I dont see the point of following a mens advice on dating when he himself doesn't seem like a guy who've been on a serious healthy relationship. He always has the basic excuses for his singledom. Women out there who need a genuine opinion on how to date a men and be a wife should first of all look for men who've been married, some of them who've been divorced and had kids because these are the only men who can give you the correct advice on a LTR and not in the fairytale this dude is constructing. Im not disregarding his opinion at all but if you want to clearly get useful advice go listen to older men. Thats why I like to listen to older and not politically correct dudes like Tom Leykis , Better bachelor and Coach Greg Adams. I know I know this guy is handsome and has a smooth voice but I can almost fell asleep listening to this dude. He has no experience and credentials.

Thank You

@Z Z so cute! hugs :)

@@ricardodelacrvz1400 well yes if you need to know how women think.. ask women?:)) I listen to different ppl because ppls life experience varies. I only dated guys so I talk to my guy friends to figure out how their brain works and what are their patterns. I dont want to manipulate anyone into anything, I just dont want to get into the wrong relationship or friendship.

Good podcast. Men and women shouldnt be put in boxes. Everyone is different and wants and needs are different. See people as individuals, not as a collective group. This us best podcast from a man talking on women and dating. He doesnt make women look like horrible creatures as many others these days seem to portray women as. X

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

Go and tell that to your fathers friend. It will mean the world to him.

Beautiful story. Let him know that. It would mean so much to you and him.

@@3_Star_Belt I always wanted to, but I rarely get to see him now. You don't just bring up a heavy topic like this out of nowhere. But actually, the anniversary of my father's death is next week. I might just give his old friend a call and tell him. This might actually a great way to honor my father's memory this year. It's been 22 years since he passed.

Amazing how you turned the death of your father into a story about you...

Amen

@Julián I'd argue it's actually the worst for someone from my age group, I was born in 93 so I was raised with all the traditional standards, dated and engaged with girls in my teens when social media wasn't a thing for us yet, had a few serious relationships but ultimately nothing worked out, and now I'm single and stuck in the worst era of dating possible without any of the skills to deal with modern women lol. I'm not crying tho, if anything I've been lucky to have a kick in the ass to reaffirm my faith in God and have him be my center, rather than hedonistic pleasure 🙏

Haha speak for yourself. As a handsome and competent young man, the only problem i have in this modern dating world is the spiritual pain i feel from having too much sex with too many beautiful women who are all eligible to be a wife.

@Julián that’s a fair point. Maybe I should’ve said “single people of today” instead of “young people”.

Yeh rub it in more please.

Yikes I would never want to be with you even as a friend

Stupid comment.. the guy is saying be honest. I'd want an honest friend. @@divineeye1254

That is obvious!!!How come you can live with the closest person, share your life, call someone wife/husband and do your own things?That is still living your own life!!!!Disgusting being in relationship.

@@divineeye1254what a grim thing to say

You owe it to yourself... AND to the other person! Become the actual person who would be attractive to other people, rather than playing pretend. It's harder, but much more rewarding (and congruent).

In my almost 60 years I have always heard that women understand men better than men understand themselves. Pretty sure that does not include the last couple of generations. Women today have become shallow, narcissistic, clueless hedonists with no moral code but whatever gets them their next dopamine hit. Feminism got women the power they wanted... too bad it didn't inform them they will be held accountable for every use (and misuse) of that power.

very interesting insight. thanks for posting

Yeah they want a strong man and a leader until they see your anger, or you do something 'controlling' or you show some of the other traits that also come with this personality type. Basically the want the traits of masculinity that *they* want, not the whole package of it. A masculine man is going to get angry sometimes. He is not going to have a space as detail-oriented and neat/clean as you would like. He's not going to be as well-groomed as a more feminine man. Women don't want to accept these things and so they fall the an illusion of a man instead of the real man. When the real man comes out, they flee.

Imagine going into this video seeking validation for things you already believe.

​@@dovekie3437 Chris isn't very black pilled or red pilled. I doubt anyone on this channel is here for confirmation bias

good point, this guy has exactly whan many of us want, and you dont really take fitness advice from obese people

It’s true, but on the flip side, you also want someone who understands the modern dating game. There are always tradeoffs

Soo true

A person who has been a very long relationship will likely be poor at giving advice on getting people interest. Probably an expert in keeping a relationship though

Only problem is depending on how long they’ve been married they are out of touch with the current dating market. The recent effects of social media , 4 th wage feminism and misandry in movies and tv have turned a vast majority of women into more of an adversary and competitor than someone who is trying to date . The average guy is having a harder time than ever . Also there is a certain amount of naivety or call it blind trust a man has to even get married today. The laws do not make it an attractive contract to enter into for a man .so someone who is married on a lot of levels isn’t the most relatable or reliable giver of advise

I’m with you, to my knees 🙌🏽 Such a beautiful man. What a journey!

I’m curious as to why you leaned left (thinking that you were deficient) instead of leaning right (that they are deficient for you)? I’m asking this because I as a man too was in a situation like this and it’s interesting to see how the mind leans …

Right there with you. I met a girl back in October and I thought there might be something there. But then after a couple of weeks of texting she just ghosted me, and I was depressed for like two months after that. I blamed myself for things not working out. I decided to just go “ho phase” and give up on anything beyond a friends with benefits type of deal, but then 3 months ago I met someone wonderful. She’s going through a tough time in her life so we’re just being friends, but there’s definitely something strong between us.

