No, don't wait 2 years. I did that and that marriage never happened. Keep your options open. Let him go 2 years and tell him connect you in 2 years and see if you still single, but don't wait.

I love the approach of the 3rd hijabi with grey hijab she really listens to the question and everyone’s perspectives before she answers and then when she does it’s well thought out and logical MashAllah 🥰

I am Gen X and was raised Muslim, the only role models were our parents and women from the Islamic community. I think its so awesome to see Muslim women in positive TV roles, in magazines on the runway and Islamic clothing so easily available. It's so important to have representation of all brown shades. Thank you Aysha for your strength and vulnerability and to stay firm in your beliefs. #respect! ❤️

Making money is an action. Keeping money is behavior. Growing money is knowledge.😊

I wouldn't wait. Ya'll overcomplicate things. Just do the Nikkah ceremony and put off the financial burden of a wedding. He can either secure the bag or move on. As a girl we don't have the luxury of time like men do. As the saying goes...if he wanted to he would.

I’m a Christian, & our dating is pretty similar! I dated my husband for 4 months before we were engaged, & then 6 months after that we got married. I think 8-18months is a great time frame for know for sure if you want to get married. I feel like most men know in 6 months of dating honestly lol.

Good evening ladies. Love that talk. No human can fully know another human being. We do not even know ourselves fully. We have a general idea of who we are but human changes daily with each experience. We just hope to change for the better.

Sara the not being accepted as black and having an identity crisis is every east African Muslim girls life story in our generation- I'm Somali living in the UK and literally I would have kids from the Caribbean tell me im not black beacuse I'm Somali and I would have my Pakistani and Arab friends tell me I'm not black because I'm muslim- so Aisha I 100 understand you saying people didn't know Muslims could be black and this is Muslims speaking to me. I remember telling my dad this and he told me to say to my Pakistani friends that Islam came to us ( East Africa ) when their ancestors where still Hindus - it felt like a mic drop moment. My father passed away during COVID so could you please make dua for him.

Aysha...I like how you respond...because you really know what you want and you will not let someone make you think two ways about it. There is nothing as beautiful and powerful as a woman who is certain about herself, what she wants, and what her priorities and goals are in life - You are intentional and have a direction for your life. You have no time to waste or be distracted! You have truly come of age and I am so proud of you! Keep soaring higher and into being all that God made and wants you to be! That is the best thing ever, IN THIS LIFE!

I love how cozy they look 😍 💕 the couch 🛋 and the blankets 😍

We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty. Maya Angelou

I grew up in an area where being Black and Muslim wasn’t foreign but there was the assumption that if you were Black and Muslim, then you were a member of the NOI. The NOI were very active in my town, especially when I was a kid. My perspective as an Eritrean was a lot more broad. Also, with regard to identity, I think Gen Z has far more resources they can tap into and mentors they can look to and their understanding of intersectionality is definitely deeper than generations past.

You’re black and Muslim 😂. I got that a lot when I was leaving in Malaysia. In Nigeria 100M black people are Muslims, not to mention the rest of Africa. We’ve definitely learned a lot from each other thanks to the internet.

this set up looks so so cozy omg

I have never heard the black Muslim vs a brown Muslim thing. But I have been told so many times even until this day "can't you just take the pepperoni off the pizza". Lucky now in my part of Western NY, there's a lot of pizza places that have beef pepperoni.

I literally just finished watching your New York video yay. Also Jumma Mubarak everyone

Screaaminnnggg!! I love the coziness of it all! ❤

I love this. I'm not Muslim and couldn't follow everything. So I did some research and feel like I have a better grasp. But, I thought you had a video where you sort of explained dating and marriage. Can you tag it?

I want to learn more about the Islamic faith. Where should I start? Love your channel by the way! Just subscribed!

