My dad has this aspect but settled down into a traditional relationship and was v committed but he did have a very unconventional creative job that took up all his time

For me it’s very weird because I have my Venus in Scorpio😅 so I don’t think I have to explain what this feels like...I am very smothering to my guy,extremely loving,obsessive,I always want to know what he is doing,very jealous,etc BUT I hate being smothered,I am very independent,I don like him to be jealous,I like spending time with my friends without him,I am very unusual in love,I am like “yeah...I adore you but i want time for myself,I don’t want you to call me all the time...but if I call you,I would LOVE if you can respond immediately”...it’s so weird.

My husband & I both have this square in our natal charts. It's interesting! We have been together for 21.5 yrs. It's been an amazing journey. It is all about keeping things interesting for both of you. We are best friends. This video resonated so much for me!! Thank you so much for this!!

I feel this square plays out for me by age gap relationships. I also emtionaly need a lot of space to do my hobbies and recharge so that i can stay emotionally healthy in relationship.

I keep coming back to this video to remind myself of who I am absolutely sooo telling. Difficult because all I want is security Taurus moon. But when I get I run. It’s definitely finding a balance 😅 and understanding my needs. I can’t tell you how helpful this has changed the way I view myself. I have been shaming myself for years for not being able to do conventional relationships. Thank you no more shame ❤

This is so true I have this and I always go for long distance or online because I like my alone time and like exciting men

She's so good at this

Hi your video really hit the target! This describes why even at 29 I haven't really dated, and have been driven toward my dreams in int'l health. I came from a family that always married very young (13) and I saw how my friends' personalities/dreams changed according to the bf of the month. I subconsciously distance myself from people b/c I do feel smothered (especially if it interferes w/my studies). I now realize I always had boundaries b/c no one around me had them so I ended up being the "cold" one in my over passionate family b/c I did control my energy. I have chosen a career that requires traveling and definite risk, not many people do understand.

Interesting how speaking about certain aspects or planets brings it to the conscious forefront so quickly. I just watched venus square neptune and im thinking " yea! i get this! im so sensitive, and nobody gets me . pain and art. lalala". I also have this aspect, and watch this and suddenly im like " yea! im independent! and radical. nobody can hold me down long enough :} " lol human nature is very suggestive. Love your videos. Youre my favorite synestry astrologer!

Thank you for this video! It explains why I have different views than everyone else. I'm all about having friendship in a relationship otherwise it isn't worth it.

This is one of my tightest aspects. Extremely monogamous, and I need my partner to be my best friend. My relationships have been a little weird, but I do like being "smothered" (for example, Cancerians). My boyfriends have been different or odd too; I also have Pisces descendant.

You're truly the best. So grateful for your interpretations and insights... You have a serious gift for communicating these concepts, and at least for me, in a way that I not only understand, but I really really 'get it' on a soul level. Thank you!!

This was SO TRUE! I have Venus opposing Uranus and my thoughts on relationships, monogamy, sexuality, etc. are so different than everyone else

This came at a important time in my life. I am turning 40 in a month and have been really looking at why I run from commitment. I have been engaged more then 4 times. Always feeling like I should want complete commitment as my whole religious family. I noticed my actions have been saying something completely different. 😅wow thank you so much for this new understanding of myself ❤

Yep, terrific explanation. Appreciative of the pauses to ask us to be truly honest and ask ourselves questions. Now it makes sense why Most relationships felt oppressive somehow. As always astrology gives words to things which I find we do not speak about, articulate but yet we can feel, experience and sense.

have you ever noticed alot of actors have venus uranus aspects

Wow! Thank you so much. I really needed to hear an honest depiction of how i love and what only one thus far has been able to see....& w/o conditions nor restrictions love me. Which truly enableled myself to love so deeply and equally in return. I miss him but i will never forget that depth, that level of absolute love

If your really...really.....REALLY honest with themselves. Oh my goodness! All they "Really's" had me laughing so hard.

Honestly you couldn't describe me any better. You are 100% correct. 100%.

I have this and this video explains my life exactly. Had to watch it twice! Thank you

I have an exact natal Venus Uranus opposition, and I can relate to your description. Thanks so much!

Venus Aries square Uranus I'm definitely monogamous and love to know that a relationship is moving toward commitment. But I don't like feeling smothered in relationships. I like alot of excitement. Aries already requires alot of stimulation, but mine is on steroids with this square. Currently single, talking to 2 guys who are quite different. One guy is distant but boring (Cancer Venus). The other guy is exciting but needy (Venus Aries). Makes me want to rip my hair out. I don't believe in changing people so I don't bother begging but I do like for partners to meet me in the middle at least. Compromise.

