You are so sweet. I am 2 weeks in on full no contact from my husband of 38 years. I am a bit lost. I am fortunate my kids are grown. I am half way across the country from him. Thank you for this.

Breaking the trauma bond is so hard. I miss her so much after 9 months. I wish I didn’t miss her and all that abuse. It’s so prevalent even for us guys

My identical twin was trapped in a 15 year relationship with a malignant narcissist and sociopath. He destroyed her life, our relationship and her children’s lives. Although he didn’t murder her, he was absolutely 💯 culpable for her premature death. She was a living hollow skeleton who was severely psychiatrically ill before she died 😢

I was married to a psychopathic covert narc for 40 years. The point about the kids is crucial. I made the choice to stay because I didn’t want my kids ruined by him, or my trashy replacement. My reasoning was faulty because even the most absent dad has a huge impact. The turning point for me came when the narc no longer had a rational brain. Not only don’t these people get better they get worse with age and boredom. Boredom is a key piece ; after all they are just toddlers in grown bodies. That’s why its impossible to reason with them and they have addictions. Don’t waste your life on delusional abusers; when you get free you understand how much you need decent treatment. Even simple acts of kindness are amazing. And, yes the cops were useless. I just used them so there was a record, in case something else happened. If you look at what happened to Gaby Petito last summer in Moab, that’s typical of how the police respond. “Stay with your abuser and calm down “. My advice with the cops is to act as dead calm as a psychopath; then they might believe your story.

I grew up in a narcissistic family system. The abuse was awful and I witnessed them manipulating the protective system while I was blamed for the violence as a child. My extended family recently began reframing the story and accusing me of lying. Their manipulation is insanity; you would believe them because they lie so well. I just realized I cannot trust the people I had hope that I could trust but they turned out to be the same too. It’s painful and isolating.

I was in a two year relationship with a woman who is a covert narcissist with sociopathic tendencies. What you have related here, in terms of both the self-medication (in my case, with alcohol) and suicidal tendencies as a result of the abuse are astoundingly insightful and accurate. I am, and likely will be, in therapy for this for a long time. Narcissistic abuse is horrible!!

Victims really struggle with denial because we don’t want to face how bad things really are. This only makes the problem more progressive. Somewhere in our lives, usually from childhood, we learned to do this and it’s very unhealthy. Thank you for sharing, more women need to! 🙏

You Are beautiful. He has not broken your spirit and you’re still a light in this world 🌟🌟✨

I know of a story told to a women's group that I attended. She said her husband was very abusive, physically, mentally. She told the group that he woke up on morning and told her to put the children (three little girls) to get in the car, and she sat up in front. As they are driving, her husband told her that this would be the day he would kill her. At some point, while they were driving, he punched her on the side of her head. She said that she notice a hammer at her feet in the messy car. She said she put her foot on it, because she feared if he saw the hammer, he would have used it on her. Her children sat in stone silence on the ride, probably terrified to speak. Finally, one little girl started to cry and he said he would kill them first if they were crying. She said that she convinced her husband to take her to the ER, because, she told him, if she died in the car, the PD might stop them and then take him to jail. Finally, he drove up to the ER entrance. In one movement, she put the seat forward and told her daughters to run! She got out and ran too. In the ER, she told he doctor or nurse what she had been through. Ultimately, she was given a 30 mile restraining order, after he served five years in jail.

IM SO VERY SORRY FOR WHAT YOU HAVE WENT THROUGH MY SITUATION IS SO VERY SIMULAR TO YOUR STORY I WAS INVOLVED WITH A HIGHLY TOXIC MALIGANT NARCISSITICS MY LIFE WAS DESTROYED THROUGH EMOTIONAL ABUSE GASLIGHTING AND MANIPULATION.ITS A STRUGGLE FOR ME EVERYDAY. I HOPE AND PRAY THAT YOU ARE DOING WELL TODAY.

Appreciate this video more than you know. I’m a survivor of a 3 year relationship with a frequently violent narcissist and I’m currently struggling with addiction and depression. I feel like I’m not alone in this. Thank you , hope for the future

Thanks for sharing. I’m a Survivor and it’s good to hear stories from others who make it through. It’s a long road and so hard to trust anyone anymore. Some day I will.

I was married to a narracist abuser like you describe for 21 years. I had no help either and all my family still believes him. We have a address confidentiality program. It was a absolute horror. Finally after finding a hypnotherapist, i am finally coming out of the trauma brain. Never again will this happen in my life. Never. I completely relate and have lived a very similar situation.

you don't look like where you've been. You're beautiful

You have a beautiful heart! I am so sorry that you experienced all this terrifying 20 years. It is so long time to endure every day abuse for your soul and your heart. I hope you will be blessed with all harmony joy and love possible. ❤❤❤

I am going through a similar situation with four children and I was looking for videos on how to help me through what I am going through. I appreciate you so much for this video it gives me hope that one day things will be better for us. Thank you!

