enjoying my ever-changing life! I will continue to embrace my hair and hope this inspires others that it's not something you should feel like hiding. To everyone, best of luck out there!
@marnic01 Жыл бұрын
I have had white hair since I was 10-11 years old. Now I am 21. The first thing my mother said to me was "No, you are too young. It's how the sun light reflexes on your hair" and how she was disappointed when I clearly said I would never dye myself. I realize it can be difficult for other people but I have always found my hair so beautiful even in their aging process.
@AnnaGirardini Жыл бұрын
You go girl! First, I started colouring my hair at the first signs of grey. Then, seeing the damage to my hair, I chopped it all off and let it grow as it is.
@maryeckel9682 Жыл бұрын
Your hair is going to look so cool!
@disneylover192 Жыл бұрын
I'm 24, and i already feel like I'm falling behind and not doing enough to look young. The pressure is insane and it's carzy how much it happens subconsciously.
@razia7640 Жыл бұрын
i am 15 and feel like this as well
@Dinozzzaur Жыл бұрын
Thank you for bringing up "same face" phenomenon. I have taken quite a few live figure drawing classes and I get SO BORED with smooth skin, typical features, round and symmetrical limbs. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE if you have wrinkles, folds, asymmetry, or anything unconventional in your features VOLUNTEER AS A MODEL IN A LOCAL STUDIO CLASS!!! You will make artists so happy to work with different bodies. Confidence is great and all, but often confidence in beauty stems from falling within pretty privilege. "Beauty" begins to feel so narrow and limiting after you draw your fourth young, slim, "draw me like one of your french girls" model.
@Meimoons Жыл бұрын
Literally on instagram, when you’re not looking at the artistic side full of conventional beautiful women, all the influencers look kind of same-y. And this in turn influences artists because they have to try to keep up with instagram so they’re on a lot and just keep perpetuating the cycle.
@sydroper4761 Жыл бұрын
THIS! My favorite models in art school were both in their sixties, and one had very flat, low hanging breasts and a belly pouch, and drawing her was just marvelous. Such interesting and graceful lines and twists that aren’t visible on a skinny 21 year old.
@futuristicgirl14 Жыл бұрын
Same! We had an older model from Disney once and she was absolutely gorgeous, like a real life middle aged Pocahontas.
@maryeckel9682 Жыл бұрын
My life drawing class in the late 1979s had a model who was pregnant. It was so cool and enlightening to watch her body change over the months. The class gave her a baby shower at the end of the semester. Aging models are also really interesting because faces and bodies change in such unique ways.
@kaleighsue8463 Жыл бұрын
Honestly, this is why I’ve become interested in watching older movies (like 1960s-80s). Movie stars had real looking skin and had interesting facial features.
@HyperTheGoth Жыл бұрын
Also, the way sunscreen is pushed so hard so suddenly is really interesting to me. Sunscreen is great at protecting your skin, keeping you safe from skin cancer, and preventing pre-existing damage from getting worse. But I feel like the main reason sunscreen is touted as being so important now, is because it can slow down you getting wrinkles. newsflash, wrinkles are not ugly, and aging is beautiful! I just hate the shame-y way people use sunscreen in social media.
@grrt722 Жыл бұрын
Why would I want to risk cancer and to tan my skin like literal leather? "shame-y" no one is allowed to have opinions any more, there is no good or evil, no truths. Everything matters so in essence nothing matters. Highly recommend reading Kurt Vonnegut's Harrison Bergeron.
@amalieha Жыл бұрын
I think it’s good that it’s being pushed so hard, people need to know how important it is to wear SPF for prevention. It absolutely _should_ be a part of everyones daily routine.
@janerhoadesart Жыл бұрын
THIS. i'll put on some sunscreen in the morning, and put on more if i'm doing outdoor activities, but i'm not going to obsessively slather myself in sunscreen every hour to prevent... looking human??... later in life. and i won't be shamed for that. i don't have the energy to obsess over skincare like so many people say one should. not to mention half the common, cheap sunscreen ingredients break my skin out anyways. 😅
@beth-bi9yv Жыл бұрын
Agreed. I feel like it's super important to prevent cancer but the focus always seems like it's to prevent you from looking old.
