Gosh darnit, i wish it would've been 84% you suck daniel ☹️

Are VPNs worth it? I keep hearing about them, but I haven't tried one out yet.

porn

Harry Potter on Japanese Netflix! 👀

First part - I thought it was like Edward and bella Second part - a little creepy version of Edward and bella Third part - he finally entered in his real face Btw Edward and bella was reference to twilight saga

NVM OMFG I WATCHED FURTHER AND HE NEEDS TO GO TO JAIL

Yuuuuuuuup same, nothings wrong with asking if it's a question not a JUST BEING RUDE SORTA ALMOST A QUESTION

lol i love the replies as another autistic person, but yeah... i cannot say what i wanted to say due to me being less than the age of 18

Idk, sometimes their "curiosity" can come off in a weird way. One time I was talking to a guy and he *interrupts* me to ask "are you autistic?" but in a sort of, like, "I can see what you are, praise me!" kind of way, as if he was somehow so much smarter just for asking. I found it really embarrassing. It was also really frustrating that he interrupted me just to ask that question in such a mighty way. I didn't talk to him again after that.

as an autistic person, i 100% agree

I 100% agree. Also i think it’s different if the person asking is neurodivergent themself.

THIS!!!

Yes. Absolutely. Context and tone are key factors into whether you could offend an autistic person with that question

Or if they ask it like an insult (“are you stupid?” Kinda way)

It didn't feel like that to me but I'm not super socially adept

Exactly this

A boy in Junior High who should have been in high school was offended my 12 year old self who was just starting 6th grade was fawning over him so he told everyone I was gay and I got bullied for that. Thing is I'm actually autistic. Also, I was not at the level of maturity to be a part of the dating world yet.

Because Lord knows it couldn't be his attitude or personality, or even just that they simply aren't compatible. No, he's perfect - the perfect male specimen of which all women want. There must be something wrong with her. Obviously. Edit: Upon further review, I feel like this dude ain't compatible with anyone on the planet... but what do I know? I'm just an Ace autistic woman, which clearly explains why I don't grasp how perfect he is.

Same...plus it shows she's not just ignoring his messages, she was legitimately busy.

Exactly

Yep, and also, anything is more important and interesting than giving this clown attention.

she reminds me of me lmao, idk why he thinks she's weird, it's normal how she responds (mostly when he's defensive af)

Literally! Like it literally pauses the video every time you get a message, its annoying af.

My autistic partner agrees with this sentiment.

Exactly, context matters, and the context here definitely makes it offensive

This

I know there are varieties of autism, but I learned that most autistic people are not good at getting tones or kinda signs like that, when talking to others. (Even though many "normal" people (who's normal for real, and sry for quoting it like this, because of my lacking knowledge of words) I would like if you or others could help to fill my lack of knowledge.

@@user-nd1ef8xj6d At least for me, and some people very close to me who are also autistic- it’s not that we don’t always not see or understand tones and signals. It’s more so that we see so deeply into it, more than the average neurotypical person. We see all the different subtle tones within one tone, and all the possible meanings behind a signal, it makes it overwhelming, and so we may respond very plainly, choosing to not respond in any way that shows we took it or understood it in one specific way. I need you to be direct; I don’t like to guess, even if I’m certain on your intentions.

Definitely. I've met plenty of attractive men that I never even contemplated getting involved with. Personality is a huge factor too. They can be attractive physically, but their personality can be a total turn off, or even just not what you're looking for. Just the act of getting hit on by a cute guy shouldn't be a deciding factor for if you're willing to date them. It only opens up the possibility.

yeah exactly

​​@@martibee8984 Right!! How is he missing the fact that even if OP *was* interested, that fact could change after the dude made things awkward by doing the whole "you don't like meeee" thing in front of their friends? I would get the ick so fast no matter what the person looked like lmaoo

I was looking for this comment! YES! Thank you!

You are insane lmao I can find a guy is attractive and not want him

You absolutely nailed it. My thoughts almost exactly.

