Dear Aklilu, First of all, I would like to thank you for bringing this important topic up for discussion within our community. The tips and advice you have shared are very valuable. However, I would like to address two points out of the six you mentioned because I don't completely agree with them. First, it is about sexuality within a marriage. The idea that a woman has an obligation to her husband to always be available for sex is incorrect. Sex should be based on mutual consent and both partners should feel comfortable and willing. It is not right that a man always has the right to sex whenever he feels like it. Sex is meant to be enjoyed by both partners and should be safe and consensual. If I don't feel like it, I have the right to say no. Sex should be a mutual pleasure and not an obligation. Secondly, I want to talk about the point that a married woman with children can also take good care of herself. That's absolutely true, but sometimes it's difficult because of a dominant man who expects her to look sexy and beautiful all the time. If a man wants his wife to be sporty and well-groomed, he should also contribute to the household chores and take over the role of father. This means that he must be actively involved and, for example, take care of the children or household chores on fixed days, so that she has time to take care of herself. Both partners must work together and adjust schedules to ensure that everyone has the space and freedom to undertake their own activities.
@asmeraroyalcafe2 ай бұрын
Ya sebuk aleki mebzahtom awdat kulu kab gal tray yedelyu eti segem keabyu kelewu btiebit sele zeabyu dhar klwetu aykulun eyom......... Dhar sex hade des sele zbelo eti hade neti hade kehegus elu zgbro aykonen nklitieka bmaere des eluka ktfesemo alka gn entay ygber eritrean mans wahdi mrdae alewo ab hadar
ms nebsom keman aywedaderun aykon ms kale hmqetom zey amnu nhna ente tezarebnayom eko nkhhshom eyu nsom gn ms kale zewedadernayom ymeslom gele belena❤❤❤❤
I don't agree with one of your points. If I get sick, he should be by my side. Why should I have to tell him I'm sick. when he can see it? It's not about being a boy, it's about humanity. I just wonder why most boys don't really care about their wives, but they care about their mothers. In fact, your wife will be a mom someday, and your kids will do the same thing. Thank you
I think it is very important that men support their partners and give them space to be themselves. For example, if a woman has gained some weight, it is good if her partner says: "Come on, let's walk together, exercise, I will help you." Little things like taking care of the child, cooking or just doing something active together can really help. And it really doesn't have to be expensive. In addition, I notice that women can often earn more than men nowadays, especially because they are often smarter. If we worked outside the home, we could probably make more money. But of course it depends on the situation of each woman. How integrated you are in a Western community also plays a role. I myself am quite well integrated and have inherited less of my ethnic culture. That can sometimes be a disadvantage, but I do think that newcomers should above all integrate and not try to live as they did in Eritrea. They are now in a different country with different opportunities.
Akile hawey bthbena kulu tmrti btaemi ena nemesghneka. Hanti kea ktzarebela dele zeleku ezi hade aynet uniform zmesil Shifon and zurya please ageb tetblen tsbuk neru, mknyatu nkuteba Wela kem bahli klmed kem zeyblu meaden
@Yohannesboy2 ай бұрын
These are all sensitive topics that could make or break a marriage. Aklilu seems a brave man who is trying to hang a bell on the cat's neck as the old story goes. The fact of the matter is we are born different and the only way we can get most of each other is to be intentional in terms of appreciating each other's gift to maximize it. Or we can tear each other by looking down on each other for the weaknesses intentionally bestowed up on each other by God.