@@wyp617 I went through the same thing a little while ago. I can’t answer for others but I can for myself: I put this woman on a pedestal. When things didn’t work out, I blamed myself because “it couldn’t be her because she’s so amazing” even though I’d only known her for like two weeks. 😂 I’m not saying it’s her fault either, but to just blame things not working out solely on me is wrong. It takes two to tango, or in this case to not. 😂

@@philipcallado5693Sounds like the new girl is emotionally unavailable. Best to be friends.

@@philipcallado5693 Read "The Rational Male". You were suffering from Oneitis.

he is talking about women he works with. women who want to become good partners for men. you are looking at gold diggers and getting angry that all you see is that. Maybe change your lens

@@indoorphine The divorce rate has been 50% for a very long time, but you want to deflect by calling men angry. lol

You are right! He can’t talk bad about woman, they are his customers!

@@loganblackwood2922 perhaps you are 100 years old, mature and angry, sorry cant get to that level

@@claudio6032 Why do people insist on "talking bad about" either gender?

Red pill can get toxic too sometimes

red pill should be taken with a huge pinch of salt

Yay

​@@eKko0like ANY information, duh.

I got intoxicated by the red pill and when it was too late I ruined my relationship. Lesson learned.

amazing,i am kinda in a similar situation,how did you handle it?

@@DavidVelasquez9 well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer

@@peterwilliams6361 please how can i get in touch with the spiritual adviser?

@@DavidVelasquez9 her name is *Victoria Lee Hess* ,and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster

you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.

@@croissants1280 just bc someone gives you attention (men/women) doesn’t mean they intend to be with you long term.

The advice seems to be catered to women, and supposedly profound, when it is virtually most self-evident. Basically, the non-PC translation is: "Guys will say anything to F you and give you any amount of attention", no shit sherlock.

@@Nah-ah also intention isn’t enough, the road the hell is paved with good intentions. Actions. Behavior. Over time. That’s all that matters

But you can have good intentions and lack attention and still end up at zero…. So what’s the solve?

And people tell me economics and a financial mindset isn't the right way to approach dating. It's the proper mindset, and I'm a value investor looking for marriage. If people don't invest in something, they don't bid it up, that means they don't value it. If they bid it up, why are they trading it? Is it a long term hold? Or is it a short term trade? Ask the investors what their intentions are after they express they'd like to invest (give commitment/attention) to get a rough idea. But they have biases and say things for their own self interest, so it's best to check their financials, investment history, are they an accredited investor or not (find out how they acted in former relationships, I would also say ask for a financial statement and credit report on 2nd or 3rd date after expressing marriage is the intent for both of you and bring your own). This is how you take a calculated risk to minimize liability. Is this a weird way to date? Don't care. This is optimally efficient. And fortunately I'm an Orthodox Jew, so this kind of practice is normal. This is probably why we also have the lowest divorce rates in the US and have happier marriages on average and raise kids better than most Americans on average.

sounds good on a youtube comment.. but reality is different

@@Deb_deCoder I know this is only my anecdotal experience and I‘m sure my parents went through rough patches as well, even though they never let anyone see that side of their relationship. But the bottom line of my comment is to look for general compatibility - not a match in financial status.

@@Ninitschga you are prohibiting the very thing wymn look first in a man.. financial status.. i mean this is the main reason wymn are looking for men.. otherwise most of them don't care to be with a man

@@Deb_deCoder Maybe that is true for where you live and your culture but over here in Germany women are able to make their own income and look for a lifelong partner, companion, lover, best friend, confidant and a potential father for their kids, if they want any. Financial status is not a top priority in a lot of European countries. My husband for example has a chronic illness - so I know at some point I will have to take care of him and he won’t be able to work anymore and add to our income. But that’s not a reason I would ever leave him or considered not dating him back in the day. He is a wonderful friend, husband and father to our children and even if we had to live in a yurt or on a remote island - I would rather live there with him than with anyone else in a mansion. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Hope you find somebody that loves you for who you are and not the earthly things you posses.

may be you are an exception.. but what i said is the universal truth.. majority of the cases around the world.. and as far as i know very few from today's generation get mrrd in Germany and UK

You're pretty resilient and perseverant with changing and still waiting so long. Move on. There are other women that can have good s*x and bloody *_do_* appreciate You as You are. However, some of 'em simply are too much of an Insta-whore in their head to find back to real life for long enough strips to even recognize let alone appreciate what they really have (had).

That's gross for anyone to do. If I was on a date and dude is on his phone the whole time, I'm not going out with him again.

If they’re on their phone they don’t care, they expect the man to win them over.

i had a girl whip out a phone on a first date. 2nd time it happened i told her if it came out again i was gonna confiscate it (i was a teacher at the time, she knew that, so it was a 'little joke'). phone didnt come out again. dated her for 3 years, she wanted to get married, i wasnt ready and she was too masculine anyway. in hindsight, prolly wasted 3 years of my 20's, dating a girl that i should have eliminated on the first date due to the phone. its disprespectful, it is the woman attempting to show dominance that she has other options and better things to do... NEXT !

oh maybe shes doing it to throw you off.

@eyeswideopenpod that's the difference I think most men would maybe perceive that red flag but ignore it anyways and continue to date her for 3 years like the other dude said because sometimes we think more with our small head than our big one. Speaking for myself when I was young it's hard to know yourself well enough to fight off that unconscious bias of attraction and make a rational decision. Also I think men feel like they have less options so they feel forced to settle with what they've got maybe. Who knows that's just how I perceive it

Underrated comment

Matthew Hussey is clearly an "old romantic" that just hasnt kept pace with the change in dating dynamics. He continually espouses an idyllic wishful approach that is a bit detached from reality. To think that successful women will ditch a hypergamous approach to dating is ludicrous

​​@@bruswain9158 I agree he is a bit whimsical with his approach. I do think his insights are generally quite good and valuable. But I definitely think he's a bit naive when it comes to mating preferences and how uncomfortable they tend to be to think or say out loud.

