It's hurts to see a person you're interested in have obvious red flags you only see when pinpointed.

I dated a girl for a few months. She couldn't stop taking pictures of my house (I live with my parent's ofc), of my car (my dad's but I use it a lot)... every time I was out with her, everything had to be on her social media, we went to a festival and she couldn't go 5 minutes without filming everything. At first, I just thought it was part of her personality but she literally lived for social media. I should have walked away way earlier than I did. If something seems off, it probably is. Don't try to justify bad behaviour because you like them. Walk away and move onto the next.

Hamza, the last point is golden. I'm 27 and have been on the 'self improvement' journey for the last 8 years. I'm at a point in life where I have a great job, top 5% physique, huge social circle, close friends I can depend on, and it has made dating SO much harder. My access to women is the best it has ever been, (and only seems to be getting better), but holy s*** are there a lot of jessica's out there! It's gotten to the point where I'm not even really attracted to a girl until I can see they have drive themselves - glad it is something you are guiding other guys to avoid!

"Shes diferent bro"🤡

Me and my girlfriend watch your videos together and it's such a wholesome feeling being able to talk about how far we've come from how we were before we started dating as individuals and where we are now as one.

1. She doesn´t beleave in your work | 0:55 2. Your partner being addicted to social media | 1:26 3. She´s not grateful | 4:41 4. When a girl has colorful hair and lots of piercings | 5:47 5. Promiscuity & the sexual history | 7:44 6. She has promiscuous friends | 10:16 7. She drinks & does drugs | 13:04 8. She has a bad relationship with her parents (especially father) | 15:51 9. She´s a bit of a loser | 18:25

My biggest W so far in life is meeting a woman who is ambitioned but also feminine. She wants to achieve the possibility of a great career but keeps telling me her absolute goal is not having to work. That is pushing me really hard. She also keeps me hella accountable on self improvement and our relationship is slowly but surely moving into a perfect, more polarized relationship as my growth has exploded. Btw we are both 21 and in this together, so you can do it too!

I think context is key......some people are unfortunate and born into troubled households, but that doesn't mean a man or woman is immediately "broken" or a red flag. There is such a thing as therapy and self-improvement. I think that's the real red flag, is if someone doesn't actively try to improve themselves. Shit happens to all of us but if you don't try to heal your own trauma as well as generational trauma then you're not worth it.

I dated a girl before who had these red flags. The thing is, I already knew about these red flags, i'm just ignoring it thinking she is different, she's the one. It led me to a 2-year hell. Not only the relationship was hell, but it was also bleeding into other areas of my life. Dumbest decision of my life. It was when I had the courage to broke up with her, I discovered Hamza and had hope that I can change for the better. Hamza insipred me to become the best that I can be.

I've never felt ready for a relationship, but not having a real strong/long one really messes the mood.

That social media stuff is true. It's not just GFs, but also friends on so on. I hate it when I'm talking to a person and that person is looking at his/her phone. I once just walked away from the table and the social media addict then complained about why I walked away. I replied, "So, how long did it take for you to notice I walked away?" The embarrassment was real.

I dated a girl at university this year for a couple of months (Feb. 2022 - June 2022). I will NEVER regret leaving her. I met her at the church on the school campus and, although we had the same religious and political values, we had nothing else in common. She was fat, like morbidly obese fat, had fat parents, and had no hobbies besides using social media and watching Netflix. She couldn’t care less about learning new skills or any philosophical ideas I would bring up (I want to be a nurse but I still love philosophy and history). When we “hung out”, we basically walked around stores all day buying random crap and junk food. She would also BEGGED to hang out with me every day. Every time I tried to tell her that we should take some days off she would always get angry and claim “why don’t you wanna hang out with me? Don’t you love me,” in which I would become a submissive Jeffery and follow her every whim. Her family as a whole were a bunch of losers who were middle class but not ambitious about anything. I think they saw I came from money as I come from a middle to upper class lifestyle. She lived near where the university was located and brainwashed me into not wanting to leave her. Being the SIMP I was, I stayed at an apartment near the university. Thankfully, my parents came up to my apartment to save me from what was going on, even though I rebelled against them a little bit because of being brainwashed by my girlfriend. After they came up though, I left the apartment, that university, and that city completely to go back to my hometown to live with my parents. I now go to the university in my hometown studying to become a nurse. I live with my parents who I love, have started weightlifting and cardio so I can attract better looking and mentally healthier girls, and have come back to a lot of my hobbies I abandoned when I was dating my ex-girlfriend. I discovered Hamza in August 2022. As a person who already enjoyed self-improvement and loved men like Jordan Peterson already, Hamza was a perfect addition. Hamza helped me realised that physical attractiveness is very important and that, even though you may have a great personality, your body is just as important. I now wake up every morning at 5:00 AM, eat oatmeal, go to the gym, do weight training, ab exercises, and run a mile as fast as I can. I go every day (except for Sunday. I’m religious remember :P) and have gone from doing 15 lbs on bicep curls to 25 lbs on them. I have also gone from 45 lbs on bench press to 100 lbs. (I’m 5’7 and weight 135 lbs). I have also been able to cut my one mile running time from 14 minutes to 10 minutes. This is a side note but I think is still very good encouragement. I was born with half a heart (Hypoplastic Left-Heart Syndrome is the actual medical term) and have still been able to accomplish all of this in the span of only 4 months. The oldest survivor with my condition is only in their early 40s and babies still die from this heart defect all around the world today. All that to say, don’t make excuses, anything is possible!