@juliabazanska Жыл бұрын
I think the main reason is that many skincare products contain some from of chemical exfoliators in them (even if the product itself isn't labelled as such) so SPF is a must unless your goal is to have unexpected burns.
@caitlynclinewrites Жыл бұрын
It’s actually such a privilege to age. I was in a car crash that flipped over five times when I was 25. It was a miracle that neither me nor the other person in the car were injured, but that and another scare forced me to really think about those things. But with each sign of aging that you get as you grow older, remember that there are many who didn’t get to make it to that point. You gain wisdom and experience each year, and there is so much more to life than fitting into the mold of youth and “beauty.” And as you grow older, if someone stops loving you for what you look like, then did that person who loved you for your youth truly love you, or did they only see you as an object? That’s not real love anyways. I believe love comes from within yourself, and there’s also friendship and family love.
@user-vx3wc8yc9v Жыл бұрын
I don't care if people didn't make it to that point. The only worthwhile time to live is when you're young.
@caitlynclinewrites Жыл бұрын
@@user-vx3wc8yc9v I guess that’s true if you have no substance and derive all of your worth from sources outside of yourself. I love nature, books, and being active. As long as my body is working, I’m happy.
@lavendercavern Жыл бұрын
need more films with aged, honest heroines who do unexpected things
@nahttina Жыл бұрын
You need to see ‘Everything everywhere all at once’! It was exactly that
@theresa7062 Жыл бұрын
@@nahttina That’s one of the reasons I loved it!!!!
@umbrasyl Жыл бұрын
people need to consume less media in general and stop assuming it represents the real world
@vyn409 Жыл бұрын
it's always ''you look so beautiful for your age'' and never ''you look so beautiful because you just are''
@user-vx3wc8yc9v Жыл бұрын
It's almost like beauty is about visual aesthetics or something.
@EddaDiggs Жыл бұрын
Anti-aging marketing makes my blood boil. I had a friend die at sixteen, and I remember this very uncomfortable pseudo-comfort people would offer that she was so young and beautiful and would always be remembered that way. Growing up when she could not is a privilege and I am not going to accept being expected to feel ashamed for continuing to live when so many don't get to
@lauraska95 Жыл бұрын
That is a messed up way of comforting someone.. Sorry about your loss ❤️
@gigitastic90 Жыл бұрын
As someone who is disabled and has already lost my immediate family I am TERRIFED of getting older. I am in my early 30s now and I'm so scared about what my already breaking body will do to me in the future and how I will handle that. I found a grey hair recently and it made me surprisingly emotional. Not because I care about my hair but because it was a reminder I am aging and its coming faster than I realize.
@tintun-rf1lf Жыл бұрын
Ya I know, I felt melancholic.
@cheese4200 Жыл бұрын
i feel similarly and i havent even hit 18 yet
@thetorontogirl Жыл бұрын
I recently turned 29 and looking back at pictures of myself at 24-25, it's like I almost wish to have my old self back. In a way, I do, but with everything I've been through and everything I've learned there's a reason why I aged the way that I did. I've got grey hair now, a wrinkle on my forehead, and my body feels all the crap I've been through in the last 4 years. I've gone through grief, loss, giving birth, hardships, a pandemic...it's crazy to even expect my face or body to stay the same as that 24 year old non-functioning adult child with zero responsibility. Do I miss my old life and self? Sure. But I have things, people, and knowledge in my life that I only prayed for back when I was 24-25. I'm tired of always feeling incompetent at every stage of my life. I'm a mom now that gave birth during the pandemic. I've gained 100lbs in 2.5 years and have so far dropped 43lbs in 1.5 years. My style changed. My skin changed. Everything changes and matures and I feel like we should just take care of our bodies in each current state and age.
@itssj974 Жыл бұрын
When my mom was approaching the end of her 30s, she started talking more about how she just hoped she could pass the age that her mom was when she had died (39 years old). I was only 18 or so at that time, but it resonated with me. It still does even more now that I’m officially in my mid-20s. Aging is natural and not everyone has the honor of experiencing it.
