*This comment is extremely long, but please read all of it. People NEED to be educated.* This was another song, let alone an artist I discovered on TikTok, and let me say GIRLLLLLLLLLL, This song has power!!!!! I do, however, wanna put my input in on this whole "Not All Men" bullshit. I've been raped, sexually assaulted, sexually harassed, and physically assaulted. I've been catcalled since the age of 10 because to men, "I don't look, dress, or act my age." I'm tired of people saying that being catcalled isn't a form of sexual assault.....um, sorry to burst your bubble, but yes, it is. It's also verbal harassment. Especially when you ignore their comments, and they start throwing out slurs like "Whore" "Slut" "Bitch" "Skank," tell me that's not verbal harassment cause it is. I've been threatened to get pregnant and threatened to be raped by dudes I don't even fucking know. I've been followed to my car and even to my house at night and in broad daylight. I have guys sending me dick pics on Snapchat all the fucking time talking bout some "you like" or "come suck it" I- I AIN'T ASK FOR THAT SHIT. That's fucking disgusting. I openly carry a taser, pepper spray, a knife, an alarm, a window breaker, a Kubaton, brass knuckles, and a whistle. Sadly, I can't take 6 out of the 8 items into sports events, concerts, or movie theaters because they are a weapon. To my Men: We know that it's "Not All Men' WE FUCKING KNOW THIS. But how is a female supposed to know which men will hurt her and which men aren't? Especially when we are out at night, walking to our cars, being outside in general. How are we supposed to know? We don't know, so therefore IT IS all men. * Also, stop continuing to ask for nudes, sex, or any type of interaction once they say no. NO MEANS FUCKING NO. STOP CONTINUING TO ASK. They can also change their minds, especially once they have given consent to having sex or any form of interaction. "I don't want to anymore" "I don't feel like it." "Maybe" "No" "I don't know" "No Thank You" "I don't feel comfortable." All of these, are NOT a "Yes." If yes never came out of their mouth, then IT IS a NO. *(This applies to both Men and Women.)* To People who blame Rape Victims: FUCKING STOP IT. It's NEVER the rape victim's fault. Stop asking them, "well, what were you wearing?" "Why didn't you scream or fight back?" WHY DOES IT MATTER WHAT THEY WERE WEARING?!?!? No form of clothing is an open invitation to have sex. Young-ass children are being raped in their pajamas and you ask that shit? Do you fail to realize that many victims can't fight back due to them being drugged? Date rape exists, remember that. Many won't remember what happened to them because of their drinks being drugged. With trying to fight back, 99% of the time the person doing the rape, is 3 times the size of the person they are raping, and most victims do try and scream, but does anyone come to help save them? No, no one comes. Those who have tried to scream, have either had a hand placed over their mouth, something put into their mouth, or have been told "If you scream, I kill you." Another point, stop telling them when they come out about their rape experience "It didn't happen." "You just want attention." When they wanna take the case to court stop telling them "You're gonna ruin their/his/her life." OKAY AND?!?! Does it look like they give a flying fuck? They ruined my life, so, therefore, payback is a bitch. *(This applies to both Men and Women.)* To my Women & Men with young/teenage Daughters: *Please teach and educate them and if you ever find out that they abused, assaulted, or even raped a woman or man. That is no longer your daughter.* Stop telling them to go change their outfits when "Uncle Randy" is coming over. If you have to tell them this, then maybe Uncle Randy shouldn't be coming over anymore. Your child is in the safety of their own home, and most teenagers stay in their rooms when people come over. Trust me, I know this, I'm one of those teenagers who don't like leaving their room when there is company over. But, if you have to tell them to change when you know that they are going to stay in their rooms and your excuse is "I'm trying to protect you." That's a fucking issue, and you need to take Uncle Randy to court. You know something that you need to speak out about. To my Women & Men with young/teenage Sons: *Please teach and educate them and if you ever find out that they abused, assaulted, or even raped a woman or man. That is no longer your son.* Teach your sons how to respect women, especially because they came from one. To my Women & Men with young children: Please teach them the CORRECT terms of their body. It helps children develop a healthy, more positive body image, instead of using nicknames that their genitals are something shameful or bad. It also gives them the correct language for understanding their bodies and asking questions about sexual development. - Penis - Vagina - Clitoris - Vulva - Scrotum - Anus These are not bad words, THESE ARE YOUR CHILDREN'S BODY PARTS FOR FUCK SAKE. Stop giving your daughters especially, the nickname "Cookie" in terms of their vagina. Cause what happens when they come to tell you that someone touched their cookie? What does your mind go to? Actually cookies or their vagina? Schools don't teach Sex Education well at all. Schools teach students more about STDs, STI's, HIV, other sexually transmitted diseases, and the MALE reproductive system than the women's reproductive system. I had to self-educate myself on my own body, and I'm a female. That's also why MANY men know very little about how the female body works, and then try to tell us how it works. SHUT THE FUCK UP