I put my girl through self-improvement and it made our relationship healthier. I’m glad she was open-minded about everything because otherwise me and her wouldn’t have made it through the year we have spent together. Firstly, I want to say though, don’t be close-minded with relationships if you are on self-improvement, I was like this for so long and I kept saying I want breaks and all that other bullshit, be open-minded but also stay aware of you and her. I’m glad I changed and she did too because the influence she had of me carried to her and we are both very similar now, telling me to keep going with my work or convincing me to do shit when I feel unmotivated to do something, me and her have changed and are still changing into better people. Anyway I got to finish homework. I love her so much and I am marrying her as soon as I get a house with her. Edit : If you do have a girlfriend and she has one or two of these red flags just understand a person can change like the way you have transformed/transforming with self-improvement. Also, thank you to the supportive Adonis’ in the replies of this comment.

This is one of the most important videos made in our time and age. Thank you, Hamza for having the strength to say these things out loud. I really love to see that there is someone with a vast amount of listeners out there who is speaking about these issues without trying to sugarcoat the message.

My Ex, had all of these red flags, and people that knew her, even my friends, tried to tell me, but I ignored it all, got a place with her after six months, because she got evicted from her prior apartment for having too many pets. I went along with all her bad decisions, and it was ruining my life, my worst physical and mental state I’ve ever been in. Once I woke up, broke up, all I wanted to do was improve my self, thanks Hamza for helping me with that, wish I had this video earlier, maybe I wouldn’t have dated her in the first place.. then again it’s good experience for knowing what I don’t want in a partner.

Wow, I can 100% relate to #5. Got my first serious girlfriend being 19 years old, me still a virgin, her not. Wasn't a big deal until she told me she lost her virginity to her best friend out of curiosity and they did hook up multiple times just for the "physical pleasure". Actually broke my heart because i waited for 19 years to meet someone (i thought at that time) special. Never looked at her the same way. Always thought this was about me being insecure. 7 years later i know i doged a bullet there. Self improvement and patience are the only way to go. Absolutely love this video Hamza.

11:11 Quite Frankly one of my friends was a massive Jeffery, but I slowly got into the good habits, I started reading lifting consistently, and invited my friend to the gym. When he came with me he didn't want to be there but he stuck around, and now as I'm typing this suffering from over training, I wake up to a text of him letting me know he went to the gym and that gave me motivation to keep on going even after I had a injury. I try to be the best person I can at the best of my ability and will follow in your footsteps too, even if I set some others along the way. Thank you hamza

I like how extreme you’re about social media and you’re completely right I noticed my own self become much better mood and notices the world around me more when I deleted all social media apps except Whatsapp and KZfaq and I rarely use them

The key to Divine love I’m learning is letting them go and trusting yourself. Voice your concern and don’t stop them. If your partner wants to go to the bar or whatever social gathering you have to trust yourself in knowing that there’s a possibility they could make a mistake. When you allow someone the chance to make a mistake you give them an opportunity to learn wether or not the relationship ends. We’re all humans and every single one of us man or woman has our own unique and individual life path.