@joopsexclimationpoint Жыл бұрын
I work for Medicare and boy howdy does the thought of not being supported when I’m older stress me out. Like beauty aside, you hit the nail on the head when you said so many elderly people need much more help then they’re currently getting. Call your grandma and say hi to your elderly neighbor, anything. I’m on my knees begging you to interact with the elderly in any positive way, it can make so much of a difference to them AND the way you feel about aging
@smp6565 Жыл бұрын
It happened to me. At 30 I found out over coffee with my friends that ALL OF THEM get regular procedures, incl my coworkers! I was so shocked and they'd just assumed I had too as "everyone does it". I fully support them but I'm shocked that all those early 30s girls got work when I never even considered it! Now I started questioning myself if I should look younger or if I look older than them, while at the same time trying to tell myself "who cares!? I'm allowed to look my age"
@andreap3147 Жыл бұрын
It's such a catch 22 because I always felt like when I looked young, no one took me seriously but now that I'm getting older, I'm panicking. Like wtf, you're totally right that there shouldn't be anything wrong with looking you're age.
@shade247 Жыл бұрын
When you see 15 yr olds begin to use anti aging products and worrying about looking old, you know something is SERIOUSLY wrong with society.
@Kristina-ek8yt Жыл бұрын
Aging is a privilege many will never experience! Embrace it! We will all die (unfortunately). If you want to age well, use sunscreen and tretinoin. No matter what JLo says, olive oil will not make anybody look like her - a lot of treatments and procedures will. Edit: just saw the last few minutes of the video. I must say that DeFino is pretty badly regarded in the beauty journalism space. She doesn't deal in facts and pushes a lot of disinformation. She's also known for misinterpreting studies because she doesn't have the expertise to understand them. And for all that's worth, she doesn't even have any education related to journalism. Every dermatologist worth its salt will tell you that tretinoin is the gold standard in anti-aging skincare. And studies show it actually doesn't make you more sensitive to the sun in the long term (it does for the first 3 months).
@abbysc417 Жыл бұрын
Exactly! I lost my grandma a couple weeks ago and she looked 70 when she was 70. It would be an honor to have as full a life as she did.
@Kristina-ek8yt Жыл бұрын
@@abbysc417 I'm so sorry for your loss! Sending you virtual hugs!
@cmarquino Жыл бұрын
Yep!!
@cha0ticneutralbigs Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately I’ll probably never reach 40 due to my disabilities so if I do I will be so happy I made r to my old age and get to experience
@KaitlinGaspar Жыл бұрын
@@cha0ticneutralbigsi am rooting for you and for your health 💕
@luforyu Жыл бұрын
The way I called in sick from work and stayed home from school to sob when I got my first silver hair at 19 😭 My teenage brain had me convinced I was an aging hag with not much time left. Although not much time has passed between then, I’m in my twenties now and cannot wait for my hair to turn full on silver, or at the very least heavily pepper. Aging is beautiful. I’m only sorry it took my prefrontal cortex developing to realize it. But hey, another benefit of aging!
@froyokid Жыл бұрын
19 grey hair?!? You lucky! 😭😭😭😭 I want the full silver look cause it looks angelic but I guess I don’t have the genes for it since I’m older but no greys yet 🤨
@DrawciaGleam02 Жыл бұрын
"I’m only sorry it took my prefrontal cortex developing to realize it." Why do I want to laugh at this????
@zkkitty2436 Жыл бұрын
I got my first white hair at 16, a lot of people in my family go grey young. I've gotten more since then and I honestly like the contrast. My hair is really black and the texture of white hairs make them look like tinsel imo I see my grey hair and go, yea that's good character design
@chunks7166 Жыл бұрын
Girl…….that’s nothing. I got my 1st gray hair at 13
@lineaalba4035 Жыл бұрын
I was about twenty-seven or eight talking with a girlfriend over at her house. Talking about general observations of life, ''now that we were older.'' my friend's mother had just stop by to say ''hi'' and heard us talking. Her mother was about forty-eight at the time. She joined the conversation, by telling us, wait till you become ''invisible'' that's how you know your old. When you start to show signs of aging. Men stop noticing, seeing you. That's how a woman becomes ''invisible.'' so she better have developed self-confidence and an active life before she totally disappears.
@Bobby_The_Cat Жыл бұрын
The more I age the happier I am. When I look back at my younger self I cringe. I have learned so much and continue to grow in life and that is beautiful.
