Probably more like...."Trust us..we have NO funds"......

Lol

Sure, if you teach them the value of money and how to handle your own affairs.

The boyfriend is probably being evasive about his financial standing because he doesn’t want to be used for his money.

That’s what I think, I wouldn’t share all of that either and get a bulletproof Pre-nup

True

She's rude asking

@@edb484 Dave does advise prenuptials when there is a significant wealth disparity. Questions like this are not able to be all that well assessed in this type of format because there's no way to get any sort of deeper information or other side. As usual the written in question sounds extremely one-sided and paint the other person never really bad light And maybe her assessment is accurate But I'm always at least a little suspicious when the one side has the other side painted in such an extreme bad light

She probably can pick this up in his whole attitude and not just these few issues. She can probably sense the laid back nature of his behaviors.

Bingo .... money is too good.

Oh no. There some golddigging tendencies. Why else would she be there to begin with? And now she sees him as a complete idiot? Maybe he said he didn't know because he doesn't want her to know details about his finances.

Why would she? Even if they get divorced she walks away with a payday

Girls gotta have something to cry about

We do?

I agree with you. If anything he isn’t useless he is smart! Dave doesn’t understand how it works in this younger generation.

That’s not usually the case with trust fund dummies

I hadn't thought of that. You are probably right.

@@alp.9672 That's the problem. The younger generation doesn't know what it's are doing.

Another perspective I didn’t think of. It’s a possibility. Good point

The fund probably makes it so she would not be able to claim any of it. That's why they keep them in a trust, to protect the assets / money.

@@majorangle oh she knows, its more than she would bring and hence she sticks

She chasing that bag.

@@darex0827 This. Unless she gives birth to his children then there might be a loophole to exploit.

First thing I thought.....

Yeah, sometimes when you reveal you're a multi millionaire in your 20s, the companionship you attract is less than desirable. And while it does take a special mindset to always be happy and wanting to work and serve others, it also takes a special mindset of "doing nothing on the back of a yacht". Dave doesn't have that mindset which is why he thinks anyone who does that is miserable.

But the guy is getting tons of action I bet.

@Day my same thought.

You are making a lot of assumptions in this. She is probably a better judge of this than we are.

Her asking him these questions kinda outs herself as "not wife material," eh?

@LaurenIsNotMyNamexo 🤣🤦‍♂️

@LaurenIsNotMyNamexo no, they don’t want a woman just staying for money

Women have to know what they are committing to. It is not good enough that they have you telling them that you love them. The sooner that a woman knows if a man is going to be a good father, husband and provider the better.

That would be about 5-10 million per child in today's money.

@@peterjna12 I don’t know I think you could do plenty of nothing on $5m.

whats the problem if you cant do nothing if they give you idk 100 million? i would have no problem with that myself

@@gussstavo that’s what he’s saying - don’t give someone $100m so that they can do nothing. You give someone $1m, it’s nice for them, but they’re not set for their rest of their life with their feet up (most likely).

Dave Ramsey has himself quoted this very same Warren Buffet wisdom but after thinking about it for many years ever since listening to Dave Ramsey on the radio in 2002 . I think it is advice that Buffet and other astronomically wealthy people hand out freely but in fact do the opposite . I think they hand out what seems like sage advice but in reality they love their own family and heirs and only say this so that others listen and follow the instructions but they themselves do not end up following it although I could be wrong and would like to peacefully and without starting up some long argument, see the proof. I saw the Buffet special on HBO where he goes to McDonald's every morning and pays for his coffee and hash brown with the precise exact change and how he is incredibly frugal and some would say cheap etc. But I still think they just say one thing and ultimately end up doing another ... I knew plenty of people who ended up doing this or they say they are not leaving anything to their kids and then one ends up getting it all. Typically it ends up in the hands of the child who visited the least and moved far away or never brought the Grand kids over to visit or in some cases even spoke the same language of the Grandparents! Besides, one person's idea of "doing nothing" differs from another and that is why we have movements like "Art IS work" etc. I myself used to think that George Lucas was set for life after the Star Wars trilogy and that he just sat around Skywalker Ranch for 20 years until he releases the Phantom Menace! Then there is Charles Darwin who was wealthy and sat around after writing Voyage of the Beagle for many years until he finally was forced by Lyle's paper , to publish On the Origin of Species. Can you imagine how many people though he was "sitting around doing nothing"playing with Earthworms, pigeons and beetles ? Or Beethoven who was deaf and extremely eccentric and a tough person to get along with who had trouble with housekeepers and sat around with left over meals in his shirt and among many sheets of music etc finally ended up with his 9th Symphony when others including his nephew Karl , though he was going mad!

