When it comes to parents having favourites: personality plays a huge role as well. I am loud and sociable, so mom and I talk more, about her life, her history and her plight. You’d think I’m her fave My sister is more reserved and grounded- but her and mom agree on most things (they NEVER agree with me 🤣). They think alike- you’d assume she just agrees with her coz she’s older and that she’s a favourite. I think the key for parents is to enforce healthy and strong sibling bonds. Parents love us equally but differently.

I enjoyed the interview and Mrs Mondlane is the sweetest she was my college teacher in college ....I fondly remember her making us to pray everytime we had to start with our lesson....one day I told her I have headache she kindly gave me her Mercedes car keys 😋 to go get some tablets and that's Mam Mondlane for you never had favourite in class and treated us equally....we love you 🥰🌸❣️

thanks for sharing this, I would really like to speak on this in depth. If my tone comes off as unpleasant at times, please forgive me. Firstly. Favoritism among siblings does exist. I think before dealing with the issue itself we need to first admit to the fact that it does exist. I think this is extremely crucial because just by disregarding it makes one feel unheard on top of already feeling rejected, not supported and unloved. I myself have struggled with this for 14 years. I'm 28 this year and just this week alone i have had to deal with episodes that are pure favoritism. Without going into detail, its stuff as obvious as my sister being wrong is situations that affect me, presenting the issue to my mother, my mother completely ignoring it and not reprimanding her behavior. i mean completely ignoring it. in one episode, my sister being wrong where it affects my mother directly and nothing is being said.. When each episode took place I said nothing at the present time - why ? I'm tired of pointing everything wrong that my sister does. My mother knows what is wrong and what is right, Furthermore - I am tired of not being heard. I am tired now. I moved from home a few years ago to get away from this but later realized how this was delaying the plans I had for myself. I didn't want to spend my money paying rent , that was never a part of my plans. I moved back home and got myself a car. I am tired of my mother protecting my sister at all cost even if it means at my cost emotionally, After many years of living with different family members , I have chosen to choose my battles and accept things I cannot change so I do not confront every issue anymore because all it does is show me the reality of my situation. I also learnt to look at the brighter side, I am strong and independent. I am still human, the child in me will long for a mother - always. It breaks me to see her treat me like this. I choose not to address some things but because I am human, I speak up especially when my mom protects or favors at my expense - EMOTIONALLY. I'm at a position where I have to record our conversations when I decide to address issues because of how much she will twist and change things to make it suitable for my sister to look right even when she is completely wrong. I also noticed how my mother uses the same excuse ( I am disrespectful - I shared the latest recording with my cousin and she pointed out how I initially started speaking to her properly but because of the blatant lies, twisting and denying to admit that my sister is wrong like anyone - I get upset, my tone gets louder harsher and because she refuses to hear me I protect myself and return the hurt but I still I do not justify the disrespect, I am wrong and to avoid that I don't address things anymore , I also know how it will turn out anyway. Everyone who knows us (family, friends and neighbors know me as the bad child because of how my mom speaks of me) To anyone who may be younger and has found themselves here. Please get help. Speak to someone and please please - If you have tried to fix and build a healthy relationship and it doesn't work, Please take care of yourself because it will be hardly to heal wounds you had to sit on as a child when you are much older. As an adult, I have tired to understand why my mother treats me like this. and she has said very hurtful things (She wasn't ready to have me when I was conceived). When given the opportunity one day, I know I will completely cut ties with both my mother and my sister because I learnt that the issue is beyond me. My mother and my sister have reasons that are way deeper that I have in the most unpleasant ways discovered. Stuff that they both need to heal from so sometimes it is not on you to fix the relationship because the toxicity stems from far within. protect yourself at all cost. I myself need help and by the grace of God I will completely heal from this one day. Not disregarding that you can fix it. they must be willing to hear you! that is where it all starts. And if a parent is willing to lsten and hear you, use it! please don't give up, no one is perfect, if someone is willing to hear you, speak. its the willingness. If you are young, lost and alone. Im here . Love and light (Psalm 27:10 - Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close) 💖

Welcome Mpoomy's mom you are now a mom to all of us here😜. I really appreciate this conversion here, I could now relate to my mom in law, I didn't understand her on some many levels so now I take it to myself to never mind some of the stuff she normally say to me and my husband (her son). We are so blessed and be blessed mrs Mom and your mom 😍😍😍

I loved this episode. So many women have not so great relationship with their mums and mostly rooted from lack of communication. 💕

I laugh coz I went the therapy route and when the part of “bringing your mother” came about, she didn’t budge 💔told me I have issues and I must deal with them. I guess our black parents haven’t really accepted therapy

You definitely are your mother's daughter, wise as her. I loved this conversation. Thanks for sharing this. ❤️

Beautiful conversation with Mum..Always learning something new from this channel.Watching you from Kenya🇰🇪

Parents do have favourites. They show it through their actions.

