To all those virgins out there waiting for marriage, stay strong and keep waiting. Keep the faith! God will bless you. And to those who have slipped up already, renew yourself and start over. Born again virginity will bring you blessings. It’s valid and pure, God’s forgiveness in Jesus’ name is so powerful.

28 years and still a virgin😍😍 I love God who strengthens me 🌸.

20 years and still a virgin , it's by the grace and mercies of God

Brenden struggling to say "sex" shows that (regardless of having children or not) your parents really never stop being your parents 🤣. I love it ❤

Just before my hubby and I started dating, I had decided to be celibate... days after we started dating, before I could even tell him that I was celibate, he is the one who requested that we hold off kissing as long as we can and that we don't have sex till we got married. We dated 14 months and were engaged another 10 after that. Probably had our first baby kiss 3 months into the relationship and a proper one like 8 months in. Married 5yrs now. Celibacy wasn't easy but definitely worth it!

Guys, is me that sees the ladies looking alike and the gents looking alike

Sex outside marriage is dangerous because of the spiritual consequences that it has.

Its refreshing to see honest Christian conversations. As Christians we try to be perfect by not being honest. But through being honest one finds their own perfection.

"It's not about doing it right, but being real in it. " - Mogale

"Wait with understanding." - Kabelo

This was an amazing episode! I’m 21 years old and I’m still a virgin🙏🏾 praise the Lord. Like the guests said, it was definitely a journey for me! When I first made the decision to obey God when I was like 13, I didn’t have full knowledge or understanding either and till this day I’m still learning what it means to be holy in mind and in action. But the fear of God is what kept me this whole time and God is so full of Grace. Being a Christian is honestly the best! I love how we can be real with Him. Then we realise we can boast in our weakness because when we are weak we are actually strong. I love the questions and the areas that were covered in this video and I really hope it goes viral and reaches more Christians because as much as it is wonderful to have God personally teach you these things like He taught me, it’s also important to share it with others because we really strengthen and encourage eachother as the body of Christ and we help others avoid certain things when they have this wisdom and knowledge from early in their walk with God. God bless you all! 🙌🏾❤️❤️ Edit: at 13 the main thing that kept me was fear of God, and avoiding pregnancy, HIV or anything like that. I didn’t want to take the risk because I had child minded a baby (my cousin) for so long (since I was 9), I knew the sacrifice that went into nurturing a child even though I was a child. I didn’t fully understand the real beauty and heavenly meaning behind sex, like I do now. I just knew I had to keep it for my future husband to honour him and to honour God and to avoid problems. It really has been worth it so far from all I’ve seen and encountered. Thanks for the support on my comment 🙏🏾 May God strengthen us on our journey.

I still remember these two from uct. 2013 I used to find them at the chapel praying and they were so compatible. I am so proud of you guys. You have held each other through so much and it can only be your character and grace that has held you thus far. Welldone guys❤

I'm in a new relationship as a born again and I am glorifying the Lord with my body. I'm lucky I met a man who made it clear the 1st week that I'm for keeps and if we ever date we'd wait for marriage. We can't rush what God started.

Kabelo is starting to look more like her husband 🥺🥺❤️

I love what Mohale said! As Christians, we are hypocrites. We judge people, failing to realise that we also have our own struggles. That's also one thing that annoys me about going to church.

I recommend a book called Messages to young people by E.G White, it teaches about the topics discussed here and so much more from a biblical point of view.

I pray a lot of young people get to watch this video and be inspired to wait ❤️

Guys, Mogale is Wise hlena. Watching this has taught me how important it is, to choose your circle. This sisterhood/friendship makes so much sense. Wow!

Beautiful comments too. I'm just enjoying reading them. But honestly, having sex within the context of marriage is amazing. After my wedding, I was amazed that after sex, I felt so much confidence to even pray afterwards, but before marriage as a Christian, you will only feel condemnation after sex. I love this and keep it up all of you who are celibates.By the time I decided to be one, I was already pregnant 🤣

I've been passing this video everytime because I felt condemned yet I knew I wanted to stop having sex with my boyfriend but didn't know how to stop but now hearing about the benefits of waiting is what will help me have the conversation with him. Hearing that sex will actually help with "into-me-see" and understanding the "why" behind it makes it worth the wait. I'm glad I finally got the courage to come watch this and got direction ❤️

Loving this Conversation so much, I love how real everyone is,many young christians need to watch this.