They used to say it the way to a man's heart was through his stomach. The point of that comment wasn't that people didn't know that sex existed, but rather that what really makes a stable relationship is both sides benefiting in a very practical way. If you're chasing feelings and status the results are always going to be brutal.

You make some good points. Men who can will often do what women allow.

My mom has been a stay at home mom since I was 12, and all of my younger brothers life. We loved being able to have her around and spend time with her.

I’m all career but my mom was stay at home, and I’m an artificial intelligence specialist now (so software), but taught kindergarten for 9 years prior- and I applaud you. If I’d had kids, I’d done same as you

That's beautiful to hear! I'm so happy for you 😊

Yup I can't finish listening to him.

Go back to your red pill community !

Finally I found a comment that points out the obvious.. that Matthew is clearly fantastic at SELLING to women because he talks in circles and doesnt offer any actual solution to the problem. But he does this in a way that women just loves. Oh and also the way he addresses things like sex (which he barely talks about of course..) he will do in a very soft and delicate way.. lure them in so to speak and then the circle begins and voila, you think you got something out of it but if you think about it just a little bit.. you didnt.

When he got to the part where he said the point of renting a ton of money is so that you can choose whoever you want I realized he was just talking BS. That ONLY applies to men. He even said himself that the women specify they want someone on their level. He's not going to talk them into finding something they don't innately find attractive acceptable

That is why he works with women.

I would have respected him if he was honest about "I'm not particularly familiar with this area, but my experience would lead me to believe that __ is the case regarding it" etc. But instead when he confidently spewed out absolute 100% wrong falsehoods that ignore reality it completely demolished his credibility. Defying reality to cater to someone's feelings *IS* extremely profitable with women, but it's not going to fly with men. He's not a jackass like a lot of personalities we see these days, but that doesn't make his advice valuable or correct.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

​@cobrakaiISBACK you're missing the point. It was the activity itself, the act of going to the store, hoping they had the movie you wanted to see, or having nothing in mind and looking thru the shelves until something catches your eye. And you didn't want to choose wrong because you couldn't just stop a movie 20 mins in when you realize it sucked, and then pick another movie, you were stuck with your choices that you also had to pay for. It was a weekend treat to rent movies and stay up late watching them, it wasn't something you often did during the week. Sometimes you find more value in something that takes more effort, something you have to pay for, as opposed to just having 9 million movies handed to you on a silver platter that you can start/stop anytime you want, and so many options you end up spending 2 hours looking thru the never-ending menu instead of actually watching a movie.

Yeah video stores were fun back in the day

@@cobrakaiisback4709 most of those streaming services just offer low grade rubbish 'straight to streaming' shows/movies that wouldnt even be found in the 'weekly' rental shelf at a video store.

Because he's hyper alert of saying the wrong thing. Look at how many pauses he has at the beginning of the interview. His viewer demographics that provide $$ are the same group being scrutinized in this topic, so he tries to dodge all of those hard discussion points, and I can't take that seriously. I see through it.

@@juliomartinez6426 Matthew’s a good guy. I think I responded to your same comment in another thread so I won’t repeat myself. I’ll just add that if he’s treading lightly, maybe it’s because current society doesn’t want to hear about personal responsibility or bettering oneself. Rather, victimhood and blame is “in”. If he’s pausing to find a diplomatic way to speak truth in a way that easily offended people (women) can hear, I’m fine with that. I say this as a woman. Also, have you seen any of his videos? If not, maybe watch a few. Don’t take my word for it, see for yourself and then decide. ✌️😊

“Guys feel invisible, what would you say to them?” “Guys only want the top 1%. Get real boys.” That’s the issue. The 99% of women, I get to pass off, ignore and string along. Always has been.

If you guys think Matthew Hussey "supports women" and is "catering to his demographic" then you can say that about male-focused dating gurus as well. If you've watched enough of his content you'd know he does call out women, but does so in a digestible way. A lot of men take the approach of scolding women rather than both being emotionally aware, and explaining things in a way where a person can take in what they're saying without attacking their character or resorting to extreme narratives. Women listen to him because he has mastered the art of "it's not about what you say, it's how you say it." Like in this comment, here you are accusing him of ill-intent without any bases. You didn't even explain why he's wrong. You went straight to slander. Interesting. I'd say Matthew Hussey's emotional intelligence is light years ahead of most men. I appreciate that he addresses issues that are on both sides. And it's very telling that you pointed that out. A lot of you men and even women want to be told you're always right and that you did nothing wrong. Or that you're not a danger to yourself, but you are.

He knows that everyone is hyper sensitive.. Men included...and when he asks people to consider what they are looking for... he hits the nail on the head. A lot of guys who call themselves nice guys if you follow reddit snapshots pf conversations also completely degrade women , seggualize them and feel entitled to their bo. Dies. They are single not for being nice, as that is the bare cultural expectation(and it is debatable how nice these people really are when they don't get what they want), but because the outcome they are seeking is often to take advantage of advantage of subjugate others or because they do not even work on themselves. He actually made a lot of good points on changing intention and putting in work and the hypocrisy of wanting the top 1 percent of women and being upset that there are so me women who also have unrealistic expectations (not all of us by the way). He barely touched on a lot of things, but it was a very interesting interview, and if you listen to his heart he seems to really wan to do right by those in his life.