100% don’t want to be smothered or controlled. On point I need my freedom even if I’m in a relationship. Venus Aries as well mhmmmmm

I love your insights about this aspect. It definitely hits the nail for my lover. He has this aspect and he is an Aquarius with a moon in Cap and Venus and Mars in Pisces. From the get go, he has been adamant to not be controlled and he hates the conventional boyfriend/girlfriend labels. He's been in long term relationships before. Being Sagittarius with Virgo Moon and Venus in Libra and Mars in Gemini, I also love my independence and that feeling of having an unconventional relationships. He's not pushy and controlling towards me and I am not towards him. It seems to work.

I have this aspect, together with venus square neptune. Uranus and neptune in capricorn, and my venus is in aries, lol. Once I fell in love with someone who believed in poli-love. I loved this person and only this person, guess I was attracted to this free spirit, even though I hoped this someone would choose only me at the end. This person didn't, and since then I absolutely believe in monogamist relationships. I have scorpio moon. I think I was living all about my venus square uranus, but when the thing became love it hurt, and it hurt a lot because my moon was finally involved. Now I am in a long distance relationship, but I really love this person. And I am afraid I would lose him due to my possesive nature. Again, it started as a sudden crush, but two years after I really need to know he's mine and only mine, and viceversa. It gets difficult because his sagi moon is all about happiness and freedom and... well, scorpio people need pain sometimes. Does someone have advice for me? I know I will continue loving him, but I wanna make him happy too. Should I allow my venus more participation? I don't know.

Your childish laugh was the best thing about video 18:17 😍😍❤❤

this aspect explains my whole life

Okay, this makes a whole lot of sense. I’ve always looked for freedom within the relationship, I’ve tried pretty much everything out of the box. Surprisingly the synastry or my partners have Vênus-Uranus square so the unconventional relationship works. But even that is not enough. There’s a restlessness that destroys everything in the long run or the conditions are so out of the normal that the partner leaves. Maybe not believing in forever is fine. Some relationships aren’t meant to last and still are valuable.

A video on the opposition is definitely needed. Thank you Jewel. I love how supportive & protective you sound towards those with Uranus aspects in our charts lmao. Much love to you always. 💚

I have this and let's just say I am not married, but in a 24 yr. relationship and get bored, so I had to spice it up in a dishonest way, because my sun also has a Pluto opposing contact.....big sigh......! Great video and yes I feel a lot of what you said Jewel...I get bored when there is no excitement‼️

now i get it why i tend to withhold...lets just say being us with this aspects is soooo hard and complex!

wonderful...so helpful....I also have moon conjunct Neptune in the fourth with Cancer rising and these are really hard to combine...! I believe the Venus Uranus square is there to facilitate artistic expression and the required space that goes along with that!

I love how you turn the tension into the positive outcome. Thank you so much. I follow you in the facebook page, I always read you. Much love to you. I came here because I have this in my Solar Return Chart, and I'm an Aquarius sun with Ac Aquarius in this S.R ♥ Thanks again Jewel!

terrific videos, jewel - you're a great teacher. i'm sure you get tons of requests, but i would love to see a video about the quincunx between venus and saturn (natally, especially). thanks for sharing your insights!

Thanks, as always, Jewel. You're the best.

I I think this explains why I'm 47, single, never married, although Ive had countless boyfriends. I have the Venus/Uranus opposition, and while I'm bummed out I haven't had a stable relationship, I wanted to have kids but could not settle down with one partner. Venus in Aries, Gemini sun and I like to party! I have had many "experiences" and many marriage proposals but none I was interested in at the time. I do not like the smothering and am very "free-spirited". I would be fine not living together full time, I appreciate my own space. I guess I need to find a guy with the same aspect?

Trappage??! haha Ok I believe you! :D Thank you Jewel for taking time to do this video and for the advice ;) This has been a revelation and an interesting insight. Would you also say this aspect makes one impulsive with their spending, having dramatic ups and downs with finances since Venus also rules money?

I have this aspect at a tight orb (along with Venus square neptune) and uncovential relationships is on point! Although I absolutely hate seeing my lovers as friends and I take friendships seriously (Saturn in 11th and 7th house pluto). I thank my Scorpio for combating the uranian f*ckery

You know you’re exciting if Jewel says you are 😂

Wow, this resonated so much. Most of my exes are my friends for life. I do have the traditional moon in 7th house , was married for 7 years but something just didn’t sit well with me , like I felt smothered and was dying to break free of the traditional marriage frame …and yes you were right , I felt like I was married to my brother , there was no attraction but we were great friends. I had one more serious relationship after my marriage but as soon as he brought up moving in and marriage , I freaked out …..finally I understand why

I have Venus semi-square Uranus, kind of wide. 3 1/2° orb. But man! Do these comments ever hit home. Wow. Much better than the Planets in Aspect book I have been using.