Exactly, he doesnt trust her with the trust fund money

Very likely

Exactly

It's not her business how much money he has! she's talking about marriage and bringing up the conversation Not him

Yeah, maybe Dave should advise her to call Kevin SAMUELS and see what he has to say to her.

If it’s a true trust, the money comes from his grandparents or even great-grandparents. The parents may be administering it, but it’s not their money either.

exactly!

He knows he doesn’t want her to know. He don’t give AF about her

@@rachelharrison7961 wrong.

Dave clearly doesn't understand that🤦‍♂️

Exactly

Once she knows that, then the marriage is off lol

It's called jealousy.

Yup. Exactly what Dave DIDN'T do with his kids.

She does not want to know his money situation because she loves him. She wants to know his money situation because she’s trying to figure out if half of that would raise her socioeconomic status. Many women like this one try to marry up. It’s called hypergamy. She is seeking a man with more money then her. So what’s so bad about that? Why can’t the reverse happen? The reverse can’t happen because when a man marrys a woman who has more money than him, she make sure not to share it. Guys, wake up. It’s called a prenup. If you are a multimillionaire and she is broke before marriage, the same should be true after the divorce. If she does not agree to the prenup, move along.

@Day the couple is in a pre-engagement “dating” phase. She may be thinking marriage but him, not so much. I’ll stand in agreement with the guys decision to not disclose. Keep in mind these callers only tell half the story and Dave has a established strong bias of being harder on the men and softer on the women.

You're totally right. It surprises me that this isn't obvious to others. A girlfriend who is determining whether she would like to become engaged based on how much the guy owes on his house is the real red flag here.

Yeah, all of the important questions that were left unanswered. Highly doubt that this guy is Hollywood lvl of dumb.

He is either very cunning or is just dumb. I think she sees that he is dumb based on his general life attitude.

I had a friend who was a bridesmaid for her college chum. Bride (family had a little money) quit her job to have time to plan her wedding. Married, she and groom didn't have money for something she wanted, called her dad, and he said, "You're married. That's your problem now."

He may have a flippant attitude but she can make him become switched on by teaching him about life. He may just have no experience. She will need to get these ideas' across to him before marriage.

@@bighands69 girlfriends/wifes/boyfriends are not for teaching you how to be an adult or fixing your boy's/girl bad habits..

Pre-nup? everything in the world is in the trust, owned by the "Family", even the checking account.

She’s just another parasite worried about a mans money…. Its really none of her business.

Yeah I got married to my wife and she doesn’t get my trust. If anything happens to me she lives off the interest only cannot access the trust for the principle of it. It goes to my daughter and other kids. I can’t access full trust till 40 anyway. Parents have there own trust which we won’t inherit till they’re passed. Same for my mom. If anything happens to her my father can’t spend principle and can only live off the interest the trust makes… trust can’t be sought in divorces typically unless they were established by both parties I believe.

@@aolvaar8792 no I want a prenup

@@mambofuego5101 Not if you get engaged. She needs to know... maybe not the details but she needs to know in general.

maturity isn't an age.

FACTS 💯

Yes, they are not even engaged, and might never get engaged. How many dates does she go on with him before she wants to know his net worth?

Sure, but they aren't entitled to it. They have to earn true love and companionship from someone.

