after 10 years if a person don’t want to be my friend I would be over it.

10 years since they've seen each other??? I don't even need to hear anymore. Let that friendship GO

I had a friend of 20 years that started acting funny on me... Needless to say, I wish her well. That ship has sailed

Never beg for someone to be your friend. Just keep it moving.

They wasn't even 'real' friends. A work friend usually ends when someone leave that job

After 10 years. It’s time to lay that friendship to rest.

I mean, once your friend gets married, you can’t constantly ask her to go clubbing or hanging out all the time. You have to respect their marriage. I get it. All my friends are married and I’m still single so I always just wait for them to have the time to hang out and our friendship is still going strong!

💔 People do switch up when they get into relationships or get married. Some people use friends as placeholders until they level up. I feel sorry for the friend but it's a lesson many of us have to learn. Don't beg nobody to be in your life.

She JUST DOESN’T WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND ANYMORE!!!! Move on!!!! Don’t force people to be around you!!!

Whether it’s a friendship or intimate relationship, when someone leaves you… LET THEM WALK.

There’s a difference between setting boundaries and distancing yourself. When boundaries are set it’s communicated. She set boundaries within herself and moved how she wanted to without explanation. That was very clear in this 🤦🏾‍♀️

10 years??!! I would have NEVER cared that much 😂

It’s the audience playing both sides clapping at everything for me 😭

The friend needs to know that when one gets married their priorities change! Partying and clubbing is no longer a thing for her.

She got a real man to take care of and she don’t want to lose him periodt ❤

When you’re married, there are boundaries, real friends adjust..

This is the classic example of a single person not understanding marriage. Married people who want to stay married can’t act “single”.

They can hug all they want but lady in the brown is over that friendship 🎯

You can’t make someone be your friend. Respect the friendship for what it was when it was. Be your own friend, respect yourself and the wishes of your former friend. The conversation on display shows why homegirl in the brown kept her distance. Good job on the host for helping the woman in the black to see one of the issues.

Karamo be making ish up to make guests feel better. The married friend wasnt really missing her. She found peace.

Ngl. I prejudged the friend who “leveled up” but after hearing her talk, I side with her. The old friend didn’t respect boundaries and was messy with her words. Folks who are in a growing season don’t always want to drink and party. This is why it’s important to hear both sides of a fractured relationship.

when you find someone serious your life does change i’m glad she took her relationship seriously

You cannot force friendships, when it's over take up your heart, wish them well and move on!

I befriended an older woman who used to shade me like that about my husband. She would make silly comments like "you can't do nothing" your husband this...and your husband that from a Judemental point of view. All the while she's as single as a blade of grass. I would pick up vibes of jealousy and her wanting my undivided attention.. it started to get really weird. She started to not have boundaries like this older woman. Needless to say I cut the cord on that relationship.

She OUTGREW her. Elevation requires separation. She now has the mindset of a wife and mother. Being the wife of a successful man (successful or not) you have to let go of anyone who bring unnecessary drama and negativity. After 10 years she still haven’t matured, lack effective communication skills and the ability to control her emotions. She need extensive therapy before she can be anyone’s friend. She needs to learn to love herself first. She’s jealous that her ex-friend is happy and found a husband. If she put that same energy into herself then just maybe she can find happiness too. Gurl leave her where she’s at and continue to enjoy your peace!

The friendship is OVA.

She really doesnt have to give an explanation of her boundaries. She said NO and that is a complete sentence. The friend didn't respect her, her marriage, and felt like she owed her something. Plus, the communication is poor and its more hurt speaking than love. Sometimes marriages do end friendships. Facts of life.

Love how Karamo compliments how beautiful his guests look when they come out on stage.

It's been a decade. Grieve it, bury it and move on.

She ain’t hurt, she’s jealous, and like the old folks used to say misery loves company

Alot of women drop friends when they get in a relationship. Let them go. And when that relationship breaks down and they try to pick up that friendship again ignore them.

She called her on the show after 10 years to say “talk to the hand and girl bye?”. Some people (women especially) like to have a ‘poor friend’. They help them to keep them around. They feel uncomfortable when the friend starts to do better because they may lose them. Instead they should be happy for them and wish them well.

She got married. She changed for her husband as she should and she can still be your friend. That's all.

