I was 67 when I had my first gay relationship. He is 64 and its been over 2months and we can't have more in common it's scary. I'm sure he's the one I've been waiting for. Never give up on true love 💘.

Met my partner while working. Chat on phone for two weeks. Moved in together within 3 months. Now 17 years later, finally certified domestic partner in San Francisco. Oh and still going VERY strong. We're best friends , committed relationship with one cute dog and a few guppies. He's the love of my life, I love him more than anything else in this world.

Asking questions is a good idea. Having friends both personal and communal is a good idea. My husband and I have been together for over 43 years. We are both in our 70s and doing well. Life is good! It is possible.

ALL those things you spoke of while in your first romantic relationship are pretty universal especially for your age at the time . These things must be experienced and learned from . They are rights of passage and important building blocks into a happy mature adult in time ... "The school of hard knocks" is a part of life . the most important things in your life will be revealed .

I’m 55 and I’ve never been in a relationship with a man or woman. Don’t think it will ever happen at this point.

My first "serious" one that I am still actually in will be 32 years come March 2024. So yes commitment long term is possible if you really want it and keep a sense of home and love together. Just got to be on the same page for that to grow and last. Through the highs, the lows from excitement to boring mundane realizing that everyday is different and that's life! You just roll with it and count your blessings.

My first gay relationship has been my last, so far… 32 plus years and counting… it happens…

Good video. You did hit on some common themes from the gay community. Thank you for making this video.

I agree, I haven't had my first relationship before, I'm 27 and a guy hasn't took a chance

Yes, do the 100 questions for a first date video 👍 Thanks for this one.

lovely Tommy , best wishes to you❤

Hey Tommy, thanks for your advice and stories. I look forward o hearing from you. The speedo stuff is so adorable. The shopping vid was so fun. And just so you know,you’re not too gay LMAO

I think a person has to know themselves well before entering a relationship. There are no guarantees with a relationship either , whether it lasts or not. A big mistake is we have expectations of someone, and people can be needy.

Great things to learn. Thanks.

You must live at least 2 years with yourself alone. You will know so much about your tastes and your own way to live. You are very gorgeous and goosebumps. Good luck.

“We watched Hercules like 5 times” lol … ❤ I wanna be in that relationship 😊.

Hi Thomas, you are so smart and sweet! Best of luck! 🥰

Thank you for sharing your honesty. I agree self-love is very important.

I think of relationships this way: Life is season following season. It's not always summer, not every day is summer. Live and enjoy love when you find it. I met my late husband Phil in a bar when I wasn't even looking. We clicked and ended up together 7 years. Death did part us. But it was a wonderful season. 🌈

My first relationship was also a learnings experience for me. I jumped into it too fast and also had tunnel vision. You do have to get to know someone first. He was in the closet though. He would only show affection in private, and he was only out for himself in many ways. Not to say I don't have my flaws. I did try to hold it together until I realized that it wasn't healthy for me.

Please do the 100 questions video. I would appreciate it.🌞

YES YES YES Questions video :)

Well said, my friend!

Yes to the 100 questions to ask video! Lol

Definitely would love to hear the 100 questions. It would be very informative!

I would greatly appreciate hearing your questions to ask before getting into a relationship. It would make a really good teaching experience.

on the other hand... my husband (29 years) was really happy that i didn't interview him the first time we met. i think the questions need to be paced so that they don't feel like they've been hauled down to a police station and put on a polygraph. there's plenty of time to figure things out (especially if you don't move too fast, as you mentioned). if i can make a suggestion, try to figure out fairly early on if you work well together as a team. a relationship is really about being a team where you might have different skills which are complimentary or overlapping. i love to use cooking as an example. everybody needs to eat and it is extremely bonding to cook and eat together. even if you're not great at cooking, it's still good because you can laugh at how you fucked up it was if needed. doing it together means that it's a shared experience, not a trial.

i would love to be able to download your list of first date questions! i’d rather just see the list and be able to copy/save it to my phone instead of a full video, cuz i can just read the questions myself.

Wow, you remind of Patrick & David's relationship from Schitt's Creek. ♥ How did you broker the conversation with your bf about being top, bottom, or versatile?

My first relationship lasted 11.5 years and took up my entire 20s.

63 and have a partner of 35 years. We met at work and love at first site.

Very wise man you are.

What a beautiful wonderful young man!!

Tommy is a sweetheart.

I really enjoy listening to you.

You are so high-quality, Thomas. You are a credit to the LGBT community.

8th ahh Yes - Do Not Rush into things..... I learned sooo much..1st real relationship was 21 in 81'...... the stories I could tell.....