LMAOO NEURO-SPICY 💀

Haha like fr! I kept thinking the same thing. Like, dude, I can say the same shyte about my brother, that most certainly doesn't mean I'm into him. It just means I am capable of recognizing that this person technically has conventionally attractive physical characteristics. Okay and? That don't mean I'm flirting with said individual. It's just context. I thought it was obvious from the beginning that she didn't want anything to do with this guy.

Imo op seems like the kind of girl who likes to keep a safe distance from guys they don’t trust and maintained a healthy disinterest in her communication to promote that distance. I think the note about her following a recipe on yt was to indicate that she is happily and peacefully going about her life/interests in contrast to the madness happening in the messages she’s not even paying attention to.

@@malisaurus2367 Agreed 100%. I did not find it weird to say that she was watching a thing on YT. Just explaining that she was in the middle of something and didn't check her phone but wasn't purposely ignoring crazy dude (she didn't know yet how crazy he was).

Agreed. Especially when coming from a guy like this who clearly meant it as a neg/insult. I would immediately be guarded.

​​@@careleo wait he clearly meant it as an insult? im also autistic i thought he was just asking genuinely 😭 (ive only seen the first conversation tho) EDIT: watched the second conversation. ew

Happened to me once in person. Don't know if he was too, and just wanted to ask me to see if we had something in common, but it wasn't fun because I didn't know this guy well and he wasn't nice to most people, so I just took it as him saying "I see you're acting weirdy and need to see if I'm right."

Well, are you autistic?

I think the only situation in which that wouldn't make me uncomfortable would be if it were just another neurodivergent person trying to make friends. It's just creepy and disrespectful in this story. 😮‍💨

😂 indeed it's better that he doesn't remove those moments ❤ but what does the head mean? 🤔

@@ZiggaMauit has a similar meaning to calling someone stone-faced. An expression can be described as ‘stony’ right? It’ll mean different things in different context, but its the equivalent to someone having a blank/unimpressed facial expression in response to something

@@AnEmu404 thank you ❤️ I've seen the heads popping up in posts recently and that's what I was thinking they were but sometimes I'm way off on things like that 😂

Thank you! Daniel: Why does she keep using the Stonehenge emoji? She uses weird emojis. Me: It's not Stonehenge, it's Easter Island!

GOLD

my ovaries are dead after reading that conversation

"Hey girl, are you autistic because I'm the glasses kid from Polar Express and I want to talk about trains all day and night with you"

right? I think people are cute all the tine, but if they're an absolute knobhead then they're still a knobhead. or, in this case, a fucking psycho.

Well, I'm glad she got a restraining order in the end, I was so concerned for her. I felt like I was reading something from a horror film.

@@Imreallyboredsick if I'm remembering correctly, he didn't give her a choice. He even started leaving gifts at her door. I was concerned for her too. I've been in those situations. They're scary.

Honestly, I don't think he was trying to be funny. I think he was being dead serious in a derogatory way, so it's great that it turned out more ridiculous and funny than the insult he was going for.

I’ve autistic family and once someone asked me if they had “that vaccination disease” and astaghfirullah I had to laugh

Asking someone straight up “are you autistic?” Because they arent reacting to your jokes or flirts is kinda out of line, in my autistic opinion, i would be weirded out and yeah maybe a little offended because my disinterest in someone doesnt mean im autistic, it means im not interested. He thinks there must be something “wrong” with her because of her not playing into his games

Honestly yeah I feel bad at laughing at the train bit, it was funny! But again his whole crazy rant just I couldn't take seriously in the first place what a clown

The train line was genuinely so funny it might become an in joke with me and my autistic friends

I personally really love the image of this guy going on a rant, with the little truncated message push notifs going off and her ignoring them as she watches the video. It really paints a picture. Also he couldn't wait like what--how long are most cooking videos, even longform? Half an hour? Tops?

I was just thinking of all the times I’m watching something and a group text starts popping off. You’re constantly having to close the notifications when they’re popping in front of your video. There’s a reason some of my bigger group messages have alerts turned off

I thought of it as more like "I have better things to do than listening to you on your crazy soapbox"

@@gambitgurlisis even if it's real complicated, or the person has a thick accent or something so you gotta watch each part 3 times, that's still only like an hour or so, perhaps 2. For all he knows she could be having a nap, and not even awake to see the messages 💀

I genuinely can't believe this guy is real, just for the sake of my own sanity. Please please be faked messages or something. Also hello fellow demi!

