"A narcissist's accusations are their confessions." Perfect!

They will look a gift horse in the mouth.They will take kindness as weakness.When you show them generosity they will want more whilst shamelessly never returning the favour.

1. Financially, partnership. My boss , the narc, is a financial advisor (aka crook)! 2. Believe opposite of what they say . (LIARS) 3. DO NOT go to therapy with them. It won't change them 4. Do not believe their hopeless hope of change. 5. Do not believe the nasty names they call you. 6. Do not give them access to your personal life. (My boss, Narc, wanted me available evenings and weekends! I said no. He fired me!) 7. Sunk cost. ( It has only been 5 days since I was fired and already my health is improved. I am happier and more at peace.I am sleeping better! worth it . I will find another job.)

"Never go on vacation with them" instantly came to my mind when I saw the title. They are heavily traumatic times instead.

This video is why I treat my narcissistic husband as an annoying roommate. A roommate doesn't need to know my business!

There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at digitalinvestigate@gmail.com where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........

"Think the worst and you'll be certain" is the motto that always works with a narcissist.

A narcissist thinks: Their money is their money, My money is their money, My family's money is their money, and The entire world's money is their money.

My narcissistic husband just spent almost all my inheritance on a new pickup truck and fishing boat for himself. Joint bank accounts are not a good idea with a narcissist!!!

Always expect the worst from a narcissist. Never believe a word they say but pay attention to what they do. They hate being exposed because it reveals how horrible they really are and don't want people to know. Keep away from them. This video is spot on, Danish! 🎯

This is spot on and so helpful. Narcissists are so obsessed with money that they can't wait to get their hands on other people's by all means, they are not to be trusted at all, they are liars, traitors and thieves. Never show any weakness to them and avoid any exposure revealing information about yourself because they are hungry for anything to use it against you. Keep strong and safe. Thank you, Danish 🙏🏻💜

Loaned small amount to narc, he made one payment and threw a tantrum screaming yelling he didn't want to pay me back....Keep shinning the Light Bright Danish😊👍👍👍👍❤❤❤❤❤....this was a 52yr old man....

My narcissist ex and I had 5 years of relationship therapy, which didn't help at all . He said : “ I thought the therapy was only just for you “ 😢 It was a torture chamber indeed …. Don’t ever go in there !!

Their lies are huge and convincing!

Everything you said is spot on. Narcisists are driven by evil forces and they bring drama, trauma, chaos and destruction everywhere they go and in everything they do. We must have nothing to do with evil. Thank you Danish 😊 God bless you ❤

Spot on!My Narc adoptive brother took my entire parent’s Estate.I lost everything including my School Reports!

I married one unknowingly. I lasted 10 months and ran. before I ran I started smelling a rat. and quickly began closing any financial openings. and planned my escape. he drug the divorce on for a year. did everything possible to not leave my home. he left the evening before I brought in law enforcement.

I did "sunk cost" for a little while, but I finally chalked up the loss and moved on. Was it easy? Fk no. Am I glad that I moved on? Only every waking moment of my life! 🎉 Thank you for another great episode, Danish 🎉

Danish your fees are really high for people not earning in dollars and pounds.. people are watching you from different parts of the world.. try to make it 10 to 20 dollars for people who want to join from india.. you are doing a fantastic job.. keep it up

It's my birthday today and what I'm going through, the ugliness, the abuse , the jealousy, the hurts, the pain and I look so ugly and old just after few hours I woke up, and I've been crying all day, again I couldn't get through... I feel what a fool I am I can't believe, I can't even admit how many years I've survived suffering...I can't get out

It's very rare for anyone to talk about being financially dependant on a Narcissist as I was for over 20 years. I had to put up with all kinds of abuse because I couldn't afford to cut him off and walk away. These days, I have a better income but he's helped me all those years, and I feel I owe him for all his help. At the moment he's on a mental ward under a section. So that's giving me a much needed break, thank God.

A certain family member let the narcissist be on the title to his house. The day they were supposed to move in together she threw a fit over something stupid and tried to file a false police report, he said maybe it’s not a good idea for her to move in, and she threatened that she would make him have to sell the house. Definitely don’t do anything financially with a narcissist or let them know where your finances are. Tell them nothing!

