This reminds me of a dude who used to come into the bar I worked at. He had like two kids, two step kids, and like 4 adopted kids. Made good money, great dad. Wife runs off to fool around. He says he wants custody of all the kids and for her to never bother them again. She says okay, but I want that classic car you rebuilt. He didn't even hesitate. Said it was the best trade he's ever made. She traded her kids for a car.

It doesn't have anything to do with you mate. It's all on her poor decision making. My ex wife did a similar thing. I worked too much. She was lonely. He was there for her. So on and so forth. He had no job. Came to me after I moved out asking for money to pay the light bill. I slowly shut the door in her face.

Let me guess...she got greedy but later realized that the grass wasn't greener on the other side, and that she threw away a good relationship and a nice life over basically nothing... Classic cheaters, they mostly end up regreting their cheating once they realize how good their life with the betrayed partner actually was.

I feel so bad for the kids. Imagine having a father figure that loves you can can support you but you’ve gotta go live with your trailer trash mom and her disgusting boyfriend in a dirty car and can’t even go to school because she ‘gAvE bIrTh tO yOU’. Blood doesn’t mean shit. Emotions are everything!

I feel bad for the kids. The step kids had to be homeless for weeks and witness their mom doing drugs and getting hit by someone. Not ONCE the wife had an interaction with her 4 y.o Truly disgusting and I hope OP will be able to keep all of them

this is your daily reminder to all men: do NOT try to be Captain Save-A-Hoe or a white knight. the biggest mistake this guy made was putting her on a pedestal and talking about her like she was some kind of god. OP, if her other kids are underage and she has them with her, do those kids a favor and call child services because they shouldn't be living out of a car. if possible, get in touch with someone from either her family or their father's/s family to take the kids in so at least they are safe

Okay but we not gonna talk about how good of a man he is? Can we give him a round of applause?

This is the 2nd story I've seen today about a man who meets and falls in love with a homeless woman, saves her life, builds her up, and she cheats. People are trash.

72 red flags in 3 minutes. An attractive single mom with 2 kids thats homeless, a weed smoker, that you met drunk at a party instead of trying to fix her living situation, sleeps with you without knowing you, her ex is "abusive", shes a stay at home mom but also bored and in need of excitement, constantly smokes weed but doesnt have a job to pay for weed? Bro was literally begging for a bad ending by ignoring all of these red flags.

Moral of the Story? Never get involved with the strung out homeless just because they're physically attractive.

This is so sad. I hope he ends up getting custody of the kids.

Emergency custody should've been the first thing he filed when he managed to get the kids back. The Ring should provide evidence of drug abuse, and grab a couple of the people who've seen them begging around town, along with the kids describing how and where they were living, plus the child abandonment of the youngest, it should be a solid case for her as an unfit parent.

Remember guys, she is a single mom and she found her "nice guy provider" and latched on.

That comment she said to OP, "You work too much and don't have time for me", well I'm very F*CKING SORRY about me working so the house is kept clean, the kids safe and well fed and for you not to worry about finances. People today should be grateful that their partners are working hard, so the house is well maintained. But I guess people think differently. Also, why didn't she talk about her wants and needs? Because women still think that we men can f*cking read minds like Professor X. Something that bothers me, is that when women say shit like, "You don't spend time with me", "You're always gone for days", or my favorite "You are not as affectionate as before", well if you don't want him to work as much then how about you get a part time job or a full time job and help him release some of his tension thag he has about finances. Oh but she said she wants to be a SAHW/M (Stay at home wife/mom), well you can start a online business, or like OP said she can teach people how to cook, because let me tell you a lot of people need that experience these days. Thankfully, my parents both taught me more than enough about cooking and life lessons even though they are separate. And we should learn from their mistakes and put it towards something meaningful.

She's a horrible mother and an absolute self-centred narcissist who lives in a fantasy land, she doesn't want to get divorced because she wants to keep OP around as her husband so she can continue using him, I'm surprised she didn't ask OP if her and the new boyfriend could both move in and for all of them to live together.

she gunna come back one day to ask for forgiveness i can feel it

Good on op for fighting tooth and nail for the kids.

