I don't remember the part about traditional marriage meaning that your husband can sleep with whomever he wants.

Him talking about being an alpha male while the camera shows his toys😭💀

When he lost control of his hairline he took control of everything else.

If she's doing all this, the least he can do is be faithful. She doesn't seem to like that her husband can have sex with others. He says they have an traditional marriage, but a "traditional" marriage consists of both partners being faithful, physically and mentally, to one another.

Update for anyone curious: they got divorced. She started an OnlyFans account, started making more money than him, and he got pissed and left. She was clearly upset by him cheating and clearly upset that their relationship was not equal. "Traditional" marriages are totally okay, but there has to be a compromise and there wasn't one here. He just wanted to feel good about himself and put her down.

I’m submissive in a lot of ways as well. I want/like my husband to be dominant. I’m also very grateful that l get to be a stay at home wife/mother. - dominant doesn’t mean controlling. My husband doesn’t sleep with other women because he loves me and is committed to me. There’s no way that this guy doesn’t know how she actually feels about him sleeping with other women. He just doesn’t care.

Sorry, can't get over his small head. It isn't proportional to his body. Sorry

After listening to her story on a podcast and it made me cry, I just want to hug her and with everything she’s been through I understand why she allows him to do what he wants. It can be hard to set boundaries with people you love when you’ve been starved of love. I hope he stops sleeping with other women because it’s very obvious it hurts her, or she finds else someone that can be faithful. You accept the love you think you deserve.

So now that we know he sleeps with other woman, we can piece this entire thing together. She doesn’t like being controlled by him, she wants to tell him she doesn’t like him sleeping with other woman but can’t because she’s worried if she speaks up he will leave her. Which he will. She doesn’t want to be alone and she doesn’t want to struggle financially. She hates her life.

It’s not a traditional marriage if he sleeps with other women! I think it hurts her heart that he does that.

This is honestly just an abusive relationship that she seems too scared to leave

This is not being a submissive wife. This is something else. She doesn’t have her own identity.

I feel so bad for Monica. Sentenced to a life of hard labor for the benefit of a man who is unfaithful. So sad.

I watched an interview she made with soft underbelly. She grew up with a narcissistic mum (she said this herself) an alcoholic dad who left at some point and had a difficult childhood and adulthood. Here she describes her mum as a "good mum" but in the interview, it's a totally different story her mum tried to control every move she makes even when she moved to the US. Monica is originally from Poland and at 4 she and her mum moved to Sweden. I wonder why she has this people's pleaser mentality as that all she did growing up trying to please her mum so she does not get berated and beaten. She did say while crying that she is never happy and all she wanted is her mum to love her, she never felt unconditional love and she doesn't even know what that is. This is what she is used to growing up being controlled and trying to please her mum so this is all familiar to her. Very sad really. Monica is actually a qualified teacher.

The sleeping with other women thing is so disrespectful. Like wtaf. I’m a housewife and SAHM and my husband works. There’s mutual respect between us and we would never sleep with other people outside our marriage. Run girl.

the way he describes why he sleeps with other women is disgusting. by the way she asks to cut the camera when asked about it she seems uncomfortable. makes me wonder if he’s forcing her into letting him

Just have to say as a husband that (1) shares household responsibilities, (2) views faithfulness as prerequisite, and (3) would never try to micromanage every aspect of my wife’s life, this is extremely sad.

his head to shoulder ratio is wild

This, ladies and gentlemen, is the definition of delulu.

" Can we cut " !!!! This is undetermined sad one sided love story .

There is nothing traditional about this marriage. He breaks the commandment by sleeping with other women and controls every aspect of this marriage. I feel sorry for this girl.

This marriage is all about HIM. Nowhere does he say that he tries to make her happy or that he wants her to be happy. It's all about HER making HIM happy, and yes, that is extremely lopsided. In the end, if they are both truly happy with it, then that's what counts, but I sure wouldn't want my kids growing up in that kind of atmosphere. And I don't think he'd be able to handle her giving attention to kids because it would mean less fawning all over him.

I could never submit to a man I had to share. 🤢🤮

He is so toxic and i feel like She is just scared to lose him this is heart breaking

When she was asked by the two women and couldn't answer straight out, hesitated and was visibly tense when he came back, you could tell right away that there was something hugely wrong. Toxic, toxic, toxic and in no way traditional.

