A job coach that I was listening to on KZfaq suggested that a really good interview question for a new employer might be "Who was your best hire and why?". If they say "He was available 24 hours and day and responded to emails within an hour, even on weekends", then you know you don't want to work there.

Finally a youtube channel about real software development, instead of "how to get into Google and get rich by listening to an egomaniac with some tecno music in the background" (nothing against tecno, just saying). Those youtubers are the software equivalent of teenage streamers. They hijack the whole thing and turn it into something ridiculous, alienating most sensible people. I was looking for something like this, and I bet many others are too! Thank you for your honesty!

The phrase I've heard and helps me get through approval issues is "Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm." Good luck Jayme, love your videos!

Every developer has to have aware with: -Helplessness learned -Burnout syndrome -Tutorial hell -Impostor syndrome Thank you for your videos!!

Software developers usually don't leave companies. They leave bad managers and toxic organizations who treat people/programmers as *interchangable parts* that you can burn out and then toss in the garbage and then hire "another interchangable part" that we can burnout and dump.

I've been a developer for 43 years and what you were saying in your videos strikes me as very close to the real world and not negative. You must be a programmer and a people person and a problem solver have nerves of Steel and yet egoless I find humor gets me through the day

If youtube had more videos like this the world would be a better place.

JOB MARKET: massive lack of developers, biggest tech boom in world history. COMPANIES: we need developers, but you need to be expert in everything and we will treat you like the lowest life form DEVELOPERS: thank you company, i'll serve you with extreme overhours, insane deadlines and horrible working conditions

What I like about your videos is the human element. We developers get bombarded by "experts" telling us this is the "right way" of doing things that will change your world with such confidence, even though it changes every 5 years. You're expressing and articulating the frustrations that many developers feel, and you know, sometimes just hearing a voice out there telling you it isnt just you, that really helps to lift ones spirit

Dude, I really can’t believe you make such quality content. THANK YOU. I’m 24 and hearing about the experiences of a man who has had an entire career and lived a life and is able to reflect on it in an honest way is something of which you really can’t measure the value. When you are doing well and feel as though you have things in order, come back, because I know I am not the only one who is impacted by your work.

My advice: 1) Remember it's just a job. 2) If you genuinely don't like your job, look elsewhere for a better fit. There are many companies out there that do things slightly differently. Corollary: There is bullshit at every company. What varies is what kind and how much that kind bothers you. 3) Dogmatism is almost never appreciated. Pragmatism rules. 4). Own your mistakes. Good companies and clients will appreciate the honesty.

Jayme, it must have been very hard for you to make that video, you shared some very personal details of your life and how it affected your career. I'm pretty sure I don't only speak for myself when I say that I really appreciate your candor and bluntness about your tribulations and struggles. Nobody has a perfect existence and everyone would go back and change things if they could, but as Men, learning from our mistakes and acting accordingly to get the outcome that we desire is what we can do (kind of like Coding).Also, people that are professionals tend to let their job define them, that is very dangerous, no job or paycheck in the world is worth your Mental Health! Hope you are better.

I am a software development project manager. I began watching your videos because you are REAL. I am NOT a developer, but manage development projects. Appreciate the content. Wishing you well. I get it. We all feel the same. Best of luck to you. Hope that you are able to keep your videos coming, but FAMILY FIRST.

Who talks the truth, needs a fast horse. You are such a great person. Keep on rocking this monster called . Love your wisdom

I'm honestly surprised you don't have WAY more subscribers. You have really calmed my frustration with the software process with your videos. It is not the best, but I'm not going to be angry about it all.

This is an awesome channel dropping truth bombs. Can’t believe the sub rate is so low.

To solve developer anger, I have started going to gym. This solved 90% emotional problems for me.

Jayme bro, courage is the word. You have been courageous and honest in all these videos. Your views are gold. Your channel is like the "broken coders anonymous" with you leading the way. After watching your channel, I've kicked up focus on ergo, be more healthy, am personally warming up to zen buddhism, and trying to walk a spiritual path. I've been through personal loss too and going through a difficult phase in life too. The path is clear- Be good, treat everybody nice, be a trooper, accept that we are all flawed and take care of yourself. It's very easy to break apart in the 21st century. Lets keep trooping and evolving spiritually!

