The most powerful statement I've ever heard about narcissists is : A narcissist tries to destroy your life with lies because theirs can be destroyed with the truth.

My ex used to accuse me of having bipolar disorder all the time because his abuse would cause me to quickly go from happy to upset. As if it's abnormal to shift moods when you're being abused. Thank you Doctor Ramani

I've been dating someone who is both covertly narcissistic and bipolar 2, which was both a very humbling and enlightening experience. I was thankfully able to divorce myself from him, but it wasn't until I was able to figure out his pathology that I was able to navigate through all of the lies from his mania - and him just generally not being courteous enough to reciprocate the attention I gave him. To anyone else reading this, don't martyr yourself. When you've figured out what you're dealing with, you are NOT here to save anyone. Do your best and move on.

Dr. RAMANI IS AN EARTH ANGEL GOD BLESS HER 💕💕💕

What about when a narcissistic abuser pushes their partner into bipolar psychosis from stress/gaslighting? I strongly believe that a lot of people (though they may have genetic predispositions) are pushed into extreme forms of mental illness due to narcissistic abuse.

They can also use their diagnosis to be extreme bullies to get what they want.

Funny how narcs in my life have accused me of being bipolar for having emotional reactions to being treated like shit. One of the first things I asked my therapist was if she thought I was bipolar, she reassured me I wasn't. It felt so validating. I'm hoping I'll be able to go back to therapy to finally tackle this PTSD. Thank you Dr. Ramani! ❤

My Narc mom tried to get me misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder 3 separate times to make me look crazy....except I didn't meet ANY of the criteria and the psychiatrists were like stop testing her she isn't bipolar The look on my mom's face 🤣

My ex GF is heavily medicated for BIPOLAR and I can see that cycling in the background but the hardest thing to deal with was the constant comorbid narcissism that was always present regardless. I can well and truly understand how some partners of these conditions end up with PTSD. Thanks for continuing to raise awareness.

I love this woman! She knows all!!!

Thank you so much for this video. My bf of 7 years has been dealing with untreated bipolar and it has gotten worse over the years. I ended our relationship 3 weeks ago due to the worst narcissistic rage episode he had ever unleashed on me. It was an entire day of grandiose verbally abusive behavior, one of the ugliest things I’ve ever witnessed. I was very confused because he seems to have a mixture of the two, bipolar and narcissism. The only reason it matters to me at this point is because I’m trying to understand it instead of taking his destructive words to heart. This is such an abusive combination, it will tear you down like you’ve never known. It has me questioning so much about him and everything I thought we had together. I realize now that even on his good days the narcissism was still there….I guess I got used to it because I was happy he was feeling good. I let myself be abused over and over without realizing it. It’s pure craziness and will leave you with your head spinning and your heart broken. Trust me. Best thing you can do is LEAVE and never look back!

The bi polar would come out when we were around people compared to being alone. She wanted the benefits of my company while acting like I didn’t exist in public. Terrible feeling.

This is the most helpful video I could find about the overlap of bipolar disorder and narcissism personality disorder. We must appreciate the fact Ramani has been rendering some invaluable public service in this channel. Thank you so much, Ramani.

My ex narc used to excuse his abuse towards me by saying he has bipolar. This video was very helpful. Now I know all those were lies to keep me feeling pity for him and justifying his behaviour. Thank you Dr. Ramani.

It’s been 3 months since I’ve seen my narc in person. Still healing. Anyone else wish you could speed up time?

My ex husband has both bipolar 1 and narcissistic behaviours. I've never seen anyone address the possibility that they can have both before. I found this really helpful. Thank you!

Honestly, all "mental illnesses" overlap symptoms. In the end, I believe those are just symptoms of the same disease: abuse/neglect/trauma.