Not all men, but it's enough of them. If you have a problem with women protecting themselves, you are the problem.

I hate the way 99% of girls understand immediately

Not all men but almost every female has experienced assault once in her life.

When it said "If you tell the truth they say 'his life is ruined' " hit on so many levels

Not all men, but it's enough for us to be afraid.

When people argue with" Not all men ", they're also implying that Russian Roulette is a completely safe game. Yes, there might be a bullet in the chambers, *but not in all the chambers.*

I feel like if ur offended by this song, then there’s a good chance ur participating in the problem.

"Felt like you were beaten but they left no bruises"

If I am surrounded by a swarm of bees, I know not all of them are going to sting me. I’m still not going to trust them nonetheless because some of them might.

Thank you for sharing my song. Love this!!

This song gave me the motivation to set up a date with my Aunt to let her know about her husband. I'm terrified..

Being a girl I'm either proud I was born as a female, then there are times I wish I was man, I wish I didn't have to normalize being harassed growing up, I wish I had their privilege. I wish I didn't have to paranoid when it comes to males. What pisses me of the most is when the girl gets blamed for what happens to them, especially rape. You know what causes rape? Rapist, not their clothes. How is it so hard for men to understand "Yes," and "No," the most basic two words you learn as a dang child. I'm young, a teenager acutaly and let me tell you, I wish people in my life informed me what to do when being sexual assaulted and touched by my male classmate. When it happened, I didn't know what to do, so I just kept my mouth shut, cause I was uncomfortable and never been in that situation, after that event there was another with him I wish to not talk about. After it happened I realized that it's happened before, in the 7th grade, by a different male class mate when he kept playing with my bra strap and my shoulder, I was so young back then and didn't understand. I thought it was NORMAL. I wish my school and adults taught me better, and what to do in this situation, cause even right now as I'm writing this, if it were to happen again, I still wouldn't know what to do

That reminds me some people say "what about the ones who lie?" When the topic of rape victims not being heard by society comes up. What kind of argument is that even? Because one of them could be lying, you want us to ignore all the people whose lives have being destroyed by rape?!

I will say this because it's something that wa taught to me and I will always thank the person who wrote those words. When someone says "I'm wary of men because I had bad experiences with them", it ain't the time to say "it's not all men", but it's the time to listen.

It's not all men, but it's enough to be terrified to walk out of the house at night......it's enough to be scared to trust people around you in a crowded area......it's enough to feel like prey every day because of your choice of clothing.... it's enough to question your body and feel insecure because "It might be a turnoff".....It's enough to compare yourself to other women because his exes were "skinnier" "Fitter" "smarter" etc. It's enough to feel like you're not ENOUGH....

Spitting Facts✨ “If you’re offended then you are a part of the problem.”

As someone who has been molested, sexually assaulted, and Even raped this hit home. When I heard this song I bawled my eyes out remembering the men that did those things to me. I still hold my breath when I go out I hardly leave my house without my kids and husband. Even though it was a long time ago. I'm a surviver and I hope that it never happens to anyone else because you do lose yourself it's a scary time, but it does get better on the other side. This song is great keep up the good work.

The fact that a song like this has to be created and so popular breaks my heart. Because every single one of us has had one of these instances happen.

I'm fourteen and was sexually assaulted at 6 it was a failed rape, then at 8, and a few more times through 10-12, it never got to rape and I severely apologize to those who had to go through worse. Three of my friends have had to go through the same thing, no matter what they did, nobody deserves to be violated.

