NEVER say this to people with OCD

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How to be a good friend to someone with OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder).
Nate's channel: / ocdandanxiety
Contents:
0:00 - Intro
1:00 - I’m so OCD
2:30 - I don’t think they have OCD
3:50 - It’s all in your head
5:39 - You don’t expect me to do this do you?
7:44 - Is there anything I can do to help?
8:30 - Just get up off the couch
10:05 - You don’t look OCD
10:54 - I can’t answer that for you
11:56 - Stop being so crazy
12:48 - And the winner is…
Learn more:
- 25 Tips for Succeeding in Your OCD Treatment: • 25 Tips for Succeeding...
- Psychologist Explains OCD: Real Symptoms & Debunking Stereotypes: • OCD explained for begi...
- Psychologist Explains Good Versus Bad OCD treatment: • BEST and WORST of OCD ...
- What is OCD? iocdf.org/about-ocd/
- OCD statistics: www.nimh.nih.gov/health/stati...
- How is OCD treated: • First Line of Treatmen...
- Do I have OCD? instituteofliving.org/File%20...
- A Psychological and Neuroanatomical Model of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
This video was edited by Dominique Taylor.
Music:
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For information purposes only. Does not constitute clinical advice. Consult your local medical authority for advice. The information in this video was accurate as of the upload date, November 2, 2022.
If you or someone you know needs help immediately, you should take one of the following actions:
- call 9-8-8 in the United States or your country's emergency number: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of...
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- go to your nearest hospital emergency room

Пікірлер: 45

@ocdandanxiety Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for letting me be a part of this! 😉

@drali Жыл бұрын

Thanks for “playing the game”!

@SM-sy5cd 5 ай бұрын

I never told anyone about my OCD, I just lived it in my head…constantly….over….and over. I just thought it was normal, and no one seemed to notice. It can be mental torture when you are in a spiral and can’t stop it. Not something to take lightly and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

@MrDestroys Жыл бұрын

Why would anyone say it's all in your head. Yeah it is, where else would my ocd be? In my car?

@drali Жыл бұрын

LOL!!! 😂😂😂

@gloriayoga Жыл бұрын

Good comeback! I have tinnitus and people say the same thing.

@inconnu4961 Жыл бұрын

Well, i keep mine in a box on the mantle, and only pull it out for special occasions!

@cesemestreet Жыл бұрын

I shouldn’t have chuckled but true!!😭😂

@Ann963 9 ай бұрын

Like, so is schizophrenia, brain cancer, and headaches. “All in your head” is so archaic. We KNOW things exist even when we can’t easily see or measure them (yet). As far as addressing the meaning behind the idiom, thoughts are real. They are just thoughts, but they are real thoughts. A person’s internal experiences cannot be made more or less real based on what someone else says, and someone saying this is either lacking empathy and/or critical thinking.

@katied5837 Жыл бұрын

Not helpful when someone says “you need to let it go.” Helpful when my partner sees I’m struggling and we sit down and play with our guinea pigs. 😊

@drali Жыл бұрын

“Let it go” is only helpful to say if you are watching Disney’s Frozen.

@starfishgurl1984 10 ай бұрын

I never realized how intertwined my anxiety and OCD were until this video, wow! I also assumed that much of my struggles were a result of my anxiety but now I’m realizing that they were just my OCD raising my anxiety, so fascinating. I’m the person who sees someone whispering or staring and I instantly think the worst that they’re talking about me or thinking negatively about me and I’m constantly over apologizing for existing and being in other’s ways and I see now how that can be my OCD more than anxiety. Fascinating stuff!

@drali Жыл бұрын

Sorry about the video quality on my end! The service I used didn't like my camera settings and I didn't find that out until after we recorded 😭

@gloriayoga Жыл бұрын

That didn't bother me since content is key. But to get the content we need to be able to hear and hearing Dr. Nate was a bit of a challenge even turning up my hearing aids. And when I had them turned up the sound effects were pretty loud. I had the volume settings up all the way on KZfaq and my laptop.

@drali Жыл бұрын

@@gloriayoga Thanks for the feedback, Gloria. I'm sorry it was difficult to hear Nate on this one. I'll work on improving this next time I do the same type of video.

@DJDJ-z5c 18 күн бұрын

Don't be! In fact it's rather clear & ya videos were what I needed. From a trip I needed to a U-turn back to the ,"not a day of peace' in experiencing for more than a year near hopeless &boom. 🤯 I saw ya video. I've had OCD since I was teenagehood. Ya videos somehow fits 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@arowace498 Жыл бұрын

Oh no... I've definitely told my friend with ocd that everything would be ok. She has such a look of relief on her face that I thought I had done the right thing. Ignorance is such a tricky opponent. You'll never know when it will strike. She kept coming to me for reassurance so instinctually I felt that I had become a crutch for her. So instead I tried to validate her emotions without reassuring her it would be ok. I wish I had the phrase you used in this video at the time. Maybe I'll have a chance to use it in the future though. Thanks for your help.

