The family of 11 navigating 6 different special needs in Singapore

The family of 11 navigating 6 different special needs in Singapore | This Is Us

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Tahirah and Irwan have nine children, aged 3 to 21.
They’re a big family with even bigger hearts, but what is it like navigating autism, anxiety, depression, ADHD, OCD, and Global Developmental Delay (GDD) as a family?
Irwan describes it as “happy stress” while Tahirah calls it “organised chaos”.
Chapters:
0:00 - Meet the family
01:00 - A rare family outing
02:25 - The sibling buddy system
02:58 - What’s it like being the older sibling?
03:25 - Dates with mum and dad
03:50 - Managing as a single-income household
04:21 - Navigating autism
05:48 - Writing a book for her children
06:25 - Navigating OCD, depression & anxiety
08:25 - “Self care is not selfish”
08:46 - “We are a couple first”
09:35 - A parent’s happiness, joy & blessing
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@MothershipSG Жыл бұрын

Read more about their family here: mothership.sg/2022/05/mother-of-seven-special-need-kids/

@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS Жыл бұрын

Much respect for sharing your stories

@highafchihuahua Жыл бұрын

The parents seem really healthy and supportive towards the kids and don't have a stigma against mental health disorders! Kudos to them!

@waciao3967 Жыл бұрын

I think they are very responsible and good parents! They care a great deal about each and every child! No one is neglected! I sincerely wish this big family well now and in future! Stay happy, healthy and blessed! Maybe, they can set a quiet time at home, so everyone can have some me-time! Cheers 🥂

@user-zd7tc6ed4x Жыл бұрын

It’s actually looks very organised in to this video. More so when compared to other local clips on large families such as those with >=5 kids

@eddy-currents Жыл бұрын

Well in this situation, probably wouldn't be feasible to be able to manage everything properly if they aren't organized

@imSodamazon Жыл бұрын

Despite having many children, they’re so attentive towards each child.

@lsy97 Жыл бұрын

This couple is doing well as compared to many cases I've came across. Still, I wish to emphasise the importance of family planning and what the coupled mentioned 'living within their means", because a lot of people don't.

@user-uy9pd6dr5y Жыл бұрын

Mad respect to this family. I know people who earn almost 5 digits and still have the fear of Financial situation to raise one kid.

@MrMandaihill Жыл бұрын

That's y...

@dianaahakim2001 Жыл бұрын

It takes alot of patience to take care of someone with special needs and autism. They handled what he said and did so well. So kind and gentle. They way it should be.

@AlihanaSalleh Жыл бұрын

I cannot imagine the chaos but MasyaAllah, this couple is really awesome. My respect to you guys. I pray that Allah bless the family with good health, mentally and physically, joy and happiness always.

@gz3540 Жыл бұрын

They really deserve the kid and the kid really lucky to have parents like them.

@NakProjek Жыл бұрын

I am from a family of 11.. would not change a single thing. Blessed mom and dad for all their sacrifices. Now all grown up with individual families.. yet still so close.

@hiphopdagame Жыл бұрын

shhh.... there will be haters questioning..

@redwater2439 Жыл бұрын

At first I was like “why… sometimes just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.” But they have a system and ensure that each kid gets attention and love and they also respect each kid’s wish. Also, YES! SELF CARE IS NOT A PRIVILEGE, IT’S ESSENTIAL!

@FARID1870 Жыл бұрын

i have a close friend who has 11 children, right here in Spore. They were featured before on CNA too Very hectic schedules. This couple is awesome

@verper5220 Жыл бұрын

I admire the parents for managing such a big family, with some childs being special needs.. I have one special needs child with ADHD..And it took a lot of effort for therapies etc..

@arya6375 Жыл бұрын

Wow, I have 7 siblings including me and my parents could never be like this. So, there is still family who blessed with lots of children and still happy and healthy together. I came from abusive family so this is really rare for me to see. I really wish my parents like that. Eventhough not really rich, but still happy.

@hysteryqal Жыл бұрын

as a person from a big family myself this video really hit home. the struggles of the parents and the older children are so real and it can get extremely overwhelming, like said in the video. i empathise with their struggles so much as the eldest myself. wishing them well!

@MrBoliao98 Жыл бұрын

This is why we need to build the old big executive flat. You don't have 4 bedrooms, how to house so many children? You need space for those few who are keeping up our replacement rate. I grow up in a household with 4 kids. I salute them, how to manage food is a logistic challenge, must remember who like what, go at the right timing.

@socheezy3407 Жыл бұрын

May Allah grant you the highest level of Jannah!

@ceputehching-ching1503 Жыл бұрын

Their house is neat & tidy the children kid being kid will always be noisy time wil fly very fast cherish every moment they will soon grow up ..congrates to the parent who are posive and tried whatever they can to provide the best for their family...and love their every children..

@zoeyloh2970 Жыл бұрын

Amazing family! Huge kudos to the mum for giving her all to support her children - they're very blessed to have parents like that!

@TheMfseng72 Жыл бұрын

Salute to them. Awesome parents. Lots to learn from them.