@setme4ree Жыл бұрын
Apparently thats healthy to cringne at ur younger self because it means youve grown a lot so good for you
@20000dino Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the subtitles, Mina. It’s not only helpful for the hearing impaired, but also for viewers watching this video while taking a dump in the library’s public toilet
@Animeal_Tv Жыл бұрын
I did not realize that.
@84Mazzy Жыл бұрын
LOL
@bassunderscoreharmonic6689 Жыл бұрын
As someone who worked in the skincare clinical industry its annoying to see celebrities promote gimmicky products that can make your concerns worse Edit: Something the public doesn't realize is that these big brands we see that are supposedly "trustworthy" pay dermatologists and doctors to say their products are good (you would be shocked at what brands do this). Thankfully I'm in a position where I can say no to things like that but essentially it's still based on influencer marketing. What I do is-as any person in dermatology should- do a deep thorough dive on brands. Not a quick Google search, but a deep dive into how the brand operates. I'm personally a fan of the brands Versed, Biotherm and Bioderma. Although Neutrogena is good, here's a hint; they use the tactics listed above. If any of these appeal to your interest, please do your own research on it to verify what I'm saying (also if you find they actually use "dermatologist influencer" tactics please reply and let me know, just because I haven't seen anything negative doesn't mean there's not something there.) And for those if you who are actually interested in keeping the integrity of the skin and preventing damage for longer; use a sunscreen. Vitamin C and Retinol(vitamin a). Use a moisturizer. Wash your face once a day, preferably at night, preferably with a gentle cleanser. And check with a dermatologist to see if this type of routine is right for you. Bottom line because I rambled a lot; aging is a natural part of life that a lot of people don't get to live through. Celebrities are using procedures of which most of us never even have access to. Do your own research and stop buying into this sudden trend of using olive oil, over-priced seaweed or any kardashian line on your skin. Your skin and bank will thank you.
@Gemini053 Жыл бұрын
Spill the tea ☕️ EDIT - If you can. I’d like to think that most people who worked in such industries have to sign an NDA.
@josephine862 Жыл бұрын
It’s mentioned in the video that Tretinoin can worsen skin but I’ve heard that Tret is the most effective form of Retinol for wrinkles. What’re your thoughts?
@gabrielacarrillo1740 Жыл бұрын
@@josephine862 Any skin product can worsen your skin, that is why tretinoin is prescribed and why for any skin product, one should do a spot test and stop using the product if it worsens your skin.
@JasminMiettunen Жыл бұрын
How do you feel about The Ordinary? It’s both very affordable, and pretty well available here in Finland, so as I'm starting to use vitamin c and retinol like you mentioned, that’s the brand I'm looking at. So far I've been just using a CeraVe cleanser and moisturiser, haha
@bassunderscoreharmonic6689 Жыл бұрын
@@josephine862 tretinoin should only be used if prescribed by a dermatologist. Some regions don't require a prescription but I would certainly say it's not something to play around with. It's a last resort for certain skin diseases and should nt be used lightly. Of course, this is my own opinion, so take it woth a grain of salt.
@dimplesd8931 Жыл бұрын
As women of color my mom, grand moms and aunts got old without fighting it. They were/are amazing women who loved and were loved regardless of age, body sags, fat, grey hair or wrinkles. My mom wore makeup 5-10x a year. I feel lucky that I had a “age happens” mother as a role model. I’m not immune to marketing and societal pressures but I’m so grateful I get to age.
@musica1120 Жыл бұрын
As an esthetician I struggle with this topic almost every day 😅 I try to approach my clients with what THEY want to focus on and to keep the integrity of their skin in mind but a lot of my clients come in already insecure 😢 I feel like I’m leaving a good impact tho bc I try to remind them that skin is alive and an organ and to worry more about cancer prevention and simplifying their routines towards anti inflammation and protection
@aminak.4501 Жыл бұрын
Hi, I am a fan of yours from the Netherlands! Loneliness is quite a big issue in the Netherlands among elderly, as we are a highly individualistic country, with the focus on a goverment who needs to take care of us, instead of family and surroundings. Through creative ways we try to combat this. I know through someone who lives in one of these elderly/students mixed houses, it is a very nice project in my opinion.