Yeah see, I have a moon in 4th house, so I'm comfortable within the confines of a relationship and seek monogamy. But the guys I go for are offbeat and unique. Freedom and independence are important but I feel with the right match you can feel free together...

"trappage" is a French word that translates to "trapping" in English.

Im friends with a guy that has this aspect along with moon square pluto and sun square uranus. Hes admitted he cheated on his ex girlfriend and isnt into monogamy. He wouldnt mind sharing his partner and inviting others to the bedroom. Hes also an aquarius moon... I settled on "friendship" with him after he told me this, the crush i had on him was short lived. My venus square neptune and pluto in 1st would never be ok with an open relationship. Im too possesive

Explains so much!! Thank you!! :)

Super useful. Thank you Jewel 💖

Lmao I have Venus in Leo conjunct my MC at 8° and Uranus in Scorpio conjunct my AC At 8° degrees. Hello Uranus square Venus!!!! Thank you so much for sharing all of that you hit the nail on the head. Right on the money…

I have this with a gemini sun and a gemini venus, I don't know where this come from but I have this child like being, and I like childlike youthful fashion.

friends with benefits?

I have my venus sqaure Uranus and Saturn. At this moment i would Love to be in a serious monogamous relationship eventually when its meant to happen and i would Love it if the person im with was like a Best friend. I honestly dont like the idea of dating i would rather just get to know someone naturally through friendship and if a strong mutual attraction is there then we can be more. I have definitely done a few risky things in my life so far 😝 and! i have also experienced some unexpected intense like intimate moments with a couple of guys as well. It was Awesome but with each person our time knowing each other was short lived and ended abruptly out of no where. So for now im learning to be more to myself and accept who i am and also be more cautious with who i decide to be close with.

Wow. This is scary accurate.

My capricorn venus in 11th house needs a lot of space. I’m a bit of a soloist but yet I can be very loving and not as withholding as you described (I have venus trine jupiter also). A good match for me is another uranian. Currently involved with a freedom loving Aquarius stellium person. It’s unconventional and I feel we suit well.

This explains why I pick men who live states away and emotionally unavailable

Me and my ex husband both had it in our birth charts. We were brother and sister..we had sex...but not passionate. I was dating him for 8 years...when we moved in together..I ran in less than 5 months. Now I get why.

I’m never gonna have the problem of getting cheated on , or having problems in the marriage . Because I’m letting people know from the jump that YOU CANT CONTROL ME ! I won’t allow you to control me ! And also since I’m very much like this , I feel like I create a safe space for my partner to be honest with me , he/she won’t even ever have to “cheat” because they will know that they can always come to me if they do want to explore other options . 🤷🏽‍♀️ which is a very cool type of relationship to have .

I'd have to look at the semi-square in my situation. There is more going on. I have Uranus by 42deg towards my Venus and 44 deg. towards my Sun, whereas my Pluto conj. Uranus (as does my Venus conj. my Sun). So then there also is this semi-square aspect from my Pluto to Venus 45deg. and 47deg. towards my Sun. .... hmmmm.... ?! My Ex has his Venus about 88deg towards his Uranus, and about 93deg. towards his Mars, and about 96deg towards his Pluto, because Uranus, Mars, Pluto make a stellium in his chart, while his Venus is also conj. his Mercury, whereas Mercury is about 91deg. of his Uranus and about 95 deg. to his Mars. ... So 'yes' there is usually more going on than meets the eye, because in the 60ties Pluto and Uranus made a conjunction for the many! This is another thing, I do not see Pluto as 'sneeky' ;-) I'm also a Scorpio, so Truth is what I value most, and I do speak my truth as well. I cannot stand people who dilly-dally around, because I hold myself to the highest standards. Pluto may be many things, but NEVER dishonest! It does what it does best, it infuses alchemical transformation and in most cases it's about turning that what has become ugly and dishonest into something righteous and beautiful! ;-) Just my personal take on this, then again, I can only speak from my individual perspective, and I do have my Pluto conj. Uranus conj. with my IC, so talking about emotional vulnerability? ... pewwww ... ! Although this is in VIR, I do feel things deeply and I would not let go of anything until I dug deep into Truth for an answer! I may park things at times, when I notice there is no forth-coming, yet be assured that I will pay attention to anything that has caught my eye in the past, and I will make/see the connections, even if that means it's years later!

Are there any partner aspects (generally speaking)which tend to be complimentary w/this natal aspect? Who is secure and able to recognize that “allowing” the unusual provides security & normalcy within the intimate partnership?

I have this! Both planets are at home. My bf has an Aquarian venus. Our relationship does go against the norm, we have a big age gap that has caused some strong reactions.