Perfect timing on this video. I’ve been single for 3 years and focused solely on my college career and now I’m going to the best hospital in the US for an internship for a field that is in high demand. I recently met a girl from my hometown who checks all the right boxes and these red flags definitely made it clear to me that she’s a keeper. Thanks Hamza 🙏

I like that Hamza brings up at certain points how others will try and convince you to change your values (insecure, controlling, misogynist, etc). Let them think whatever they want but if you have come to a standard either through experience, or gut feeling, or thought, then don't listen to these people. If you are trying to find a partner for the rest of your life, to have children with, then who cares what anyone else thinks - they don't have to live with the standards that they try and put onto you, its only you. I was recently having an informal discussion with one of my friends and I mentioned that if I ever have children, they won't be allowed to go crazy with social media. He was taken aback by this and through his tone seemed to think that I was crazy. We had a back and forth about it where I justified why I came to that conclusion and he gave arguments for why he thinks that approach is wrong. I respect his opinion as my friend, but my reasoning trumped his (to me at least), so I kept that value.

I love your outlook on social media. Gentlemen if you’re considering deleting it, GET IT DONE. Since deleting it every aspect of my life has improved tenfold. The KZfaq popped off, no distractions, no time wasting, no comparisons, fully focused on my craft and being present.

Thank you so much Hamza, you have changed my life for the better and i am very grateful for it. I try to spread your message as much as possible and i managed to get one of my friends off TikTok. You change so many peoples lives and you're doing such a great thing. Thanks!

I dated a girl for 4 years and she had almost every red flags in this video. She doesn’t believed in my work, was addicted to social media, wasn’t grateful and was a completly looser when i look backward at my relationship with her. Of course in the begining i didn’t realised it and it was not as bad it was in the later part of our relationship but it get worse with the time. I already was trying to improve my self and really tried to help her with her life as well but it completly f*cked up my mental health to a point that i gained 10kg of fat in one year cause of binge eating. This girl eventually left me for an other guy but she came back few months later, realising all i was doing for her. Hopefully i moved on realising how toxic my relationship with her was and never came back with her. I continued my self improvement journey, quit smoking, stopped binge eating cause my mental health started improoving, restarted training. Few months later i met a girl who is a total green flag and helped me even more to improove my mental health. We both support each other and it feels great to be in such a non-toxic relationship. I wanted to share my story with you to share this message : Don’t f*ck up your mental health trying to help someone kings. It doesn’t worth it

I got ghosted because I told the girl that I dont have social media and dont go to parties.. Crazy generation

Always trust your gut feeling, that's something I'll instill in my son. My brain wants to come up with excuses but the gut always knows what's up for some reason

This video is so good. Even just the first pointer put exactly what I was thinking about in my first relationship constantly into words. I chose to break up with the supposed "one" a few months ago - I just had a bad gut feeling about our relationship but I couldn't pinpoint it at the time. Now that I'm on some level of self-improvement and its been some time since I broke up, I now see where that gut feeling came from. She had some of these red flags, namely she doesn't believe/care in my work - she really didn't care at all about many things, and that she was addicted to social media. I couldn't see it at the time because I wanted to believe so bad she was the one, and that was me just hoping my first love would be the one immediately. At the very least, I didn't suffer much heartbreak because I was able to see her for her true self - a Jeffrey. Not an ounce of self-improvement - and that's now a dealbreaker for me. More power to her if she wants to live that way, it just means we're not compatible. I've learnt to have standards and dealbreakers for my relationships - maybe it's time I try again, this time with a higher respect for my wellbeing and standards. Thank you Hamza for this video.

This video has honestly helped me evaluate my past relationships and think more about the future

I'm a woman and promiscuity should be nm 1 on the list

I can say from my own personal experience that following these rules is a MUST for young men who are on self improvement. And do not believe for a second you can ignore these because your girl is "special".

i chose to ignore 2 of these red flags and got cheated on in two different occasions after a full year of effort to "try and help her" get rid of her bad habits. people don't want to be helped, they are aware of what they are doing and they will stay true to themselves.

I had all these red flags in my past relationship but I still accepted her and wanted her to be forever mine(she dumped me months back). Now I'm working on myself and giving my best to improve 🙌. We are gonna make it brah.

i’m a girl, and i’m watching this to improve myself, this video really explained what i shouldn’t do in a relationship and avoid these things. thank you 🙏🏼

Everyone needs to listen to this video, I blindly ignored these red flags in one of my exes and it completely ruined me as a person. Now that I have upped my standards and myself as a person, my life has never been better. Remember your life can be significantly improved if you make the quality of the people around you better.