16h00 The way the lady is admiring her husband while he's sharing his insights😩😍🙌🏽

Am 22 years old and still a virgin, I thank God for keeping me strong and I will go on till I meet my husband inshaallah ❤

Wow…I love this! I love the answer where he explained that “the feelings are normal, it’s normal to feel horny or sexual, but do not engage in the wrong context/time”. It’s healthy to have the sexual feelings but just to know that the timing may not be right now to engage in sexual acts.

The realness in this talk makes me push harder in pursuing celibacy ❤️❤️ .🇰🇪🇰🇪well represented 😊

Thank you for unpacking this in the most realistic way possible. I have learnt a lot. 1. Wait with understanding 2. It's not easy, don't suppress the difficulties and feelings which come with waiting, but rather be real about them! 3. Self-control in other areas of your life is also shaped and sharpened in the Waiting. 4. We are human, and even if you don't struggle with sexual sin per se, you def struggling with something in your life. Arggh man! My heart is full. So many take aways! Love you all and God bless you ❤️

Wow this vid just popped in time.. am a Christian and my story is so similar to theirs ❤️🥺 Thanks for dropping it... Love all the way From Kenya🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪

This is the most RAW video I've ever seen on this topic. It wasn't even a go around and answering diplomatically. It is what it is. Appreciated! Edited You all look a like

Well when i saw the tittle, I quickly jumped on the video. And to be honest it felt like i was having a conversation with God . I am 22 years of age and one of my resolutions this year was to try being celibate till i meet my God gifted husband. I didn’t know how to go about it but man 😭this was so enlightening. I am definitely coming back here3 years later to read this comment with my husband 😂( manifestation) . Because God has being speaking to me and it’s time to listen . Be blessed guys , thank you so much 😊 . I am going to enjoy the journey and walk with God . ♥️love from Botswana 🇧🇼

This friendship makes so much sense ❤

When mpumi said (God is bigger than our small imaginations - we are yet to find out why God created us with these feelings... what an Aha moment!

Lol here I am, a 24 year old young broer and still haven’t indulged in that nkonzo😅 “difficult” is an understatement!! But I know the wait will be worth it🤞🏽 God please let it be worth it😂😩

What I really love about this conversation is honesty. The church is so not having these talks and that’s why I feel like we mess up so much. On top of that we can’t even be honest about sins we’re struggling with because there’s no platform. Judgement is so real that we’d rather pretend and keep breaking instead of facing the truth and finding healing!!!!

Please bring Siza and Mzwandile

Mpoomy is so real😂😂😂😂 I cannot stop replaying the part where she shouts out loud "SEX" and follows with "ah ah our parents knows we have sex" .🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

What he said is true, I'm single, a total virgin at close to 29 and sometimes I don't even think about dating because I'm pretty sure my subconscious is like 'what do you need a man for?' some nights when I remember that I HAVE to date to find a husband and become a mom I wake up in cold sweats. Then I find myself replying to messages or joining tinder but once I don't find my 'husband material' I go back to forgetting again. So yea, I relate to Mogale, abstinence/celibacy gives you this massive sense of independence I've never seen or heard being discussed before. May you please look into and give us content on sometime?

If everything was easy the Holy Spirit would have no work 🙏🏼 I say ask God for help the Holy Spirit will help and guide you ❤️

I really enjoyed this open conversation especially as I am a Single Woman who intentionally remaining celibate & also not dating as I'm allowing God to do a great work in me & also healing me. Thank you for this great platform & looking forward to more podcasts like these.... Love & Light

Worked with Mogale back in 2018 . Beautiful to see him blossoming in this way . God is really doing His thing with this couple ✨

Kabelo Mohale You are full of wisdom my guy.. You and your wife are a great example of a young Christian couple!

