I cut ties with my whole family because I got physically and mentally abused so much throughout my life. I can't find peace any more and suffer from depression. My goal is to leave my past behind and live alone in another country. May Allah forgive me ..

I am also a Christian and love this man's preaching God Bless you Brother Mufti.

I have recently been studying Islam on my own time and I’m enjoying it 🙏🏾

I'm a Christian but i like this teaching

A Lot of Mental Illness runs in the family. Some time you have to distance your self from the family. Alhamdulillah great reason to say Shukran there's so many Cities, Countries, and States you can move to and make a new home.

I swear I feel in peace when I hear the way you explain the word of God, I am Roman Catholic but I don’t know why I feel in peace when I hear you. Thank you.

I'm tired Mufti :'( since I was a child my parents always fight up until now. Still we don't know what to do. But I believe in one thing if something happens today that will break our heart, I believe that it all happened because of the qadr of allah. We will just strengthen our beliefs and prayers.

There will be disagreements and many challenges but sometimes relations become so toxic that it is necessary to maintain a distance give time to each other to calm down and see light towards right direction

It's hard to have a healthy relationship with your mother when she constantly shows you she has disdain for you. It's difficult to live like this.

The saddest part about family conflict is that the toxic narcissists that create divide amongst siblings don’t realise that their behavior affects generations! May Allah guide them to the right path before it’s too late.

I am thankful for this very inspirational lecture. I am learning Islam on my own. I am praying for guidance to know more about the ways of Islam. Inshallah

"There is no beauty better than intellect" ( Prophet Muhammad). Qur'an has all the answers to resolve any problem we are facing but we need to pay attention to it. If we follow the teachings of Qur'an, somewhere inside our heart there is a satisfaction for everything we do. This satisfaction consoles a heart and relaxes a soul. ALHUMDULILLAH and I am greatly thankful to Allah for everything that He bestowed upon me; the most beautiful form of rizq is not only money, but it's also tranquility of a soul, healthiness of a body, purity of a heart, soundness of thoughts and a beautiful soul full of Emaan. ALHUMDULILLAH!

I hv tried hard all my life. Now I have a right to myself n my child. I can’t be part of a toxic evil family . I hv a responsibility to provide my child an opportunity to be around good pious people n learn how to live a normal life. May Allah give me the strength n enough time .Ameen .

My extended family are toxic and manipulative bullies. As they've gotten older they seem to get worse and enjoin in upsetting us with unpleasant nonsense. We're always stuck in situations where we have to cater to their needs, but when we need help in times of hardships or happiness they openly can't be bothered to help. It's a never ending cycle and I'm drained.

May Allah bless us with rightous children and give us good health

I just feel like family is tireding and toxic...best family is the family u make on ur own

My mother is Catholic, I am Muslim. I lost my father over 8 years ago. My mother is so unhappy, agitated angry, and lonely. I visit everyday/ every other to support her with finances, cleaning and shopping. My husband on his day off work attends my mother's home with me to also help my mother, but she becomes even more upset. I leave my mother's home exhausted and upset as I am unable to pray, as she does not understand the deen. I am trying so hard to help her, as she too also looked after me.

Why do i always cry when listening to him i always come to his videos when im overwhelmed with depression and anxiety and try to put myself back together with the positive words he conveys about what ALLAH SWT said may he gets blessed with a lot here and in hereafter

I am Hindu from India and I like his teachings

I have so many family problems, don't even know where to begin or start. Years have passed and nothing has changed or will ever change. I'm tired

Parents are mainly the cause of family problems. Parents aren't fulfilling their duties and don't know what means to be a parent it all starts from the base it isn't strong enough things won't carry on as firmly as possible. I'm not saying this to dishonor any parents out there or mine but simply to point out the obvious. I pray to Allah to help individuals that are enduring hardship within their families

