Preach!!!….i left my ex-husband bc I was miserable. I wanted for NOTHING, but his arrogance and narcissistic attitude was not worth it!! I left and had more peace the first night I left. I slept on the floor of a one bedroom apartment and it was the best sleep I had in years.❤

A man with CHARACTER is (1) Ambitious (2) God Fearing (Submissive to God’s Word) (Understands life is bigger than him) (3) Emotionally Intelligent (4) He has a Growth Mindset (He wants to get better) (5) He will not yell at you (6) He will not curse at you (7) He will not call you out of your name (8) He will not cheat on you (9) He will not abuse you (10) He will not lie to you (11) He will not deceive you (12) He will not mislead you (13) He will not control you (14) He will not dominate, dictate or domineer

You are correct. Just like men shouldn't expect a woman to be working, doing all the cooking, cleaning, and child rearing. Women shouldn't be expecting to contribute nothing or bare minimum. Teamwork is the best way to go!

" no man's financial level stays the same forever". - TG "Let his character be his currency". - TG

My Mentor in college once told me, “your income will one day match your character” 🌸

Chasing money in men actually ends up putting women last. I used to chase money primarily out of fear of recreating my upbringing. I ended up in a situationship with a man with money, but who was comfortable lying to me and crossing my boundaries. It’s good to desire to life comfortably with your husband, but your character as a woman should be one of warmth, growth and not entitlement. Yes, he can take care of you, but making him feel like it is a choice for him and not something forced upon him is important too. I was forcing him to spend on me to make me feel secure, little did I know that if he genuinely liked me in the first place, he would have done it on his own, and would have advocated more for me being my own boss. A successful relationship cannot be built on money only. Thanks for this video Tony

Broke in spirit is way worse to deal with in a long-term commitment. If you, instead, get with a hardworking man with character, the money will go up. I've experienced it.

I know I'm leaving here with something when Tony on the line 😅😅

Tony Gaskins is a rare voice of wisdom in today’s society. If you truly pay attention to his teachings you will get the message that will truly transform how you live and view life and love. I have so much respect for this man !! may God bless you, Mr. Gaskins

I love this: “Character brings favor.” I need this quote on something in my office. Thank you Tony. 👏🏾

PREACH LOUDER!!!! Delusional!!! Some women must understand that the life you want is different from the life you deserve. FOR YOURSELF 💯❤️

I agree character is more important than money…but why are black women the only ones constantly told we have to take care of ourselves 1st to prove we deserve a provider.

Hey Tony, you made some very valid points. The dating advice these days is for women to beautify themselves (focus on skin, fitness, beauty) so that men will want to provide for us and that includes a luxurious lifestyle to make women's life easier. That "building" together with men emasculates men or that any men who says they want to "build" with a woman is a feminine man. I have also heard many stories of women who have built together with men, struggled during their lows and worked through everything together only to have the man leave her for another woman ( younger, prettier... like an upgrade). That instilled alot of fear in women these days when it comes to wanting to "build" with men. I mean no malicious intent in my comment, but genuinely want to understand and learn to navigate in this complicated dating world. I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you and God bless

These men have no character and no money 😅

Not every person understands these conversations is definitely not for the ignorant.. great content 🙏🏾

This is probably my favorite video of yours… our minds have been so warped by social media .. a real man of character is priceless! Invaluable! And women miss that mark daily …

Crazy that this needs to be explained. Tony has soooooooo much patience.

Men with receding hairlines...E.D and a gut...always judge women the hardest....lol

“How about your edges?” I almost dropped my phone 😂😂😂. I enjoyed this video so much. TY for offering this much needed perspective.

Tony’s videos have been on 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥. On point on point on point!!!!!! Can’t get enough, keep them coming pleaseeeee

I always look at a person character because that is very important in a relationship. A person character speaks volumes. Tony you is on point with this one.

I have never desired a man to take care of me, but I desire a man that knows his role in a relationship. I believe in working and having my own money. I have witnessed where the man was the bread winner and that woman got dogged out, disrespect, cheated on and beat up. She ended up divorcing her husband yes she got alimony, but it wasn't enough to sustain her lifestyle. So as a 55 year old single mother of 2 adult children and 1 grand daughter I learn to hold my own. And, if a good man comes in my life and help me, I would consider that to be a bonus. One the other hand if he walks out and leave me, I promise anyone I WILL BE OK.

I agree with most of what you are saying Tony. Thank you for sharing truths. However, the only thing I want to caveat is that some women just don't want to build with a man/build him up when they are themselves already very successful because of childhood trauma. They may have grown up in a single-parent household where their father was not only absent but did not financially contribute. So, to them building with a man may be a scary idea, as there is a possibility that they may switch up on the woman even though the woman has stuck by them when they were low/ in the trenches and helped them build. I have seen this happen first-hand. Yes, I know a lot of people will say it is not a guarantee a man will do this and it is true, I believe God has better in store for me and my life. But it is absolutely worth mentioning that underneath SOME of these women's 'demands' on a man (when they are well established themselves) is just them trying to protect themselves - that is it!. They may want to trust but are just apprehensive about it, that's all. I am a 30 year old virgin & sometimes I wonder if after all the trauma I have experienced I be able to give it to my husband. - Anyway, I believe God is a healer and a restorer of all wounds!