He might take her the same way. I don't know

No they don't

Couldn’t say it better

Exactly

I raised my children in a nice large house, several cars, holidays, home theater and good quality clothing. Every one of my children had to work within the family businesses and got paid a wage in their teen years that they could use. I gave my daughter money to start up a business and it is arranged in such a fashion that I get a share in the business that she started. As long as there is something to work for, there is a struggle and the children understand that they have to have goals then they all have a good chance in life. Children with mountains of toys, coasting through life with no challenge and everything gets provided for without even an explanation can be a recipe for disaster.

Well she cannot rely on that. She has to have a clear picture of what is ahead. She does not want to marry a bum with a laid back attitude.

He has to let his wife know what sort of life they are going to have. The wife needs to know if it will be a large sum of money if he is not going to work or a medium sum of money and he will need to work. If they are get married and have children she needs to be 100% sure that he is not a bum.

Or more often applicably...the female rapes his wallet in divorce, alimony, and family courts using the kids created as leverage and making up abuse lies.

-Dave

bingo

What does that scenario have to do with this one? I don't understand the analogy.

@@MichaelAnderson-wk1no I have seen, more than once, a man call or write in concerned about the spending of his wife/girlfriend. Their response has been either you need to "feel her pain" or, in one case, blame him for not the bad relationship in the marriage (Dave was responding to a letter so he made that evaluation without talking to him) . I have repeatedly seen them refer to a man as a "boy" as they do here. Fair enough. I would once like to say that a grown woman acting like a spoiled teenage brat needs to grow up.

@@dabliss101 David, who are we kidding..... Dave is the biblical simp

Found the trust fund baby

@@Kill3rGr1zzly Not me. If that's what you are implying. Maybe you found the guy who wanted to work, struggel, save, invest so that he wouldn't be a loser and then was told by his wife (who liked to spend) that his god was money even though he made giving to God and to the missions a high priority, maybe you found that guy.

😂🤣😂🤣😂

No doubt about it!

Exactly.

The men in this comment section are gross. Stop.

maybe the trust fund has been going on for generations. I've known some that were born into such a situation.

Accepting or declining the trust fund doesn’t make you a big boy. You can use a trust fund, and with it work hard and have more money that you can pass on to your kids/grandkids as well as to others

Have you ever heard of generational wealth

He may really not know anything. I used to live with a dude that couldn't budget to save his life so now when people tell me something I take what THEY SAY LITERALLY. I am totally worried about his income only b/c she did not mention a job of any sort.

Seriously I can’t decide if he’s actually that oblivious or if he’s being smart and not disclosing his finances haha

That's my thought. He playing dumb because he doesn't want her to know his finances. Rich parents warn their trust fund babies about marriage and golddiggers. Having assets in a trust protects them from becoming marital assets.

I feel like she is more curious to find out how much she is going to marry into if she gets it.

@@littlesongbird1 that could be it.

I'd want to know before I marry.

He should at least have a plan. Being in a relationship as an adult finances need to be discussed so nothing will be shocked in the relationship. For all she know he $5 million in debt. The moment she marry him , she owes $2.5 million.

There are people who wish they were not in a wheelchair, have parents, live in America and so on.

You CHOOSE your employer. You don't choose your parents. HUGE difference.

And also, Dave knows that he OWNS his company. He doesn't OWN his children. So, a different approach is congruent with the difference.

People choose to work there and they abide by the company rules. It is that simple otherwise they find another job.

Money can't buy you happiness, but at least you can choose your misery.

@@felisleo101 money can buy you a jet ski, have you ever seen someone upset on a jet ski?

Dude I am not even a trust fund baby and when I was living in Canada me and my roommates had a maid who used to cook, clean, and "babysit us" for us. I don't think he needs to know anything about anything as long as it is all paid for. Why does price matter as long as everything is being paid!!!!

Agree with you, but sitting in the back of a yacht is still nice without earning it. A steak is still a steak.

Not necessarily?

@@johnpichla9557 You are correct. Not necessarily, but it begs the question as to what the woman sees in him in the first place and why she is questioning the obvious. Too often, people take on spouses as a "project" when they are already a finished project.

Amen if she's not comfortable talking over bills and going over a budget....EX...her