Sadly she grew up without a chance of EVER developing any self esteem. Just in the sad way she looks away and downwhen she speaks “I love making him happy “ means she doesn’t. She needs to step away and realize she is worth it and doesn’t have to be in a marriage like this.. she’s only focusing on HIS needs. Especially the part of him being allowed to sleep with other woman , the hurt in her eyes breaks me . Walk away girl you deserve soo much better , THIS is not a “traditional “ marriage

My mom is a housewife and loves to care for husband and kids and in return she gets the utmost respect and love from all of her family members who woulf be ready to do anything for her ! This is a traditional normal family not what she is in 😂

She should seek medical help, I mean how can a wife can let her husband sleep with other women to keep him happy and that too she loves it !?! Absolutely f*ck !

I was in a relationship years ago with a controlling guy, when you’re in it it’s too hard to see it’s wrong, but after I did a lot of work on myself, had counselling and sorted my past trauma out, I’d never put up with that again. I feel sorry for her that she feels the need to be dominated and let’s him sleep with other women, that’s just insane

In a traditional marriage, the man pays the bills. She is the breadwinner, while he makes almost no money as a music teacher.

I’ve been with my husband since 9th grade. We are now 46 n 47 years old. We raised 3 kids. We’ve w married almost 25 years and together 32 years. N nobody had an affair. U don’t have what u think u have with this man cause that romance is a lil one sided. My husband and I from day one worked as a team. We’ve never argued over money, we have never argued over housework and we never argued about the children. We were a team that was always perfectly in sink. We both did it. N no matter what we always always had each other’s back! Always! He still brings me coffee every time he’s, I have heart trouble and any time I’ve been in the hospital that man wouldn’t leave my side. He has cut my food up and served it to me in bed. We can have a conversation without speaking a word. Our parents still to this day as soon as they see one of us they say “ here’s one which means the other isn’t far behind.” I can tell him anything. My sugar shot up today pretty high and I didn’t know what I was doing so our adult kids called him and the next thing I know he’s on the phone. I lost about 20 minutes. That man stopped everything n calmed me Down so my daughter could give me an insulin shot. U wanna know what a true alpha man does he treats his woman with dignity and respect, he speaks to her with purpose, he the first one to calm down an argument not stoke it, he has ur back at all cost, he makes u feel like the only woman in a room, he doesn’t care what u wear cause to him u would look good in anything, he puts ur needs ahead of his own, he would go without eating just so u can because a real Alpha male wouldn’t be so insecure that he has to be little a woman to stay with him. A real Alpha male has confidence not arrogance and there is a huge difference he doesn’t need to mentally or emotionally beat someone down and rip there confidence to shreds just to keep them a true alpha’s confident enough that he doesn’t have the need to! This man is absolutely abusing u! U are so brainwashed that ur ok with this man screwing ppl behind ur back and then u can see on his face that he gets pleasure out of rubbing her nose in it. Ur in a volatile n abusive relationship u need to safely get the heck outta there.

He is a jerk by cheating, and his wife supporting him cheating is bad.😢 cheating is negative behavior and should not be accurate as love and tolerance.

Sooo she works so hard to please him and "make him happy" but what happens when he's unhappy? He seems a bit douchey.

Someone save this poor woman

Her: My mom told me how to please a man. So your mom told you that how to please a man is to let him sleep with other women if he wants? Bad advice mom. Why is it John can sleep with other women? Her: Looks down, makes a stupid facial expression then says "Can we cut?" Camera "cuts" to John and he speaks. Didn't ask John. Asked Monica. Can't express yourself Monica? Tell us how you REALLY feel! Bottom line, if you like it, I love it. To each their own.

Personally as a women myself I want to be a house wife submissive to my husband but I don’t want to be cheated on if I’m taking care of everyone and cooking and cleaning but other then that I love me a dominant man 😭

Monica, if you’re reading this, please do something positive to your life for the first time. Go and a therapist, a good one, to heal your traumas, your wounds. Choose the best that you have where you live. You deserve better!! ❤ ❤❤

“Can we cut” says enough. Normally I’m all for not judging other relationships, however it seems she has nothing outside of him, grown adult can’t even pick out her on clothes is kinda really concerning

Him sleeping with other women makes the relationship more relaxed?? This woman does NOT look completely happy or relaxed. I hope she finds herself and finds the courage to give this guy the finger and walk away.