Never stay with one. You will have a horrible life.

#7 was insidious for me in the marriage (17yrs). "Never give up, never surrender" is for movies and will NOT work with a narcspouse. Because of this whole "i must not be trying hard enough" mentality, i know i never would have left. It took outside factors (eg, the cops & state) to make the defining break, lest a breaking of bones and /or windows occurred. *You. Can't. Fix. It.* Whatever is in them was broken long ago, and they've plastered it all over into obscurity... which happens to be THE SAME PLACE they want to bury You.

He is so on point with the finances part. Never loan them money!!!

Your credentials are appreciated instead of someone with no degree sitting in their car talking about narcissists

My entire family are narcissists except for my two brothers and myself- We three have been robbed of any money from an inheritance, been called dirty names, told we should die, and my sisters all tried to have sex with my late husband, while my other three brothers have sex with anyone and everyone. My siblings murdered my little brother but they work and scheme as a group and I’m at a loss on how to prove what they did. Every single item Danish listed my father, mother, and six siblings have done and they seem to get away with all the damage they do to other people. To stop them from murdering me too, no contact with that entire group is the only thing to do. Please listen to what Danish is saying because he is telling us how to save ourselves.

I wish I had known this a long time ago. This is Probably the best information I could have ever known. If I could turn back time, I would do it all differently. If I'd have known it would end up like this, I would have run and never looked back. It wasn't worth everything I deal with now. Thank you for this information. This is life changing info right here!!

Just realised what an Ass I have been. thankyou, I wish I heard or knew this much earlier.

🎯 Two quick stories abt how true this is. My Narc mother bought me a car @ 19. That was my car. She literally charge me every month like a carnote $200 bucks. Mind you this like 2006 and the car was a fukin Two door grandam with no fukin air! Then she was trying to charge me every two weeks until i told her no one pays the same bill twice a month! After that i got my 1st good job at the hospital (sadly the hospital kept calling the house and she never said anything because she didn't want me too work because she knew her money train would leave and i had just had my son) So she started charging me like creatinf bills every month like cell phone, car insurance, etc. These mfs are wicked individuals, and yep 10:15 I never tell my mom anything dealing with success or my business smh.

Danish.. I m crying the hell out of me listening to the lines,' who you were, how miserable you have become after staying for such a long time'.... What i have been facing for all these years... I m using all your teachings.. You are my guide dear... God bless you...!

❤ DANISH, THANK YOU FOR ALL OF YOUR INFORMATION. I HAVE LEARNED ALOT AND USE IT EVERYDAY. SOMETIMES I FALL😢. 🎉

I am number 7 for sure. Been married 30 years to this person I have lost my mom and dad with a year and he had me severed when I was in hospice with my mother. I feel like I am grieving myself to death and he has cut me off from everything and everyone. I don’t know what to do. I feel like there is no hope.

BELIEVING THEM IN ANY SETTING IS LIKE BELIEVING 'SATAN' PROMISING HEAVEN. Thank you Danish.... 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 on Point.

I love that truth… “if you stay, there is decay”. Only direct experience with malignant narcissist’s understand that truth.

I spent 8 years with one in a relationship. 16-24. Parental lack of boundaries with the first one i was birthed to is why i stayed so long. Married another one..... that was even darker... Escaped.... anddddddss the Last one i spent a year with... while taking care of his health, dealing with his addictions, and my own, his lack of respect for others, my own constant emotional and physical pain and they refused to let me grieve for my recent losses. Instead weaponizing everything i told them in confidence, shining light on my short comings without ever acknowledging their own flaws, fake apologies, exploiting my emotions, anddddddd calling ME controlling when i would try to use boundaries. Discarded and moved on immediately. Any time i would have good things happen to me and work despite all my problems to help myself, they would take credit also. Or try to. Once i had enough, i waited for the tears, slowly backed up to "fawn" again when i knew they were becoming violent and eventually got them back to their homestate they only left to use me and my family as a free ride. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

“Flawless door mat” 😂 Love it. Though, unfortunately it’s true!