It feels good to hear the things said that many of us believe but don't feel we are able to vocalize. Especially with promiscuity, the idea that men feel they shouldn't be feeling that pain and disgust makes it all the more unpleasant, when in reality, it is a completely justified feeling that you should trust

the part where you said you’re the average of who you spend time with hit me 😔 it’s hard making friends because of how strict my parents are. i haven’t had one for 7 years. when i was younger i had friends in school but that was the only place i could meet them, i was never allowed out, so our friendship never developed more than just school. nowadays guys my age (23) prefer to hang out at night after a long day of work, my parents don’t allow me to do that so i know i can’t make any meaningful friendships if i don’t hang out at night at least a few times. out of desperation i cried to mum last year telling her that people my age need friends and told her that she kinda ruined my life, but she didn’t care. i’m a muslim and want to stay muslim so i can’t really cut them off and live my life. i feel so trapped and left behind in life. all i do is work at the hospital, come back home, watch a few shows, sleep and repeat. i’ve come so close to death several times, i don’t know how much longer i can just hold on.

about the 6th flag, Not so long ago, i used to had "friends" who not only were bad friends with bad habits but they also tried to take me down with them and laughed at me every time i refused to them, nowdays I'm in a better environment with friends who encourage me to take good actions and learn and be a better and nicer person, and we also train together. love you hamza (BTW, some of them also watch your videos :) )

My guy figured it all out. Not alot of guys or even men know about all that stuff and thank god there are people like you who understand what it means to have a healthy relationship.

This was the video I was looking for. Thanks for keeping it real.

In my freshman year of high school, I was dating a girl who had somewhat of a body count. Some of them being consensual, and others not, unfortunately. She had rumors that followed her, and emotional trauma that she cast on me unintentionally. My mistake in all of this was staying with her for as long as I did after knowing the issues she had (that she also admitted to not having recovered from). Soon enough, her problems started to become mine, and I was miserable in the relationship. I still feel sorry for her to this day, although I will remember to sever ties when it's needed next time.

Seeing your content since January this year. I met a girl with 7 of this 9 red flags. Basically, it´s enough. Thanks Hamza, again, and again.

Thank you for being open and sharing some of your very personal feelings with your people. It probably takes a lot of confidence to do a talk like that.

I honestly feel #6 applies to everyone in life. If you want a good idea about anyone's personality and character, look at the people they surround themselves with. It can tell you a lot about who you are going to be involved with be it a significant other or even a friend.

there are some things in this video that i really don't agree with, but there's a lot of things that you made clearer to my mind, as well as giving me that nice refresh about how crucial healthy habits are, i thank you a lot for this !!

Guys need good dating advice in general, so many are confused. Thanks for posting

10:16 , I preach this point so much, her friends are usually a big influence on her and her personality and her friends could one day convince her to do something and it will fuck everything up.

VERY good advice. thank you for telling the truth and not being afraid of what other people have to say about it. Its so good to hear someone tell the truth how it is for once. As a women I agree with everything you said. Keep making great content

In many videos I have seen a word come up a lot. That word is gratefulness, and I am grateful that your channel and people like you exist. Thank you, not just for this video but for many others.

Hamza is the older brother I never had, thank you for just existing Hamza

Things I like about Hamza part ?? - He's not afraid to discuss the most controversial topics, even if it regards the truth. Modern day "self-improvement" channels give us only a general understanding of a complicated topic while trying to stay politically correct for the fear of "being cancelled" or not getting enough views, but fellow bro Hamza is out here speaking to us one on one, and giving us the cold hard truth from experience. Thanks for keeping it real :)

Great vdo man

so about 2 days ago the girl I was dating for bit more then 5 months left me after spending the christmas days together. Pointing out the red flags you mentioned makes me realize that she indeed had red flags (namely 1,8 and 9). I was so in love with her that I accepted them as I'm of course not perfect myself, but knowing that we really weren't compatible makes the burden of being left (again) more bearable. Thank you for that. Also I'm gonna start investing in myself physically and mentally to prevent myself getting into the same or similar situation again.