My husband wants to control my life but I actually have a brain.

He has the tiniest head. Pinhead looks and attitude. “ 8:36 I get everything I want and I think it makes me a better husband” I wonder if they’re still together?

Alpha male with tonka trucks on the shelves 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

Y'all, the first time I saw this the look in her eyes made me sad because I knew there was something in her past that made her go along with this bullshit. I just saw her interview on Soft White Underbelly and oh my God I cannot believe she went what she went through. My heart breaks for her and I sincerely hope she heals one day because she's an incredibly strong and lovely woman. I hope she realizes she is worthy of everything life has to offer and can truly see that she matters.

This is abuse. Pure abuse, she is just too traumatised and insecure and afraid to lose him, this is seriously messed up.

Pathological relationship. An abusive husband, an abused woman. Good luck raising a stable family

“I live to please my husband.” So you have no goals or personality of your own? What is your purpose in life?

She’s not a wife she’s housekeeper and a personal assistant.

I LOVE how the cameraman moved the camera to his LEGO collection after he said he was an ALPHA male.

She definitely lost her dignity as a women. How can you let your husband continuously sleep with other women? I find that disgusting.

everything scares me here: his tiny head, the empty house, her fake lashes...

He’s the furthest thing from “ Hot “ … for starters his head is waaaaay to small for his body but anyway 😂. I thought it was hilarious when the camera man zoomed in on his toys in his “ room “. When shouted “ Honey “ your pancakes are ready and he says “ yuuuuum I LOOOOOVE Pancakes like he’s 5yrs old. 😂🤷‍♀️

A husband is supposed to love his wife just as much as he loves himself / his own body. This doesn't meet that requirement, sadly. He's taking advantage of her and they both know it. Their 'arrangement' has nothing to do with submission like she thinks it does...

I don’t like using this word. But this dude is a heavy narcissist.

So happy my parents raised 4 head strong women. You are going to respect me or kick rocks in flip flops. But everyone is different. If she likes it, I love it. Just won't be me.

He is not even goodlooking. 🤮 bleh

I feel like he's a complete narcissist. He reminds me of my ex-boyfriend who was very narcissistic and all he did differently from this guy was basically cheating while not telling me because that's how he was like boosting his self-esteem and always pleasing his ego with like different narcissistic supplies. He was also like trying to choose my clothes, telling me what to wear, telling me what to eat, giving me curfews and like being super dominant and making me be a housewife which I disagreed to be but he forced me to. Also he was like always telling me not to speak with any guys but this guy had the real audacity to even like admit that he sleeping with other girls and even saying it in front of his girlfriend! I think that's hella disrespectful! Like even the guy who was my ex was really disrespectful to me was at least better cuz he was not telling me this openly to hurt me like that in TV but this guy oh my god💀💀 I think he told her about cheating on her and sleeping with other girls cuz he knows that she won't leave him and she's a good puppet for him and yeah she just has no value in herself and I'm sorry about that...

If this were the other way around, all the feminists and male feminists would be celebrating. Lol.

The cut to the toy cars when he said alpha male 😂 Editors are too funny for that one

Nah, when she is also allowed to sleep around then I’ll support this but until then, he got her brainwashed.

I get being submissive. I get wanting to make your partner happy. All things i can relate to and agree with. It’s nice having someone take over the reigns sometimes. But she’s is relying WAY too heavily on her happiness stemming from making him happy. And her saying “i feel more confident when picks my outfits cause i know i look good for him”. Babe, look good for yourself!! Be confident because you’re you and you chose your clothes!! And for her to be as loving, dutiful and faithful as she is…he still feels the need to essentially cheat on her?? Because of “biology”?? Like bro there is no such thing as an alpha male in nature. And yeah while you see some mammals have multiple partners, there are others that mate with one partner FOR LIFE. I don’t want to be a hater but this relationship seems sick and toxic. I hope she realizes just how much better she deserves sooner than later.

This is when low self esteem and insecurities (probably dragging from child/young age) meets ego-centered personality. It's a fact that these kind of "Dom" "sub" relationships are more often than not, just a way of one person to satisfy ( and get away with almost anything) his or her desires of control upon somebody clearly insecure and way too self conscious to let anyone down by just saying no. She likes to please him...but really is a way of saying please don't leave me cause i'm not good enough so I'll do whatever You want so you "love" me. It's sad and I'm saying this from personal experience, it's pathetic and it's a mental disorder from extreme low self esteem and child traumas.