Lovely comment😁

@@mattcomchoc2957all of husseys work is very gynocentric

I noticed this also.

lol indeed.

Accountability and responsibility of modern women? Crickets 🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗🦗

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I hear you. Doesn’t add much value for me either. I find it distracting really. I just listen

Yeah I think Chris is pulling his hair out as Matt H has nothing but cliches whereas Chris is used to world renowned evolutionary psychologists

@@bruswain9158 100% i feel like this guy is a bit of a fraud, Chris is way more of an expert

You're complaining about a professionally edited and produced podcast? 🤪

xD haha! See, what I found is that a lot of men usually get broken up with after a certain period of time (mostly around 4-6 years) anyway. It's always amazing how these guys will always think they could have done something better, fixed the problem, and kept her, and that they should become better men for the future wifies. All of these men behave in various manners, are absolutely different from each other, yet they still get broken up with and think it's their fault. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ This society...

Unfortunately he makes a lot of positive assumptions about women like maturity, sanity and self reflection that might not be applicable to the general female population today. When 30%+ of women are on antidepressants you're only going to get so many sane well balanced women in the dating pool at once. Just like men the good ones and the ones in reasonable BMI range are going to be mostly already spoken for. Of the sane well balanced I can tell you right now most women don't know what they want. They are chasing a feeling that is fleeting for a lifetime of happiness goal. Most people can't honestly assess themselves. Average people should be happy with other average people. The problem today is no one knows they are average bc no one is honest with them.

Amen. I think it's a big part of why he's been so successful

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I noticed that, too

I heard someone say once that: Men fetishize women's bodies, and women fetishize men's emotions It's very true. They love a man's emotions when it flatters THEM

“You are not the steak. What you do for her is the steak. Who you are is the garnish” -Paul Proteus

Exactly, I'd rather be lonely on my own than to be lonely in a relationship.

That’s my experience as well. I kind of laugh when women say they want vulnerable men or more emotional men. They want men that are more in tune with their emotions and how to react correctly to them .. there have been a handful of times when I let my “weaker” side show to a woman that was attracted to Me - I remember it not being met with the best result. They either reacted very coldly and indifferent or they seemed to actually lose attraction for me. This was a red pill moment to say the least

never trust what women say. only her actions. men need to understand women's nature. they don't want to see you cry at all. it's a pussy behavior and childish. if you need to cry or be vulnerable go do it by yourself or pay someone to listen to your bs. She will tell everyone about your problem whether you put a ring on her or not.

I want that too!!!So you think it's on my way :-).With being brave I di not have problem , and for sure I don't now :D

What do you do and what's your income? Theres a big big difference between a shallow materialistic gold digger and a good women who wants a succesful compitent man...

what do you do?

I feel you brother, it's a similar situation for me. I got injured in the workplace almost two years ago and I had to undergo extensive physical therapy and surgical procedures...long story short I've been unemployed for about two years 😂 imagine how women respond to that. Here is the thing though, I'm on workers comp and actually do better than most people with jobs because when I got injured I was making close to 6 figures, nobody cares though. As soon as they hear unemployed they flee

​@@Captain_Insano_nomercy are you planning on going back to work? Could always frame it as temporarily on medical leave from my job until I'm able to get back to work.

@@Ryan-wx1bi I'm applying for jobs currently and have been the past two months, economy is just trash ya know? But I've received offers from prestigious companies (I was an aerospace engineer) not to brag, I'm just pointing out how women these days don't even give a damn about potential lol, they're like "call me once you actually get your life back together"

he carefully protects wymn's ego.. that's why wymn think he understands them 😂 and take help from him to find rich partners by paying.. nice business

@@Deb_deCoder nothing is more fragile than men’s ego. But ego has nothing to with his business. He talks with so much emotional depth, which is why women listen to him. And no he doesn’t help women to get high value men. He educates women on what kind of relationships they should be in. One of his biggest advice is to never invest in any relationship where the other person doesn’t invest as much. He teaches women that the biggest resource available is time and not to waste time on bad relationships. So naturally for those women, they will be more happy with being single rather than being in a relationship. It is not only about finding a husband. In so many cases, once women cut out the dead weight, they are more happier. That is why he is popular with women. He covers different aspects of relationships.

⁠@@manifest2203women happier single? I don’t think I’ve met these women. Don’t mean to offend but women need family and they can’t have it without a husband that can provide it (ie kids). More true the older they get.

@@whitebroccoli694 can I disagree with you? I am chronically single woman lol. every time I am in a relationship, I get bored within a relationship right around 2--3 months in. Literally, my brain goes into work mode "If i were single, i would be doing (list of things)" then an incredible desire to be free (almost one foot in and one out) but more about relationships being a burden plus constantly being asked "where are you?" "where haveyou been" and etc. If I read the symptoms of men why they are afraid of commitment, 9 out of 10 fit me like a glove which I cannot say about the symptoms why a woman is afraid of commitment.