Literally this - I have been accused several times of being gay by a friend I've known for a year, just because they can't fathom that I've been too busy for a relationship and have standards. It's wild. Also, this guy is completely freaking nuts.

Demi reunion up in here 😄

He kind of insults her like 'wtf is wrong with you' and then he says I love you. I honestly don't know what he wants at this point

I'd seen the first two parts before. I had no idea what was coming

She set very firm boundaries though, I really liked her response. Hopefully she went to the police as well.

Even I would choose a bear and I AM a Bear

THANK YOU. The absolute entitlement he has for her attention and the aggression leading up to that tantrum was wild. It does matter if she's autistic or not. If she's not showing interest in you LEAVE HER ALONE instead of begging her to like you? He's unhinged and needs therapy. He can't handle that someone he likes doesn't like him. It's so embarrassing.

Fr like take no for an answer jeez

What does "mind my ps and qs" mean?

​@@catbatrat1760It's just a saying for minding your own business, not worrying about other people's problems.

Thaaaaaaaannnk yoooouuuuuuuu! That was such a clear, no thank you sir. 😢

That man doesn't know how to read a room. He probably doesn't even know he's in a room 💀💀

It's typical narcissistic behaviour. The guy is dangerous af

I agree, I think he is ironically getting "neged" by the girl. Not intentionally but the result is the same. He is so sure he's hot shit that any chink in that ego armor is like a dam breaking. "Well, if this girl I find value in because I'm attracted to her doesn't love me that means I may not be perfect which is impossible." Look, I was a broken little emotionally abused boy when I first started dating at the end of high school. I had no clue how to respond (this was the pre-internet era) when I was rejected. It hurts so your initial response is to be nasty back, depending on how you're rejected, obviously. I would often take girls literally when they would say, "No, sorry, I have to go to the store later." when I would ask them out and say, "Well, I can go with you!" and... not get it. They were trying to be nice and I was being a clingy idiot. I don't think I ever responded to anything as harshly or horribly as this dude did, save for a long-term relationship that ended with the girl cheating and ghosting me. That was me having hurt, anger, frustration, and pain without a place to put it and just talking horribly to her. I apologized to her years later and she forgave me, thankfully. This dude, though, needs to learn real quick that disinterest is almost always an answer by itself. If it's ambiguous, or you're not certain and weren't given a hard, "No." I think it's reasonable to try again later or something but be mindful that anything but a "yes" is a "no".

333 (i didn’t like your comment)

The fact that the boyfriend _knows_ his dad is like that, and still gave him the OP's number is just... very yucky.

There are few red flags bigger than being passive when a family member behaves inappropriately towards your partner. That situation will only go downhill and she needs to cut and run. Just giving out your gf's number without her permission is bad, but giving it specifically to a family member you know is a creep? Abhorrent.

In the beginning it did sound as if she’s into him though especially her mentioning it. The rest after that was absolutely insane from him.

Real. In no way did I see her initial conversation flirty but blunt and disinterested. I would be put off too if he tried starting drama about her not liking him then texting later & accusing her of being autistic in a very rude way. The fact he kept pushing set off so many red flags but it’s ok since he’s such a “good guy” 🤢

@@SchgurmTewehrnah I don’t think there was any flirtation at all. She said he’s “cute and chill” as a way to let reddit know that the guy seemed OK at first, which is why she was even talking to him in the first place. Same way someone would start a conversation with, “Yeah, she was shy and nice.” without actually being close or caring about the person they were talking about. It’s just a little description. Doesn’t mean she’s into him, just another way of saying she didn’t expect him to be such a dimwit since he seemed chill at first.

​@@SmeltingSmoresright???? women be replying dudes' wall of texts with one single word, and somehow they still think there's flirting in the girl's part like??????? lol

I'm neurodivergent and can definitely spot things I recognize in other people and I was reading this girl's messages and honestly agreeing with him, she does seem neurodivergent to me lol I wouldn't outright ask someone in case they're insecure about it but I would definitely be assuming it atp.