Married women can’t do what single women do and I don’t think she understands that

"Ur personality hasn't changed" "What am i gonna do, morph in to another person?" Loved it

I had a friend like this who blamed me for everything that happened in our friendship since childhood, yet she never took any responsibility for anything that she did.

She's crazy AF. NO ONE IS REQUIRED TO STAY FRIENDS WITH YOU!

She went from trying to explain why she said “ ask your husband’s permission” to saying she never said it. Honey it’s giving obsessed just a bit. Carmita is clearly older than her and should understand exploring new relationships and communication. But then again not everybody knows/ understands these things so it is what it is. But ten years later is wild

I was once the “betrayed” friend and took me a looooong time to accept that the friendship was over. I thought she’d come around and all I needed to do was to give her space as her life had taken a different direction. Lo and behold, I found myself waiting forever! I never got an explanation as to what happened & I pretty much never saw her again (she wouldn’t repond to my messages). I became resentful and bitter because of how much of a loyal and good friend I had been to her for her to cast me out like it was nothing. My acceptance and healing began when I forgave her and myself; I let go of the friendship and the idea that we would someday reconcile and I prayed about it. My next major friendship breakup didn’t take me as long to process and let go of because I had already learnt my lessons from the previous one. I’m still learning and won’t stop being a good friend; but now it comes with boundaries and balance so that I never have to feel like the next person owed me anything for my loyalty. It’s hard and it’s painful. But we live and we pray and we grow from these experiences. I donor regret any of them and the seasons they we shared.

She outgrew the relationship simple! When you level up in life unfortunately everyone can’t come with you.

A real friend don’t bring up what they did for u all the time.. if a real friend do something for you they’ll do it from the heart just off the love they don’t throw it in your face when things don’t go they way

I’m sorry…Carmetha is full of it. When Bianca brings up she would say “can you ask your husband for permission?” She said “yeah, you know why I said that…” @7:35. Then when Bianca mentioned it again, Carmetha said “I ain’t never said that, girl bye” @9:45. She trying to call someone out for not changing when she CLEARLY ain’t changed. Bianca need to keep pushing with her life & let that friendship stay back in 2013

Sometimes it happens people move on . Sometimes friendships don’t last

You can’t take it personally. Just gotta wish her the best.

It’s the body language for me.. Their friendship has clearly changed. From the way the married friend reacted from the beginning. It was very cold.

I feel like after this reconciliation still this friendship is going nowhere

I had a friend like this. Secretly believe it or not she can't stand the loyalty given that she can't offer. She didn't lose a friend she lost a spiritual enemy.

This lady is like old enough to be her mom. I had an older lady cling on to me like this from work. Would constantly tell me how beautiful I was etc. constant calls etc. I didn’t view her as a friend, more like a mom figure. But when I stopped answering her calls when I switched jobs she was hitting me up constantly asking me why I don’t talk to her anymore. I have a great heart and I connected with her off of the strength that I could tell that she really had a liking for me.

I feel like I'm in wonderland with Alice. If some of you think the chick in black is an example of a good friend, good luck with having any serious romantic relationships. I didn't hear they were BEST friends. They were WORK friends. One got married and had a kid. She CLEARLY said she didn't stop speaking to her bc she got married. She stopped speaking to her bc after she told her she didn't want to club and party every conversation became snide comments about her relationship and her not "having permission" to do things. She got tired of having the same conversation and the chick not respecting her boundaries. The chick in black went from saying she knew why she said that to denying she said it. A blind man can see she's toxic and wants attention. Ten years later and you're still looking for attention?! I wouldn't have even come on the show to defend myself against this crap.

Some people need to love themselves instead of depending on others.

I think they are just on two different levels in their lives. They have out grown each other.

I just lost a friend right before I got married. She started showing jealousy right before I got married. I grieve the friendship, but she wanted me to be more of a therapist than a friend and it was weighing down on me and my husband didn’t like that.