@@whitebroccoli694 how are women more unhappy when they are single? The only women who are crying online are older women (I would say 35-45) who have never had children but wanted to. Childfree by choice women are happy. Most women do have one or two children. These women would have been married, or had a long term bf or been single for a long time. Some women then continue in the marriage if they find their marriage reasonably ok. If the 50% divorce rate statistic is to be believed, half of these women would have been married and divorced by then. Among these women, most women dont want to get into relationships. These are the women who truly understand men and what marriage is. And they want no more part of it. According to one PEW research, 62% of all women are single and not "looking for a relationship". What use is it for them to have a man in their life? If they have no man, they will have no one to nag them endlessly for s3x, his food, his laundry, to tidy up the space he dirties and so much more. Men are dependents and as they become older they become even more dependent. Most older men require more caregiving because he will have more health issues, wont take his tablets on time, wont even schedule his doctors appointments or checkups and so much more. Being a nurse maid for an older man is more work for the woman and finally it ends only with end of life care. Why would any older woman take a new man in his decline when he wasnt the one who was with her in her younger years? Men outmber women in homelessness stats, old people homes and even in young men still living with their mother. If a man was decent, he will be cared for by his wife. More older women are taken care of by their children and grandchildren. Older women arent crying for men at all. They are happier single. They move on to their children and give caregiving to their grandchildren. Men on average are more likley to d*ie "deaths of despair" than women. And there are so many childfree by choice women and that number of women is only increasing. Most advanced nations in Europe have a high number of child free by choice women. Education and healthcare is free there. Standard of living is higher and raising children should be easier but even then the birth rates have been low for decades. Even in the East (China, Japan, Korea) it is low. In these countries (and also US) birth rates are below population replacement levels. Modern men are literally so boring. All they are interested in is some addiction or the other. They dont do any self care, arent interested in education as much, dont have any readership, dont fight for any causes, dont do anything for animals or do nothing. All they do is whine about women or j*erk off to p*orn whilst whining about women, or play video games or whatever. Good thing AI is here. Let them vegetate more.

A fair point. I think it's important to have a variety of perspectives on these topics. Matthew is on the front lines with women who are dating so figured he'd be a great insight here

​@@ChrisWillx Matthew may have been "on the front lines with women" half a decade ago, but like many other dating gurus, they take a step backwards, after investing in the foundations of the business, excluding necessary public appearances (e.g., good with product creation and content, interviews, podcasts etc.). It is evident from this interview; he is a quite out of touch with modern dating but does have a particular dating philosophy and approach that caters to women, that led him to massive business success. His millions of women audiences, literally view him as the perfect man (hypergamy on steroids), and an example for what these women should look for in a man.

​@@Game5WBYeah, I can't help but think a lot of women go to his conferences because they fancy him. He's very good at communicating to women, but he uses a lot of superficial methods like NLP, and I've always got the impression he was offering women the 'cheat codes' to life, in the same way that PUAs did for men.

As a woman, Matthew is on point. We are exhausted about those approaches with stats, very disconnected with feelings and sensations (and I have a rational/maths background AHAHHAHA), just feel, be connected from heart

Cap

You're so right! I suppose that's why mathew is happily married and at peace. That disney magic goes a long way!

A lot of this too, to be fair, is that a capitalist system only really admires wealth and material success. In cultures that value honor and courage above all else you would find another avenue to admiration, but honor can't be sold or bought so there's no value for it in our society. Women (and men) are only going to be as good as you make them be for the most part

@@baalzebub5000 Yeah women at that level have to be ok with being admired and not admiring

@@coomdoon But do men admire women at that level as romantic partners? I've gotten the impression from the Manosphere that they don't. If this is the case, then who should women be dating? Or maybe women need to adjust their idea of what makes a man admirable other than status and income.

The weight people put on certain achievements over others is part of the issue.

Men don’t like it either. A lot of men are intimidated and emasculated by a woman that’s more successful. I don’t remember the exact study but the cases of ED are much higher in relationships where the woman is the breadwinner

"If you share periodically the struggles that exist inside of you (that you're WORKING on), you're being open and honest about the difficult parts of yourself. " That's a turn off for women. "If you do that CONSTANTLY, you're displaying insecurity, weakness, and relying on the other person's constant validation of you in a broken state to maintain your sense of security. " Which is why men don't bother and do everything themselves.

@@silentvoicespodcast nah. I'm gonna disagree with you AND show my work to demonstrate why you're wrong. To be clear, we need to be referring to the same place in a relationship when we're talking about revealing vulnerabilities. If you dump out all your problems on a first date, you will almost CERTAINLY not get a second... Not debating that. But any woman who actually CARES about you at a point in the relationship where you are partners, does want to know periodically that the electricity is on in your brain and that you sometimes struggle with things, but you do have some sort of projected arc in how you want to get over them. Revealing your concerns, being strong enough to paint yourself in the light of your failures, fears, and insecurities - as long as you also don't let those things control you, is a sign of REAL confidence. And there is no woman who isn't attracted to confidence. But the nuance between being "vulnerable" and "dependent" is frequency and also whether or not you have self control over those issues. It's okay to be not perfect. No one is. It's okay to have things that make you feel less than good in yourself or in life. As long as you don't let those things shape your reality. And as long as you're doing the work on them to resolve it or at least make some kind of peace with them. So if you only associate with shallow women who expect you to present as anything other than "real", that's on you. My advice is you wouldn't want one of those to be your long term partner anyway because they don't actually give a shit about your feelings or struggles. So you don't really need to worry about whether or not something "turns them on". Maybe we're hunting for different kinds of outcomes.

@mhuntprofessional "if you only associate with shallow women". That's pretty much all modern women if you're not in a rural setting. I've seen men get dumped for sobbing after their mother died. Showing any form of vulnerability to a woman is stupid af.

@mhuntprofessional Another comment said it best: Women always want a shoulder to cry on, they never want to be the shoulder.

@citizensnips3850 I think it makes women uncomfortable because they see tears as something they own and can't share. Men should start dumping women when they do anything masculine like start fighting or move heavy objects

Basically yeah. Social Media is the cause of all of this mess and it ruined a generation of potential marriages.