If you knew the amount of times i had to rewind 10sec intervals of your video to rewatch what you just said, you'd be amazed. I finally understand the person i've been dating, everything was 100% spot on. Just Wow. Thank you so much for shedding light on this subject. For the longest time i have been so confused regards all her actions

I was recenlty in a relationship with a man who was diagnosed ADHD & Bi Polar, and also described himself as being borderline Aspbergers. A week or so after we started to live together I began to be treated in this horrible way. I first noticed a lack of empathy, then mocking, humilation, constant cristicism, bullying, gas lighting, negging, bread crumbing, triangulation, projection and a lack of respect for bondaries etc etc etc. This caused me to have extreme anxiety which my partner labeled as the real problem between us. I deeply cared for this person and I am sure I was trauma bonded as well. I was so beyond stressed trying to cope with this relatinship. It was breaking my heart and destroying my sense of self worth. No matter how hard I tried to appeal to him to understand what he was doing, he would always shift the blame back to me. Me talking about our problems and my reaction to his abuse were the REAL problems according to him. Anytime I tried to talk about the abuse he would give me the silent treatment leaving the house for days at a time with no mention of where he was going or when he would be back. I was so on edge I told him to move out about every two weeks, but would take it back as I deeply cared for this man regardless of all these problems. I started to Google this behavior and it initially came up as Asbergers. I tried to bring this up with him as he had said himself he believed he was on the spectrum for Aspbergers. He exploded in anger would not speak to me and then left our home again for days in a row. I then ended the realtionship. My PTSD from this treatment was severe and as I sought help from mental health professionals they informed me that what he had done was in fact abuse, and said that this person likely a Bi Polar Narcissist, a Covert Narcissit to be exact. As I started doing lots of research I coun't believe it. It was like he had followed the exact script of a Covert Narc. I was just stunned that the exact treatment I had received from him was outlined to the letter in so many sources on NPD. Of course I felt like I was loosing my mind during the realationship as I was to blame for everything going wrong. HIs big line was "Love is about acceptance" and then only way I could get this man to treat me with a tiny bit of love and affection was to NEVER react or speak about his horrible treatment of me. Of course he will never be diagnosed with NPD because he woud always portray himself as the victim to his therapist. So this cycle will continue on and on. This expererience has without a doubt been the most toxic and stressful realtionship of my life. The amount of pain, confusion and stress this type of diagnosis can cause is extreme. My heart goes out to anyone who has ever been in any type of realtionship with a Bi-Polar Narcissist.

When my son was little he said that his dad was “tripolar”-either mad,sad or glad. Out of the mouths of babes.

Yep my ex tried to convince me I had bipolar because my moods went up and down. Turns out my moods were up and down for good reason, Narcissistic abuse. Depression, anxiety, and ptsd. I'm almost 3 years out of that marriage nightmare, and my life is great. Depression is gone, no medication, no doctors visits, lost 30kgs and fit and healthy, working full time in my own business, and have a healthy relationship with a new partner. To anyone in the same position i was in, HANG IN THERE! things get better.

I'm so grateful for your channel/contents Dr Ramani, you have helped me survive narcissistic abuse for the past 8 months. The mind games the narcissists were playing with me nearly knocked me out of reality, I didn't know what I was experiencing until I came across your channel. #IReallyApprociateYourWork

My covert narc husband was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, but I've never seen a manic episode from him even before being prescribed medication. I think he was misdiagnosed, and narcissism would have been the better diagnosis, but he told me that he lies to his psychiatrist and "tells him what he wants to hear" so his visits with him will be over quickly. Thank you Dr Ramani, for all your shared knowledge and compassion. You're a lifesaver.

I started watching your channel more so to be uplifted and encouraged more than to be informed. Thank- you for everything you do for me and others. I will have to go back and re- watch your old videos to get through this month. You have a beautiful, comforting and nurturing presence I enjoy! Thank you!

Bipolar 2 here. It’s totally treatable, but I am extremely empathetic. It’s wildn

I have bipolar but I am definitely not narcissistic. My ex was narcissistic...and we were a terrible match. My mood would fluctuate and worsen due to the treatment I was experiencing in the relationship, I felt my depression even stronger in that sense.

Our doctor had actually ruled out that my Narc mom was not Bipolar, but I was glad that finally someone else had noticed something was going on with her that was not normal.

The knowledgeable, professional and intelligent, Dr. Ramani. Thanks for this channel and the content.