I could listen to Nabat speak all day. She’s so well spoken, Masha Allah

oooh we love a girl talk AND YOU BETTER NOT QUIT ON US OR ELSE WE FIGHTING SIS LOOL JUMAA MUBAREK GUYS

My honest advice to sisters who are thinking about getting married to any potential man who she thinks he is the one. 2 years or more is too much for getting to know each other and it’s a waste of time and energy to put in a relationship like this. According to studies, the average amount of time of getting to know someone before engagement should a period of 6 months to 1 year. Once when you guys made it to the engagement, it should last for a period of 4 to 6 months, or a year,if possible, determining if you guys will make it to the marriage. If a man wants to marry you within 2 years or more, then sis walk away cuz he is not the one for you and he will twist and turn the relationship. If he want to get to know to you, you must ask him if he is willing to come over to her house to get permission from her parents before and he say to you “ I am not ready” or “I need more time to think about”, then walk away. Asking critical questions is important for him to give you the answer to see if he is the the right one for you. At the end of the day, any man who is serious about choosing you to marry and gets permission from your parents, will be the real one. Please do not waste your alls time and energy into these things and it’s not going to be worth it😤. I’ll pray for you all to find the the man that you deserve.

2 years Nope! You can fall into sin that way. Plus you could be sacrificing your fertility.

this was really fun guys! thanks Aisha !

Brutally honest talk !

Oh my God... oh my goooddd.. I love this so much 🥰🥰🥰 thank you so much aysha I needed thissssaahh

This is scary...2 yrs... No girl shoul be put in zat position to wait for her man...

hijabi from france here 🙋‍♀️ i love the concept!

Girl are you wearing the dress by With love Leena, The Drop collection? Orange looks really good on you!!

Salam, loved the collaboration. Loved the honesty of your views as well as the diversity in opinion. May Allah bless you all 😊

Asalamu Alaikum! the thing abt Muslim dating apps is quite contradictory since dating is haram. Obviously, there's boundaries in Islam to make it halal but i think we should avoid them all together 😁

Salam Alaykum! I do love the representation, its so nice seeing black Muslim women in an online space. I would just say to be very cautious about the advice/comments made especially geared towards other young Muslim women. You guys said yourselves that people like Aysha serve as a role model to other Muslim women, especially those that are young & wear hijab so hearing some of the advices/comments shared were a bit concerning. Allahu 'alam, I'm truly commenting just as a benefit to you all & hoping it is not something that may count against you with Allah swt.

I love watching your vlogs❤️❤️❤️❤️

❤ aww I missed your intro🥰 very soothing Hi Aysha 🎉 haven't watched your vlogs in a while, i hope you're good I'm glad I'm back

I enjoyed this so much Definitely want to see more

I agree, Keep your options open !

Am I the only one who doesn't understand the muslim dating thing? Literally this is misguiding the ummah! There is no such thing as "Muslim dating".Free mixing with the opposite gender is prohibited in islam and thats it! You can meet through family, friends or through modern day matrimony services but you have to be accompanied with a mahram and you can not go on dates or be friends and let's be honest there no way someone who's been dating for so long has never crossed the red lines of Islam even of that means flirting. Please muslimahs do not follow their advice.

Love this !!!! Would love to see more

I am Fijian-Indian. People are confused that I am Muslim that looks like South Indian. Growing up people thinks Muslims are not from India.

Super excited and wonderful video❤❤❤❤❤❤

I just love your vlogs ayshaharun 💯

I RAAAANNNNN HERE!!!

Your vlogs are the best!!!!!!🎉💯❤️

About waiting, ur right. I waited 17 years and no proposal but I know now he was using me 4 a visa

TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHERE TO START...WELL FIRST, I'M 55! I WATCH AYSHA FOR HER CONTENT. BUT ALL I REALIZED FROM HER AND HER DIVORCE REMINDED ME OF MY YOUNG MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE. EVEN MORE THE SEVERE DISCONNECT WITH MUSLIMS TRADITIONS AND HOW CERTAIN BLACK AND WHITES DO LIFE/LIVING! SO MUCH OF HOW PEOPLE DO ONE ANOTHER.... I'LL NOT FULLY UNDERSTANDING! BECAUSE OUTSIDE OF LOVE (ANYWAY) WHAT DOES IT MATTER (NOT SPEAKING LIFE INTO ONE ANOTHER IS ITS OPPOSITE).... GOD/ALLAH IS MORE THAN WE "WILL" AND COULD EVER IMAGINE, THINK, OR BELIEVE... FOREVER ❤️✌️🕊️🌹

All my faves ❤❤❤

Yes to a man living alone after age 25. A must have in the western world

20:50 people do change 🙄 even if you are living with each other

I love the video guys and I'm really into the content. You guys have a lot of great conversations.and cool discussions. I'm going to keep watching. 😎🤓😝😜

Your mom’s was a good answer the best role model you can ask for . I feel we need to teach our kids about Aisha r.a Khadijah R.a Sumayyah RA so these women should Be our role model.