@@jorgefigueroa2231 when social networking was first established it was fantastic. People made meaningful posts, real friends and some even got married. Couldn't wait to get back to my computer anytime I was away. Then Facebook and Twitter turned it into one click Narcissism plus KZfaq and Podcasting gave people a platform to never have a private conversation ever again. Everything is about pandering to an audience or becoming a virus.

Excellent point.

Well...look at the title. It's about dating so... duh. There are a million other people talking about marriage if that's your interest.

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English is not my mother tongue. What does his surname mean in this context?

@@JaZmine147A hussy is a brazen or promiscuous woman.

@@JaZmine147 a hussey is a word for a promiscuous or "loose" woman, aka a woman who sleeps around with a lot of men

@@JaZmine147 it's slang

Hussey wouldn’t have a product to sell if he told the truth

I honestly believe that Hussey believes in what he preaches. Some of it is on point (and sure sounds nice). This whole topic is very nuanced, but overall I agree with the original comment. There is a general distain/mistrust for anything resembling traditional masculinity. Add to that the catch22 of "if men shut up, they're toxic/emotionally immature" vs "if they speak up, they're incel cry-babies". You're basically only allowed to say, what aligns with the w.oke/left/fe.minist agenda. I also agree, it'll take generations to repair the damage. The programming is too strong. The institutions completely subverted. The only upside: it's easier to be attractive if your halfway masculine. But still you have to deal with a mostly brainwashed society unless you're willing to move...

Prior to feminism, was centuries building up men

Very true. ( Completly anecdotal ) Looking back from the mid 90's I've experienced severe change on judgment on men. In the early 2000s when I was about 14 I recall vividly a push in school of the message that we live in a patriarchy where men are inherent predators(not the words they used but the way they put it made it clear). Now, as a young boy I was completely dumbstruck at the time, how my values of decency & morals counts for nothing. Now, I never brought that up to my parents for whatever reason. I think we really have poisoned ourselves by not being vigilant as we seem to have some type of resentment from injustices barely anyone alive have experienced. Edit: and distorted our history heavily. Not saying men are victims but I am disappointed how little regard we have for young boys. If anything, they really would do better with a mentor figure & I can only hope that I can do better when I get the chance. I'm sure this is something every generation says, now that I think about it... x]

@@andrewmackenzie325 Thank you, I noticed that too. He's hyper alert of saying the wrong thing. Look at how many pauses he has at the beginning of the interview. His viewer demographics that provide $$ are the same group being scrutinized in this topic, so he tries to dodge all of those hard discussion points and I can't take that seriously. I see through it.

He is not being authentic, if he really he would talk about how "all that men that want to hookup" is the only 10% of men who actually woman go for because their looks got the genetic lottery

It's shocking to see people respond this way to a man who is so obviously a grifter who tells old, lonely, "boss babes" what they want to hear and gets paid handsomely to do so.

@@jonsnowight9510 All of these fairy-tale-truths channels have masses and masses of comments of dumb praise and admiration. Only those who want to believe this stuff will listen to it all.

Matthew "understands" women as in he never really calls them out as they're his main audience and that hurts his pocket or else he'd talk about "all the men who want to hookup" are just the 10% of men who can actually do it because they won the genetic lottery but no, that doesn't benefit him and he keeps sugarcoating the truth or else he'd also talk about why the "Passport Bros" movement is increasing but why he doesn't talk about it? Because he'd have to directly compare west women with their east counterparts who are more respectful to men and still have core values but no, he doesnt talk about it.

As much as I like Chris. The dude is a blue pilled Simp who believe treating women like queens is the way. No, the way is to be Chad or Tyrone. Chad or Tyrone, neither have to do anything as women will willingly impale themselves on his alpha rod of power. Its always men do this, men do that. Never about women having to take some responsibility in their lives. As a Millennial I saw half the girls in my class get impaled by the time they where 16 at various parties. Women I respected hooking up with 60 year old chads when they where 25 etc. My own 70y year old mother still calling herself a catch and thinking the world only revolves around her etc.

Agreed.. and I am a single 27 year old girl and I still think everyone makes it too complicated.. it's just about finding someone you have a connection and could start a family with

​@@user-lt1jd1ye3v the "start a family with" part is hard because so many men and women aren't prepared for commitment, marriage, or building a family. I'm also 27 and so few others my age know how to cook, clean, keep good hygiene, stay in shape, budget, or know how to raise and guide children in the right direction. Most of them are afraid of committing, eat out every day, have a messy home, and treat their children like pets and their pets like children. High school used to help people grown into functional adults, and so did their families. They literally prepared them for marriage and gave them advice on dating. We have none of that anymore, so we have many in their 20s acting childish.

Male here, I was almost married at 20. Didn't get married till 30. Had a ball in my 20s. Should have focused more in work advancement since I am a man. Family creation will be your goal, life changes you. Many women are too focused of careers when they just have an average job. I understand dual incomes are necessary. It is complicated. My goal now is to retire my wife. It's not easy with both parents working and not ideal for the kids

@@DoubleOhSilver there’s no way to actually know how to do these things until you have to. You find a partner you’re committed to and then you figure it out and do your best. Our parents generation didn’t know what the hell they were doing either for the most part either. My wife didn’t know how to cook until after we were married and then she just out of nowhere decided to start cooking and turns out she’s great at it. When you have family some things just become easier to do because you know what it’s for. Obviously it doesn’t work out for everyone but that goes without saying.

@@user-lt1jd1ye3v Nobody wants to have children with a blown-out wine aunt.

