Bro the youngest is living in a dramatic house but still has a good personality

The oldest daughter made so many sacrifices for this family and yet the 2nd daughter dares to say ''she didn't try that hard for scholarship''...

They really tried to make the older sister look like the bad one but we see through the bullshit lol

Oldest really throw her pride to apologize yet the second eldest asked her to apologize for other specific thing is pretty much explain the difference between these two

Lollll did the mom ever stop and think that the eldest couldnt have all those gold star accomplishments because she was busy paying bills???

*Mum: picks favourites, compares, says mean things to her eldest child* Daughters: fighting and arguing *Mum: I don’t know why they’re like this, is this my life?*

i teared up for the older sister. :( i really appreciate everything youngja said at 26:08, she was spot on

"I'll cut down on drinking" Hearing this broke my heart because even then, the older sister is the only one who has to amend her habbits so that the family can live in supposed peace. Did anyone even bother to think as to why she was drinking in the first place? The poor girl clearly had no one to turn to with her sorrows, so she ended up suppressing her feelings with liquor for all those years. The mother and the middle daughter really have the audacity to think that she's the ONLY root to these issues. I couldn't help but cry with the older sister.

I think the one need to send her concern is the eldest daughter

i love how theyre blaming the oldest because of her drinking but shes drinking because of them

Im sorry, but I'm more to eldest's side. She deserves all the love. Im crying while watching this :'((

I love how the entire time, the mother and the second daughter blamed the oldest for the constant fighting, yet refused to take responsibility for their own actions which led up to all of it. The oldest made so many sacrifices for her sister and family, and I'm guessing the only one who understands that is the youngest daughter. Also, the second daughter truly blows me away with how entitled and spoiled she is. She did the things that her sister couldn't so, partied and had fun at college while her sister couldn't go to college and had to work. She needs to learn how to be grateful. Also, I wanted to slap her when the oldest gathered the courage to apologize in front of national TV, and her sister goes "well I really want an apology for something else" like how much worse can this girl get. The mother and the second daughter both owe the oldest daughter an apology. She drinks every night because she hated the way her life is. She gets no support from her family other than the youngest sister, and every time a fight occurs, the mother and second daughter tell her they wish she'd disappear. Alcohol is the only thing for her right now that can make her forget all of that. They're lucky she chose alcohol and didn't turn to drugs!!! This is the consequence of constantly comparing your children to one another. They grow up feeling resent for the other sibling, and as time goes on, they end up cutting communication with one another. You can't expect your kids to get along if you constantly compared, favored one, and belittled one when they were growing up. The oldest daughter isn't a saint, and I'm not excusing her behavior, especially the alcohol, but there are too many reasons for why she acts like that that aren't being addressed. Edit: sorry for the rant lmao, I usually don't comment on these, but i could relate to the oldest and couldn't help but say something

i feel sorry for the eldest .. she made a lot of sacrifices yet had to take blame for something thts not quite her fault... but parents should seriously stop comparing their children with each other or someone else's children i mean how would they feel if their child start to compare them with their friend's parents or aunt/uncle

The second sister feels so entitled the way she asked for specific apologies even till the end she never understood. Also bringing the attention back to herself when her sister was crying yet the older sister still tried to be the better person when it must have been difficult for her. The cast should have focused more on the second daughter and the mother for being the problems like the mom evaded the favouritism point by directing it to her drinking problems HONESTLY I’m so sad for the old sis and angry at the rest except the youngest

The eldest daughter made me cry. I hope she finds happiness and a reason to continue living. She’s still young at 27 and can accomplish a lot. I like how young-ja praised her for her hard work and made her feel appreciated

The eldest daughter wasn't really resenting her family, she was just frustated with her life & the sacrifices that aren't validate & appreciated. If she really resented her family, she would've walk away long ago and never help her family at all.

I don't normally comment on these videos even tho I watch literally all of them. However, I cannot believe how selfish the second daughter is. The eldest daughter is no saint, but she's clearly acting the way she is because of the stress she has been through for years. She's lacking love from her own mother, she had to quit school, work every day, which equals not having time to see friends or family, and while all of this was happening, she was able to witness what a great time her sister and everyone else around her age had. I wish she would work on her actions but that her family would be more understanding. Cutting down on alcohol is all she has to do.