This man handled everything perfectly.No alcohol,no drugs,no uncontrolled anger,just pure love for the kids and perfect handling of every situation

I’m pretty sure I commented this on the original posts. But the whole situation screams bipolar. OPs ex sounds very similar to my friend’s ex. His ex was bipolar but had always taken medicine for it. At some point she stopped and soon after she left him for a literal homeless man she met on her way home from work. She immediately started posting pictures on Instagram and Facebook of them kissing and talking about how in love they were. It was bizarre. She was gone for a few months and eventually showed back up begging for my friend to take her back. He never did. I’m not sure where she is now but I honestly hope she’s doing okay. She was an incredibly sweet person when she was medicated but off her meds she was a completely different person.

And how it usually goes she will still find a way to victimize herself and make him seem like the bad guy to the children

Instead of her communicating with her husband and telling him how she feels, she decides to go and screw a mechanic and take her 2 children with her that are basically struggling with her. Now she's basically using the kids as leverage to get what she wants. And not only that, she's not even using the money. He does send her for food and gas using it. To get her nails done!!! I'm glad OP called CPS. Because the condition they're living in is completely inappropriate and so bad. I wouldn't be surprised if she went to jail for it.

This hurts, because it reminds me of my own childhood. Thanks, mom.

I hate it when cheaters try and guilt people with suicide and try to put the blame on the actual victim, taking the easy way out is pure garbage

OP’s nothing more than girl that’s not over her teen years. Who switches guys every now and then and thinks this is my soulmate.

Women like this will never appreciate your struggles or the effort you put in, everything is all for them.

"She said I sound more and more harsh with her." Well yes OP's wife, you cheated on him, took the kids, dumped the kids and wants to take the kids back like they're some sort of toys in a box and have been hounding him for money etc and showing up whenever you need something, she needs to get over him being harsh on her.

in my country if a parent abandon their kids, the other parent, bio or not, will legally automatically get full custody, it has pros & cons ofc, but in this situation OP wouldn't have to worry about her taking the kids away since he would be their legal guardians by default the moment she left them

"My wife is so beautiful I thought i was lucky." I'm betting he ignored a ton of red flags.

man the only thing this guy did wrong was be a bad judge of character, he saw a homeless woman with 2 kids that he met at a house party and decided this seems like a person who makes good life decisions

ok she's borderline/ covert narc 100% how she talks about her boredom/unfulfillment and how she just abandoned everything with 0 remorse..

I'm the same age as those twins, and I can't even imagine this. What a horrible woman.

I think the ex-wife got mental/attachment issues. First, she found OP, attached to him and basically never let go Then, she found the mechanic, literally abandoned everything she had and attached to that guy

The courts will happily work with this man.

one thing I've learned this year is you cant change a person who's addicted to mind altering substances. Matter o fact you cant fix/change anyone. Its neither your job/responsibility to, nor your place to. Just stay in your own lane and keep peace w it, much love x

When you have them in your house thats sanctuary. Tell them "if the police or mom take you out of this house I can't protect you. But I'm giving you both a free pass to fight anyone who wants to make you leave my house"

Well,i dont even need to continue this story pass the part he says she had 2 kids before he met her. Nothing good(most of the time) can come up from a situation like that, of a single mother of 2 looking for a man to supposedly love. Call me heartless or an asshole but thats just reality speaking.

Moral of the Story - never get with someone you have to fix to be with them

I hope Atleast 1 of those kids are yours. Otherwise, that women is telling you straight to your face that you don’t deserve your own children and only good for taking care of someone else’s kids.

the patience this guy has...

Shes pretty, had children with someone else, easily falls in love, the answer was right infront of you. Her whole life she had to do nothing but stay pretty, and people will fawn over her. She uses that as her advantage. When you weren't giving her attention. She felt she wasn't wanted cos her only currency is people's attention.