Hi Jewel! Awesome video, as always. I have a question- how would this translate in a semisquare?

I feel so exposed hahahha I’m finally learning how to deal with this energy at 29 yo

Could you please do an inconjunct...seems like a difficult thing to resolve...you are excellent

Immediately turned off this guy I've been talking to 🤣

if neptune ios massive dishonesty and uranus is massive honesty but they are CONJUNCT and square venus how does that turn out? xD

I would love your advice, Jewel. This is helpful, however, it seems I am finding partners who exhibit this Uranus quality, and I am the one hoping for a traditional relationship. My Venus also squares Mars and Neptune. My partners always seem to fall away, create distance, never initiate, and lie a lot (many exes have natal sun and mercury square to Neptune) and also always have some Uranus quality to them. How do I find partners that stop representing my Uranus/Neptune? For once I’d like a guy to pursue me, be honest, want to commit. I have Venus in Aries, trine Asc, sextile Saturn. Thank you for your guidance!

Jewel , Do you have this Venus square Uranus too?

LMAO so I have this aspect- I laugh because I have Venus in AQUARIUS in the 8th house 😄 but it also trines Pluto I always say I'm drawn to the intense weirdos haha. I am very wary of commitment but when I like someone I can be VERY intense. it's funny, like the saying " I love you so much, now go away." I can relate It takes me a while to "get close" but once I do, I am generally loyal. but I have other crazy aspects, like sun opposition moon, and sun, moon and mars square Neptune and it doesn't help that I have a pisces sun.

could you do the inonjunction please c:

I think you have had a camera and have observed me all my life. Omgg

I have the trine, Venus trine Uranus, but my Moon and Uranus are squared off...

What would occur if someone had this venus square along with a venus trine saturn?

Jewel, could you please add subtitles to this video? Thank you

You're spot on

Does venus opp uranus have a similar effect? If not plz make a video?:)

Hello, I was wondering if this description applies to a Venus inconjunct Uranus person(me). It does all sound very familiar and like myself. TOTALLY afraid to be smothered. Thank you so much for your time.

Spot on.

Jewel , Do you have this aspect too? ---------------- I have one , my love life is not conventional at all , my bf mostly were foreigner , and now my husband is also in that category .I don’t find Men that has same life as me attractive , dating someone in work is a No-No to me. I ‘ve never consider myself as Polygamy /polyamorous , ever.. I think the fedility with Venus square Uranus person is a complex topic to discuss . I have Leo venus sqaure Scorpio Uranus -both fix sign , and I think this help with fidelity . My Cancer moon and Libra sun help me stay in a relationship and it’s imporatant things in my life .

Do you think partners could be met online with this aspect with Uranus ruling technology

I have this Venus Uranus square, plus Uranus is in my 7th house. Still confused as to why I keep attracting Uranian and open relationships with men. They are the ones craving for freedom to be with other people.😕

Perfect!

Now I know why I’ve always said I want a friend in a husband!

What would be the maximum orb in effect for this aspect I have the square between Venus in taurus at 15 and 8 degree uranus in aquarius would that still be a square ?

I have my Venus Square Uranus and Mars Square Uranus

Hello, can you please do the opposition?

I have mars opposite uranus and I keep attracting men with this aspect. It feels completely natural to me but everyone else keep telling me its toxic... i also have moon conjunct uranus, trine sun and exact sun trine uranus too

I have the square and my guy has the conjunction. Mine is Uranus in 1st sextile sun and Jupiter exact. Square Venus in 4th Capricorn. Mars quincunx Uranus. My guy has Venus Uranus in Scorpio 4th. I did the whole conform thing and it failed so my guy and I do it our way. We are faithful and monogamous but I like my freedom more than he does. I get bored easily. Sag sun Virgo moon. Air and fire dominant. He's a Cap sun Mars with Aquarius moon in 7th conjunct dsc. He's fire and earth dominant.

Trapage yup I’m scared of that trapage. What’s your sun moon rising? Did you say your riding is Virgo and Mercury Virgo?

I feel so seen!

Can you please do venus inconjunct uranus?

Jewel I bet you have your Venus in your asc with Mercury too. Leo Sun, virgo asc

What if venus is retrograde?

What if Venus was also conjunct sun, saturn and Jupiter. All squared to Uranus

What is the Venus is Taurus ?

So true...

What is the best approach with a man who’s got this inconjunction?

Would this somewhat apply to the semi-square as well?

%100 true

oh goody lol..he has uranus square venus and have venus square saturn ....

Jewel I have this square and haven't had sex or been with ANYONE for five years - emotionally OR sexually. You have to be careful in your assessments, because I am being REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY HONEST and these types of things can make relationships go bad with people who are listening to you, just saying

Yup.

does this apply also on semi-square aspect ?