I really loved what Kabelo said about people being celibate for different reasons not just faith because I’ve been celibate for 4 year’s and not dating but it’s just to wait for the right one for me. I truly enjoyed this and I like how open and honest the guests were❤️❤️❤️

"Its not about doing it right, but being real in it"💜

KB and Mog made me easy up a bit, that it's okay to feel something and still say no to it. I've always done it for the guy until I decided otherwise and indeed sex takes away one's innocence, it comes with so many regrets but once you start focusing on yourself worth, you'll even be able to tell if the guy really values you or the sex given. This was a great honest conversation and I'm sure many in relationships have grabbed something from it.

Hi guys, love today's topic. I just want to say that there is a difference between celibecy and abstaining. The two are often used interchangeably but have different meaning and backgrounds. Celibecy is a personal choice to remain unmarried or engage in any sexual activity fulfilling a religious vow. Abstaining is often a temporary avoidance of sexual activities for any personal reasons. We really need to be having these conversations in the church circles as well. Thank you for the content.

Thank you for having this honest realistic conversation…You’re helping alot of people ❤️

Even for me a 56 years old, married for 34 years, this is inspiring. How I wish we had poeple who spoke this kind of truth in our days.I have forwarded it to a lot of young and "oldish" poeple single. Proud of you for your honesty!! May God continue to bless you with more wisdom, faith and love.

Mogale Mohale raises very valid points. I like his perspective.

Oh yes, a person can be very judgemental just because they sin differently. I love this conversation

So this episode kind of popped on my timeline and I clicked on it because I though, "wow these ladies are really pretty and the guys look sharp too" plus the topic was really intriguing. Now when I finally did listen, I was blown away. Now I didn’t get to hear all the deep theological truths about sex and sexuality but what I did see were hearts that beat for God. People that do not claim they did everything right but that they trusted in God and His grace and that for me is the most beautiful that there is. Thank you for being vulnerable, open and honest. I remember a time in my journey where I struggled to just do everything right. Everytime I fell, it felt like my whole world had crumbled. I felt ashamed, depressed and rejected but then like you I heard HIS voice (God is near the broken-hearted isn't He). He thought me to stay grounded in Him. To stand not in my own strength but by His grace. To know that He wasn't just watching from the end but He was right there with me on this journey. He gave me a passage to encourage me in this journey “[God’s grace] teaches us to say ‘No’ to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, while we wait for the blessed hope-the glorious appearing of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ.” TITUS 2:12-13 To everyone who is still in the waiting season, I just want you to know that you are not alone. You have a friend in this fight, a father that loves you no matter what and a priest who is not untouched by your infirmities. Some books have also proved really helpful for me in terms of discovering the beauty of waiting and what exactly I am waiting for. They are; Dannah Gresh's "What are you waiting for" and Juli Slattery's "God’s design and why it matters: Rethinking Sexuality" and Dannah Gresh's "And the bride wore white". I saw this quote somewhere and I want to leave it for anyone who is struggling right now " The Father embraces you, The son emphasises with you and the Spirit empowers you". Walk in freedom and know you are more than a conqueror through Christ

Alignment in friendship looks like this, please, I want nothing less🙏✨✨✨✨

How timely is this conversation 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 This has been an ongoing struggle throughout various relationships for me. I'll be "celibate" when I'm single then the moment I'm in a relationship it's all out the window. I'll then indulge then start to feel guilty again and then suggest celibacy to said partner and end up getting cheated on🤦🏾‍♀️. I desire the spirit of God to help me stand in my truth first and foremost. To help me stick to what my soul wants, which is to wait. I want myself and my partner to focus on our spiritual walk together before we indulge in the physical. I also resonate with having negative perceptions of sex. I've got a pretty high sex drive btw but when I make up my mind not to indulge.. I can go without (except y'know....when I'm not single so I don't even know if that counts😭). However, I struggle with the mental aspect of sex being portrayed as a bad thing. Obviously I get constant urges but those urges turn into thoughts of condemnation. Also I can't seem to find a partner who understands where I'm coming from. It's such a struggle, the bulk of it. I pray God aligns me with someone on a similar path so that together we can tackle these things together. My lips to God's ears🥺🙏🏾

Not a coincidence I strongly believe God has led me to this video for a reason. Thank you fam for a beautiful conversation 🙏❤️

"Into me see" is typical Christian speak 😅😂. Thank you for such candid conversation! God created pleasure. He is not trying to deprive us. Rather to protect us. Also such a beautiful thing to see masculinity submitted to Christ. We need more conversations like these. They are a reminder that God abides in flawed men & women who love Him! I'm 33 and waiting. Thank you for the encouragement!