I hope and im praying OP can get his step kids away from stbxw

i really really hope he managed to get custody of the kids

I don't mean to be that guy, but not marrying a single mother is just the way to go.

People are saying that it wasnt op's fault, but i disagree. This is why its important to have standards as a man. If you get with a chick that has more red flags than a russian parade, then this is what happens.

>man accepts a whamz that's not his into his life >whamz leaves him for another man Story as old as the species.

Just first 22 seconds gave me everything I could have possibly known about that woman 🤣

So she was super sweet and huggy when they met AND she's a stoner. I suspect some correlation here.

You car you get the car back

She just wanted someone who would enable her lazy life and fuel her weed addiction

So she called a man who she know like a week her "soulmate", leave her husband and mentally destroyed him, never interact with her youngest daughter, leave her older children and have the audacity to told OP that he is too "harsh on her"? Bruh, this woman is something else

cheating in a marriage should be a criminal offense to begin with

The fact you still are going is an inspiration. Keep fighting.

People need to realize that after a couple years love isn’t bubbly and fun and sexy it’s hard work and dedication and staying true to one person no matter how hard it gets. She wasn’t in love. She was in lust and greed

My god the mechanic is 2324 years old 💀

So she latched on and didn't let go until she had enough... like a literal leech?

after listening to these stories, I just feel hopeless and think it is better to be alone instead of having someone to rely on and never knowing when they will betray me, I envy the time my parents lived in when these things did not exist, I really wish i would go back and live in those times rather than living in this time and age

I should include this new species in my study for parasitology

Wa-it. Why would she leave her husband but not divorce him? 🤨

It’s the kids I worry most about and I get why OP didn’t cut contact 100%. I have a stepson and I’ve been in his life since he was 2 but fortunately he has an active bio father and my wife who’d kill for all of our kids but if this ever happened to me emergency custody would be my first act and then file for divorce. Fortunately this part of Texas has judges with common sense but damn OP God bless you sir Edit: There’s a lot of people here who seem to hate women or anyone who’s had hardships. The wife is one example of a terrible human being. Not a terrible woman or homeless person. Just a terrible person

And this is why you ( the man ) TAKE YOUR TIME. When it comes to marriage/relationships in general. At this point you dont gotta look for red flags. You have DIG them up

So many options and so many options to save her kids with so much evidence, op DOES NOT try hard enough at all

op is lucky since at least he has his biological child with him which spares him having to pay child support and which he could use to buy a better house .

It was so hard for me to not cry while listening to this, this story is shockingly similar to what has been going on with my parents for the last few years.

She let the son use the phone to tell you happy birthday and hopes that it would suck on your heart strings enough since she knows how much you love those kids

So your soon-to-be ex-wife is a weed addict. And for anybody that has anything to say about that yes weed is addictive. If you cannot go an entire day without smoking, if you yearn for that feeling it gives you, if you have to smoke to be able to function properly it has changed your brain chemistry which means you have an addiction.

This man is a hero, and I honestly wish him the best and his kids

To the man who works their ass off to pay all bills and have no kind of troubles reach their family, "does she appreciate you putting all the hard work? Or does she only complain about what you can't provide/sacrifice in order to provide what is needed? What does she say to the kids when they ask where's dad or why does dad work so much?" The gap in maturity is often blinded by love because the one in love will always make up reasons to hide/excuse the other's flaws which eventually will turn up to be harmful to the family

The wife wants the kids with her b/c she doesn’t wanna be alone. Not b/c they aren’t OP’s biological kids, but b/c she can’t stand the idea/thought/feeling of being alone. She doesn’t care about the kids. She only cares about them filling her lonely void. That’s why whenever her partner comes back to her she doesn’t mind the kids being with OP cause she isn’t alone 🙄

Reason #53752 why marrying a single mother is a horrible idea:

You shoulda blocked her because she would constantly try to manipulate you one way or the other. And you should've blocked her right after she dropped off the kids as you only wanted the kids with you

If it wasnt the work hours, it would've been any other issue. If it wasn't the mechanic, it would've been anyone else. The reality is that she was always the problem, and never would've dealt with her issues. Even when threatening self ending, she just blamed everyone else. No accountability, no care for others. Just whatever her interest in that very moment is.