It's sad how the oldest was obviously depressed and became alcohol dependent to sleep. They didn't care for the root cause but instantly judging her for it. Seeing her crying when hearing appreciate comment from one of the counselor, you can see that's all she wanted to hear from her family. Acceptance and validation for her effort. My heart goes out for her. Hope she ll be able to find peace.

Elder daughter: *gives a deep well thought out genuine apology* Middle sis: ApOlIgIzE fOR sOmTHibG thaT hAPpPend 8 yeARs agO .... Middle sis: sorry for bothering you after work Me: 🤡🤡🤡

Eldest sister, step aside. I'm ready to pull some hair too😡 *Eldest sister:* became head of household at age 20, working to provide for family of four, most likely depressed and dependant on alchohol as a coping mechanism *Second sister:* you got kimchi on my shirt 😒😒😒😒😒 Edit: Thank you for all the likes and supportive comments! I wrote my comment in a joking manner, but in all honesty, I hope the eldest sister finds peace and love. You can see she's in so much pain having had to shoulder so much responsibility without the love of her family. She may have had to sacrifice a lot during the prime years of her youth, but she deserves to be happy and to be surrounded by people who love, respect, and care for her. I hope the mom and second sister will realize this and change their ways. The eldest sister said so herself: her family is all she has. I hope they put down their pride and stop seeing her as the problem and the only one who's at fault and begin to love one another. It's not too late to change.

im sorry but if im the oldest one i would step out from the house

this is all the mother's fault, my jaw literally dropped when she directly said how her 2nd daughter is sweet and the oldest made her mad cause she resembles her father, like a mother saying that in front of her daughters is ridiculous, i wanna fight the 2nd daughter so bad cause how dare she think her sister "didn't try hard enough" for a scholarship, honey she was paying your bills even though she did get one pretty sure she still needed to drop out to feed you, the favoritism is so bluntly obvious here yet everyone seems to make the oldest the bad person. Also about her drinking problem, i went through exactly that when my family also relied to me as a breed winner, the pressure sucks that i had to just drink it off to forget for a while, and seeing how the oldest was the one paying the family's bill after the dad passed away i think that was what happened to her too, so i hope she also gets help for it.

The second daughter should know that she get to where she is now because of the oldest sister drop out of college and work to pay that dept.

the older sister looks younger than the middle sister

I cried so hard because as the oldest and one of five kids I know the burden the oldest feels and also how favoritism spawns resentment and hatred of your own siblings. I related so hard with the oldest daughter and no one understands how hard it is to sacrifice for a family you don't feel appreciated by.

그냥 첫째를 내가 꼭 안아주고싶다... 마음이 너무 아프다 자신의 어릴적 꿈, 청춘 이런 것들은 절대 다시 돌아오지 않는 건데 그걸 가족위해 포기한거잖아. 근데 가족들 특히 둘째는 그거에 대한 고마움을 몰라. 언니가 열심히 했으면 충분히 대학도 같이 다닐 수 있었다는 헛소리를 하잖아;; 자기 청춘 갖다바치면서, 하루 1~2시간밖에 못자고 일하면서 가족 생계 책임진건데 그걸 그렇게 가볍게 말해. 그렇게 잘할 자신 있었으면 자기가 돈 벌지 왜 학교 다녔대?ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 일단 가장 큰 원인은 엄마의 편애고 그로 인해서 생긴 언니에 대한 존중의 부재. 그게 이 모든 문제의 원인이라고 봄

Idk why they're not praising the oldest. I mean she's so admirable she sacrificed her college life even if she doesn't say it somewhere in her heart she did it so that her sister could study and she took the responsibility of earning money. I love you sis you're amazing

idk but i think the second daughter is full of drama.