Oh hell nah. A traditional relationship is great if that's what you both want - that's not the issue. The issue is I feel like he's taking advantage of her submissiveness to try and sleep with other women. I seriously doubt Monica initiated the open relationship on his end. You have to think how they got there - he probably implied or outright told her he wanted to sleep with other women. Wow, that would be really hurtful. And she agreed because she wants to keep her husband happy. That doesn't mean she's happy about it though (3:05). All she does is for him, all he does is for himself. That's why this relationship is not equal. I wish you all the best, Monica.

This dudes head is giving beetlejuice- when dudes head starts shrinking 😂

She did an interview very recently on Soft White Underbelly talking about her childhood trauma and her witch of a mother. Interesting watch

A loving husband and provider wouldn't want another woman

I'm an Alpha Male (look at all my toy trucks) 😂 This guy honestly....

Even those who prefer traditional marriage know that this is messed up

the sleeping with other women is a hell no, the clothes is a meh, but the rest seems alright.

Sleeping with other women so basically an open marriage

She is also on Soft White underbelly. Her story is just so sad

Saw this on Snapchat.. The comment section is gold.

Unfortunately Monika is codependent and this is why he is able to control her, this is a living arrangement what he created and she is obeying it. I feel for her.

He gets what he wants and she get what she wants, best of luck to em

This is not a healthy dom/sub situation. She should be able to have experiences outside of the marriage as well if he does. That is only fair. It's about both parties getting what they need.

This is why I prefer to remain single. Because people are crazy.

miss ma'am, please free yourself omfg :(

I'm not hating on being a traditional wife; I think that is a good thing, but what part of tradition makes it okay for him to sleep around? You do absolutely everything for him; in return, he cannot even stay faithful. At this point, all you are to him is his live-in maid. If you got sick and suddenly could no longer cook or clean he'd immediately dump you.

Seeing all the comments about her story and her expression makes sense. She didn’t look really happy except with her friends. I felt the heaviness in her eyes especially knowing she didn’t agree or know fully before hand. Her friends knew.

Lets not pretend this doesnt happen in many relationships theyre just being HONEST 💫💫💫

There is a huge difference between traditional and controlling. Cheating is a whole separate level of disrespect.

This comment section scares me

Where's the "love" part? Because I can't HELP but judge...

I feel so bad for her. Like she really needs therapy. She’s in a lot of pain and she’s burying it down

I also prefer the traditional relationship, but i don't consider sleeping with other women, and controlling your partner, as "traditional". Yes, I want to make my husband happy, but I'm an adult, I can pick my clothes by myself. Of course can I wear clothes I know he likes, but it should still be my own choice. I don't see their relationship as traditional. But as long as they're happy..☺️

He’s totally dead in the eyes

This is such a shame. She needs therapy so she can love herself! So sad 😢 Her mom did a number on her. What about following your own passion?

THIS IS COMPLETELY FAKE‼The girl in the video MONICA is shown in another YT video of a hair stylist (channel name Guy Tang). There she comes as a friend of Plastic surgery girl Pixee fox and says her name is BELLA and shes from sweden..

Imagine being bossed around by Pinhead Larry 💀

He's going to physically hurt her so bad one day he's so sickening run girl run!

I would have gone mad if my life revolved around cooking and housework.

He has a tiny head.

He’s a control freak and a narcissist. He cheats on her and she clearly hates it. This is not a traditional marriage. Its a joke. Jokes on her.

That's not traditional, he's a narcissist

I could clearly see that the fact that he has other women hurts her.my god this woman shows her husband love and respect.yet it still isn't enough for him to do the same for her. Yet she still goes all out for her man! Really? Your husband doesn't respect or value all that you do for him.please wake up and see that before you start to get to old.you deserve so much more I hope you see and realise that before it's too late! Peace and love 💛

This one is WILD

This is a toxic marriage

He obviously doesn’t love her as much as thinks he does.

Why's his head so fucking small?

But... what does he do for her? That's what I want to know.

What's he on about,they have a traditional marriage?Traditional marriages don't include one partner sleeping with other people.