I've been diagnosed with Bipolar type 2 and resonate with everything you've mentioned. I had a narcissistic friend deplete me over the last few years. The last 6 months I lost my mother and he insisted on lingering and lingering. My mania was absolutely out of control and I was on a crash course to the morg. I had to change my living arrangements, my grandmothers house was far too filthy and disgusting and causing me triggers daily, and then I chopped ou the toxic people from my life and in the last 5 weeks I've never felt more empowered, more uplifted, so much strength in myself. Narcs are toxic to spirituality, phsyical health, everything.. They are the second hand smoke to society.

Oh my goodness…I don’t know where to begin. I am for many years happily married to a very kind man. But I had a break up years ago that has still managed to have a psychological effect on me over the years in certain situations. Without telling the whole story, I have recently, and fully realized that this person was bipolar and narcissistic! I finally understand the mirroring, the invalidation, the lying, the bating…all of it. I’m grateful that we never ended up together, but it is also quite traumatic realizing that something you thought was unique, and powerful (even though it wasn’t fully realized, thankfully) was actually a ginormous lie! Thank you for the work you do.

Exactly! Everyone excused my mother because she has bipolar disorder while I suffered the narcissistic abuse for decades. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Oh, my! 😲 What a Godsend it is for you to have posted THIS one. Thank YOU! 💗🙏🏼🙋🏽‍♀️

This was really helpful in understanding the difference between bipolar and someone maybe just experiencing narcissistic supply and feeling elated. For my ex, there were clear things that could trigger that elated, manic-ish state, which I paid attention to because it was more pleasant than the depressive state (or narcissistic depletion). Good video!

My ex would accuse me of having Bipolar disorder as well, and then he’d continue to invalidate my responses and gaslight me to the point where I’d believe his false accusations

This is just the video I‘ve been asking for here in the comment section, because my father was bipolar with narcissistic traits. Thank you for making this video, Dr. Ramani.

I asked for this video recently and didn’t realize it was already made… thank you Dr. Ramani!!! This is sooo helpful!!!!

Thanks for accurately describing 20 years of my life. A therapist tried to get me to look at his bi-polar behavior. I didn't recognize until I left. Only now 5 years out, and in large part from you does it make sense.

Thank you SO much for this video Dr. Ramani. My mother is bi-polar, and covertly narcissistic and I was her caretaker via Munch. by Proxy. My father is overtly narcissitic, and it took EVERYTHING to break the trauma bond and go no contact... boundaries literally nuked the majority of my relationships - as “they” were so used to my over-giving and empathy, they couldn’t reciprocate my love! Now to find my chosen family post-Covid!

This channel is pure gold. Thank you doctor Ramani!

I feel so validated. This describes someone I know..who has both. Thank you Dr.Ramani!

My late husband was diagnosed and treated for bipolar. Psychiatrist never picked up on his narcissism and never bothered asking me. He spent most of our 5 years of marriage abusing me. There was only pills and no therapy. When the tranquillisers stopped working he committed suicide and left me in a mess. I'm still not sure he ever was bipolar, both or just narcissistic.

This was actually very interesting and helpful for me. I am diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and it now makes sense why the last decade of my life was so crazy. Having a bipolar disorder is already difficult on its own and be abused by a narcissist and having a toxic environment at the same time is a total nightmare. A lot of self-blame was, to be honest, was released because of this video! Thank you so much Dr. Ramani! and congrats to on the way to 600k Subs! been here since 150k subs and you're absolutely fantastic! Thank you for what you do Dr. Ramani!

Thank you Dr. Ramani for discussing NPD & bipolar disorder together. They are different disorders w/ some similar characteristics. The information you provide is always helpful. Keep up the great work!

🧡THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH, DR. RAMANI❤You are the first person I've ever heard address how the health of a person with bipolar disorder is affected by a narcissist.💚 I can never express how much this means to me. 💛Thanks, Dr. Ramani💜

Thanks dr Ramani , this one hits home because I'm bipolar and this was a very good breakdown. I'm a narcissist when I'm manic and it's shit when you come down and recognise how you have behaved. It's part of the guilt that often follows the manic episodes which exacerbates the depressive side of bipolar. It was nice to see someone touch on the crossovers of narcissistic behaviours as I've seen alot of people self label narcissists without any actual knowledge of crossover behaviours caused from other mental health disorders. Was also nice to see you touch on the increased stress a narc can put on someone with bipolar , have personal experience with that and well when the narc gets you into a mania then you basically have two narcs battling and it's not pretty.