Typical asian parents patronizing the more intelligent one 😢 . I just hate how spoiled the second daugther is.. Ugghh.. When she said that she wants an Apology for something else I was like go on eldest daughter, I want you to pull her hair til she's bald. Im asian thats a bit on the brighter side and currently experiencing the love and support the 2nd daughter is getting, but I always hate when my mom starts criticizing others and starts comparing them to me. 😣

I really wish the older sister could read the comment section of this video so she knows that there are so many people who cares for her and understands her 😭😭

I can’t believe the mom didn’t get more flack for making her kids like this,, especially the middle child. She’s been spoiled to the point where she feels entitled to everything. Just listening to the eldest has been stressed and sad. I hope she moves out soon and finds people who actually care about her.

At first I was rooting for the second daughter until you know she is full of herself because she goes to college..well girl..your sister didn't have that chance but worked her ass very hard to support you and the rest of family financially..shame on the mother for comparing her children when she was the one asking her eldest to drop out College and forget all her dreams..she drinks everyday until she faints because she hates her life.

if they still didnt make up, the elder should leave them and live alone..i think its better to be alone...

It broke my heart when the eldest said "the family is all i have"😭 thanks for your hardwork so the rest family can live happily, i hope you can live happily too~ what a great sister and daughter😭

Yeongja's the only one who understands the oldest most. She's truly the most understanding person in this show 👍

Yoo when she asked for an apology for the college thing i was hopping the older sister said no why because it's true "if she tried hard enough she would of made it in" (the same word's the 2nd sister said to the 1st one when asked about the scholarship)

At first I thought it was the older sister, but in all the mother is to blame

omg .. i feel so angry at the mom. she is the cause of this and im super annoyed at the second child for wanting more apologies. excuse me ?

Ok but I just love the youngest/3rd sister, she's admitting everything not hesitating like no one's buisness lmao

Does anyone else think the older sister looks like LE? Also the middle sister is spoiled rotten damn

ma"am! one thing i hv to warn u.... drop tat favoritism of u towards the second daughter! seriously!

Bro, WHEN THE OLDEST STARTED TEARING UP I WAS ABOUT TO CRY TOOO

Wow. I wish the 2nd daughter can just step down from her privileged high horse and see things from her older sister's perspective. "I'm sure Unnie can get a scholarship too if she studied harder." Irresponsible statements like these just show how selfish she is, and not seeing the sacrifice that her older sister made for the family. Even if the Unnie did get a scholarship, I'm sure she wouldn't have been able to take it up, since the family needed her to work and make ends meet then. Besides, sacrifice is one thing. Enduring that emotional hurt from unfair favouritism, and constantly being compared for years... Can you imagine what the older sister must have been going through. Yes, she should cut down on drinking for her own health. But I hate that her drinking was made to seem like it was the brunt of the problem. What about the mum who compares her kids and created the toxic environment that the older sister had to grow up in? What about the 2nd sister who can't see the hardships her unnie faces and still asks for "specific" apologies? In my opinion, this problem stems from far longer ago. And it requires so much work, understanding and making up to one another on all sides, to even make the situation a tad better. If the older sister is the main person making 90% of the effort, while the mum and 2nd sister are not fully held accountable, how would the situation improve at all??? The older sister is already stressed enough as it is. I wish the hosts did more to school the mum and 2nd sister, instead of just silently letting it pass.

Im also a oldest sister ,i have a younger sis and i drop out of my school too because i need to work and support my family.. I know how the eldest feel... I can see and feel how hurt the eldest sister by their mom who are fav the younger sister, and always blame her, its so stress to see your friend still school and having fun, when you need to working for you family and not one appreciate that.. because my mom also like that, so many thing i feel not fair, why i have to be treat like that when i do so much to support my family, but no one look and just take me as granted.. one time im sooo stress i even try to cut my hand...i even fight with my mom and run from home..and my mom also fav my sister,and the funny thing when i fight with my sister, my mom blame me back and said why i cannot treat my sis like lovely sister when its was her fault who make it me hate my sister.. Because i feel hurt so much i cannot became close with my sister, but in the end it was still my fault..