Mpoomy and Brenden you're doing the Lord's work 🤝... I resonates so much with Kabelo's suppression of these feelings in The Wait and harder to acknowledge them if you've been suppressing for such a long time

"Learn your own faith walk and learn it with the TRUTH and the SPIRIT!" 😭 Thank you

This has helped calm and clear my mind.. I have been struggling for a long time with relationships over this. I don't want to have sex before marriage which all my previous partners have been against. To me, why I have chosen to wait.. is because I want that intimacy with my husband, someone who hopefully will love the me that I am and choose to spend his whole life with me. I do not believe in divorce unless it's a situation where the is abuse of any kind. When you marry someone, you have to be willing to work through and walk through all the storms together even when you feel the love has ran out for the other person. Where there is love, there is hope.💫

Brenden when he speaks🥺. He is full of wisdom, I can’t deal😤❤️

I've told a guy I've dated this before, I was like, we can't have it anymore. He stayed in the relationship for 8 months, but eventually gave up and he broke up with me. It was soo hard cause I really saw him as someone I could marry. I'm only 23 , but I was certain he was thee guy for me. Waiting makes sense when your partner also understands the ways of God. Fornication is sin of course, but everyone is just doing it even those who call themselves Christians. So if you decide to wait, it should be your personal decision to better yourself as a Christian, to heal and so on.

this conversation touches on so many other things than just celibacy. Being true and honest to yourself and to God for one - acknowledging when you have failed/fallen and getting the strength to get back up and continue. Mpoomy Ledwaba - you truly are God's gift to us- thank you

“If I’m on earth , I got struggles , I’m flawed . “ loved it ❤️

When Brenden said "manje Wena sewphenduka usathane"😂😂😂😂😭🤣

This is uplifting. I've been practicing being chaste for one year and I've had an amazing spiritual experience. I look at women differently, I give them respect, and I have even more respect for myself. I have never been happier in my life... I feel like celibacy prepares you for marriage in many ways like being a faithful husband and father. And for me being that kind of man is my goal and I strive to prepare myself in every way I possibly can.

The honesty in this conversation is beyond! This made me ease up about sex, all these feelings and my faith. I love what Mogale said about not letting other people force their convictions on me and calling them principles of the Kingdom. One should have their own relationship with God and he is the one to convict you. My heart is full. We need more of these types of conversations

I love how both couples talked about how they’re still figuring it out in the bedroom. People set newly weds for failure when they act as if it’s gonna be bomb 1st night. Beautiful convo💜💜💜

Uyati God speaks 😊. This can't be a coincidence. Just motivation for me to keep on trying my best to be faithful to His word. I'm from watching a sermon about what Joseph had to go through when he heard His fiancee kutsi she was pregnant. There was no sense in that. Even though I'm female but I feel like Joseph right now. The storm I'm going through doesnt make sense especially after i tried doing everything the right way. But for His glory it won't all make sense. We ought to say Yes Lord and follow. Lemme tune in.

Yohh, when you spoke about suppressing feelings neh. I am celibate and pursuing purity. I would love to get married oneday but problem is i have suppressed my feels so much that i fear am gonna have a problem in marriage when it comes to sex. I needed this podcast.

I love these open conversations especially for Christians on these topics. I'm also single and waiting at 33. Sex is beautiful, our God makes it so. And it's true that our relationship with God is paramount in our pursuit to the Altar and Heaven. Great conversation! 😎 👍

Very insightful. What Mog said about not suppressing the feelings triggered me. Also, as much as I know that sex is holy, I've been avoiding talking about it all because I thought it would "disturb" my celibacy journey. I loved loved this and its timing. This is God speaking to me through other people.

Mpoomy and Brandon please save this I'm begging y'all 😭🙏🏾 I knocked off late from work.

This was a beautiful conversation. Something as Christians we don’t about a lot or as openly.

