I didn't expect to be a single mom again at the age of 39 when I had to file for my divorce after 9 years of marriage. But, I unknowingly married a covert narcissist and I had to save myself in order to save my sanity and to properly and fully care for my 4 children. I am now 46, content and about to complete my PhD in Public Policy. God is good and on time, even when you think it's not the time to go through the fire. Be brave and let go, He will catch you. Trust, I gotta a testimony to prove so. God bless all the single black mothers. 💗

Monica Got that Short hair I love that. It takes me back to the "Don't take it Personal" Days

" If someone mistreating you, they don't deserve you" Say it loud Queen 🙌😩😔

I love the way Toya walks, and the way she talks, like when she said "Are you okay friend?" Toya is such a beautiful southern woman. Monica is also a very beautiful great woman. It's sad that she went through what she went through with Shannon. I know she wouldn't trade little Laiyah for anything in the world though.

I pray Monica find her king, going thru a Storm right now but it won't last forever!!!

Toya looks pretty as usual 😍

I agree with Monica about just leaving people alone. I walked away from different types of relationships.

She’s right tho, if they can’t do right by you then they don’t deserve you!

Beautiful , Black women displayed in a positive image. I'm a pray for Monica always loved her

Monica hair is beautiful I feel her

I love this type of reality tv. All these women have such a beautiful friendship & I absolutely love it!

Monica is beautiful his lost

why cant men do good by their women... so sad for her

If Somebody is mistreating you they don’t deserve you! I felt that 😔😢

Damn what a waste Monica im sorry you have to go thru that mess with Shannon.. Men i tell you they all sorry..

She Kept It REAL..

Love you Mo I pray your strength 💕💕💕💕

My heart breaks for her

“You have to be the example you want your children to be” SPEAK MONICA!!! ❤❤❤

Toya looks very beautiful in this scene. Love her hair

At the end of the day God got you. It takes time and you will heal. My ex husband divorced me and called me on the job and told me I was free to go. I was divorced for a year and i did not know it. Every dime i put in that marriage God gave it all back. Trust and know God got you.

I didn't know that she was having any problems in her marriage. Shame.

Monica! Stay strong! The good thing is that you have a relationship with God. When no one else understands you, he does. You will be fine. A lot of time when God removes something out of our lives he always replaces it with something better. But use this time to FOCUS on you. LOVE on you. I know you go hard for your kids, as you should. Know that if you DO NOT put that oxygen mask on yourself 1st you will be no good for anyone around you. You have to learn to make you your # 1 priority at all times. A lot of people look up to you and count on you. More so your close inner circle. It’s ok to cry. Let it out your system. Don’t always feel like you have to be SUPERWOMAN all the time. Take time out for Mo. Rather it’s a spa day by yourself. Having lunch by yourself. Reading a good book and drinking tea by yourself. You need that “ME” time or else you will BREAK. Everyone needs that “ME” time. You are a beautiful soul/spirit. What don’t kill you will only make you stronger. I don’t know the details of what went wrong in your relationship. I will say. Let Hod deal with him with no effort on your part. Forgive yourself and him and let go and let God. God knows what you need and what you don’t need. I look forward to great music. Let your experiences be a testimony to other women and young girls out here that may have or are going through what your going through. I must say. As one of your BIGGEST SUPPORTERS. I noticed way back how you lost that SPARKLE IN YOUR EYES. That HAPPINESS. I knew right then that something was right. As a child of God you gone be just fine. Cry as much as you feel the need to. Talk about it as much as you feel the need to. If necessary talk to a therapist. Sometimes talking to someone outside of our family members is needed. Stay PRAYED UP 🙏🏾! Stay BLESSED! Stay FOCUSED! God got chu and yo family so you gone always be good. Love from the Bay Area! ❤️

Sometimes you just need someone to ask are you okay.

They are both so very pretty.

This is sad. You can tell she's going through a lot internally.