@Time2Begin Жыл бұрын
As Naomi Wolf puts it in 'The Beauty Myth': age is experience, experience is knowledge, and knowledge is power. And that's the one thing society doesn't want women to have. I always keep that in the back of my mind ;)
@pigeon3264 Жыл бұрын
I just had a grandparent pass away (My 1st time losing a grandparent) and this video touched me in an unexpected way. She was the last of the grandparents anyone expected to pass away first because despite pushing 80 she was hardly senile. And in the last 5yrs or so I hear more and more that I look like her. I didn't as much when I was little. It really came out later. I would love to age like her and what I mean is, I want to inherit all of it. The wisdom and the wrinkles. And I wish there was a program like what they have in the Netherlands for my grandpa. I'm seeing him as often as I can but it's not an easy task. I'd love if there was another person on board who lived directly where he is.
@internetperson6195 Жыл бұрын
I’m 13 and terrified of the world I’ll grow up in, the world I’m already grow up in. About a year ago I went through this whole working out, limiting food, sucking in belly phase and I remember considering plastic surgery and wanting a boob job. I was like 11-12. The thought is so so scary, that this is the world that we live in where small children centre their lives around looking different to fit unachievable beauty standards, it’s so so sick. I’m 13 years old and already feel like I should’ve done something with my life. Youth ends at 20, 30 is when the time to stop having fun and have everything worked out, your life is about your partner or your kids and after 40 your life is basically over so you better have done everything. I really really hope to see things change or at least to have more people talk about this, make it a well known discussion because I’m so scared of how the world will develop, the pressures everyone will be under. Sorry for the word vomit, take care of yourselves ❤️❤️
@abbysc417 Жыл бұрын
Oh sweetheart. The only things you should've done with your life at 13 is to learn a lot and have fun. There is so much more to life after 40! Plenty of people open businesses, travel, start creative pursuits, and much more into their seniority. I don't think I was genuinely happy from 12-24 years old, but I promise it gets easier.
@Sarah-zl2fr Жыл бұрын
It's hard, and at almost 30, I still feel this type of pressure, but what's nice about aging is caring LESS about this stuff as you get older because you realize that all those things really don't matter.
@internetperson6195 Жыл бұрын
@@abbysc417 That's really sweet of you and thank you for caring enough to type a reply. I appreciate it!
@internetperson6195 Жыл бұрын
@@Sarah-zl2fr Tysm, I hope you're doing well and the pressure's only getting less
@rhythmandblues_alibi Жыл бұрын
Just wait til you turn 30, it is truly liberating. I was miserable through my teens and 20s, full of self doubt, not realising how lucky I truly was to have a healthy, pain-free body. When you gain the perspective that comes with simply having spent more time on this earth, you realise how little the surface-level stuff matters. My advice is to take the long view and just enjoy your life, none of us get out of this alive after all!
@madeleiner3640 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for talking about the price, for once!! The financial burden of beauty is not talked about enough. I personally have spent an unfathomable amount of money on makeup, nails, skincare, haircuts, hair colour, botox, filler etc. And I'm pretty low key looking. It is so inflated.
@MsMrReason Жыл бұрын
The best skin care is avoidance of effing up your skin- its he most boring and most obvious but the best . Celebrities spend $1000s of skin care as they spend $10.000 messing it up. As a non hedonistic poor human - I have never had the money or time to mess up my skin like a celebrity. I cant sun my self on the beach for 6 months, party indefinitley , have a drug or drink habit and afford rehab. I have to go to bed early and get up for work and answer to bosses who will fire me for slip ups. Celebrities do indeed look good but that is the whole head to toe package - their actually skin is horrendous and not youthful at all. And there is no surgery that can reset skin only patch it up.
@samaraisnt Жыл бұрын
@@MsMrReason no but really drugs/drink make people age SO MUCH it's willlld.
@tfkdandsvkc Жыл бұрын
That reminds me how much of a shopaholic I am in regards to makeup,hair,nails,skin care and fashion to keep up with this insane sky high beauty standards I have wasted so much money on beauty stuff I can't even explain and yes am among the low key types my god!!!!!