Hi Jayme I'm a software developer from South Africa, I came across your channel thinking about doing something similar to talk about my path and what is helping for me and wanted to say like so many here that you're not alone... Problems in my relationship with my wife and my career and physical health overlapped and I went down a path that made me very depressed … I think the biggest part of this is becoming aware of your own problems and being able to work on them. I had back problems from sitting too much and not getting exercise, sounds silly but can bring you down hard, I had problems working in a team and taking responsibility, both in my career and with my wife my perceptions were just getting the best of me and I ended up making myself feel sick and resentful of everything and everyone around me. I saw a therapist to talk about things I’ve never spoken to anyone else, I saw a physio, fixed my back, continued on with other exercise, set goals for myself outside of my career which motivated me to get more exercise and keep some focus on that goal. I now drink lots of water, get exercise, get sleep, make time for myself and basically treat myself as someone I’m responsible for helping.

KZfaq just recommended me to you a few days ago, and your channel has been super helpful! Especially the video you made on estimations which I applied to work this week (scrutinizing requirements) and it helped us to see there were more intricacies than we originally thought, and allowed me to get the feature done really fast. I’m a Christian and I’ve been praying to God to bless me with wisdom in my work, and being lead to these videos definitely expanded my wisdom. I hope you make some more videos soon. God bless you and praying for you and your family!

Don't worry about negativity. It's part of life. We do not live in all positive all pretend fictional world. I learned from your negativity way more I could learn from all positive videos. Be honest and keep the good work!

i can't stop watching your videos, they are so spot on.... it's glad to know the problems i face aren't unique. thanks for sharing, i recently quit a cushy job that became toxic (no longer express creativity, boxed into bad concepts in pursuit of money, sacrificing long term stability for short term profits) even though i was the dev manager! i was incredibly sour about it, but now i got a fresh perspective and am ready to get back on that horse :)

I've watched like 12 videos thinking that you had to have at least 100k subscribers with how awesome all your stuff is. Literally just looked up to see you have 14k right now. Thanks for all of this dude! This is really helpful for me as a new dev (2 years in)

I just resigned last month without a job offer because of the work environment. People don't care about breaking the design, hacking the code, whatever it takes to make it work. This happens after we have new upper management, and new direction(adopt agile, cloud), and other new red tapes and bureucracy. I felt so confused. When I first started I aspire to be the best engineer, to do the right thing. I read articles, best oractices and opinion from respected dev. I felt conflicted all the time knowing what I do at work is the opposite. I grew to hate writing code, I became cynical of principles or best practices, everyday I felt like I'm failing. Left the work, rest and learn new stuff. Now I feel good again at wriring code.

Hey Jayme, just found out about your videos and been binge watching. Your videos are so relatable. 5 years in as a developer at a big consulting firm and I was ready to quit IT altogether. Your videos give me hope. Just want to say this specific video is GOLD. Thank you for your honesty, courage, and the desire to help others from your own experiences. I wish you the best of health in all areas - physical, mental, spiritual, family relationships, career. We want to see you become well. Take all the time to recover - if it means you are not able to produce as many videos as you like to - then so be it. The air stewards/stewardesses are right - once you put on your own oxygen mask, you'll be able to help others. Rooting for you and your family. Hope your son gets better.

Especially on projects that are suffering poor leadership or a lack of leadership, start from "what do I want to get out of this project, this week, this day". That empowers me to detach from issues outside of my control/responsibility, and focus on learning a new tool, library, strategy, and gain useful skills for the next project.

This channel not just helpful for Programmers but a team of DBAs. I have 30 years in IT and enjoy your content. I hope that I can help others with what I learned here.

I'm happy to have found your channel today, I'm a burnt out full stack developer who just clocked 10 years. I quit my job about 3 weeks ago, because I felt overloaded and under appreciated. I relate to so much of your content, especially the political nature of business which has made me jaded as well. Thanks for sharing your true and genuine experience.

