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Never give full payment upfront. 👍

Yeah I made a final payment to a contractor when the job was 90% done. It stayed 90% done. Never again.

@@guest_5992 Well said. & to the point. 1/3 to start, 1/3 in the middle & 1/3 upon completion❣️ Drop the mic🎤❣️

Totally agree. Especially the more savvy ones, they pick their targets

And always trust your gut and don’t over think your guts. Go with your gut

Well said

🔨Nailed it.

Sad story

It's good that you recognize this and not fall prey to her manipulations. Not everyone under that kind of mother's control is savvy enough to see what's really going on.

Love her from a distance.

It's hard facing up to reality

If he does analysis of 1% of convicted psychos, he'll have a lot of videos.

But each case is a lesson if we will learn them!

I find your comment telling.

Humans will never run out of sad stories but at least Dr. Grande gives us a drolly hilarious perspective on them to keep us from getting so depressed about it all.

Enjoy your summer!🌷🏖🏝🎢🚣🌈

Congratulations! Have a wonderful summer!

LOL

That's awesome!💪☺️

Ya know, I used to scoff at that but I’m 40 now and struggling emotionally and I’m really getting it. It’s so true. Pretty much everything I don’t like about others it’s because that’s how I am. Your mom was wise. Mine was like that too.

Amazing how perception can be changed with context and experience. Oft repeated phrases stick around only if they apply on a large scale, it's the persons mind that needs to be ready to hear them

Vonna , my late mother , would have liked your mum. My mum always gave us words of wisdom e.g. If you don't like someone, then say, nothing. Hope your day /evening is going well.

I need to say that to my wife

This reminds me of one of Dr. Phil's favorite sayings: "There's just something about that ol' boy that I don't like about me" Lol. Now I don't like Dr. Phil but I do agree with that saying!

Same. I have ASD and a very neutral affect so I'm sure if anything dodgy happened they'd say I was "acting suspicious" I also just don't like showing emotion infront of other people so I actively try not to cry unless I'm by myself

This is one of Dr. Grande's main themes (along with bad lie detectors and bad NJ, Taco Bell, Jeep, and psychics!) No two people react the same way to stress, sadness, being accused, etc.

@@bthomson you mustn’t forget to include his cacti and three-time felon owl.

@@pembrokelove and alien lizard people, Dr.Phil, and cult leader types. :)

@@bthomson Noodle is a funny word

How are families "isolated" in today's society?

@@johnwayne3085 I can't think for you your entire life. You need to do research and have more direct experience.

@@johnwayne3085 You just can't follow my lead your entire life.

Im not convinced that the Tiger parent philosophy is a bad one. There could be some attribution bias. In particular, it seems like the ratio of high achievers to murderers is actually pretty favorable among the children of “tiger parents”.

@@stt5v2002 that doesn't mean it's good for those children's mental health

@@stt5v2002 there’s a huge spectrum between fine and murderer

@@anjou6497 it's the parenting style of unsufferable a-holes who projects hard on their children. It's clearly favorable for a narcissitic parent.

Yes but everybody who consumes animal products and pollutes and has no problem with fossil fuels and hunting and fishing does that… start with closer to you.

How did you feel when she died? I’m NC with my nmom and I just wonder what it will be like when she passes

@@haleytruslow7200 I was in NC for many years. I felt complete relief. She was 93 and had a stroke and went fast. She did not suffer. It's the BS that came after her death. She had planned pure evil on us. Peace 💕🇺🇲

@@m.f.richardson1602 😔 to hear about the after. I'm glad I have the immediate family pictures I have. NM and sibling

@@m.f.richardson1602 mom and I were the same way. She had me at 19 years old whilst she was bedridden from cancer do her and dad's taxes so that she could hide debts we never knew she had. The extent came out after her death 6 weeks later. If it comforts or doesn't comfort you, strokes aren't painless. I had one from a vesicle tear at just 30. It was one of the most horrifying experiences of my life.

Well implicating herself too, so not especially convenient.

@@eadweard. She was already implicated. At the police station. Giving a statement. Kind of gives that fact away.

@@sixthsenseamelia4695 Even so, it's still not very convenient to be overhead effectively admitting involvement.

@@eadweard. Everyone knows police stations are surveilled. Either she's an idiot. Or it's a deliberate ploy. She KNEW evidence would point at him. Letter found on the bed - saught legal advice & withheld informing police for two weeks. No innocent person, with evidence of an admission, does that.

@@erdelegy hmmm yep I dont think its a reason to take justice into your own hands but karins mom made a monster. In a twisted way I wonder if she'd be proud, Joyce never persuaded anyone to kill for her so she'd have to admire karins skills a little.

Casey White is probably the only person who could provide any significant insight into the thought process that occurred or how/why her whole life philosophy changed. I hope he, and they, are open to discussing it. Still, it would be interesting to hear Dr. G's take.