@YorusShambel-cy8lc2 ай бұрын
Baba aklilu Ewiyyy anes kfetweka ezen kulen zelalkayen netbitat nay behaki kerema zelewen eyen thank u btaemi des zebl mkri ey
The 6th point woman with kids needs time and money to take care of herself . Husband needs to encourage her to go out with her friends and give her the freedom to keep her style she used to do before. Some of you will tell us what to wear and what kind of hair style we should do. Help her to be herself and compliment her style. ( you look beautiful today) will help you to avoid #5
@hizbawit2 ай бұрын
Thank u so much. Dear Aklilu, First of all, I would like to thank you for bringing this important topic up for discussion within our community. The tips and advice you have shared are very valuable. However, I would like to address two points out of the six you mentioned because I don't completely agree with them. First, it is about sexuality within a marriage. The idea that a woman has an obligation to her husband to always be available for sex is incorrect. Sex should be based on mutual consent and both partners should feel comfortable and willing. It is not right that a man always has the right to sex whenever he feels like it. Sex is meant to be enjoyed by both partners and should be safe and consensual. If I don't feel like it, I have the right to say no. Sex should be a mutual pleasure and not an obligation. Secondly, I want to talk about the point that a married woman with children can also take good care of herself. That's absolutely true, but sometimes it's difficult because of a dominant man who expects her to look sexy and beautiful all the time. If a man wants his wife to be sporty and well-groomed, he should also contribute to the household chores and take over the role of father. This means that he must be actively involved and, for example, take care of the children or household chores on fixed days, so that she has time to take care of herself. Both partners must work together and adjust schedules to ensure that everyone has the space and freedom to undertake their own activities.
@hizbawit2 ай бұрын
I think it is very important that men support their partners and give them space to be themselves. For example, if a woman has gained some weight, it is good if her partner says: "Come on, let's walk together, exercise, I will help you." Little things like taking care of the child, cooking or just doing something active together can really help. And it really doesn't have to be expensive. In addition, I notice that women can often earn more than men nowadays, especially because they are often smarter. If we worked outside the home, we could probably make more money. But of course it depends on the situation of each woman. How integrated you are in a Western community also plays a role. I myself am quite well integrated and have inherited less of my ethnic culture. That can sometimes be a disadvantage, but I do think that newcomers should above all integrate and not try to live as they did in Eritrea. They are now in a different country with different opportunities.
@MuluAbreha2 ай бұрын
የቀንልና❤❤❤🙏
@RigatMussie2 ай бұрын
You are always helpful and the best person😇
@yoditabraha69752 ай бұрын
Ya btami point eya ezia mebzahtina komu ena koxera aynkbrini ena gna kea n egeremegidna buzuh kea nay kulu negerat kinmalie nideli thanks 🙏
Akile hawey please sebay ab geza kihgza alewo both srah twel geza ms mexaka kea wala may kedihu kiseti zeykel may eske habni ybl I love you ybleka what is love endhir zeyhalyelka sdah + kids +srah + tmhrty it’s too much neta ade please meadelna niabotatt kea
Bzaiba telefon si aytazlna ade kolut ente koyna eta ade keltifa aytkbeln eya srah geza busy tkewn cailent ena ngebra zbezhana adetat kola ydeks gele ktrbesh aytdeln eya eza ka kurub etom yehwatna tereduna
The second point is not fair for the woman who has children, she has to make the kids ready, the husband can help with the kids, instead of complaining take action and make the kids ready. Understand your wife needs more time to get ready.
@hizbawit2 ай бұрын
I think it is very important that men support their partners and give them space to be themselves. For example, if a woman has gained some weight, it is good if her partner says: "Come on, let's walk together, exercise, I will help you." Little things like taking care of the child, cooking or just doing something active together can really help. And it really doesn't have to be expensive. In addition, I notice that women can often earn more than men nowadays, especially because they are often smarter. If we worked outside the home, we could probably make more money. But of course it depends on the situation of each woman. How integrated you are in a Western community also plays a role. I myself am quite well integrated and have inherited less of my ethnic culture. That can sometimes be a disadvantage, but I do think that newcomers should above all integrate and not try to live as they did in Eritrea. They are now in a different country with different opportunities.
@hizbawit2 ай бұрын
I think it is very important that men support their partners and give them space to be themselves. For example, if a woman has gained some weight, it is good if her partner says: "Come on, let's walk together, exercise, I will help you." Little things like taking care of the child, cooking or just doing something active together can really help. And it really doesn't have to be expensive. In addition, I notice that women can often earn more than men nowadays, especially because they are often smarter. If we worked outside the home, we could probably make more money. But of course it depends on the situation of each woman. How integrated you are in a Western community also plays a role. I myself am quite well integrated and have inherited less of my ethnic culture. That can sometimes be a disadvantage, but I do think that newcomers should above all integrate and not try to live as they did in Eritrea. They are now in a different country with different opportunities.