Try to be objective & I feel like Im on the oldest side.. she is wrong too in some aspects.. but I can see and feel many of her scars it must be hurt in her position.. Wish the best for her, and hope she'll be happier in the future To all the parents out there.. Please please don't do favoritism towards ur children.. Though u think one is better than another.. Or bullshit excuse like she/he takes after me.. Cause if u do it'll just make spaces between the family and leave scars to ur children

Feels awful hearing what the eldest has had to go through. She's pretty amazing.

I feel so bad for the oldest daughter, at such a young age she had to take her fathers place as the bread winner of the family. Throughout this whole thing i didn't feel the slightest sincere emotion coming from the mother, after all the oldest daughter said she went ahead and had the mindset to say i like my second daughter because shes sweet like me, im sorry wtf!! She had to sacrifice her whole life and work just so you can live a bit better and she gave you 10,000 for personal spendings what are you not grateful for?? Clearly she raised the girls by putting them against one another, constantly favouring the second daughter; this not only probably made the oldest daughter depressed and sick of her families shit but the second daughter seems a bit silly, i dont think she realises the amount of things her sister had to give up so she could live a better life. Im just really pissed off, and i dont think this episode really put the mom or the second daughter in a different mindset because even at the end the oldest put herself out there and apologised for everything and said i love you but nothing in back... i hope she can come to a point where shes financially stable enough to live on her own, at the moment this seems really toxic.

I just feel bad for the oldest sister:(( i wish her for all of the happiness:”) be strong, you did great💕

I hope I'm not the only one who cried

첫째가 견뎌야했을 무게가 막내로 태어난 저는 감히 상상도 안되네요,티비나와서 저렇게 밉다는말을 쉽게할정도면 첫째한테 얼마나 모질게 편애를 해댔을까, 첫째야 이제 너를 위해 살아, 너를 아껴주고 꾸며주고 너의 건강을 챙기고 좋은거 예쁜거 많이 보고 행복하게 살아, 가족위해 살지말구, 옷차림 외모만봐도 성격들이 딱 보이네요, 둘짼 예쁨만 받고자라 혼자 공주시네, 첫짼 딱봐도 책임감 강하게 강단있어보이고,첫째 멋있다

어머니가 진짜 잘못하셨어요 ㅠㅠ 애들은 무슨죄에요,,,,그리고 둘째만 예뻐하고 첫째는 다 참고 희생해야되고 그렇게 가르쳐놓고 이제와서 사이 좋게 지내라는게 무슨 경우야,, 첫째 언니 너무 고생많으세요,,,,ㅠㅠ

The second daughter shows sooo much hypocrisy . When the oldest one started crying she did too... Just to get attention and play the role of a victim. Anyway,instead of be thankful for all the things her sis did for her, leaving college and working to pay her tuitions... She just complaint about everything. Obviously the older daughter is gonna feel bad and get that rude mood, she couldn't study and she had to mature at early age. She had to take care of her family after her dad passed away, but even so her mom and sis don't appreciate that. Her mom just blames on her attitude and favors the other one... It's obvious that the girl is depressed and she drinks to relief herself.

나는 장학금받고 학교다녔는데 언니는 왜 못그랬냐라니.. 너무하네요. 언니도 본인만 챙겼음 충분히 학교다녔죠. 언니보다 이쁨받고 자랐으니 언니를 우습게 생각하고 있다가 대학떨어져서 언니한테 들은말을 괘씸하게 생각하고 사과를 꼭 받아야겠다하고... 언니가 그 꽃다운 나이에 학교포기하고 일터로 나가야했던 아픔을 입장바꿔 생각했다면 미안해하고 존중해줘야죠. 엄마가 애들사이를 나쁘게 만들었네요. 동생들이 언니를 우습게보지 않게 언니를 챙겨줬어야됐어요

첫째만 포기하고 희생하고 무조건 첫째만 참아라!! 이거는 엄마도 잘못햇네 첫째가 의지할곳없으니 술에만 의지하는수밖에..