Never have I found a channel where the videos felt so humble and insightful to genuine troubles that the software world doesn’t like to talk about. And this sense of self awareness and reflection shows sincerity, something I don’t see nearly enough. As someone fresh to the corporate world and IT, I want to be that sincere mentor as well. Keep doing what you’re doing, and live the best life you can, man.

this are insanely high quality content and channel on the software engineering! wish you all the best and thank you for sharing! I just discovered it today and cannot wait watching more of your videos!

Thanks for sharing your story with everyone Jayme. I hope you're doing well!

Your videos are helping me, thanks for sharing your struggles

Wow this really pulled at my heart strings more than I expected it to. I hope you're enjoying your life right now Jayme.

all your videos are awesome! thank you for sharing.

Your honesty is quite refreshing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I am quite surprised that you don't have a million subscribers by now.

Your honesty is captivating

Hope you doing great now. Thank you for all you shared with us. Its a great support to know not being lonely to struggle with all this s... and doing what we love to do at the same time. Best wishes and looking forward to hear some update from you 😉

Thank you for your videos. I just found your channel and I was amazed with your openness. I totally agree, we put too many expectations on technology forgetting other values ... maybe dragged by the system. Now the ego looks like it's gonna end us all. And I do not think it is a problem exclusively for those who work developing software. It's hard to imagine a different solution than to stop contributing to this madness. More than a year since your last video, I hope you are well ... I am sure you are. Thanks again.

Thanks so much for sharing your story of your current situation! I really appreciate your heart with this KZfaq channel and can relate in some ways to what you've been sharing. Keep on the path that leads to life brother. God bless.

Your videos are a great valuable reference! I really recommend this channel to every developer. Thank you

Hope you get well Jayme. I started watching your videos a few months ago after getting a software engineering job out of college and love your content. I’d never had any experience in the software industry prior to graduating, but your videos have helped immensely in understanding the practices of how it all “works” and have given me a lot of confidence in moving forward in my software engineering career. Much love brother!

Your channel is getting traction. Good job! Excellent channel and much deserved!

I love the honesty and openness- thank you for sharing and I’m glad you have worked/are working through it. Your videos are awesome and much appreciated 💙

Wow, this video just touches me at a spiritual level. As a very very junior engineer, I have missed such frank talk with seniors. Thanks for this.

I know this is specific video is a year old, but I really needed your channel today.

I hope you're doing well bro. I'm praying for you. I'm graduating this year have carpal tunnel and forearm issues. Your videos are very helpful to me. It makes me feel like I'm not alone in this. You have a good day sir and thanks a lot for sharing your story

Way to go. Your not alone, its tough to be transparent, and share . Thankyou for being truthful, about experiences and pitfalls, and good advice encountered working in this environment.

Wow. Intimate. If I personally relate, same do many. Sharing what you do, how you do, is true mentorship, valuable wisdom, lessons learned so much more easily than by experience. Priceless. Free. Dude, kudos. Friend, chill. Love better everyday. Yourself first.

Hope you end up making more videos. Love the content.

Great video. A bunch of wisdom.👍

I'm glad to hear that you are coming through an upturn. I'd love to hear more about how you are doing lately.

Came across your channel yesterday and it looks like many others did too. Up 1k subs in one day almost! I was surprised to realize this is from June of last year and not 2020. Hope to hear more coming up soon.

What are some things that you need help with to have a healthy software development career? Leave me your thoughts below. Skip to points: 00:48 Where Have I Been Lately? 04:16 Origin Of The Channel 11:39 Why I've Been Angry 18:15 Setting Boundaries 20:26 What Went Wrong? 30:20 How I'm Getting Help 35:35 Impact To The Channel 45:38 How Can You Help?

Love your channel. A breath of fresh air!

Dude, I feel so much empathy for you right now. Thank you so much for sharing, I think it will make a lot of people feel less alone and less embarrassed about their human failings. Keep going!

I'm in my first year of university, all the software related content on youtube can be crappy. I really appreciate your honesty, it gives a more realistic perspective on what things can be like, i hope you can find solace within.