TIMESTAMPS AND SUMMARY: 0:55 RF#1: She doesn´t believe in your work 1:26 RF#2: She's addicted to social media (1+ hrs a day on TikTok) 4:41 RF#3: She´s not grateful (and is entitled) - so it'll be more difficult to praise her 5:47 RF#4: She has colorful hair and lots of piercings (higher chance she's promiscuous) 7:44 RF#5: She's promiscuous and has hooked up before (non-wholesome vibes, might not take you seriously) 10:16 RF#6: She has promiscuous friends (who'll reinforce her bad habits) 13:04 RF#7: She drinks & does drugs (and therefore doesn't have her priorities straight) 15:51 RF#8: She has a bad relationship with her parents (especially father) - meaning you'll have to deal with her baggage if she doesn't want to address it herself 18:25 RF#9: She´s a bit of a loser (she won't 1+1=3 your life, but rather bring you down to her level).

Seeing this after a breakup about like a month it’s definitely eye opening because she was literally almost all of these, and seeing this know I think I dodged a bullet, i felt terrible mentally and lost myslef trying to appeal to her but now I’m thriving and I feel better than ever progressing on my goals and fixing my habits again. But crazzyyyy for sure dodged a bullet there.

nice vid.

Love you and how honest you are

Thank you for this video Hamza. My ex broke up with me a few days ago, she said she couldn't do a relationship right now. It hurt, but she very much had the last bad habit. She would stay up late, sleep till 2 pm, go to work, and then just eat junk food and play video games all night. I've been doing self improvement for a few months now, and whenever we hung out, it never felt that good because I was doing the same things she was. Thank you for making this video, really will help me evaluate future partners

I'm young and don't need to worry about dating but the many girls I've dated in my life have had many of these red flags. At first I thought I was the problem but many of them were the problem that I can see now. But ever since i've been watching your videos seriously, my life has never been so much happier.

I absolutely agree with hamza about social media. I used to have TikTok and my Brian was so distracted. Social media makes you find things you always wanna see which makes it harder to make you happy, laugh or just be satisfied with life.

Man, you touched on a lot of good points in this video, even the not heavily talked about ones like the dyed hair tip, and loser girl tip. I think those not heavily talked ones are the most valuable (at least in this video) because as far to my knowledge, you haven't talked about those yet. So thank you Hamza, for bringing those obscure but extremely helpful tips to light. 🙏 wish u the best Hamza!

Great to hear these things as a guy. Society’s kinda beaten us down and encouraged promiscuity and superficiality. Instant gratification is the new way but I don’t think we’re really built for that. I think guys have always cared about body counts and stuff but as we got older we were collectively peer pressured not to care as a collective. Its one thing to not care about body counts individually, but sex and sexuality is a pretty vulnerable state. It’s the thing that shows emotional bonds, and to turn that and commodify sexual history to just reducing it to “something that feels good and is trivial to record” really just goes to show how influential the material lifestyle has gone to be. Last week i downloaded tinder for the first time because my new group of friends kept talking about matches and hookup stories and I felt left out for not prioritizing hookups and getting banged. But deep down I knew i didnt want hookups more than a relationship, but rather, I was scared to be in a relationship and be vulnerable when society as a collective seems to discourage valuing relationships over materialistic sexual ideologies so I was willing to throw away my principles n worth all just for a PP massage and feeling relevant. Deleting Tinder immediately now. Thank you brother, this stuff NEEDS to be said