Awwwww I really hope Monica can get through this I love her ❤️ prayers for love and peace and comfort through this difficult time for her and her babies

He probably was alseep until he heard the hammer hit the door ..🤨

Monica 🙏🙏🙏 are with u ... Something Isn't acceptable n a Cheating Man is 1 U are a Strong n Mature Talented Woman Stay Focus Stay Strong 🙏

"I thought he was sleep" Monica is crazy. Love 💖her

I love this show so MUCH!!!🤯

Sucks to say he’s been cheating for awhile now, a blog has been spilling tea on their marriage since last year. She deserves better!

Toya- Are you okay Friend??? That's a real friend That makes me want to cry, the pain is real,

I thought her & Shannon had just grown apart but, he really cheated on her? Smh

Monica I feel everything you are FEELING! Trust!!!! When your dreams are shattered it hurts. Prayers for you!

Monica im praying for you & your 3 children🙏🏽 Remain Strong & Positive, God is on your side beautiful💕 Words of encouragement

This almost brought me to tears. I think a year ago I would have broke down. I just encourage All women to just look to God! for your happiness and piece! I thought I was going to just sit and cry and drank and cry. But God!!! said get up and I will make you happy and bring you peace!! And I will when I see fit work on building a man for you! after I have worked on You! Your so beautiful Monica I promise you happiness will come just focus on music and your kids. God got this fight.

Monica is not aging she looks the same 😍

MONICA AS They say ypur break up is ypur blessing..God got YOU..its nothing wrong with being a Single Mother of 3..

What a friend !!!!! I love toya ❤️

Monica is beautiful!!!!!!

Monica do not deserve that! I hope she find a good man

Proud of Monica for standing up for herself. BECAUSE most women stay..

Let's keep Monica in prayer.. I think she married him to Fast. They got married in less than 6mths of knowing each other. I don't wish that type of hurt on nobody.

I will be praying for Monica and her kids. She is a beautiful person.

MONICA YOU ARE SUCH A WONDERFUL PERSON GREAT MOTHER AND S GOLDEN VOICE YOU ARE BLESSED AND APPARENTLY THIS CLOWN DONT KNOW WHAT HE HAD AND I PROMISE YOU THE NEXT MAN THATS FIND YOU WILL APPRECIATE WHO YOU ARE AND YOUR WORTH AS A REAL WOMEN THIS WILL PASS TOO

Damn Monica kicked down a door with a hammer??! Reminds me of when I kicked a door in as well 😂😂😂😞

Sorry that you and your children are going through this. Praying for your strength in this time.

Sending no advice, just good energy Monica's way ❤🌹👸🏽

Monica is soooo beautiful

Girl go on with your life he not worth your tears been there done that. Make sure you get what's yours in the end. God Bless

You know what whenever they go through a break up it's a good album behind it. So turn these lemons and limes into limenade. 🙏 don't be sour keep standing!

Toya has always been one of my Fav's!!!!! She's a really good friend. I love Monica and you can notice a big difference from the beginning of the season to Now. She's hurting and she isn't ok. She really needs the help and I hope she knows everything will be ok. God got her if don't nobody else got her!!!

Monica, younger response of clocking out is what is needed now.

Dang. They hooked me. Now I need to watch the whole season.

Ok! Once again I feel the need to kinda add to what I’ve already stated in a few of my comments. This is for Mo. For some reason, I feel as though God is speaking to me through you. I will say and this is for other ladies out there. I am speaking from experience. Don’t feel like when you meet a man that you have to immediately get married. I’ve been with my significant other for 10+ yrs. We live together. Yes, we’ve discussed marriage. When you and that other person are committed to one another and you decide where you want to go next in your relationship. From experience, I would say live together first because that’s when you really get to see first hand what your dealing with. You get to see the REAL person. You see them when they go to bed. You see them when they wake up. You get to see if this person is lazy. Are they ambitious. What do they do daily? I feel like that will determine rather yah should take yah’s relationship to that next level - marriage. A lot of people rush into marriage because they want that big ring or just want to say that their married without even getting to know that other person. Some people do it for security. If you gone take that route do it for LOVE above anything else. Make sure you and that other person are on the same page. For someone that’s been in a monogamous relationship for quite some time. I can honestly say that COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION is the 🔑. It avoids a lot of unnecessary arguments. Yes, you will have disagreements. Your human. Nothing is perfect. A lot of people think SEX is # 1. It’s definitely at the top of the list. To all my GROWN WOMEN and YOUNG LADIES out there. Take your time. Get yo know YOU. LOVE U 1st UNCONDITIONALLY. Don’t go lookin for or chasin no MAN. When the time is right God will send the right person into your life. In the meantime LIVE LIFE, FIND YOUR PURPOSE, BE OF SERVICE TO OTHERS, HAVE FUN. Love from the Bay Area! ❤️