Its not all men, but its enough to make a woman question her choice of clothing. Is this skirt too short? Does this shirt show too much? Can I walk around with my stomach exposed in the 90 degree heat, or should I put on longer shorts and a t-shirt. Can someone come and pick me up because my shift ends later at night than I like so I need to have reassurance that I won't be assaulted. Can I live on my own, because I'm scared a random stranger will see me in my window and decide its fine to come back later and force his way in? Do I like the way that new supervisor touched my shoulder; should I say anything every time I feel his eyes on me? This song nails what women have to face every day. Thank you so much for posting this. It's not all men, but it is all women who have to think about their actions and what the consequences might be.

This song is so underrated

One of my close friends sent this on a group as a song recommendation (most of the group's members are survivors of sexual assault including me) and I couldn't be more thankful. The lyrics truly speak to me.

As a person who was raped twice as a child, this song brings me so much joy. Even my own parents don’t understand not all men, and it hurts me. Not all men but enough men. I needed this today, thank you so much.

As a woman that was molested by my stepdad, overly sexualized and sexually assaulted by males in my family this song broke me!!! This is so perfect to explain what we women go through. “Not all men” but it’s one too many. It’s ALL men till more men hold other men accountable instead of saying “ I’m a good guy”

When you spit nothing but facts and leave people speechless. I'm barely 16 and I've come close, so close. It started with the whistling, then the cat calling at 12, I was followed at 13 and always took the long way home. Avoided big gangs of boys in the evenings and even wore things I didnt want to so nothing bad would happen on my night walk.

Not all men but I still have those 14’s faces burned into my memory. It wasn’t my fault…. I was 11 and sexually assaulted over the course of three years by 14 different men. This song made me cry my eyes out and feel finally heard.

As a man who has been raped before, I try to live my life without worries cuz I feel like fear shows vulnerability and it shows weakness. I also don't know how to say no(I do know how) I just can't say no, so I get taken advantage of alot of the time

“Have you ever felt like you were beaten but they left no bruises?” Emotional scars last forever, they never disappear but you learn to live through it

I was raped from 4-10. And that's just what I remember. I'm terrified of men- if my own father could hurt me in such a way then how am I expected to be able to trust men? I'm only fourteen, but I know this is something I'll never truly get over. And I know I hurt my peers around me when I flinch away but I can't help it. There's no getting back that blind trust.

13 men... I'm only 17. Love this song

It's the fact we all come together as women in the comments here... There's no disagreement between us just us agreeing on the fact we all have experienced this ...Stay strong and safe my fellow Queens 💜💜👑💜💜

The fact that I’ve been talking about this and having to actually argue with guys on the topic...is just...I can’t even describe it. I’m so happy this popped up on my For You. If you have a problem with women protecting themselves then go look in a mirror cause you’re part of the problem.

"We say *no* but they still hear *yes* Blame our clothes and it's *not all men*

I was 9 and he was 15. "That didn't happen." "He's a good kid." "What were you wearing?" These are questions and comments nobody should have to hear, and the people who say these things are part of the problem.

This is such a powerful song. We know it's not all men, but until someone can tell us who it might be, we'll continue to be wary of them all.

Most underrated song I know.

Did you guys know due to Covid lock downs, child molestation, sexual abuse and domestic violence have been on the rise?! This is sickening . And to hear this song. Thinking about all the people out there going through this just breaks my heart and crushes it into powder. Because so many young and old are helpless and I can’t do anything to save them 😩😩💔💔😭😭. This song just reminds me of how easily men can get away with such evil things

I really hope the persons who disliked were just in a really bad mood...

this song is ruining my day because the memories im working so hard to repres all coming on me again. im crying all the time since i heard it for the first time. i can get over the fact that all of us experienced it to some degree

The fact that girls have to learn about this before they even know what a relationship means is sickening.

this is why my sister never takes her kids out anywhere when it's just me and her, Sam (her husband) either stays home with the kids or I do. She says, "it just takes a second for something to happen and their gone." her and I both are survivors of this, and it really hits home so I can't blame her for keeping her kids inside, the world is so dangerous, and her kids are to innocent for the world.

That's so weird. Ive been listening to this song for over a year now and I always thought it was "blame our clothes and it's not all men but it's only men"Which I never questioned makes perfect sense. , never realised it was " but it's all woman". That's kinda motorvating and sad at the same time. That hit home hard too.

Thank you, I’ve struggled for so long and this song is what I use to empower myself now. I was 6.

See I feel that I'm lucky and unlucky in the sense that being a guy I know exactly what women go through and it's terrible, but I also know that I have gone through the same thing and it's just as bad.