@tthtlc Жыл бұрын

You are so blessed!!! So many people wanted but cannot.

@StarrySunnie Жыл бұрын

🥲🥲 Touching Family and Very Positive. May continuous Blessings be upon the Family. Thank you for kind sharing 🙏🏽🙇🏻‍♀️

@noralwani_1407 Жыл бұрын

So inspiring. Thank you so much.

@yuxuanphang Жыл бұрын

This is respect.. Sending love! ❤️💪🏽

@leongsam1075 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful family.. and kudos to the couple👍👏👏👏

@space4495 Жыл бұрын

Such a fun, loving and happy family. ❤️

@khasyatillahabdulrazak4681 Жыл бұрын

Subhanallah what a blessing to have a big family but definitely not easy your family will always be there

@zixianchen9901 Жыл бұрын

The buddy system is such a smart idea

@JL-jm7 Жыл бұрын

Amazing couple, amazing family. Blessings to them.

@adnansteady1259 Жыл бұрын

Much respect to mothership and the family

@MegaShaun99 Жыл бұрын

Supportive parents, very intelligent lady.

@weishylee459 Жыл бұрын

You guys and your family members (including village ) are amazing .May all be blessed always 🙏🙏🙏

@Tinbron4e Жыл бұрын

It warms me heart seeing big families.

@desmondw4813 Жыл бұрын

You give confidence to aspiring parents

@paulzhuang5712 Жыл бұрын

Lovely family with awesome parents. Wow, respect and lots of love!!!

@reneemaniam3813 Жыл бұрын

Amazing parents, attentive to the needs of each child. God has blessed you with many kids and abundance of love from you guys to them. It's not easy having a special needs child, that too more than 1, may god give you the strength to take care of them.

@rachelkh20 Жыл бұрын

Very sweet and caring parents

@chuanxiong4242 Жыл бұрын

Kudos to you guys! And I noticed u guys stay around my block, hope to catch u all some time in the future. May allah bless all of you.

@tricialow217 Жыл бұрын

Envy and respect!

@clara.t68 Жыл бұрын

Noble parents♥️

@beelankoh1298 Жыл бұрын

So blessed!

@rashminable Жыл бұрын

Amazing family. Very inspiring

@irfanazhari8863 Жыл бұрын

Stay strong 💪 and do not give up.😊

@coolio5975 Жыл бұрын

When courage and love meet

@Ugk871 Жыл бұрын

Salute this family and all the best

@Iskandar-qc2hp Жыл бұрын

May Allah Bless Ur Family.. Good Job Mum & Dad

@teemothywong Жыл бұрын

love this

@stfu5567 Жыл бұрын

this video made me cry bro wth 😭😭

@cindyhuiqing8610 Жыл бұрын

Honestly loving da fact that these parents takes selfcare and mental health as priority. Like education is important but we can learn it anytime however self care and mental health is something that at any point of time it will go downhill immediately

@vikkiann Жыл бұрын

So sweet

@seng628 Жыл бұрын

Noble parents 🔥🔥🇸🇬

@andrew5702 Жыл бұрын

Respect.

@natalyasafra Жыл бұрын

This is giving me Home Alone vibes 😂

@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS Жыл бұрын

😇 Really wonderful and unique video! Super interesting and special to watch

@HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS Жыл бұрын

😲

@pndmmm1126 Жыл бұрын

such understanding parents are hard to come by.

@bharathdev1732 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful family 👍👍👍

@thenurispunk Жыл бұрын

semoga dipermudahkan segala urusan.. insyallah, amin.

@qua9 Жыл бұрын

A happy family.

@elsietan5262 Жыл бұрын

Sad for eldest sons/daus whose duty to take care young ones. No life for them !!! How to relax??? God bless.🙏

@hiphopdagame Жыл бұрын

ORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR they will mature faster and KNOWS what NOT to do so as to NOT be a burden to their Lives....

@myeongwol Жыл бұрын

The buddy system is good.

@renderz8435 Жыл бұрын

wah they have so many kids but only 2 girls - those girls must be princesses of the house haha

@san45myinttun Жыл бұрын

Good people

@flaminglovex92 Жыл бұрын

Unfair for the neurotypical kids who would have to take on the roles of surrogate parents so as to offset the burdens of the parents.

@qt3860 Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@ramadhanramlan Жыл бұрын

Alhamdulillah i have a rather small fam

@MKiurinuRigold Жыл бұрын

And I thought my cousin who has 5 kids have a lot of children

@melwu4839 Жыл бұрын

Let them go to rainbow centre specal school

@hongng3963 Жыл бұрын

How do they fit into a car unless it’s a mini bus

@isabelgoh6477 Жыл бұрын

Big family hard to take care..stress financial issue..

@haze0ii32 Жыл бұрын

Omg faint

@nutdiraa2721 Жыл бұрын

RUMAISAAAAA

@noproblematallmate Жыл бұрын

Grinding the baby bonus

@alyssachen1535 Жыл бұрын

@ocswoodlands Жыл бұрын

I am going to state the subtle fact. if all go into the car - no insurance coverage.