Monica has always held her own. I have the upmost respect for her. Keep ya head up boo.

Yeah...I understand Monica!! And you are NOT a failure!! 😰😭😰😭😰😭 I'm gonna have to watch this show now to see how my Monica is doing...

You thought he was sleep ...you didn’t think he was gonna be awakened by the knocking

My Heart goes out to you Monica we all go threw things in life my best wishes to u love 🖤

So the camera man opened the door and closed it behind him. Just to let monica open it lol

I can't wait to see Commitment! Love Toya and Monica!

1:00 Toya (Lousiana accent) : uh ohhh we getting that kiiick down ya doe and slap ya chick MO! 😂🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

No one else knows now everyone knows

Monica looks gorgeous

I hate relationships never work out for a long period of time for Auntie Mo she’s so kind , motherly, and beautiful..... hopefully her next relationship is her best relationship.... and even if she’s done ✅dating I wish her the best life 🙏🏿💓🤘🏿

This is what happens when you're a strong woman and you marry and young athlete only few months after meeting him😕

I know this isn’t about toya but she is beautiful also praying for Monica. As a woman we all know the pain of a heartbreak. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.

I can't wait till her new album drops! Much love from Houston Texas and keep ya head up Mo!💞

I feel Monica on so many levels.

Love toya

Monica, u are a inspiration and strong and smart woman. U deserve more and hate to see u hurt. U got this!

A single Monica, is a good Monica regardless. Toya just so lack luster to me idk.

Listen to some of ur songs Monica. That got us through...me.,bad guys.,cheating guys.guy you luv that don't luv you,,...yes I've had em all...Your music helped me..cause remember somebody our there may have nobody..and you uplifted a lot of people..so we uplift you. 😃 Just one of dem dayzzzz...that a girl goes thru......

I’m 42! Year old single mom of one. I am happy I choose me. Men say I’m selfish. But I actually have time for me only. I don’t care for partnership right now!!!!

Who knows Mo? This may be a time for you to get closer to God. Talking with him more. A lot of times we feel the need to tell others our problems instead of taking it to God in PRAYER. I am a PRAYER WARRIOR. I pray every second that I get. I talk to God as I would a close friend as if he’s sitting right next to me. I spark in a conversation. Although he knows what we’re going through. It’s just always good to take time out and spend quiet time with him because when you do that when you can really hear and listen to what it is that he’s trying to tell you. When you’re busy and DISTRACTED you can’t hear the voice of God. Pick up that BIBLE. My great-aunt (May her soul rest in heaven) told me that, that is one of the best books you could ever read. So, I encourage it. Get in touch with your SPIRITUAL SIDE. Do t only call on God when you going through something or he’s blessed you with something. Stay in contact with him on a regular. Love from the Bay Area! ❤️

Monica going through a divorce🤷🏾‍♂️

Now I understand the meaning of the song Commitment coz I was confused when I saw the video.... thought she was happily married

Everyone always feel that its the mans fault all tha time..women have a share in it as well

I love Monica so much She makes me smile every time I see her

Sisters Forever

Blac qieens look so pretty💆🏾

She doesn’t look 38 at all ❤️

I love like it 🔥🎤😁

She did not want to talk about her marriage they made her do it.