My gf broke up with me the other day after 6 months. She said that she wasn't ready for a relationship now, because she needs alone time and that she needed to look out for and work on herself after starting her new job. (We hung out twice a week usually, mainly a sleepover on a weekend, with one weekend a month we wouldn't see each other. So like 6 days per monthish. We were also an hour and a half drive from each other.) She also said I was the kindest boyfriend she's ever had, all her family and friends said how nice I was and how much they liked me compared to her other bf's. I was giving 100% and she wasn't, it was a one sided relationship and she acknowledged it. But in the end she needed all this alone time and didn't want to make any compromises and I was the one making all the compromises. She said that it isn't fair to me, and basically broke up with me saying the it's not you it's me line. I keep telling myself if she wanted us to work out then she would have put the effort in on her end so we could have worked through it. The thing is all the time we spent together when we were together in person was just amazing, always laughing together and having fun. She had the best personality of anyone I've ever known, super funny, and just really easy to talk to and get along with. But when we weren't together, communication started to become an issue after starting her job. It's sad because I lost my best friend. I'm still a bit sad and getting over it, but she had a promiscuous past as well. We're both 28, and I was a bit jealous or mindful about her past too, she had like 25+, a few relationships and the rest ONS, and I only really had her. (I tried a ONS but wasn't that comfortable with the idea.) Her and I barely did it as much as she said she used to, due to some medical problems from recent years. Maybe two to three times a month on average with me as opposed to wanting it nearly every day like she said she used to. I definitely thought of her past a few times while we were together and a story she told me about being with a guy nearly every night in college after a breakup. I brought it up with her once or twice that I wasn't feeling satisfied in that area. She didn't want to compromise at all on that end, and I don't blame her for not wanting to, but then I would think back to when she would do it with other random guys just like that, but not with me. So either way, it didn't feel good. A promiscuous past is definitely something to be mindful of, whether we want to admit it or not. Hell I wish I could see past it and get over it, and I tried to the times I thought of it. Like Hamza said, the relationships didn't bother me as much as the ONS's. Even though it's part of the past, we still think about it here and there, at least I did. She brought that up as well, and said that she's with me and not them. In the end though, she must not have loved me as much as I loved her. Could be that it was bad timing, or that it's a promiscuous past, but definitely seems like the more partners someone has the less reciprocated the relationship will be.

Great video man, It's funny cuz I follow Iman and just finished watching his "I will get cancelled for this" video and signed up for the digital renaissance before checking yours out. Love both of your guys' channel and messages, Stay blessed.

Just what I need to hear. Thank you Hamza

thank you for this video hamza. i was in a relationship a couple months ago for about a 2-3 weeks, and i recently found out that she started an of with her new downgraded boyfriend. i wish i got myself out of that toxic relationship, but i had a fear of being alone & i feel like a lot of people can relate with me on that. all of these red flags you talked about, she portrays. it took me a couple months to finally heal, and i’m doing better than i was when i was in a relationship. the love & attention i got i could’ve just given to myself, the only person i need is myself at the end of the day. i don’t regret meeting her nor dating her, because now i know what to look out for if i decide to get into another relationship. keep carrying the message, and bettering people.

always thought I was in the wrong for having this opinions but it is of immense happiness for me to know that I've like minded brothers.

I realized this at the start of the video and I can tell you it adds an another layer to the video: You can't expect a girl not to behave this way (drinking, promiscuous etc.) if YOU do the same things. Then you won't be any better and this can easily be the reason the same high value girl you want rejects you. So while this video talks about girls I recommend watching it again knowing that it's about you just as much as the girl you want. I wasn't watching many of Hamza's videos lately because they got repetitive but I've been following him and oh this video made me realize so many things. Especially in terms of friends I'm in an envirement where many of my friends do these bad habits and it can actually get across very badly to the girl I'm into and I also have to stop some bad habits of mine. She's literally that much better for not drinking for example and until now I didn't think it this way. I was like it's okay if she doesn't want to but actually... Why do I?

You always inspire me to become a better version of myself and I've learned so much from you. keep up the good work bro! 👏🙌

Thank you Hamza, I've Never thought I'd Reach this point.

Respect to Hamza for this honest video

Ey yo brother man, I support you and whatever you do, and your videos have massively helped me as well. Just disagreeing a bit with hair color, piercings, and sexual history being red flags because...people change. Drinking and doing drugs, perhaps okay could be red flags, but doing them in moderation and them still being a high performing person couldn't be that much of a red flag, no? I'm just thinking that as a man, you could definitely inquire and have opinions about their life's choices but once they show that they could change for the better (to better themselves, not just for you or for the relationship) then you could give the relationship a chance and you could definitely vibe together in order to be a power couple. Maybe they just need the right person to lead them the way, or do those 'vices' with them temporarily and then improve together. You have to be careful because in another video (Signs that a woman like you) you were openly flaunting hooking up with women, but then castigate women for doing the same thing. After all we're just human beings tryna find someone who's really vibing with us. More power.

Thank you Hamza. You really have no idea you help me. I love to listen to your videos when im working out, they tend to stay with me longer.

As a 20 year old young woman, I loved the video and your perspective ❤

Thanks big papa👍

Thanks man👍

gratefull of finding hamzas chanell 🙏

People, trust this man. Every single thing he says is 100% on point. I can confirm this from my own experience.