God bless you. Not many people can admit their losses, but like you said theres no price on freedom and emotional health.

You are right, at first you don’t want to believe the aggressive outbursts - make excuses for them. Then comes the realisation that the person you are married to is not the one you thought he/she was. That is a terrible stage. By then you have children and (in my case) no financial resources. Spend your life covering up the sick situation you are in until your eldest child says they’ve had enough and runs away. My question is why are there so many people with these terrible narcissistic tendencies? How can they do so much damage? What possible satisfaction can they get from it? They end up hated and alone. All of my children hate the narcissist in our lives. The eldest has had no contact with him for 6 years. All are suffering from depression or anxiety to some extent and levels of PTSD.

Thank you for sharing this. Very supportive. I enabled mine to and now he is convincing the ones it was me and I am terrible and they belive. I needed to hear that. hugs

I understand all of this. You are amazing.

Yes indeed. Getting out of “that” situation is traumatic BUT completely worth it. A day without the narcissist in it, slinging insults, making accusations, starting arguments over nothing. . . I too am rebuilding what is left of my life after DECADES of abuse. Thank you for the courage to tell your story. People who have never been under the “spell” of the pathological narcissist have no idea what we survivors have been through. (Or are STILL going through.) We survivors KNOW what your ordeal was.(is) I applaud you! The hurt and pain don’t suddenly go away, but at the very least when a person escapes their abuser their body can begin to heal.

I am so sorry you went through all that😥... I have been in narcissistic family relationships that I am no longer tolerating . Still need some healing and learning to manage some trauma responses when I face triggers. Just watched an informative video you put out that is helping me recognize whey I feel stress in certain situations and your story came on my feed. Thank you for sharing your story and for bringing awareness. Much love and prayers for you! ~ Sarah

I am going through a similar situation. I've been with this person for 2 years and I'm terrified for myself and my family. I've got 2 kids: 18 and 13 and are not his. I'm also considering leaving my thriving career, just got promotion this year in February. My son is in grade12, last year of high school and daughter grade 7 last of primary school. Taking off and disappearing is my only option but I feel guilty that my kids will have to drop out of their schools mid year

Your story is pretty similar to mine....20 year marriage to a narcissist abusive sociopath partner.

You’re beautiful!! Like 1960s natural beautiful face ❤ about to listen to your story now !

Thank you so much for sharing ..... Very powerful ❤

Thank you for all the help you are giving to help others.

i really appreciate your honesty

I get it. I had to leave the country to escape to protect myself, while having a successful career and having to spend time in a shelter and couch surfing. Back in the early 90’s, I was blamed by the court for his abuse.

You are a beautiful and well spoken mother!

You are brave - thank you for leading our “pack”…

Thank you for this video beautiful 😊. I hope you stay happy and positive for the rest of your life. I'm going through it now but not in a relationship with this person. He was my Regional Manager. Also going through it with being a victim of identity theft. But trying to stay hopeful. Have a wonderful day and/or evening ❤!

Working on story about DV and have been listening to videos like yours all afternoon and my heart is broken. You are so brave and strong, bless you

Thank you for sharing your story. I know it was more traumatic than what we can express, but for other survivors, we understand.. I think that's why it's so hard to even speak out and share our own personal stories.. But I believe it's something so important, as for our recovery... Survivor's need other survivors and we all need to detox our experiences out somewhere and this feels like a better resource than one hour a week with a therapist that's never been through it or has the proper education to understand us enough to feel heard ... Anyways, much love to you! Thank you xo ❤

DON'T BE NERVOUS YOU ARE UNSTOPPABLE ITS AMAZING WHAT YOU ARE DOING

thank you so much 💓 for sharing your story ❤️ I'm struggling for a long time, and it's hard to be in but hard out, but finally I decided out ....🎉

I am so touched by your authentic wish to help...."us" ❤

I am dealing with a narcissistic brother and sister-in-law that moved into my father's house that I was living in unannounced uninvited and have done unimaginable damage to this household. Trusting in God is the only thing that's keeping me going and stories like yours so thank you.

Thank you for sharing your story I too have left marriage of almost 5 years to what I identify now as a covert narcissist… I left with my 2 year old son and a 19 week pregnancy. It’s still pretty fresh for me And have found myself to be full of rage and highly paranoid especially towards the people around me And I find it’s isolating me more and making everything worse Is this normal? Has anyone else experienced this Or am I loosing it?

I’m so glad for you and your family. My mother for 21 years abused me and my identical twin sister. I’m also currently in a similarly “stuck” position with another narsicist. Thank you for this video. It gives me comfort knowing I might be able to get out and to the other side.

