My Spouse Says They Don't Love Me Anymore
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Nobody wants to hear it. And if you've heard it, it hurts... It's when your spouse looks at you and says, "I don't love you anymore." Or maybe they say it like this, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore."
Is it over? Is there anything you can do? Actually, there's a lot you can do. That's what we talk about on today's episode of Relationship Radio.
Time Stamps:
00:00 - "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."
01:44 - "Can I fall out of love with you?"
03:46 - "Steps to rescue your marriage."
05:06 - "Looking through your spouse’s eyes."
06:55 - "The importance of having a membership."
10:13 - "A warning sign that something is wrong."
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@shannonD68 20 күн бұрын
Man is he very smart. A captivating articulate radio personality. Very thought-provoking. They both sound very learned.
@margarita1029 10 ай бұрын
I have been separated from my spouse one year he said to me he doesn't love me anymore I try to fix it but he refused so I am not trying no more I am all in to save my marriage but if he is not I cant do it alone I know God knows he heart and mine and the love for my spouse but I know God doesn't want me to be sad about my fail marriage , I just want God help me be strong for it
@nickoleross6199 10 ай бұрын
Same
@landusfinley8681 7 ай бұрын
I am right where you are at
@terrijohnston8803 10 ай бұрын
It hurts so much
@KnotEasilyBroken 10 ай бұрын
I don't love you anymore is the symptom of something more than what they said. The question is, what cause them to feel that way? Why all of a sudden, a great marriage or relationship comes to a sudden stop. Why are these words used to justify how they feel? This is where conversation and healthy communication are the key to unpacking how this couple got here. It is not always a quick fix, but before you throw away your marriage, find out what is the cause of why you are both here.
@lynndelduca4399 24 күн бұрын
This would be a good course of action if the other party was welling!! One person within a marriage couldn't help for themselves, but if the other refuses the hope is gone !!
@shannonD68 20 күн бұрын
Well- said. Great vantage point and perspective, for someone like myself.
@KnotEasilyBroken 20 күн бұрын
@@shannonD68 thank you
@akosfellner5061 11 ай бұрын
This is brilliant.
@halinkap5217 11 ай бұрын
Oh, i remember that time when i was at home with a toddler and a baby all day (and night) - my biggest longing was just to get an extra nap! But it was only a season in life.
@idk7946 10 ай бұрын
i love this subject and the talk of infidelity because not only does it show what love should be and what's right to do but also shows you the other side if i may say but i always had a question does this mechanism also apply to dating relationships or strict marriage situations ik the channels name is marriage helper but i wish that they would make a topic about dating to merry since dr joe have tons of knowledge and i love this channels approach to relationships
@kevindeadder 11 ай бұрын
Wait...how is this my fault again when she tells me this? I'm not the one who has changed or betrayed our vows...
@wrwcf3078 11 ай бұрын
I don’t think they’re blaming anyone in particular, just asking us to look inside ourselves and if you really want to save your marriage to all you can. I understand the frustration as my spouse also changed and betrayed our vows. But I am keeping my vows. And I know I’m not perfect.
@douglastjones9830 6 ай бұрын
Check engine light lol. More like multiple fatalities in a head on collision
@VeraHull1966 10 ай бұрын
Good advice. Thank you both. I’m new to your channel. May I enquire, are you father and daughter?
@mellissiad7281 11 ай бұрын
I tried … but I am still a firm believer to fight if u can
@mygirldarby 11 ай бұрын
You shouldn't. It won't end well. You shouldn't have to fight for it. If he left, leave him back. He doesn't love you enough if he left. Please don't fight for someone who doesn't love you.
@christinekarimi5335 11 ай бұрын
my marriage is in such a stage
@lynndelduca4399 11 ай бұрын
My husband said to me ,in front of your children that he doesnt love me anymore ,doesnt want me and is just saying in this marriage because it is easy for him so he looks good . 😢 very sad . He was using me for his double life 😢
@valdius85 10 ай бұрын
Did you asked him why? I am on the other side being pushed away so there is something you can do.
@dianal3542 25 күн бұрын
Please don't allow anyone to use you... Or use him in return.