I appreciate your advice in this video I’m currently starting a relationship with a high quality woman but I noticed that I have some of these red flags still so I’m going to stop pursuing this relationship and continue to do more work on myself.

thx for this

Spot on.

I had a girlfriend a few months ago. I broke up with her because somethings were very different between us. One time she stayed at my place and we cudled the whole afternoon, and when she had to go home to eat, I thought by myself, what productive things did I do today? Literally cudling. Its fk stupid because she was also addicted to social media. And the point you made with her friends, my ex had the same kinda friends, and a few weeks ago i heard she had a one night stand with some guy she didnt knew earlier, friends influence people, glad you made this video Hamza, it made everything more clear. (Normally I dont talk open about this kinda stuff but it is a bit of a relief to share with al you guys who are also on self improvement, not feeling lonely on this journey💪)

as a girl i agree in all the things u said, and im trying to change so bad in some stuff

You are the King. Thank you hamza

Thanks hamza this is seriously helpful.. currently taking notes

My crush that I had before my girlfriend now was exactly like this. Like at least half of the stuff. If you don't want to feel this pain then take my pro tip: Practice stoicism and learn to accept and move on. Sounds dumb I know, but this has helped me a lot. To the point that now that I have a girlfriend, she is staring at me in classes. We all have red flags already that were working on getting away, don't add another in your life. Be stoic, rise above, love you all ❤️

You are so right about the social media and body count thing that's why I don't even ask what her body count is. It's like men can't have standards anymore and if we do we're called insecure

bro this man spitting truth, i went down these roads and regret it so much, remember guys even if you are good at pulling girls. let the ones go that show these red flags, let them go as early as you can

Thank you for the advice big bro

I think everyone should learn on their own what are his red flags in a partner. And most of it you can learn simply by other people mistakes. You just have to watch other people and come up with conclusions. And remember that you should never be religious about what hamza says. Have your own oppinion and listen to his oppinion, look at it with critique and work out your new oppinion. For example I would 100% agree with the first red flag in this video, but the second I think is not that big of a deal, becouse you can work this out. I think its a good thing when you try to improve your partner and your partner tries to improve you. Remember that relationships are for good and bad, you should be happy with people when they have their ups and help them if they have some problems. Obviously there are some boundaries that shouldnt be pushed, but it comes down to you where you set them. Always try to ask yourself why its the case, becouse sometimes what you say is a red flag, might be easy to change/adjust in the other person.

These red flags remind me of my ex I had on 9th grade. I can safely say that I am glad that our relationship ended after a month.

This editing is on fireeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!

This really opened my eyes, thank you

I'm a girl and I totaly agree with you.....IF the guy doesn't have theas red flags to. For example: if you spend 4 hours a day on tiktok and post photo's on you instagram acount, you can't ask me to don't have an acount of instagram and don't use tiktok. If the guy doesn't spend much time on his phone and he ask me to don't do it either, I will do as he say. But I imagen that was clear from the beginning, anyway, good video man and sorry for bad english

One thing I feel different is that one of the best indicators is how a girl/lady is with her mother, not her father. Because they inherit feminine energy from their moms, the same way men inherit masculine energy from their dads. I feel the most sacred/real relationships, ideally are Mother-Daughter and Father-Son. Because a mother is usually very overprotective of their sons and a father is usually very overprotective of their daughter, so, I'm going to be blunt, there is more pampering and less learning in general.

Damn number 7 i never really thought about it. But its so true. Thank you for brining it to our attention. And thank you for telling us its completely okay to have standards for your relationships

I'm dating a new girl rn and this really helped me put things in perspective, thank you so much bro. I appreciate you for making these videos, much love always

i agree with most of the video but a point i do want to make is that not every girl you’ll met is going to be perfect. you really have to find the one girl that is the most open minded and will allow you to help her as she will help you too. if you like a girl you eventually build her up to delete social media like how i did with mine. My partner isn’t fully invested into self improvement as i am but she is slowly getting there. So i guess the question you have to ask yourself is, which girl is worth to invest in and building upon with?

A woman having a promiscuous sexual past is definitely the most important. there’s been studies that show that after about 5 bodies she significantly loses her ability to pair bond with a mate and after 10 she basically can’t anymore, and will be very likely to cheat/divorce. Women very much should be shamed and called a bad person for engaging in that behaviour it’s disgusting.

Thank u bro

Appreciate bro u really spitting fax on the social media shi luv u