You are so wonderful. Everything I have learned from you is so valid from my life. I was married to a narssisst for 23yrs. I have been blessed to be happily divorced 21yrs. Now a daughter was married to one 10yrs. He cheated and they got divorced. He defamed her and got their child. She did not know what she was dealing with. It has been a disaster. He now abuses my grand daughter. Threatens her. And he married another girl and had a baby by her. She is the evil step mother. All I can do is pray. Thank you for your videos.

feeling guilty about not doing it won't solve the problem. i needed to hear that.

"I wish you the best", he wrote me - and then? He is crazy, awful, creepy, no man😢

One of the best you have posted. A real help. Thanks dude!

My ex bargained he would agree to certain things if I went to the couples counsellor he chose - the counsellor told me I'm filled with anger inside - I looked inside and - nope! I was openly angry about trying to leave a relationship and my partner using forcing techniques to keep it going - if he'd been respectful, we could have reflected & considered, but it was inconsiderate nasty coercion all the way. He never stuck to his word on anything either- not even after he shook hands on something. Such a low life. I was glad to get out.

Yes if you stay there is decay. Well said. She would have treated me like shit and my daughter would have seen her papa being treated like that on top of her behaviour influencing my daughter. Now I can be with my daughter half the time and naturally be me and give love understanding to my daughter.

I am going to use the rhyme that Danish mentioned: "If you stay, there is decay." Excellent! Thank you, Danish!

1. Learnt it the hard way. £5500 never been paid back to me from my parents

Never take one home lol

Another GREAT video! Thanks Danish.

I loaned the narc a large amount of money. He took an entire year to give my money back! I was stuck considering my goals for that year. Never again!

Just.... Never go on a 2nd date when you know the signs!

My narcissistic sister! Money, money, money. She "tries to" make me feel guilty for not spending my money the way she spends her money. For example, she will buy our dad a fast food dinner. She'll make a huge deal out of it. Then, commenting on how I don't do that. I will when I choose to but if you think I'll do it when she tries to guilt trip me into it...um...no.

The narcissist in my life told me I was an abomination.

Danish what I am aware of is that all those years where not wasted. I learned from it and became a better version of myself. Only thing is....I wiisse I heard more early about Narcissitic personality,s and there behaviour. Now it is more in the open. Thanks to Internet. Thank you Danish you are one of my beautifull teachers.

Oh, I must say, every point you made was so true. I fell victim to this for so many years! Now, I steer clear of anyone who even hints at having narcissistic traits!

Thank you for bringing this out. I am a cautious person because of what I have been through so if I feel cautious there is usually a reason.

All 7 things you have outlined in this video I have already done with my narcissistic mother . I’m suffering terribly I need help !

The last point was the most painful realization for me, i broke into tears because the sink cost fallacy resonated with my situation. I stayed longer hoping things would get better because i left everything behind including my job, my friends and family, my hobbies, my healing journey, my dreams and projects, moved into his country, got a baby with him and i didn’t want to believe i invested all those to break up and build my life from zero again with a baby.

Rhe 6th on he is doing it for me now...Knewing whats in my heart,he uses very much against me as a weapon..and making me trapped in the same sitaution.Really an eye opening video.I totally stopped sharing whats in my mind.I have to go out soon.

Danish, this is by far the best video on the problems with narcissists.

Thank you for this extremely helpful video!!! ❤

OMG , he's been talking about taking me to islands for 2 months, and OMG what ever events are coming , and all the beautiful things supposed to be happening to me... OMG

Exactly like my aunt is doing to me right now. She got more evil than ever when i got pregnant and i called her out for what she is doing

I once got into a business with my narc mom. I did all the work, developed the prototype, got it approved and all the way to the buyers at Costco. She never agreed to our arrangement, no percentage of sales, no job description. Instead she started involving outside friends she wanted to impress, naming them all "VP of this or that." None of them did a thing. Thank goodness nothing came of it. LOL!

Seriously for real.