He left because he couldn’t look at that shirt anymore 😂

Te felicito por asumirlo sin dramatismo. Ten en cuenta que no elegimos ser gay sino que nacemos así y en segundo lugar, vive tu vida porque nadie la vivirá por ti.

Go ahead with the questions

At age 71 who came out in my early 20s into a very different world, it's hard to imagine yours. Still, your excellent advice strikes me as common sense and helpful. I hope and expect your relationships fare better than did mine. After three long-time matches, all ending badly, I'm now happily benched. I'm no one to hand out advice, so it's good you're offering sensible pointers for your generation.

Thanks!

You're very lucky you didn't drag out the relationship for 3 years. The song "Three Times In Love" is definitely a good guide for gay relationships. The first one is the starter, and if they are not out to family and friends... it's worse.

Today I met two guys at a gay bath house. We talked a lot and moved on. Out the place, we went out to a bar restaurant and then again we talked untill we were fully filled. After all, we exchanged each of us cell phone number and e-mail address. I guess that was some lucky encounter. It was a lucky day for me.

As a straight man that can't suffer the experience of dating women one thing I miss is free female validation in which women are some kind of gatekeepers to society to confirm whether of not you are a "real man". I think that lack of validation plays some part in the guilt, fear or shame some men feel about being gay. I could be wrong, just an outsider's perspective.

notes: dont name him bf before fully understanding him via questions. u can still seek friends when in relationship, friends are needed in life. make friends outside his friends circle.

So many questions...😮 Your potential partners could feel like they were being interviewed. If you don't focus your attention on one chosen person, how on earth do you hope to get to know them better than others? You lost his friends after you two broke up... Had you had any friends before you two met?

Pls do the 100Qs video

Handsome man and great catch!

Man, you're gorgeous. Total spunk!

Am I picking up some 'glottal stops'? You Canadian?

honestly died when you quoted rupaul LMAOOOOOOOOOOO

Nothings up !

I'm almost 66 and still an old maid. Never had a relationship. Good for you. 🎉

I am 71 I would really like to try. Inward light just to experience it. I need to see if I like it. And I really really wanna try it and I don't know how to meet someone

Sounds to me you're going through the normal process of things we call life.

❤

Thomas, this does not change the fact that you are an absolutely gorgeous and handsome young man and even at age 53, I’d still date you in a heartbeat 🥰🥰🥰🥰😍😍😍😍😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

This handsome young man is Canadian?

💙💙

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Please don't drink . It ruins things. I know because I drank alcohol alot. Things will run smoothly and be more manageable being sober.

Gosh! He is a beauty. Do you like older men?

What the hell does "motor boating" boobs mean?

In my case the different of ages was an issue. Sex was great, but I was too new to provide the best out of that. He came out later that he was or is Polyamorous; I didn't get it at the beginning, but when I did it, I didn't like it at all. I want him not a whole circus of men and women and to be in one room having sex with anyone, that was not my cup of tea. I loved him, but it was better to part and look for someone more compatible. Today I am married and happy with a men close to my age, with similar educational background and both of us are parent to 6 daughters and we have, combined, 12 grandchildren. The other guy ios turning 50th with not permanent relationship and wasting great part of his life.

Good growing pains.😎

I'm gay searching for true love

Wish I had a boyfriend during covid , so you didnt have to be alone all the time…

Hi.. Thomas i love

Cute guy

HI THOMAS I LOVE YOU YOUR MY NEW BESTFRIEND LOVE DAVID

I would like to take you on a date

Friends and being gay is complicated. Aa a gay person, especially if you've just arrived on the scene, you want to spend your time in the gay world and your prior friends tend to drop off. Gay men, in my experience, aren't very deep and I find most of them intolerable as friends. They tend to have 2 lines of thought. Getting laid and going out. They disappear when the going gets tough and rarely want to be involved in what they claim is drama. What is really life. Something you mention in another of your videos is the constant need to be inebreated. Their avoidance of drama. In my experience everytime I've asked a gay friend for help if it requires them to go out of their way it most likely won't happen. As always there are exceptions. Getting to "know someone" before a comittment is just another one night stand. There's a so-called joke in the "community" that dating someone for 30 days is a long-term relationship. For what it's worth.

I would like to date you 😅

You r cute!

So did he pop your cherry?

why dont u talk the first impression u had blj or being nailed, might be more intesting that a Cinderella feminie story

Tommy, I want to hear your questions ❤ You are pretty wise, baby!

Very good video

hey ! what is your contact?