AWWW, that's sad! SOME people (DON'T) 'REALIZE' what THEY HAVE (TIL IT'S GONE)! 💯 🚶🏽‍♀️👧👨👦🚪🛋️📺

He gave her a BEAUTIFUL daughter who is just a wonderful light to the world. Her smile just radiates on screen. I hope Monica really seeks some good therapy and pick a better man next time. I think she be rushing it with these men and they just tell her what she wants to hear until they can no longer keeps up the lies anymore. Monica want a traditional working husband & wife relationship but these men seem to not be able to stay out the streets! Its really sad that Shannon came into their life and became a step-father only to step right back out. It really is hurtful to Monica and her children 😥

And people think women like or sign up to be a “baby momma” ugh

Smh. There are three sides to every story: both parties side then the truth. Men and women need to be honest because the truth will always come to light. Like if you dont want to be in a committed relationship then just say it upfront or if you not feeling that person anymore just say it to them so they can move on. Dont just cheat on them like they ain't nothing if u really care about them. The truth will set you free cuz karma is a wattttt!

Absolutely right I love MO😘😘😘

Monica we luv u girl.ur music is bomb..it has gotten all us women through some rough ordeals with these ninjas we deal with...Keep ur head up.u so much better...'like u told us....u only get one love in a lifetime..so there's still time...For any and all us beautiful black Queens....I do believe there's good men out there...And the hammer ordeal..girl I feel you there....hurt will get the best of us at times. But u know God..hold on...We luv u..and ur music sis* 😃

Life comes at you fast sometimes but it always gets better.

I know I have left several longwinded comments. For some reason I can’t seem to shake Mo off my mind. Like I said b4 always been a supporter from day 1. I hate to see her hurt because she’s such a LOVING SPIRIT. But I also understand that she’s HUMAN. My prayer for Monica is that God will give her the strength that she needs to get through her divorce. In the name of Jesus give Monica Denise Arnold peace in her mind, heart, and spirit. Order her steps. Help her to make the right choices/decisions in her personal life as well as her career. Have mercy on her Jesus. Touch her from the drown if her head to the soul of her feet. Monica I know without a doubt that God has you covered. Everything happens for a reason. God works in mysterious ways. He does not make mistakes. All good things to come to an end at some point. It goes back to seasons, reasons, and a lifetime. This is a chance for you to really be Monica and do what God put you here to do. He’s blessed you tremendously with a beautiful voice, 3 beautiful healthy children. You are FAVORED BY GOD. Trust the process. Trust your journey. Love from the Bay Area! ❤️

Monica’s brand new single ‘Friends’ ft Ty Dolla sign out NOW‼️‼️‼️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

I feel you gottta to be strong 💪🏽 Monica I feel what you saying ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👸🏾👸🏾👸🏾👸🏾👸🏾👸🏾🏋🏽‍♂️🏋🏽‍♂️🏋🏽‍♂️🏋🏽‍♂️🏋🏽‍♂️🏋🏽‍♂️ alll I need love ❤️ in your heart

Whyyyy would Shannon do Monica like that....Knowing the type of woman she is!!!!! Wtf..

Ever since Monica came out she's wanted to be 38. She never embraced her youth. So, now she's here and can't handle it. ON TOP of marrying a kid? Whew. Good luck with that.

Thank you

Monica is, has, and always will be beautiful. This woman hasn’t aged at all. She’s had 3 beautiful healthy children. Monica you are BLESSED & HIGHLY FAVORED BY GOD. Honestly you don’t need no man especially if they don’t know what to do when they’re in the presence of a QUEEN. Like, I always felt like and this is from the outside looking in that Monica should be in some of these L’Oréal commercials. Ain’t nothing FAKE ON or ABOUT Monica. That’s why I say God got something bigger in store for you. He’s going to take your career to new heights. Let GO of the past. It’s time to turn the page of that old chapter and ready yourself for this new chapter. Make sure you, Monica make time for yourself so that you are prepared for any opportunities that come your way. No time to be stressed out. Your 2 Blessed 2 be stressed. Love from the Bay Area! ❤️

LOVE YOU MO!!!!!!!!