Hey, what up with the channel? I am not a professional programmer, but I picked python as a hobby during this pandemic. So I would say that my "struggle" is that I am only a beginner. I have watched a few of your videos, and you're down to earth. I would like to see more.

Thank you very much for preventing me from doing my mistakes by telling about yours

Very useful channel, now I understand why he looked so different to their topics (simply unhealthy). Respect, I am a developer and you help me with your videos to figure out and understand many issues I had and some of them I am just overcoming at this moment (mid of 2020). I hope you are feeling much better, you deserve it!

God Bless you Jayme. I stumbled upon your channel some how and so glad I did! May God bless you and use you for good. It's great to have someone out there to help programmers deal with the stresses of life and this career. Keep it up!

I would mostly not listen to similar videos that exceed 10 min, but for most of your videos, I sit through them from beginning to end. Thank you for the wisdom shared.

Just found this channel yesterday, it's super good. I hope you come back man. You are so valuable.

Thanks man! I wish I've known your channel earlier. Stay strong!

This is really good content, I agree wtih alot you say. I hope you keep making videos in the future. It didn't gave me the impression that you were pretending to know everything. "No silver bullet" applies also to software development advice. Been working as a freelance dev for 10 years and I'm about to start a consulting company. So your advice relate resonates. Thanks!

Appreciate the realness. Wish you still made youtube video's. Keep trucking!

Your content is excellent, appreciate your effort a lot!

Thank you for this video. A lot of it resonates.

Getting angry is a natural, normal, and healthy reaction to someone taking advantage of you.

I really appreciate this video and your openness. I needed this today.

Thank you so much for being an amazing inspiration to me

Thank you for being truly honest. I know many of your pains.

I’ve gone through many of your videos I really don’t think there is anything for you to apologize for. I’ve gone through many of your videos I really don’t think there is anything for you to apologize for. If anything you’re helping a lot of us who have been feeling the same and validating that we are not the crazy ones.

Hey, kudos from Brazil. I came across one of your videos as I was watching videos about software engineer burnout, anxiety and imposter syndrome. Even though I've been working as a dev for about 1,5 year, I feel I've been struggling a lot with my own expectations of what I should know, what should be my productive levels, and I sometimes shut down due to feeling incapable of meeting those expectations. It's really hard sometimes because I feel I'm not improving and I might get fired from this great startup I'm working in right now. Your message in the imposter syndrome video about being honest to people is one of the most important thing that I have to internalize and apply to all levels of my life, even though it sounds scary to expose myself and my insecurities. Thanks for telling us your experiences. Having advices from people who are working for a long time in this industry feels almost therapeutical to me. I really hope you're doing better by now and I look forward to watching more of your content!