I can't believe that even they can't stop revealing my secrets! It's hurting No problem I'm getting tolerant of these I must face society Even if I'm afraid I must And I won't doubt myself or blame myself Thanks 😊

Thanks for taking on this topic and for covering the other disorders! Looking forward to the rest of the videos this month.

I stumbled upon this KZfaq series a few months ago. It’s both compelling and enlightening. I appreciate the knowledge and insight these videos have provided, along with the tools to deal with these narcissistic relationships and “permission” to use them. I grew up in a household with a father who is bipolar, and a mother who definitely has strong narcissistic tendencies. I didn’t understand my mother’s narcissism until just recently, after an event where she blew up at my son and both physically and verbally attacked him. Growing up as an only child and being the main target of my mothers anger and frustrations, I never understood the source behind the guilt trips, or the gaslighting, or any of the typical behaviors of someone with narcissistic tendencies. I just knew that it wasn’t right or healthy, but didn’t know how to navigate through it. My mother has definitely been a source of frustration in my marriage with my husband of 18+ years. I didn’t fully see the destructive abuse until It was no longer me as the target, but rather my son. Thank you for all the work that you do, and the knowledge that you share. I only wish I had found you and these videos sooner.

Thank You for this explanation & separating the differences between bi polar & narcissism. My ex definitely has both. When he was diagnosed as bi polar, it was such a relief to know & as you stated, the let down, to learn there was much more, medication wasn't helping with. I've only recently come to learn & understand the narcissistic part. While I never tried to fix him, I knew that it wasn't my job &/or to hope that things would get better, I literally got trapped years ago, without support, family, friends, etc. He had full control over my life, to such an extent, that I rarely left the house. I had no where to go, to call, to seek assistance. Even the police, shelters, etc., would say that if he hadn't hit me, they could not help me. I was put in a corner, where I could be monitored, to await his next need of me. I cannot express enough, how much I appreciate you. I no longer feel stupid, for not getting out sooner, for not defending myself. THANK YOU

Your videos are a blessing. Im just waking up to the fact I was in love with someone who I thought was just bi-polar with ambivalent attachment tendencies. I would let go and forgive all the things he said and did to me and try to help him instead. It left me exhausted and lost which just gave him more ammunition to judge and condemn me. Please consider making more videos on bi-polar/narcissism/attachment style. Thank you for all you do 🙏🏼

Dr. Ramani thank you for this. This is a very specific topic that is not addressed often. I have BPD and I was with a narcissistic partner. It means a lot that a clinical psychologist recognises how tough it is to have BPD and to live with a Narc. Towards the end of our relationship, I was actually the mature stable person and I was mostly calm not falling for his triggers. After watching this video, I realize how strong I am, for managing BPD and living with a Narc, in a calm manner. Thank you❤️

My analythical brains will love these series. It might help to stop some overthinking. Thank you so much!!

I was hoping to hear more about how narcissistic abuse affects the partner with bipolar disorder.

My husband has both. Undiagnosed though. Gets into rages and verbally abusive. Been married 38 years. So tired. Really thankful for Dr Ramani's channel.

Thank you for addressing this overlap between narcissism and bipolar disorder. I have spent 30 years (15 married/15 divorced) trying to understand the craziness that became my life while married to a mentally ill clinical psychologist. No one in my regular life wants to listen to the “lengthy “pop-psychology/psychobabble“ and, honestly, it wears me out, too. I have summarized it as “the perfect storm of narcissism and bipolarDisorder. Thank you for confirming that that exists!

Thank you so much for this! This is something of great interest to me because I have a brother with Bipolar I. Medication, even in large doses, does little to help. When manic he seems very narcissistic. But even when depressed he is often sharp, disinterested and intolerant with even the best of his friends. Growing up, he was Mother’s favorite (she admitted this to a family friend who was ‘kind’ enough to tell me). He was a very intelligent, creative child who now admits proudly that he has always hated authority.