As a 14 year old who was raped by her step brother this song make me so sad that so many female's have to go through this and men too

I've been looking into a lot of stuff like this lately. I grew up in a very safe community, so i never realized how bad it really was, or that women have to be scared to just go out at night. I read the whole comment, and you couldn't have said it better. Thank you so much for doing what you do. I'm wishing you and all the other women out there safety and justice because there will never be an end to this unless it's addressed properly. Thank you again.

through the ages 10-14 i was sexually assaulted by two of my cousins. growing up i thought it was my fault. i even experienced harassment. it’s gotten to the point were i turn away whenever i see a guy alone. they were supposed to be my family, i trusted them. i loved them. i’m still trying to heal. i told my mom abt one and he denied everything. how is it far that i’m still left with the pain and he gets to pretend like it didn’t happen? like it didn’t ruin me?

I love this so much. I hope one day everyone will understand this song's message

It made me cry, memories..

I really love this song. The melody, the lyrics it's so well mixed, it reaches my feelings

I'm a trans guy who was sexually abused all through my childhood, and even though this song causes me dysphoria it also gives me comfort.

Bringing our inner thoughts out and freeing them love this

As a 12 year old my parents never really taught me about the real world and I had to educate myself about it which pisses me because parents are supposed to teach about the real world and not lie to you and when you get assaulted you wouldn’t even know because you were never taught about such things I got harassed by my own father I never got the guts to tell my mom because she will just dismiss me and will not believe whatever I say it’s a tough reality to live in but we have no choice but to live in it

Never went through something tragic (I thank God for that everyday), but I understand. I understood early thanks to the guidence of my mother. Its a shame that girls have to become aware of the male gaze and grow up quickly because of it. Even more so to those who go through worse. 😞

I didnt hear such a truthful song for a long time.Thank you for telling the truth to everyone.❤️

This song slaps, especially to people who are " We're nice men!! " And "not all men" People!!

*When you're scared of all genders, and have bad social anxiety.* Ha take that! *worried screaming*

Not all men - some men, not all women - some women, not all cops - some cops, not all people - some people: the word ‘some’ is enough to scare you. Because you don’t know how big that ‘some’ is. We all know it’s not all, but hearing ‘some’ is already scary enough. Because we shouldn’t hear some when it comes to rape, murder, sexual harassment, verbal harassment, grooming, sex trafficking, human trafficking, etc. please stop saying not all men because WE ALL KNOW ITS NOT ALL, BUT SOME. Stop trying to shut down other’s voices and experiences.

It's not all men but sadly it's enough that we have songs about it...

Not all men but enough to make me hold my keys and sprays when men walk to close to me after 5pm. Not all men but enough to make me nervous when a man sits behind me on the bus. Not all men but enough to make me scared to walk past a building site. Not all men but enough to make me scared of working late. Not all men but enough to make me part of the 97% at the age of 14.

It first happened when I was 3. It was my paternal uncle who's known me since birth. It wasn't penetration but it still makes me feel sick. I was touched again by a random taxi driver. I was 8 and I was wearing a full sleeve shirt and long skirt. It wasn't penetration but I was disgusted. It happened when I was 12 and it was a friend I used to trust so much. He groped me against my will and said that it was because I was tempting everyone around me. It would have happened if my other friend didn't spot us and punch him in the face. I want to say something to the kids that go through this. You are not the problem here. You are a child and you haven't done anything wrong by dressing or acting a certain way that seems "tempting". It's just that there are so many filthy sickos that sexualise you and make you doubt yourself. Never doubt yourself and give up on yourself because of such people.

I got so many chills when I heard "it's not all men, but it's all women". YES. I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY THEY DON'T GET THAT WE ALL HAVE BEEN ASSAULTED IN AT LEAST ONE WAY IN OUR LIVES but they still say not all men will do this, I mean... How are we supposed to know?

Damn!!! Such a powerful song!!❤❤❤❤

This hits different after being sa.