Dear OP (if you ever actually sees this somehow) know this: You're a good man and an even better father. That is all.

This guy makes Forrest Gump look like a member of MENSA.

get a divorce, that's what happened to me... my wife never worked, was always bored. cheated on me, got half my shit. and left. i worked 90 hours a week.

Ages: OP 39 Wife 35 Mechanic guy 2324 Maybe she's with him to gain the secret to immortality 😅

Scorched earth! Many moons ago my uncle was much like this. He worked alot and his wife was a stay at home wife who cheated fairly regularly. They bought a new trans am back in the 90s. One day while at work a friend of his came up and asked when he got back. He asked him what he meant as he has been there all morning. His friend tells him that's weird he just saw his wife with another man he assumed was my uncle driving around in that new car. My uncle called the bank and told them to come get the car right now because he wasn't making another fricken payment. He should do the same, call the bank and tell them he isn't making another payment. Come get it if they want it. Her living is her problem.

This is so sad. Some people are so messed up and they go around destroying others without a care.

So if the car is in your name...that's theft so get the cops

She gonna take him to the cleaners in court, sadly

Having a previous a marriage is a bad sign in a partner, second marriages have higher divorce rate than first marriages, and it does not get better

When women ask where all the good men are, they all dealt with situations like this and went splinter cell afterwards.

Homeless, single mom, smokes weed, etc. "Looking back I can see the red flags." People astound me with the decisions they make.

The kids and OP all need therapy, like yesterday

“You could not live with your own failure, where did that bring you? Back to me.” -OP Thanos

Your average family court would look at a situation like this and still give the wife custody

remember to get full custody of your kid

Work a lot, and they say you're never home. Try to make time, and they say you never work. You just can't win. It truly is an evil world we live in. 😭

those kids are going through it -- their words make that clear, but it seems that the way they are reacting shows that they understand on some level the depth of whats going on

Parkour guy is struggling. AI voice is struggling. Story sounds like it was made by AI. Is this supposed to be good content?

5:30 i tell you what she wanted. To have a rich husband who is also only ever at home, and money is not an issue. Nice dream... unrealistic but for a DREAM it is nice. I bet everyone would love to have a rich bff with benefits.

That weed man would deeply regret showing up at my door.

This is a great example of why step kids can never be on par with your own kids. Your partner can just up and leave with them at any moment.

For the men that provide all, including the roof over their partners head, I’m truly sorry your significant other cheated on you. It’s the worst feeling in the world and it can’t be adequately described in words. Just know that it’s happened to many of us including myself. It’s not fair, it’s crippling, and what’s worse is when there’s kids in the picture. You try to pick up the pieces and be the better person but a lot is missing at that point. Don’t become an empty shell. Don’t stay for the kids, because you’re submitting yourself to torture. Just end the relationship and figure out the kid situation after. The cheaters will never learn unless the world and life you built for them disappears before their eyes.

Dude should have pressed charges for car theft when she arrived at the house with cops in the stolen car. lol

sounds like a clear cut case of abandonment, take out an ad in the paper saying you're divorcing her then actually divorce her, also file for sole custody of your daughter and refuse to pay alimony unless ordered to by a judge

02:10 "My wife was so beautiful..." My wife this, my wife that. Dude, she was never yours, it was only your turn. Now it's some other guy's turn. Let her go.

"I got a homeless single mother pregnant and now I'm payong for the consequences of my actions" Lol

I hear your son worried about dad that is so nice and kids

You are lucky. You got rid of a bad spouse and you get to keep your kid. You were only a convenience for her.

It's the classic husband works too much and wife seeks emotional support from another man, definitely not the first will never be the last.