@gudetamaenthusiast8315 Жыл бұрын
i’m unbelievably early and god am i glad that mina’s talking about this !!! i can’t believe 30’s the new 50 when it’s basically just the age where you start to get your life together lmao
@horace6851 Жыл бұрын
I will never forget my friend who chose to congratulate me for getting married under 30. I was literally wtf. I got married because I was close to finishing my degree, my then fiance was finishing his postdoc and it just was a right time. Me turning 30 the following year had nothing to do with it... eh, those fake milestones we set for ourselves. Just because we have ten fingers we decided that each time the Earth orbits the sun 10 times something must change...
@picahudsoniaunflocked5426 Жыл бұрын
As an immune compromised person who still mostly isolates, I really appreciate when Creators still acknowledge the pandemic still rolls along around the world. Thanks.
@kaligrenee3221 Жыл бұрын
I just turned 30 a few days ago and my existential crisis is real. Do I even matter in society if I’m not in my 20’s. Society has done a number on how I personally view aging so thanks for talking about this.
@luminalgenie Жыл бұрын
As someone who is 28, I feel you. I am actually excited to move away from my 20s - but I feel similarly there’s no place in the world for me when I grow older
@zzoa. Жыл бұрын
I recently turned 30 too, but even if society deems me unworthy for whatever reason, I won't really care and continue to try and be happy within my own little world. Life is so absurd, I won't make it worse by attributing importance to what randoms think of me.
@giedrebey5444 Жыл бұрын
Wow this is crazy . What have they done, when i was in my 30’s i felt and looked as young and better than i was in 20’s. Actually all the way, to 46 , i felt great . Now i turned 52 no i dont look 52 but i dont look 30 ether. So mentally its hard to digest that, especially you feel as young and your body still the same, but some changes, in the face, makes you feel strange. Like how do i dress do i look like i am trying too hard, its just un explainable feeling 😳🤪😂
@brigittem2231 Жыл бұрын
Just turned 31 and I feel you
@gabrielacarrillo1740 Жыл бұрын
I just don't tell people my age or tell them I'm not old enough to order from the senior menu at Denny's.
@mintjaan Жыл бұрын
"Giving everyone a little bit of grace for how they deal with social constructs" I think is a very important message that can be applied to so many things.
@hyunrahan5265 Жыл бұрын
I was discussing with my crush about how older people are more attractive. He then told me that only applied to man. Older woman is no longer considered hot. That stuck to me and made me so afraid of aging.
@jj11233x Жыл бұрын
that guy does sounds awfully superficial and like he is not worth your time and worries tbh
@pabloescobarschanclas Жыл бұрын
your crush is an idiot and should instead become blocked in your phone.
@hyunrahan5265 Жыл бұрын
@YesI SaidIt I’m trying to move on from the situationship since He got a girlfriend now hhahaha
@felmargego2534 Жыл бұрын
@@hyunrahan5265 i feel sorry for his gf.
@hyunrahan5265 Жыл бұрын
@@felmargego2534 yeah but the only good thing about him is that he like to give gifts 💀 Now I won’t have expensive presents anymore
@julialikesrocks Жыл бұрын
i’m dealing with a lot of genetic skin issues at the moment, and i’ve faced a lot of the “it’s an issue you can fix if you take initiative” type of people. the part of the video that talks about how big of a role genetics and environment plays into this genuinely lifted a weight off of my shoulders
@ruslanabellydance8603 Жыл бұрын
This is a really good topic that needs more open discussion. Aging can be beautiful. Why is it that in so many movies older men, with wrinkles, grey hair are portrayed in such a more positive light than women? We could learn a lot from cultures that highly respect the older motherly figure in their family.
@MMHay16 Жыл бұрын
As someone who works in the gerontology field, literally the study of healthy aging, you did a wonderful job briefing on the issues of ageism and body image. Thank you so much for touching on ways we can fight against the stigma as well.
@meganvliegen522 Жыл бұрын
I actually am currently working in one off those Dutch eldery care programs! Its called ‘Vooruit’ which translates to ‘Forward’. We get a ‘free’ appartement, for 10 hours off community service. Which include, cleaning streets with children. Giving cooking classes to children. But also coffeemornings with lonely elders. Cooking for elders. Its very valued, to both parties.
@taniazhurbenko7521 Жыл бұрын
Retinols and tretinoins are actually proven collagen boosters. Which helps skin firmness…making a person look “younger”. They’re not aging irritants as you stated in the end.