We're taught that love is supposed to be like a Disney movie or a Rom-Com and then we're sadly disappointed when it's not or it's worse.

His tone and cadence sound like he's reading a script.

As soon as he said he didn't understand why highly successful women still look for a man at least as successful as them, alarm sounds went off in my head. That's like relationship dynamics lesson 1.

Ding Ding Ding ... exactly

I’d have to add though, that applies to the man? As a female making an amazing living in AI, I’ve tried dating people with fewer resources and maybe it’s part of the masculine energy, or maybe I need to learn ways to appreciate things differently - but it’s not worked out and my question is: is it wrong to find dates on sugar daddy sites, NOT because I’m looking for someone to give me $, but because I’m looking for someone who is in a pool that doesn’t have to worry about that as much

@@elsavelazi think the men you've dated just presents the average of whats happening, that the average person is not for you and men with higher status/money level will still fall into average category because its not money that attracts, its the right attitude and competence and that is rare in and of itself regardless of financial status of a man

Wake up? You mean like flat earthers want globers to wake up?

My partner is 7 years older than me and I could really tell he wasn't looking for a bed buddy. It was made really obvious he was a guy ready to settle down and wanted to partner.

@@phoenixmystery508honestly, this sounds crazy to me. As a guy, I always thought trying to date someone more than three years younger than me would make me a total creep; at least to the girls.

Speaks the truth of the top men clearly if you were able to whore, you're not the majority of us unwanted invisible men.

@@Totaltwist i like your "name!" And I'm 10 yrs older than my wife of 15 years...22 together as a couple

@@valentingartner3793 met my wife when she was 26. I was 36. Been together 22 yrs now, 15 married.

The most important, true to yoiurself, though it's not easy.

I love your comment but at the same time. If we have to accept that we’re different, we also have to accept that things are the way they are because of those differences therefore this is the way things will always be.

Its not that they "cant figure it out" they are propagandised from birth that both genders are the same or at least SHOULD be the same, yet when the tires hit the road we aren't actually treated the same by each other or society at large. Funny that 😂

@@The_Growth_Experience Agreed, but we can all be nicer about it! 😂 it’s getting straight up hostile at this point! 😓

@@alanadawn1755 I would actually argue that we have more intragender variation than intergender variation, meaning that there are many men that I (as a man) have less in common with than many women. Yes, if you try to essentialize men and women into distinct paradigms, you will find generalizable differences, but there are many people of the opposite gender that, if you engage them in conversation, will be more palatable to you and your sensibilities than many of your same-gender counterparts.

Tell your sisters that. They aren't listening

You write really well. Please do more on men's issues.

Very well said

Honestly, men are often better off going to other men if they're experiencing something which makes them feel unsure, inadequate, or vulnerable. A good male friend who knows the strong side of you won't be disturbed by your feelings of anxiety of inadequacy. Chances are they've felt similarly at some point. Also, male friends don't look to you for protection or sexual attraction, so you're not risking a relationship by sharing. Also, guys are much better at clarifying a problem and then helping decide on a course of action to resolve whatever you're going through. Women can get satisfaction just from sharing, but most men don't work that way. Men want to know how "fix" whatever is going on, and coming up with a plan is the support they need after assessing the situation.

There are plenty of nice conservative women out there. We don't act nutbags because we live in reality. We know men aren't women, we know we're in a recession, we know affirmative action is thinly veiled racism, we know feminism is literally destroying the nuclear family, we know title 9 is bs and college kangaroo courts are unconstitutional and violate the rights of american citizens to due process of the law. We also know that marriage really is a partnership where two people work together to accomplish shared life goals. Oh, and to top it all off, we won't cheat, we won't muder your baby while it's still in our wombs, and we will respect you if you are a respectable man. My husband and i have been married for a very long time, and our conservative values are the very reason we are so happy. You see son, liberal women are delusional because they are constantly striving for a utopia that will never come. Since society amd the government won't give them the utopia they seek, theyll use you to find it, and when you cant give it, they move on to the next guy to find it. Find a nice conservative woman who lives in reality.

Well, I could say the same works both ways; I’ve been told that if I cried in a more feminine way, then I would get heard/accepted. I think both genders have a lot of expectations that kinda don’t work. It’s a human problem - making it a gendered thing doesn’t really help the individual.

36:15 prime example

Ryan Bailey, Bingo. More of the same bs. Smooth talking feminine leaning “dating” coach. Totally disconnected from the majority of the population.

He can't offend his clients. He works for women and has to advocate for them.

@@charlieweaver6322 If he was really advocating for them he would nudge them towards reality instead of fairy tale bs. His business model is either ignorant or disingenuous. Just my humble opinion lol

@@_JMann I don't disagree with you, although I just looked up the word 'advocate' and it means: a person who publicly supports or recommends a particular cause or policy. "he was an untiring advocate of economic reform" a person who puts a case on someone else's behalf. "care managers can become advocates for their clients" So, yeah I think he is advocating for them, but is not necessarily helping them in their long term goals. You're totally right though, in that women need good men to steer them in the right direction, and Hussey is not going to give them the cold hard facts. Then again, women don't like hearing this and you won't make any money by telling women the truth.

notice how he never said that either

Why why why why still whining over equality here? Nothing is equal. Nothing. Nor will it ever be. Women will always look for the best and only settle for the average if they feel they absolutely must. Understand hypergamy and understand that men need women more than women need men. Nothing is equal and neither our need for one another. Just look at the entire animal kigdom. Most animal species assign a select few males to breed and across many species such as bees only a select few females get to breed. Not everyone is meant to couple up and breed. Not everyone is built for paid bonding either. You are making all your assumptions based on this delusional idealized version of reality that everyone should get their equal match. There is no such thing.