Maybe phrase is "Down pat?". But " packed" sure fits this channel!

@@bthomson I checked, and "down packed" is acceptable.

😂😂😂

No, I've never bought one. My mother expected too much and made fun of myself and my father.

This worries me. I hope you're okay 🫂

lol. In your case, mother knows best! Being married to a narcissist is like trying to wrestle a porcupine. You'll never win, and be repeatedly hurt no matter what moves you make. Please, get out now, and stay out. You deserve so much better. Good luck. ❤

@@Throatzillaaa worries me, too. :(

@@Throatzillaaa basically (to calm everyone down) my husband didn't allow me to go and stay with my mum for a couple of months with our toddler son. He was coming up with every single bizarre thing just so that our trip fails. We'd have to go by plane, first he said he'll take us, then (closer to the date) he said he won't, he changed his mind. I had to plan how to get there by public transport. Then he said he won't give any money for our expenses. However, after talking to my mum, he said he will take us and pay for expenses. I asked mum what did she say. She said she was telling him how she's lucky to have such a caring son in law who cares for her daughter, and will take to the airport and so on. Basically, put him on a pedestal (knowing that he's neglectful and abusing). And she said to me that i have to be "clever" and learn from her how to get what you want. I felt... Very disappointed and disgusted, even though i got away from my husband for couple of months. My mum is also narcissistic but slightly different from my husband. I am safe, however I have started to plan ultimate escape. From both of them. Until i have learned to guard my boundaries.

@@frankydottir8762 Sorry if we made you feel pressured to share. It wasn't my intention, I just kinda wanted you to know that someone read your comment and cares and is hoping things take a turn for a better soon. I am glad to hear that you got away from your husband. Your mom seems like she is very good at manipulating people (and also sees that as a good quality to have and pass down to her kids). It's amazing that you managed to be raised by her, still in contact with her and not only did you not become like her, you are able to see what the way she goes about getting the things she wants is quite toxic and unhealthy. my heart goes out to your and your kid. you've managed to get space from one of them, and you just need to implement a plan to get to a place where you are safe and happy (and able to raise your kid in a healthy atmosphere). I believe in you, keep your chin up!

I wonder if Joyce didn't think investing in her daughter's welfare was worth the expense. Or she was keeping her in isolation so no one would catch on to what was going on behind closed doors. Too bad... sounds like Karin would have benefitted from having a decent caregiver in her life.

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I’ve been wondering if the two Whites had a suicide pact that Casey backed out on.

You do know, it's about real people? It's not a sitcom. . .

Zena - When you think of the normal loving supportive role a mom plays in a child's life the worse this relationship seems! From highly positive to very negative is a long fall! Not so surprising that there was a bad outcome!😓💀

@@bthomson True. Not every parent is great or loving unfortunately but she was horrible to her. 😑

Hello lovely, sorry been a sleep. Noah, decided he wanted to be fed hourly. I finally woke the boys at 5am and suggested they sing Mockingbird to him , only fed him twice since then , so I've been sleeping 😴😛😚❤💙💙💙💙💙

@@cottontails9003 Aw cute song 🐦💙It's 11pm here, going to bed. Catch you tomorrow ok😊😴💟💟

@@zenawarrior7442 Thank you beautiful, will give you my email address. Happy dreams and a great sleep 😜😴❤💙🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷

Hopefully among other things?

Both

Trader, and Others: yup - its aka sociopathy.

Yeah but the mom sounds like a really horrible person. She didn’t deserve to die I’m not saying that, but I could see how the jury kinda looked the other way when it was put out there how terrible of a person the mom was.

Why should she be crying like a movie?

Hi eb - Questions that ground us! Been missing those!😎

@@PutinsMommyNeverHuggedHim Terrifying. That's certainly not how I reacted to any of the deaths in my family. I suppose that's evidence that I'm guilty of something.

If you go thru his older stuff, you’ll find that he sort of did that.. like, an open counseling session. Go to his playlists, and you’ll find some. Best regards from Las Vegas

She’s a cold blooded killer.

Love the comment. Thank you.

@@cottontails9003 😇🤗🥰

Grudges are like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. Time to set yourself free of that 6 year prison sentence. God bless 🙏🏼

Hi CT and little one! So many adventures await! Life is so precious and full of fun and beauty! Enjoy!😍🐣💐🍼

And you just know he'd start with New Jersey Housewives! 🤣

True

Wtf

Manipulation. Narcissist types are the best at attracting people.

Yeah, but they spell it Karin.

@Laura Christopher My sympathy, truly. I did the same but divorced..., unfortunately after producing two more like him/his family/my family. Despite my best nurturing. I recommend googling "sociopath/narcissist neurophysiology" and stick to the scientific studies from NIH, NIMH. You may be fascinated and relieved; it was never you.

Those lights there since Christmas. There were even lights actually on one of the 🌵!