Greetings Maa I hold you with high regards and some of us wish we had a mum like you to lead,grow and empower us as daughters love from Kenya

Same here with my mom the more I grow the better our relationship is, and correcting each other respectfully with no defensive mode with both parts

Thank you so much, for the conversation. I have grown with the void that my mother loves my other siblings than me but I now I understand, it's because of our characters. Iam a reserved person who doesn't talk alot, so my younger sister shares everything with her. This has healed me, I see that my mom loves us differently according to our characters. And iam a mom now, I always feel guilt hate I love my son more than my daughter but I know if I had to choose I will choose them because I both love them it's just that I love them differently ❤thank Mpoomy and mom

Awww... So I'm watching this, right?? My daughter and I are both on the bed she's watching cartoons on her phone, she's 3.. And she randomly says "I love you mama". ❤️❤️ Nonetheless thank you Sis N for sharing your wisdom with us. Mrs Mom thank you for sharing Sis N with us. Took a thing or two from this conversation ❤️❤️🤞🤞

Its not jealous its envy that hit home ❤️❤️ Thank you for this

Nice to meet your mom, so refreshing. She’s a wise woman. You are truly blessed 🌸

Mommy looks amazing

Yoh favoritism use to affect me so bad that I could tell those that are favorites are the ones who have made it in life. I ended up distancing myself from my siblings. It is really sad😥

The saying goes, the apple doesn't fall too far from the tree🔥🔥🔥 I see where Mrs Mom's wisdom comes from ❤️❤️ special request, would it be possible to bring the 3 generations of Mommys together 🔥🔥

Beautiful, my computer teacher frm Nkangala TVET college love you guys❤️🔥😍

So excited that mom is around. Cannot wait to draw from her well of Wisdom❤❤

I’ve accepted I’m not close to my mom compared to my sis. She’s more like my sis I’m more like my dad. Used to hurt me when I was younger, now I don’t really care, I just know I think differently to them.

Such a lovely conversation-literally made my morning. Looking forward to more convos with Mrs Nomsa.

Thanks mom for gracing us with your wisdom.

Soo loved Mom’s answers and the conversation as a whole. Looking forward to seeing her more 🤗♥️✨

Loved Mom’s answers. Love love this segment 🥰🤍

So great to see your mum! And to experience your relationship.

Love Mpoomys mum...so much wisdom here❤️

The way Mpoomy said "really mom?" when her mom spoke of not having favourites with her children, that time she's also a mom. Haha it's refreshing to actively see a mom being mothered too

Goosebumps 🙏🏾

Mom is so chilled and calm❤️

This is a much needed conversation and I absolutely loved it. So much wisdom here, I have taken notes 📝

Beautiful episode. Really informative♥️🙌Thank you!

Thank you for the insightful messages

Chatting with Mommy and getting her perspective really made this episode beautiful. Please keep them coming.

Thank you Mpoomy and Mom ❤️❤️

So much wisdom shared, Thank you Mpumi and Mam'Nomsa. looking forward to more episodes.

So much wisdom to your mom Mpumy❤️

Your Mom is well spoken...I so love this conversation 🥰🥰🤗🤗

As a first born child with huge gaps between myself and my siblings, I've never felt like there was any favoritism because my mom made sure she equipped me with more knowledge, education and teaching me how to be responsible till to my first employment. The catch came after she passed then I had to take over the load which was easily acceptable, however I will never recommend having kids with a huge age difference in between because it's not fair on your first born.

Wow!!! Never imagined this one ,I need to subscribe to the membership because it will be lit.♥️🔥

Mpoomy’s mom is so pretty yang

❤❤❤Love this Mpumie.. relationships with our mothers are so important.. thank you to your mama bear for the Wisdom and guidance.

Hey Mpommy it's lovely to see your mom💖

You are blessed ! And may good continue to bless you ! ♥️

What a touchy and informative talk🙌🏽🫶🏽

Your mom is so youthful ❤

What a lovely segment this is. Appreciate the conversation with mother❤️

She is beautiful and has my mom's complexion ❤❤❤❤❤

I agree with your Mom, envy in a positive way or admiring the achievement easily acquired, every Mother intentions are generally to see their children win or grow in their endeavors. If it appears as jealousy than that is rather toxic and healing is required.

