Omg her family is delusional 💀 her mother is such a bad mother Edut: Her sister though 💕💕

Interesting... I would NOT have expected the sister's reaction. In my mind, I only saw three probable outcomes to telling her: • She believes OP, but feels guilty for bringing BIL into her life and that makes her defensive and puts her on the counter-attack. • She doesn't believe OP, and treats it as a false allegation that threatens her family, and goes on the offensive to get ahead of the issue. • She thinks something likely happened, but buries her head in the sand, rationalizing it as "there are two sides to every story, and they probably don't remember it that well" But actually being supportive though, I honestly didn't see that coming. The Father... He doesn't sound like a bad guy, just kinda useless in this regard. Putting the SA aside even, his older daughter was dating and married an abusive alcoholic who thinks "not remembering" is an excuse. Most fathers would have broken the guy's legs long before he married into the family, lol. He's just passively trying to do the absolute minimum. I get it, he doesn't want to get involved in something that can ruin his daughter's marriage or jeopardize his relationship with his grandkids. But that's a thought process for a much smaller offense. Given the allegations here, that logic just doesn't cut it. The Mother... I know the type. She wants to keep the peace at all costs, which means she deflects anything that could threaten familial harmony. Down-play everything, try to sweep it all under the rug and expect everyone to play "happy family" no matter the circumstances. Her intentions aren't malicious, but her shallow outlook on things will ultimately destroy her family. I understand, with parents like these who turn a blind eye to anything, why OP was so hesitant to come forward and talk about it. She was raised by people who think it's more important to not make a scene... she knew she wouldn't really be heard, and even if she was, no action would be taken on her behalf, and she's be accountable for any actions she chose to take. Her parents may not be "bad people", but they are absolutely "bad parents". They're just not cut out for the job. The sister though, while she may have some bad taste in men is actually a pretty decent person. She took the situation seriously, was supportive, not defensive, no gaslighting, asked relevant, non-accusatory questions, committed to keeping her husband away from OP at any cost. She's not in an easy position here either, but she's making an effort and taking accountability as a sister. That's awesome. BIL... he should be in prison. It would likely be difficult to prosecute at this point, so I doubt that will happen. Most SA allegations actually go nowhere in court, sadly. There's a high burden of evidence and much of it comes down to conflicting testimony. Usually the people who get busted after that long have multiple accusers lending credibility to the claim. OP should report it, but I wouldn't expect much to come of it at this point. This is why it's important to come forward immediately. Not everyone can, but you have to weigh your personal discomfort against the prospects of him doing this again and victimizing someone else. As difficult as I'm sure it was for her back then, I wish she had made a different choice.

Why does everytime i hear stories like this. Its always Mother doing god awful decisions Yes the father too

happy for op that things are improving

My brother in law SA me, my mother wasn't on my side* There fixed the title

*Imagine taking the side of a R@PlST over your own flesh & blood*

Just stay completely away from ALL FAMILY!!!!

You can't say that you're uncomfortable around her husband and then try to be in her and your nieces and nephews lives. You need to either tell her the full truth or stay away from them

The fact that she didn't speqk up the moment it happened and continued to remain silent while her sister had children with this man is insane 🗣 No amout of trauma in the world is going to make me stop standing up for myself! Ma'am be assertive and stop letting everyone literally run over and through you 🗣