Oh my dear friend. I can relate to just about everything you are saying. I look back now from the grand old age of 61 and I can see the times in my life that were financially difficult. Let me assure you that you are making wise decisions as a couple and you will benefit, ot least from having peace of mind around your finances. Getting rid of debt is a brave move but, it is the best move. Making a budget for groceries is good but can I suggest you trial the sum you have chosen and be willing to increase it if you really feel like you are rationing foods or depriving yourselves. Food, even on a budget, needs to be enjoyable or those old feelings find an open door and I think this is what is happening for you at the moment. There is a big difference between wise budgeting and war time rationing. I know fruit and veg can be expensive but the key is to buy what is in season. We are fortunate in that we can source a lot of locally grown veg as in Notts and Lincolnshire, they specialise in growing good vegetables. Fruit is pricey but what I tend to do is choose 2/3 portions of fruit a day. As a vegetarian, you will likely use more fruit but, can I suggest you decide on a satisfactory number of pieces of fruit, say 7 or 8 maybe and stick within that. Banana are cheap currently, melons are beginning to come down. A huge water melon in Sainsburys yesterday was £2.50. That goes quite some way. Please don’t skimp on your nuts! The healthy fat is good on your plan. I empathise with the caffeinated coffee. We drink de car but there is always a jar in the cupboard for visitors. That is going as soon as it is empty, not to be replaced. I reach for it like you do and I don’t need to do that. I find it’s because it’s there that it tempts me. Have you tried Aldi’s de caf. We have it at group and it is good. I use Clipper organic but this is creeping toward £5 for a 00g jar. Bit too much. Keep going Rebecca. Your journey is inspiring and educational. You have taught me a lot and you always leave me looking further into things. Sending big love to you all. Happy Easter Jane x

I totally can relate to this Rebecca, I expect that you feel quite anxious and with time you will make a new routine, just be kind to yourself & take it a day at a time, brilliant advice from Jane, such courage to be so open about your feelings/life, sending much love 💗 & strength xx

So glad I found your channel.. your voice is so calming and you are such a kind, thoughtful person. I hope I can find strength like you. I am in a bit of a rut. Great idea to write everything down. Xxx

Great vlog Rebecca, i totally understand where your coming from with the budgeting. I no longer have my car as cannot afford to run it so i walk to work and back everyday, its great to blow away the cobwebs and good body magic. Have a lovely easter xx