I was thinking similarly, that the only people who’d ask like that are those that can recognize autism symptoms as autism symptoms and doesn’t just blindly stigmatize it or someone who sees autism as an insult and is asking rhetorically as a way of saying “you’re a freaky weirdo and should stop acting the way you act.” Most allistic people can recognize when someone’s different, but instead of making the connection “oh, they might have a different neurotype” they instead just see the person as different and equate that as being wrong, this is why a lot of people who claim to be supportive of autistic people will still be extremely ableist and unaccepting to anyone who shows autistic traits, even if they know someone is autistic they will still have no tolerance for them displaying traits of it. My mother watched corny autism shows like Atypical and The Good Doctor because I’m diagnosed autistic and yet she would still be upset at me for displaying even the most basic of autism symptoms like the characters in those shows.

I have AuDHD & I actually don’t think she’s autistic based off of her texts and her behavior that the roach described. I have a passionate dislike for arrogent men and I think that was her case. Like maybe she sensed that about him from the start and thus couldn’t bother to entertain him by laughing at his jokes (that probably weren’t even funny but people will laugh at someone’s bad jokes if that person is attractive enough) and being friendly with him. I experienced a weird older colleague of mine (when I was 18 and he was 26 😀) making it desperately obvious that he was into me so I started avoiding him and having as minimal contact as possible. Because I was trying to avoid the awkward situation of him confessing to me and he creeped me out. I imagine It’s not easy to limit contact with someone when he’s part of your friendgroup. So I’m assuming here that she actually wasn’t that fond of him from the beginning and is leaving that out to make the first texts of the series seem more sensational. But yeah I’m kinda judging based off my own experiences so it’s just a crazy theory. BTW at first I thought the texts were entirely fabricated since his creepy desperation was like a toxic character straight out of some cringy wattpad story 🤠 Like seriously who talks like that?

Lmao I once had a teacher assign the class something (it was a kinda new topic) and he came over to my desk to see what I had done so far and he said “whatever (my name) is taking, you all need to be taking it too” to the rest of the class. I straight up said “Adderall. I’m on adderall.” With a perfectly straight face. And he sputtered out “then I guess everyone else needs adderall”

i feel like its also different when it's a neurodivergent person asking if someone else is neurodivergent, because most of the time it's us looking for community and connection, and trying to make friends with other neurodivergent people

Really depends on why he asked in an insulting way yea im punching you as a joke I'm probably going to laugh

I don't think it had anything to do with his feelings towards autistic people tbh. It was only to do with the fact that she wasn't interested in him. (Not defending the guy, he's a cunt)

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Nailed it

As a woman, I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than be messaged like that

@@antine1279 🤝

😂 I couldn't come up with a funnier retort if I tried! The fact that it wasn't even meant to be funnier just cracks me up more.

DND = autism?

She's probs autistic. I do this and I'm autistic too. We do tend to have a sense for these things hahah

"I have a sense for these things" and going "DnD = autism", yeah it's funny how I know exactly what type of person she is lol

It cracked me up too. The typical phrase is 'with child', meaning pregnant, so that's where my mind was lol.

That makes sense I saw a different video covering this story and that comment section said for the most part"the question itself out of the blue wouldn't bother me. In fact, it's appreciated!!" I remember being really confused by that comment section

Same. I don't mind if people ask me. But it's only really if they pick up on my neurodivergent habits. If, however, someone were to ask me the question as we meet for the very first time, that's when I would be uncomfortable. It's obviously an outlandish scenario, but that's typically how I will compare the differences in approach

Also White with the capital W took me Out lmaooooo

Lmaooo what? 😂

@@udontevenwannaknowbruv you heard me

You gotta scream in low-frequency vibrations, though.They don't die out over long distances. _So_ much cheaper than texting!

Stereotypes? It’s literally a condition with certain traits.

@@SchgurmTewehr Autism is an enormous spectrum, they don't all share the same traits. There are definitely autistic stereotypes. Did you completely miss the quip about trains? It might've been funny, but it's still a stereotype. People can be obsessed with things. or be uncomfortable in social settings, without being autistic.