I am currently reading @Michael Todd’s Relationship Goals and also watching this podcast puts things in a much clearer perspective because I am being celibate and m being celibate alone(SINGLE) my thing is how do I then meet a partner who shares the same values as I do...?and if not how do I teach my partner to have the same values as I do? This was a great spiritual teaching especially because these conversations are taboo in The Church and yet we are children of God even outside The Church.. 🙏🏾

Brenden's editing skills are on point!! Thank you for this video, absolutely loved it.

I love how honest and real the conversations are here, I absolutely love this.

Love this conversation!❤️ And I laughed a lot, when Kabelo said There was a time when she tested Mohale and Brenden was like "Tested him how? Manje sowuphenduka usathane mos" YOH I died😂🤣

A year later this is soooo relevant, Mogale is goals the honesty and wisdom is out of this world.

I love Mogale.He's honest and open about his journey. His faith in the lord is truly inspiring and he's wise. Kabelo is blessed to have a husband like him❤

Love love Kabelo's voice; definitely will be tuning in to her channel. She's as stunning inside as she is on the outside 😍

Yoh I could write a book about this topic😭

Loved this vid. Been 6 months now being celibate while pursuing purity and it's sincerely the best decision I've taken in my life. My relationship with God has been nothing short of great, so, during the 6 month period I've been having dreams and visions and discovered that I have a gift of prophecy. I highly recommend seeking purity and I wish so many young Christians could watch this video 💙

This has to be one of the best podcasts I have ever watched. So much wisdom and openess from each one of yall. This truly came at the right time for me. May God continue to bless you guys.

Im waiting = I have an irrational fear for pregnancy and kids 😭😭

I love the Mohales 🥰🥰🥺

I'm turning 22 this year & although I've dabbled a little bit into the foreplay end of things with 3 of my 4 previous relationships, it's never gotten to a point where penetration occurs. And so far I'd say I wasn't choosing for it to happen, I wasn't going into relationships for sex, even though I'm a guy and it's sort of expected of me to be chasing after it and just not "waste chances". And it's not exactly Christianity that influenced my doubt/reluctance towards sex, I just felt like I didn't wanna do it yet.. I'm watchin this video & I'm feeling more and more grateful for the feelings I've had towards sex, for the patience that I've had so far.. I'm really glad this video exists, coz now I will actually know how to handle myself in relationships with this reluctance or resistance towards sex.. Thank you guys.. ❤

I sincerely enjoyed this conversation 😌🙌, I love how authentic mogale is.

Now this is going to be jam packed, can't wait!

This was absolutely beautiful 🥺🙏 I love the authenticity of the Mohale’s❤️

Definitely my favourite video yet. The realness and wisdom from each and everyone of you was just amazing

I absolutely love how this is filmed and edited. Talk about quality!!!

This was really amazing! It's a topic that the church doesn't really talk about. So I am so glad that you brought this conversation to this platform

This is one of the most real and honest conversations I’ve ever came across in my life it spoke to my heart and made me really reflect on my spiritual journey and just really made me aware that I’m not going through certain struggles alone since sex can be such a taboo topic. Thank you for this guys. God bless

Ugh I love the conversation on learning/unlearning when coming together 👏🏾👏🏾

It’s great to hear and see that these concepts and principles are possible and not as far fetched as society make them to be. Great conversation guys!

This Love Journey is absolutely beautiful. Oh man I loved this 🥰🥰

Thank you guys ❤.. we learning and growing .. keep on keeping on, its a sad reality that we are unable to have such conversations freely in church settings, yet this bodies we are in God formed them. Love it

So glad I got to land on this,lots of youth really need to hear this,I so needed to here this ❤️

Oh my goodness this video! I can so relate to this, really enjoyed hearing from another couple. Could we please have more of these, open, honest, candid conversations with other young married couples. You get a BIG thumbs up from me❤️

How I love, love, love the guest selection in this week's episode. I appreciated everyone's point of view and the truth in the challenges that come with being a believer in Christ and also being human about these things. You guys truly outdid yourselves with this one.💯💖

I love how Mogale speaks about openness (feelings) what a great perspective

oh what a podcast, i love the fact that you guys were honest and real. oh how i wish many young children or youth would watch this.

This conversation was sooooooo intimate!❤. Love the honesty and I'm inspired, thank you✨