My best friend believes that she is bipolar but is in a relationship with a narcissist and had a narcissistic father. I have tried to convince her that it's not necessarily bipolar but belief is powerful. I wish I could convince her.

I'm so happy you posted this video. My ex was diagnosed to have bi-polar, but I'm 100% sure he is a covert narcissist. The dynamic can be very very similar, but the cruelty, constant overly selfish behaviour and complete lack of empathy. Also the victim mentality does reveal what's going on... Thank you for all the visdom you put out for us. Your videos were hugely helpful to me during my recovery

Right on point today Dr. Ramani! Exactly what I've been wondering. The comparison between a Narcissist and a Bipolar person. I've been reading and watching different information about both for a few years. The last year of watching your videos everyday. Comparing my family members as well as ex husbands to the symptoms of bipolar vs. narcissism. Wondering is it this or is it that. For 2 of my people it's both. Your presentation today clarified this for me. I can now see the difference, and since it's both for 2 people, I can stop believing their excuses, and stop giving them the benefit of the doubt for their behavior. It's sad that they have bipolar, and even more sad that they are narcissistic too. I've taken the blame, the rage, guilt, gaslighting, verbal abuse, and on and on most of my life. Started as a little girl I'm now 74. Been on my own now over 16 years, and still experiencing the effects from both conditions from my adult son. It's so much harder when it's your son. BP and NARC. I'm tired. But you are my boost of energy and light everyday Dr. Ramani. Again, Thank you so very much for your support. Oh and one last comment. It's NOT my fault. If any of you read this, please, please remember it's NOT YOUR FAULT.

Thank you 10000 times Doctor Ramini to shine your bright light on what i suspect my ex narc/ bipolar is suffering from.

Having Bipolar 1, I'll give my two cents! When I'm manic, I often think highly of myself but I also gain a closer connection/bond to those around me, so not only my view of myself as amazing, but I also view those around me being just as amazing too, I can go on spending sprees just by buying gifts for my friends, or even have deeper conversations cause I am in a "good" state of mind and really open my heart out. I never feel like I need to belittle people to make myself feel better, cause I already think I'm great and the people around me are usually just as great! 🤩

Thank you Doctor Ramani for the episode. I was diagnosed with bipolar 6 months after I got out of 10 years narcissistic relationship. I'm still coping with the diagnose although I see that I showed symptoms long before I went to the psychiatrist. There was no time and space for self-reflection when I was with the narcissist, I was just facing daily battles to change him. I'm on my way to heal now and your videos played huge role in it.

Thank you, for your amazing ability or gift, by providing much needed clarity, guidance, assistance, wisdom and most importantly, your compassionate loving soul, Dr Ramani - You are truly a bright lighthouse beacon of light, in this rather darkened, stigmatized about mental health, world.... Namaste 🙏

You’re the best dr RAMANI watch you every video you post absolutely changing life’s and make as understand dealing all can of behaviour thanks you again 🙏.

As usual doctor I find your information invaluable.

Thank you so much, Dr. Ramani, for answering my question I posted in one of your previous videos. My dad has Bipolar 1 and has narcissistic traits. I wanted to know if these conditions could co-exist. His Bipolar is under control with medication, but the narc traits..Nah! As you said, it's there to stay forever! It's ingrained in his DNA! Your videos have helped me manage my relationship with my dad, especially the DEEP technique. I divorced my nex, but I can't do the same with dad. I appreciate all that you do, doc!

You’re good Doc! So fascinating how much precise info keeps coming from your lips...thank you🙏

Omg love this channel soooo much! Thank you Dr. Ramani ❤️

Been following your channel for a while, love your content so much. Thinking about signing up for your workshop! :)

I dated 2 girls who were clinically diagnosed as Bipolar I, just my luck. I didn’t know there was so much overlap with Narcissism until I started watching these videos. I went no contact with the first girl because out of the blue she said she no longer Needed my assistance, discarded me with a new supply lined up, wanted me to be backup supply, and sent her flying monkeys to discredit me. Ended the 2nd relationship after one drunk night she told me she uses all her friends and feels nothing.