Wonderful video, Danish!! Absolutely love your work and appreciate all that you do to bring light to those dealing with narcissistic individuals. 💗

For years, I have been in the last item that he talks about (sunk cost fallacy). There is nothing out there for me as I am too old and poor health to start over. The problem is, is that it has gotten so bad that even the prospect of nothing is now looking like an improvement. I can't live like this anymore. She has taken my joy, self-esteem, even my will to live is practically gone. I am exhausted. I used to have friends before I met her, but one by one, those have been taken away because she didn't like them or feel that I needed to talk to them, to keep in touch. Always questioning what we talked about, what they said about her, even when the topic had absolutely nothing to do about her she would accuse. I bow have friend, just one. I can't stay with her any longer as I know it will be the end of what little is left of me. I can't take it anymore. I have prayed to God to just take me for so many years, but God doesn't answer. Does God exist or even care? I'm so tired of her never ending cycle that just goes round and round and only gets worse as time goes on. Why won't God answer my prayers, I'm too weak, too chicken, too much of a coward to do it on my own. I was too stupid in the beginning when I seen all of the red flags; young and dumb. Why didn't I run.

Married to a survivor of a narcissistic mother and for the longest time I thought that she was a narcissist because of the trauma bond. She displayed all the signs of a narcissist but once we broke off all contact she became a totally different normal human being!!!! I was ready to leave and now I could never think about it anymore because she is a completely different person. This new journey has brought us closer and you my friend had a huge impact on us. We thank you from the bottom of our hearts 💕

You just describe my mother and my lady like you know them personally wow this is mind blowing inside on the subject matter, I'm learning, thank you buddy excellent service and report, 🕊️💗👊🙏

Let’s get this straight to all people listen to this no one knows a narcissist until they have experienced the evil ways of the narcissist so if u never experienced how a narcissist move. U will never know u cannot judge someone been a narcissist for some things they do it takes time to figure them out I figured them out and it took time. So I understand the concept of this video but no one knows a narcissist unless they’re experienced the painful relationship and the evil things they do one super experienced it you have been saved by God I wish no one ever experience relationship with a narcissist. My point is if you don’t know what to expect from a narcissist you’ll find out in a painful way my point if any person man woman mother father brother sister lover friend if your disrespect cut them out of your life. Not easy but it will save your life And you will get the respect you deserve✌🏽🙏🏽

Sadly I’ve been there with several of these with both my “best friend” of eight years and my mother as well. It’s definitely been a hot mess. She got all my passwords and I started from scratch and only have one single social media account because of her. I had to put extra security around several things and let go of all the hacked social media accounts.

I used to accept occasional financial help from a certain narcissist in my life. OH did I ever find out the hard way just how much this eventually gets used against you and gives them a HUGE sense of power and control. Narcs are puppeteers and master manipulators. What better way than with money...especially when they know you're down and out. To be clear: I never ONCE asked this person for a dime. She offered. Big mistake. I'd much rather be broke than be treated like a pathetic charity case by a malignant narc.

At first I was astonished how far their actions were from their words. I couldn't believe such people exist. Now I remind them every day that they're living in the imaginary world in their head😊 And of course no. 5 - he doesn't know me, he knows someone with my face that's living only in his head

This is the living truth...hope I had your videos long back ago i would have never fallen for such a trap Your every word is 100 % correct Totally agree with what you say because I am living that at the moment God save people from this kind of devil's in human form When we look at them we feel sad as to why are they this way but that sadness is turned to frustration by them only

Thanks, very deep knowledge. Now, I feel I wasted my previous life with narcissist husband because he n his family used everything of mine money, my services, my health n totally isolated me. I feel totally alone after 40 years of my marriage.

Once again thank you for this Wise video. It's just comforting to hear the validations because my ex-husband was exactly like this. My mother was a narcissist but she could be generous from time to time. She never kept throwing it back in my face only once in awhile maybe. But she was my mother not my life partner. My husband was a male and my husband and so I guess he was expecting a woman to constantly give her paycheck. When I stopped it was very stressful until I was able to leave how about 9 months later. He complained about my 401k in court to the judge and the judge just looked at me like oh you poor thing. 🙄👍

You are guiding us truthfully, thank you

Thank you for this enlightening video! The clear delineation of what not to do with narcissists is incredibly helpful. It's so important to recognize their tactics and understand the psychological traps like the sunk cost fallacy.

If you Stay there’s only Decay!!! Excellent Danish I always love your symbolism. The financial abuse is toxic, my soon to be ex husband lied for years about his salary and our investments. During discovery my attorneys found the truth and sorry for him but my kids and I will be comfortable for our lifetime. We deserve ever penny for what we survived. Peace and Love to everyone going through this 🙏🏻🙌🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋

Can anything be done legally about their theft extortion lies,if it comes out of their mouth I found out it is 100 % lies,I never was involved with them romantically but still used me every way he could as a neighbor,money stole out of my purse it never ends,abuse in every way

While at the time I didnt know about NPD, I never fell for their pity party... that made them mad.