@frannysmith2175 Жыл бұрын
i was going to point this out as well
@jasminer66788 Жыл бұрын
We need to bring more awareness to this problem. Anytime you’re ageist, you’re being ageist towards your future self too
@JuliaShalomJordan Жыл бұрын
Very well said.👏🏻
@tfkdandsvkc Жыл бұрын
Thanks this people think they will never age lol
@patchnpaw15 Жыл бұрын
Love your point about overachieving. I'm 23, just graduated and managed to get a respectable job in the field. I plan to continue with post-grad while working, but all I can see are arbitrary goals of what I should have achieved by what age. I wasted my first year of uni breaking down under self imposed pressure and having to start over one year later, and now I can't help but feel like I am behind my peers and it's done. So many times I've said "yeah well, at my age I should already..." We spend our 20s chasing an "under 30" goal but still feeling empty and comparatively like a failure at the age of 30.
@rosewillow5757 Жыл бұрын
It will get better don’t worry! All in Gods timing 🤍🙏
@taniaelliott4078 Жыл бұрын
Felt exactly the same at your age. I panicked about the thought of having to take a year off between undergrad and post grad 'because I would be behind'. In the end I was the equal youngest in my masters, and most people were late twenties and thirties, a couple in their 40's. Then I got injured and had to start all over again in my 30's going back to uni again. Again, I still wasn't the oldest in most of my classes. If I could go back in time I would stop myself from stressing about what I needed to do by when and worrying about the future instead of enjoying my youth.
@lavitorroja2632 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! I've always been bothered by the "unproblematic people age better". I know some people will mean it as a joke but others definitely believe it to be true and it's just more punishment for those who don't age according to our already unrealistic and unfair beauty standards.
@kittengurl220 Жыл бұрын
I don’t know if it’s because I’m still young(27), but I’ve never feared getting older. I don’t think older women look “bad.” I’ve always thought aging was beautiful. My mom turns 60 next year, and though she has wrinkles and “looks her age,” she’s still beautiful to me, as is my grandma. I have SEVERE body dysmorphia, though. I hate how I look. So maybe once I get older I’ll obsess over it, like I obsess over my body and weight and the large pores on my face and the widening bald spot on my scalp and my nose that I hate more and more every day. I’m working on loving myself, but it’s so hard. I’ve struggled my entire life. I just hope once I’m older I’ll feel more confident in myself. I can’t wait to be past my 20’s, honestly.
@ladyreverie7027 Жыл бұрын
I used to have body dysmorphia and an eating disorder, and what helped me was realising that my image of myself is NOT MYSELF. My image of myself is just an image. My real self is my consciousness that is looking outward from my eyes. Focusing on outward facing experience made me way happier. I am not my imagination of myself (based on my name, my picture, videos, mirror images). That's how I imagine others see me. But that isn't even accurate and besides it doesn't tie into my inner experience of consciousness. I was living as if I was in third person perspective and that was the cause of my dysmorphia. But we don't live in third person. You live in first person. Self love isn't loving your image. It is loving the experience of life itself.
@tiryaclearsong421 Жыл бұрын
I'm 31 and feel similar. I had no issues turning 30 and I'm only a little upset that an inch of my hair turned grey. Mostly because I like my hair color and I'm not interested in dying it.
@KeynesMai Жыл бұрын
I used to work at an opthomology clinic which had patients of all ages and financial backgrounds. Ive always struggled to identify age in people and what I realized in working that job is I generally could tell how much younger or older someone would look than their age based on how good their insurance was. I think its already a class divide. There's already a very obvious visual beauty difference that even not on a superficial level has so much to do with ones ability to maintain health - and in doing so one can maintain youthful appearances even before having cosmetic procedures. The luxury of sleep, proper nutrition, time to exercise or a job that's not manual labour will make you look younger.
@maryeckel9682 Жыл бұрын
Not to mention having access to dental care and orthodontics.