@thescribe7117 Жыл бұрын

ocswoodlands, They should have written to Ellen de Generes before she wrapped up her The Ellen show in May 2022. She would have given them a 12-seater Lolz. She had given large families houses/a full range of home furnishings/cash etc though most of the families had to take in other people's kids or go to orphanages. She also gave to families where irresponsible couples chose to have more than they could handle or financially afford!

@chanhoong2073 Жыл бұрын

better Singaporean having large family rather than importing immigrant from some unknown country

@winsy Жыл бұрын

Great family! Unlike my indian neighbour of 10 is really pitying. The mum is lazy to work and dad is a alcoholic. They never really leave the house unless pick up groceries or only on free christmas party.Always i heard the mum cursing and swearing at the kids I really pity the kids.

@Elisa-wy6rd Жыл бұрын

Nice of you to show empathy. Pls also contact the social service or FSC to look into that. These children will grow up to be adults, and they in turn might have their own families. One troubled family might turn out to be nine in the future.

@dilyaTebya Жыл бұрын

good that you made sure to mention it's an Indian family.

@ye7114 Жыл бұрын

football team

@airofd Жыл бұрын

pergh pening bai sebagai org ayah pikir mcm mana nk kasi semua ni setel

@airofd Жыл бұрын

@BlackBannerz apa kena mengena rezeki dgn pening? rezeki mmg dtg pening ttp pening

@halogenz Жыл бұрын

have baby bonus lol

@adzsminghafur8668 Жыл бұрын

gen halilintar malaysian version

@burhan999 Жыл бұрын

if you decide to have that many kids.... please don't ask others to assist your family via financial means... my tax dollars is not for your family... be a responsible parents.. cheers

@lil0910 Жыл бұрын

Da mcm ni confirm tk brani cerai..ahahahahaha...

@thescribe7117 Жыл бұрын

lil09, Some still do. Not every man cares about wife/kids. They only care about themselves. To them wife/kids are other people Lolz.

@lil0910 Жыл бұрын

@TheScribe 711 sigh sad sia this type of man... if really exist

@thescribe7117 Жыл бұрын

@@lil0910 A lot in reality really Lolz. No need to talk about the west. Just focus on our south east asian countries. I don't want to be racist but I think malays are the most irresponsible bcs it's easy for them to marry more than one/divorce and marry another wife. Then will come the Indian men bcs of the culture of drinking,even among well/highly educated ones except perhaps doctors bcs of their job. And then there are some Chinese men who keep mistresses or gamble but generally you must agree that among the 3 races in Sg/Malaysia the Chinese are the better providers bcs they work very hard/most are in biz. You know the Chinese still hold on to the philosophy of their ancestors - hard work/perseverance/patience. If you look at Filipino men Lolz (my family had 3 or 4 Filipino maids through the years)/Indon men/Thai men no need to waste time typing. It all boils down to culture/socialisation/upbringing which shapes attitude & of course religious teachings.

@audeamus7388 Жыл бұрын

wtf they very rich ah? 9 kids

@krisnanstravelvlogscomings3893 Жыл бұрын

It’s a factory bro as long they don’t pester the government or public for money if they don’t have money to support the children

@krisnanstravelvlogscomings3893 Жыл бұрын

Classic football/basketball factory Malay family lepak relak one corner. She is the active person no wonder got 11 children damn

@dragonsnipero509 Жыл бұрын

are they cousins cause so much sickness

@MTVrocker Жыл бұрын

9 children alamak... even pokemon only can have 6 children they want have 9....

@ramon1782 Жыл бұрын

why are singaporean malay muslims are always the ones with so many children, it's like a competition among singaporean malays about who have the most children

@celineaurelia Жыл бұрын

I say, so long as they don't bother you, respect every families choice. They look happier than chinese families who only have 1/2kids and stress the crap out of their kids. Nowadays people only want 1/2 kids and government keeps on importing from China. Nuisance.

@celineaurelia Жыл бұрын

such a peculiar way to use competition as an analogy hahaha

@celineaurelia Жыл бұрын

@BlackBannerz Agree but I do think the newer generation have started family planning which is necessary in Singapore. Our competition is no longer with the locals but with the foreign imports. I just think it's unnecessary for op to question why malays like to have big families and make it sound like a negative thing.

@celineaurelia Жыл бұрын

@Dark Note 👿 Well that is clearly your opinion and your choice. You think kids are a burden but some think kids are blessings. Why not mind your own business and go live by your "maximum 2 kids" policy? 🙂

@celineaurelia Жыл бұрын

@Dark Note 👿 Too much population? So why on earth is the government still importing and giving prs and citizenship like free vouchers?

@John_Smith_86 Жыл бұрын

I didn't watch the video, but if your disability birth rate is so high, I do think that the parents are to blame for this. Particularly for worsening the numbers. Tsk tsk.

@oilanma7406 Жыл бұрын

活生生的無病呻吟😠😠😠😠😠

@TheBebemom Жыл бұрын

Honestly this is just being irrresponsible and pulling down the welfare or resources for all the siblings, creating vicious cycle for the next generation