I really like how you explain everything on your videos. What I most like is to hear from yourself about your experience with your parents. I identify myself a lot. Thanks you are helping a lot with your dedication.🙏

My God so true. My husband is a narcissist to the core. Wish I new all this 25 years back!! Have lost so much of money in all of my husband's business start up's. Bless you Danish beta for all this good work. Keep it up and keep going. Lots and lots of blessings.

The hardest one for me to avoid was believing all the name-calling. It was relentless and ruthless and nearly drove me to suicd. (I wonder what the stats are for suicd of N. abuse victims?)

This is the greatest quick analysis ive seen re the narcissist

All you said is True thank you Brother God Blesse

Wish I got this information before.i was deeply hurt because I believed everything he said.

The last chapter of this video is more for younger people. I know a 76 year old woman, a victim of Narc abuse who has severe IBS. How she can leave her marriage at this stage. She will indeed lose it all. 😢

Been off and on for over 4 yrs, happy bliss stop around 2 months. I did not want to give up I thought she was the prettiest girl I ever meet. Go along with that we were friends for 20 yrs I was with another person so once again I stayed faithful and the one I was with I believe was a narc, àlso. I feel when this girl found I was week when she did not come home for 3 days did not answer my phone or text and even had my car I should have packed her stuff and kick her to the curve. I didn't then she knew she could do everything to me and I stayed with it. Man what a fool I was. What's funny she was my friend for 20 years and she never once treated me like this.

Danish - Could you please do a video about covert narc’s ploys they use for narc supply? My Mom is such as covert narc she tells people she is “the victim” of radiowaves (5g cellular is “hunting” her, lol), victim of gravity because earth is flat and gravity is a conspiracy theory, she believes she is the victim of everything. Mom is also so highly narcissistic she is a “sovereign citizen” which means she believes our laws don’t apply to her because of her fake superiority. We are mostly estranged and only text a couple times a year and she always pushes her latest ploys on me but I see right through her delusions so I don’t participate.

Yup! Learned all this the hard way

Brilliant Thank you I need both courses Breaking trauma bond and coming parenting I’m not sure what to do? Keep going to court Or stop

It's so weird how they make everyone close to them as an extension, but treat them so differently. A golden child is them. A scapegoat belongs to them.

Danish your this video is again eye opener for me...The point about finance..it is absolutely true & correct 💯. every word is a real description abt my husband with whom was since last 41 yrs..I decided to leave him & booked a senior citizens 1BHK apt..He had snached my all FD...& torched me in so many ways.. Thank God I got it through Bank ,s manager help& guidance...now I living in this Apt easily.but not peacefully.bcoz he is trying to troubling me frequently..he had Lot of money..inpite this.. really Nars r a person with out soul.. cruelty is in their blood....By the God,s grace I saved my savings for my old days... Thank you Danish as ur studies abt these NARC is approvals for my this approach & attitude for a narc.. partner

Absolute matching with fresh experiences...

Tell me one thing you can do with a narc,its not there!

There sperating the children from my family to their family alone....and I know God will reward them for who they are.

I tried therapy with her, both group and individual. I had to suspend mine because I was paying for everything, and I ran into financial trouble. When I returned I told my therapist I had seen a regression in my ex and he said “I don’t see it”. 100% true

💯💯💣 Truths Danish ❤ been through it all. I was just a object for mind games.

My narc parents borrowed and lost a lot of money on 2 businesses that failed...both of which they had no prior experience/expertise with. I thought at the time they were being overly optimistic....but after realizing they are narcs, it was their grandiosity that set them up for failure.

Hey Danish , I thank you for your efforts in raising the awareness about narcissism. Why do i feel you look sad.

I sent him money several times. He spent it on helping his friends who do not work. That's not fair. I work full time job. He doesn't care if it's fair to me. I need money for retirement. I told him not to ask for money again. He still asks me. He does not care. Things aren't getting any cheaper.