How does one take the initiative to leave? Especially if he controls the funds.I'm out but it was traumatic. Gosh, you would think the therapist could guide us on HOW to leave if they're going to counsel us to do so. THANK you for sharing!

Thanks for your story. I'm in England and am stalked and harassed on a daily basis. Organised Stalking. With modern tech they know where people are all the time.

Didn’t know narcissists were real , thought it was a made up world on the internet. I myself share my story on my channel but the wounds are still fresh . Yall I believe they can turn to taking your life without even trying hard . If you are afraid to leave because of what you built together or what you think you may leave behind , Leave!!!!! It’s nothing more important than your life ❤ you are loved 🥰 , I left with a backpack 🎒 starting over again is my profession, I would never hold on to material possessions to stay with this dangerous type of person ❤ Sending love and light .. Thank you so much for sharing this story ❤ your testimony is going to save many lives forever ❤

I agree it is difficult for victims of narcissistic abuse to get services because there's hardly any services for narcissistic victims. At least the state where I live that's the case. If people ask why don't victims of narcissistic abuse don't leave? Here are my reasons: 1) Apartment rents are too high 2) Mobile Homes cost way too much now Trying to get an apartment is like trying to find a job. Everything with apartments and jobs are done online. Like jobs, you fill out applications for an apartment and filling out a form to tour the apartment. Then you do all that filling out and you hear nothing back. Just like a job!! It's sad but while trying to find an apartment a victim of narcissistic abuse has no choice but to stay with the narcissist. That's why it hard for victims to leave. From my experience, a narcissist takes advantage when the victim has no friends or family that live in the same state. If family doesn't help at all, the narcissist takes more advantage. I'm trying to leave my narcissistic spouse.

Yes, I feel that because I'm going through, the price is too much to pay for freedom especially the well being of the children

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My started from my parents and almost every relationship. Every man was either overt or covert. It’s been 7 yrs. And while I’m way better , there is a part of my soul that will take more time to heal.

Thanks for sharing ❤❤❤ its really inspiring when other people share their stories that have gotten out. Do you have an email address or website available to chat/answer a few questions? Please if you can I don’t want to say too much on here. I’m seeking guidance and I’ve already went all the regular routes you would expect our families, therapy…they all send me a list of shelters and the domestic violence line to no avail . It’s a hopeless feeling unprotected and unseen by the entire world. And the countless people who victim blame in our society. I just need to know more about how you did it because at times it feels impossible

shopping and over snacking for me 😢

I don't want to be in a shelter either. So I'm gonna watch all your stuff. And make a plan. My children are my pets and people are like get out, leave the pets. Ha never. Never. And I'm disabled so it makes things extra.. annoying. Wish me luck. 😢

You’re not telling your story as the title says. You should describe the behaviors of the narc, so maybe someone researching can recognize “ok, I am with a narcissist.” I can relate to all you’re saying, because I too left a long narc marriage. I completely agree, they are the highest grade level of all manipulators. Except I never hid it for him, I told my friends and family what he was doing. No way was I dealing with that in secret, it was too crazy. By the time I got out though, I was completely broken in every way. I had a severe spinal issue and was mostly bedridden for 1.5 years. I went through my divorce in that state, so I felt completely vulnerable, but he never knew it. In the final decree there was a permanent No Contact, when he violated it I sold my house and moved 2,000 miles away. I didn’t tell anyone except my family and like 2 friends. I got off all social media and disappeared. What I wasn’t prepared for was the PTSD, the lasting fear and anxiety. However, as of right now I can truly and wholly say, I am completely free of anxiety and fear. What helped me was giving my EVERYTHING to Jesus. I’ve never felt so free, serene, peaceful, and so full of joy in my entire life!! I will pray for every person who’s suffered at the hands of a narc, total freedom is out there for you. All it takes is a little communication with Jesus!! These are His direct words as He spoke to multitudes of people 2,400 years ago… Matthew 11:28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

I’m married to a narcissistic abuser, for 35 years. I felt trapped and afraid and couldn’t get out. I’m 63, still feel trapped. I’m afraid if I try to divorce I’ll have to pay alimony which would ruin my finances.

Thanks. The last two days i feel like giving up

This is so crazy. The police nor states attorneys did nothing for me. The order of protection does nothing. He violated it so many times . NOTHING. I can so relate to your story so much. No children, but he did threaten to kill me on several occasions. He was eligible for 3 to 7 years prison time for felony domestic abuse, but only received 60 days and 4 years probation. He starts his sentence this Sunday. They make you believe they'll change, that they love you and won't hurt you, but each beating gets worse. I applaud you. I can't believe the trauma I'm suffering through now after court dragged out a year and a half. I'm now dealing with the emotional effects and suppressed memories. He did break my nose and that was finally the last straw and called police. I would take pictures of previous beatings, police and states attorneys wouldn't even want to see anything or hear audio I had of him raging. People don't get it.