@losj3020 Жыл бұрын
the anti-aging thing honestly bleeds into my every day life in a way that goes past beauty. I'm 19, in the college of my dreams studying something I love, have average grades, and still feel deeply anxious and suicidal because I feel like I'm wasting my youth. It's like I'm late to everything. I'm not pretty enough like how other people on socmed look after they turned 17 or 18. I feel like I'm a year or a semester too late from joining college organizations (a really essential part of the experience in my country). Sometimes I just have to slap myself back to reality and being reminded that I'm still fucking 19 :/
@жабаквак Жыл бұрын
I'm 19 and I feel the same way!! I think this topic is worth a different essay because feeling like wasting time is so common among our peers. Almost like you have a huge deadline that is approaching. And sometimes I feel like this pressure is so unfair because please... I'm a literal child...
@1chienandalou Жыл бұрын
I hope you can see how odd all of this sounds when it’s written out. There’s absolutely no logical reason you should be spending time thinking about having fallen behind at your age. You should find a professional to talk to and get out of this delusional world your generation has created yourselves and then imprisoned yourselves into. This does not make sense and is not the kind of focus you should be having at this time in your life. Sorry I’m not mincing my words.. I don’t need to be your psychiatrist to see these thoughts are not healthy or optimal but another professional who can get to know you and help you get out of these erroneous thought patterns I think would be helpful. The world is heading in such a direction that your generation is going to get very serious very fast. More serious than any of us had to because we are heading somewhere unprecedented in existing human lifetime. You will not have the luxury to worry about wrinkles very soon. This would be another reason I would take addressing my mental health seriously.
@randomtinypotatocried Жыл бұрын
I went to college later on in life (late twenties) and still learning to not judge myself so harshly against other people. Quite a few people I've talk to over the years felt like they couldn't keep up with their peers on these expectations we're all conditioned to meet. But good luck on your studies
@dreamerdoes_is_love8986 Жыл бұрын
I feel this, and this is how I felt at 19 and still how I feel at 29 to some degree, there's still time, we're still alive, we've still got time.
@losj3020 Жыл бұрын
@@1chienandalou I know it's weird and illogical lol. And I know that what I'm doing isn't healthy. If I didn't, then I wouldn't type my comment ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Looking for professional help is difficult because of my family's opinion about it, which is ironic since I'm a Psych major. And I'm not "worrying about wrinkles", I'm worrying about how I've fallen behind my peers mainly in terms of joining things like campus org, which, as I've said, is an essential college experience in my country. And when it comes to appearance, I've been dealing with bullying since I was in elementary school so it fucked up my perception of my body in general, so I guess it's less about aging and more about how I'm just very unhappy with it I appreciate your concern but I know my own problems, thank you :)
@thatsuspiciouswhalenut Жыл бұрын
the student old people cohabitation thing is a very good concept. I just imagine a student coming home like "Margaret you're not gonna believe this shit"
@linlylou Жыл бұрын
I worked for a popular “country club” like gym for 5 years and I was pressured to get Botox and other cosmetic procedures done by my older coworkers. I was 20. They told me that getting it done at a younger age would preserve my youth. And I would be more successful in the industry. It always really bothered me that they made it seem like my appearance affected my success within my career path and not my skills.
@vs_miley Жыл бұрын
Its always sad that people think that once women reach a certain age they are less desire able, that aging is evil and if you look older than 30, you are unattractive.
@dokiepkosa Жыл бұрын
This video really touches on a personal topic for me. I was lucky to grow up in a multi generational home, and spent a lot of time with elders. The amount of rampant ageism peers my age have is so hard to talk about, because everyone just thinks that old people are mean bitter and conservative. I’m not saying that those things can’t be true, but being shut out from the world makes you lonely. I’ve talked with my own supervisor’s about how they treat our elderly customers, the snide remarks they use if someone needs extra help. It really upsets me, an excuse to be cruel and not feel bad about it “because I just don’t like old people”. Everyone deserves to be and feel cared for, try being kinder and gentler to those around you (EVEN WHEN ITS HARD)
@NoraRez10 ай бұрын
hi this has nothing to do with this episode but I felt compelled to share this. I had a pretty bad anxiety attack that lasted for hours (literally throughout the entire night) and the only thing that calmed me down a bit and made me regain some of my “rational state” (as I like to call it) has been your videos. normally I enjoy them without any anxiety party going on lol but watching them to distract myself and to calm myself down has helped immensely and I wanted to share this in case you stumble upon this comment. If anyone is going through the same, hang tight. I know it’s corny but you’re truly not alone and you’ll get through it like you’ve done before. Here’s to more video essays and mina le content.