My mum is a Narcisist and my Brother is bipolar 1. Now, thanks to all your videos I I feel like I can see my family for the first time. Omg 🥺 Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤️

Stunning in its brilliance and clarity~!

I guess I’m completely screwed then being with a man for almost thirty years & only learning in the last few years exactly how sick my husband truly is? It’s terrifying to live this way! I’ve always,always have said when my husband comes home we never know if we’re dealing with Jekyll or Hyde? TERRIFYING

Both my sisters are bipolar. One sister is irritable and says mean comments, but later apologizes profusely. The other is manipulative, gaslights others says very unkind things, blames you and guilts you. She doesn’t say sorry but feels hurt and shamed when corrected. The first sister enables the other sister’s behavior and excuses it. Yikes!!! I finally understand and now using my Dr Ramani armor!

Your podcasts are ALWAYS so helpful and easy to understand. Thank you.

Thank you for this video! Been waiting for one about bipolar in a narcissist. Very informative and interesting!

Dad's a covert narc and mom actually developed bipolar bc of traumatic childhood + adulthood partner abuse. Moral of the story, get tf out of an abusive / narc relationship asap, this can actually save your sanity (and life, possibly).

I was thinking about this the other day. And I didn’t know I started to master in 2017 how to control my emotions and working with difficult patients who were very needy/demanding/entitled and later own learned they were narcissists or had narcissistic tendencies extremely manipulative and I always let them know up front you are not special or the only patient I have to take care off. I can get you anything you want but like every patient everyone will have give the same amount of time at least.

I thank you for making a distinction between narcissism and narcissistic tendencies when episodic with bipolar. I have type 1 with mixed features and have been accused of being a narcissist when symptomatic. Thanks to your description, it's easy to see that that is not the case because once the mania subsides, I feel like I'm on an apology tour for my behavior. My wife has stuck with me for 25 years and I just got my diagnosis a few months ago. My pills and my wife's constant hugs and movement towards me has been the best health regimen for me. We aren't easy to deal with but are grateful for those wiilling to love someone with a genuine mental disorder. Yes, it's a mental disorder.

I extremilly happy to learned after many years that I have nothing wrong.. Nothing wrong is in me. The problems was those people in my earlier years of my life that cause soooo much confusion. Thank you Dr. Ramani for all your teaching. I keep learning from you every day. I send a lot of love and gratitude. 😊🥰😍

My 1st marriage was with a bipolar and borderline person. IT WAS HELL!! Abuse is abuse. Bipolar freakout rage selfish issues was off the chain uncontrollable. They refused meds...refused therapy...AND drove me over the edge to being hospitalized for 11 days. Freakin' nervous breakdown. I divorced it when I got out. Mention bipolar to me and I cringe. I don't walk away...I run like hell.

In regards to what Dr. Ramani said about consistency: While exclaiming to my therapist, "Do you know what he did this time?!" His wise answer was, "Well at least he is predictable." And I have a theory: overt narcissists sleep very well at night because they don't have much of a conscience.

Thank you very much doctor: it was amazing. I'm very very happy you are doing this series. I really helps a lot to better undestand. You are doing an important job, or rather, another import job.

Dr. Ramani for president 🙌🏾

Wow I recently had the worse experience with people who have narcissistic and bipolar disorder in one, they're extremely manipulative and evil.

I have had the pleasure of enduring a type 2 bi-polar partner for several years until it was diagnosed as well as a long term so-called friendship with a narcissist. Both revelations occurred in that order. The narc stuff I had already mostly figured out and although spooked by it, I had already worked through a lot of the BS that came with it and acknowledged the weakness being displayed by other so-called friends. The bi-polar relationship however took a lot more to figure out and extract myself from due to being a love interest and upon further reflection I definitely feel that there is also some narcissistic traits that were displayed at certain times such as the need for admiration and to be the centre of attention, stonewalling, lack of ability to reflect on ones own behaviour and in fact an refusal to do so, held high on a pedestal then discarded, arrogance and haughty nature. Best thing that happened to me was the ending of that relationship which lead me to travel and meet my now fantastic wife who is the best thing that ever happened to me. Thanks Doc Ramani. You do really good....no..... fantastic work!