May Allah bless families and make it easier for parents. Aameen

I was physically and verbally abused by parents and brothers my whole life, my brothers are all almost 30 I’m the 4th oldest out of nine siblings alhamdulillah I have married and settled and have 2 children but I try my best to help my mum as my dad has passed on because I believe in Islam you’re supposed to look after your parents but sometimes my mum doesn’t appreciate what I do for her she always wants more considering my brothers do nothing for her they just sit at home all day and don’t work and I buy food often for them, my mum curses me still as well and says I’ll never be happy in my life if I don’t help her, what do I do in this instance as this had affected my mental health really bad 😣

I regret why I forced myself to be close with my siblings, and currently More than sometimes I don’t understand how I was stupid when I realised they are my enemies they already destroyed my family, marriage abused my children and permanently damaged my family

My parents don’t pray salah pls make dua may Allah swt guide them …

Daily Dhikr Reminder 🌻🌹Bismillah 1. SubhanAllah 2. Alhamdulillah 3. La illaha il Allah 4. Allahu Akbar

My husband Muhammad Zahoor Sahib is very unwell. Pray for him. May Allah grant him complete healing. Amen.

My first comment: Thank you Mufti Menk. I am sharing to my family 15:15 Children treat with respect 15:43 16:18 ***Jealousy between brother’s wife’s ** 16:57 Family Importance - Muslim or non-Muslim 17:52 dry log 🪵😂😂😢 22:51 🏠👨‍👩‍👧👩‍👩‍👦‍👦👦👶👧🧒🕋🕋🕋🕋🕋 27:05 verbal abuse 🛑🙊🌷🌹🌸🌞🌈🎂 30:10 **Don’t involve others*** 31:05: don’t cut within 3 days 31:15 Eid day - make an effort to cousins know each other

Am also a christian and I listen to Him always, I love his teachings

I have found myself to have all the reasons against this or that concerning parents but lately realised that I had a behavior that was far away from patience, one has to realize our parents were born at a different time, different generations, different upbringing, that they have had their own issues, their own childhood filled with good or bad or even highly traumatic events...yet, they carried on ... They surely make mistakes just like every human being make...as children, having everything is easy ...growing up in the age where technologies are spreading and having everything makes us grow sometimes very ungrateful... We expect things from others that we don't expect for ourselves. We follow trends and whatever makes us temporarily happy ... And we tend to forget that our own choices bring us good or bad results...then the finger pointing exercise starts trying to find who is guilty for our own sadness. There are healthy families where everything looks good and fantastic yet underlying issues...and there are what people call "Toxic" families because issues are not addressed properly and not resolved and teachings not passed on...where one would rather move on and forget than speak true feelings and grudging on them. So to make it short before constantly feeling down or thinking parents are always at fault ...and even when they are ...one must try to understand what they've been through and where they come from. And sometimes we have to look into ourselves and at ourselves to change and see changes around us. Easier said than done but I pray everyone having family problems will find a healthy and positive way to deal with it and In Sha Allah heal the wounds of the past with the Help of Allah the most High ,🤲🏼💕💗🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🤲🏼🤲🏼🤲🏼🤲🏼🤲🏼

I love this man may Allah guide him with protection, God bless you.

Preach it my brother we could use a brother like you in our community I tell you it's needed I am praying for this may God grant you mercy I am a Christian but I love your teaching

As a Christian, this is an amazing message. My brother and his now wife caused so much unnecessary stress in order to steal my My Moms Inheritence and My inheritanceb (From my Late Father's estate) for their own gain. My brother's spouse has caused just as much division as my own brother, Completely destroying the Fabric of the Family Unit as you say. Great video and Very Well said, Mufti. May the Lord deal with them.

Dealing them likee hell oh my Allah what a biggest test.. May Allah ease me take me away from my heartless family.

Islam is such a beautiful practice to have in your life. I love mufti I respect him so much

Jazaka Allah Sheikh for talking about this topic. So many parents treat their children unfairly and it creates much hate within the family.

What I love about these videos is that you dont get the answers to your personal problems but instead; you get the formula to the solutions which you can apply any situation. Allah swt grant us all ease. Ameen

MashAllah may Allah purify our heart from every physical and spiritual diseases. Aamen 🤲🏿

4:40 -5:14 I can relate,it destroyed my childhood literally. May Allah give us all sabr to deal with our problems

May Allah swt grant you good health success and more respectful life.... We love you Mufti Menk........from India

I am a Christian but this video was exactly what I needed. My son was very disrespectful to me but I forgive him.