@lynndelduca4399 24 күн бұрын
@@valdius85 , he had someone else . That was his double life
@valdius85 23 күн бұрын
@@lynndelduca4399 That’s terrible, I’m sorry. I misread your post the initial time. Sorry for that.
@filhodarosa7512 11 ай бұрын
At 5:00 they said to look through your spouse’s eyes and try to interpret a situation as they would see it. But what if your spouse is bats**t crazy? This is not a rhetorical or sarcastic question. My spouse has mental health issues and doesn’t see the need for treatment or therapy. I suspect borderline personality disorder. She’s triggered by the smallest of comments or the most innocuous situation. I’m so tired of being reasonable and understanding. What can I do, in this case?
@lisaseverino5114 11 ай бұрын
@phillipjones611It’s a very sad and lonely feeling when your spouse treats you like you’re invisible Communicate your feelings and ask her if you have caused her any emotional pain and then acknowledge her if you have, say sorry I didn’t mean to hurt you and go from there.
@passthegravy7688 6 ай бұрын
Face it. It's over.
@valdius85 10 ай бұрын
After our baby was born I've heard few times that "I don't matter anymore". Half hoke half serious tone. I definitely took note of that as there are more actions that proved that to be true. I am supper chatty person, to unhealthy amount. It took me some time but I am a quiet person at home and rarely speak when not talked to directly. Solo holidays are already being planed in my head.
@daviddunham9785 11 ай бұрын
Yeah, if you're heart isn't in tune anymore then what?
@sideman7117 11 ай бұрын
Knowing the kids (adults now) take precedent over the husband is a real turn off.
@cg1232 3 ай бұрын
What if botj are true ive done the oushing and got her to fall out of love with me and than she had an affair. And loves someone else
@garyzornow484 11 ай бұрын
That is assuming that they were ever in love. That is not always true in every marriage. I was in the military, and she asked me to get married. I agreed because of the added income, not because I was in love or even my best friend. I thought that would come along with time. It did not, and I am sad for her and for me in the time lost not experiencing love. We are both lonely, and we are not intimate. We have been this way for more than ten years. I have a fear of intimacy and medical/mental issues that cause ED. I am a very boring individual and don't express my emotions. I feel that we have a contract so we stay married and lonely. Sad really.
@AlmaChavez-sf4pk Ай бұрын
My husband said he’s certain that he loves me but not unconditional love meaning as in now he doesn’t see himself with me in the future he told me why. He wants to stay together for our kids but idk if to quit or keep fighting for marriage 😢
@phillipjones611 11 ай бұрын
Should I say to my spouse that I don't love her anymore, because she pays me little or no attention, especially sexually and sensually, even if I love her. I don't want to be ignored for the rest of my life?
@wrwcf3078 11 ай бұрын
No tell her you love her and want to be more intimate!
@rebeccasnyder6719 11 ай бұрын
Can understand the way you are feeling.
@phillipjones611 11 ай бұрын
@@wrwcf3078 and if she continues to say NO way, you see there are mental health and abusive relationship issues in the background, family members long dead now, and her 1st husband.
@mblake0420 11 ай бұрын
Ask her why and don't accept the first answer. Sit down and make them look you in the eye. Either someone else, tired, something is wrong medically or insecure.
@wrwcf3078 11 ай бұрын
Think about it, why would you lie and say something that you don’t really feel or believe. Don’t play games. Have an honest conversation really communicate. Watch the videos on how to talk to your spouse. And don’t delay, many of us wish we hadn’t.
@theminchinfamilyvlogs6891 11 ай бұрын
hi if i become a member am i able to cancel the membership?
@jeanjoseph7905 11 ай бұрын
What can you do when your husband says I don't love you anymore....there is nothing you can do but move on because after one relationship outside they cheat again because you took them back.
@mygirldarby 11 ай бұрын
Yep. People need to listen to what you're saying. If they cheat, don't try to work it out.
@echase416 3 ай бұрын
Cheating tends to be a chronic behaviour
@terrijohnston8803 10 ай бұрын
Being pushed to far
@sinfulyetsaved 11 ай бұрын
I disagree, on washing dishes part. A woman does not derive attraction from a man doing dishes. If the man was beibg a man husting, educated, in shape and knows how to make a woman have mind blowing orgasms doesnt matter how tired she is she will still want him. A woman feeled heard is more important thab dishes being washed