I love you Tony, but why must we compromise when I know so many women who have character AND money!?!?!

Thanks for this message Tony, there's so many young and beautiful women with this mindset that needs to hear this.

TG is so blunt and I love it. He don’t sugar coat anything!

Building with a man is risky. Once they level up they will go get what they really want.

Excellent video. Many of the women that strictly looking for men with lots of money have never had lots of money themselves.

Im praying that God will pour out a blessing on the Gaskins family, that they will have to make more room to receive it!!!

Thank you for your wisdom! This is what women need to hear bc most of us don’t even understand what we asking for

I love how your eyes light up and the smile creeps in when he sees his wife. That is so priceless. That is so amazing.

Thank you Mr Gaskins your advice has literally changed my entire life & I believe God is working on my fiance too! God bless you & keep the videos coming!!!!

Honestly, some women feel like this about men & money because of men's shady character. Women now feel like hey, if he's going to cheat, use, abuse, & mistreat me, I at least need to be living comfortably. Most men aren't like you, Tony.

Tony I look forward to building with a man. But realistically I know so many black woman that elevated a black man, helped his Buissness , gave him ideas, did so much just to get left or cheated on. Black men have because very treacherous to the point it’s getting dangerous. You have to know who you can build with and don’t do anything too soon. I would love a teaching on WHEN to start helping a man build.

I think we as people are underestimating the dating phase. This is why we have to TAKE OUR TIME to get to know a person. We cannot lead with one single trait and use that one thing as to why we are deserving to be with someone. We aren’t entitled to people and have to stop dating with an entitled spirit. A lot of people simply want to show up with their lead character but don’t want to contribute any actual value to the other person. I think men and women are a lot more alike than we are different. We all want to be seen, loved, respected, and valued. Character and humanity are not gender specific. Thank you Tony for all you do! 🖤🤎

Brother Tony, you are making this so plain and easy to digest for us grown mature women of character & love. Thank You. Appreciate you for this message.

Great points! I couldn’t imagine having a husband and not seeing him daily. I hope most men/women develop this same mindset and become realistic for once in love & relationship.

Amen Tony I just shared this video with someone who needs it

You better make it plain!!! If you want a certain lifestyle; then you should create it 💯.

I glance every so many months at your messages, I'm married and toss my husband out without blinking. He's chasing, improving and praying to Jesus like crazy. I wasn't easy when he mat me, so what was he thinking after-the-facts. You are so correct it's scary. U got to keep those legs locked 🔒....lock legs, less drama. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.💯....I don't care how fine a brotha is, because he's fine don't mean he's KIND.

Thanks Tony for your wisdom! ❤ with growth and time women will come to understand there’s nothing more valuable than character 💯

Plenty of men try to marry women who have money, because they want a certain life style!

I enjoyed this message as always…I really do think the Key is to look for good solid character vs money in a man…Men with poor character have boatloads of money too but abysmal crappy characters and the women that seek men of certain means end up with guys like them and they treat them exactly like Tony said…property and transactional …that’s miserable….

If they didn't know now they know. This was a much needed message. I'm so glad I understand and know this.

My dear Tony “Religione”.. “Money doesn’t matter it’s their character.” A rational “Thinker” has a remarkable “Character.” It’s within the heart that matters…Love life with honesty and delight!! 💯🎉😊👍🏽🤗

Tony, thank you for breaking it down even further. I understand this and agree.

Amen !!!! Sad you even have to explain this 🤦🏽‍♀️real women already know this

I appreciate you spitting all the FACTS Tony but your wasting your breath with these very woman who cares less about character! They value money over it and we see it each and every day!! I’m just happy I care less about money and more about character!! Gods Will I be blessed with a man who has character, compassion and who loves God as I do. 🙏🏽💯💯

This is a word today!

Well said... God fearing and good character will always be attractive

Hey Tony. Thank you for clarity on what exactly a man of good character is. Another great video. 👍🏽 🙌🏽 P.S. Not the fupa & edges. 😂

That’s it! You be teaching! Holy Spirit, speak! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

I hear you tony however if women working too ,it does seem like women doing 4 jobs( financial, childcare,house care and support her men)while men doing one(financial) on average. Involved father and men doing doing housework(without being ask) is NEW therefore its not average. However there been massive increase women(in the west) financial aslo provide in the household ( some not by choice as cost super expensive). So thats why many women of today (more educated, more independent, have more rights etc)are not satisfied in reduceing his burden while he doesnt even try to reduce hers.