I just finished this video and realized that is from a year ago, unfortunately. Well, I discovered your channel from "Why so many programmers lose hope?" and this was the second video I watched, so I have a lot to see after. Since childhood I am passionate for games, I remember asking myself "How can I do that? Pushing this buttons and controlling the characters, its cool". The passion continued from games, I started to play MMORPGs, and I growning up feeling that is my path, I gonna be a programmer one day. I didn't focused on games itself but to create and control "tech things". I've been working on a assurance company as a programmer, its the first job after finished the college, before that, I always worked with infrastructure IT thing, but my goal was to be a programmer. So, when I started on my job I was really excited about it, I changed the whole system of my company, improved and optimizes a lot of things, at that time, I got a lot of compliments, and after saw your video, I realized that was probably because I was free to be creative. But along all this almost 4 years, little by little my excitment was drying out. In short, lack of leadership, unrealist charge, pression from persons that don't know a thing about programming, lack of investment on the team (even if they are asking for new things like to do mobile, "learn from the internet, everybody's do it"), the feel that your advices are not listened (even if your explaing why this way might not be good for the system, the people from all the others sectors are superior than us, we are paid to do what they want, whatever, even if it's a button in the middle of the screen because they are too busy to drag the mouse to the right), OMG its becomming long, all right and so on... Well, I started to want to leave this industry, and maybe do software sometimes as a hobby, or something like that. Because all the time you spend studying, all the new things that pops up everyday that you have to be aware of, all the stress you get and the things that you put aside from your life, they are not paid off. It's not all about money, I talked with my partner on the company, and he felt the same way, since he started, but didn't leave because he already was depending on the money to just live. Last year I become an addicted to weed too, I was smoking every single day, at least one cig, sometimes more. Not to mention the nicotine, which I still have (that started on the second year working). I walked away from my friends to get more time to improve my skills, experienced insomnia too, by the way, that's way I started too smoke weed and got addicted. But, when this pandemic began, the things kind of slowed down on my tasks, I still work there, 3 times a week in home office and in general, much less things to do. And because of that, leaving that disturbance ambience and get away I little bit from doing code, I feel so good. And that's not why I don't have nothing to do or study, I started to learn other things, nothing related to tech, found strenth to back to do exercices, started to reading more. And I don't smoke weed since that too, and don't miss that and either don't have insomnia anymore. I am feeling like my mind is fresh, I was so stressed that sometimes I even hated talk to people, My mind was just having a burnout, in short. I'm so happy that I found you, because you are really honest, the programming work that the world is selling out there are not real for most of the people. Of course it have a lot of great jobs out there, but they are exceptions I think. And I was feeling so weak, because felt alone going throught all this struggles and frustrations. Well, today I'm wondering if I gonna focus on developing games (and search a job doing that), maybe it brings me the bright for programming again. Or just really take another path, actually I don't know exatcly which carrer yet, but I'm on my way to discover. I just need to be aware of that it is just my first job as a programmer, maybe out there I find something better. Fortunately I can make this change tranquil, because I don't depend that much on the money yet. I wanna thank you so so so much, your video gave me the feeling that I'm not alone and because of that I opened up my situation with my partner, and it was really helpfull, he has more experience (10 years +). To be honest, this video got me emotional, my eyes filled with water in some parts. Again, thank you Jayme! I loved to hear your history!

Thanks for sharing your stories!

Wow -- just wow -- thank you so much for sharing all this with us. I know it has to have been incredibly hard to bare your soul like this, and I think it's fantastic that you have had the bravery to take this on and share with us all this personal perspective, that even for someone like you, who seems very confident and experienced and has "life going right" for you, you have things you struggle with and have to deal with. One of the most important lessons that I learned (later in life that I should have) is that no matter how much you think you know, or how good you are, there is always someone better, and you can learn things from EVERYONE. I mentioned elsewhere I've been full time in the industry for 40 years (and using computers as much as possible for about 50), and STILL, I learn new things all the time, and appreciate everyone's take and perspective on things. And your videos, in particular (which I just discovered yesterday) have been wonderful and I have really been enjoying all that you've created and shared!

Thanks for your honesty, great content.

Really appreciate your honesty and transparency here. I also appreciated your story with the church and how that ended up bringing you back to better health all around.

Thank you for your honesty and sharing your story. I've been a developer for nearly 30 years and still get angry at things that are outside my control.

i think we have some very similar experiences. but also totally different, given i live in a completely different culture. kudos for sharing your faith. it is hard in a world where anti religiosity is adopted usually to feel more intelligent. i will for sure have questions as well, but atm. still enjoy all your videos. don't be too hard on yourself, you shall love the next like you love yourself, that kind of expects you to forgive and love yourself. also i have been trying to tell the stuff about being an artist as a coder for a long time. I am happy this finally starts to emerge.

Your videos are helping me through the hardest job of my life. your art is living beyond your expectations and connecting with people into the future. Thanks, man!

Thank you so much. Very helpful content!

You are one of the best mentors out there. Thank you for being so honest with the contents.

Thank you for your podcast and keep up the good work, mate! I learned a ton from it. I even plan to listen to all of the episodes again. Hope you get better. Thanks again!