No one understands the trauma of narcissistic abuse unless you have lived it! And to try to get someone to comprehend it is beyond my expertise! I've had two marriages of narcissistic abuse and one also included domestic abuse! I got out after 37 years! Waited ten years to before I married again! This one is a covert narcissist! Everyone loves him! He changed the day we married! While I begged for attention, he showed other women openly! Wouldn't be intimate with me! Had his own agenda while going to church and pretending to be a wonderful person! Going behind my back and talking about me and how awful I am to even people in my family! So devastating to think this person loves you and wants what's best for you! And all the while he's hiding who he is and his agenda to get what he wants at no cost to him! I pray all that is in these kind of relationships break free and heal! Get the help you need to be able to do this! It's a mind blowing trauma that's indescribable

8:55 “life is so much better” I would say the more appropriate thing would be that you’re actually living a life ;) I’m a man currently married to a female narcissist, so the dynamics are a little different. But anyways thank you so much for your story and I hope more people make KZfaq videos just like this for other victims.

Screaming at the top of my lungs we cant be honest while were in it. Im begging for any woman who has made it out please pease see me rn. I started this journey from the point of cpstd and i think thats why im that much stuck.

How did you get out? The biggest battle esp with small children and no family to help.

My question isn’t why don’t people leave sooner… I get that. It’s dangerous. Scary. All bad things. The main question I always have is why people procreate with someone who’s physically emotionally mentally sexually and in other ways abusing them? That’s the part I don’t get. I am NOT victim shaming or blaming, I’m asking genuinely. The psychology of it. Why would someone afraid of their partner because they’re being beaten, degraded, bullied, hurt, sexually assaulted, etc, want to bring children into that? Unless the abuse doesn’t start till after ALL the children are born, I just can’t understand it. I’m sure there’s a reason and I’m just trying to educate myself. Not judge or belittle. I just want to know why that seems to happen so often.

I have the same situation but how do you go about this being a man that is a victim, I get that when you try to coparent with a narc but how do you do it I just see the worst I already see it threats after threat, I have never threaten anyone, it’s crazy!

Beating myself up. After years os hard work. I was around one and had no idea this was happening to me.,

So give us your story, how it started and how it ended. How you rescued yourself.

I wish there was something like this but for men who are victims are narcissist wife’s.

Hi. How can I reach you? I’m really needing guidance to get out!

The kids suffer too how do they recover ?

Hello! I`m in Russia now. I`m victim of NPD capture. I sufered very much. Russia is ideal for NPD - it`s "not exist" problem in Russia. But for victims is reall it`s hell!!! Reall hell! No any help, no support, no shelters, no laws to protect victim, no place to ascape! Nobody and nothing! I don`t want to live this country, sourviving everything - I`ve survaved through! I tired to be invisible! I looking for good immigration defender, how "get" NPD subject. But everithing I read - is - "narsisistic capture is not criminall issue!..." - is it true? In USA we are is invisible too? Where can I find any help?!

Help, I have been in a custody divorce battle for 2 years! The father of our 2 year old son took him out of state without telling me and cut me off completely from any form of communication. My son has been the victim of neglect and complex abuse. I am on my 3rd attorney, and she seems at times to be siding for the wrong party after she talks to the ex. Lies, deceit, manipulation, gaslighting, word salad, and the most tragic abuse to our now 4 year old🤯🤢🤮. My attorney has evidence that he is a pedophile. The atorney has not presented evidence in court. Why? IDK. His first wife died at the age of 41 from chronic stress. He lost all custody from his first children. I feel my attorney has me on a hamster wheel sqeezing me and ruining me financially. Nothing has been done legally in the best interest of my little 4 year old suffering son😢. Friends and family have no idea the insurmountable stress I am under. Broke, he kept the house and everything in it. I have been paying marital credit cards, loans, and outrageous divorce fees... My number 1 goal is to keep my little boy safe from all forms of abuse and neglect. I welcome any information, advice, or help. Thank you

How do I contact u

Seriously why are death threats not taken seriously from spouses? The law seems to shrug it off but it’s not fun having some psycho wave a weapon in your face.😊

Why is the presenter smiling as she describes her awful experience and traumas?

Great video. Highly educative. I'm also a youtuber focusing on narcissistic relationships. Please lets connect

I think you should change the title to get more views

You are super attractive btw!

I’m going through this. I left but I came out of survival mode and I’m loosing everything because I fell apart. I don’t understand what is happening to me. I see a “therapist” but she doesn’t get it. I’m completely alone with my 12 year old daughter. We will be homeless on the 25th. There are no resources. My therapist suggested I go into sober living with my daughter. If it wasn’t for her I would quietly disappear. No one understands how tired I am. I got us out but I couldn’t maintain without a support system and I feel like a failure.