I Invite you to say 💚 Alhamdullilah 💚 La illaha ila Allah 💚 Subhana'Allah 💚

May Allah bless you and your family you are a wonderful person and a great scholar. Ma Sha Allah

i try so hard... i try to speak softly, i try to be respectful and obedient... all i ask is my own life... i dont want to live away from my parents, i want to live with them but do what i want, have a life that i want.... if i want to be independent let me be... i wont do anything wrong,... i just want the same freedom that my sister has.. why is it that she can come and go anywhere and whenever she wants but i cant.... we both are adults.

I am a Christian but I always follow his video and listening his all lectures and very informative about in Islam way.❤

Whenever I listen to mufti menk molana tariq jameel sahab nouman ali khan and dr zakir naik I love to listen...it motivates me gives me strength I feel much strong and always I remember my nani ammi she use to advice for such motivational lectures. Thank you sir. I really love my nani ammi she was an inspiration to me she passed away may alllah forgive all her sins and grant her jannat. Plz make dua for my nani ammi I cried a lot I lost her. Mufti menk aap jaise neik log hai jiski vajah se duniya qayam hai.

Alhamdhulilla, Alhamdhulilla... Dear Bro's & Sister's... Iam job less for more than a year and now our situation is ???, Please make your dua in all your prayers for me and family... Jazaak Allah Khair.....

Mashallah May Allah help us all to do the right thing ameen

MAY PEACE AND BLESSINGS OF ALLAH SUBHANAHU WA TA'ALA BE UPON OUR BELOVED PROPHET MOHAMMAD SWALALLAHU ALLEYHI WASALLAM HIS FAMILY AND ALL HIS COMPANIONS

Can you please speak about today's illness; arrogancy and high ego which make the worst relations between humanbeings and is one of the most serious reasons of people not believing in God. Arrogancy leads people not to see their weaknesses, how fragile, how sensitive, how weak creatures they are... Even so called believers might be arrogant as if they had created the small mountains... arrogancy is one of the worst traps we all might fall in, May Allah protect us... 🤲🤲

Assalamwalekum I am a Muslim lady who follows the path of Islam, but my husband is totally opposite of me. He doesn't believe in Allah swt . After doing wrong also he is not ready to accept it nor Afraid of Allah swt It's only sabr and dua I make to Allah to grant him hidayat and turn him to Allah. Sometimes it is very difficult, but I think that's the test of Allah. Allah swt bless him and show him correct path.

I am definitely reminded of the deen by your lectures 😊Alhamdulillah it gives me some sort of peace of mind

As a Hindu I can see that whatever your pathway to God you come across challenges that are common. You give advice beautifully. Allah bless you. I would love to hear you talk about the Importance of living with All in peace and harmony. Why do we use religion to divide us? Yet all religions teach us to be loving .Thank you.

BarakAllaahu fee for this lecture.🤲

Alhamdulillah for an Islamic scholar is speaking, preaching and adressing people in English, in the language of the World. This is a blessing, a mercy of God for humanbeings..

Baraqallahufik Mufti Menk. Aamiin Allahumma Aamiin.

May Allah guide my father who destroyed my life and my future

Never have I related this much to a video. Subhanallah!!

Alhamdulilah thanks to Allah for he is the most gracious and most merciful and Allah bless you too.

اَلسَّلاَمْ عَلَيْــــــــــــــــــــكُمْ وَ رَحْمَةُ اللہِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ Sheikh, you look so tired! May Allah swt grant you good health and Barakah always.

Thank you Mufti Menk, ur videos are a blessing !

May Allah grant us ease 🤲 Ameen

Thank you very much for showing me the Islamic way on how to handle family problems. Alh this came exactly at the right time, as my heart felt heavy, not knowing what to do.