Never underestimate the entitlement of a woman who's mid.

Is the average man worth being with? Just bc it’s average doesn’t mean good. If I was a teacher, and my class average on an exam was a 60, I failed as a teacher. If the average score was a C+, with a decent spread of scores then it seems to be a bit more normal. I probably didn’t fail as a teacher, but improvements could be made Men today want to be graded on a curve. Average this, average that. If the AVERAGE is still bad or low quality then women won’t settle for average just to have a man. You’ve greatly overestimated your value if you believe the opposite Think about what the average guy is like, and then ask why a woman would or should even want that

Evolution does Not makes leaps and bounds replicating the "average". Things don't change for the better if we only ever follow the average. Women seeking the above average is exavtly what drives humanity and the gene pool to improve. Don't be a sore loser and don't you worry about the single women who never even once meet an above average male to mate with. We all Do know odda are against us (the average women) but also trust us when we say "its better to be alone and single than settle for less.

Matthew "understands" women as in he never really calls them out as they're his main audience and that hurts his pocket or else he'd talk about "all the men who want to hookup" are just the 10% of men who can actually do it because they won the genetic lottery but no, that doesn't benefit him and he keeps sugarcoating the truth or else he'd also talk about why the "Passport Bros" movement is increasing but why he doesn't talk about it? Because he'd have to directly compare west women with their east counterparts who are more respectful to men and still have core values but no, he doesnt talk about it.

@@thelucariamonarchs4889 Then ask him to talk about it, nowhere in this conversation were "passport bros" brought up. I don't know you, but you seem resentful and eager to accept a narrative about genetic lotteries and subjugated women being the equivalent of "respectful". Maybe revaluate your opinions from the point of view of a person and not a statistic, and maybe start looking at others including women as people instead of genetics or how they benefit the narrative you're consuming. Even better, just get off the internet and have the self awareness to notice how you act and think when you live in the real world, where none of this matters, only how you treat people.

@@kirani111 people have told him to speak about it for years but obviously he won't as he'll lose his main audience (women) and therefore, income. Not the first guy who has said this half assed jsyk

@@kirani111 you are assuming a lot of things btw, no wonder you are sided with this half truth narrative

​@@thelucariamonarchs4889 Of course I'm assuming a lot of things, it's the first time I've heard both that guy speak and yourself, and each left their own impression. I'm not paying attention to what you both DIDN'T say, I'm paying attention to what you DID say. If you want to change my mind on my assumptions go ahead and make your case, I'll listen. If you want to point out a video where his biases are clearly showing I'd be happy to watch that too, because so far I only see someone with actual life experience and a good deal of empathy for both men and women.

I can't see any woman with self-esteem interested in being submissive. It's a recipe for disaster. If she doesn't need to be, she won't

And still, they refuse to lower their standards. They would literally rather be single and alone than date down. If that doesn't tell you something about the psyche of women then I don't know what will.

Never ask a chad for dating advice

Why did you write this here?

Prenuptial agreements may help aleviate your fears.

Thats all women, men still want an average looking girl while they want professional baseball players

macro is actually covering up for the micro, macro looks at blocks of time so it evens out all the jarring speedbumps and pot holes, its a matter of perspective.

@@eddie-ni5ox it depends on the application: do you want to derive a general rule and give good advice to others, be a commentator on social issues - or do you want to settle your own life? these are different, in fact. looking at statistics helps - you should not think you are extremely special. but are you actually average and doing average things, looking for the same exact things that the average person looks for? this applies to you less if you are not. i genuinely think i ≠ “the norm”, for example, and have reasons to think so.

Red Pill was debunked fast with that one.

Mathew is a super simp!!!

@@Tigman401 lol I'm with you.

His audience are naive single women.

Everything is so nuanced. A big brand like Hussey can't afford to lose clients due to a poorly worded sentiment.

Being attractive only gets you so far. Suppose you get the girl finally, what makes you think its easy keeping them around? I've lived with two women and thought I was getting married both times. Low and behold both of them had exit plans and were cheating on me. I hadn't a clue until it was already over. I won't even bother anymore, which is sad because I'm still in my prime. I just don't care to be used and or taken for granted yet another time. I'll save myself the misery.

Wait, you don’t think women have intense fears of not being found “attractive”..? Whereas girls may not approach men and have to suffer rejection - they definitely have intense feelings of not being attractive enough. They are more sensitive in this area than men are by a large degree . It’s tiring to keep hearing men complain about things being unfair only to men - trust me, women have their own set of problems but they are different from men . Trying to compare men’s struggles to women’s struggles is pointless

@@forcefedapocalypse so you are giving up on women completely because two women cheated on you? That is very faulty thinking .. getting ghosted or cheated is unfortunately a part of dating and relationships - they won’t work out every time. Giving up in your prime will only lead you to great unhappiness once you get older

@@brianmeen2158 this is where society is so far gone its almost doomed, this is why Christianity promotes union of 2 people and loyalty to that union until death, it creates pair bonding, commitment and stability for Children, it is so much smarter than anything this modern world is conjuring up. Humans are destroyed by betrayal and cheating and non commitment when the other has committed, this is why the guy is broken above.

​@@forcefedapocalypse I feel for you dude. My only LTR ended with me ghosted & broken. Apparently, I was just a side-dick boyfriend while her FIANCE was in school out of state. Pretty sure their first child is biologically mine too. I've been alone almost a decade since.

same

Maybe you should ask them for a date.