2 years is such a long time, even for a non-muslim. If you know yourself and what you want, why wait for two years? It truly shows that the person does not really care about you and does not have an understanding of who they are. It's better to end things so that you can be found by the person who is ready to go to the next level.

I won't rush anything and I think what she wants is defiantly important.. so I would wait if she wanted us to. If there was no reason to I wouldnt. I would ask her as soon as I'm able to.

I’m not gonna lie I did enjoy this but I literally feels like every answer never even mentioned their deen or Islam which is lowkey worrying cuz why have we normalized dating and literally haram stuff like this is a Muslim talk but why is Islam not even a big part of this convo

The part where you spoke on the pizza seems so miniscule to most but it really isn't!!! Speaking from experience...almost all races including our own to find it impssoible to believe out we were born Muslim. People automatically assume based on race the default religion has to be Christianity.

FINALLYYYYY. 🤗🤗🤗🤗

A man that doesn’t live at home HAHA 😂

This was amazing

The Pashmina era 🤣♥️♥️♥️♥️

Biiiiiiiiig single till married energy

Where would he live if not at home?

Masha Allah, Muslim woman❤

I’m with Aysha. What do you mean you never had to take care of your own place?

Alhamduillah I'm planning to wait two years or more to get married Inshallah

Hi Aysha, Asalam Aleikum 🥰🥰🥰🥰

Asalamualaikum Sis 😘❤️ The title! 😆

Never clicked on a video so fast 😘😘

I still get asked "how are you muslim and black?"

I love your content beautiful

My favorite ❤️❤️❤️

I met my husband on muzmatch too 😅

My favourite 😍 ❤️ 💕 ♥️ 💛

My favorite ❤❤❤❤

This is so interesting🥰🫶🙏🏽💖

You can get your nikkah done on the phone

I love you ♥️♥️♥️

what are their guy cousins talking about lol? If your muslim and your not ready to be married don't talk to anyone leave women alone. If he is stringing you along leave him immediately. It will just lead to haram unnecessary relationships and a lot of emotion turmoil. 'struggle years' and testing the relationship...lol I'm dead.

Please come my Qatar.

If your ready for marriage and truly want to complete half your deen it won’t take 2 years to figure out if you want to marry someone or not. If they don’t see your worth after a few months and have some sort of plan/suggests meeting the family etc then leave your in a situationship.

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Where’s your dress from …. The one in the into video 😍😍😍

I definitely I’ll marry you in two years somebody😂😂😂😂 I wanted to finish school then work for a year before

brown scarf seems very odd

its called vetting. just like you vetted him for sex he's vetting you for marriage. the day after your marriage 2 years from now will be no different than today. so whats the rush? its funny how men can't feel entitled to sex & has to wait for it, but women feel entitled to commitment & won't wait for it. funny how that double-standard works.

So how does colorism work in you community does that exist like favoritism of lighter skin women do your men prefer lighter skin over darker?

But this is hijabs talks 😂😂😂

Also Ayesha was your ex intentional in perusing you also I feel like you always have your guard up when your talking about your ex marriage you need to speak in it .

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Wow, looking crazy with those huge microphones in this age of technology !!!!!

Dang Ayesha was being so disrespectful and full of herself in this video lol she thinks just cuz she makes the most money her opinion matters the most lmfao

2 years is too long and to wait another 2 years after 🥴🥴🫠

There may be more people visible with some sort of hijab on, but we had a much better representation of the correct hijab. The longer we’ve been in the west, the lighter our hijabs have become and the tighter our clothing has become.

I meant my husband on muzmatch. I recommended it to a friend who found her husband there as well.