This song.... Brought peace to my mind. I don't know why

Damnnn....the lyrics just hit on a different level I hid somewhere

This song gives me chills I love it. I shared it on my Facebook. Amazing good job 👏

The dislikes are the people who say "Not All Men"

makes me also think of guys wondering why I haven't had sex in a long time and them being like "well girl I can change that". them completely ignoring the fact that I have been raped and sexually assaulted more than just once. By now I'm very open about the fact that these things happened to me because I stopped feeling ashamed of it or blaming myself, despite the reactions I got when I first opened up about it (one of them was my brother telling me, I wasn't raped and he'd also jump a girl if she was hot and sleeping at his place and he woke up horny... very messed up btw) there have been so many guys over the years being like "yeah well but I'm not like that" - might be true but that doesn't take away the trauma or stops me from having panic attacks when being intimate with someone. men telling women it's okay to just have fun when you've been traumatized by that exact thing is a real issue. not respecting boundaries, even if you openly communicate them. that's an issue. if people could respect each other and their boundaries, things like that wouldn't happen. and people telling others they are "anti-everything" just because they stand their ground and stick with their "no" isn't helping either.

This is a song everyone has to hear. I've never felt that way about anything before, that EVERYONE has to see it... Well hear it lol

This is the song with the most beautiful lyrics I've ever heard.. Such a catchy song.. no words.. I wish you all the best my lovely amigos and amigas out there 💙

This hits so different. I stopped counting after a while. And I still catch me defending the guys that brought me pain, because even if I would have spoken up, noone would have believed me or I would be the one that get blamed ... but it gets better as you get older and find friends that really care and understand

I only wanna say Thank You! Really, thank you.

A few good men

I absolutely adore! the photo in the video! It's so beautiful. And the song is so.good.! The best random click while bored of my life.

I am in middle school and last week me and my friends went to target near the block. When we were half way there we got catcalled. OH AND WE RAN LIKE NARUTO RAN They were still looking at us though. So i barked and my friends acted like Trexes

All Women, All Men. Even if they don't do the deed themselves they still close ranks to protect him

I've listened to this song for like a 20 times since the morning and it still hit hard... Can't get over the pain in these words.... It describe how helpless and powerless we feel when we have to deal with just other humans like us... It's disappointed to think that no matter how far the world keep changing and improving...it still unsafe for a human to just walk on his own bc of his gender

This is such a powerful and at the same time heartbreaking song I really love it

NO!!! NOT SOME! WAY MORE A LOTTTT!!! I LOVE THE SONG THANK UUUUU

I had a fight with my dad, he laughed when I said at least %90 girl experienced in their life's "bad things". I had a panic attack because he doesn't even know what happened to me. He doesn't know how I punched my stomach whole nine months with such disgust. And I tried to get help from a psychologist but my parents said I'm alright. I'm sick of this shit with my whole cells.

I'm really glad I found out about this song, it's given me the strenght and courage to react when a male bothers me from now on. Thank you so much. I feel more free now, maybe I'll actually start dressing the way that I want

Not all Men but it’s all Women This made me cry . Because it’s so fucking true .

Women should always tell the truth no matter what. Don't let those men ever get away...

2:18 just saving this :> (my fav part of the song)

I'm 14 and I've been experiencing this since I was ten, luckily I haven't had that much interaction with people over the last year and a half ,due to covid-19, but I'm sooo scared that It will get worse when it ends

This is why I’m a lesbian ✨

I feel like this song was made for me...and that's so sad🥺

This song should be played in every school and college the word needs to be spread

I love this. It hit home ... HARD

I didn't know how to vocalise how I felt this is it, thank you

if lesbians can control themselves when a girl is wearing revealing clothes, why cant guys? so is it the clothings fault, or men?

Let's raise our sons to respect women.

If someone would please read for a moment because I need another opinion about this. This day I was wearing a baggy shirt that was very comfortable. On this day I went on my cousin's trampoline and he decided to wrestle me out of no where and pin me to the trampoline while sitting on me I couldn't move and was very uncomfortable. My cousin said "you know I could take your shirt off you right?" I was so uncomfortable and felt uneasy I think this would be sexual harassment but I need another opinion please. Another time with the same person my cousin wrestled me out of no where again and said he would kiss me on the lips I hated that he would do this, wrestle me out of no where and make me uncomfortable. He also almost stabbed me. My parents know about how he almost killed me and I don't hang around him anymore. I just would like to know if someone would classify this as sexual harassment please let me know.

omg yes

I lobe the way she points out that it's not all men (what I also totally stand behind) but she still mentions the problem that it's always all women

The dislikes are all the people getting their panties in a twist and are the ones saying 'not all men'.

A guy once told me it's not all men. So I asked him for a list of predators. He never gave me my list.

It’s not all, but it’s enough to make us afraid