Mashallah May Allah swt protect you Mufti Menk Jazzakallah khair

You are an Angel on this Earth. Jazak Allah kher

Thank you sir. May Allah protect us all. Aameen.

I listen this on right time.god bless all of us.thnk u.

Jazakumllahu Khair 💞 my sheikh

Masha'Allah I really needed this today, Barakallahu Fiqkum

Your parents are either a test for you or a blessing and I pray everyone has loving parents because some of us never did. And it’s true this type of mental torture stays with you for life, in your own marriage and when you have kids, it’s almost like you have to change your way of thinking and learn again from step 1 at your adult age. May Allah swt guide and protect us all.

Jazaka Allahu khair, Elhamdu lillah 🤲🏻

May Allah bless you

Masha Allah, great teachings never dies

May Allah bless you!

Mufti you are advising the parents . Advice us how to deal with this toxic family. I want peace. May Allah guide my family members ameen

Jazaakallah khayr sheikh

Love you mufti menk. Your beautiful voice when reciting is a gift to hear. Your voice when you talk is so relaxing and I love watching you speak. Your knowledge is beyond mine and I just wanna thank you for teaching me so much at my young age.

May Allah 🤲🤲reward you for this beautiful speech.💐💐💐💐👍👍👍👍👍👍

may allah bless you mufti menk with happyness and patience in bringing the people together and making the world a safe home for mankind

Masha Allah this is good for me may Allah bless you shaik

May Allah bless us all☺

assalaamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu Uztad Mufti Qur'an is the best solution/answer for our problems in different situations. May Almighty Allah grant us guidance and protection Ameen 🤲❤️

In our society our ustaz say that we shud yes to everything parents say even she say 5+2=10 we must say yes yes thats correct. N m against that. U right we need to teach n correct our parents so that they hv correct knowledge. I am always in line w yur thoughts mufti menk. Alhamdulillah. Islam is fair beautiful and mostly common sense indeed

Jazaak Allah Khair my dear Sheikh for such a beautiful talk on such an important topic. May Allah be pleased with you and bless you and your family. Aameen

May Allah bless you alot mufti Menk ❤️❤️❤️

Tnx for sharing brother. Jazakallahu Khairan.

I.... have problems with my parents,. They do not understand about me having freedom after hard work. and they always say things like i am 10. but i'm 30 :( But this speech calm me down. thank you :)

This was such an eye opening lecture. Thank you so much for this.

Allah has tested me though me having a terrible family in my opinion in my house life I’m not aloud to even cry they don’t understand holding back tears is not healthy or even possible majority of the time

Jazak Allah khairan shaikh. May Allah Subhanahu Tala grant you immense rewards and give us the ability to take lessons from it. Aameen Summa Aameen

La ilaha illallah anta subhanaka inni kuntu min AZ zalimeen.

Lots of people suggested find a good masjid and spend time there. I did that and it was really peaceful. But now my brother in law took my peace. So I changed masjid, because I concentrate in that masjid. My brother in law was always jealous.

جزاك الله خيرا بارك الله فيك

جزاك الله خيرا أخي في الله 🌺🌷💞

Mufti Menk is the best motivational speaker!

Thank you so much for this wonderful message brother Alhmdulilah

Thank you Mufti Menk.

By simply saying I am Muslim around my phone and begin to pray regularly these videos have come through my thread. I appreciate your words to help me further understand. I really don't want to speak English anymore and it is difficult when I feel as if I have no choice I put the energy out there that I am going against something and people still try and talk to me when I don't even know them. It's like they know it I am ready to meet Allah SwT. .

When I was young I think about 3 years old my parents separated. My mother is Christian while my father was Muslim (he passed away). We were ( 3 of us)raised alone by my mother. My father got married and left us. It was really hard and challenging to be with mother. She has full of anger and bitterness towards my father. She used to tell us negative about my father. I did not understand when I was young until I reached a certain age. She loves money money. When she’s mad she used to curse me or my other siblings. I developed anger and hatred toward my mother. Not a good relationship. I always make duaa to find peace and forgiveness because my mother hurt me so much.

May Allah grant u good health Mufti. Amin.