I hope you don't mind me asking but what does visibly autistic mean?

I think they mean high functioning which is alot more obvious I guess! But that's just me, usually signs that are obvious are like [unable to control the volume of your voice, obsessively talking about one thing, shy or reserved at first and bad at conversations with others, mannerisms like touching or picking at yourself] but everyone's experience is different!^^​@@catlover.triangleheadprod4887

​@@catlover.triangleheadprod4887im also confused by that 😭

​@@madness_maniai feel like low needs autistic people are harder to clock than high needs autistic people tho, at least that's the general concensus of society and why many low needs autistic ppl go undiagnosed for so long. low needs autistic people are usually high masking

​@madness_mania Isn't that "Low functioning"? I thought the term came from the concept that if you're unable to hide it, you're not good at functioning in society.

update after i finished the video: agreed he might kill her yikes, im wondering if this will turn up as evidence in a future case

I mean I am the same way, if someone asked me so blunty I would Definitely say yes or no, but again with context here I would be upset in most cases people just want to be respectful and understanding! People try really hard not to be rude when it comes out it's just hard to dance around a subject like that^^; from my own personal experience as a disabilities worker and having autistic family members an myself

i dont think she was odd at all, he was the odd one.

I don't think she's odd at all, just not interested in the guy

Depends on context. Asking out of curiosity? perfectly fine imo, but this has such a derogatory tone to it, such as to imply that there's something wrong with her which is rude asf

@@erythrosnoia2919 100% what I meant, thank you. A lot of people misunderstood me, but thats pretty common for me LOL

This

As an autistic who is very very into trains, I was like "he's right, this is in fact the devil, but the devil's funny though" lol

@@space0case24the devil is (ironically) funny as hell

Saw the whole thing… outgoing folks, value and look out for your quieter friends…their mere presence may very well expose the creeps in your midst!

Yeah, I absolutely get where you're coming from. I was thinking along the same lines, although I'm the outgoing one. However, I married the quiet one, and getting closer to him and seeing him open up was a treasure!

I was absolutely thinking about the mild over-explaining as a trauma trait, but could also see it as just painting the picture. Then again, I also over-explain, so to me that _would_ seem like "just painting the pic".

I thought it was so weird that Daniel thought it was weird. To say you were trying to watch a recipe on youtube while being harassed by a guy just gives context and is dryly funny.

Hes a golden god!

Then when she said he was cute. People can call other people cute without feeling an ounce of emotion or attraction. It's almost like she was just making an off-hand comment.

@@Kinyarii98 yeah, you can recognize that someone is attractive or cute without any feelings. Just because she mentioned that the guy was cute doesn't mean she had feelings for him, it's just that from her perspective his physical appearance matched what "cute" is to her.

She seemed very neurodivergent to me too. Adding unnecessary detail no one asked for or needs is a common ADHD and autism trait. The odd emojis and totally flat speech seemingly without much emotion added to it for me.

I think he was confused by the Stonehenge emoji

​@@jijitters the detail isn't odd tho? she just wanted to emphasize she was busy. and the emojis are so fcking normal too lol like, this is literally how half gen z speak on the internet. and the flat speech is simply a woman who's trying to make it clear to a dude she's not interested in him

so true, like he sees her as his manic pixie dream girl when she's actually just her own person

oh good god

engaging in possible tresspassing charges but definitely stalking.

🤣 dead af

Although also because I’m autistic, I would read that guy as trying to INSULT ME and not GET WITH ME

Yeah but how did the 2nd get even creepier

@@SchgurmTewehr SERIOUSLY DUDE I WAS HORRIFIED WITH EACH MESSAGE HE KEPT SENDING. I GAGGED WHEN I HEARD THAT PART AT THE END.

How cold you not? Trains are great!😂

Also I don’t like to use punctuation

Is there a reason? Not trying to be rude, I’m just genuinely curious as to why someone wouldn’t like punctuation. Also, sorry if this message sent twice, I’ve been having technical difficulties all day lol

⁠​⁠@@prefertoremainanonymous-vp2gp I think it’s a joke but tbh I’m not sure bc I’m also autistic