둘째가 예쁨받으니 언니를 무시했을 수 밖에....그러니 언니가 안그래도 서러운데 동생이 더 미웠을것같군요 앞으로가 중요하죠 이영자씨 말에 눈물나네요 노력하시면 더 행복해지실거 같아요^^

This is so similar to our situation. My mother adores the middle and youngest while I get the end of the stick. When I got awards and asked for a little reward, my mom didn't gave me anything and I was so hurt by that fact that I will never be favored by her. I was so hurt that I cried on my own birthday and my dad comforted me. See, the eldest doesn't always gets the rewards. Sometimes, they are the one who's pressure and expectations are put on. Even if we want to have fun, we would rather do something that would make our parents happy, even if those parents don't appreciate the hard work we have. The eldest always sacrifices everything but those in the family don't appreciate it. Only a few does.

My boyfriend, who is the eldest among his siblings, can relate to her situation

1. 부모 사이가 안좋았던 것 같다 2. 엄마가 큰딸에게 미운 남편을 투사했다 3. 엄마가 큰딸을 남편 대하듯, 작은딸은 본인 의지하듯 4. 큰딸은 깊은 상처, 미운 동생, 낮은 자존감, 음주와 외로움, 그러면서도 책임감 5. 결론: 부모의 삶이 자녀에게 상속되었던 것 같다. 사과할 사람은 엄마

This mom is so inconsiderate just like her second daughter

I cried watching it ☹️

Man, I cried when the oldest sister started to cry. 😢 I suddenly remembered the movie *Four* *sisters* *and* *a* *wedding.* 😭

I WANT TO THANK LEE YOUNGJA FOR PRAISING THE OLDEST FOR EVERYTHING SHE'S DONE AND TELLING HER EVERYTHING SHE DESERVED TO HEAR.

The older sisters : Apologizes And then the third daughter: “Awe I’ll miss the fun” Haha I really love the third one😂

i guess best solution for the 2 daughters is to juz live apart of each other...plus they at tat age nw....living independently!

First sister.. Fighting. Am cheering for you.

이집은 엄마가 제일큰 문제임!!! 저런여자가, 내엄마 아니어서, 정말~다행이다!

The oldest sister must have lots of depression, cuz she felt responsibilities for her family, and the desires to live like a normal student. While she doesn't have someone to lean on when she through a lot

They should be more kind to the eldest omilord she does everything for them yet they all belittle her efforts and pamper the second

In most cases when children fight each other it is due to the parents' unfairness. Injustice is the root of hatred.

Shout out to Yeongja for applauding the oldest sister at the end. No wonder she's one of my favorite hosts. 😣❤️

엄마가 둘째만 편애한게 너무 크다. 큰딸은 대학 포기하고 일하면서 집안에 보템이 됐잖어? 1시간씩 자면서 일하고 돈 벌었으니깐 친구도 못만났을거고, 힘드니깐 스트레스 풀라고 자연스럽게 술먹은거지.

Poor the older sister she might be really stressful 😕

Being the older sibling is definitely so difficult especially when there's favouritism in the family. Always getting the blame, you have to do the chores because you are the older one even though chores should done equally, being a good example to your siblings when....I didn't sign up for this excuse me? Honestly I really hope younger siblings should at least put themselves in our shoes because it's so difficult -___- I'm not kidding y'all think it's so easy and we are their experimental kid

This is all on the mother. I've come to realize that the parents are the primary cause to why some siblings have these conflicts. It's always the issue of favoritism. The same goes to my family. We're three children. I'm the oldest. I've always been fairly neutrally treated, but my mother severely favours the youngest over the 2nd child and has done so ever since we were small. This favoritism has grown into resentment with the middle child who literally detests the youngest one. It doesn't help that the youngest one fuel the resentment. Parents need to understand that words have a greater impact than they think. Adults remember things from their childhood, especially things like this. Fair treatment among children is super important if you don't want them to fight in the future.

I feel a lot of loneliness emanating from the eldest. You can see her stress. I hope she finds her own happiness someday.

The one to be blamed the most is definitely the mom here. What kind of sisters don‘t fight during their adolescence? I think every household there are fight between siblings, even just about a trivial stuff. But not all family has this problem. That means the mom spoiled the second daughter and pampered her too much that she‘s being too selfish and takes her sister‘s sacrifice for granted.