Tony is so right my MedTech job just had a merger. New CEO for a month and he got Terminated the day before Thanksgiving and I'm a little person but still have my job. Character is key this will give you insight on to a good man. Character in yourself and children if you have any. Also if your children Character speaks for it self men will see that as well. It gives representation on who the PARENTS are! Blessings

I just wonder if they know being “sat down” with children and taking care of a man is ALSO a full time job that not everyone is cut out for? Let me tell you, as a mother, I know for a fact I wouldn’t wanna stay at home all day with no kids 🥴 Saying that to say, sometimes the life that you think you want is actually the life you’d least enjoy.

Thank you so much for bringing correction cuz these women want the man to bring all this to the table and they can't afford have that crap their self preach teach and tell'em

I needed this message, just wrote something about love in my diary and your message resonates. Thank you Toni ✨

Thank you, thank you and thank you for ALL the lessons you share with us. And you know what, all or most of these stories are in the Bible. We are all made with a Brain that Reasons and Calculates. We have eyes to see and ears to hear!

It says in the Word the wife is to be the husband helpmeet. If the husband is doing his work, it gives the wife to do her part. Lastly, we also have to understand there is a difference between character and personality.

Amen. Ive always told myself to not expect what I cant give myself or what I am not.

When a man get up he gon leave you..

Forget these men..I want to make my own money..😉

So true, I learned about losing lifestyles after getting a divorce. My whole world changed 😂😂

Many well-off, rich men have periods/years of decline in their lives. Their wealth over their lifetimes can look a bit like a wave formation, similar to markets. I guess the best woman is one that will be by their side through the good and bad times, to the end.

Hopefully I’m married by 50, but I would not want to have that mindset about a man at 50, goodness

Almost broke my thumb clicking to watch this video 😂😂😂 LET ME KNOW TONY!!! 🗣️🤣

It don't matter if he a earner or broke they both expect the same thing from a woman...character and his morals and God are the only thing gonna set him apart...that broke dude still gonna want to be in control 😂 and u gonna be like shut up 🙄 I pay for both of us dummy 🤣 don't do this ladies 🙏🏽 just be single and wait but don't sit around waiting go on about your life still u know what im saying?

People don't understand sacrifice and that's why they can't get ahead

Tonybis 100% correct. Caracter is so so important!!!

First gotta have a man of character.

Do you think these dynamics are different for a woman who has her own money wanting a man with just as much or more than she has? Meaning she is self-sufficient and can fund the lifestyle she desires.

❤ ❤ A. PERSONS ACTIONS WILL SPEAK FOR ITSELF (MYSELF ) ❤ ❤

Speak Tony! Thank you for keeping us on our toes.

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS. MONEY iSNT EVERYTHiNG.

Appreciate this message! GOD BLESS !

I learned this the hard way. The money will come, my ex made 30,000 when we met and 80,000 4 years later and continued to increase. The lesson is to have that mindset of partnership and helping to build and not have your hand out. If you don’t get it, you’ll feel it. Thanks for the videos, painful truths for sure.

Marriage is team work. Working together to grow and for the benefit of the family surrounded by Respect and Love and encouraging each other! PROVERBS 31 describes a woman that we women should aspire to!

Money does not mean he’s a good person.

I agree with what you’re saying but I also know this goes for men as well who are involved with women who are making more money than them. And to get cursed or called out of your name in either instance should never be accepted just because you don’t agree with the other person’s opinion. If the requirement someone has is not equivalent to the relationship that is best for you, then walk away.

ITS NOT FAIR !!!! BUT ITS OK FOR MEN TO EXPECT US TO SHARE OUR LIFESTYLE. THE DEVIL IS A LIAR !!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

This was FANTASTIC. Thanks for sharing.

Not endless Tory Burch sandals.😆😬

That’s true I want more time then money more of a family man long as he jus not sittn on the couch comfortably while I’m busting my but workn I’ll be there and I’m stick beside him if he wants to move up n company or make his own business as I’m looking to make my own business for something I love as well

That's true Mr Gaskins 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🔥🔥🔥 Amen. ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💯💯💯

Very powerful brother ✊🏾

This word is 🔥!! # facts Tony

🧏🏽‍♀️Thank You kindly, for Your Sharing Your Knowledge….freely here🫡🎬

😂 I knew tony was gonna follow up.

Agreed 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯.

Preach sir! Preach Tony 🗣️🙌🏾

Jesus!!! 🔥🔥🔥

This was real talk💯

This is so true Tony!

I so appreciate this talk

Stay broke and never let anyone know what you up to

Absolutely true Tony !!!!!!!! Preaaaccchhhhh ❤❤❤❤❤❤

And some of them tricks are trying to get the man to continue to fund that lifestyle that they don't even qualify for that's dumb

*My best male friend told me to, "ALWAYS have a man around that cares about you because some men look at women and children as prey." Thank you for your wisdom, I'm praying for us all.*

Thanks again Mr.Tony

He gon give it to you straight