Never go where you are not wanted. The lady in the black outfit needs to get some self esteem and move on. There will be someone out there who appreciates her friendship. It's important she works on being happy friends or no friends. Life is for living 💖

I felt a borderline obsession. I get the demeanor the girl in the brown dress had but let not act like we didn't just witness that lady have a bipolar episode she laughed cried got mad came back and did it all over again. She might be a good friend but they live in two different worlds and if she can't get it together I wouldn't blame the girl in the brown for just leaving that situation. She lives differently now

10 YEARS! Miss ma’am let her go on with her life…

If you’re married and your situation changes and you don’t want to hang out in clubs , if she don’t understand that you should part ways

She Does Not Have To Be Her Friend! I Think That Old Lady Is Trouble, And Would Cause Her Trouble With Her Husband!😒😒😒

Hmmmm, I don't know about that friendship. They haven't seen each other in 10 years - maybe just let it go.

This was a good episode. Through there healing it allowed me to identify my feelings with an estrange friendship I’ve had recently.

It was the opposite for me. I cherish my friendships but everytime I upgraded my life I lost a friend. Bought house, lost a friend, got married lost a friend. I never switched up on them but finally had to realize hoes be jealous. They only loved me when I was doing bad with them. Ppl dont want to see you do better for yourself when they're not doing the same.

The audience wishy washy asl 😂😂😂 be clapping at anything

She found a good man and don’t want to lose it

She married a NFL player and her lifestyle went from struggle to the good life and she was thrown into a different world and that circle consumed her life. She probably started to hang in places where the money resides and she didn’t want to bring her chunky, average friend around her new group of rich friends. She started hanging with women that fit the mold of her new life but she tried to blame it on getting married which is bs because I bet the new women she befriended receives quality time, brunch dates and bottle service at the hot nightclubs. 🤷🏾‍♀️

I don't think this unmarried woman truly understands. When you get married, your priorities change. And for her to sit there and say she understands, I think she really does not. I just had a similar talk like this with my grown son and how people felt like I changed when I got married. They blamed my husband because I wasn't smoking or partying any longer. Sometimes in order for you to grow you have to prune somethings out of your life and people just do not get that. In the end people will always have something to say. Always. And.. What grown ass woman says,"talk to the hand?"

My childhood bestie up till high school was my ACE! We dressed a like, dated other best friends, everything. She got married at 19 and I couldn't pay her to come by or have our kids to play when we was in our 20's... I let it go... fast forward, I was like 35 and her sister begged me and a couple of her other good friends to come to her bday party because she was divorced... now she's married again, haven't seen her since... still love her but I would never rush to be by her side since I know she don't fool with ppl when she got a man...

This is typical of many women. People will use you as a friend until a better opportunity as a man comes. The lady in the brown dress was getting annoyed, didn’t need her advice anymore, & ghosted her. This lady needs to let it go. Friendship takes work and time and are important. The lady who wants the friendship is passive aggressive.

Always good to hear both sides of a story because after both. I side with the married friend.

First time watching or hearing about this show. We really need more of these topics discussed. This was so good!

One of my friends told me that I am like the only friend she has left because when she started having children, I was the only one who understood (although I have none of my own) that she doesn’t have the same amount of time she used to have to hang out and be on the phone, and therefore allowed her to reach out when she was ready. The others became upset with her. 🤦🏾‍♀️

I been in this situation but at some point you got to let it go . Not everyone is meant to your friend for a lifetime

True friendship is understanding and it is possible to go a long time without talking to that friend and still be friends when you see each other again like you haven't miss a step but you have to allow people to grow and respect their growth

This is full of ego, misunderstanding's and disrespect. It's crystal clear they naturally just grew apart and there time was up.

I see a lot of comments like “she want to be at home with her husband” but if her husband is a pro in the league he is away a lot. So it’s not adding up. Then she’s hanging with her elite friends….sounds like a bad friend to me. She moved up and left her ass in the dust.

She can not do single things, but she can remain your friend

Why would anyone BEG for friendship????? When she came out ‘justifying’, that was your answer that she NO LONGER want your friendship!!! ‘I apologize for you feeling this way…what can I & WE do to fix our friendship?’

When you love someone you don't lose time for that person never so she didn't want that friendship

I believe that she knows her friend is jealous/envious but doesn't want to vocalize it bc she doesn't want to come off as a vain snob. Also she doesn't want to really hurt her friends feelings bc she leveled up with her marriage. The lady has class and her friend doesn't. Maybe if ol girl would act like she has some sense maybe she would be welcomed into her new world.