It's a lovely and true conversation. Very open and helpful.Welcome sis N.

Yoh Mpumi mam Nomsa convinced me, I'm a member 🙌🏾

Welcome Mama N 😍😍 a happy first born must be an affirmation for the parents that they did a great job, Mpoomy’s a happy firborn 🥰 I always felt like parents should always be the ones who work on having a good relationship with their kids but I’m glad I got to realize that I can be the one who teaches my parents how to be cool parents 😅 today I’m very happy with the relationship I have with both my parents and my mom yena is literally my best friend and both of them are easy to talk to, I just wish all my siblings would open up to building a healthy relationship with our parents. I feel like My Mother’s Corner is going to be my fave on #wisdom&wellness 😊🤍🤍🤍

I love how you addressed envy

I learnt a lot from this conversation, thanks mum and daughter 😘

Interesting topic. Keep it up!

I loved this conversation ❤️

Mpoomy's shoes😍😍😍

I really enjoyed this good job Mrs Mom 🤗

It really gets awkward as we grow up. Sometimes it’s because it has been years and years with no change.

Loved this episode quite an emotional one when it comes to favouritism among siblings but loved it nontheless...we keep growing and learning...also nice to know that one is never alone in their experiences and that others experience the same things as well... beautiful

I love this 😀 ❤ The Mothers Corner we sharing a Name

Superb!!!

I love this woman💝 #ms.mom

Once met Mom at Aneno and what a beautiful lady and came across as very sweet ❤️

Great episode 👏 👌 l wish was longer 🥰

Yesss mom is right by saying when you get older, you are more open to open up... I find the same with my mom.

Wisdom❤👏👏 patiently waiting for another one..

Enjoyed this conversation 😍❤️wisdom here💯💯

I remember asking for a video like this😭 Thank you so much 😭🙏

Favouritism almost broke our family apart, I don't stay at home due to employment, so whenever I'm home my older sister would sulk and make comments such as " oh the Golden child is home, so some of us will be nonexistent until they leave" that really left a bitter taste in me as at some point I would miss my family but the thought of going home would make me scared of the comments. I'm older now having my own kids I try as much to always a firm them that I love them both equally

Your mum is amazing mpoomy

love you SIs Mpoomy, sending more love to you and your mom☺❤she is so beautiful

I hear people complain about favoritism amongst their siblings. It sucks that I don't get to do that since I'm the only child. I might look OK but deep down I really wish I had siblings😭😭

This was interesting.❤️

Love 💗 Love ❤️ Love 💗

Ngwanya,Mhayise…Cebisa Lomuhle!!! Siyabonga Ma…what a beautiful episode with so much wisdom 👌🏼

Love this space ,I'm here for the #conversationwithpurpose

Eyoh the wisdom in here🔥🔥🙌🏾💯

Wow this was beautiful ,its not jelousy its envy jah neh 👌👌👌

Your mum is very positive 👌

This was so beautiful and enlightening. ❤️ please add the link to the membership. I can’t find the button ☹️

What a beautiful relationship you have with your mother. Really loved the conversation, there is a book that speaks to what you ladiesvhave touched on the bookbis called "Mother Hunger" by Kelly McDaniel.✨️

Hi Mpoomy☺️ I'm still struggling to join as a member. I can't find any join button. I'm missing out on a lot of good stuff 😭

Love Mom😀

I love this but it was short hle , anyways thanks ladies this was so insightful , really enjoyed

i wish the episode could be longer😩😩😩it was so ipactful.keep up with the good job mpoomy

Aybo this is your mother woow, just joined and im liking it❤️❤️🤗 Im da second born, we 3 when i was a teenager i thought my siblings were my mothers favorites and it bothered me only to found out they too thought i was the favorite one😂😂

Hi Mrs. Mom ❤️❤️

U’re mom’s twin, she’s gorg! 😍

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I love mam N

Love it already ♥️

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Notification gang!🥰

I have a low self esteem and since I was young my mom had said things about my body that made me not like my body

Is membership only for those in SA? Because i cannot find the Join button

I love what Sis'N said about being intentional and patient enough to crack the wall slowly but surely. This can help with so many problems in life.

Howcome I can't find the option to join the W&W membership?