Thank you so much Dr Ramini! I guess I won the Jackpot with my ex-husband: I always thought his problem was simply undiagnosed bi-polar, since he refused to think that he had anything wrong with him or to get treatment, but from watching all your videos for the past year, it is crystal clear that he also is a Narcissist. You are so right that there is so much overlap. I've learned to not blame myself, and I have been free of the relationship for 21 years now. How I wish that I had found you years ago!

Oh my god! I've wanting to know the relation between bipolar and narcissism so much! Thank you for doing this video!

Thank you 🙏🏻

I also think that the addictive nature of narcissistic relationships can make people with bipolar disorder especially susceptible to them, particularly if unmedicated. It makes the highs and lows of that relationship all the more intense, keeping you trapped in a chase for the highs especially when you’re low. Also, the lows are so insanely low that they cause a degree of desperation, that the narcissist can then use to their advantage. All the while, the relationship is making your bipolar disorder worse. It’s kind of like how people with bipolar disorder are likely to abuse substances even though they ultimately make the disorder worse. (That could just be my experience though.)

I think I've made this comment in another video, but I want to thank you again for what you do. How I wish I had this information earlier in my life. I bought your book, Do You Know Who I am..., for my son and daughter-in-law because they have three children. I figured forewarned is forearmed. Because they are remarkable parents, I hope that they will be able to use the information to arm their children against encounters with narcissists. Life can be rocky as it is, but I don't want them to go through what I went through.

I have been WAITING for this one

Great timing!!!

Dr. Ramani would you please do a series about attachment styles, how to work on them and how some people with certain attachment style can be an easier target to narcs. Thank you again for all of your amazing efforts

I’ve been waiting for this video. This is me. Bipolar 2, and covert narcissism. Had no idea about the bipolar until a couple of years ago when repressed memories of sexual trauma in my childhood resurfaced. Knew I was dating narcissists left and right, but couldn’t see it in myself until 2020. 🤦‍♀️ How do we go about healing? I feel lost at sea with no hope. When I’m in my depressed state, I don’t want to be me anymore, I want out of this life. None of my therapists recognized either of these issues and just diagnosed me with depression and ptsd. I’m so thankful for these videos, dr. Ramani.

Okkkkkkl Dr. Ramani LOVE YOU Hi. I have bipolar disorder 2, and I just moved back home after realizing my roommate of six months (friend/acquaintance of 10 years), has NPD. When I realized, I quickly and gracefully got out of there. Wow. This video was posted at a really convenient time for me! Also, my dad has bipolar disorder (as well as his late sister), and both of them have or had exhibited narcissistic traits. I related to the second part of the video so much, and it really shed light on why they do or did choose to drown family members with them (and why I choose every day to do the opposite)!!!! Yes. Love this. Thank you.

A narcissist around me has been known to say that their Ex was bi-polar, but I never saw any swings, and since the narc lies all the time I’m not believing it. I have then heard others say the same about a narcissist they knew. Convenient that the narc “went through so much” “living with” a tough Dx (diagnosis). A previous boss specialized in bipolar. I’m not an expert, just not seeing it.

Dr ramani my ex was narcs so was my mil and they used to call me toxic over my silly mistakes 😅

Ugh! This video really hit home for me. Describes people in my life that I love, but who are very toxic to the point I have to limit contact. Bipolar, narcissistic behavior or disorder, and substance abuse...What a world we live in! Not for the faint of heart. Is it wrong to feel the pain of all of this and just wish there was healing for these people who suffer with these conditions. Even the impaired conscience can be linked to brain damage (as I believe was the case of my ex through racing motorcycles and many accidents). Why are we unable to heal or fix people? We live in the dark ages with all of this. It’s depressing, and I don’t want to see this video again because it’s too sad. Like you are describing an internal hell for these people’s lives and those that are around them. No wonder my ex used to close the door and hole up in his house for a week!

Wow. Thank you so much for this. I'm bipolar 2, but I never had a clear grasp of the differences between 1 and 2. You made it very easy to understand and now I can see why 2 applies to me. Knowledge really is power. When we know we can learn coping strategies. I can see how therapy might be a powerful tool for me.