This is weird. As a loner, I could never imagine myself going back and forth with someone because they're not giving me attention. Honestly, I probably wouldn't even notice your absence. No shade, just being real. And I wouldn't be offended once I do notice your absence 100 years later, if at all. I would just think you're living your life, as am I.

the Audience just sitting on the fence on this one, they for both sides 🙈😂😂

SMH, I stop being friends with a friend I knew for 16 years. Her energy and my energy didn’t match anymore!!!

As someone who has a few friends that are married. I can truly say it is normal once one of your friends get a man and get married that you are not going to spend as much time with that friend as you are used to. You are single and she is married or in a relationship. As a friend, you have to learn how to separate being single and being in a relationship. The friend that is in the relationship is naturally going to spend more time her with her man. Girl it has been 10 years. Yall haven't talked and seen each other all this time. Girl move on, stop being jealous and move on‼️‼️

The friend that was left behind isn’t saying everything. If he’s in the NFL she has to keep certain people out of her business because it will end up in the blogs. If she’s bringing this to a show after 10 years gives me the vibe of being messy. She could have called, texted or messaged to let her know she missed her.

Not them clapping for the both parties 😂😂

When I got married I had 2 friends that acted like this too. I'm getting older and have different priorities and I'm not sitting on the phone with you all day and going out every weekend. 10 yrs later we're no longer friends and they're still bitter and single.

If everybody that came with you can't go with you was a person. Bianca just elevated.

Never help a friend who didn’t asked for nothing … cause that’s exactly what they would tell you once they’re back on their thing 🤷🏿‍♀️ « I didn’t ASK YOU FOR NOTHING »

Everyone changes when they get married or in a relationship. You end up spending more time with your boo and don’t want to club and stuff. A real friend would respect boundaries. She sounds like a bitter lonely person. It doesn’t sound like she ghosted her but sounds like the friend didn’t understand changes. You don’t have to speak to your friends everyday to remain friends.

She saying "girl bye" but its like Girl BYE !!! lmao

Girl she is a wife. Her husband and family are priority not luncheons or hanging with single friends up in the club. Carmetha needs a husband.

She is trying to be a good wife and not lose that NFL money 😂like why would she be out all the time and lose him. Plus she has a new life.

It’s kinda giving Jackie vs Malaysia vibes from Basketball Wives but I’m here for itt 😂 I love seeing the healing unfold ❤

They way she walked through the chairs instead of walking around 😂

I respect the marriage part. But the lady in brown is tooo full of herself and don’t even think she cared about her friend. She keeps using that the friend kept asking them to go to clubs as if it was wrong of her. All she had to do is sit her friend down,tell her your new lifestyle n what you won’t be doing and both figure out another way to keep their friendship going through lunches etc.Not just shut her out like that n act like she was wrong by asking to go out with her.There’s no jealousy whatsoever ever there…. The lady is just hurt n in disbelief that she could basically change just like that.I personally don’t like that women in brown. I don’t know why that women is chasing her after so many years cause she has such a good loving heart.

She was in a different space than what she was tryin to pull her into. She is married now! The older sister should understand she is enjoying her life with her family.

That friendship would be over for me. Life is hard enough without having a "friend" who's so quick to jump down your throat. She needs to learn to communicate better. I was stressed just watching the exchange.

10yrs...let it go, move on, wish each other well & keep it movin, separately. 💯 🌻🙏🏽

I see it from both perspectives. When you’re in a relationship your time does change however, it’s ok and important to still maintain your friendships outside of your relationship as well. Spending too much of majority of your time with your Partner only is actually toxic asf.

Omg one of my childhood friends and I went through this , you definitely can outgrow people. She was very toxic. I felt peace not being friends with her. The relationship was draining to say the least.

Her husband comes first and her kids😂

This is what I call a struggle friendship. As long as you are doing bad and going through something these friends are always around. They are good to you, want to hang out and its all about the girls. However, the young lady should have set clear boundaries when she found a real relationship . Speaking from a married person, my single friends know when and what to invite me to. We schedule 1 day a month to do lunch and drinks and we talk often on the phone. Been with the same friend group for over 20 years and I have been married for 10, it works when you know your place. But yeah- this friendship is over.. Just let it go.