@Ann963 9 ай бұрын

❤ you are a great friend! I have GAD (not OCD), and if she hasn’t already, I suggest you show her this video and ask if it sounds like her experience or if she has any differing opinions. (To honor her individual circumstances and comorbidities.) Then tell her you will try to be an even better friend by [however you will change], so you don’t just change your behavior out of nowhere (from her perspective). As someone with an anxiety disorder, unexplainable changes are very scary and disorienting. Again I want to say, you are a good and decent person for doing your best and changing when you learn more. So many people lack the humility to self-reflect and admit they can do better when new information is presented.

@arowace498 9 ай бұрын

@@Ann963 thanks for your advice! I'll ask her. I just have to make sure she doesn't find my comment or I might be a bit embarrassed 😅

@Julia-ql9ix 2 ай бұрын

"You need to let it go" What the heck do you think I've been trying to do for the past five years?!

@someone1076 5 ай бұрын

My parents always make fun of my ocd, whenever i wash my hands a lot, they'd laugh and say how 'im so ocd'. Told this to my partner and he was like 'well that's just how parents are'

@miaashly7 Жыл бұрын

Love over Logic, I’d buy that merch.

@drali Жыл бұрын

Take note, Nate!!!

@ocdandanxiety Жыл бұрын

@@drali I'm on it! 😄

@tillamatila5280 2 ай бұрын

Even my mom tried to admire my illness but sometime she still unintentionally hurt me by "so hard to live with you". I know she doesnt mean it. Even my best friends, for sure they can not understand it, i remember in the past she told me that im so picky and live like a princess with high standard. I i stop hangout with her for a year. Luckily that we came back lol. They never know how our life truely are. We're not proud for being an OCD. We dont like to be "that clean, that perfectionist,..etc". We doubt about our memories and exhausted. Swear the fee of paying for using water monthly is triple time to compare to normal people..

@bvboys6097 Жыл бұрын

Hello Dr Ali! I really appreciate the content you put here. It would be great if you could make a video on how cope with narcissistic parents. it would really be helpful. thanks

@cesemestreet Жыл бұрын

Ooh boy I didn’t see this but I second it.🥺

@GOD.WINS.777 11 ай бұрын

Yup

@lovefromdiora Жыл бұрын

This is so educational! :) i feel like an episode on eating disorders would be really great too

@drali Жыл бұрын

Thanks, glad you found it helpful!!!

@Lukedaniel805 10 ай бұрын

I have insanely potent pure O and you will most likely never see my clothes put away you’ll see everything on my floor usually.

@LisaPrayLoveTeach 7 ай бұрын

This video was a great overview of what not to do. You mentioned before that people should seek counselors who are experts in their particular mental health challenge. While I and many of my siblings have generalized anxiety, and are a strong support system for each other during our anxious moments. I struggle to understand OCD and struggle to support my brother when he needs it. Who are OCD go-to experts on KZfaq? Who could help him? And who can help me be a better support?

@messpilo Жыл бұрын

It is the anxiety that come from not be clean or not be perfect enough or being in danger.

@KyleConant 2 ай бұрын

I was diagnosed with OCD and every once in a while, my family will ask me, "You look anxious. How is your OCD?" I love that they do this. They show me they care about my feelings, but they let me put a name to what those feelings are!

@brynnaandersen7739 2 ай бұрын

To be honest, sometimes people telling me I’m acting crazy is reassuring, and sometimes it’s just anxiety that I’m battling, and it helps me be more sure of myself, but other times it’s the reassurance that is never enough, and then I need them to tell me that for everything (because I sometimes doubt whether I have ocd, or if I’m in the wrong in some decisions I’ve made). Reassurance isn’t always bad, right? Especially if we don’t ask for it over and over and we’re okay with it after one time?

@helenayount507 Жыл бұрын

Never say. Did you take your meds today? It instantly makes me want to shut down.

@kristianaallen8174 Жыл бұрын

Ugghh 😕 my mom's says this all the time when my aniexty flares up. Makes me really mad because it feels so invalidating

@theemeraldangel8464 8 ай бұрын

I love him but I am obsessing over the white mink on his face. I want to chop chop it! 😂 Great channel doc! 😊

@dogbounty6399 Жыл бұрын

How about stuff like allowing them extra time to finish a task? Not judging or critizing ? No caring person would ever says those obvious examples you give.

@GpeLeo-qt4go Жыл бұрын

What is a good treatment for an autistic person with OCD , I mean in one hand because of sensibilities and trauma the world can be a challenge and rituals give some kind of certanty. The exposure and avoiding of ritual didn't work

@monkeylady8150 Жыл бұрын

if i move this, does it bother you?

@pmh9966 Жыл бұрын

I have had OCD for over 60years and there is a basic awareness that it is 'All in my head' Not the silly 'Its all in your head that the average person ahem 'thinks' Its a brain condition of sorts and can be managed if I am up to doing what is required . As i get older depression seems to be more the issue. Reassurance nah load of nonsense. Today I am reasonably ok with being fundamentally alone in an uncaring universe ;-) Tomorrow might be different....