Ok aren’t they tired holding the mics, the two girls keeeeep holding the mics up 😂😂

nah the mother and second daughter tripping fr

I'm really proud of the eldest daughter, she's really cute yet strong inside. I'm sending my support and love for the siblings through this, especially the eldest. Fighting! 💜

Im so glad that I have loving older sister, we always protect each other.

Why I am crying and smiling while watching this episode... Thank you for sharing different stories ❤ P.S. And I'm really trying to keep the peace with my bro and sis. I haven't idea what parents can feel at such moments.

That second eldest is so mean, she even made it about her self when the ledest started crying

Eldest sister hwaiting 💕💕💕 I think their mom should apolozing more to the eldest sister

me and my siblings fight over who's gonna wash the dishes everyday hahah

첫째 맘이 이해가요. 가족들위해 희생했는데 알아주는 사람이 없네요. 엄마가 어리석네요. 첫째가 그런대우에도 가족들을 위해 일한걸 생각하니 짠합니다..

When the mother came in and was gathering up the tears after mentioning her husband's death I felt so sorry for her but then she blatantly agreed to liking one child than the other. Childhood is very important so parent should be careful of what they show or tell their kids. How can she say she doesn't like her first child cos she is like her father? Ummm when your marry someone and have children with them there is a possibility that they have certain traits of their other parent. The big sister has her shortcomings like disrespecting her mum, but she has always yielded and I think she deserves some accolades for taking on such responsibilities.

딸이 저렇게 우는데 엄마는 끄덕없네?? 우는거 보니 나도 가슴 아픈데...뭐지??

큰딸 너무 마음의상처 치유가 필요해보이네요 엄마한테 받은상처 ㅠㅠ 엄마가 그렇게 대하지않았으면 저렇게 사이가 나빠지지않았을거 같아요 첫째좀 많이 보듬어 줘야할거 같아요

I cried so hard. A big applaud for all the older sisters who make sacrifices for their families

언니가 불쌍하다.. 평생 동생한테 양보하고... 동생은 고마움은 1도 모르고.. ㅠㅠ

I am seriously crying over 2 hours n keep watching every single words she said, it totally hurts my feeling.. wish all good lucks for her 🙏

You can tell that the mother doesn't like her eldest because she reminds her of her husband! Even the way she looked at her the entire time. She made her drop out of college to help pay the bills and yet the sister said that she would have had a scholarship if she worked hard! Who was paying your bills brat?

엄마가아니면 저렇게 안됐겠구만 엄마가 편애를 하는데 애들이 어떻게 사이가 좋을수가 있나 학교관두고 희생한것도 엄마한테 인정받고 사랑받고싶은맘이 커서 그랬던거같은데 둘째는 한번도 희생한적이 없는게 보임 술을 왜마시겠냐 원인도 다 집인데

The oldest sister,you are amazing. I fully understand why she drink every day. She can change her habit if those around her understand,appreciate and show their love to her more.. She drink because of stress.. She is not the one to blame for all chaos that happen in their house. Her mom really need to reflect on herself and the middle sister should appreciate and thanks sister,not asking her to apologise. She sacrifice her dream and her life for the family

The oldest one made me cry.😢😢😢

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Why no one asked the eldest daughter why she was drinking? They made her seem like that's the root of the problem when clearly it was just a coping mechanism for the older one. She's had it tough and yet her family couldn't even bother giving her thanks for all she's done. I understand where her negative feelings are coming from. It has been 2 years since this aired. I hope the whole family now has a better relationship.

I couldn’t stop crying, I lost it when older said “ they won’t care “ about her health. It’s so heartbreaking

I really would want to hug the eldest daughter I'm literally crying. She deserves lots of love

The second sister is the problem- she grew up knowing that the eldest would be blamed, so she demands more and more from her. The eldest is hardworking and selfless, while the second needs to stop being so self centered and think about what the eldest went through. When the eldest was apologizing, the second demanded an apology for a different thing. I honestly think the second should be the one apologizing