I'm so glad that I have found this channel at the end of 2020. Now that I have almost finished watching your videos (and running through the comments) I must say this was one of the most valuable lessons KZfaq taught me. These talks helped me to understand the very nature of DevOps (what I'm trying to do nowadays). I do not agree with most of the edgy comments stating that we do not need how-to-do-it-stuff type of videos but only this kind. We need the Indian guys to tell us how to set up a certain thing in AWS and we need the Russian teenagers explain us how you should disassemble a certain type of laptop. But we indeed thrive for really experienced professionals like Uncle Bob or Jayme to tell us valuable lessons about the industry itself.

Thanks dude. World is full up on angry developers and I would join them if I didn’t have people like you making these videos.

Thank you so much for sharing this and your video about losing developer hope. It means a lot! Just subscribed! I feel less lonely with the frustration I have sometimes as a developer.

Missed your vids. Good to see you back and great vid.

Hang in there man 💪your videos really helped me a lot in losing frustration actually because a lot of the dysfunctional behavior in the companis I work at are cleared up by your explanations and opinions. I feel like a lot of software companies are just running on hot air and we all have a n idea about how we can improve the situation, your opinions are just as valued as mine and it really helps having someone push out content that doesn't cater to the idea that all these companies are perfect and everything they do works, when we all know it doesn't. Hang in there man I'm sure you're doing great, keep it up

I just started listening to your channel. I've gone through maybe 10ish so far. As a new(ish) scrum master I want to protect my team as well as encourage and support them, especially when company bureaucracy tries to get in the way. Therefore your real life examples and pitfalls help me to understand that others are facing the same challenges. I also appreciate your sincerity, especially in this video. Being humble and trying not to let anger take over can be tough, but I am glad you are finding ways to cope. As a fellow Christian, who respects those different then myself, I understood your comments around finding the power of prayer and seeking strengthen from your community. All that to say, I look forward to your future videos regardless of how often you put them out. Good luck on your continued servant leadership path and health.

You being yourself while making these videos only makes it more authentic. Keep at it, mate! Greetings from down under.

Good for you for working through anger issues! I think many have some of this. Anger is a natural emotion however. For me, I think it important to try to not carry it around more than necessary. I try to process it - ask for forgiveness, and forgive myself - ask the universe for forgiveness - write a short apology card - and try to let it go. 'Try' is the operative word for it. 'Trying' helps a lot. 'Try' to be honest with oneself - with others - and to be nice to oneself, and nice to others. I try to own my own part. And I try to be fine with that.

I've recently come across your videos... your topics/discussions are real and dead on , I relate to everything you've had to say so far.

Appreciate your videos man

Sir. thank you for this, God bless you and your family.

Thanks for the vids, thanks for sharing what you think needs to be shared.

Glad I watched this video. It'll give me another perspective when watching all your past videos (new to the channel). I haven't even started my software dev career yet and find myself getting bitter to the profession, so it's eye-opening to hear someone else's experience.

Thank you for taking the time to make the videos. I have been watching your videos, and I think I am beginning to understand why they have so little views. The content is great, I think your ideas are spot on, and I can relate to your experiences. What I have realized is that not many developers or managers think like you, (or me). Most developers focus on money, recognition, or climbing the corporate ladder. In my experience, most just do the bare minimum, taking the easy way, trying to avoid the “The only reward for doing good work is the addition of more work.” problem. I have found myself feeling like you when I get stuck in the middle manager position when you are not high enough to make important decisions, but not low enough to avoid the responsibility of fixing the real issues. It's kind of like the weight loss industry (Choosing weight loss because its something easy to understand and relate). I think everybody it's smart enough to understand that without eating well, avoiding junk food, and doing exercise regularly nothing will work. Yet, we see the majority of people getting hooked into quick diets and get fit products that are almost guaranteed not to work. I think your ideas are not well accepted due to the amount of extra work that it would be required for people that are not really committed to delivering good software. I might be wrong, maybe its just a youtube algorithm fluke, and the content will become viral in a few months. Anyway wanted to thank you for this great content.

I will quote Alanis: "You love, you learn, you live, you learn". You make great videos. Thanks for learning and sharing. Keep it up!

First time viewer, thanks so much for vocalizing what has been on my mind as well for a long time.